I haven't been completely honest with you...
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- čas přidán 8. 02. 2023
- It's time for me to be real with you...today I'm opening up about some of the struggles and realizations I've had in my foster care and adoptive parenting journey recently, so that you can feel less alone in your own!
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Thanks so much for watching!
-Katie
Thank you for being real with us!
Oh my goodness that is so sweet that he loved you napping with him so much 🥰
Girl, you and I sound so much alike! We are in the process of international adoption, so I haven’t experienced parenting an adopted child yet, but almost 13 years ago my twins were born prematurely and one was stillborn. I had to be strong for my survivor and for my toddler son, and husband. But in many ways I felt like a shell of a human. I may have seemed present to them but grief was real and it took me a while to snap out of it. Being present requires intentional effort, especially as an introvert and especially in this age of social media and distractions. It’s been 14 years of parenthood and I feel like I’m only just figuring that out. It’s so hard not to beat ourselves up about what we’ve failed at, I love that you’ve found ways to focus on your strengths.
Wow thank you for sharing your experience! ❤️ I think so many of us experience these things but we just don’t talk about it!
I have a similar personality and this is very encouraging! Thank you! My greatest takeaway from this video is that you had such an honest and open conversation with your daughter about this. That takes courage! You were able to share an important life lesson with her in a very loving way.
Love this! Thank you for sharing. I am a foster mom to 2 and 1 biological so I definitely feel like I'm not enough sometimes too. Especially difficult when neglected children crave so much attention and the biological is used to getting all the attention. It's a constant pull. Your honesty let's me know I'm not alone ;)
Thank you for sharing! I have so much "imposter syndrome" as a foster parent also, but keep coming back to the belief that God put me where He did for a reason, and my best is good enough. And yours is too. ☺ And again and again, I've seen God use all my imperfect gifts and somehow it is enough for what is needed at the moment. This is just what I needed to hear today.
I think I’ll need to fine tune this some, with the upcoming addition to our family by way of adoption… but I often say to my toddler “Baby, mommy is a person. That means I make mistakes. I need to do potty, eat food, etc. I sometimes need a break by myself. That’s ok. We love each other and we’re helping each other. Right?” (Kind of a reminder that we’re all doing our best) I get tired out from trying and trying and trying to fulfill that ideal mom role.
Thank you so very much for making this video. I'm super self critical. This brought me to tears because it was a relief to hear someone else is going through struggles and that they made it through and grew. Thank you ❤
You are very welcome! It helps so much to know we are not alone! ❤️
This is very needed as we are already navigating this journey. Thank you
Thank you for your honesty and faith ❤
I wish I could just call you and talk to you for 3 hours, lol. I won't bother to list everything off, because it was pretty much everything you said, but I relate SOOOO stinkin much to your personality, your Mom struggles, the fact that you said your word for this year is "Present," ect., etc., etc.. I don't do words of the year, but that's something I feel like God has been convicting me of for the past several months, at least. I've also been under a lot of stress from various things (no deaths, but several NEAR deaths in the family last summer) and I need to get alone to recharge and get motivated to do things. But I also have 3 kids I adore, so finding that balance between everything can be tricky, because I WANT to be the mother God made me to be for them and they deserve for me to be. Even the way you worded most of what you is how I've worded the same things to my husband and sister recently, lol. Also struggle with the lack of peppiness and certain people thinking I'm just negative. I like to be real with those I'm close to and share our hardship so we can have understanding for each other. Some people don't want and can't handle that though, I guess. But I've felt like a bad Mom lately for not being the Mom I WANT to be, and I've had to say it out loud to people I feel like I should be able to say it to. Sorry for rambling, lol. But I felt like I was listening to my twin talking to me the whole video. And I only have bio babies now, but I found your channel because I do want to adopt. Trying to figure that situation out little by little as I get more and more serious about it.
Thank you so much for sharing!!! It's nice to find internet friends who can relate to what I'm going through :)
Thank you for this, Katie💞💞💞
Thank you. Thank you. 💙💙
Your videos open my eyes so much sometimes.
Thank you for your honesty. ❤️
None of this makes me want to have you as an adoption consultant any less. I love your honesty.
Thank you! 🥹
I so appreciate the courage it took to share such intimate details. Even with life challenges; you’re doing an amazing job!
Thank you for sharing! I have felt things very similar to this! I just started therapy in January this year. ❤️
I don’t have kids yest, but I want them. I know that this video will come in handy in the future. Thank you for sharing.
Your strengths are amazing. You are the very best for your kids. ❤
Thank you so much! 🥹
Thank you for sharing your experience and your wisdom that you’ve gained from it! As you were talking about unpacking some of your own stuff from your life and childhood, it reminds me of a great book I’d recommend to you or any adoptive parent (or any parent at all for that matter). It is “Parenting from the Inside Out” by Dan Siegel. All of his books are amazing (“The Whole-Brain Child” and others). You may be familiar with his work. In any case, PFTIO is about how we as parents need to resolve our own “stuff”, how our stuff affects our ability to attach with our children, and more. I think it is especially relevant for adoptive parents. Thanks again for being a great voice for foster adoption!
I will definitely check that out! :)
Thank you for sharing this, Katie.
I’m sure there will always be people who want to take issue with something, but speaking for myself, I’m atheist and your story is yours; if there’s a god in it, send it girl haha. I love your channel, and I believe that people can have very different beliefs and still share the same root values 💜thanks for sharing :)
Okay but can we have the 3 step process for dealing with anger? 😄❤️ you’re amazing and I love your videos and miss you!
Hahaha! I have to use that 3 step process myself 😂 Love and miss you too! 🥰
God is good!
Yes! 🙌
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