"You're Not Autistic!" Dealing with Ableism
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- čas přidán 7. 09. 2024
- I'm back with another video! Inspired by a friend on Instagram worried about what people will think about her if she comes out as autistic. Here's what I keep in mind to encourage me not to worry what people think.
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I usually don't get bothered by things, but it does kind of make me angry the sheer amount of people who blatantly know nothing about autism but feel like they can confidently declare who is or isn't autistic. I definitely get the urge to argue with them, like, all the time. This is why I don't tell anybody IRL. The level of public misconception is staggering.
there are too. many personality disordered n the country and it's degrading into a dystopia. mark my words.
@@elizabethbennet4791 autism isn't a personality disorder. I get what you're saying though. I think the problem is anything that divides people into groups that can fight each other. Unfortunately, that can be anything.
I have a dream of auditioning for RuPaul’s Drag Race and using the platform to spread awareness for how those with autism are constantly being mistreated and being dragged down by ableist comments and be the positive role model kids like us desperately need and show everyone that just because I am considered to be autistic doesn’t mean that I can’t do amazing things. We can do far more than what ableists tell us and we need to change the public perception that all forms of autism is bad.
@@GuacamoleKunnot talking Abt autism, but cases of borderline and narcissistic, etc.
@@elizabethbennet4791like cyberpunk 😂😂😂
I don't qualify for adult disability benefits because I have an associate's degree. It took me 8 eight years to reach that goal but the fact that I reached it at all has left me without accommodations
nooooo wut?!?!?
bullshit wtf even
Get a lawyer
In the UK it's worse - you don't get the benefits if you have savings!
Thank you for making this! Someone said I was faking autism because they thought autism was a disease and I said it wasn’t so they said I was faking because I didn’t believe it was a disease, that was so scary.
In my experience it's often used as a compliment, not a snide remark to put me down or imply I am an imposter. People are just impressed enough by my masking abilities.
@@dekippiesipHow is “faking autism” a compliment?
As an autistic person, my life is by no means a horrible tragedy, but I have limitations that aren't visible to the naked eye. I have a disability. Just because I look relatively normal on the outside I will always have a disability, no matter what other people might say.
My life is pretty average as well. I don’t have meltdowns that often and only a few minor sensory issues. I actually can do several things that a lot of other people can’t do. I’ve actually managed to teach myself how to do drag and apply makeup all by myself and figured out how to walk in heels and down stairs in them without any help. And I know more about music than most people and I can even lip sync with near accuracy to the point that drag queens that have been performing for decades are impressed that I can mouth the words to songs after listening to the song a couple of times. I think that my autism helps with my creativity and allows me to see things in a completely different angle that others might not have considered.
You talk about how in your life you have your own family that are like "Oh yeah you're definitely autistic!" And I think that's great to have that support. In my case, I'm autistic but a lot of my family members (like 3 sisters) all say that I'm not autistic. Even my brother in law has said that to my face. How am I supposed to just ignore my actual family members? I have a therapist and was professionally diagnosed as well but none of that matters to them. I'm just exhausted of not only random people I don't know well telling me "you're not autistic/disabled" but my own family members.
As a fellow aspie myself, I consider myself to be one of the few that never took offense to that comment.
The main reasons for me are in my case, you couldn't really tell I was on the spectrum unless if you knew me for a very long time or paid attention closely.
Most people that know me don't have any idea that I'm on the spectrum, as I typically don't openly talk about it.
The other reason for me is because when I was in school, I hated having that label on me because it made me at one point feel like I couldn't do much or experience life to the extent of those close to me.
I also used to feel weird if I'm around others and the topic of autism gets brought up.
For example, I remember one time during my senior year when I overheard one of my friends (who I usually got along with) chatting with some of his other friends and he brought up autistic people and each of them started making jokes about how dumb they are.
I remember sitting at a separate table feeling very awkward and uncomfortable hearing that 😬
I typically am not one to get offended by jokes or "dark comedy", but that was one rare instance when I felt uncomfortable.
Now, ableist jokes in general don't really affect me as much, as I've pretty much heard it all 😅
I appreciate what you said here though! 💯
I have so much of the same nervous energy you do. no one would ever hire me. they would be rude and ask "are you nervous?". Now i understand...everything!
i was so happy when i finally found out i was autistic, because everything just made sense after and i could help myself better, but then realized (after telling my mom that i was autistic) that i probably shouldn't tell anybody about it unless absolutely necessary... lets just say my mom really hated the idea, and blatantly said the doctor was lazy and wrong 🤷🏻♀️ and "everyone is a little autistic" and "you were always eccentric and sensitive, thats not a medical condition" or the best one "i was watching families who have kids with autism and if you have it, you definitely dont have enough of it for it to be a real problem"
we never talked much
Fucking TRUUUUUU
I remember when I was diagnosed two months into my senior year of high school, a lot of things I did or had done made so much more sense and that I was telling the truth when I said that I couldn’t understand the way math was being taught to me and it was frustrating me to the point that my brain would shut down completely and that I couldn’t do the work until my mind was clear again.
"Am i found disabled enough to be qualified for benifits?" Was a thought I had when in the process of getting benifits.
I am changing the perception of myself towards the term disability. I have become to see it as a disability to accept irrational descions by indivials just when they are given, disability to sell myself out and lie to become a succesful "employ in the job market"
Trying to get any kind of benefits is a pain in the butt in my experience. It's just constantly being denied for things over and over.
It's sad to be called out if you have genuine autism and told that you don't have any real issues socially. But there are people out there who are deliberately faking it, or think that they have autism without a proper diagnosis from a professional, who definitely need to be called out on their bs.
You are beautiful and articulate - lots of people online have a preconceived notion that this rules out being disabled.
Also the dreaded "we're all autistic" said by someone with over a dozen friends and smooth collected social skills.
I really do not like how autism and other disorders related to it are constantly being portrayed in the media and how it’s not okay to be ableist towards any disability unless it’s autism. It’s always being shown as being some unbearable problem that makes the autistic person constantly being bad and causing trouble and someone no one wants to be around. Girl Meets World is one of the worst offenders of the “autism/Asperger’s =bad” mindset and I hate how no one is called out for the constant ableist comments and behavior throughout that one episode and the girl at the end saying she has Asperger’s feels like it was just added in at the last moment and felt not natural. She should have called everyone out for their behavior and said how comments such as “You can’t be autistic! You’re normal!” is wrong and hurtful and that type of mindset just perpetuates the idea that autism is the worst thing ever. Music is even worse when it comes to ableism and I think Sia’s recent claims to have Asperger’s is just an excuse to get people to stop criticizing her for creating the movie as now anyone who talks bad about Music will be seen as some sort of bully because they are saying an autistic person’s work is truly horrendous even though they are telling the truth about the film.
Autistic people have little or no social instincts.
An allistic ("normal") person who finds you acceptable will try to make you fit into their social group. Their social instinct tells them that "autistic" is "different", and "you can't be in their social group"; this causes them anxiety. They want to "fix" you to make themselves feel better.
This social instinct is for everyone in their group to be similar, so that they can immediately recognize members and non-members.
Fish aren't aware of the water (Chinese proverb.)
They aren't aware of this instinct, and they don't know why they do this. They surround themselves with people who are the same, even the idea of someone being "different" makes them anxious.
The psychology field has harmed everyone by avoiding teaching about social instincts. They have conflicts of interest in this. This is a major reason why legacy psychology has failed autistic people.
The social instinct of "othering", combined with blibd submission to their group and its leaders are the major cause of stupid wars that kill millions - wars that start because of lies.
Do you have sunflower lapels in the US? they are green ribbons you put around your neck (can hold keys, your I'd card etc) and they have a sweet sunflower design on them. It is tell ppl in authority or shops, etc that you have an "invisible" disability. It's quite useful, I wear one often just so I have a bit more patience from others (if they understand). But also, thankyou for introducing me to inappropriate authority, because dealing with welfare and employment services, I am constantly gaslighted and not believed as I mask relatively well. Thankyou again. Take care 💖
Great video! I recently started advocating and I'm Autistic.
What a pleasant surprise ☺
My problem is that I don’t really know if I’m autistic.
I mean I have a lot of symptoms but not all and those I have are not that strong. I took a few test and most of them said I have a high possibility for being autistic.
So I want to ask you if you could help me with “how to find out if I’m autistic”
(I’m sorry if my English was not the best)
ALM
Just get a cat scan.
You're not
Research the traits of FEMALE Autism or female Asperger, as the presentation differs from that of the stereotypical male Autism or Aspergers. Recent research in only the last few years have begun to look at the profile of female autism they have previously missed.
@@ianmangham4570 how do you know?
If it's in person, you could gently say "There's a lot of wrong information about autism. Can you say what autism is?"
If they don't get upset with that question, you could use this analogy: "Autism is a different way of seeing the world and relationships. It's like we're color blind, and you aren't. You can't understand that I cannot see some colors until you get to know me."
Thank you!
Nice video... sorry I'm late... just saw the video... very helpful...I believe I'm hyper sensitive autistic...
Most disabilities are not visible. It breaks my heart knowing there are inappropriate authorities in this world, people who want to discredit someone's autism are disgusting.
Lmao, love that "I have no emotion" about these kind of comments. Same here.
What happens when you don’t have any appropriate authorities?