Foster Care Adoption | advice to listen to and advice to ignore
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If you want to adopt from foster care, you are going to get an earful of opinions from many people in your life. How do you know which advice to listen to and which advice to disregard? In this video, I share tips so that you can know which advice is worth following.
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I love how real you are, yet still so compassionate! My sister and I were adopted from foster care at ages 9 and 11. Now, my husband and I just started the matching process to adopt a teen from foster care. My mother-in-law has been in full-blown foster care horror story mode. My mother, on the other hand, is so excited and enthusiastic about our choice! It's been such a source of comfort to rely on my mom's advice through this, and it's fascinating to learn new details of her and my dad's adoption journey.
I love when I hear of former foster youths adopting ❤️ I’m sure your mother-in-law will come around eventually. I’m not sure if you watched the interview I did recently with Karly Pancake, but she and her husband adopted teens and have had a really good experience. Maybe you could share the video with your MIL so she can see a different perspective!
@@adoptinformed I did watch it, and it is wonderful! That's really good advice. It will be helpful for her to see a positive and realistic representation of teen adoption.
Thank you for this one, especially! We’re in the midst of adopting as “plan A” for adding to our family… most likely a waiting child with a health condition that makes them difficult to place (we’re able to manage that; our bio son has a serious congenital illness and we’re familiar with how to access resources). We have had some pushback from family, for sure… some old-school biases about disabilities, racial differences, the “brokenness” of foster care kids 🙄 etc.
I feel that going down this journey, a lot of people might just not be supportive because they have this illusion that birth family's are ALL rainbows and unicorn daily. Which is not. To me, adoption is about commitment first( like marriage vows) to a child. The good and ugly.
Anything in life can be risky.
Thanks for all you do lady
I have been watching your videos the last couple of weeks and I have enjoyed them my spouse and are going thru the foster care to adoption route now
That's great! Thanks for watching!
I recently found your channel and am enjoying your videos as we have been considering the foster to adopt route in the near future. Thank you for your advice :)
this video is wonderful. Thank you so, SO much for being real about the struggles of foster care and adoption.
You are so welcome! Thanks for being here! ❤️
Thanks for sharing ❤❤❤
The fear around the child thing drives me NUTS.
Do people act like this when someone announces pregnancy? No.
Its like they dont realize your biological kids dont come with a safety or health guarantee. Kids get sick, hurt, violent all the time. Id wager a bet if we looked into it, more parental unalivings are committed by bio kids than foster and adopted children.
I agree. I think when people have biological kids there is a false sense of control…but there are no guarantees in life!
I agree, one of my siblings (there are three of us) has been angry, moody, and sometimes aggressive/violent since he was a toddler :/ just happens sometimes
I was visiting my aunt and uncle last week and mentioned that I was considering foster care in the future; my uncle responding by talking about Ukraine and china and how his friends had fostered from there… 😂 and then started telling me that I had to have an opinion on having a boy or girl foster child. When he clearly didn’t even know what foster care was 😂 I know he meant well but I was just like 🤦🏽♀️oh boy hahaha
Also unfortunately so much domestic violence comes from parents not kids
@@madelinemcdonald2609 oh my! You have to love it when people think they know what they are talking about 😅
Your videos are hands down the most informational, and more appreciated than you know. Do you have any other CZcams channels you do recommend and trust?
Thank you! ❤️ Lucrece Bundy has some great informational videos about adoption. I haven’t watched a ton of her videos, but the ones I have are good!
Wait, you guys rode a motorcycle?! I'm flabbergasted. My flabs are gasted.
Lol 😂 mostly my husband did. It wasn’t an intense motorcycle…like not a moped but not a full blown Harley Davidson-sequel motorcycle
@@adoptinformed Still SO cool lol! And also, I relate to your mention of parents sometimes advising against adoption because they want to be grandparents. My mom was very upset when I mentioned we were considering adoption lol.
My husband and I currently have a 10 month old child, intend to have another biological child at some point, though also would like to adopt 1-2 children as well depending on the situation. I am researching adoption processes now and wondering if I should start doing any certifications or getting ready if we are not ready right at this moment . Do you have any advice on this situation?
You shouldn’t get licensed to adopt until you are actually ready to begin the process, but there are plenty of things you can do to prepare in the meantime! I recommend reading some books like The Connected Child or Telling the Truth to your Adopted or Foster Child.
@@adoptinformed thank you for this information. We know it can be a lengthy process and you can never be sure when you may be selected so we thought we could get s little early start but we will stick to learning everything we can for now. I just saw your recommendations for those books and will be purchasing or renting them soon!
good advice about advice
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