Meeting my father for the first time in 20 YEARS...
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- čas přidán 29. 08. 2024
- A year ago today I met my father for the first time in 20 years. As a kid and adult I’ve dealt with a lot of self worth issues and depression, but I am truly thankful for these hardships that have shaped who I am today. It’s how you deal with these experiences that shapes you. I filmed this in hopes to inspire parents that are disconnected from their children to reconnect and to show kids with less than ideal situations that you can have an incredible, fulfilled life full of love and success if you can make the right choices and learn from other people's mistakes. No matter the circumstances you were given, you have the ability to be an incredible human-being with immeasurable worth. I’m honestly extremely self conscious about sharing this but if it helps one person, it’s worth it.
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Thank you for documenting.. Just found my father after 20 years and this helped.. I am 37 and haven't seen him since I was 17.. I'm from Denmark and he's from Gran Canaria (spain) and I'm flying down to visit him in 3 days.. It's never too late! thank you.
Wow man that's heavy, I'm super happy for you for finding him! Be careful of your expectations, but also keep in mind those can change. When I first reconnected with my father he was in rough shape and I was pretty disappointed but over time he has worked on himself and I can actually see us having a meaningful relationship now. Enjoy your visit with your dad and best of luck!
Thank you, great advice, I will try to lower my expectations and just enjoy this trip 😊 good luck with your dad as well 😉
Thanks for being vulnerable. I’ve been abandoned by my father, so it’s encouraging to see this video.
I am so sorry to hear you have had to go through a similar situation Danique. I wanted to share this with people so they could know they can build an incredible life even without their father present.
Thanks for doing that! :)
What a Great Heart you have. To give love unconditionally is just awesome. May you and your family reap the benefits of what you were taught thru your lifetime.
Thank you
Thank you for the support 🙏🏼
I meet my son for the first time after being at his birth this week. I spoke to him over the phone briefly today for the first time. And I almost got into my sad story as well and I caught myself. I redirected the conversation to him I wanted to know what his likes and dislikes. My story is a little different that I come from a different social status from my child's mother. I realize real quick in Court, that without a lawyer I wasn't going to win or get anywhere so I guess I just threw my hands up in the air and gave up. But I wanted him to know that I didn't walk away because I didn't want to be with him. I guess that's when I started with my story. I hope all goes well next week. My plan is to start off being friends first. I got a lot of catching up to do.
I'm really glad to hear you're reconnecting with him! It definitely takes time to open up, but it sounds like you're going into it with the right expectations. Sending my love to both of you, I'm looking forward to hearing how it goes!
Andrew I found your F550 build highlighted on someone else's channel tonight and it was so amazing I wanted to find out more about you three so I followed the link to your channel and I scanned down until I found this video. I really appreciated you giving your Dad another chance! I notice you have a positive attitude and I am sure your Dad is proud of you. My wife and I have four kids and they are my greatest gift from God, they are a privilege and a trust. A wise man doesn't have to learn from his mistakes, he can learn from the mistakes of others. You have done that well. I'm sure you will be a great Dad! I look forward to seeing more of your videos!
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch abs write this kind message. Doing my best to get through life the best I can. ❤️🙏
@@AndrewMuse 👍👍Enjoying the adventure, keep up the great content!😉
This was perfect Andrew. I hope my kids turn out like you. We chatted over the last few days on another one of your videos. I am a school counselor and I'm going to share this with many of my students. I'm also going to make my kids watch it to drive home what they've had! You did an amazing job crafting yourself! I'm amazed, humbled and proud of who you've become!
I really appreciate this message John, the support means a lot to me. I would love to have you share it with your students and kids. I'm hoping to be able to speak to schools someday to inspire kids to follow their dreams no matter their circumstances at home. Thank you again 🙏🏼
@@AndrewMuse you would be perfect as a guest speaker. If you head this way I can set you up in one or as many schools as you want! Kids would love it and it could change their lives. That, my friend, is the best feeling in the world.
@@johnguertin5054 I would absolutely love that, thank you!
@@AndrewMuse mountain biking with dogs first-then talk to kids! We can host any time. I have a good place for your rig if you drive too. Love to make that happen. Be well Andrew
Hello
Thank you for this. Last week my birth father contacted my mother saying he wants to meet me, I'm trying to decide whether or not I agree to meet with him.
I hadn't seen a video like this before, but I thought of documenting mine too, altho I don't think he'll agree to being filmed.
At least you had your sister to do this together, I don't have anyone. I can't ask advice from any of my family bcuz they all hate him.
Idk what Ima do yet, this whole situation makes me sick to my stomach!
Altho I do share your mindset that you shared at the end: about hardships shaping you to being who you are now, which is a positive thing to come out of those hardships.
I have the same mindset bcuz I've also had to overcome a LOT, which is probably why I have little patience with ppl who are "woe is me" sob stories & playing victim. I'm happy you pointed that out to him & said you don't want/need to that from him
If I decide to meet my father, I hope I don't encounter victim stories from him, tho I doubt it bcuz he's too egotistical for that. - ugh I can't be prejudiced thinking about how he was in the past; I'll work on it.
Don't be self conscious about sharing this story Andrew, I've been in a similar boat with my father and so many people out there have struggled with this. You're brave for sharing this.
Hey Laura! Thanks for the support and kind words, it really means a lot! I'm sorry to hear that you've had to undergo a similar situation, it is definitely hard to deal with. Best of luck!
i loved my parents. i grew up in a 2 parent home. i lived off a lake with a row boat and 2 dogs. i remember the sound of the screen door in the kitchen.
when i stand before our lord i will ask to be sent back to that time. endless summer from school
At least we have those memories.
Such a good video. Thank you for making it 🙏🌟💕 Your last screen shot was touching, powerful and a very needed message. “To kids without parents: No matter the circumstances you were given You have the ability to be an incredible human being with immeasurable worth.”
Thank you so much for the love and support ❤️😊 It's so true!
@@AndrewMuse You rock! Keep sharing - it's important. And so helpful to so many. I used to think vulnerability was weakness - it's exactly the opposite! It's extremely powerful and healing. Infinite love & gratitude to you!
Powerful video. I have experienced several similar emotions and scenarios all while being completely different. I don't wish to share publicly but it must have been a rollercoaster doing this. Congrats on making all experiences positive
Hi there. Thanks for the support! It was definitely hard sharing this, but I wanted to reach out to others who may have felt the same way before, and let them know they are not alone. I believe positivity is key and will only lead to a happier lifestyle.
Andrew from the start when i followed you on insta a saw your come back from the loss of booted i was inspired and again i see this, how you make so much positive out of so much negative makes me wanna do so much more with my life. Also it just reminds me i can achieve whatever I want to if you were able to make such an amazing life with your circumstances.
Hey Ethan! Im glad I could inspire you.. You are so right in that you can make ANYTHING happen, from dreams to a certain mindset, YOU are in control of your happiness. I believe positivity is key, life is always going to give you obstacles but how you overcome them is what creates the life you live! I really appreciate your support and kind words :)
Andrew Muse I’m leaving for park city Thursday maybe I’ll bump into you
"Andrew Muse" you have one of the most amazing mindsets and I always hope the best for you and anyone else out there, keep up the great work!
Thank you so much! That is truly amazing to hear :)
You are awesome!
Keeping all of you in prayer
Thanks so much for the support :)
You turned out wonderfully, Andrew! You’re a fine young man! Miss seeing you at DC and SSB, kiting!
Thanks!!! I appreciate the support!
Im sorry he wasnt there for you growing up, and its so bad of him being 2hours late at your first meeting in 20 years!! Take it for what he is if you keep in touch ,thet way you wont gett too dissapointed
Thank you so much for the love Petra. I've learned to not expect too much from the relationship to guard myself from being hurt. 🙏🏼
right on young man, you are rising above what as handed to you.
Thank you for the support Richard I really appreciate it 🙏🏼
@@AndrewMuse i am over 60, had shit parents too, you are never whole but it is how you rise above that matters son, rock on.
Awesome to hear more about your background, thanks for sharing. Re-connecting can suck but also be really worth it. Love all your stuff!
Thank you for the support! Im happy to share, it was definitely tough but I wanted to reach out tho others who may have felt the same way! Thanks again for the love
Wow! Thank you so much for sharing your experience! I found it completely heartfelt and sincere with a lot of great guidance and advice, especially for young people! Did you talk with your father about the accident? If he finds the story of it (especially how Kicker came into your life!!) 1/2 as inspiring as I did, it seems reason enough to approach life with a positive outlook.
Thank you for the support Daniel! We did talk about the accident. Since making the video we have stayed in touch as he continued to get better and he is flying out next week to help me work on a project. It will be the first meaningful experience I have had with him.
@@AndrewMuse That sounds very incredible ... and healing. My thoughts will be with you as you navigate through those waters. I know you are busy going in many directions but have you thought about writing a book? The video you posted was a snapshot ... an edited version of what you wanted us to see and hear. A book would fill in the gaps giving context to the emotion and sensation to the feelings. Best wishes to you, Kicker, and all of your family!
Thank you so much. Writing a book isn't something I have really considered yet, reading and writing isn't my strong suit. I have wanted to start a blog or something similar to get more of the details and emotions from adventures I just haven't made it happen yet. Definitely something to consider spending more time on, I appreciate the suggestion!
Hi Andrew,
Not gonna lie, this is a lil tear jerker!
Best to you & the reunion of your family.
So many Qs tho...
Hi there! Thanks for the support man! Ask away :)
I'm in the same situation right now. Have not seen my day sinse i was 6 in kindergarten. Now im 26 he finally found me on facebook. After 20 years but I haven't accepted his request. Im nervous and very emotional. Always wanted to learn how to be a man. I missed out on a lot of lessons. My mom did the best she could to raise me right. And I still made a lot of poor decisions in life. However, God bless me to get my life black organized. And now i have the opportunity meet my dad maybe half of my other family. Your story inspired me bro. But i still don't know what to do.. it's difficult for me to forgive at times. I just want to be sincere and heal from my past. Any advice people?
Hey Jettie, Thank you for sharing your story and I'm sorry you've gone through a similar situation. I think if anything you can use the meeting to get the questions you want answered. If there is an opportunity for a relationship then that is your choice. I would be a bit guarded as well. Over the last year (since I filmed this) my father has made a massive effort to get this shit together and there may be an opportunity for a relationship . Still guarded but supposedly Einstein once said "Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies". Protect yourself, don't dive in head over heels but I say see how it goes. Good luck and much love!
@@AndrewMuse thank for the feedback. I take all that in to consideration
Hope you have seen him now life is short wats done is done, just go on to gever bro bulid ya life man
How do you only have 33k subs?? Must be very unlucky with the algorithm
Not totally sure! I've worked really hard but no love. I'm making another big push now!
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Thanks for the support!! :)
i loved mom but she had issues. my father worked out to sea and was gone weeks at a time. mom wa a one parent to 4 sons and a daughter. years later when she passed, my brother and i put her in the ground
I'm sorry for your loss
I love you
Much love right back at ya!! :)
your parents, your parents cant shape who u are. its you
I completely agree! Your mom sounds like she was an incredibly strong woman.
you are the best love you
Thanks so much for the support! Miss you!
Stong stuff!
Thanks for the support!