You sre doing a great job!! This is beautiful. I grew up with a very impatient family. They used yelling and spanking to "help us" understand. This is actually what kids need
@@TheFallLover There's a mental health crisis that needs to be addressed. Not only in young adults but in adults too. You can disagree all you want but that doesn't make you right. Hitting your kids make some scared of you. You shouldn't have to fear someone to respect them. Respect is earned. I still don't have a great relationship with my parents. It's something that's long lasting. I'm literally traumatized. I bet if you had kids they would be too.
This is the second video I’ve seen of this family. This is perfect parenting. She’s not overly dramatic. Mom gets straight to the point makes eye contact both children leaves them on a high note. Beautiful, beautiful.
I agree that they have the right to express their feelings. In fact, I think that not letting them express their feelings could lead to some serious problems, like a lot of anger, later on in life.
Proper parenting when they are young, and teaching them love with proper discipline is so crucial for their future! Great example here, I love this so much!
Well done to her indeed! 😢 This is how my mom raised me. My sister and I are inseparable thanks to this kind of discipline. It was clear and instilled VALUES
Aww that smaller kid went to hug mom at the end like "thanks for caring us and helping us solve our fights"❤️ This is good parenting. She even worded that good brothers take care of each other. Theres not enough parents like this. Many people dont know how to talk to children. You need to be very specific and clear about what you expect from them and make them see good in themselves and others.
I would also recommend setting consequences so that they’re aware of the consequences of hitting beforehand. A good deterrent and doesn’t catch your child offguard
Correct. but what she's doing, is giving a warning and giving them an alternative to conflict. if the warning is ignored, I would give time out or a consequence connected to the action, such as trowing toys and toy goes away and so on.
Ok, this is the second video I have seen by this creator. This is straightforward, realistic and LOVING discipline. ❤️ That 'are you ready to be happy?' video was scary and creepy AF. Children need and can with time, understand what is right and wrong and why something is right and wrong like in this video. There is no need to trick a child into 'happiness' and into appeasing you. The wiser they become, the more they'll see the trickery and rebel!
Astounding how many parents don’t know how to do this these days and just let the kids run rampant without even blinking an eye and just becomes natural
How do these interactions work? Kid 1 hit Kid 2. "Hey babe, grab the camera & tripod". "Kids, come here...mommy has something to say." I also wonder how the kids feel about being recorded on a daily basis. I'm not hating, I'm actually purely curious.
I love how the bigger kid really squeezes his baby bro he knows what's up this is creating the best bond ever I sure wish we had someone like you in our family of 5 that aren't close and don't apologize it's great seeing better than I had
Good job mama , I raised 3 of my own and 3 from my second marriage all 6 were same ages two were 10 next came 8 the last two 7 and 6 my stepchildren lost there father 13 yrs we had our days with the fighting and yelling at each other.😊
Can I tell you I was taught these parenting techniques back in 1978 in my child growth and development class I am thrilled to see a young woman using them today
I love how you handle every situation. Have you ever thought about teaching a class? There’s a lot of people out there that can use it if my kids were still young. I’d be there. They’re in their 30s now. I don’t think they would take well if I start disciplining them now, I might try lol
The frustration and anger they feel is real. I wouldn't force them to have physical contact after a confrontation. Decompression takes a while, even for emotionally stable adults. The other aspects is that they can and will fight. Redirecting those actions rather then suppressing them so they culminate into an avalanche later- is another popular technique. Kids fight. They test boundaries. Girls, boys- both are known to wrestle and rough house as a way of play. Trust you intuition. You'll know when it's play vs when it's malevolent.
@peaceofmindofpeace1650 That's not aggression. That's a firm and calm voice. If she smiles while trying to teach them that their behavior is wrong, she will not accomplish anything.
That’s how my mom raised us . We were fighting with my sibling after that preaching from my mom and hugging and kissing . Now we have own families and we are very close to each other
You dont even explain why hitting is bad or wrong or why they shouldnt do it, and youre talking to them in the worst way. Never put emotions into the lesson youre trying to teach. Anger and intimidation helps know one. Gentle parenting isnt just being nice and doing whatever your kids want, its talking to them in a way they can understand without letting your own emotions get in the way. Ask them what it feels like when they get hit, ask them if they want to make someone feel that way, dont just say hitting bad it make momyy angry so you dont do get it? Theyre a lot smarter than you treat them
"You dont even explain why hitting is bad or wrong or why they shouldnt do it"¨ THIS! The oh so sterotypical "because I say so". And then they have the gall to complain about the kids being emotionally distant with them later in life. "Where did I go wrong? I did EVERYTHING for them!" *facepalm*
A very simple phrase thats easy for young minds to understand is 'keep your hands to yourself' we don't touch others, we dont let others touch us. We keep our hands to ourselves, hands aren't for hitting they are for drawing, playing with toys, playing with a ball, so many fun things we can do with our hands.
I had it with my two sons when they were younger . But now they in their 20s they are the best of friends. I didn’t do this though. If I didn’t see one hit the other they both got punished, they soon learned fighting wasn’t acceptable.
When I was in pre-school, I used to fight with my best friend ALOT. The teachers sometimes had no choice but to put us in another classroom alone, and we sat the edge of the rug away from each other, but still facing each other. And honestly it always worked because we end up talking and playing after like 2 minutes. And I feel like I'd love to use this method as a time out for when my future children fight
Most children generally cant concentrate and listen as easily when a parent is trying to get them to look them in the eyes. As we as parents all will be able tk relaye to, the amount of times we have a conversation with someone else, thinking our child isnt listening to a word of it and next thing you know they are repeating the full conversation, VS trying to get them to look you dead in the eye while explaining something of a seroous matter. They will hear key words but mostly be focused on a feature on your face while making sure they dont break contact and get in trouble again. Its been proven the eye contact thing doesnt help for most.
Loving everything on this channel, quick question, do you think there is a reasonable amount of play fighting that boys in particular are inclined towards and to some extent should be allowed to learn and develop?
That's me and our dearest Nshi, 5 year old now. She fights with everyone threatening to slap the grandma. I speak to her like an adult and ask her firmly and to follow the rules. Now, they said I am the only one she listens to and revere in the house.
Also - at the end - ask clarifying questions: -- What do you do if you want something your brother has? What is one thing you should not do to your brother? What's one more thing? Is fighting a good way to get what you want? What's a better way?
Use DO instead of DO NOT The brain doesn’t understand negation. You’re doing great. This would lift up your whole family. Saying No is ok of course. But after, correct the behavior with what is to do and the consequences if they do differently.
My mom used to say the same thing to me and my sister when we were little girls. She was a great mom, just like you. R.I.P. Mom. 💕
May Allah guides y’all to Islam ❤️🩹 please give yourself a chance and learn about it ❤️🩹
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That was a really aggressive hug 😂
It sure bordered on "I 'm gonna squeeze your lunch outta you brother", I love this content,and think it ought to be required for potential parents.
Those boys will grow up to love and support each other. Truly wonderful way to correct behavior.
How the little one hugs mom after being told not to hit brother...
Kids are so comforted by the clear boundaries you set.
That's probably true, about how kids are comforted when a parent sets clear boundaries with their kids.
You sre doing a great job!! This is beautiful. I grew up with a very impatient family. They used yelling and spanking to "help us" understand. This is actually what kids need
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Disagree. People took spanking away and now look how kids behave these days.
@@TheFallLover There's a mental health crisis that needs to be addressed. Not only in young adults but in adults too. You can disagree all you want but that doesn't make you right. Hitting your kids make some scared of you. You shouldn't have to fear someone to respect them. Respect is earned. I still don't have a great relationship with my parents. It's something that's long lasting. I'm literally traumatized. I bet if you had kids they would be too.
No u lied about everything remember fake movie life
Great job mom. They’ll grow up to be loving and respectful young men.
This is the second video I’ve seen of this family. This is perfect parenting. She’s not overly dramatic. Mom gets straight to the point makes eye contact both children leaves them on a high note. Beautiful, beautiful.
Give the children to express their feelings.A frustrated child is likely to pick a fight.Children have also the right to express theur feelings.
I agree that they have the right to express their feelings. In fact, I think that not letting them express their feelings could lead to some serious problems, like a lot of anger, later on in life.
So thankful my mom fostered so much empathy in the 3 of us 😭
A dream mom.
Another good thing to do as a teacher is have them repeat back what you said. It helps them remember
Mom is the best peace maker.
Proper parenting when they are young, and teaching them love with proper discipline is so crucial for their future! Great example here, I love this so much!
They learn to be much more polite from adults!❤❤❤
Well done mom!
Well done to her indeed! 😢 This is how my mom raised me. My sister and I are inseparable thanks to this kind of discipline. It was clear and instilled VALUES
Aww that smaller kid went to hug mom at the end like "thanks for caring us and helping us solve our fights"❤️
This is good parenting. She even worded that good brothers take care of each other. Theres not enough parents like this. Many people dont know how to talk to children. You need to be very specific and clear about what you expect from them and make them see good in themselves and others.
Mom has a great mindset! 👍😉
blessed women wirh 7 children god bless her and she be healthy and happy my best wishesh to her in life
I would also recommend setting consequences so that they’re aware of the consequences of hitting beforehand. A good deterrent and doesn’t catch your child offguard
Correct. but what she's doing, is giving a warning and giving them an alternative to conflict. if the warning is ignored, I would give time out or a consequence connected to the action, such as trowing toys and toy goes away and so on.
Ok, this is the second video I have seen by this creator. This is straightforward, realistic and LOVING discipline. ❤️ That 'are you ready to be happy?' video was scary and creepy AF. Children need and can with time, understand what is right and wrong and why something is right and wrong like in this video. There is no need to trick a child into 'happiness' and into appeasing you. The wiser they become, the more they'll see the trickery and rebel!
I agree with this. I didn't like the 'are you ready to be happy' video, either. I've liked her other videos, though.
Astounding how many parents don’t know how to do this these days and just let the kids run rampant without even blinking an eye and just becomes natural
How do these interactions work? Kid 1 hit Kid 2. "Hey babe, grab the camera & tripod". "Kids, come here...mommy has something to say."
I also wonder how the kids feel about being recorded on a daily basis. I'm not hating, I'm actually purely curious.
It’s creepy and confusing to the children.
LOLLL
Same. I feel bad for the kids. It's a bit humiliating.
This made me cry. My parents did a lot of things wrong, but this is one thing they did right and it was amazing.
I love how the bigger kid really squeezes his baby bro he knows what's up this is creating the best bond ever I sure wish we had someone like you in our family of 5 that aren't close and don't apologize it's great seeing better than I had
Good job mama , I raised 3 of my own and 3 from my second marriage all 6 were same ages two were 10 next came 8 the last two 7 and 6 my stepchildren lost there father 13 yrs we had our days with the fighting and yelling at each other.😊
fights between kids is good, it develops their self confidence - but ofc there are boundaries as to not physically hit each other
That last hug to mummy ❤
Bravo to you for teaching to be a good person to your children ☺️
Can I tell you I was taught these parenting techniques back in 1978 in my child growth and development class I am thrilled to see a young woman using them today
Those sweets boys will grow up Right -Great gob mom 😊
I like how she holds their hands while explaining what to do. Good parenting! ❤
I love how you handle every situation. Have you ever thought about teaching a class? There’s a lot of people out there that can use it if my kids were still young. I’d be there. They’re in their 30s now. I don’t think they would take well if I start disciplining them now, I might try lol
I absolutely love the way you bring up your gorgeous boys! ❤
The younger hugs with such a big feeling. ❤
This is the lady that makes fun of other parents
It reminds me of a channel which was in the news recently, in a bad way.
The frustration and anger they feel is real. I wouldn't force them to have physical contact after a confrontation. Decompression takes a while, even for emotionally stable adults.
The other aspects is that they can and will fight. Redirecting those actions rather then suppressing them so they culminate into an avalanche later- is another popular technique.
Kids fight. They test boundaries. Girls, boys- both are known to wrestle and rough house as a way of play.
Trust you intuition. You'll know when it's play vs when it's malevolent.
Different kids feel different emotions with different intensity. Mom knows her own kids best. One size doesn't fit all.
@@jeanninemurray6539ABSOLUTELY !!! 😊
To me this is to much forced.Children also have the right to express thrir feelings.
You are a good mother🎉
You are a very, very, very good mother, who teaches those kids well😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
So sweet from this mom and these cute boys
not to dis your style but hudson has had it with the girls' lifehacks for getting along.
I'm a mom of 6 boys and I think that is called a sibling ban if it goes too far then You say something
An amazing mum. You should teach people to be parents.
PERFECT! Amazing Mum, and well done brothers.
You are a wonderful mom.❤❤❤
This is the most wonderful thing in Utube!
Really good to see this healthy type of parenting modeled like this…. Great example! Now need to see some similar for older kids 😅
This a good mom, God bless here soul ❤❤❤
Good job Mom!
What a great mom! ❤
These mums are so weird. Stop posting your kids online being punished. It’s so narcissistic, it’s sickening
Yes. You can hear agression in her voice.
It's annoying.
@peaceofmindofpeace1650 That's not aggression. That's a firm and calm voice. If she smiles while trying to teach them that their behavior is wrong, she will not accomplish anything.
Good job. I’m glad you’re parenting them well. They seem like they really love you. (: 😊. Proud of you for being such a great parent.
You're 100% definitely not supposed to say look at me. You're not to force eye contact, but yet you do.
Never thought of this, but well spotted!
sie sind SO SWEET SO CUTE!
Fantastic job Mommy !!! 🥰
That’s how my mom raised us . We were fighting with my sibling after that preaching from my mom and hugging and kissing . Now we have own families and we are very close to each other
Thank you for being the best mom .. those tips will teach alot what is good parenting👍🏼❤
Without telling them to say sorry to each other, we can say “ what do you want to say to your brother “ 😊
So it becomes a manipulation instead of a straight up communication?
@@darrickrichardson7364 that’s not what I meant. Sympathy should naturally come from them.
@@champiy5006 I know but you literally just made my point. It wasn’t natural from them.
Is that real? She is Wonderful parent and beautiful woman, how she can be so patient !! Allah ybarek ❤
❤ur CONTENT...REALLY HELPFUL...
I need a baby mama like you good job mis
It's the big kid's fault. The smaller kid was just defending himself. Tell the big kid to respect and love those smaller than him.
I want to be a mom like her someday
This is a great mom
You dont even explain why hitting is bad or wrong or why they shouldnt do it, and youre talking to them in the worst way. Never put emotions into the lesson youre trying to teach. Anger and intimidation helps know one. Gentle parenting isnt just being nice and doing whatever your kids want, its talking to them in a way they can understand without letting your own emotions get in the way. Ask them what it feels like when they get hit, ask them if they want to make someone feel that way, dont just say hitting bad it make momyy angry so you dont do get it? Theyre a lot smarter than you treat them
"You dont even explain why hitting is bad or wrong or why they shouldnt do it"¨
THIS! The oh so sterotypical "because I say so". And then they have the gall to complain about the kids being emotionally distant with them later in life. "Where did I go wrong? I did EVERYTHING for them!" *facepalm*
OMG you're really kingda mom,that is very important for childrends teachin them love
You such a super great mom❤❤❤
The bestest mum
I love this! ❤
Since adults don’t hit, I wonder how else they show emotions without words
You're an adult
How do You do it?
@@loripatterson7882 how have I never thought of that? Thanks!
That first hug looked like a wrestling move.
GREAT JOB MOMA !!!❤❤❤😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
That is a good mommy!
Great parenting she's a solid mom. I'm not sure big boy's on board. there's always contention in the siblingssphere but this is a good start 😊😂
Essential videos for everyone.
A very simple phrase thats easy for young minds to understand is 'keep your hands to yourself' we don't touch others, we dont let others touch us. We keep our hands to ourselves, hands aren't for hitting they are for drawing, playing with toys, playing with a ball, so many fun things we can do with our hands.
Well done.
You are super talented
Amazing words and you are like an angel that fell from heaven❤❤
I had it with my two sons when they were younger . But now they in their 20s they are the best of friends.
I didn’t do this though. If I didn’t see one hit the other they both got punished, they soon learned fighting wasn’t acceptable.
Whatta good mama!
When I was in pre-school, I used to fight with my best friend ALOT. The teachers sometimes had no choice but to put us in another classroom alone, and we sat the edge of the rug away from each other, but still facing each other. And honestly it always worked because we end up talking and playing after like 2 minutes. And I feel like I'd love to use this method as a time out for when my future children fight
I agree. U have many kids yet stay patient. My mom has 4 and looses patient.
Most children generally cant concentrate and listen as easily when a parent is trying to get them to look them in the eyes.
As we as parents all will be able tk relaye to, the amount of times we have a conversation with someone else, thinking our child isnt listening to a word of it and next thing you know they are repeating the full conversation, VS trying to get them to look you dead in the eye while explaining something of a seroous matter. They will hear key words but mostly be focused on a feature on your face while making sure they dont break contact and get in trouble again.
Its been proven the eye contact thing doesnt help for most.
Brava Olivia😊
Great parenting!!!
🌷 Great job mama! 🥰
Loving everything on this channel, quick question, do you think there is a reasonable amount of play fighting that boys in particular are inclined towards and to some extent should be allowed to learn and develop?
Great job Momma
That's me and our dearest Nshi, 5 year old now. She fights with everyone threatening to slap the grandma. I speak to her like an adult and ask her firmly and to follow the rules. Now, they said I am the only one she listens to and revere in the house.
U r tha good Amma
Also - at the end - ask clarifying questions: -- What do you do if you want something your brother has? What is one thing you should not do to your brother? What's one more thing? Is fighting a good way to get what you want? What's a better way?
I have 6 and 3 year old kids who I use this technique with. Sadly completely useless. I wish it worked, so I keep trying.
Good job
I say this all the time 😂
Yes Mum
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Let them fight dude, they learn from every experience.
It often escalates to dangerous levels if not addressed.
Use DO instead of DO NOT
The brain doesn’t understand negation. You’re doing great. This would lift up your whole family. Saying No is ok of course. But after, correct the behavior with what is to do and the consequences if they do differently.
So am I the ONLY person asking himself, "Where is their father?"
He could be the cameraman