Analysis of Chris D'Elia Apology and Lawsuit
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he didn’t even judge Chris about the allegations as much as he did on his actual comedy Grande is cold as ice. Haha
Such a cold roaster!
Sorry, I never thought chris was funny. He’s just loud and moves awkwardly and makes weird noises. I guess it works if your really young?
@@pirateradio00 yup he was the newest version of Dane Cook
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@@pirateradio00 watch some of his podcasts with TFATK. He’s made me cry laughing. I admit I don’t like his stand up much.
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That profile pic looks like a mugshot mun
The "Just a reminder I'm not diagnosing anyone..." statement needs to be made into a t-shirt.
It is check out his merch
I’d love to have someone recognize that in public!
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it is.
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“It’s like watching a high school student trying to do comedy. He seems happy with himself as if he thinks he’s funny. That is perhaps the most disturbing part.” 🤣😂🤣
Hes big with millennials.
@@ChicanoOne760
If you listen to his audience at his shows, its clear who he is popular with. Girls. Not that there is anything wrong with having a niche audience. But the danger of having a niche audience is that you can end up becoming lazy, since all these girls will twirl their hair and laugh no matter what you say. Many stand up comics prefer to play to a wide array of audiences, because if you can entertain people from all walks of life then you know you are actually getting really skilled at what you do and your hard work has paid off.
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He’s big with 54 year olds too.😉
Right?!?! Such a deep BURN 🔥
Yup. he's got far too much confidence considering how badly he sucks. Plus the best comics are usually self deprecating
Sex addiction is an EXPLANATION for excessive sexual acting out, but it is not an EXCUSE for infidelity or criminal behavior.
I tend to side with sex addiction being an impulse control disorder. It explains even infidelity or criminality. But nothing is an excuse.
@@redram5150 I view sex addiction as a pattern of unhealthy, compulsive behaviors that affects the brain in a way similar to other compulsive behaviors like gambling, which provide a brief, transitory "rush" to the addict, followed by almost inevitable self recrimination and depression. Some people ignorantly think sex addiction is not real or is "fun" somehow, but leads to misery and self-harming behavior and is very real, indeed.
Anyone who likes sex belongs in prison
@Tee It’s not a simple matter of “matching sex drives.” It’s COMPULSIVE BEHAVIOR that is risky and unhealthy.
@@willnill7946 Lmao wut
She was a highschool teenager when this happened. It takes time to process things and realize that what happened to you was wrong. I was in my late 30's before I finally acknowledged abuse from years before.
This is the reason why the criticism of "why did you wait so long to speak out?" Is weak. They didn't know they were waiting to speak out , because they didn't know that what they lived was traumatizing and wrong.
@@try_force8794 This reminds me of HBO's 'The Tale' (starring Laura Dern) about the writer/director's true life experience. She didn't realize what really took place (she was 13) until she was in her 40s.
This video is one of the few I totally disagreed with his analysis. He kind of victim shamed.
@: she was underage....?
Yea thats why statute of limitations is a good thing. People change even the wrong doers
Dr. Grande you are a role model to me in the way you perceive the world - everything you say is scientifically informed and built upon reason but one still gets the feeling that you have a big heart and are always looking for the good in people. Thats amazing. I love you're channel and you're videos. Thank you for the great work!
It’s a very attractive quality.
Check her age, and don’t be alone with her Todd. It’ll come back to haunt you when you have become a TV therapist. OR you get a Netflix Psych show. 😂
Well put! Good description of Dr. Grande, thx.
(on another note: it is "your* channel and your* videos" :) )
*"If that really happened, why did you wait so long to say something?"* Plenty of reasons. Not realizing you were a victim right away. Afraid of retaliation, afraid people wouldn't believe you, not emotionally ready to deal with the scrutiny at the time, blaming yourself for it, not wanting to relive it, embarrassment, the list is a mile long. smh.
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Especially when accusing a celebrity. You have to be ready for insane backlash and legal action. It’s something a lot of people would rather not speak out about and not a reason for people to invalidate their story.
If you are not realizing that you are a victim right away, you probably aren't.
@@auroraborealis13579 You're welcome...❤
@@Lizebri01 That's so true. The resources of the rich make it difficult for some victims to fight it out in court. Plus the pressure of people not believing it, simply because they think the abuser really IS how they seem to the public. I guess that's one reason people settle these things out of court. Though, it's just as difficult even if both parties are average citizens. He said, she said. Something like that happened to my sister. The police said "Well, YOU invited him over. No one saw it. It's a he said she said. There's nothing we can do." I was so pissed. Our brother made sure the guy left the area. In his own persuasive way. It was sad and she still deals with it, after years.
“D’Elia D’fouled My Car” is a lawsuit header I can totally believe.
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Oh I get it
Is there a D'Elia d'lemon law?
it's a tshirt lol
@@roathripper seriously?😂
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"On snapchat it goes away right?"
D'Elia: o_O
Classic
I cant believe that isnt a huge meme
Lmao his reaction was so pure
THAT CLIP is legit the funniest thing on the internet
We can't expect a child to act like a grown up, particularly if they are being abused by an actual grown up. If she had come out right after he'd gone no contact, she'd have been accused of just being angry at being discarded. Coming forward as a victim of sexual abuse can be extremely hard, some victims will need time to even realize they were victims.
You'd think a therapist would understand that, I don;t why Dr Grande doesn't get why an abused teenager wouldn't report a powerful adult celebrity until she understood it herself and felt confident enough.
Good point. Some victims don't know they were victims right away. Only after a certain amount of time, or even as they get older, do they realize they were victims. Then, they may feel so much time has passed, no one would believe them. They often don't report it. If they do, others might say, "If that really happened, you would have told someone sooner." NO. That's a form of 'victim abuse' right there and it's all too common. A victim will come forward when they are ready to deal with it, be it right away, or 20+ years later. They set the time table. It is their right.
Why do people insist on calling people in their late teens “children”? It just seems disingenuous. I don’t know about you, but when I was 15 I had a job and I was driving and going to parties by 17. I would not say that I was a child then, but either a teenager, or young adult.
Truth . . . Spoken from first-hand experience.
@@collinsmcrae a responsible child, yet a child nonetheless. My son is 17 and hardworking, pays for his own things like a grown up. But he's still a child who deserves to be protected. 💯💯
Chris D’Elia should also face charges for impersonating a comedian.
WORD !!! Only response from the audience is Justin Beiber laughing over the chirping crickets.....
Lol!
EY!
Ouch!
He's a 40 year old with the responsibility and self control of a 15 year old.
He's got a lot more work to do than a CZcams video to be a balanced adult.
I'm a surviour of CSA. It is not about maturity. It is about power. And when you are raised to think the sun shines out of your arse ( aka men in power), you think you are owed everything. And the people they praid on are not seen as people to the abuser. They are seen as a tool for there own sexual gratification. Becuase they are aware of the power they posses, they will Always continue to do this until they are stoped. And even then, will undoubtedly face a fraction of the consequence of what they have done.
@@iciajay6891 Good comment. What does CSA stand for? Crime of Sexual Assault?
@@iciajay6891 never mind, I figured it out. Child sexual abuse. I can relate:(
@@daniellebeaulieu1673 I'm sorry to hear that. Remember you did NOTHING wrong. All of it. And the shame, is on your abuser.
Being a balanced adult is a life worth living.
My Therapist: You seem agitated today, is something wrong?
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My therapist: ...Let's unpack that.
Underrated comment
idk right, I would love to have Dr. Grande roast me to death.
The first statement was hilarious. That's that
I appreciate Dr Grande discussing sensitive topics in an educational way.
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I am kind of surprised Chris D'Elia got so much female attention. He's not exactly a babe magnet. He is not a great comedian and comes across as being kind of manic. The under age girl thing and the car incident are far beyond normal. Who really knows the extent of his solicitation of underage girls?. He better damn well apologize.
If you're famous, man or women you will attract an orbit of sycophants. They probably aren't 'quality' people, they are seduced by the fame.
@@finalfantasy8VIII What does that have to do with underage girls????
@@jovanreid6782 because teens are attracted to fame as well. And power. But underage or not, a celebrity should not be with fans. There are enough ppl who don’t know who they are to pick from. But they like the power. They like the ability to have something over them.
@@teresahowick5197 Wow Teresa. And you're a woman talking this way. What a goddamn shame. Look, while your contention that teens are attracted to fame is true, it is a moot point if Chris D'elia is guilty of grooming underage girls, which there is ample evidence to support that he is. So stop deflecting. The blame is on the adult. ALWAYS!
He’s an incredibly successful and famous tall comedian. What’s the confusing part
Sometimes when you’re healing from past abuse you have to take back your power and that might collaterally include confronting the abuser. That might explain why the woman is bringing this up now.
This is the best way I have seen it articulated.
Dr Grande, something that has always really disturbed me was how many popular songs there are that are quite clearly about underage girls. And has been for as long as I can remember. I'm 60 years old. In my day we were expected to ignore and endure. So glad things are changing. Females are not toys. Thanks so much for your videos.
Winger sang the hit She's only 17 and Bruce Springsteen had that really really gross song "Hey little girl is your Daddy home, did he go away and leave you all alone, I got a bad desire, I'm on fire". You're so right about ignore and endure, there's still many more but it's getting more attention now for sure.
She was a very young girl. As a girl grows up. She realizes into her twenties what actually happened to her. That is likely why it took so long.
Exactly... with as intelligent as i find Dr. Grande to be a lot of the time, I was disappointed that he didn't reach this conclusion
it has happened to so many of us, there’s really no excuse to not understand this
Or people push a narrative onto them
Then let’s lock up these teen girls at home since they are so brainless till they get older
Maybe a sheltered childhood, who knows..
Older celebs using young fans this way is getting old. It's not like drugs or buying flash cars, that's not hurting anybody else. Treating young people as didposable perks of the power their fame brings them is totally different. I'd have thought that's obvious.
Totally agree, gert
Also I find creepy is homecoming weekend at the university, a lot of alumni come to see old friends and have a reunion however some come to hook up with the freshmen, many are away from home for the first time and sometimes innocent / naive
It’s predatory and sadly successful.
@@cristianproust okay incel.
@@jordyh.5243 ok loser
LOL, you evidently don’t know much about the massive amount of human misery in the supply chain of most drugs if you think they don’t hurt anybody else.
Lol who's using who?
She continuously came to him.
If I join no into a fire I don't blame the fire.
"Underage women" is such a weird phrase. Normal people (including Dr Todd here) call those people "girls"!
I hate when people say that. There is a word for an underage person: boy or girl.
He's using precise language. "Girl" can mean a little 5-year-old with pigtails, or just a young woman ("I've been seeing this girl for 3 months now") and anything in between. Hell, some people still call their partner "my girl" even when they're both in their 40s.
@@Christopher-md7tf it isn't persise. There is no "underage woman". Girl can mean many things, but underage girls aren't women.
@@makenziesmith5466 Well, now you suddenly changed it from just "girl" to "underage girl". But yeah, fair enough, "underage woman" is contradictory. In any case, "underage" is the important part.
@@Christopher-md7tf there are no underage women. Them be girls. Underage is the important part, but underage girl is too wordy.
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Chris D’elia’s biggest crime was calling himself a comedian.
Dude has the creepy face and aura of a serial killer tbh
What a horrific statement that devalues women. I know you are trying to joke but it is a joke that props up rape culture and it's not even clever.
@@JuxJacy you're a silly goose.
@@JuxJacy Why so serious?
@@soysaucehairdye7869 because I have empathy for women! Why so fucking heartless, Trip?
Bro you SERIOUSLY know all the best topics to hit. I regularly marvel at your awareness of cultural issues. You’re in the groove brother and I’m along for the ride!
D'Elia has always just reeked of creepiness to me. I can't say I'm surprised by these allegations.
When you're famous and think you can get away with doing stupid shit...you get what's coming.
I don't get how you can take sides without knowing the full story. The man had sex with a lot of women that's not super uncommon
@@Rodniikun The thing is I'm not taking sides. He admitted to being an idiot and taking unnecessary risks. To being a cheater. To cheating on his current Lady. These are all facts. He is famous. He knew what could happen because he has friends that went down. He still did stupid shit. How about you accept the facts and deal with the idea that he fucked up and is now paying the price.
@Sound Logic you're just gonna ignore the fact that some of the allegations of infidelity come from underaged girls, huh?
@@gRinchY-op5vr Sounds criminal, Mr. Detective.... you should investigate! Sounds like an open and shut case... I mean... twitter allegations... wow!
@@gRinchY-op5vr allegations that have been proven wrong. He stopped communication as soon as he found out they were underage. I know you have some moral objections to his behaviors, but you live in a society where you are innocent until proven guilty. He is innocent, and has been proven so time and time again. I think it's morally reprehensible that strangers are crucifying an innocent person because of a personal distaste for their life style. Get a life, commie.
Maybe he was still in character from 'You'. He played it so well. Taking method acting to the extreme
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Dr. Grande should do a stand-up special where he makes psychological speculations coupled with that dry wit of his.
Can you imagine Grande owning the hecklers? It'd be soooo good.
@@ohnoohyeah3205 He'd O.C E A.N. them lol
Grande has a dash of Michael's therapist from GTA V.
He didn't deny wrongdoing, he denied illegality and physical coercion. He admitted to much wrongdoing.
He is more capable then delia
"I don't have a sex problem, I just get lucky a lot".
So easy
Well, considering how difficult it is for men to get sex. I get what he means.
Looooooool wtf oh, man
@@ehtishamamin5601 anthropologically it is a survival struggle. Techniques lawful to otherwise run the gamut from eye contact 2 Straight Up rape. The most accessible scale of difficulty would be the spawning of salmon. Well it may be hard to get a man laid what isn't that difficult is getting a man naked. I believe Judy Gold said all you really need do is ask.
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Is that sarcasm or are you being serious?
Chris slid into my DM's on instagram. We exchanged phone numbers and we actually text back and forth quite a bit a couple years ago.... I figured out pretty quickly he was a total slime ball and I find all of this extremely entertaining! I'm looking forward to hearing someone I respect a lot analyze someone I have ZERO respect for!
That’s cool Jan
maybe not _all_ of it is entertaining...
Yeah, and it seems all of these other women had the choice to say no too but instead chose to sleep with a b list celebrity for their self esteem
That's quite interesting. You had actual contact with him,and very quickly realized he was a total scum bag, validating some of the allegations. I hope he didn't discuss his perverted
ways with you for your sanity 's sake.
@@maniac50ae14 doesn't take away from the fact he knew she was in high-school.
Really? He said he didn't realize he his behavior was repulsive? Nah, I don't believe that... he knew but didn't care until he got caught. Thanks for sharing, I'd never heard of him before this and from the looks of it, I won't be seeing him in the future.
In my experience, it's boys who are late teens/early 20s who are fans of D'Elia. I think they admire his attitude more than anything else. I've never seen his stand up but I heard him on Pete Holmes's podcast. While listening to it, I realized there was something wrong with him but I didn't think it was this. Although, that was back in 2012, so he might not yet have had the lifestyle that he later took advantage of.
I think you’re not presenting an accurate of the people who like Chris D’Elia. While admittedly he comes across as very weird initially, you eventually understand that he just has a not serious personality and although I can believe that he has abused his power and taken advantage of girls through manipulation, that’s not why I like Chris D’Elia. He’s just funny and you don’t have to like it, but that’s why young men like him, not because of his, quite frankly, disgusting sexual habits (I’m not saying either way if he knowingly groomed an underage girl because I don’t know and nobody knows yet).
@@KINGSOP2000 Fair, but I'm not trying to present an accurate picture of his fans and I didn't imply that young men like him because he's a predator. I only said "in my experience". It's not like I asked around. But when the subject of him started coming up as he gained popularity, it was at work. At work, it's mostly guys who were 18 - 26 who liked him. Women of the same age seemed indifferent. But if you haven't, please go listen to that podcast episode. It's "You Made It Weird" and it's episode #19. Usually when two comedians sit down and shoot the shit on a podcast, they're fun friends hanging out and that goes triple for Pete Holmes but D'Elia complained about everything and was really negative and persnickety. If I didn't know better, I would think he was being recorded without his knowledge, that's how poorly he came off.
So in the netflix You he played...himself?
Crazy, right?
I love the actress for saying "you're defiling my car"!!! What a hilarious response.
I really wonder how many predators are out there. It’s scary how many people have been exposed over the last few years. Can’t imagine being a parent, watch what your kids are doing online!
Honestly if my parents would tell me i'm afraid this stuff would happen i would totally let them check my social media. On the other hand, i've never send any pics or sexted. I hope future generations will be smarter with sm than mine is/was
My mother warned me about this, she was quite candid. About coercion, grooming, blackmail... I would have understood exactly what Delia was doing to me and I would have understood the implications and that I had done nothing wrong, even if I had originally liked it.... She warned me so the cycle of violence would stop.
How have you lived such a sheltered life? 1 in 3 women are assaulted or harassed in their life so predators are EVERYWHERE not just online. I got a taste of how bad it was when I was 19. I was a hostess at a restaurant that had 3 male bosses in their 30s all married. One of them (who was also a girls college basketball coach which has haunted me for years) drove me home one night and tried to kiss me, I ran out of the car and tried to get away, he chased me up a flight of stairs trying to molest me and I had to kick him and run. The other one straight up fed me alcohol and raped me and the third was there for me when my parents abandoned me and helped me get my life on track...but as he did this he also attempted to kiss me and start a relationship even though I turned him down numerous times. Those experiences opened my eyes real quick. The predatory behaviour dissipates a bit when women get older (men prey on the most vulnerable of course) but still at nearly 40 I have to contend with male bosses coming onto me.
I think the bigger problem is parents not protecting their kids and warning them about older men. Society says women are "more mature" than men so its fine if 16 year olds date 26 year olds. Nobody bats an eye...yet teenage girls are not in a position to discern proper sexual behaviour and these men who know better take advantage.
@@evanjuleen i wouldn't say i would definetly not fall for it, because in think we forget how much our own mind can play into the predators interest. I worked with drug users for years, i am the child of an recovered addict and still i didn't want to believe that my partner was abusing alcohol until i found all the bottles in our basement. Many people who end up victimizing women are persons of authority, friends or family members and i absolutely can imagine justifying sketchy behavior to myself because i don't want to think of myself as a victim and i don't want to think of this person i adore, love, maybe knew my entire life or always looked up to as a predator. And in addition to that, even if i end up knowing i've bee n victimized they're still a person of power and i would be scared to make whatever happened Public because let's face it: there are victim-blamers out there who will dragg me through the mud. thats why so many victims don't report the crime at all or report it years later. Thats also why it is so important to teach the stuff your Mom teached you from early on, so hopefully the kids recognize the patterns before anything happens and before the predators sucheeded with their gaslighting. Unfortunately, there aren't many resources for parents how to explain this to their kids without scaring them unnecceralily.
Yeah. It's not even just celebs. Unfortunately I know multiple creepy teachers in real life who have done this shit. They never come under scrutiny, some of them are now married to students they've groomed as underage teens while they were in their 30s.😞😬 No one "cancels" this stuff where I'm from.
Not sure if he’s guilty of what “Jane Doe” is alleging, but either way I do think there needs to be some healthy discussion about people who truly have issues controlling their sexual urges/ compulsions. I think that’s a real issue that maybe many of us are uncomfortable discussing.
I think it's important that Men have a safe place where they can admit their thoughts and get help if they want.
God, he's a creep
Yes, god is a sadistic creep
yeah it's like this guy's jealous or something.
Allegedly.
I shared my story publicly about how predators get away with finding loopholes with the age of consent ( and had to delete it due to the abusive comments i was receiving ) . They target young vulnerable people from broken homes etc . I received some support but also equal amount of hate and victim shaming . THIS is why we never talk publicly about our abuse .
I believe you. People are cowards.
I think the biggest insult to our intelligence is the fact that Bill Cosby being the worst of the worst in that stand up area, was an Open secret. Everyone stayed quiet until Hannibal buress said something then every comedian got on their podcast and was like yeah "I heard something but said nothing..."
I hope you're doing better now.
I would love to hear you talk about the David Dobrik controversy that’s going on right now on youtube.
Same
I wonder how this hasn’t been covered yet honestly.
Hell yes!!!
david is a narcissist
That guy is such a creep...
Right. It reeks of a man who is selfish and lazy as fuck. He wants to put in the bare minimum effort to get what he wants. Just using women as a tool to get off. He probably thinks it's easier to get away with shit like that with teenagers who don't know any better and are easier to manipulate. I could picture him saying something about how women his own age are "too high maintenance".
@@caseyw.6550 totally agree!
As a psychiatrist in training all your videos are exceptional to learn from, thank you
I think a point worth mentioning is that he did refute what several of the original accusers had been posting online, by showing the full context of the exchanges which at least a few of the girls had cleverly edited out. It was also shown that in many exchanges, that both he and some of the girls presented, he immediately ended the conversation when he was informed that they were underage. I looked into a lot of this stuff at the time, and there really was no smoking gun. That he didn’t knowingly pursue any underaged girls, still seemed entirely plausible and there was nothing that really contradicted that.
They're just allegations, for now. If they turn out to be false, and he lost his career because of it, that would be a horrible injustice. If they turn out to be true, he should be in jail.
I'm surprised Dr Grande naturally expected a teenager to come forward about him. 16 yrs olds think a lot different than a grown woman...
"It should've been called, severe pain for the audience to watch."
No day is complete without a Dr. Grande video.
I've never heard of this guy before. Sounds like I'm not missing much.
Exactly what I was thinking! I have no idea who he is and kind of glad I don't know!
@@GinaHarmeyer Me too.
His podcast is hilarious, his standup sucks
@@brytondrums5168
Its more common than people might assume. Stand Up comics often times can be very funny in person, but struggle to put that funniness onto stage and this struggle can last most of their career. Many of the greatest standups were funnier off stage.
Same here.
“Hello this is Dr. Grande, today’s question is” lol Never get tired of that intro. 😂
I’ve changed my mind - the tall plant on the left has to be named Spike Lee.
Omg
Spruce springsteen.
This is gonna make a dent
Legend
Genius reply. 👍
But it didn’t lol, go look at his socials and podcast, absolutely no dents :)
@@reymysterio7412 no dents lol adorable
@@bizinsky go look at his Instagram
He’s literally exactly like his workaholics character and his You character, I have a feeling ppl in the industry knew of his demeanor or else why would he be typecast this way
Good point because he was perfect playing that character on Workaholics and he wasn’t funny.
Dr. Grande is a great guy, never met him
Anyone who is anyone has.
@@waynegoddard4065 Wayne, whilst we are having an honest exchange I would have hoped by now that you would have made some positive changes too.
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On the part about waiting so long... i had a "relationship" with a teacher when I was 15 and he was in his late 20s. At the time, I thought of him as my first love. It took years to process that he groomed me for a long time. I never "came forward." But sometimes it tskes a while to process.
So you threw yourself at an older man probably to get some good grades, o yea your a victim. Victims are the students who studied
Well, you evidently still haven’t processed it adequately if you still haven’t come forward. He could do the same to other people, so it’s your duty to report it.
@@willnill7946 What an inappropriate reply!
@@icturner23 No, it's not the "duty" of a victim to do anything other than recover. Testifying in itself is incredibly traumatizing and painful. Not to mention, if you don't have any proof of what happened, sometimes there's nothing you can do. It's just a kick in the face after all the effort. You have no right to tell a victim where they're at in their recovery process nor do you have the right to tell them what their "duty" is.
Some of these comments are beyond belief, how disgraceful to put any blame or responsibly on a victim, SMDH.
I don't think it was a good apology at all. He gave a very general "I'm sorry" but it was not clear to me what he was apologizing for or to whom it was addressed. There was no real acknowledgement of how his actions hurt these young women. He basically apologized for having a sex addiction. I, frankly, don't care about that. I care about the women he sexually harassed and the teenagers he propositioned.
Exactly. Acknowledge that other people's boundaries/lives have value
Women need to learn to control themselves
@@willnill7946 dude, go away.
I feel like the "I'm a sex addict" is just a last ditch out for him
...I agree....but we have to fully understand were dealing with a Very Dark Twisted individual.....Look up Chris"s "acting roles "...
@@BlueBARv5 I did couldn't see much.
@@BlueBARv5 Consider the fact that Chris was able to back himself up on being innocent and the pioneer on this whole thing is notorious for randomly accusing male celebrities. There's zero proof of him doing anything illegal. That "guilty until proven innocent" mindset you have there sure ain't pretty.
Delia is a womanizing dbag no doubt however are you saying sex addiction isn't a thing? @BlueBar 55 His acting roles? What do his acting roles tell you about him? This is the worst argument. Try not to think so hard guys, he's a tool end of story.
@@user-qd4lu1rw9b you know that's not what I said. Cool virtue signaling dude.
D'elia looks like Ted Bundy. Not saying he's a new version of him. Can you unsee that?
Love you Grande!!
Searched the comments for this 👆
not at all but ight
Your ice-cold delivery with your dry humour gets me every time. Your tone never changes, I never expect what's coming LMAO
I've literally never laughed at any of his stand up... I think his fame came from having a dad in a high place and being friends with actual funny or at least successful people... He had a lot of really famous friends help him out.
Honestly I always thought he was hilarious
How most of hollywood works. Nepotism gets your feet in the door. There are so many who are related.
I judge people by the subtlety of their humor. Grande - A+, Chris - F. Also, it looks like your plants have been a good influence today.
The plants have been a wonderful addition.
Dr G has been looking pretty snappy himself lately.
Rogan and all his friends are about as funny as skin cancer
I think the plants voted for the green shirt today!
@@sjtdxitditsitdurzirxur5926 Rogan isn't funny as a comic or really at all. His friends' humors mostly works best in conversation/podcasts rather than their stand-up material, but even those are often underwhelming or get old quick.
ONE exception is MARK NORMAND. I think he is one of the funniest and wittiest stand up comics touring right now.
"Why did Jane Doe wait so long to complain?" - NOT a question we should be asking in 2021.
We should. What's more important your career which you can change or the fact you may have been sexually assaulted by someone.
@@matthewbishop8395 Has nothing to do with a job. She gets to decide when she is ready to come forward and talk about her assault. You don't get to decide when she should be over her trauma enough to discuss the details of it with strangers.
I will never forget a conversation in which it was explained to Delia that snap chat convos do not actually disappear forever and his reaction was sooo telling to me. I knew he had a dark secret and I felt discust. I never ever though we would ever know what it was.
‘Knowingly’ being the operative word here. Now had he said that he ‘never’ pursued anyone underage-the ‘knowingly’ part says it all. The disclaimer seems to have said it all...
It’s weird Dr. Grands tells us the age of consent in Connecticut, but never says how old the accuser was. If that girls was actually 15, young enough to be illegal, that would be insane. Most 15 year old don’t even look like adults.
Almost reminds me of Anthony Weiner. Got caught. Promised was recovering, won't do it again. But ultimately couldn't resist his impulses.
But I think he was just sending sick pics to willing adult women right?
I think he was also sending pics at one point to at lest one underage girl. I think it was the one he went to jail for....
With a last name like Weiner, this comes as no surprise.
I have hypersexuality as a result of ADHD. I only cheated once and then learned the mistake. It is possible. But veeeeery difficult
These kind of guys never learn their lesson, you’re right they’re bound to do it again.
Just a reminder, I'm not diagnosing anybody in this video; only speculating what could be happening when a stand-up comedian exposes himself as if he were Louis CK or something.
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@@perceptiveprof :)
After watching this video I went ahead and watched some of the “No Pain” stand up. Omg, that was terrible!!😩 Maybe Chris D’Elia should start watching your videos to get some ideas on how to create clever and original humor.
Thank you for another insightful and entertaining analysis Dr. Grande!❤️
I felt that what you described as disorganized in his apology video was actually Chris being emotional and therefore jumping around a bit. I liked his video....his openness, it wasn't edited, and certainly wasn't scripted. Thank you for another great video, Dr. Grande! 🇨🇦
You are fooled.
My ex loved this guys comedy back in 2013, I took her to one of his shows for her birthday, he invited her back stage after the show, I said I don't feel comfortable with her going if I wasn't there, she went anyway, I was furious, but I felt we worked it out a few days later. 6 months later I find out she had been texting/sexting him ever since they met back stage, I guess sometimes 3 kids and a stable life aren't enough to stop some people from making back decisions. I tried watching one of his shows recently before any of these charges came out and I couldn't enjoy it, not sure its the history or that it just wasn't funny.
Damm. Thats rough. You deserve better, hope you are in a good place now.
That’s women for you, they are basically children
@@willnill7946 That's men for you, they are basically children.
@@willnill7946 yep.
@@willnill7946 You do realize there are billions of women on this planet 🤔🤔
he played a character who harassed a girl. hmm.. sure he was acting? 🤢
He tarnished thag beautiful show for that one episode only my ders adam and blake made that ep
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That episode is not so funny anymore. 😔
He literally abused people- I hate how some people are giving him a pass, it's gross.
Yup!!!
Perhaps more inclusive than fame is the abuse of power, or the ability to influence others. A parent, a teacher, or a priest doesn't need fame to cause harm to a child, a student or young parishioner, but they all have the power of their position. Perhaps fame could be seen as a form of power over a fan.
I give him credit for accepting his problem and actually doing something about it. Ya gotta respect him for that.
He didn’t though.
@@lizcrosbyyoga ?
@@TheThora17 Perhaps you haven't heard about the new allegations? Type "The Chris D'Elia Problem" into the search bar and the two videos made about his recent allegations should come up. He never stopped. His "treatment" was all for show. His publicity agent probably told him to go and get "therapy" to counteract being found out. Don't support him. He's blatantly using his fame to sexually abuse underage minors. He uses his wealth to pay them off, but 10 new allegations came forward recently for a Rolling Stone article. He's not getting help, it's a ploy to keep his fan base.
I mean, who HASN'T done an "oopsie, child porn"?
LMFAO
Well, I know nothing of this individual, but I do know that is another fabulous color shirt on you, Dr. G 🟢
Y’all need a room?
There's much more to the allegations than I knew, yikes. When I watched the apology video, I thought he said a lot of the right things, but it still felt off in some way. Maybe forced, unnatural, I'm not sure.. Sometimes I'm eager to apologize and other times I'm reluctant, maybe he was reluctant and it came off at times as more excuse than reason. Either way, I can't respect someone who uses their status as a way to gain sexual gratification. I'm sure he knew very well his behavior was slimey, addiction or not.
interested to learn about this one! would you cover Ecole Polytechnique in the future?
@Invalid Characters it was a mass shooting at a university in Quebec, Canada. possibly one of the first Incel attacks, the shooter targeted women in the science/tech focused school out of rage
I worry about his use of the term “underage women”. Those would be children.
17 is a underage women, not a child
@@abc55052 no. That is a child.
@@girl.anachronism5639 No. That is a teenager, nearly an adult.
@@abc55052 sorry, it's a child cause it's under 18.
@@girl.anachronism5639 No it isn't. 17 isn't even underage for fuck's sake.
I was a paralegal for property damage of vehicles for 4 years. That diminished value argument was compelling lol.
Lol same, I work for an insurance company.
That's too strange. I was just watching your Dr. Mike apology video and wondered if you'd be interested in Chris D'Elia. What a happenstance.
I love synchronicity
He should definitely take a comedy masterclass from you Dr. Grande 😂 Great analysis as usual!
This guy's not a comedian, he's D'Elia-usional.
No no. Bad. No.
Chris delia is not a great stand up comedian, but he is hilarious at his podcast
Yeah, both him and Callen are best in a group. Ten minute podcast was the second best podcast in the world, behind only Norm MacDonald live
@@Alexander_Tronstad yes, dude. With Bryan they have such a good Chemistry. I just miss some silly goose time. I hope Delia is back for good
Exactly what I think!
Green shirt looks good on you. Matches your plants
I LOVE HOW YOU CAME FOR HIS COMEDY SHOW!! Love the analysis as always, thank you :)
I know this is old but can you consider covering Taylor and Russell Armstrong? Some people believe he couldn’t have been an abuser because he ultimately killed himself and therefore doesn’t fit the “profile.” I think this is an interesting and dark story and would love your input.
I love your videos but I feel like you kind of victim-shamed. In other similar topics you don't take it as easy. I'm a bit disappointed. It took me almost 12 years to share my story with my Mother. I didn't sue for money or tell anyone else so there was no motive for me to come out so long after the event. People who are abused weirdly feel embarrassed. I didn't want anyone to know. I felt ashamed, disgusted and didn't want anyone to talk about it so I kept it hidden. It's an odd feeling to have.
Dr. Grande’s a million times funnier than D’elia and he puts in a fraction of the energy.
To touch on the question of why someone doesn’t come forward sooner, for some, it can take years of therapy to work through and sometimes it’s still too hard to come forward. It’s psychologically damaging. Coming forward is not an easy thing.
I tried watching his "comedy" I didn't last 20 minutes. I can tell he was garbage as a person too, I know some comedians do characters but something about him that make me sick.
He's one of those comedians that are just an asshole with a microphone. They say horrible things and people just laugh because its shocking. That style of comedy is outdated now, thank god.
@@jessyjulie5506 Well, he is certainly coming back. His followers were ecstatic (and that means a lot of money)
@@cristianproust of course. Remember what kind of people enjoy that type of comedy, they don't care about r*** and grooming.
@@jessyjulie5506 you think? Go to his apology video, what a disgusting place.
@@jessbelen1492 He was one year over over the age of consent, that is not remotely grooming. This nonsense is because American is a puritan ridiculous virtue signaling country. Girls in northern Europe do as they please way younger (than that, and it is not news anywhere, they feel empowered to take do as they please).
Have you ever been in Sweden?, Germany?. Girls are strong as F*. Not a molecule of victimhood (and they read and are competent in science. A total delight). Merkel is not an anomaly LOL (but it is true)
D'Elia is seriously famous still, which means that not everybody in America is a ridiculous puritan. That is a good thing
That green shirt really pops, good look today Dr. Grande.
Why is it getting so dark?
Ohh wait ✋ 😳
It's Dr. Grande's SHADE blocking all forms of sunlight.
Very well presented. It's good to get an informed deep dive alternative to news outlet on these sensitive topics
Hi Dr Grande. I hope you are well. Congratulations on the success of the channel. Have you analysed the R. Kelly interview ? Apologies if you have.
Really gotta change those age of consent laws. 16 years old is a child.
What do you think about performing 15 minutes of stand up for us when you hit 1 Million subs, Dr. Grande? I’m sure there would be a tremendous amount of people waiting for that cross-over! I went to a ‘Stand Up Science’ comedy show (pre-pandy) that featured a comedian, then a scientist who spoke about the role of laughter in our lives and our brains, then a doctor of neuroscience that wanted to try his hand at comedy performing and it was fabulous!!!
When my two favorite things to watch on CZcams collide. Wow. I’m shocked and thankful to see you review his situation.
First time viewer here.... I really enjoyed listening to you speak on this. It was very measured and wise
Please react to Gov Cuomo’s apology on sexual misconduct allegations where he basically admits creepy is his baseline.
Yes!
I think Dr. Grande needs a one hour comedy special. This guy is hilarious.
As a big D'elia fan since 2012 I think you handled this very fairly. Thank you!!
Time to make another one of these dr grande