As a transmasc who grew up EXTREMELY femenine, I never like when people blur gender expression and gender identity. *They are not the same thing.* I really wish more people could understand this.
True as a trans woman who's not hyper-feminine this idea should be better communicated. If it was better communicated I almost definitely would have transitioned earlier (:
I feel that! I'm a bxy AFAB person ... my gender is both agender and boy mixed ... and my expression is masculine/androgynous (but leaning more masculine) ... and if I have a day where I want to maybe paint my nails or wear jewelry I get called out "I thought you wanted to be a BOY. BOYS don't do that!"
Right, like, not just leopards that eat faces in general and believing they won't eat your face but voting for leopards who want to eat your face specifically.
I am a 58 yr old transsexual and had my operation 7 years ago - I feel we are rapidly going backwards in the UK and all this right wing ridicule will soon escalate to the streets, and then to the increase of hate crimes etc. I grew up in fear and believe we are now heading back to a similar environment all over again. And with social media to further fuel it too.
yeah. It seems like all the political shitstorms start in the US and move to Europe about 10 years later. Expect insurance companies to try and privatize your healthcare soon.
It's conservative think tanks that literally have millions and maybe billions poured into them, trying to find ways to better spread their rot all over so they can earn more money. Edit: I'm not joking nor is it some crazy conspiracy theory, unfortunately. You can literally look this up :(
As a trans woman with no access to gender affirming care, seeing this sentiment that its _incredibly easy and anyone can do it_ ticks me off beyond belief.
Trans man in FL, no longer able to get access to gender affirming care. You are not alone, & we will make it through this. The way forward is inherently designed to stifle working class people. But we must stay strong & keep on keepin on. Life’s worth the effort.
@@beardeddragona210 as a trans person with family in flordia, the fact that i can no longer travel there is rather disheartening enough. i can only imagine what it's like living there.
The fact that people have gone from "if you didn't know you were trans from the time you were a small child, then you're not actually trans" to "kids cant be trans!! theyre too stupid to know who they are!!" rlly bothers me.
@@actualgoblinIt's highlights that they will change the narrative whatever way they can to stop progress. I remember a time when the anti-trans woman narrative was "They're gay men trying to trick straight men into gay sex!" and now it's "Actually they're straight men trying to assault women in bathrooms!".
Yeah like... In my case, I didn't know the words or what it meant, but I do remember arguing with my sister over who was more of a tomboy and getting really angry with my parents saying "you don't act as much like a boy as her, you don't play sports or like racecars and stuff, so you can't be a tomboy". I wound up crying and being so upset and I didn't understand why and couldn't explain. Fast-forward 15 years and turns out I'm transmasc and she's gnc. Just cuz kids might not know the words for it doesn't mean they don't know something's different about them and their connection to gender.
As a trans man who WAS a tomboy growing up, the "fast tracked to trans" was upsetting. I cant say for everyone, but for me, I knew I wanted to be a boy, even when i was in preschool. I only learned about trans people from the "its ma'am" meme on ifunny, when I was in middle school. I only came to terms with who I was after an emotioanl breakdown at 18 in my senior year of high-school.
I remember getting into an argument with my sister over who was more of a tomboy, and it escalated to the point our parents got involved and told me I couldn't be a tomboy like her because I didn't wear as much "boyish" clothing or play sports or stuff like that, and it had me in tears cuz I was so frustrated I couldn't explain why being a tomboy was so important to me. Fastforward to my sister and I both as adults, and I'm transmasc and she's gnc, and we're both so exhausted by our parents acting like this came out of the blue for us. My sister still outwardly expresses herself in a more masculine way than I do, but now we just chat about gender stuff rather than argue like we did as kids.
I'm non-binary and it was the opposite for me, I was never particularly masculine in style growing up, and yet here I am, looking at being a woman and going "yeeeah, how about no?"
I'm very worried for the LBGQT community in the United States. Bigotry is always wrong but to marginalize another member who is also struggling for acknowledgement and affirmation is just so sad.
Acknowledgment lol.. notice how normal people don’t need to be “acknowledged”.. if you’re gay just go about your business.. if you’re trans then do your best to not make normal people feel uncomfortable and you’ll be fine.. keep gender studies (can’t believe that’s a thing) out of grade school.. men can’t play female sports.. and men must stay outta female bathrooms…!!! Boom you’re acknowledged! Weirdos
My mom and her wife (both in their 70's) are fairly unaccepting of other lesbians and love Trump, not sure how they could love a guy who basically hates them but.... I'm actually WAY more accepting of LGBTQ than they are. My sons have two trans women friends and are very accepting also. Live and let love is my motto.
@@LaughAtYourDemise Well sorry to break it to you but they don't mind trans folks at all, they worked with a trans woman years back and she was friends with them before they were a couple (so I guess they are now on your list of hate since they have no issue with trans??)🤔. They just seem to have issues with other lesbians for some reason, well that and they love a political party who hates them....😵💫
@@_StarlightRose_ I feel like that's extreme. People come out of indoctrination at different speeds, let's not actively push people back into their cults because we aren't willing to engage.
@@Zuzu00000 as long as they are trying to accept everyone, thats enough, the important thing is that they try My comment was about people who intentionally do not accept a certain member of the community(ie trans women, ace people, enbies, etc)
I had a transmasc friend who has deadnamed me in front of me multiple times. I know that if I pointed it out he’d say “no I didn’t, you’re making that up” like he does with any other problem.
That sucks dude. Iused to have a Transmasc “friend” who said to someone “with your hair up, you look like preferred name, but with it down, you look like deadname.” The order name have been reversed, but it’s still weird and wrong. Just remember you are valid :3
@@bugdrawsstuff I’ve been told similar things and it has always come from a place of trying to help me pass. Notwithstanding, that unsolicited commentary can be hurtful to hear and people shouldn’t say anything unless they’ve been asked to. 😔
For me it was someone transfem, she never wanted to use the right pronouns for me and would say things like “I just find those pronouns more comfortable to use”. People can just be downright awful
I was a kid in the 90's. I was a tomboy. I expressed a desire to be anything but a girl to my parents, even so far as to ask them if I might be transgender (there had been a trans person on an episode of some TV show) and they said, "We would know if you were like that." and then proceeded to violently forced me into femininity and being a girl. I was 27 when I first experienced gender euphoria, & 30 before I understood that what I had been feeling all these years was dysphoria. I'm in my late 30's now & my mom still misgenders me. A part of me wants to be bitter about people claiming there's some kind of fast track to transition, like some of us are still just trying not to get killed. Please everyone stay safe. Sorry for the ramble.
That wasn't a ramble. We need more trans experiences shared. A big reason I stopped being a transphobe was after seeing people experiencing gender euphoria. Jim Stephanie Sterling is night and day much happier after coming out.
I had a pretty similar experience with my mom over painted nails of all things. She was pretty fine with my liking guys, but hEaVeN fOrBiD I lacquer my keratin (at a church youth convention of all things, too).
@@TheModdedwarfare3 Thank you! People always talk about gender dysphoria and all the negatives of trans things but gender euphoria and trans joy are also so much more important. In April this year, I reached my year on testosterone mark, and the trans joy when I put on testosterone that day was even higher then most days. I could see the changes my body went through and I could see the thicker body hair on my stomach and it's so much more different from how I was before testosterone and it makes me so much happier!
3:12 Opposite story. I'm AFAB, and I was the most femme kid on the block. Think of every stereotype you can about a young girl and that was me. I was, of course, branded a girl. But if people had listened to me, the whole time I was telling them that I just didn't feel like a Girl. And my mom and teachers would say, "A girl is whatever you feel like!" But when I said that I didn't want to be called a girl then, suddenly my feelings were wrong. My entire life I have been the most feminine, the most female-stereotyped person, but I'm non-binary. I was a trans kid, and I was branded to be a girl because my expression was too girly to be anything else.
Yeah but the far left created the divide. Watch the Destiny vs Blaire debate and youll see how far some members of the community has gone. And guess what, its making us all lose our rights. Heck its screwing over binary trans ppl.
Same with this ever increasing movement of "LGB without the T"... Like do they not realise it's all recycled homophobia, and they don't actually care about you either???
As a trans teen (15 almost 16, ftm, living in Sweden) it always baffles me how many people online call me sick in the head, confused, manipulated, groomed, a demon (kinda badass ngl), and so on. Like you understand I’ve felt like this since before I had the language to express it…correct? And that I tried to conform to my sex assigned at birth until I simply could not and almost killed myself..right? And you can also see that I’m in therapy and feel much better now that I’ve come out too? Yeah, I’m trans, but I’m alive. If they care about kids they should be supporting trans kids/teens in social transition and helping them get in contact with a therapist so they can talk and move on slowly from there!
@@SkwithOv Thank you, and me too. I’m still depressed and I have really bad anxiety paired up with being both autistic and having adhd, but I can actually genuinely enjoy things in my everyday life now and I have hope for a good future so it feels more worth it now :)
@@Mosquito-balls Nope, they both support me actually. My mom is proud to have a son and so is my dad, who is very much present in my life :) We’ll all be attending a local pride event soon
the biggest reason i will never believe the 'think of the children!' arguments is because i vividly remember being in an california elementary school, and my dad throwing a fit over 'kids don't need to know this! why are they teaching this to my kid!'. the subject in question was black history month.... don't use your children as a crutch for your discomfort. know what 'participating' in black history month taught me? that we really fucked over an entire community. if you don't want your kids to know how shitty you treated people, maybe just.. don't mistreat people over arbitrary things that no one can control. sounds pretty reasonable to me.
"If you don't want your kids to know how shitty you treated people..." I didn't treat anyone shitty. I'm not going to take the blame for horrific, EVIL things some white a$$holes did to other human beings for the absurd reason that they thought these human beings to be LESS HUMAN because of the amount of melanin in their skin. Yes, I'm white. But I didn't pull any of that sh*t. And neither did my family members that came before me or other ancestors. Because I'm actually from Poland. I was born there and my parents and sisters were the first generations to come to the U.S. Our families never owned slaves or mistreated people of different races. We had our own issues going on in Eastern Europe over the centuries. So although your dad sounds like a real racist asshole, maybe don't lay that crap on every other white person's doorstep.
@@lorifiedler13 they're all good with kids learning empathy, until it's someone they're prejudiced against. empathize, but not with _that_ one. i remember deciding my dad was wrong about that whole thing at like 9 or 10 years old. 'they said be nice, i'm gonna be nice'
It’s so disgusting how history just keeps repeating itself and not changing, there is literally always a victim. It was women, then black people, then gay people, and now trans people
Was really disturbed to see an ad before this video speaking against trans people and gender affirming care. How can they get away with spreading such hate RIGHT before a video speaking out against said hate?
@DG_Toti there is, pause the ad quickly and look for a little i symbol (near the video time numbers) The options on app are "my ad centre" and "stop seeing this ad" If you go via "my ad centre" there is an option to report, block, or change ad preferences.
@@aelechdeepestflame4347If you ever watch One Topic, on videos on subreddits remotely trans related, they usually do those ads. OT basically says they're wasting their money since no one watching his videos would agree with that stuff or be swayed.
when someone is saying that gay/trans people shouldn't be parents/in shows/etc bEcAuSe Of ThE kIds i LOVE the silence after i say that i only had straight/vid people as rolemodels and i still turned out gay
I found out that I’m trans at 14 just recently (I’ve been in such strong denial since I was 12. I deadass cried multiple times because I wished that I was born a boy, and I somehow thought that I wasn’t actually trans.) I don’t have any social media other than CZcams, I don’t go out and look for books / shows with gay and trans people specifically, I just know who I am. I just randomly figured it out and I had a moment of realization when I was laying down on my bed. I also randomly found out that I like girls in 5th grade. Shows and videos don’t turn us gay, they just help us realize who we are.
God the "fast tracked as a trans kid" thing pisses me off so much... Do these people not realise how much you have to fight to be listened to as a trans person??? No one is fast tracking anyone. No one is telling anyone that they're trans and pushing them into it. You have to CONVINCE a psychologist that you're trans in order to even get a diagnosis, which I know for me felt like a bloody interrogation even though the guy was lovely. Also hahahahaha domestic terrorists! What a hilarious statement given how the snowflakes have been behaving recently because target and other brands have so much as said "we support trans people" So people wanting to live their own lives is terrorism, but threatening and being violent to random shop workers because of a rainbow t-shirt isn't?
That "fast tracked" comment just made me think its writer was ripping off JK Rowling's post. Rowling wrote a long tirade, complaining about how she might have been "transed" because she wasn't like the other girls. And suddenly the same argument crops up in every bog-standard transphobe's repertoire.
Yep. I've seen people claim that "it's just so easy to get surgery, all you have to do is say you're trans and they hand it out like candy". It took me seven years to get a hysterectomy for medical reasons (aka my cramps were so bad I PASSED OUT) and I'm trans. If it was really that easy it wouldn't have taken me four doctors to find someone who was even willing to admit I had a problem.
I was a trans kid. The youngest in the Netherlands to get hormone treatment in 1983, after YEARS of screening. And SRS in 1985. I was 19. I've never ever regretted it, although the treatment was very old fashioned and the results not as good as they are now. I really wanted to get the treatment before my voice broke and I started to grow masculine. They wouldn't let me, until they found out I was slightly intersex, with XXY chromosomes and Klinefelder syndrome. It makes me furious that trans kids are being used a a tool to beat up on our community. TRANS KIDS EXIST🏳️⚧️
I knew a trans kid in 1969... They definitely felt that nature made a huge error with their anatomy. They felt repulsed by their own body because of it
Your very existence laid the groundwork for the rest of us to be treated. Thank you, and thank goodness we are (mostly) moving beyond the chromosome song
My thing is, why would we CHOOSE to be trans? Why would we just randomly decide to be something so hated in our society that puts our lives at risk? Its not a choice. Btw I love your videos Jamie, they're comforting. 😊
In the bigots minds, transpeople "choose" to be trans for attention. But I think it's the same reason they thought gay people choose to be gay, because it's easier to oppress people for something that's perceived as a choice than an immutable characteristic.
@@moonlighthowling666 A lot of the logic comes from a religious influence, where it is totally normalised to be vigilant of your own thoughts and actively deny yourself things that would improve your well-being just because it goes against the arbitrary views placed on you about your life and relationships. To them, the "choice" is about allowing yourself to lean into the LGBT identity instead of actively repressing yourself like they do with "undesirable" character traits.
@paradoxwaffle9196 Exactly! There's no logic behind people referring to it as a choice given how untenable the repercussions of deciding to go on with life in the only way that isn't going to destroy you from the inside out. Especially given the amount of adversity thrown at transpeople... The challenges to even get onto beneficial medications, the challenges around gaining employment (anyone with two or more active brain cells knows that anti-discrimination legislation is no barrier to being denied employment as employers can find other creative excuses to deny work to transpeople), the challenges and risks to safety in looking for love and the general risks to safety for those who don't "pass" (convincingly) as the gender identity that suits their mind. Definitely not a choice!
I recently came out as trans. And one thing I've struggled with is that I don't WANT to be trans, but I am trans so I am doing my best to embrace and love that aspect of myself. However I've never applied internalized transphobia toward other trans people, just myself lol like "yeah Samantha Lux is a gorgeous woman and always has been, but I never will be." 😮💨
my first year and a half being out and pre-transition was pretty rough. not at all bc of others around me (supportive fam and i live in colorado). it was just a lot to come to terms with. there’s a lot to process when it comes to your own identity, and that’s made harder by all the bullshit online and especially by the irl shit. for you to be struggling to embrace that part of yourself is as normal as it gets. give yourself the time and space. learning to embrace and love yourself is a hella long journey. you’ll make it through knowing your self worth was earned and fought for. and you’ve got a whole damn community in every stage of transitioning behind you. happy pride fren 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
I feel your struggles. I found out I was nonbinary late in life (like at age 37-38). I'm 40 next month. I get told I'm sick in the head, I'm a groomer, I've been manipulated, I need therapy, I'm mentally ill etc. But truth be told, I never CHOSE this. It's just who I am and I never had a name for it before. I struggled with it because For a year I was transphobic against nonbinary people. Then I found Jamie and other trans youtubers and starts to educate myself. Then it became a whole journey during Covid. I started as a cis woman. but cis felt wrong to me. I didn't see it as a slur or anything, it just didn't feel like it fit me. I then tried on different gender identities, trying to find one that fit. Demigirl. Agender. Libramasculine etc I currently identify as agenderfluid. And maybe down the road I'll discover that don't fit me, and find something more accurate. But it's MY journey to take, not anyone else's.
same here, I realized I was a trans woman and not some crossdressing guy, and my reaction to the realization was "fuck... now I've got to do something about it or stay wanting forever!"
them: gender nonconforming cis people are being erased! my community, to a mom of a 7y/o boy that likes dresses and the colour pink, thinking immediately that he's a trans girl: don't worry about his gender. he just likes the things he likes and if he one day decides to live as a girl, then he'll tell you
@@TaylorUmongusHasterfs if you are referring to the first part. It's one of their main "talking points" to get their foot in the door on trying to debate the existence of trans people. I'm almost jealous you haven't had to listen to terfs at all, loud and wrong trying to hide their cruelty and transphobia behind "feminism" to appeal to the masses. Basically they are the whiny man hater kinds with a pick me attitude that makes actual feminists look bad. And the idea that if they oppress another group they will stop dealing with misogyny, sad and laughable because they will just be next in line.
I'm a trans person who used to be transphobic. I was transphobic towards non binary trans people and I was a transmed. I used to be against trans women in womens sports and trans men in mens sports. All of this was due to internalized transphobia. I was in great denial of my identity (transmasc nonbinary) to the point of lashing out and I was unfortunately brainwashed by anti trans rhetoric. If I come across any of the trans people that I have spewed hatred to in the past, I'd give them my deepest apologies. I wanna punt past me into outerspace. Ignorance isn't bliss.
Good to know you feel better about yourself and about your place in the community! Non-binary people are non-binary, valid and a cherished part of the community :)
@@hudsonhaynie1632 in my opinion its just an excuse to hate trans people .I have a hormone condition that can in some people cause a male puberty sort of thing (i am female and cis ) so to me its kinda weird that people are saying those with higher testosterone levels cant play because that would exclude a lot of cis women too . if this is genuinely an issue its not a trans one, its an overall sport one . all people have different body size , muscle mass and hormones . why are trans people supposedly different?also why are we talking about trans women all the time?if trans women were not allowed in women's sport. then wouldn't trans men be in women's sport instead? its really nice to see people looking into this :)
I always think of how many transphobic arguments have sort of a closeted non-binary/trans thing to them, like "everyone would have transitioned if they had the choice, but you can't change you are what you are" really sounds like a gender-fluid person that doesn't even realize their experience is not universal and most other people do have a stable gender and it sometimes doesn't always align with what they were assigned at birth. Or people that are scared of trans people because they realize that once gender afferming care is an option in life, they will have to wonder what does it say about them that it's something that they want, and that could be terrifying for some people. I am sure most transphobia is just blind hate but I can't help but wonder how many people out there are hating because of fear, fear that they themselves belong in that group that gets a lot of hate
@@I-Am-Ee-Ee Yeah the trans sports thing is a big topic of debate even within the trans community. But, I also notice that alot of transphobes have only one argument against trans women in sports: "Trans women are men.". Some people ignore the fact that not all trans women can compete. They had to be on hormones for 2+ years. Also, they want trans men to compete with women, which would be bad if the trans man has been taking testosterone and has an unfair advantage. But at the same time, some of the people arguing for it also deny that the male body has naturally higher testosterone levels leading to more muscle and therefore more strength. Me personally, I just couldn't care about sports at all.
i’ve been noticing a lot more transphobia online than i used to and it makes me really sad. watching content like jamie’s brings me hope that we can still win this fight.
We'll win because they base their ideology on hating others, they will forever need to invent scapegoats and thus even if they briefly win they will keep needing to persecuted a minority of themselves more and more until there is almost nothing left of them. Plus a lot of the persecution actually harms their own members who don't fit the mold as well. The craziest of them have already insisted a lot of celebrities we've even seen grow up in the public eye (child actors who kept acting as they grew up) are actually transgender... It's a path towards madness if you're buying what you're selling and aren't just a grifter selling ideas you don't believe in in order to earn as much money as possible through crowdfunding and lucrative deals.
@@alexbennet4195she has not. Same old blaire still lies about trans people, still bullies trans people and NB people (including minors) still farming hate against the trans community and still as much of a bigot than ever. She hasnt said anything remarkable enough to make headlines since the trans bodybuilder thing, but she is not someone who just has a different opinion on trans issues she is explicitly an anti trans bigot and bully. Some things never change.
@@ddevomassame here. Me and my mom both actually. Then eventually we snapped out of it and realized we just had a lot of internalized transphobia and we stopped watching and came out as nonbinary lol. Honestly a lot of trans and NB people seem to have a blaire white phase before they come out. Internalized phobias and gender confusion can really lead you down some dark rabbitholes… im just glad me and my mom came out of it being better people who were assured of who we are and proud of being nonbinary instead of supporting bigots like blaire because we were ashamed and confused about who we were
i was a pretty big tomboy growing up and i'm still a ciswoman. literally the only reason why i was not "fast-tracked to being a trans kid" is because I WAS NOT UNHAPPY WITH MY AGAB. i did not experience dysphoria being addressed as a girl. i also knew a trans guy online in the very early aughts (you know, before the "transgender craze started") and before he realized he was trans he would talk AT LENGTH about how something was not right. he would talk about a guy he had a crush on and how he didn't want to be penetrated by that guy, he wanted to *penetrate.* but he was missing what he was supposed to have to do that. he likened it to phantom limb syndrome. it is absolutely not a case of "this girl isn't very feminine, PUT HER ON T AND CHOP HER BOOBS OFF!"
i had a pretty similar experience with like being comfortable with being AGAB at one point but then like,, as i grew, something kinda clicked that was like "hang on this isn't right i actually don't like being a girl" and it grew from there. also i uhh might have discovered my gender from a TF2 character and i think that's pretty neat :D
@@jermfanaccount that was me too- I never could believe I was a pretty woman, and when I cut my hair I did feel better but still not pretty...and then I stood in the mirror like "I'm kind of an ugly woman...but I'd make a pretty boy....hang on wait-" then I went and put on a DIY binder of sports bras and cami tops and I felt such euphoria in the mirror and I'm like "yes, I really like this-" and sent photos to friends and stuff... Then while having covid fever and not being able to sleep, I picked out a name and had a happy moment...and then a very bad mental breakdown because my parents were already trying to isolate me from my gf and my gay friends and all this other bullshit and now my situation just got worse :D I'm out now but boy do I need therapy for my parents attempting to lecture the gay out of me...told I was going to die before 30 for being trans if that gives you any idea ahahaha
I was and still am a woman who is almost entirely indifferent to feminine expression -- the vast majority of what I do that could be read as feminine is just following the tides of society without much interest in it for its own sake. I don't wear makeup, skirts, do my hair or nails, etc. My hobbies are almost all more enjoyed by men than women, my course of study and career were in a male-dominated field, and so on. So that's me. I'm also extremely cis. When I had favorite books as a child that had male protagonists, I would frequently change those characters to female in my mind so that I could relate to them better. I pick exclusively female avatars in video games. Being assumed to be male online irritates me; even they/them irritates me if I've put she/her out there and it's not a generic context. I've so often wished I could be a boy/a man as it would have made my life so much easier in so many ways, but it's from the standpoint of knowing that I'm not one and never will be. I've tried as a thought experiment to imagine myself as a man, living as a man, being perceived as a man, and it's awful. Like this instinctive no nononono nope nope no way thank you kind of feeling. I'm a woman. If there was a 0 to 100 scale of womanhood with 100 as max female, I'd probably be about a 95. And I think that's why it's so easy for me to accept that gender expression and gender identity are different things.
The saddest thing about this whole ordeal is that these trans folk think it’ll give them the acceptance they hunger, but they fail to realize they’re making themselves more of a target, and once the transphobes are done with that group (such as non binary and trans youth) they’ll go after them too.
Thats a completly made up narrative. You think that everyone is super far right. For example, there's a small amount of ppl who say use the bathroom of your sex. Theres a large amount of ppl that say use the bathroom of the gender you are most perceived as. The theres ppl who say, use whatever bathroom you want, So, no, your fear mongering isnt true. Equality will mostly always be faught for. .
@@amandamcgovern5744 Transmedicalists are objectively incorrect. It's not a difference of opinion if one side has scientific facts and the other just has bigotry. Grow up.
They may not be the first in line of people being sent to the camps but they're on the list. For thr transphobes there is no such thing as a good trans person. There are just useful trans idiots who try so hard to be accepted by them that they'll do anything.
I’m cis and I find the transphobia really upsetting I can imaging how the trans community feel especially when your own betray you. Wishing live and joy to each and every one of you x
Lol how woke of you well done😂 who remembers when the woke moment was about minorities with real problems now it's been taken over by white women who drink pumpkin spiced lattes🤣🤣
Im a trans man who had a "classic" trans childhood complete with the stereotypical stories and nasty dysphoria. By all means I fit the definition that "transmedicalists" say is a "true" trans person, but they're quick to call me a "transtrender" for defending other trans people who don't fit that stereotypes. Like they treat stereotypes as if it's a guideline and not just a stereotype.
@@matiassanchez8246gender dysphoria,its basically like if you hate your body but its based on gender kinda and you feel bad about it,almost ws if your trapped in your own body,it really depends and shit but thats kinda how i feel
@@banana_awoofy9790some people feel like the body has phantom limbs or even the feeling of something not supposed to be there like a tumor. A lot of people have physically based dysphoria too, and it also sucks fat dongs.
As a nonbinary person, I really appreciate you talking about this. Enbyphobia and transmedicalism have made the internet a really hostile place for nonbinary people for years, even within some LGBT+ spaces, even within some trans spaces. I think the LGBT+ community has gotten much more accepting of nonbinary people in recent years, but the prominence of LGBT+ creators attacking nonbinary people like Ash Hardell was so scary and demoralizing. I think we really need to acknowledge the bigotry within the community more, because silence just allows it to grow.
Is it because NB people are in the + part of the acronym and the ls, gs, ts, and qs are all elitist because they have there own letter in the main acronym?
@@matiassanchez8246 just a correction, identifying as non-binary isn't identifying as a "third gender", non binary is being OUT of the gender binary of "man" and "woman" it can be anything, nothing, something in between or something else I would say to think of non-binary as an umbrella of identities rather than a single "third gender"
As a teenager in an American school that provides information on trans and LGBTQ people in health class... It's part of a required curriculum that health teachers at least briefly mention the LGBTQ community and its existence. My teacher mentioned that they exist, that they dont have to look trans in order to be trans, that we should not make comments or tease them for their choices, and that all genders should have the ability to do wear clothes or makeup outside of their stereotypical assigned gender. We watched a video from trans and LGBTQ people who were interviewed. And they talked about why we should have more acceptance along with how dehumanizing it is to force people into a fixed stereotype while shaming them for having dysphoria. The people talked about personal experiences both good and bad. We also had someone who worked at HopeHouse come in talk. Providing information on Consensual sex, trans acceptance, and talked about stereotypes people have experienced relating to their sexuality and/or transitioning. Not once was anyone told to be something they arnt in that class. Not once was anyone told they went accepted. Not once anyone was told how to fit into a gendered stereotype or that they should look a certain way in order to be who they are.
your school actually _does_ sex ed? like proper teachings of different sexualities, genders and consent? man all our school did was tell us that reproductive organs exist and that protection is a thing,, glad you seem to have such a good education though!! those lessons are super helpful and can actually be applied to real life, they're really neat and i'm glad you got to experience and learn that!! that's super cool :)
@@jermfanaccount I really do think it opens people's eyes and forces homophobes to accept that the world has LGBTQ people, and im super glad to have the education that I have along with the fact there is change happening for the good. :)
@@Call-me-Al that's terrible! I'm glad to know that some places (like where I'm at in Wisconsin) are including LGBTQ education. I think its forcing homophobes to accept that we will always have trans and gay people in our lives.
that's crazy, all I learned about LGBT in health class was "homosexual contact can spread STIs" and "please don't bully gay kids". I actually heard a lot more abt LGBT stuff from my social studies and history classes.
This is so sad to see. It's like Candace Owens opposing BLM, or Lori Alexander telling women to submit to their husbands. I know it's just a handful of people doing this, but I wish they would stop.
I feel like in particular some of the response towards children from trans adults is in a very similar vein to the people who paid off their student debt and don’t want education to be free, “Well I had to go through all of this shit, why shouldn’t they?”
@@DangerJim-vq5uhthey are reversible, and fully at that what bull shit are you on? They have been used for decades to stop both hormone sensitive cancer and precocious puberty with no drawbacks. Stop spreading misinformation. Jamie isn't the only person in biology around here either so you are just hoping someone wouldn't know better in a community of people who have to advocate for themselves!
Some of the de transitioners I have watched their story also point to internalised homophobia. They thought being trans but straight was better than being gay or bisexual.
I can say from personal experience that's exactly what did it for me. I was so insecure and afraid that people wouldn't view me as a man and blamed it on other trans people for making us "look bad". I also had a LOT of unaddressed dysphoria that I was projecting onto others as well. Thanks to therapy, aging, and transitioning it's been a few years since I was in that shitty place thankfully.
I find the argument "trans people hate detransitioners" really damn stupid. I have multiple friends who identified as trans at one point and no longer do. We are all minors so they obviously hadn't medically transitioned but it doesn't mean that I would be pissed if they had medically detransitioned. Do I force them to use the pronouns they used to? No. Do I tell them they're transphobic? Fuck no. Because it's not my life and it's not my choice. They're living their life how they want to and that's all that matters. As long as they're happy and healthy, I could not care less.
That argument only gives transphobes more ammo. If a person who decides to detransition because they figure out they're actually not trans, they should be given support. Because if queer people don't support them, terfs and other anti-queer groups will and use it to get their agenda across.
I used to think I was genderqueer until I really looked into what transgender lesbian was and then I was like "Oh! That's me! I'm a trans lesbian! Epic!"
Exactly!! No one is invalidating their experience, it’s just when people use these few (like 0.5% cases) cases to argue against a whole minority/group of people when it becomes a problem.
I mean, the message basically says it all - what exactly did Dylan Mulvaney do or say that was "indecent"? This is really just right out saying "inclusiveness" = "indecency".
As the "logic" goes, it's "indecent" because being trans is inherently a sexual thing, and therefore it's an adult thing. It's a very old dogwhistle that was used against gay people less than 50 years ago (amongst other groups). They're just recycling their old garbage to use against trans folks.
If you ACTUALLY cared about the kids. Then you'd MAKE SURE that the rules for adults transitioning applied to the kids who are trans. Anywhere legal, it is safe for trans kids. Nobody is forcing them to get surgeries, if there is a place that let's this happen without therapy or anything else beforehand, you sue that place for malpractice.
@@Karak-_- Kids are capable of human thought and making their own decisions, much moreso than dogs. Dogs can't go up to their owner and says "Hey, I wanna go vegan" Kids can. Pretty much no one is 'forcing' their kids to be trans. No one is really pushing for children medically transitioning either. Just NON-permanent means of social transition. (Cutting or growing out hair, dressing differently, different nickname and pronouns, etc.)
@@Karak-_- Children are not pets. They are people with thoughts, opinions, and a full range of human emotions. If you sincerely think children are like dogs or should be treated like dogs, please do not have children.
@galacticrainestorm8546 tomboys and femboys exists. How in the world can we possibly differiente those types of kids from the transkids? It's literally safer to do during adulthood when everything is cemented. I'm tired of all of the detransition adults being called "grifters" all because they regretted doing it younger.
@@asscheeks3212 maybe because gender expression and gender identity are separate? And we don't label people's genders based on their expression but let them label themselves.
I just came home from a big Pride parade and there were a LOT of groups with signs in support of protecting and supporting trans kids. It was good to see.
@@DangerJim-vq5uhPuberty blockers work, they are safe, and they have been used for nearly 100 years. Idk what you're quoting, but it is factually incorrect. The downsides a tiny minority will face because of puberty blockers is capsized by the ocean of people that they help. Your argument is weak and it isn't in good faith.
Story idea inspired by this video: I'm assuming you're familiar with a wolf in sheep's clothing. This story has the opposite, a sheep in wolf's clothing. A bunch of sheep are living happily until a pack of wolves show up. The wolves attack the sheep, and one of the sheep decides to dress like a wolf in attack sheep as well thinking they can get on the wolves' good side and not get attacked. However, after the other sheep are killed, the wolves reveal they knew he was a sheep and kill him.
This is the perfect analogy. Also relates to all the LGB people who are "separating from the T+" and supporting all kinds of bigotry... It's like, these are the same people that were hateful towards you before... and once they're finished with trans people, they'll go right back to being homophobic.
Lmao I was a tomboy as a kid and would have loved to be able to express myself more masculinely. But instead I was forced to be feminine by my parents bc I’m afab. Spoiler alert: I’m now a non-binary adult
@@FeeFiFoFumBalthazarThis is exactly why the "leave the children alone and stop putting this stuff in kids shows" people irk me so bad. Kids need to see someone else like them to realize who they are.
I’d like to speak as a former transmedicalist- I used to be super against non-binary people, I was a right-wing capitalist, and I was pro-eugenics against trans people. That was when I first came out as transgender. I could tell how miserable my trans experience was- my mom wasn’t accepting, I didn’t have support, and I wasn’t taken seriously. Right-wing trans people like Kalvin Garrah and Blaire White legitimized my pain, and made me feel seen as an angsty teenager who hated being trans. As an adult, who now identifies as genderfluid and uses neopronouns, I understand how I fell into this trap of thinking that I needed to be miserable in order to be trans. I also had undiagnosed, untreated autism, and it was hard for me to understand the complexities of gender. It was easier to simplify it into a binary. TL;DR: I was a transmedicalist because I thought that hating transphobia meant that I hated being trans, and I was miserable because I didn’t know I was genderfluid.
Oh god I remember Kalvin Garrah. I fell into the same pit as you- slightly different outcome tho, voidmasculine with neopronouns- but because KG was the first trans person I ever really encountered and "learned" from was him I thought I had to suffer to be trans and hate myself. Good on you for clawing your way out of that garbage though, incredibly tough of you!
This reminds me of a conversation I had with a friend who is a trans woman. She said that because she doesn't look female enough --because she was never able to have any sort of medical care until well into adulthood--many trans women who are passing and have had surgery and everything else money can buy them, are very insulting to her. There are, unfortunately, some trans people who did not leave bigotry behind. :(
Take note Blaire White lol (also I've acted quite boyish even as a kid but always identified as a girl (cisgender), gender dysphoria is how someone feels in their heart)
The problem now though is that “you don’t need dysphoria to be trans” now and gender-nonconformity is too quickly labeled as genderqueer or non-binary. Since there’s no need for people to transition to be considered “valid” there are definitely some cis people who are convinced they’re trans or non-binary when they’re just gender-nonconforming.
@@al_eggs Yes, that’s the point. At least online, many people seem to be forgetting that a person doesn’t need to be genderqueer to have a diverse gender expression.
@@100deadinside9 no genderqueer or gender non-conforming person is forgetting that, if you can’t tell the difference that’s your problem. people who aren’t cis, who’ve gone through years of questioning to find and affirm their gender, will know what it is regardless of how they present. it’s two seperate things and we all know it
@@al_eggs I am speaking from personal experiences. We’ve just had different experiences is all. Besides, it’s only my opinion. I know the difference between the two; I think some others seem to forget. Please don’t take offense to my comments, as it’s not a reflection of facts by any means.
Doctor Raines, thank you for your kindness, advocacy, and joy in times of hardship. It really seems a lot of trans and trans positive folks on any social media have been bullied or otherwise just disappeared over the past few years. I know it's a very cutthroat situation from what I've heard to anyone, much less a trans person to work through. So thanks again...
Yesterday CZcams suggested several videos by Blair W. as well as a video with the title of "LGBT doesn't deserve pride month" by someone who is apparently part of the community as well. It's bad enough that there are so many people out there, who spread so much hate and misinformation about us but it's even worse when members of the LGBT community are doing this. It just makes me sad.
I'm not sure why but wealth and privilege seems to correlate with these transphobic mentalities. If you look at everyone who's prominently transphobic the overwhelming vast majority are rich and/privileged people. Maybe being out of touch with the average person helps create bigotry?
Members of a minority who support a group that is trying to harm their minority often have a lot of money, as other people have said. They often seem to support the right wing because they think the right will help make them richer, and they think their money will protect them from the negative things that the political right is doing. It's basically "I've got mine, screw you". On the extremes you find the people who are actively seeking to get paid for supporting the political right. I don't know what the situation is like in the UK, but in the US you find these people on right-wing TV shows and giving talks at right-wing conventions and things like that. For them the pay off is immediate, but it's always a precarious situation. If the political winds shift they can find themselves without support and reviled by both sides.
I remember I used to not accept nonbinary people but that was because I didn’t understand. Once I learned more about them I ended up accepting them. In some cases it’s just easier to not accept what you don’t understand.
Same but with xenogender and neopronouns, always tought they were just making up crap. Today I still am not the most fond of it but it doesn't hurt nobody and just make people happier, so I don't care
Yeah, as a cis woman, this was me with trans people. Religion played a part as well, but I think most of my progress came about when I really sat down and thought about how much I'd hate being a man and how being transgender has nothing to do with stereotypes.
It's self hatred and low self esteem, combined with a need to please the oppressor in hopes that they will be spared (not gonna happen, they are next).
We have this sort of thing in Asian immigrant communities. My grandparents are Chinese and came to England from Hong Kong with my dad and his sisters in 1974. The first time my mum (who's white) met my grandparents, they were apparently on the phone complaining to another Hong Kong couple who were considering emigrating (this was the 1990s). Apparently, my grandparents were telling this couple that there were "too many Asians in the schools"; they put four Asians through those schools (my dad, his two sisters and their cousin). It's like a 'pick me' contest in immigrant communities to be the ultimate model minority. People seem to forget that once the originally targeted group has been "dealt with", they will be targeted next. If you're not completely white, no amount of bootlicking will save you.
I just pre ordered your book and can't wait. I need a video from you today since my and one of my ftm friends are getting a lot of hate. Have a good day/night everyone. Happy pride 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
@@martind2520no it is not. Slavery only ended after a literal civil war, and gay marriage was only won after decades of fighting for queer rights. If you genuinely belive that tbe oppressors just stopped then you do not understand the actual history.
@@ahumanbeingfromtheearth1502 If you didn't know that slavery was banned in northern states _before_ the American civil war, then _you_ don't know _your_ history. And yes, gay marriage was won after years of fighting. What kind of fighting? Not the physical kind, the _word_ kind, where people in power were appealed to on a moral level. Ya know, _exactly the thing I just said._
@@martind2520 I get both sides of this argument: but political parties were vastly different than they are now. More polarized and less open it feels like- seems like the only way to appeal to, say, a trump supporter, is to be a trans trump supporter or something- idek what to do for them anymore...brings up too much trauma of trying to fit in a box to please my parents and now that I'm semi-free (moved out, still have to literally find out who I am though since long story short, I wore a mask for so long) I can't even imagine going back to pleasing them by hiding...or something like that
I know this is probably going to get buried, but as a trans minor who lives in Texas... Yeah, it's a hellhole here. I'm pretty sure I'm trans, at least, it feels genuinely good to view myself as a girl, and it's a shame that basic human rights like healthcare are denied to people.
@@martind2520 Maybe you should reflect on your words. Because I'm cis (female), and the idea of being male, or even being perceived as male, is awful to me. "It feels genuinely good to view myself as a (boy)" is not something I ever would say. That's what cis means to me. What this person describes is foreign to me.
@@martind2520 I literally just woke up from a dream about being a girl, something that literally made me the happiest I've ever been. I don't care if I'm trans or not, honestly, I just want to be happy.
@@martind2520 I really don't think I'm the exception. I don't think anyone who's actually cis spends a lot of time dwelling on the idea that living as and being perceived as a different gender would bring happiness. I think that's generally a sign that you're not cis, but rather nonbinary or trans.
I was a very tomboyish girl-climbed trees, hated dresses, still hate lace & frills. I often wished i could do the “boy” version of activities (e.g. Boy Scouts vs. Girl Scouts, Transformers vs. Barbies), but i never wished to BE a boy. I only chafed at nonsense restrictions enforced on my gender role.
These are always the same people who are genuinely shocked when the bigots they're catering to still hate them in the end, just like we saw with Kelly Cadigan. The internalized transphobia only hurts us ALL in the end and I really wish they'd seek help to learn to accept and loves themselves
Right wing LGBT or POC people sometimes choose the right because they think they can pick and choose what the right will do, ignoring the fact that voting for the right means voting for *all* of the right. That and they think that if they help the right that *they* wont be harmed, kinda like choosing the Fight or Flight Fawn response and if its not one of those two then its probably trauma, misinformation, or ignorance.
As a relatively masculine trans man who is not very active in the community and has been done with my transition for years I dont always understand everything. All the different types of non binary people, labels sometimes being used differently over time and so on, but I always try to tell myself: Many people have felt and still feel the same towards me. They dont understand me and use that as an excuse to hate me. So even if I dont understand something, why would I do to others what was done to me and made me feel horrible? It's just logic and basic humanity. Dont do to others what you would not want others to do to you. You dont need to understand everything and agree with everything so the best is to just live your life and let people live theirs. I dont know why this is not common sense.
Because people are easy to control without reason and logic, susceptible to being fed lies and rhetoric and led like animals. It's a old tactic that works even today, make them question reality and spoon feed them only your version. And fighting among oppressed classes especially infighting is good at making people unable to fight those that benefit from the death and chaos as a distraction. Conservatives are selfish leeches on a barely functioning society that is in a constant state of war somewhere, and what is more profitable to the ruling class than war?
You know what, it doesn't even surprise me. There's bad people, stupid people and weird people everywhere. And there's also always just people on the opposite side of your opinion
So this video is about Blair White?😎 "A transgender child is like a vegan cat. We all know who's making the lifestyle choices." One example of her tweets.
@@lurch789can't have rainbows without rain honey. Can't ignore that people are still fighting on the behalf of all on the front of privacy and human decency, because just existing is bad enough for some of us you know.
As someone in the community, idk why, but i always find it funny when they call us things like *The Rainbow Mafia* like it makes us sound more powerful and kool
Odds are that if you're receiving gender-affirming healthcare when you're still a child, you're intersex and your NaTuRaL bOdY started puberty prematurely. And sometimes that means an afab child growing a beard at ten, or an amab child growing boobs. Chances are also nonzero that you were coercively assigned your gender at birth, surgically, without the parents' informed consent, for reasons rooted in both sexism and transphobia.
or gynocomastia with AMAB people just..having boobs This one gay muscle dude on tiktok always gets transphobia for his chest scars, but he's literally cis and just had gynocomastia...which I sometimes wish I could use that as an excuse to get top surgery covered or something but nope...AFAB trans boi
@@TransIsBest “I’m not homophobic because I decide for all gay people what’s against them” is his typical argument for how he’s not homophobic. Also he literally told me I’m a bad person because I won’t go by his idea
I want to get this across: don't fear being transphobic, fear staying transphobic. Don't fear to learn who you are, embrace every part even the undesirable parts, then let those undesirable part go, let them flow from you back to the void and become all that you desire.
I don't know if you are going to read this Jamie, but thank you so much for signing the book for me, I feel quite embarrassed because I wanted to say something else rather than just saying it's my one year on T, but I just stood there being awkward... I wanted to say thank you because watching your videos has been so helpful for me and Shaaba I do watch you as well and you are both adorable ❤❤
This attitude tends to come from the more privileged trans people, typically white Americans of higher socioeconomic class. They identify more with their privilege than their marginalized status, and think that by siding with their oppressors they can prove they're "one of the good ones." It's analogous to how members of certain minority groups who manage to succeed under capitalism are held up as model minorities, so that conservatives can say, "See? There is no systemic discrimination, because _this_ person made it. Why can't you?"
My brother is a homophobic bisexual Him: I can't be homophobic! I'm bisexual! Or did you forget that?" Also him: "People need to stay in the closet." "Keep it in the bedroom." "The Bible says it's an abomination." "It is a choice. I can choose to be straight anytime I want to, I just don't want to." "I'm afraid I'm turning gay because I like guys more than girls." My brother is on the right and says "We don't need equal rights. Just keep it in the bedroom." More edits: My brother when I came out as LGBTQ+ and wanted to get flags and stuff "Boy, when you join a group, you really get obsessed." Me "??? I didn't join the group? LGBT+ isn't a club you join. I'm LGBTQ+ because I'm LGBTQ+." and he's like "I'm bisexual but I'm not LGBTQ+" and I'm like "What do you think the B stands for?"
An easy way to combat any Christian bigotry is to just say Exodus20:21-20, but yeah your brothers a little stupid, maybe question him on why he thinks that and try to disprove him.
@@alfiehopkin5795 Yeah I give up and mostly try to avoid him. Cause he'll argue he's right even if he's not and throw fits ifd he can't win until I get exhausted and give up. Also I just realized I'm Bxy (Agender + Boy)
As a bisexual Christain, dang, he must really be sinning by his definition. He thinks it's a choice and still performs gay acts sometimes. Will never understand this mindset.
As someone who is genderfluid but leans more to the transfemme side, these kind of statements from within the trans community really upset me. I want to transition to live my life as the woman I know I am, but medical issues and fear mongering from TERFs and transphobes as well as the weaponization of their words fueling anti trans legislation still keep me in the closet. I despise living in fear of someone finding out about who I truly am and having to wear the disguise of being masculine is so very draining.
“trans adults are fine, just leave the kids alone“ i've yet to meet someone with this stance who *actually* believes trans adults are fine. it's usually just a way to win a lost battle because it's slipping away from them. There is no longer any way to broadly uphold that trans adults are bad, so now they are pretending to be okay with trans adults and going the “but children“ road. If they genuinely believed trans adults are fine, they'd not get so worked up about what the trans would do to the kids.
Recently, I happened on a post on tumblr that was like "if someone starts infighting within queer spaces, treat them like they're undercover cops" which honestly, is a genius idea. Then there was this person in the notes saying that being lgbt+ is a cult (which is not, it's not even remotely half as organised as many religions, which is where you witness cult behaviours most often, to my knowledge), and got mad when they were told they were that "hypothetical cop".
I agree with "leave kids alone" because it's true, leave them alone- let them identify as what they want, let them date who they want, let them have hormones they need, let them have their medication, let them use whatever bathrooms they want etc.
it almost like *LETING FUCKING 4 YEAR OLDS TAKE HOROMONES AND GET GENTITAL SURGERY DID NOT START THIS* leave the kids alone means stop introducing 6 year olds to sex, Children needs to learn thats why school is a thing
@@gigijohnson9250 so you're saying it's better to punish children and not allow them to be trans then let them be trans safely TEMPORARILY, hmm makes sense/j
@@lurch789 what... Dude, it's pride month I am just wearing my pride pins. I mean yes I have been out as bisexual for two years, but that's not in this.
Ex-transphobic trans guy here, I can't speak on behalf all ex transphobic (trans) people but I grew up in a pretty conservative area/home. I knew from a pretty young age that something wasn't fitting so as soon as I turned 18, took myself to the health center for HRT without the consent of my family. I never made any outward hateful remarks, but I made a lot of passing judgements about people, especially nonbinary people and those who didn't adhere to the binary labels. As a person struggling with internalized transphobia I projected my trans experiences onto others and expected them to be similar, but I've come to understand now that there is no exclusive trans experience and it was selfish of me to think the way I had. In truth I was scared of myself so I ostracized other trans people to try and validate my experience and it wasn't very cool. :(
Trans people that are against trans kids always confuses me. Weren’t you like me once? (Please don’t reply about puberty blockers or argue, I’m literally 14 👍)
as a trans teenager who knew he was trans at age 7, it feels so odd to me. people dont immediately come out at trans the second they turn 18, and the likelihood of every kid who identifies as something other than cis being a liar is veeeeery unlikely.
No one is against trans kids, they’re against injecting them with Lupron (puberty blockers)which is the same drug used to chemically castrate pedophiles 😶 and gay men back in the day
@@lealsofi many drugs are used for multiple things. one of the abortion pills is used for rheumatoid arthritis and a few other medical conditions other than pregnancy. and when those men stop being dosed with lupron at the dosage it's used to induce infertility, they regain both their fertility and libido outside of very rare cases. hormone blockers have also been used on cis kids with precocious puberty since the 1980s. people aren't against their use for that. how strange.
i’m transfem and my mum thinks i’ve been “brainwashed by the internet” despite the fact i’ve wanted to wear makeup, skirts, nail polish etc since six (im nineteen now), and as a teen i had been wanting a more feminine body and have to hide my dysphoria from her cause she sees me as a man. she watches these kinds of people on tiktok and it’s kinda gross if you ask me - she also ranted at me saying i’ll regret it like some of those tiktokers (is that a term? idk lol) have, unaware that that’s only 1% of trans/gnc people compared to the 14% of tattooed people who regret getting a tattoo. while i’m at it she’s absolutely fine with me being ace, but not trans? no correlation at all
I don't get people who argue transphobic arguments but then ignore what you say completely when they beg for a response or counter argument. It happened to me when someone asked if someone in the reply section could tell them what a woman was, and I gave an answer and they just didn't say anything after lol
because they do not actually want a response, they think the question is a gotcha. It is the same as the plethora of "Questions for atheists", They do not serve the purpose to actually get an answer, they serve the purpose of self-validation (aka "they cannot answer this question in a way I think makes sense"), creating a strawman of "the other side" to put down in front of your ingroup or in some of the worst cases just to create a hostile environment and try to get some "memeable" answers from people that lost their cool, or should have let somebody else handled the situation who can articulate it better, Or even throw it out so often, that at one point the do not get an answer... to then say: "see?! they do not even answer this simple question!"
@@hannajung7512 That makes sense, should I just stop responding to them? It just feels like I should try to get them to leave the comments alone, since the hate speech just is entirely unnecessary.
I live in the states I’m a 63 yr old bi female and a lifelong bleeding heart liberal. I’m very worried about the future of this country I see fascists everywhere
Oh I hate when people do this to their own communities, especially because it’s seen as more acceptable to say discriminatory things about groups you’re a part of. Makes me think of Temple Grandin and Sia who have both said and done horribly ableist things to autistic people and it’s excused because they’re autistic as though that doesn’t make it worse. Then people use them as sources for the whole community even when they’re in the one percent. So sad we can’t just all stand together.
Or like when my Latina but American born Aunt became a Trumper and started ranting about illegal Mexican immigrants. It's infuriating, like we are one degree of difference from them, the bad conservatives don't even see us as different at all. You will not be spared because you turned on your own kind.
My mom gets all her news from tiktok, so she thinks that trans kids are getting irreversible hormones or surgeries, she also thinks that "80% of trans people are detransitioners, because most of this were forced to be trans" and she actually believes this stuff, its really sad
@@DangerJim-vq5uh they are wrong. Puberty blockers have been used for a long time to treat precocious puberty, we know how they behave. I'll note that this is a health care system making this announcement and not a group of researchers who specialize in the field. A health system which is increasingly underfunded and finally itself lacking in cash. You don't think there might be more than one reason to suddenly cease treatment like that?
I've probably got one of the "fastest tracks" of any trans person for medical transition. (Though only if we're starting the clock at the moment I found the courage to advocate for myself.) I have a fantastic ally for a doctor who took me at my word that I'm trans and immediately put in referrals for what I asked. Even so, my first surgery was put indefinitely on hold because the hospital the referred OBGYN worked at refused to perform gender affirming care. The OBGYN herself was also an ally and advocate, willing to perform the surgery, but she was stopped by the admin. So: further waiting time for finding a hospital who would and a surgeon who could, THEN the waiting time of my doctor working with me to prove to the government (the payer of the treatment) that I'm actually trans before I'm even allowed to get on the waitlist of minimum one year. My situation is practically instantaneous. I have friends who haven't even been able to start the process of referrals or have been in limbo of personal advocacy work and forms for years and years.
I got on T within a year of coming out. I started it at 13. I started trying to get surgery on my 18th birthday and it took over a year to get my hysterectomy, and even then, that was only because of health issues that'd have a hysterectomy on the table if I were a cis woman too. I'm trying to get top surgery next and it's a struggle. Still, I'm so glad that I was "fast tracked" onto T. It saved my life, made my awful adolescence JUST barely bearable, and I've never regretted it in the slightest.
@@vaughnhaney7020 I'm so glad for you that you were able to access HRT as a teen!! Best of luck in receiving any and all care you still need, both for timeliness and for any recovery periods after surgeries! ❤️
I mean I have been told by trans people I've met IRL that because i have very short hair, prefer wearing loose fitting t-shirts and jeans, that I must actually be a trans man. It started out with asking me if I'd ever considered it, and then when I say im certain im not, they start kind of trying to go "yeah but like, it's so weird you dress this way and like all these things, are you SURE you might not be trans?" And would keep gently kind of nudging me about it, or suggesting I might be wrong about myself. It felt so weird like they desperately wanted me to be trans when I know I'm not. These are interactions that were few and far between, and definitely not a majority. They're definitely a rarity in fact, so these people acting like this is ALL trans folks is just stupid. And some of them are just teens who want to see themselves in their fave celebs (because god knows I've seen trans "headcanons" about real life celebrities...) but I don't think it's right to say that there are no people out there at all who behave this way, when I've experienced it first hand. It was pretty uncomfortable.
They're the same type of people we've scolded just a decade earlier for trying to "crack eggs" or "closet-spot" on people's orientations. That's just plain fecking rude and bordering on dangerous, like. To the people prodding at you: Stop trying to crack eggs. Even if someone WAS an egg, what if there's a REASON they're hiding in the trans closet and you're literally endangering them by trying to force them out? But at the same time thank FECK most people realize egg-cracking is NOT something to deliberately do anymore than waving your gaydar around trying to out people either.
This behavior is absolutely not okay and really upsets me as a trans person. It just gives transphobes more opportunities to spew their "thE trAnS aGEnDa is ErAsinG toMbOYs aNd feMIninE men!" rhetoric.
@@wesleywyndam-pryce5305 Gender-nonconforming (GNC) refers to gender expression and genderqueer refers to gender identity. A cis person can be GNC, but by definition cannot be genderqueer. Tomboys are GNC, but trans men are genderqueer. Does that make sense? It’s a little confusing 😅
@@cocopop.1987 Tell me about it. Some people love to add miso-, -phobic and -ist to describe any person who doesn't like one individual of a group, or disagrees with anything that person or group claims. Men are called misogynists for not liking a single woman, white people are called racist for criticizing anything a minority says... I could go on and on. Honestly, I think it's just an excuse for the few narcissistic individuals in each group to stir up hatred and turn their allies into "supplies" who worship and support them in even the worst things they say and do. If you can get everyone around you to hate a common enemy, even if you have to create him yourself, you can be the center of love of many... even if that love is unhealthy for everyone involved. That said, generally speaking, most people in all these groups are actually just decent, normal people. It's just that the nut jobs hunt down the spotlight every chance they get.
Random but went to my first pride parade today and then saw a drag show with multiple queens and a drag king who was a trans (ftm) guy trying to pay for top surgery and he got given a bunch of money from the organization running the drag show and I met him and I love he’s amazing and I’m so happy from him
I knew I was a girl since I've been old enough to remember. I didn't suddenly become trans as an adult. If I had had a more open and supportive family, I might have been able to grow up as a girl, and not have to go through the wrong puberty. I just want trans kids to have the opportunity to be themselves that I didn't have. Really, "have the opportunities we didn't have" should be the goal for every adult towards children. Yet somehow, there are a lot of adults out there who want children to be forced through the same hardships as they were. This isn't even just about LGBTQ issues, but in general.
Im transfemale and there has been exactly 1 time when i was "transphobic" and it was during a fight with myself and a transmasc person who started digging at my trauma. It made me legitimately sick afterward but they just crossed a line that was too far.
Newly hatched genderfuild f-nb person here! Even growing up, I fluctuated between being a 'Tom-boy' and being a very fem girl. I was often mistaken for a boy, which I didn't appreciate, but I never corrected anyone to say I was a girl, because some days that also didn't feel right. I remember saying as a kid that I just wasn't a gender. My parents still think now that I've come out that it is because of my husband's left views. Evidence of kids not being cis is never going to be seen by a transphobe, even if it's extremely obvious.
I'm genderfluid too! Realized it only recently, but thinking back at my childhood, i always was... i just didn't have a word for it. Anyway, happy pride!💜💜
As a transmasc who grew up EXTREMELY femenine, I never like when people blur gender expression and gender identity. *They are not the same thing.* I really wish more people could understand this.
EXACTLYYYYY!!! my transmasc friend, who _very_ openly transmasc, wears skirts and dresses and shit. long story short, fuck gender roles.
True as a trans woman who's not hyper-feminine this idea should be better communicated. If it was better communicated I almost definitely would have transitioned earlier (:
coming from an afab enby who likes to be femme sometimes, THANK YOUU
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I feel that! I'm a bxy AFAB person ... my gender is both agender and boy mixed ... and my expression is masculine/androgynous (but leaning more masculine) ... and if I have a day where I want to maybe paint my nails or wear jewelry I get called out "I thought you wanted to be a BOY. BOYS don't do that!"
As a cis girl, I can tell that being a transphobic trans person (especially in the US) is like voting for leopards to eat *your* face specifically.
Exactly
Right, like, not just leopards that eat faces in general and believing they won't eat your face but voting for leopards who want to eat your face specifically.
Couldn't think of a better way to state this, thank you, beautiful cis girl! 🥰
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EXACTLY
I am a 58 yr old transsexual and had my operation 7 years ago - I feel we are rapidly going backwards in the UK and all this right wing ridicule will soon escalate to the streets, and then to the increase of hate crimes etc. I grew up in fear and believe we are now heading back to a similar environment all over again. And with social media to further fuel it too.
yeah. It seems like all the political shitstorms start in the US and move to Europe about 10 years later. Expect insurance companies to try and privatize your healthcare soon.
Yeah, I fear the UK is going to get more dangerous for LGBTQ people. We're already seeing it happening.
It's conservative think tanks that literally have millions and maybe billions poured into them, trying to find ways to better spread their rot all over so they can earn more money. Edit: I'm not joking nor is it some crazy conspiracy theory, unfortunately. You can literally look this up :(
Don't know where is worse, the US or UK. UK politicians all sound awful on the subject. Some states here are very supportive at least!
remember tactic the nazi used for the Night of glass.
As a trans woman with no access to gender affirming care, seeing this sentiment that its _incredibly easy and anyone can do it_ ticks me off beyond belief.
it's about the most arduous thing for most people possible. not to mention m o n e y
So ur a man
Trans man in FL, no longer able to get access to gender affirming care. You are not alone, & we will make it through this. The way forward is inherently designed to stifle working class people. But we must stay strong & keep on keepin on. Life’s worth the effort.
@@beardeddragona210 your a woman too weirdo
@@beardeddragona210 as a trans person with family in flordia, the fact that i can no longer travel there is rather disheartening enough. i can only imagine what it's like living there.
“Trans kids bad! Adult fine but kid bad!” trans adults didn’t magically become trans when they turned 18 they were kids too. 🤔
The fact that people have gone from "if you didn't know you were trans from the time you were a small child, then you're not actually trans" to "kids cant be trans!! theyre too stupid to know who they are!!" rlly bothers me.
@@actualgoblinIt's highlights that they will change the narrative whatever way they can to stop progress. I remember a time when the anti-trans woman narrative was "They're gay men trying to trick straight men into gay sex!" and now it's "Actually they're straight men trying to assault women in bathrooms!".
@@actualgoblin They'll use whichever is most convenient at the time. None of it makes any sense
Yeah like... In my case, I didn't know the words or what it meant, but I do remember arguing with my sister over who was more of a tomboy and getting really angry with my parents saying "you don't act as much like a boy as her, you don't play sports or like racecars and stuff, so you can't be a tomboy". I wound up crying and being so upset and I didn't understand why and couldn't explain.
Fast-forward 15 years and turns out I'm transmasc and she's gnc. Just cuz kids might not know the words for it doesn't mean they don't know something's different about them and their connection to gender.
It’s like the same thing with autism. They only think kids can have autism..? Like it dosent just.. go away…
As a trans man who WAS a tomboy growing up, the "fast tracked to trans" was upsetting. I cant say for everyone, but for me, I knew I wanted to be a boy, even when i was in preschool. I only learned about trans people from the "its ma'am" meme on ifunny, when I was in middle school. I only came to terms with who I was after an emotioanl breakdown at 18 in my senior year of high-school.
Guess we can't expect people to know the difference between Expression and Identity
oof i remember the "it's ma'am" thing. i hope she's doing well.
I remember getting into an argument with my sister over who was more of a tomboy, and it escalated to the point our parents got involved and told me I couldn't be a tomboy like her because I didn't wear as much "boyish" clothing or play sports or stuff like that, and it had me in tears cuz I was so frustrated I couldn't explain why being a tomboy was so important to me. Fastforward to my sister and I both as adults, and I'm transmasc and she's gnc, and we're both so exhausted by our parents acting like this came out of the blue for us. My sister still outwardly expresses herself in a more masculine way than I do, but now we just chat about gender stuff rather than argue like we did as kids.
Exactly the same scenario with me!
I'm non-binary and it was the opposite for me, I was never particularly masculine in style growing up, and yet here I am, looking at being a woman and going "yeeeah, how about no?"
I'm very worried for the LBGQT community in the United States. Bigotry is always wrong but to marginalize another member who is also struggling for acknowledgement and affirmation is just so sad.
Me to! There is a special place in hell for those who gain their acceptance by stepping on others to get there. It's just wrong!
LGBTQ*
Acknowledgment lol.. notice how normal people don’t need to be “acknowledged”.. if you’re gay just go about your business.. if you’re trans then do your best to not make normal people feel uncomfortable and you’ll be fine.. keep gender studies (can’t believe that’s a thing) out of grade school.. men can’t play female sports.. and men must stay outta female bathrooms…!!! Boom you’re acknowledged! Weirdos
My mom and her wife (both in their 70's) are fairly unaccepting of other lesbians and love Trump, not sure how they could love a guy who basically hates them but....
I'm actually WAY more accepting of LGBTQ than they are. My sons have two trans women friends and are very accepting also. Live and let love is my motto.
@@LaughAtYourDemise Well sorry to break it to you but they don't mind trans folks at all, they worked with a trans woman years back and she was friends with them before they were a couple (so I guess they are now on your list of hate since they have no issue with trans??)🤔. They just seem to have issues with other lesbians for some reason, well that and they love a political party who hates them....😵💫
Friendly reminder that bigotry of any kind will not be tollerated in the lgbt community
This goes for allies too. Accept all of us or dont accept us at all. We do not want your partial support.
Underrated comment by far
@@_StarlightRose_ I feel like that's extreme. People come out of indoctrination at different speeds, let's not actively push people back into their cults because we aren't willing to engage.
@@Zuzu00000 as long as they are trying to accept everyone, thats enough, the important thing is that they try
My comment was about people who intentionally do not accept a certain member of the community(ie trans women, ace people, enbies, etc)
@@_StarlightRose_ I see.
I had a transmasc friend who has deadnamed me in front of me multiple times. I know that if I pointed it out he’d say “no I didn’t, you’re making that up” like he does with any other problem.
That sucks dude. Iused to have a Transmasc “friend” who said to someone “with your hair up, you look like preferred name, but with it down, you look like deadname.”
The order name have been reversed, but it’s still weird and wrong. Just remember you are valid :3
Honestly sounds like a gaslighter. Think i know why you're using past tense there.
@@bugdrawsstuff I’ve been told similar things and it has always come from a place of trying to help me pass. Notwithstanding, that unsolicited commentary can be hurtful to hear and people shouldn’t say anything unless they’ve been asked to. 😔
For me it was someone transfem, she never wanted to use the right pronouns for me and would say things like “I just find those pronouns more comfortable to use”. People can just be downright awful
Just wanted to say that I love ur pfp ❤
I was a kid in the 90's. I was a tomboy. I expressed a desire to be anything but a girl to my parents, even so far as to ask them if I might be transgender (there had been a trans person on an episode of some TV show) and they said, "We would know if you were like that." and then proceeded to violently forced me into femininity and being a girl. I was 27 when I first experienced gender euphoria, & 30 before I understood that what I had been feeling all these years was dysphoria. I'm in my late 30's now & my mom still misgenders me. A part of me wants to be bitter about people claiming there's some kind of fast track to transition, like some of us are still just trying not to get killed. Please everyone stay safe. Sorry for the ramble.
Quick reminder that you are valid no matter what and not to let anyone let you down, happy pride month and stay safe out there! 🏳️⚧️
Istg if a transphobe comes here with "tHE sHOW TURNeD YOU TRaNS!" I'm going to explode.
That wasn't a ramble. We need more trans experiences shared. A big reason I stopped being a transphobe was after seeing people experiencing gender euphoria. Jim Stephanie Sterling is night and day much happier after coming out.
I had a pretty similar experience with my mom over painted nails of all things. She was pretty fine with my liking guys, but hEaVeN fOrBiD I lacquer my keratin (at a church youth convention of all things, too).
@@TheModdedwarfare3 Thank you! People always talk about gender dysphoria and all the negatives of trans things but gender euphoria and trans joy are also so much more important. In April this year, I reached my year on testosterone mark, and the trans joy when I put on testosterone that day was even higher then most days. I could see the changes my body went through and I could see the thicker body hair on my stomach and it's so much more different from how I was before testosterone and it makes me so much happier!
3:12 Opposite story. I'm AFAB, and I was the most femme kid on the block. Think of every stereotype you can about a young girl and that was me. I was, of course, branded a girl. But if people had listened to me, the whole time I was telling them that I just didn't feel like a Girl. And my mom and teachers would say, "A girl is whatever you feel like!" But when I said that I didn't want to be called a girl then, suddenly my feelings were wrong. My entire life I have been the most feminine, the most female-stereotyped person, but I'm non-binary. I was a trans kid, and I was branded to be a girl because my expression was too girly to be anything else.
@@lurch789 Ok, but that kinda sounds bad ass.
I know it shouldn't, but my brain doesn't properly work xD
Transphobic trans people genuinely upset me, we were supposed to be in this together!
Go hug the rainbow
Yeah but the far left created the divide. Watch the Destiny vs Blaire debate and youll see how far some members of the community has gone. And guess what, its making us all lose our rights. Heck its screwing over binary trans ppl.
why do transphobic trans people exist?? like what is the point
@@Mosquito-balls I will!
Same with this ever increasing movement of "LGB without the T"... Like do they not realise it's all recycled homophobia, and they don't actually care about you either???
Transphobic Trans People
Now that's a sentence i didn't think I'd hear
more common than you’d think 😔
@@shadesofcallumsame with misogynistic women
Here is another one
Black Jewish Nazi
Internalized bigotry is pretty common in every marginalized community.
@@shadesofcallum It's longer than you think
As a trans teen (15 almost 16, ftm, living in Sweden) it always baffles me how many people online call me sick in the head, confused, manipulated, groomed, a demon (kinda badass ngl), and so on. Like you understand I’ve felt like this since before I had the language to express it…correct? And that I tried to conform to my sex assigned at birth until I simply could not and almost killed myself..right? And you can also see that I’m in therapy and feel much better now that I’ve come out too? Yeah, I’m trans, but I’m alive. If they care about kids they should be supporting trans kids/teens in social transition and helping them get in contact with a therapist so they can talk and move on slowly from there!
i'm glad you're doing better now ♥
Your parents must be disappointed 🤣
@@SkwithOv Thank you, and me too. I’m still depressed and I have really bad anxiety paired up with being both autistic and having adhd, but I can actually genuinely enjoy things in my everyday life now and I have hope for a good future so it feels more worth it now :)
@@Mosquito-balls Nope, they both support me actually. My mom is proud to have a son and so is my dad, who is very much present in my life :) We’ll all be attending a local pride event soon
@@Jax_4200 that makes me so happy to know your parents are supportive!! ♥
the biggest reason i will never believe the 'think of the children!' arguments is because i vividly remember being in an california elementary school, and my dad throwing a fit over 'kids don't need to know this! why are they teaching this to my kid!'. the subject in question was black history month.... don't use your children as a crutch for your discomfort. know what 'participating' in black history month taught me? that we really fucked over an entire community. if you don't want your kids to know how shitty you treated people, maybe just.. don't mistreat people over arbitrary things that no one can control. sounds pretty reasonable to me.
"Why should our children learn this?"
Why SHOULDN'T our kids learn this?
"If you don't want your kids to know how shitty you treated people..." I didn't treat anyone shitty. I'm not going to take the blame for horrific, EVIL things some white a$$holes did to other human beings for the absurd reason that they thought these human beings to be LESS HUMAN because of the amount of melanin in their skin. Yes, I'm white. But I didn't pull any of that sh*t. And neither did my family members that came before me or other ancestors. Because I'm actually from Poland. I was born there and my parents and sisters were the first generations to come to the U.S. Our families never owned slaves or mistreated people of different races. We had our own issues going on in Eastern Europe over the centuries. So although your dad sounds like a real racist asshole, maybe don't lay that crap on every other white person's doorstep.
@@lorifiedler13 they're all good with kids learning empathy, until it's someone they're prejudiced against. empathize, but not with _that_ one. i remember deciding my dad was wrong about that whole thing at like 9 or 10 years old. 'they said be nice, i'm gonna be nice'
It’s so disgusting how history just keeps repeating itself and not changing, there is literally always a victim. It was women, then black people, then gay people, and now trans people
Was really disturbed to see an ad before this video speaking against trans people and gender affirming care. How can they get away with spreading such hate RIGHT before a video speaking out against said hate?
If there’s any way to report an ad you should do it next time it pops up
I saw a similar ad too. Hey, what the hell. They’re wasting their money.
@DG_Toti
there is, pause the ad quickly and look for a little i symbol (near the video time numbers)
The options on app are "my ad centre" and "stop seeing this ad"
If you go via "my ad centre" there is an option to report, block, or change ad preferences.
@@aelechdeepestflame4347If you ever watch One Topic, on videos on subreddits remotely trans related, they usually do those ads. OT basically says they're wasting their money since no one watching his videos would agree with that stuff or be swayed.
@@CodaBlairLucarioEmperor Exactly what I was thinking.
when someone is saying that gay/trans people shouldn't be parents/in shows/etc bEcAuSe Of ThE kIds i LOVE the silence after i say that i only had straight/vid people as rolemodels and i still turned out gay
😅 having all the icky hetero stuff forced in my face probably made me gayer xD
Same!
Random person: We don't need that kind of stuff brainwashing kids!
Me: I grew up on cis hetero norm and I'm not cis nor straight
Conservatives when they realize anyone can be parents as long they actually take care of and love their children 😨😱
Conservatives trying to not allow other people to have kids while not caring about kids
I found out that I’m trans at 14 just recently (I’ve been in such strong denial since I was 12. I deadass cried multiple times because I wished that I was born a boy, and I somehow thought that I wasn’t actually trans.) I don’t have any social media other than CZcams, I don’t go out and look for books / shows with gay and trans people specifically, I just know who I am. I just randomly figured it out and I had a moment of realization when I was laying down on my bed. I also randomly found out that I like girls in 5th grade. Shows and videos don’t turn us gay, they just help us realize who we are.
God the "fast tracked as a trans kid" thing pisses me off so much... Do these people not realise how much you have to fight to be listened to as a trans person??? No one is fast tracking anyone. No one is telling anyone that they're trans and pushing them into it. You have to CONVINCE a psychologist that you're trans in order to even get a diagnosis, which I know for me felt like a bloody interrogation even though the guy was lovely.
Also hahahahaha domestic terrorists! What a hilarious statement given how the snowflakes have been behaving recently because target and other brands have so much as said "we support trans people" So people wanting to live their own lives is terrorism, but threatening and being violent to random shop workers because of a rainbow t-shirt isn't?
That "fast tracked" comment just made me think its writer was ripping off JK Rowling's post. Rowling wrote a long tirade, complaining about how she might have been "transed" because she wasn't like the other girls. And suddenly the same argument crops up in every bog-standard transphobe's repertoire.
@@JovanDacic You're probably right! They're all too dumb to think of their own reasonings, so they just regurgitate from other bigots.
@@JovanDacicSo called free thinkers all having the exact same opinions has to be the most ironic thing I've ever witnessed.
Yep. I've seen people claim that "it's just so easy to get surgery, all you have to do is say you're trans and they hand it out like candy". It took me seven years to get a hysterectomy for medical reasons (aka my cramps were so bad I PASSED OUT) and I'm trans. If it was really that easy it wouldn't have taken me four doctors to find someone who was even willing to admit I had a problem.
@@waffles3629 Hope you're doing okay now ^^ Sorry it took so long for you to get help :c
I was a trans kid. The youngest in the Netherlands to get hormone treatment in 1983, after YEARS of screening. And SRS in 1985. I was 19. I've never ever regretted it, although the treatment was very old fashioned and the results not as good as they are now. I really wanted to get the treatment before my voice broke and I started to grow masculine. They wouldn't let me, until they found out I was slightly intersex, with XXY chromosomes and Klinefelder syndrome. It makes me furious that trans kids are being used a a tool to beat up on our community. TRANS KIDS EXIST🏳️⚧️
I knew a trans kid in 1969... They definitely felt that nature made a huge error with their anatomy. They felt repulsed by their own body because of it
Wait, you would have been 17 in 1983, right? Do you mean to say your voice had not broken yet at age 17?!? Even with XXY that is very unusual.
Your very existence laid the groundwork for the rest of us to be treated. Thank you, and thank goodness we are (mostly) moving beyond the chromosome song
@@RaptorFromWeegeenot everybody is average
It is incredibly cool to read from you after having scheduled an appointment @ the VU myself. Much love
My thing is, why would we CHOOSE to be trans? Why would we just randomly decide to be something so hated in our society that puts our lives at risk? Its not a choice. Btw I love your videos Jamie, they're comforting. 😊
In the bigots minds, transpeople "choose" to be trans for attention. But I think it's the same reason they thought gay people choose to be gay, because it's easier to oppress people for something that's perceived as a choice than an immutable characteristic.
@@moonlighthowling666 A lot of the logic comes from a religious influence, where it is totally normalised to be vigilant of your own thoughts and actively deny yourself things that would improve your well-being just because it goes against the arbitrary views placed on you about your life and relationships. To them, the "choice" is about allowing yourself to lean into the LGBT identity instead of actively repressing yourself like they do with "undesirable" character traits.
@paradoxwaffle9196 Exactly! There's no logic behind people referring to it as a choice given how untenable the repercussions of deciding to go on with life in the only way that isn't going to destroy you from the inside out. Especially given the amount of adversity thrown at transpeople... The challenges to even get onto beneficial medications, the challenges around gaining employment (anyone with two or more active brain cells knows that anti-discrimination legislation is no barrier to being denied employment as employers can find other creative excuses to deny work to transpeople), the challenges and risks to safety in looking for love and the general risks to safety for those who don't "pass" (convincingly) as the gender identity that suits their mind. Definitely not a choice!
Guess then it fits in with their narratives of demonizing mental illness and "corrupting influences".
@@DangerJim-vq5uhphew, good thing none of that applies to us.
I recently came out as trans. And one thing I've struggled with is that I don't WANT to be trans, but I am trans so I am doing my best to embrace and love that aspect of myself. However I've never applied internalized transphobia toward other trans people, just myself lol like "yeah Samantha Lux is a gorgeous woman and always has been, but I never will be." 😮💨
YOU ARE A GORGEOUS WOMAN❤
my first year and a half being out and pre-transition was pretty rough. not at all bc of others around me (supportive fam and i live in colorado). it was just a lot to come to terms with. there’s a lot to process when it comes to your own identity, and that’s made harder by all the bullshit online and especially by the irl shit. for you to be struggling to embrace that part of yourself is as normal as it gets.
give yourself the time and space. learning to embrace and love yourself is a hella long journey. you’ll make it through knowing your self worth was earned and fought for. and you’ve got a whole damn community in every stage of transitioning behind you.
happy pride fren 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
I feel your struggles. I found out I was nonbinary late in life (like at age 37-38). I'm 40 next month. I get told I'm sick in the head, I'm a groomer, I've been manipulated, I need therapy, I'm mentally ill etc. But truth be told, I never CHOSE this. It's just who I am and I never had a name for it before. I struggled with it because For a year I was transphobic against nonbinary people. Then I found Jamie and other trans youtubers and starts to educate myself. Then it became a whole journey during Covid.
I started as a cis woman. but cis felt wrong to me. I didn't see it as a slur or anything, it just didn't feel like it fit me.
I then tried on different gender identities, trying to find one that fit. Demigirl. Agender. Libramasculine etc
I currently identify as agenderfluid. And maybe down the road I'll discover that don't fit me, and find something more accurate. But it's MY journey to take, not anyone else's.
In fact you are YES, a GORGEOUS WOMAN. And with time you'll be able to see it :)
same here, I realized I was a trans woman and not some crossdressing guy, and my reaction to the realization was "fuck... now I've got to do something about it or stay wanting forever!"
them: gender nonconforming cis people are being erased!
my community, to a mom of a 7y/o boy that likes dresses and the colour pink, thinking immediately that he's a trans girl: don't worry about his gender. he just likes the things he likes and if he one day decides to live as a girl, then he'll tell you
Bruh, WHO says that?
@@TaylorUmongusHasterfs if you are referring to the first part. It's one of their main "talking points" to get their foot in the door on trying to debate the existence of trans people. I'm almost jealous you haven't had to listen to terfs at all, loud and wrong trying to hide their cruelty and transphobia behind "feminism" to appeal to the masses. Basically they are the whiny man hater kinds with a pick me attitude that makes actual feminists look bad. And the idea that if they oppress another group they will stop dealing with misogyny, sad and laughable because they will just be next in line.
I'm a trans person who used to be transphobic. I was transphobic towards non binary trans people and I was a transmed. I used to be against trans women in womens sports and trans men in mens sports.
All of this was due to internalized transphobia. I was in great denial of my identity (transmasc nonbinary) to the point of lashing out and I was unfortunately brainwashed by anti trans rhetoric.
If I come across any of the trans people that I have spewed hatred to in the past, I'd give them my deepest apologies. I wanna punt past me into outerspace.
Ignorance isn't bliss.
What made you change your mind about the sports thing? I’m asking because that’s the one thing that I do have some reservations with.
Good to know you feel better about yourself and about your place in the community! Non-binary people are non-binary, valid and a cherished part of the community :)
@@hudsonhaynie1632 in my opinion its just an excuse to hate trans people .I have a hormone condition that can in some people cause a male puberty sort of thing (i am female and cis ) so to me its kinda weird that people are saying those with higher testosterone levels cant play because that would exclude a lot of cis women too . if this is genuinely an issue its not a trans one, its an overall sport one . all people have different body size , muscle mass and hormones . why are trans people supposedly different?also why are we talking about trans women all the time?if trans women were not allowed in women's sport. then wouldn't trans men be in women's sport instead? its really nice to see people looking into this :)
I always think of how many transphobic arguments have sort of a closeted non-binary/trans thing to them, like "everyone would have transitioned if they had the choice, but you can't change you are what you are" really sounds like a gender-fluid person that doesn't even realize their experience is not universal and most other people do have a stable gender and it sometimes doesn't always align with what they were assigned at birth. Or people that are scared of trans people because they realize that once gender afferming care is an option in life, they will have to wonder what does it say about them that it's something that they want, and that could be terrifying for some people. I am sure most transphobia is just blind hate but I can't help but wonder how many people out there are hating because of fear, fear that they themselves belong in that group that gets a lot of hate
@@I-Am-Ee-Ee Yeah the trans sports thing is a big topic of debate even within the trans community. But, I also notice that alot of transphobes have only one argument against trans women in sports: "Trans women are men.". Some people ignore the fact that not all trans women can compete. They had to be on hormones for 2+ years. Also, they want trans men to compete with women, which would be bad if the trans man has been taking testosterone and has an unfair advantage. But at the same time, some of the people arguing for it also deny that the male body has naturally higher testosterone levels leading to more muscle and therefore more strength. Me personally, I just couldn't care about sports at all.
i’ve been noticing a lot more transphobia online than i used to and it makes me really sad. watching content like jamie’s brings me hope that we can still win this fight.
We'll win because they base their ideology on hating others, they will forever need to invent scapegoats and thus even if they briefly win they will keep needing to persecuted a minority of themselves more and more until there is almost nothing left of them. Plus a lot of the persecution actually harms their own members who don't fit the mold as well.
The craziest of them have already insisted a lot of celebrities we've even seen grow up in the public eye (child actors who kept acting as they grew up) are actually transgender... It's a path towards madness if you're buying what you're selling and aren't just a grifter selling ideas you don't believe in in order to earn as much money as possible through crowdfunding and lucrative deals.
It may be slow to happen, but we will. It won't be like this forever.
There's also more support. I was transphobic until just a few years ago. You are loved and valid.
Lol good luck the west is getting weaker every day china will take over eventually and they for sure won't be tolerating this nonsense
On god bro there has been so much transphobia recently and now gay people are trying to kick us out of lgbtq?? huh??
Blaire White be like:
@@alexbennet4195I hope that's the case. I used to watch her when I was younger, but I ain't holding out any hope that she has gotten better.
@@prageruwu69Of fucking course, I knew it.
@@alexbennet4195she has not. Same old blaire still lies about trans people, still bullies trans people and NB people (including minors) still farming hate against the trans community and still as much of a bigot than ever. She hasnt said anything remarkable enough to make headlines since the trans bodybuilder thing, but she is not someone who just has a different opinion on trans issues she is explicitly an anti trans bigot and bully. Some things never change.
@@ddevomassame here. Me and my mom both actually. Then eventually we snapped out of it and realized we just had a lot of internalized transphobia and we stopped watching and came out as nonbinary lol. Honestly a lot of trans and NB people seem to have a blaire white phase before they come out. Internalized phobias and gender confusion can really lead you down some dark rabbitholes… im just glad me and my mom came out of it being better people who were assured of who we are and proud of being nonbinary instead of supporting bigots like blaire because we were ashamed and confused about who we were
@Allgloss312 Wow, you and your mom are nb? That's cool!
i was a pretty big tomboy growing up and i'm still a ciswoman. literally the only reason why i was not "fast-tracked to being a trans kid" is because I WAS NOT UNHAPPY WITH MY AGAB. i did not experience dysphoria being addressed as a girl. i also knew a trans guy online in the very early aughts (you know, before the "transgender craze started") and before he realized he was trans he would talk AT LENGTH about how something was not right. he would talk about a guy he had a crush on and how he didn't want to be penetrated by that guy, he wanted to *penetrate.* but he was missing what he was supposed to have to do that. he likened it to phantom limb syndrome. it is absolutely not a case of "this girl isn't very feminine, PUT HER ON T AND CHOP HER BOOBS OFF!"
"welcome to the future" says the member of an ideology that is LITERALLY TRYING TO GO BACK IN TIME.
i had a pretty similar experience with like being comfortable with being AGAB at one point but then like,, as i grew, something kinda clicked that was like "hang on this isn't right i actually don't like being a girl" and it grew from there. also i uhh might have discovered my gender from a TF2 character and i think that's pretty neat :D
@@jermfanaccount .. was it pyro for you too
@@jermfanaccount that was me too- I never could believe I was a pretty woman, and when I cut my hair I did feel better but still not pretty...and then I stood in the mirror like "I'm kind of an ugly woman...but I'd make a pretty boy....hang on wait-" then I went and put on a DIY binder of sports bras and cami tops and I felt such euphoria in the mirror and I'm like "yes, I really like this-" and sent photos to friends and stuff...
Then while having covid fever and not being able to sleep, I picked out a name and had a happy moment...and then a very bad mental breakdown because my parents were already trying to isolate me from my gf and my gay friends and all this other bullshit and now my situation just got worse :D
I'm out now but boy do I need therapy for my parents attempting to lecture the gay out of me...told I was going to die before 30 for being trans if that gives you any idea ahahaha
I was and still am a woman who is almost entirely indifferent to feminine expression -- the vast majority of what I do that could be read as feminine is just following the tides of society without much interest in it for its own sake. I don't wear makeup, skirts, do my hair or nails, etc. My hobbies are almost all more enjoyed by men than women, my course of study and career were in a male-dominated field, and so on.
So that's me.
I'm also extremely cis. When I had favorite books as a child that had male protagonists, I would frequently change those characters to female in my mind so that I could relate to them better. I pick exclusively female avatars in video games. Being assumed to be male online irritates me; even they/them irritates me if I've put she/her out there and it's not a generic context.
I've so often wished I could be a boy/a man as it would have made my life so much easier in so many ways, but it's from the standpoint of knowing that I'm not one and never will be. I've tried as a thought experiment to imagine myself as a man, living as a man, being perceived as a man, and it's awful. Like this instinctive no nononono nope nope no way thank you kind of feeling. I'm a woman. If there was a 0 to 100 scale of womanhood with 100 as max female, I'd probably be about a 95.
And I think that's why it's so easy for me to accept that gender expression and gender identity are different things.
The saddest thing about this whole ordeal is that these trans folk think it’ll give them the acceptance they hunger, but they fail to realize they’re making themselves more of a target, and once the transphobes are done with that group (such as non binary and trans youth) they’ll go after them too.
Thats a completly made up narrative. You think that everyone is super far right.
For example, there's a small amount of ppl who say use the bathroom of your sex.
Theres a large amount of ppl that say use the bathroom of the gender you are most perceived as.
The theres ppl who say, use whatever bathroom you want,
So, no, your fear mongering isnt true. Equality will mostly always be faught for.
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@@amandamcgovern5744 Transmedicalists are objectively incorrect. It's not a difference of opinion if one side has scientific facts and the other just has bigotry. Grow up.
They may not be the first in line of people being sent to the camps but they're on the list. For thr transphobes there is no such thing as a good trans person. There are just useful trans idiots who try so hard to be accepted by them that they'll do anything.
Divide and conquer has always been the goal for the right wing. Pick me's are misguided at best.
I’m cis and I find the transphobia really upsetting I can imaging how the trans community feel especially when your own betray you. Wishing live and joy to each and every one of you x
Wishing the same back to you. 💜
Same
Lol how woke of you well done😂 who remembers when the woke moment was about minorities with real problems now it's been taken over by white women who drink pumpkin spiced lattes🤣🤣
Like Obi-Wan said: "Now you have the very thing you swore to destroy"
"YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO DESTROY THE SITH NOT BECOME ONE. BRING BALANCE TO THE FORCE, NOT LEAVE IT IN DARKNESS!"
Im a trans man who had a "classic" trans childhood complete with the stereotypical stories and nasty dysphoria. By all means I fit the definition that "transmedicalists" say is a "true" trans person, but they're quick to call me a "transtrender" for defending other trans people who don't fit that stereotypes. Like they treat stereotypes as if it's a guideline and not just a stereotype.
Transmeds just want us "weird" trans people to go away.
What dysphoria are u talking about?
@@matiassanchez8246gender dysphoria,its basically like if you hate your body but its based on gender kinda and you feel bad about it,almost ws if your trapped in your own body,it really depends and shit but thats kinda how i feel
@@banana_awoofy9790some people feel like the body has phantom limbs or even the feeling of something not supposed to be there like a tumor. A lot of people have physically based dysphoria too, and it also sucks fat dongs.
It’s so stupid how republicans say “don’t fuck with the kids” but then turn around and pass a law like in Kentucky where 13 year olds can get married
That’s how straights in general think. If it weren’t for double standards they wouldn’t have standards.
@@science_bear you realize that California lowered the penalty for homosexual CSA, right?
@@newhappythoughts1628 that’s false, you’re thinking of the Republican states that lowered the age of marriage consent.
As a nonbinary person, I really appreciate you talking about this. Enbyphobia and transmedicalism have made the internet a really hostile place for nonbinary people for years, even within some LGBT+ spaces, even within some trans spaces. I think the LGBT+ community has gotten much more accepting of nonbinary people in recent years, but the prominence of LGBT+ creators attacking nonbinary people like Ash Hardell was so scary and demoralizing. I think we really need to acknowledge the bigotry within the community more, because silence just allows it to grow.
So u identify as a third gender🤔...what is that third gender?
Is it because NB people are in the + part of the acronym and the ls, gs, ts, and qs are all elitist because they have there own letter in the main acronym?
@@matiassanchez8246
just a correction, identifying as non-binary isn't identifying as a "third gender", non binary is being OUT of the gender binary of "man" and "woman"
it can be anything, nothing, something in between or something else
I would say to think of non-binary as an umbrella of identities rather than a single "third gender"
@@bnuuuyy and does that seem correct to u guys
@@matiassanchez8246
yep!
you can ask if you have any more questions, I'll be happy to help
As a teenager in an American school that provides information on trans and LGBTQ people in health class...
It's part of a required curriculum that health teachers at least briefly mention the LGBTQ community and its existence.
My teacher mentioned that they exist, that they dont have to look trans in order to be trans, that we should not make comments or tease them for their choices, and that all genders should have the ability to do wear clothes or makeup outside of their stereotypical assigned gender.
We watched a video from trans and LGBTQ people who were interviewed. And they talked about why we should have more acceptance along with how dehumanizing it is to force people into a fixed stereotype while shaming them for having dysphoria. The people talked about personal experiences both good and bad.
We also had someone who worked at HopeHouse come in talk. Providing information on Consensual sex, trans acceptance, and talked about stereotypes people have experienced relating to their sexuality and/or transitioning.
Not once was anyone told to be something they arnt in that class. Not once was anyone told they went accepted.
Not once anyone was told how to fit into a gendered stereotype or that they should look a certain way in order to be who they are.
Your education is amazing! I have heard too many horror stories about e.g. texas or utah sex education being horribly lacking and outright false.
your school actually _does_ sex ed? like proper teachings of different sexualities, genders and consent? man all our school did was tell us that reproductive organs exist and that protection is a thing,, glad you seem to have such a good education though!! those lessons are super helpful and can actually be applied to real life, they're really neat and i'm glad you got to experience and learn that!! that's super cool :)
@@jermfanaccount I really do think it opens people's eyes and forces homophobes to accept that the world has LGBTQ people, and im super glad to have the education that I have along with the fact there is change happening for the good. :)
@@Call-me-Al that's terrible! I'm glad to know that some places (like where I'm at in Wisconsin) are including LGBTQ education. I think its forcing homophobes to accept that we will always have trans and gay people in our lives.
that's crazy, all I learned about LGBT in health class was "homosexual contact can spread STIs" and "please don't bully gay kids".
I actually heard a lot more abt LGBT stuff from my social studies and history classes.
"I'm certain a panther would never eat MY face!" declares people who voted for the 'Panthers Eating People's Faces' party.
I wanna laugh but it's so true 😭
This is so sad to see. It's like Candace Owens opposing BLM, or Lori Alexander telling women to submit to their husbands. I know it's just a handful of people doing this, but I wish they would stop.
You are aware BLM has been exposed as a scam, right? The lead activists has been using donation money to go on vacations and buy nice houses.
Grifters are just grown up pick me’s
@@halcyon.x So you think BLM are Pick Mes right? Considering they exploited their donations to buy houses.
I feel like in particular some of the response towards children from trans adults is in a very similar vein to the people who paid off their student debt and don’t want education to be free, “Well I had to go through all of this shit, why shouldn’t they?”
@@DangerJim-vq5uh Who asked?
@@DangerJim-vq5uhthey are reversible, and fully at that what bull shit are you on? They have been used for decades to stop both hormone sensitive cancer and precocious puberty with no drawbacks. Stop spreading misinformation. Jamie isn't the only person in biology around here either so you are just hoping someone wouldn't know better in a community of people who have to advocate for themselves!
Usually it is internalize transphobia or the “ PICK ME !” Syndrome
Yeah, internalized hate is real. Hopefully they can find the support they need to grow past it.
I think you need a lot of internalised transphobia to become a pick me in first place.
@@HiBuddyyyyyytrue but sometimes it’s not that severe enough to be a pick me sometimes it’s just inner shame.
Some of the de transitioners I have watched their story also point to internalised homophobia. They thought being trans but straight was better than being gay or bisexual.
I can say from personal experience that's exactly what did it for me. I was so insecure and afraid that people wouldn't view me as a man and blamed it on other trans people for making us "look bad". I also had a LOT of unaddressed dysphoria that I was projecting onto others as well. Thanks to therapy, aging, and transitioning it's been a few years since I was in that shitty place thankfully.
I find the argument "trans people hate detransitioners" really damn stupid. I have multiple friends who identified as trans at one point and no longer do. We are all minors so they obviously hadn't medically transitioned but it doesn't mean that I would be pissed if they had medically detransitioned. Do I force them to use the pronouns they used to? No. Do I tell them they're transphobic? Fuck no. Because it's not my life and it's not my choice. They're living their life how they want to and that's all that matters. As long as they're happy and healthy, I could not care less.
That argument only gives transphobes more ammo. If a person who decides to detransition because they figure out they're actually not trans, they should be given support. Because if queer people don't support them, terfs and other anti-queer groups will and use it to get their agenda across.
No one hates detransitioners. Trans people hate when transphobes use detransitioners as a cover.
I used to think I was genderqueer until I really looked into what transgender lesbian was and then I was like "Oh! That's me! I'm a trans lesbian! Epic!"
Exactly!! No one is invalidating their experience, it’s just when people use these few (like 0.5% cases) cases to argue against a whole minority/group of people when it becomes a problem.
Trans transphobe: we have full legal equality
Florida: hold my beer
Man fuck Florida as if it wasn’t bad enough they had crazy people living there
there isn't a single country with full equality, even for cis women vs cis men.
I mean, the message basically says it all - what exactly did Dylan Mulvaney do or say that was "indecent"? This is really just right out saying "inclusiveness" = "indecency".
Trans people existing challenges their worldview so being visible is what they don't like.
As the "logic" goes, it's "indecent" because being trans is inherently a sexual thing, and therefore it's an adult thing. It's a very old dogwhistle that was used against gay people less than 50 years ago (amongst other groups). They're just recycling their old garbage to use against trans folks.
If you ACTUALLY cared about the kids. Then you'd MAKE SURE that the rules for adults transitioning applied to the kids who are trans. Anywhere legal, it is safe for trans kids. Nobody is forcing them to get surgeries, if there is a place that let's this happen without therapy or anything else beforehand, you sue that place for malpractice.
You know what they say about vegan dogs, do you.?
@@Karak-_- Kids are capable of human thought and making their own decisions, much moreso than dogs. Dogs can't go up to their owner and says "Hey, I wanna go vegan"
Kids can. Pretty much no one is 'forcing' their kids to be trans.
No one is really pushing for children medically transitioning either. Just NON-permanent means of social transition. (Cutting or growing out hair, dressing differently, different nickname and pronouns, etc.)
@@Karak-_- Children are not pets. They are people with thoughts, opinions, and a full range of human emotions. If you sincerely think children are like dogs or should be treated like dogs, please do not have children.
@galacticrainestorm8546 tomboys and femboys exists. How in the world can we possibly differiente those types of kids from the transkids? It's literally safer to do during adulthood when everything is cemented. I'm tired of all of the detransition adults being called "grifters" all because they regretted doing it younger.
@@asscheeks3212 maybe because gender expression and gender identity are separate? And we don't label people's genders based on their expression but let them label themselves.
I just came home from a big Pride parade and there were a LOT of groups with signs in support of protecting and supporting trans kids. It was good to see.
@@DangerJim-vq5uhPuberty blockers work, they are safe, and they have been used for nearly 100 years. Idk what you're quoting, but it is factually incorrect. The downsides a tiny minority will face because of puberty blockers is capsized by the ocean of people that they help. Your argument is weak and it isn't in good faith.
@@DangerJim-vq5uhever heard of agency capture?
@@DangerJim-vq5uh being gay has nothing to do with being trans. How is letting trans kids have puberty blockers hurting gay kids?
Story idea inspired by this video: I'm assuming you're familiar with a wolf in sheep's clothing. This story has the opposite, a sheep in wolf's clothing. A bunch of sheep are living happily until a pack of wolves show up. The wolves attack the sheep, and one of the sheep decides to dress like a wolf in attack sheep as well thinking they can get on the wolves' good side and not get attacked. However, after the other sheep are killed, the wolves reveal they knew he was a sheep and kill him.
Sounds not dissimilar to Chirin's Bell.
This is the perfect analogy.
Also relates to all the LGB people who are "separating from the T+" and supporting all kinds of bigotry... It's like, these are the same people that were hateful towards you before... and once they're finished with trans people, they'll go right back to being homophobic.
Sounds like how lgbt communists treat other lgbt, only to be betrayed by their ideological masters.
This is the kind of stuff that just proves that we're simply human.
Lmao I was a tomboy as a kid and would have loved to be able to express myself more masculinely. But instead I was forced to be feminine by my parents bc I’m afab. Spoiler alert: I’m now a non-binary adult
@@FeeFiFoFumBalthazarThis is exactly why the "leave the children alone and stop putting this stuff in kids shows" people irk me so bad. Kids need to see someone else like them to realize who they are.
I’d like to speak as a former transmedicalist- I used to be super against non-binary people, I was a right-wing capitalist, and I was pro-eugenics against trans people. That was when I first came out as transgender.
I could tell how miserable my trans experience was- my mom wasn’t accepting, I didn’t have support, and I wasn’t taken seriously. Right-wing trans people like Kalvin Garrah and Blaire White legitimized my pain, and made me feel seen as an angsty teenager who hated being trans.
As an adult, who now identifies as genderfluid and uses neopronouns, I understand how I fell into this trap of thinking that I needed to be miserable in order to be trans.
I also had undiagnosed, untreated autism, and it was hard for me to understand the complexities of gender. It was easier to simplify it into a binary.
TL;DR: I was a transmedicalist because I thought that hating transphobia meant that I hated being trans, and I was miserable because I didn’t know I was genderfluid.
Oh god I remember Kalvin Garrah. I fell into the same pit as you- slightly different outcome tho, voidmasculine with neopronouns- but because KG was the first trans person I ever really encountered and "learned" from was him I thought I had to suffer to be trans and hate myself. Good on you for clawing your way out of that garbage though, incredibly tough of you!
when i saw "transphobic trans people" i felt like the physical embodiment of the "what?" meme
Never did I think transphobia could come from trans people…….weird.
Also I know pride month is almost over but HAPPY PRIDE ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🤍🩷🩵
Happy pride as well!!
that's like thinking black people cant be racist towards blacks... of course it can and does happen.
Go hug the rainbow or shop at target 🎯 😂
@@Mosquito-balls accidental ally lol 💙
Happy Pride!
This reminds me of a conversation I had with a friend who is a trans woman. She said that because she doesn't look female enough --because she was never able to have any sort of medical care until well into adulthood--many trans women who are passing and have had surgery and everything else money can buy them, are very insulting to her. There are, unfortunately, some trans people who did not leave bigotry behind. :(
Take note Blaire White lol (also I've acted quite boyish even as a kid but always identified as a girl (cisgender), gender dysphoria is how someone feels in their heart)
The problem now though is that “you don’t need dysphoria to be trans” now and gender-nonconformity is too quickly labeled as genderqueer or non-binary. Since there’s no need for people to transition to be considered “valid” there are definitely some cis people who are convinced they’re trans or non-binary when they’re just gender-nonconforming.
@@100deadinside9there’s still a difference between gender identity and expression
@@al_eggs Yes, that’s the point. At least online, many people seem to be forgetting that a person doesn’t need to be genderqueer to have a diverse gender expression.
@@100deadinside9 no genderqueer or gender non-conforming person is forgetting that, if you can’t tell the difference that’s your problem.
people who aren’t cis, who’ve gone through years of questioning to find and affirm their gender, will know what it is regardless of how they present. it’s two seperate things and we all know it
@@al_eggs I am speaking from personal experiences. We’ve just had different experiences is all. Besides, it’s only my opinion. I know the difference between the two; I think some others seem to forget. Please don’t take offense to my comments, as it’s not a reflection of facts by any means.
Doctor Raines, thank you for your kindness, advocacy, and joy in times of hardship.
It really seems a lot of trans and trans positive folks on any social media have been bullied or otherwise just disappeared over the past few years.
I know it's a very cutthroat situation from what I've heard to anyone, much less a trans person to work through.
So thanks again...
Yesterday CZcams suggested several videos by Blair W. as well as a video with the title of "LGBT doesn't deserve pride month" by someone who is apparently part of the community as well. It's bad enough that there are so many people out there, who spread so much hate and misinformation about us but it's even worse when members of the LGBT community are doing this. It just makes me sad.
@@barryledgister4496do you think it’s better to try to appease the people that hate you?
I'm not sure why but wealth and privilege seems to correlate with these transphobic mentalities. If you look at everyone who's prominently transphobic the overwhelming vast majority are rich and/privileged people. Maybe being out of touch with the average person helps create bigotry?
Well, I guess gender being extremely important has historically been a more upper class thing?
The status quo has served them well, they don't want to risk letting anything at all change.
Members of a minority who support a group that is trying to harm their minority often have a lot of money, as other people have said. They often seem to support the right wing because they think the right will help make them richer, and they think their money will protect them from the negative things that the political right is doing.
It's basically "I've got mine, screw you".
On the extremes you find the people who are actively seeking to get paid for supporting the political right. I don't know what the situation is like in the UK, but in the US you find these people on right-wing TV shows and giving talks at right-wing conventions and things like that. For them the pay off is immediate, but it's always a precarious situation. If the political winds shift they can find themselves without support and reviled by both sides.
I remember I used to not accept nonbinary people but that was because I didn’t understand. Once I learned more about them I ended up accepting them.
In some cases it’s just easier to not accept what you don’t understand.
Same but with xenogender and neopronouns, always tought they were just making up crap. Today I still am not the most fond of it but it doesn't hurt nobody and just make people happier, so I don't care
Yeah, as a cis woman, this was me with trans people. Religion played a part as well, but I think most of my progress came about when I really sat down and thought about how much I'd hate being a man and how being transgender has nothing to do with stereotypes.
Yeah. Not believing that a sexuality of gender is real doesn't mean you can't try to be polite.
Imagine lying awake at night thinking, " I want to change to the gender I feel inside, but will I get to keep hating people😢?"
It's self hatred and low self esteem, combined with a need to please the oppressor in hopes that they will be spared (not gonna happen, they are next).
We have this sort of thing in Asian immigrant communities. My grandparents are Chinese and came to England from Hong Kong with my dad and his sisters in 1974.
The first time my mum (who's white) met my grandparents, they were apparently on the phone complaining to another Hong Kong couple who were considering emigrating (this was the 1990s). Apparently, my grandparents were telling this couple that there were "too many Asians in the schools"; they put four Asians through those schools (my dad, his two sisters and their cousin).
It's like a 'pick me' contest in immigrant communities to be the ultimate model minority. People seem to forget that once the originally targeted group has been "dealt with", they will be targeted next. If you're not completely white, no amount of bootlicking will save you.
I just pre ordered your book and can't wait. I need a video from you today since my and one of my ftm friends are getting a lot of hate. Have a good day/night everyone. Happy pride 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
Have a nice day/night too. Happy pride. I'm sorry to hear that's happening
Little reminder: no one in history ever gained freedom by appealing to the moral sense of those who were oppressing them.
That is very literally how slavery was banned in northen states and gay-marriage was achieved across a lot of Europe.
@@martind2520no it is not. Slavery only ended after a literal civil war, and gay marriage was only won after decades of fighting for queer rights. If you genuinely belive that tbe oppressors just stopped then you do not understand the actual history.
@@ahumanbeingfromtheearth1502 If you didn't know that slavery was banned in northern states _before_ the American civil war, then _you_ don't know _your_ history.
And yes, gay marriage was won after years of fighting. What kind of fighting? Not the physical kind, the _word_ kind, where people in power were appealed to on a moral level. Ya know, _exactly the thing I just said._
@@martind2520 I get both sides of this argument: but political parties were vastly different than they are now. More polarized and less open it feels like- seems like the only way to appeal to, say, a trump supporter, is to be a trans trump supporter or something- idek what to do for them anymore...brings up too much trauma of trying to fit in a box to please my parents and now that I'm semi-free (moved out, still have to literally find out who I am though since long story short, I wore a mask for so long) I can't even imagine going back to pleasing them by hiding...or something like that
@@holdenborkboi no really the political parties are the same now as then the Democratic Party has always been racist
I know this is probably going to get buried, but as a trans minor who lives in Texas... Yeah, it's a hellhole here.
I'm pretty sure I'm trans, at least, it feels genuinely good to view myself as a girl, and it's a shame that basic human rights like healthcare are denied to people.
It is very common for people to like the idea of being the other sex. It doesn't make you trans.
@@martind2520 Maybe you should reflect on your words. Because I'm cis (female), and the idea of being male, or even being perceived as male, is awful to me. "It feels genuinely good to view myself as a (boy)" is not something I ever would say.
That's what cis means to me. What this person describes is foreign to me.
@@BlueCyann Well, that makes you the exception. I never said _everyone_ felt that way.
@@martind2520 I literally just woke up from a dream about being a girl, something that literally made me the happiest I've ever been. I don't care if I'm trans or not, honestly, I just want to be happy.
@@martind2520 I really don't think I'm the exception. I don't think anyone who's actually cis spends a lot of time dwelling on the idea that living as and being perceived as a different gender would bring happiness. I think that's generally a sign that you're not cis, but rather nonbinary or trans.
I love the way you take moment to explain why these posts are toxic. It helps me feel like im expanding my ability to be compassionate as well
I was a very tomboyish girl-climbed trees, hated dresses, still hate lace & frills. I often wished i could do the “boy” version of activities (e.g. Boy Scouts vs. Girl Scouts, Transformers vs. Barbies), but i never wished to BE a boy. I only chafed at nonsense restrictions enforced on my gender role.
you are normal.
@@keypoint1293 that’s my point
These are always the same people who are genuinely shocked when the bigots they're catering to still hate them in the end, just like we saw with Kelly Cadigan. The internalized transphobia only hurts us ALL in the end and I really wish they'd seek help to learn to accept and loves themselves
Right wing LGBT or POC people sometimes choose the right because they think they can pick and choose what the right will do, ignoring the fact that voting for the right means voting for *all* of the right.
That and they think that if they help the right that *they* wont be harmed, kinda like choosing the Fight or Flight Fawn response
and if its not one of those two then its probably trauma, misinformation, or ignorance.
As a relatively masculine trans man who is not very active in the community and has been done with my transition for years I dont always understand everything. All the different types of non binary people, labels sometimes being used differently over time and so on, but I always try to tell myself: Many people have felt and still feel the same towards me. They dont understand me and use that as an excuse to hate me. So even if I dont understand something, why would I do to others what was done to me and made me feel horrible?
It's just logic and basic humanity. Dont do to others what you would not want others to do to you. You dont need to understand everything and agree with everything so the best is to just live your life and let people live theirs. I dont know why this is not common sense.
Because people are easy to control without reason and logic, susceptible to being fed lies and rhetoric and led like animals. It's a old tactic that works even today, make them question reality and spoon feed them only your version. And fighting among oppressed classes especially infighting is good at making people unable to fight those that benefit from the death and chaos as a distraction. Conservatives are selfish leeches on a barely functioning society that is in a constant state of war somewhere, and what is more profitable to the ruling class than war?
You know what, it doesn't even surprise me. There's bad people, stupid people and weird people everywhere. And there's also always just people on the opposite side of your opinion
It's like how some republicans are poc even though republicans are actively harming poc
So this video is about Blair White?😎
"A transgender child is like a vegan cat. We all know who's making the lifestyle choices."
One example of her tweets.
It's like voting for the leopards eating people's face's party, & being surprised when your face is eaten by a leopard.
It's like bringing faces for the leopards to eat in the hopes that they won't eat yours.
@@HeckingHampter You're eventually gonna run out of faces. Crazy how they don't see it.
You know this is gonna be juicy when Jammi starts off with “this should be a joyful video”
@@lurch789can't have rainbows without rain honey. Can't ignore that people are still fighting on the behalf of all on the front of privacy and human decency, because just existing is bad enough for some of us you know.
It's hard to sit through such a high concentration of putrid thoughts, but thankfully, Jamie provides much needed wisdom and empathy in between.
As someone in the community, idk why, but i always find it funny when they call us things like *The Rainbow Mafia* like it makes us sound more powerful and kool
Odds are that if you're receiving gender-affirming healthcare when you're still a child, you're intersex and your NaTuRaL bOdY started puberty prematurely. And sometimes that means an afab child growing a beard at ten, or an amab child growing boobs. Chances are also nonzero that you were coercively assigned your gender at birth, surgically, without the parents' informed consent, for reasons rooted in both sexism and transphobia.
or gynocomastia with AMAB people just..having boobs
This one gay muscle dude on tiktok always gets transphobia for his chest scars, but he's literally cis and just had gynocomastia...which I sometimes wish I could use that as an excuse to get top surgery covered or something but nope...AFAB trans boi
What
@@purpleunicorn87 it's a thing
@@holdenborkboi I wasn't replying to you though
It just show people can just be naturaly mean people, no matter what lives they live. Its sad that so many people are so mean to others.
@@AEG3587😂😂you don't know the basics of trans people or how to have a convo. Go back to your moms basement and ask for her dino nuggies
@@TransIsBestoh hey again homophobic bigot.
@@juniorqindes8335When you don't know what homophobe or bigot mean 😂😂😂👆👆👆
@@TransIsBest “I’m not homophobic because I decide for all gay people what’s against them” is his typical argument for how he’s not homophobic. Also he literally told me I’m a bad person because I won’t go by his idea
@@juniorqindes8335 Bro, you claim I, a gay person, is a homophobe all the time. Why would I ever trust your word?
I want to get this across: don't fear being transphobic, fear staying transphobic. Don't fear to learn who you are, embrace every part even the undesirable parts, then let those undesirable part go, let them flow from you back to the void and become all that you desire.
I don't know if you are going to read this Jamie, but thank you so much for signing the book for me, I feel quite embarrassed because I wanted to say something else rather than just saying it's my one year on T, but I just stood there being awkward... I wanted to say thank you because watching your videos has been so helpful for me and Shaaba I do watch you as well and you are both adorable ❤❤
Throwing your own community under the bus to earn the pat on the back that turns into the shove that sends you right along with them.
This attitude tends to come from the more privileged trans people, typically white Americans of higher socioeconomic class. They identify more with their privilege than their marginalized status, and think that by siding with their oppressors they can prove they're "one of the good ones." It's analogous to how members of certain minority groups who manage to succeed under capitalism are held up as model minorities, so that conservatives can say, "See? There is no systemic discrimination, because _this_ person made it. Why can't you?"
Eeeeexactly.
As a girl who grew up on the more tomboy side I was also very adamant that I was a girl not a boy. Wtf is their point??
My brother is a homophobic bisexual
Him: I can't be homophobic! I'm bisexual! Or did you forget that?"
Also him:
"People need to stay in the closet."
"Keep it in the bedroom."
"The Bible says it's an abomination."
"It is a choice. I can choose to be straight anytime I want to, I just don't want to."
"I'm afraid I'm turning gay because I like guys more than girls."
My brother is on the right and says "We don't need equal rights. Just keep it in the bedroom."
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My brother when I came out as LGBTQ+ and wanted to get flags and stuff "Boy, when you join a group, you really get obsessed." Me "??? I didn't join the group? LGBT+ isn't a club you join. I'm LGBTQ+ because I'm LGBTQ+." and he's like "I'm bisexual but I'm not LGBTQ+" and I'm like "What do you think the B stands for?"
An easy way to combat any Christian bigotry is to just say Exodus20:21-20, but yeah your brothers a little stupid, maybe question him on why he thinks that and try to disprove him.
@@alfiehopkin5795 Yeah I give up and mostly try to avoid him. Cause he'll argue he's right even if he's not and throw fits ifd he can't win until I get exhausted and give up.
Also I just realized I'm Bxy (Agender + Boy)
I am gay and I am not part of LGBTQ ... Thank you
I don't like trans logic. End of story
As a bisexual Christain, dang, he must really be sinning by his definition. He thinks it's a choice and still performs gay acts sometimes. Will never understand this mindset.
@@lurch789maybe if he wasn’t homophobic to gay men then we wouldn’t tell him off.
As someone who is genderfluid but leans more to the transfemme side, these kind of statements from within the trans community really upset me. I want to transition to live my life as the woman I know I am, but medical issues and fear mongering from TERFs and transphobes as well as the weaponization of their words fueling anti trans legislation still keep me in the closet. I despise living in fear of someone finding out about who I truly am and having to wear the disguise of being masculine is so very draining.
"I never thought the leopards would eat MY face" sobs the person who voted for the Leopards Eating People's Faces Party.
“trans adults are fine, just leave the kids alone“
i've yet to meet someone with this stance who *actually* believes trans adults are fine. it's usually just a way to win a lost battle because it's slipping away from them. There is no longer any way to broadly uphold that trans adults are bad, so now they are pretending to be okay with trans adults and going the “but children“ road.
If they genuinely believed trans adults are fine, they'd not get so worked up about what the trans would do to the kids.
Recently, I happened on a post on tumblr that was like "if someone starts infighting within queer spaces, treat them like they're undercover cops" which honestly, is a genius idea. Then there was this person in the notes saying that being lgbt+ is a cult (which is not, it's not even remotely half as organised as many religions, which is where you witness cult behaviours most often, to my knowledge), and got mad when they were told they were that "hypothetical cop".
Sometimes I wish there were laugh reacts on youtube bc this is funny as hell
I agree with "leave kids alone" because it's true, leave them alone- let them identify as what they want, let them date who they want, let them have hormones they need, let them have their medication, let them use whatever bathrooms they want etc.
It's almost like fascists don't value personal freedoms 🤔🤔
@@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicoschildren can use desired names and dress how they want, but medicine and physical transferring is out of the question
it almost like *LETING FUCKING 4 YEAR OLDS TAKE HOROMONES AND GET GENTITAL SURGERY DID NOT START THIS* leave the kids alone means stop introducing 6 year olds to sex, Children needs to learn thats why school is a thing
@@gigijohnson9250 so you're saying it's better to punish children and not allow them to be trans then let them be trans safely TEMPORARILY, hmm makes sense/j
My mom’s friend gave me a pin of the LGBTQ+ flag yesterday and am excited to wear it.
@@lurch789 what... Dude, it's pride month I am just wearing my pride pins. I mean yes I have been out as bisexual for two years, but that's not in this.
@@littleender100yayyyy amazing
@@littleender100 just ignore them... they go around saying the weirdest stuff to random comments... it's probably just a bored kid
Ex-transphobic trans guy here, I can't speak on behalf all ex transphobic (trans) people but I grew up in a pretty conservative area/home. I knew from a pretty young age that something wasn't fitting so as soon as I turned 18, took myself to the health center for HRT without the consent of my family. I never made any outward hateful remarks, but I made a lot of passing judgements about people, especially nonbinary people and those who didn't adhere to the binary labels. As a person struggling with internalized transphobia I projected my trans experiences onto others and expected them to be similar, but I've come to understand now that there is no exclusive trans experience and it was selfish of me to think the way I had. In truth I was scared of myself so I ostracized other trans people to try and validate my experience and it wasn't very cool. :(
Trans people that are against trans kids always confuses me. Weren’t you like me once?
(Please don’t reply about puberty blockers or argue, I’m literally 14 👍)
Exactly! Many of them probably knew they were trans prior to puberty, even if they didn't know the name for their sense of oddness
as a trans teenager who knew he was trans at age 7, it feels so odd to me. people dont immediately come out at trans the second they turn 18, and the likelihood of every kid who identifies as something other than cis being a liar is veeeeery unlikely.
@@lurch789 ??? I know some trans people didn’t realize until later but a lot had gender dysphoria or realized when they were under 18.
No one is against trans kids, they’re against injecting them with Lupron (puberty blockers)which is the same drug used to chemically castrate pedophiles 😶 and gay men back in the day
@@lealsofi many drugs are used for multiple things. one of the abortion pills is used for rheumatoid arthritis and a few other medical conditions other than pregnancy.
and when those men stop being dosed with lupron at the dosage it's used to induce infertility, they regain both their fertility and libido outside of very rare cases.
hormone blockers have also been used on cis kids with precocious puberty since the 1980s. people aren't against their use for that. how strange.
i’m transfem and my mum thinks i’ve been “brainwashed by the internet” despite the fact i’ve wanted to wear makeup, skirts, nail polish etc since six (im nineteen now), and as a teen i had been wanting a more feminine body and have to hide my dysphoria from her cause she sees me as a man. she watches these kinds of people on tiktok and it’s kinda gross if you ask me - she also ranted at me saying i’ll regret it like some of those tiktokers (is that a term? idk lol) have, unaware that that’s only 1% of trans/gnc people compared to the 14% of tattooed people who regret getting a tattoo. while i’m at it she’s absolutely fine with me being ace, but not trans? no correlation at all
Tell your mom to watch Seth meyers instead of Fox News. >_>
I don't get people who argue transphobic arguments but then ignore what you say completely when they beg for a response or counter argument. It happened to me when someone asked if someone in the reply section could tell them what a woman was, and I gave an answer and they just didn't say anything after lol
Well I'll answer for them a girl is a biological female a male is a biological mail I'm just here once again to kick you in the face with reality
because they do not actually want a response, they think the question is a gotcha. It is the same as the plethora of "Questions for atheists", They do not serve the purpose to actually get an answer, they serve the purpose of self-validation (aka "they cannot answer this question in a way I think makes sense"), creating a strawman of "the other side" to put down in front of your ingroup or in some of the worst cases just to create a hostile environment and try to get some "memeable" answers from people that lost their cool, or should have let somebody else handled the situation who can articulate it better, Or even throw it out so often, that at one point the do not get an answer... to then say: "see?! they do not even answer this simple question!"
@@hannajung7512 and by the way I can answer the question Jamie as it calls itself is a biological girl she's a girl
@@hannajung7512 she can pop all the testosterone pills she wants it ain't got to make her into a boy
@@hannajung7512 That makes sense, should I just stop responding to them? It just feels like I should try to get them to leave the comments alone, since the hate speech just is entirely unnecessary.
I live in the states I’m a 63 yr old bi female and a lifelong bleeding heart liberal. I’m very worried about the future of this country I see fascists everywhere
@@barryledgister4496😂😂 when minorities are endangered by said fascists, they deserve a callout ❄❄❄
Oh I hate when people do this to their own communities, especially because it’s seen as more acceptable to say discriminatory things about groups you’re a part of. Makes me think of Temple Grandin and Sia who have both said and done horribly ableist things to autistic people and it’s excused because they’re autistic as though that doesn’t make it worse. Then people use them as sources for the whole community even when they’re in the one percent. So sad we can’t just all stand together.
Or like when my Latina but American born Aunt became a Trumper and started ranting about illegal Mexican immigrants. It's infuriating, like we are one degree of difference from them, the bad conservatives don't even see us as different at all. You will not be spared because you turned on your own kind.
My mom gets all her news from tiktok, so she thinks that trans kids are getting irreversible hormones or surgeries, she also thinks that "80% of trans people are detransitioners, because most of this were forced to be trans" and she actually believes this stuff, its really sad
@@DangerJim-vq5uh they are wrong. Puberty blockers have been used for a long time to treat precocious puberty, we know how they behave.
I'll note that this is a health care system making this announcement and not a group of researchers who specialize in the field. A health system which is increasingly underfunded and finally itself lacking in cash. You don't think there might be more than one reason to suddenly cease treatment like that?
I've probably got one of the "fastest tracks" of any trans person for medical transition. (Though only if we're starting the clock at the moment I found the courage to advocate for myself.) I have a fantastic ally for a doctor who took me at my word that I'm trans and immediately put in referrals for what I asked. Even so, my first surgery was put indefinitely on hold because the hospital the referred OBGYN worked at refused to perform gender affirming care. The OBGYN herself was also an ally and advocate, willing to perform the surgery, but she was stopped by the admin. So: further waiting time for finding a hospital who would and a surgeon who could, THEN the waiting time of my doctor working with me to prove to the government (the payer of the treatment) that I'm actually trans before I'm even allowed to get on the waitlist of minimum one year. My situation is practically instantaneous. I have friends who haven't even been able to start the process of referrals or have been in limbo of personal advocacy work and forms for years and years.
I got on T within a year of coming out. I started it at 13. I started trying to get surgery on my 18th birthday and it took over a year to get my hysterectomy, and even then, that was only because of health issues that'd have a hysterectomy on the table if I were a cis woman too. I'm trying to get top surgery next and it's a struggle. Still, I'm so glad that I was "fast tracked" onto T. It saved my life, made my awful adolescence JUST barely bearable, and I've never regretted it in the slightest.
@@vaughnhaney7020 I'm so glad for you that you were able to access HRT as a teen!! Best of luck in receiving any and all care you still need, both for timeliness and for any recovery periods after surgeries! ❤️
I mean I have been told by trans people I've met IRL that because i have very short hair, prefer wearing loose fitting t-shirts and jeans, that I must actually be a trans man. It started out with asking me if I'd ever considered it, and then when I say im certain im not, they start kind of trying to go "yeah but like, it's so weird you dress this way and like all these things, are you SURE you might not be trans?" And would keep gently kind of nudging me about it, or suggesting I might be wrong about myself. It felt so weird like they desperately wanted me to be trans when I know I'm not.
These are interactions that were few and far between, and definitely not a majority. They're definitely a rarity in fact, so these people acting like this is ALL trans folks is just stupid. And some of them are just teens who want to see themselves in their fave celebs (because god knows I've seen trans "headcanons" about real life celebrities...) but I don't think it's right to say that there are no people out there at all who behave this way, when I've experienced it first hand. It was pretty uncomfortable.
They're the same type of people we've scolded just a decade earlier for trying to "crack eggs" or "closet-spot" on people's orientations.
That's just plain fecking rude and bordering on dangerous, like.
To the people prodding at you: Stop trying to crack eggs. Even if someone WAS an egg, what if there's a REASON they're hiding in the trans closet and you're literally endangering them by trying to force them out?
But at the same time thank FECK most people realize egg-cracking is NOT something to deliberately do anymore than waving your gaydar around trying to out people either.
In my opinion, gender-nonconforming is slowly becoming synonymous with genderqueer, especially in youth spaces from personal experience.
@@100deadinside9 when we're they not synonyms? thats been my understanding
This behavior is absolutely not okay and really upsets me as a trans person. It just gives transphobes more opportunities to spew their "thE trAnS aGEnDa is ErAsinG toMbOYs aNd feMIninE men!" rhetoric.
@@wesleywyndam-pryce5305 Gender-nonconforming (GNC) refers to gender expression and genderqueer refers to gender identity. A cis person can be GNC, but by definition cannot be genderqueer. Tomboys are GNC, but trans men are genderqueer. Does that make sense? It’s a little confusing 😅
When people overuse a word for everything, it loses all its power.
Exactly the word transphobic means NOTHING now
@@cocopop.1987 Tell me about it. Some people love to add miso-, -phobic and -ist to describe any person who doesn't like one individual of a group, or disagrees with anything that person or group claims.
Men are called misogynists for not liking a single woman, white people are called racist for criticizing anything a minority says... I could go on and on.
Honestly, I think it's just an excuse for the few narcissistic individuals in each group to stir up hatred and turn their allies into "supplies" who worship and support them in even the worst things they say and do. If you can get everyone around you to hate a common enemy, even if you have to create him yourself, you can be the center of love of many... even if that love is unhealthy for everyone involved.
That said, generally speaking, most people in all these groups are actually just decent, normal people. It's just that the nut jobs hunt down the spotlight every chance they get.
Random but went to my first pride parade today and then saw a drag show with multiple queens and a drag king who was a trans (ftm) guy trying to pay for top surgery and he got given a bunch of money from the organization running the drag show and I met him and I love he’s amazing and I’m so happy from him
Thanks for being informative and supportive need more of this❤
I knew I was a girl since I've been old enough to remember. I didn't suddenly become trans as an adult. If I had had a more open and supportive family, I might have been able to grow up as a girl, and not have to go through the wrong puberty. I just want trans kids to have the opportunity to be themselves that I didn't have. Really, "have the opportunities we didn't have" should be the goal for every adult towards children. Yet somehow, there are a lot of adults out there who want children to be forced through the same hardships as they were. This isn't even just about LGBTQ issues, but in general.
@@DangerJim-vq5uh copy-pasting that everywhere does not constitute a conversation.
the problem being is separating the me too kids from real trans kids.
I'm excited for your book to come out! My friend preordered it for me, so I'm waiting until it comes out and starts shipping!
Im transfemale and there has been exactly 1 time when i was "transphobic" and it was during a fight with myself and a transmasc person who started digging at my trauma. It made me legitimately sick afterward but they just crossed a line that was too far.
Newly hatched genderfuild f-nb person here!
Even growing up, I fluctuated between being a 'Tom-boy' and being a very fem girl. I was often mistaken for a boy, which I didn't appreciate, but I never corrected anyone to say I was a girl, because some days that also didn't feel right. I remember saying as a kid that I just wasn't a gender.
My parents still think now that I've come out that it is because of my husband's left views. Evidence of kids not being cis is never going to be seen by a transphobe, even if it's extremely obvious.
@@lurch789 can't quite tell if you're making an amusing joke, or if you're attempting to be offensive? Imma assume it's the former! 😊
I'm genderfluid too! Realized it only recently, but thinking back at my childhood, i always was... i just didn't have a word for it.
Anyway, happy pride!💜💜
@@riccardozanoni2531 Yay! Fellow genderfuild bean!