How to reduce conflict and build better relationships

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  • čas přidán 18. 04. 2013
  • Learn to be a people person with international bestselling author Paul McGee!
    Learning how to better communicate and interact with others can really help to improve your life -- from ensuring you enjoy parties more to turning you into a roaring success magnet. Bestselling author of How to Succeed with People Paul McGee takes us through a host of different situations and explains how to deal with other people and get the best out of them. In this video series you will learn how to communicate more effectively, deal with negative people, become more resilient, learn to motivate people and deal with conflict.
    In this episode Paul explains how to deal with conflict situations -- how to get on better with people you don't see eye-to-eye with.

Komentáře • 70

  • @cathybaranda6966
    @cathybaranda6966 Před 6 lety +105

    1. What is going on in their world at the moment?
    2. What is important to them at this time?
    3. Am I listening to understand or listening to defend?
    4. Have I clearly communicated my perspective?

  • @andrewparkes8608
    @andrewparkes8608 Před 7 lety +75

    the beach ball analogy really got me thinking. Great idea.

  • @gerrimiller3491
    @gerrimiller3491 Před 4 lety +33

    When we assume that others are thinking the same as we are....this is the big problem in understanding and accepting differences

  • @desativado9332
    @desativado9332 Před 7 lety +15

    That's the best video I've ever watched about this topic. Today I listen to understand. Not always but consciously can relate to that. I am getting better!

  • @bethbartlett5692
    @bethbartlett5692 Před 8 lety +18

    The "Listening Frame of Mind"
    "Am I listening to Understand, or Listeni.g to Defend..."
    A really short statement - that packs a HUGE reality...
    Well said sir! Well done -

  • @ssugar7292
    @ssugar7292 Před 3 lety +3

    The beach ball analogy was fantastic! I'll try apply those following questions!

  • @maumi_n_stories
    @maumi_n_stories Před 5 lety +9

    made me sit and think about all the conflict im going through this days #thankyoupaul

  • @steppesandstreets
    @steppesandstreets Před 4 lety +4

    Thank you it was short and easy to understand i can imagine what would hapoen to my relationshipif i didn't watch this, again thank you

  • @rome3563
    @rome3563 Před 7 lety

    wow that was great illustration! Thank you

  • @comentadoraification
    @comentadoraification Před 10 lety +1

    Great videos, very helpful, thank you!

  • @pharmclare
    @pharmclare Před 2 lety +1

    Perspective is key. Thank you 😊

  • @ghassanebentahar5695
    @ghassanebentahar5695 Před rokem

    Concise. I like this: listen to understand does not mean you are listening to agree.

  • @AllanGildea
    @AllanGildea Před 7 lety +3

    Superb content and presentation. Thank you.

  • @mirian593
    @mirian593 Před 5 lety +1

    Powerful vídeo, thank you for sharing.

  • @LucianC137
    @LucianC137 Před 4 lety +2

    Communication is everything

  • @mrsm3231
    @mrsm3231 Před 9 lety +1

    Thank you. It works!

  • @nikhilverma6457
    @nikhilverma6457 Před 7 lety +2

    I am gonna face an interview and this is gonna help me a lot :) . Thanks for the video. Appreciated.

  • @thepowerofhelpingwithreube4407

    This inspired me to do a video on this topic but by using Love Languages to achieve the same result.

  • @madditravis3290
    @madditravis3290 Před 3 lety

    Thank you so much truly !!!

  • @abdillahiasod8388
    @abdillahiasod8388 Před 9 lety

    Thank you for sharing this very wonderfull advice it is great for me to watch it un i got point even though i dont understand very well bcoz accent is difficult for me but i like to join or listenn justlike this lovely motivate 😅

  • @mischelledavis1227
    @mischelledavis1227 Před 4 lety +1

    Excellent!!!

  • @tonysayegh9136
    @tonysayegh9136 Před 10 lety +9

    Thanks for Shsaring great video.
    I deal with a lot of diifcult people in my job and this can all come in handy.

  • @sunnyg503
    @sunnyg503 Před 2 lety +1

    Great video!! Very helpful 😍😍

  • @maggiekgreen
    @maggiekgreen Před 5 lety +2

    thank you my dude

  • @jennifer5416
    @jennifer5416 Před 5 lety

    Great video and example.

  • @gordonkihuguru8745
    @gordonkihuguru8745 Před 2 lety

    Excellent 4 pointer.

  • @majamarinic
    @majamarinic Před 4 lety

    this is amazing

  • @mubianamuyangwa3573
    @mubianamuyangwa3573 Před 2 lety

    thank you.

  • @lahjinima
    @lahjinima Před 9 lety +1

    thanks Paul..i got great advice from you..

  • @Marselis35
    @Marselis35 Před 3 lety +1

    Golden

  • @brandonholtz5309
    @brandonholtz5309 Před 2 lety

    This was good

  • @pharmclare
    @pharmclare Před 2 lety

    Just had to share this video

  • @davefischer2344
    @davefischer2344 Před 5 lety

    awesome

  • @wayanagbagala8119
    @wayanagbagala8119 Před 3 lety +7

    help me i need to make a reflection about this

  • @nellkidman100
    @nellkidman100 Před 5 lety

    Great talk .Reminds us that we should always put others first.

  • @moonprincesslizzy
    @moonprincesslizzy Před 3 lety +1

    👏🏽👏🏻👏🏿👏🏽👏🏾👏💕

  • @KAs14521
    @KAs14521 Před 3 lety +2

    What about if you are dealing with a narcissist?

    • @ssugar7292
      @ssugar7292 Před 3 lety

      Now that my friend is a very good question....

  • @AntiShadow
    @AntiShadow Před 4 lety

    BMS GANG!!!

  • @McFraneth
    @McFraneth Před 4 lety

    How to be ground underfoot. I was a housekeeper in Bordeaux and the cleaner and gardener hounded me out. I went to my employers to ask them to back me up and they didn't. I always was clear with the day's work, and was never high-handed with her. I was respectful and gave her enjoyable tasks (I could have given her wall-to-wall ironing - I didn't). Some people are simply nasty. I went on to better things, but with all the will in the world, ruthless people eat respectful people for breakfast.

  • @rachaelgoldstein8091
    @rachaelgoldstein8091 Před 7 lety +3

    I have a questions, my exboyfriend told me I make things awkward.

  • @LivingChristian
    @LivingChristian Před rokem

    If you’re interested in learning what the Bible says regarding resolving conflicts, here’s a video: Communication & Conflict Resolution
    czcams.com/video/CkzKOEzr7fo/video.html

  • @Aaron.Gut21
    @Aaron.Gut21 Před 2 lety

    I knew it was blue white and green lol

  • @shikobaofi8138
    @shikobaofi8138 Před 7 lety

    What if they wont tell you what's going in their world??

    • @ZORMnl
      @ZORMnl Před 6 lety +2

      smash the beachball in their face

  • @user-gl6vp1jv3e
    @user-gl6vp1jv3e Před 6 lety +4

    and there is my father who just never listened..

  • @BL-rb7jm
    @BL-rb7jm Před 3 lety +1

    Perhaps you may see things not the same as the other person because you're not looking at their side just like the you're not looking at your side. You got all those colours on the ball instead of being narrow-minded and seeing just the three colours that you see turn around and jump in the other person's shoes for a while and see what colours they see. Is there a life full of the same colours maybe they look at life differently but we still live on this big globe which is round. When you look around the world on the other side of the country they can't see your side just like you can't see theirs but we still live on this Earth and we need to tolerate one another's differences

  • @OztrumStrikesBack
    @OztrumStrikesBack Před 3 lety

    Really?

  • @jayalfakyn220
    @jayalfakyn220 Před 3 lety

    Do you know how many women you're going to trigger by saying "shut up and listen"....