Still Going Strong: Sexuality in Older Adults | Tuuli Kukkonen | TEDxGuelphU
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- čas přidán 19. 03. 2017
- The importance of sexual expression in older adults remains a controversial topic despite the positive relationship between sexual functioning and quality of life across the lifespan. In this talk, Dr. Kukkonen encourages us to examine and discuss sexuality in older adults and challenges some of the societal biases that limit our understanding of sex and aging.
Dr. Tuuli Kukkonen is a clinical psychologist, assistant professor, and director of the psychophysiology of sexual health laboratory at the University of Guelph in Guelph, Ontario, Canada.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
Married for 15 years. I’m 55 she is 42. Yesterday we did it 3 times in one day. We have four kids. When I see her that’s enough for me. My love grows everyday and that keeps me young.
Great presentation. I love the fact that my population (67 year old) is pushing back and no longer being dismissed. Thank you for your research and continued interest in our mental and emotional health.
Love you for that statement 1955. XXX.
Just because there's snow in the mountains doesn't mean there's no fire in the furnace!! Ya gotta keep on keepin' on. Thank you for the work that you do..
It is so great to see so much positivity from 50+ posters...We are 72 and 74 and have been together 40 yrs...It was always good but is even better now! We are better rested, less distracted by other concerns, and more into compersion (pleasure from seeing the otjer persons pleasure) than we were when younger.100% monogamous,not making any judgements here we know people who have triads the same three people since the 1960s!
Excellent talk. I'm almost 60 and still extremely active as I've always been. Kudos to you, Dr. Kukkonen and thanks for great presentation.
M-61 Plus who understands it better than practicing something for decades!? It keeps you young mentally, physically and spiritually.
YOu better make hay while the sun shines.. You're getting there .. lol Mike
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@@ramsay19481 No 72 yo female a d 78 yoold male still going strong after 40yrs together!
Having a partner your madly in love with makes all the difference in the world. I will not re-marry unless im passionately in love with that person. I know the difference now.
Yes....
Absolutely
Awesome talk married 27 years and 55 and still at least twice a week our love is so amazing
Great lecture, I'm 47 and I'm doing it till I die!
thank you so much your discussing very important everyone
Very important information and illumination here. Much needed.
I agree
I am 71 my wife is 72. Married 51 years. I am diabetic but fortunately my tongue has never let me down. I live by the belief that Women come first and after that I get anything I can describe in three words or less...
I thought you weren't allowed to taste sugar 😉
You have the right attitude...
"Ladies First" has always been my motto, too!
Use lube to stay moist
I so wish that more men, young and old, felt this way about their women. Kudos to you sir. Your wife is a lucky woman!
Thanks ma'am
Life becomes powerful.
Can you come with your friend wemen
Thanks
It's so true that life just feels like enduring strife after 40.
Isn't it awesome? The older you get with your spouse, the more comfortable. The more comfortable, the less awkward and the more fulfilling. Can't wait 'till we're 80 or 90. Sure, the energy goes down, but the loving experience keeps increasing!
It keeps on singing! !!! Good for you. Communication is the secret.
At 84 I can vouch for that
English is not my first language, .. she speaks such a clear and well pronounced english, it is just a pleasure to listen to her. is she canadian?
gukakmakuk Yes.
AMEN. LOTS of the verbiage I hear on the radio today....reflects UNPROFESSIONAL usage....and even "Low-Life," profane content.
She has a clear American accent
@@Spark-Hole I
I’m 55 and there’s nothing I can do that I couldn’t do when I was 17 and that is the truth. Don’t drink don’t smoke and body build. Oh yeah💪💪💪💪
It's all about blow flow and circulation. Do the things that help those.
Number address please 😁😁😁😁😁😁☺️☺️
Plus it's not over in 2 minutes.
So nice
I'm 57 female and it just gets better and better
U sure right I am over 60 and enjoy it better with age lady
Stunning,
Good
Dont you suffer from dryness?
Yes Imma 74 yo woman with a 78yo mate of 40 yrs..never been better I am always multi orgasmic now...also HE takes longer a very very good thing...he has more patience and less urgency. Lovemaking in our very fit 30s was 15 to 30 mins 3-5 x a week... now its an hour and sometimes even 2 hours once a week. He uses Viagra I use estrogen ...more satisying than ever.
68, and very much interested, able and willing.
Me too
I'm 59 and feel the same way.
I’m looking for an older woman, any suggestions?
Super Duper. Very informative, insightful and inspiring. Thanks very much 💐❤️🇺🇸
I’m 81 and I just got my brains screwed out over the last two weeks by a 40 year old women
You doing great and keep letting her ride your brains out .
WOW!!! Where do I FIND this DAME!!!! ; )
Congratulations! U are my roll model!
Give her the Horn Ron!
@@456zounds Heyyy ;)
I heard a man 101 y/o who died holding his 6 months old baby and 23 y/o wife. He had time after retirement spending time with his wife. I was gone most of the time when I was first married to support my family. I was gone over 50% working. Then I was gone time going to college ent school, training as a firefighter, and paramedic school. I was a fire inspector, hazard material training, and recertification training.
26 year old wife? That’s😊 why he died! Lol
Mmhhh
What do they say your not getting older your getting better
I think what you have overlooked is that it is ok to live with yourself. The "price" of many relationships is far to dear. An English wit once said the position is untenable and it is messy at best.
Interesting
Sucks when you have no opportunities or resources to find the right partner or a partner that you like.
Why would you not have the opportunities or resources to do that?
@@gregsiska Failure to achieve financial success during working years results in "just getting by" during senior years. Many seniors are living on SocSec alone, or perhaps a disability payment as well. That limits opportunities greatly.
@@user-qr2gd7me6c I'm retired and I am struggling to understand why being poor could limit meeting women. Just get involved in a church, a dance, a community center, or visit a library, a supermarket, or anywhere and introduce yourself to someone who looks interesting, and repeat as needed.
Mad!!! What a surprise!!! I went to Guelph in semester 1 '04 on exchange from Curtin University of Technology in Perth, Western Australia. Your passion for the discipline is most compelling - no pun intended.............honest!!
Leon Leuba
Jokes
Leon Leuba xxx
Cool 🙂
Kamila Reeder wtf
I think that all the people who have obvious age bias in their comments ?? Don't have enough life experience to know what they're talking about...... They are obviously in that 25 to 35 age group who think time will never happen to them.....
Older people don't want one foot in the grave, want to be active between the sheets.
...or BELOW the sheets....or above the sheets!!!
i m 90 and going strong with my cleaning lady,
Juju Rellama fab🦋
You're 90? How old is your cleaning lady? How much viagra? Cheers; mike
90????that's excellent
Good, CLEAN fun!!!
Wow amazing man
great great talk! We need a lot more sex talks like this.
Yes
Wow, interesting group here commenting. I'm 57 and my wife is 60 and we enjoy a sex life that is active and frequent. I can understand if health prevents you have sex, but know that there are those of us out there who still enjoy sex.
Here, here, James!! keep right on smashin' that stuff!!
James Hogan A lot can happen after you turn 61! Especially if you have to take cholesterol-lowering drugs!
No age limit reached so far! I am 65......yey this is fun!
@@kerryfoster1 71 here; no end in sight...
Fred
Betterbody bettermind❤
Oh these people with all the answers crack me up
They are human beings they just need a respectable envaroment where they can be comfortable to talk about it
I'm 59 and I have much more often multiples than I had before. It's a real surprise to me. I thought I was an alien, before reading and listening on the to-pic 😂Thumbs down to social bias!
Me too at 74! It began happening at about your age for me and now it always happens 100% of the time before it was sporadic..same mate 40 yrs.
I am 54 years young and single and still have it at least once a week. I don't hold back. If it comes, I let it rolls.
As a 65 year old woman and a registered nurse I feel confident that I know a lot more about this topic than my physician. He should ask me questions. I could teach him a lot.
Iam available , please contact me
00966549561106
Like what?
Nothing beats experience!
I'm also 65 and would welcome any new education
Enjoy your age u only pass once
I didn’t start having multiples until I was over 35....still looking forward to more....
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Congratulations
@@robertbarry9824lpl
Iam available
Tuuli Kukkonen, your English is perfect. No Finnish accent!
09AM 1PM
No but a Canadian accent, they're almost as bad ;-)
Finnish? Thanks.
I would have said you were Canadian, if I hadn't seen your name! Perfect accent! ;)
@Uncinematographable Screenshot Cinema dddydxdxdedd
She IS Canadian.
Finnish-Canadian.
I'm 60 and this Dr. arouses me.
Despite any comments ( replies) , you may get , that is perfectly natural.
Ditto
Would doo her in a heartbeat
I am in my late 70's. Where is your lab?
As I get older I want it more...
JP Sclafani ME TOO !
Normal. The older we get the hornier.
@@Mbcnnct59 youre not alone.
as i get older, i just wish i could have it. i'm in my 60s and haven't been kissed. help
@@patnye8227 Maybe you need to be a little more proactive, Pat
I use mine for stirring tea
Grandpa Simpson screaming at Homer never helped
You can call oper 0 and ask about sonny BOETT life if they still know or have pictures of me during sunset 1988.
It would be wonderful and would certainly improve happiness and quality of life for me but sadly it cannot be.
Why?
She said she’s not going for it😂❤.
I think its stating what most know talk about patronising the older people another young specialist that thinks we know nothing
What if she goes thru menapause and that's it? I'm done ? I'm still alive and well and want to still be active !! What about those stats ?
I'm sorry to hear that. It might be temporary, or there may be depression or other issues at play. Time for a very uncomfortable discussion and maybe some counseling?
Long story short... Oldies are getting it on!
I was 35 single and a 55 y/o woman who lived nearby wanted to cook for me. I went over and never got it eat food.
What did you get Joseph, and what did she do with the food.
Haaaaa
Back
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hey there
I'm 68, sleep with the dogs, wife sleeps in the other bedroom.. Now I can watch tv when I want without closed captioning.. Cheers; Mike :)
You need to enjoy life more maybe counseling
Fine if you still have a regular partner. Nothing here for us old single guys.
Why be single?... Get out there and start dating.... She has shown us that there is still life worth living for us older guys n gals.
@@judithmak583 How about a date, Judith?
@@Aizouli Just seen your message. I am probably right across the world from you. How about you go out to three places this week a library, a church or a sports game. And wear your best smile. Talk to someone, compliment someone and let's see how that goes. If you can smarten up, get a hair cut and dress neatly. Just go out ready to be your best self. Start from there.
I would with a smart open well speak woman like her
At 68, I am a widow since 2013. Also had total hysterectomy back in 2000? Even though I might still like looking at good looking men, I don't, how should I say it, have the juices on demand. Lol! Sex would be more difficult, but one at my age, could still enjoy romantic relationships and non-penetration sex with a gentleman and I do mean a gentleman. Omg I had to say it. Lol!
Pamela Reilly q
good 4 you
Yes!
Well Pamela, I'm always available for a romantic relationship if you need me :)
Why, what is so good about penetration?
This nice lady just laid an unwelcome burden on me. I thought I was happy to have ditched sex in my 60s, but she's telling me, implicitly at least, that I can't possibly be happy. Thanks a lot.
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Pamela Bergner.
Isn’t the whole point of scientific research that it goes beyond, or rises above “only her opinion”? Sure, at the outset, there may be simple scientific curiosity, or there may be a reasonable hypothesis - which then requires research, analysis, and peer-group assessment before it is put out (mostly via publishing in one form or another) to the larger scientific, and ultimately general public. What would be the point of the quoted statistics if it was “only her opinion “ ?
Or is it that you feel threatened or upset in some way by the theme and the proposals?
Twit
Does Bobby Celebrate Veterans day, or go to his father's Cremation sight?
Gospels added
Just one more failure of the AMA to address health issues honestly.
I am struggling to understand how the AMA is dishonest.
How disappointing that this topic is not being presented by a 75 year old rather than someone who is getting paid for the research. This seems like a conflict of interest just like we see with drug companies.
What's the conflict of interest? This topic wouldn't get as much attention if it was presented by an older man or, God forbid, an older woman.
She’s probably sponsored by Viagra. ( or Colombia)🤣🤣
hi ma'am
Dear you are right I am Mahesh from India my problem my pin hot always after I meet one woman my age second time she clearly reply no because reply I am not capable for you
I'm 68 and retired.. I don't have to perform anymore. Bwahahaha
There a man for you if you want it again enjoy life covid is changing life now
That's a lot of academic speaking when she could have just said "Old people like to do it too" and then just walked off the stage.
We are a well socialised simian. We need physical closeness because its an innate characteristic of the species
What this talk has revealed is younger women should date and keep sugar daddy's because boyfriends can't meet their needs.
Would be active if as a 65 year old male it was possible to find a female partner without paying cash for' service'.
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You can meet women if you leave your home and join an activity that interests you. You might not even have to wait until the Pandemic is over! Go to a dance, to church events, join a social club, visit a local fair, just get out of the house.
@@david203 oh I meet and know plenty of women but as for more than just friendship I am considered to old and poor. The last woman I tried to make love to said that women have vibrators for that these days.
@@yajeman That is just one woman's viewpoint! You are falling into a logical error called "over-generalizing". Yes, you are likely to find some failures when you try to meet women. But you only really need one success to have a happy relationship, or even a marriage. My wife's former boyfriend before she met me was both old and poor, and it made no difference to her because he provided the companionship she wanted.
Look: when you used to look for a job, did you expect to find one right away, or did you expect to have to go to lots of interviews that did not work out before you found a good job? Finding a partner is a lot like finding a job. So kick yourself in the rear and start thinking creatively about how you can combine interesting activities with improving your chances of meeting a woman who is right for you.
@@david203 Never looked for a job always self employed. Never been without a woman untill I reached 60. This island I live on has twice as many older single men than women. Most single women I know like men at least ten years younger than themselves and find them.
Ester perel
We should be living to 150+
I assumed you meant 80+
i am 20 year old Man.and why i am watching this😂😂
Maybe it is worth watching, because ("with a bit of luck", as the speaker puts it) you will one day reach your seventies and eighties.
@Chris Collins yeah i am single and happy😂
20? LOL you got about forty years left. After 60 it goes down like the titanic...Cheers
Single man and my 9 is just loafing without a partner.
...what a cool name !
55 pluse
Walter Russell Mo p o
Walter Russell Cowboy?
At any age, if a man cannot get hard it means his heart is in serious trouble and he may soon be dying from heart disease.
Not necessarily so, David.
That's one of the reasons
It's better to talk about it with a doctor
I am 60 and have new neighbors, the wife came to my house to introduce herself as her husband is always away. Meant her 3 times and I am now doing her on a regular basis. Her husband isn't interested in her so she says. Boy, is he missing out as she is a good lay.. She is 61
she is too young to talk on this subject
Your categories are a bit over simplified. I would fall in your 50 plus category, my wife, 35 to 500! Does that mean that we’re out of Sinc? Oh, that’ll explain why she insists on having a milkman when we live opposite Sainsbury’s.
"5O and over" the older group...
I guess the 50 something people better pick a nursing home lol
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Do u emiensh.
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I WOULD love to join ur studdy program pls
Can you emiensh.
....tell me again when you are in your twilight years!
Good
She's young.. She hasn't learned about age yet....
Dafuq I m watching
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How do lik a puzzy
Older!? Lol She looks to be about 30!
Chris Oakes
@@nitaihaldar3094 Yes?
It's her clients. Surely you can make that distinction.
What accent is that, Canadian?
Yes, but her name is Finnish. So Finnish-Canadian I guess. Her lab is in Ontario; it's in the descriptor.
I'm almost 60 and I'm so glad that those days are behind me. Life is much more satisfying and expansive without those desires always lurking in the background.
I totaly agree.
Rtgifford, k
mrcdad
I'm over 60. Totally agree.
huh .. a dried up prune.
Too bad... so sad for you.
They paid her to do this...... 😂
7:10-10:10
I'd have her come sit on grandpa's lap and talk about the first thing that pops up.
SISU!
What does this mean?