Can divorced women easily find love again and is sexual market value a myth? Aliet and Zippy Okoth
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 13. 05. 2024
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On todayâs episode Dr.Zippy Okoth and Unplugged author, Jacob Aliet debate on a high-value woman, a high-value man, sexual market value and why 90% of divorced women want 10% of high-value men who donât want them plus whether men should raise children who are not theirsâŠ..
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You're right
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Thanks for this......
It's very true......Its God that started marriage and only He has the blueprint....
For us who are single and have kids...we rely on God so that HE can rewrite our story...every story is unique every marriage is unique
This is one of the most sane comment.
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There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all different. What makes one person content might not make another person content. But I've learned that there's always a way to fix things. Five years ago, my wife and I were facing divorce because of problems in our marriage, but we managed to resolve them. It was challenging, but we survived
I get why what you're saying is important, and I honestly want to be happy as well. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart, I can't think of life without her; my love for her is deep. I really hope she comes back, and I'm fully committed to making it work. We've tried different methods, like therapy, to fix things
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters
Your advice is valued. I'll promptly look her up online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that pursuing this method will also lead to favorable outcomes for me; I deeply yearn for her.
I promise you will not regret it
@@user-sk7kd8vs2w .....Kindly do not wait for her to come back if you truly love her .......pursue her and fix issues..........if you have gone for therapy then its the right time to pursue...........just my thoughts.........Thanks
The ladies are really not giving the guy the opportunity to answer questions and i think , that's my opinion that he's trying to discuss facts and bitter truth that the older women negate though it's a fact.
This guy doesn't want to see AR accept that men,in their 40s to60s especially Drinkers have Erectile dysfunction and can't satisfy a female who is at her wexual Peak at 35 plus..these women unlike the men don't need Vaiagra... they need 18 - 25 year Olds who have the energy to sexually satisfy them.
This kind of male is insecure and goes with 20-25 year Olds to control them..these ARE WEAK MEN....Like this one đ
They are living in utopia. They don't want to agree to facts my friend Ndiko is trying to highlight. You are right with that observation.
Well said
This is true,they are just foolishly laighing ang ganging up on him
Jacob Aliet is such a good listener, zero interruption and clarity of mind. .
Zippy Okoth is a classic example of uncooperative and masculine woman. Sheâs listening just to argue!
Yes đ
Very true, emotions are in control.
Women who like multicolored hair are very chaotic. I am very annoyed.
No wonder she's divorced no man needs such big unreasonable woman
â@@EmmanuelLangat967yes it's always a red flag( for lack of a different word)
Am a doctor am 28yrs old with two children and I'll tell you the truth .........this man is đŻ facts....argue all u want but listen to this man young ladies....
A doctor, not God.
@@joylenekanyaris7567 I can never be God I reference Him too......
It is indeed true. Majority can dispute but time shall tell
A doctor at 28 with 2 kidsâŠ.mmmmh, that math is not making sense!
@@isaacndirangu9259 I won't argue with you about my credentials and my own life that I know am living....u r used to substraction maybe
This guy is speaking facts..as a woman i am with him .I wish Zippy would argue with facts and not opinions.Alafu she interrupts alot
I am a woman and I also agree with him.
But some of the things he is pushing as facts are not accurate.
You can't trip this man! He knows his sh*t!
Jacob - stoic, factual, well spoken and researched. When he gave examples of men and women abroad zippy tried brushing that off by saying " Sema za Kenya" very shallow and evasive.
Lynn- patient, good listener.
Zippy- noisy, poor listener, all in her emotions.
Exactly
And laugh's like our village dog. Osama.
Hahaa her laugh is so annoying
Interacting with Zippy is equivalent to having a 12 hr job with no days off. EXHAUSTING.
Women agree with Jacob 100% they want their sons and brothers that masculine, but not husbands?
On point observation đŻ
"It is demand that determines the value of a product. A product cannot decide it is valuable and nobody wants it." Jacob Aliet. Wueh...!
Aliet was interrupted too much. Lynn aki you dropped the ball on moderating.
May be today she just decided let's talk change is good
Very true! I was unable to watch to the end because of that.
She is just feel offended I don't know why
He has facts but ladies we don't allow defeat .
Very true
I noticed
This guy was very clear on his points those who use logic understand
True but we cant get the whole point, our girl is really interrupting
True, i noticed that. She felt attacked â@@ExploringAfrica25
The women think delulu is solulu
@@KashKoala đ hatuna bahati kweli
This man is very kind with the advice, I wish women could take time and learn from him.
I listened and got away with ideologies of a man whose ideas about relationships are as archaic as the hills and rivers. His entire value of women rests on youth, beauty and childbearing, he gives me the vibes of a man who cannot let his woman be successful.
Oh my God,
Lynn turned in the middle and it became a 2 Vs 1. Zippy asks questions she can't wait for answers she keeps interrupting, emotional!
Lynn at some point forgot her role..to be neutral and moderate
remember she s a mature divorced woman from 2 marriage, a ben10 type...very controlling. spreading the gospel of divorce
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â@@user-rx8in5gh6bđđ
Am on my way to sixth floor and get a divorce from my husband of over 30 years,looking forward to getting a partner and friend.
trolling hehehehe lol
All the best, may you find that partner and friend đđœ
Get catsđ
Utangoja. Married for 30yrs which means your late 40's or 50's.
Pride comes before a fall, Uour taking the course because kids have grown up.
Heloo, delulu is that you? karibu, come in.
I have seen young women complain on social media on how they get bullied by older women at work and now i understand why
If this is the woman they chose as their representative, I pity our women.
I am a woman and I totally agree with Jacob. Zippy is taking it too personal, Jacob has points if you listen carefully. Lynn is getting the points better.
I agree. Zippy needs to be a better listener. She needs to know that Aliet is not talking about her.
Zippy is not patient
Zippy needs not to take it personal, but listen to this guy's points.
@@fiddiggokirimi9630 Fully agree with you. She need to calm down.
Thank you Edinah Zippy is thinking Aliet is talking about her life. She is not listening
ALIETEEE,,,, I AM AT MY EARLY 40'S. THIS IS THE TIME I AM EMBRACING LIFE ALOT. EMOTIONAL, SPIRITUAL AND PHYSICAL LIFE. TO A WOMAN OF TODAY, LIFE IS SWEET AS SHE GROWS OLDER
Very true
My situation right now
let us laugh for a moment.. you are older as a woman, you become more invisible to society
â@@phillipsidhojapap1461what is the advantage of being seen..? Do you live for validations..?
@@phillipsidhojapap1461 and that is not a bad thing.
â@@phillipsidhojapap1461 Society that doesn't care.......it's better to enjoy life rather than be dictated by society and be miserable
You have to listen to understand and not to defend . Aliet is deep and factual ....and by the way am a lady.
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Hae Lynn i need your help plz
Lynn am in pain
Heh! Lynn umepatanisha maadui đ€Ł
Both panellists have a point depending on the situation and I personally respect their views with lots to reflect on.Learning does not stop.Thanks Lynn and team for hosting the guestsâ€
The lady kept on putting words in the man's mouth.
Mr. Aliet nailed this. It was his show and he succeeded in terms of delivery, calmness, cool and confidence. Was willing to answer every question thrown at him but was often interrupted with new questions. Overall, a good show. Kudos to Zippy and Lynn as well.
"I'm waiting for the question" is the best caption so far. Zippy has no questions, just arguments
Lynn decided heels đ off. The good thing is you ladies didn't have wigs...they could have come off too. What a conversation! I really liked it.
i love the way lynn agrees with him when he makes a good point but the other one is really stuck on the age thing, she is defeanding her age
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Aliet is very logical and has good points .However,one needs to listen to him without emotions to understand him since he airs views without filtering or political correctness (sic) which can be triggering to many .
Good that you're able to see that. That mm means you're brilliant enought.
Correct
True
If you are real, not AI, you are or will be a blessing to your husband and children. Generations after will speak highly of you.
I love Lynn shows but in this one she has failed to mute zippy ... the lady is interrupting left, right , center no no this not good..
i second you, was taking notes every time Aliet speaks but Zippy ni nani? Akuna statement nimeandika full due to this interruptions.
Wueeee, liet kabisađ„đ„...Aliet amechokora the 40 year old war veterans. Ladies he is stating facts, he is not throwing shade đ
Giving birth at your 40 does not affect the ability or disability but lifestyle is what is affecting that. I have seen 50% of women who have given birth at 40 are very healthy
Absolutely true asunta wangura is a good example of women who gave birth to healthy babies after forties
My mum gave birth to our last born sister at 40. And she's the one ako more chopp kwa family. Advice zake zinazaaga matunda mazuriđ đ
what happens to the other 50%?
Iâm 45 and have a 2 year old so can prove him wrong
Amen
It's not the skills of marketing that matters but the quality of what is marketing.
Please don't mislead young women. She will rush and get married at 22-25 years then realize that baby will need sustenance for the next 18 years till they finish school. Aliet himself wouldn't allow his daughter to run after men because she is 22-25 years. Please women settle down when you are financially stable
On this point he needs Zulu to show him the wayđ
â@@ayuma4747He really needs Zulu
Zulu is really needed in this show
Benjamin Zulu please
Jacob is very controversial đ
I've never seen a man who takes accountability, they always evil deeds, and always blame women. Right from relatives
I picked nothing from Dr Masculine Zipi.. just laughing at her own jokes. Aliet gave verifiable facts
I've never seen women take accountability
@@daniellouis8722 they don't.. hata hawazi apologize akiwa wrong
Women are the worst at not taking accountability. It is always a man's fault.
I like what Aliet is saying....
When you are dating you should check all these redflags and see...
Get time to know this person
Actually Aliet is making a lot of sense if you listen to understand... ladies it's a fact men are logical by nature.
This Zip woman does not listen, she may need a young man to control but when he grows old she will divorce him. I think she does not know what she wants, the problem is that she is confusing many peopleđ€
But to be sincere zippy is good it's the confidence for me well empowered when u have it all don't allow this people to undermine shins ndio hufanya wengine wakunje mkia
Next episode on high value men and women let's meet Aliet and Benjamin zulu.
Benjamin zulu is just a kafukuswi
â@@josephmwangi4417meaning ?
I am 3 years old and i love this conversation.
Lynn bring a conversation on how women and men can live in harmony. No wars or no ego. I wonder when people will stop this man vs. woman narrative. It doesn't exist. Or when we will stop competing who is the worst gender or who commits the most sins. There's no competition, it's all in our heads. If you find love in a man or a woman good for you. If it doesn't work out or end up in divorce, that is not the end of life you should even clap for yourself you tried. If you don't find love, no one has ever died for not finding someone.
It started with feminists
Blaming who started what will not help. I don't support feminism I support humanism where every human being has fundamental human rights. And God hakuwa mjinga putting man and woman on the earth...
@@rosemarymwangi7349 And remember God assigned duties and responsibilities to each gender. As long as men and women know their roles and lanes in relationships then that harmony will prevail. Indeed men and women are all human beings, but they are wired differently and biologically they are different.
You are right. For a husband: love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25), He who loves his wife loves himself, Honor your wife, Understand your wife (1Peter 3. For a wife: Respect your husband, submit to your husband.
And the keywords "wife and husband" not "woman and man" if a person is not your husband or wife, you owe them nothing of the above.
We need more men like Aliet who are standing up for men with very brutal honesty
No No he is delusional đ đ just his opinions
True
@@translationafrica2629 đđđ...naaa you didn't have to say this
Enjoyed the conversation, learned alot fr both angles
@@translationafrica2629 a woman thinking a man is delusion.. can't be a coincidence
What Mr Aliet is saying is true about women not being respectful to themselves.
Most of the time people are infidel to themselves without knowing they are.
We practice infidelity to ourselves first. Like, when we have all these qualities we are looking for in a relationship and when someone comes up to us that doesn't even fit to those qualities, we go in and start having relationship with the person and then the relationship does'nt work out. That is cheating on ourselves. Because we went in at first hoping the person will change. And when the relationship doesn't work we turn to be disappointed. đ
Men cheat on themselves by getting with women based on looks only, I agree with you
Haki Lynn it's like am studying this channel like a subject, sijui graduation ni lini. Very educative.
The man is talking truth. Give him chance ladies.
Thank you at least someone said it
Yes Indeed, I too find that the ladies are talking more than listening..
@carolkami.671 like they are are not listening to understand. They are listening to respond . It's kinda........
Any Wise Man will Listen to Mr Aliet.
I endorse Jacob ALIET'S message. 100%
Of course most of African Man will endorse him
â@@denisehaguma535because he's speaking facts
Lynn I really waited for this to be aired, I knew these two together itakuwa fireeeeeđ
Ngoja saa nisikize.
When we divorced now with my ex-hubby, whom we had wedded in church, he was all over tarnishing my name. He played victim and tarnished my name at the slightest opportunity he got. I was quiet all through. This is a man whom I took care of. Took care of his business, I paid all the bills, i fed him , clothed him, etcetcetc. So I disagree with this man totally. Most men today have no chills. They are big babies who want to be kept by women while they lay their lazy asses at home.
đ this is interesting.....you entertain nonsense for years then come here to say most men nyenyenye...kwani you were married to how many men?....a sober woman in your situation would have walked out as soon as the man started dropping the ball....but sasa ulikwama apo ukijifanya bob the builder then, then suffer buyer's remorse after suffering through bs of your own making then come out here saying "men, this..men that".....your poor choice of a spouse is your own fault....not mens
Sorry sis but u were dealing with a feminine man đ€«
I hope you learnt, why would you be Barbara the the Builder?
Women do the most and need to stop and see, when a relationship is not going anywhere and call it a day.
Pole lakini.
@lilianchybire9610 I sure learnt. And teaching it too.
@madamwakesho we all have our past the good thing is you learnt and now you know better... it's your story and don't let people judge you by your past â€
Listening to this has been extremely exhausting. Thanks Aliet!
Kama Lyne ametoa viatu i agree the house is on fire. This two guests of today are firely men!!!!
Men? đ€Ł đ
This Jacob guy really contradicts himself. I'm glad I listened.
Women will always see the wrong in the right due to their contradicting self
Thank you Zippy for bringing in some great perspectives into this conversation
Aliet In Marriage Accountability is a driving Value that is where trust is build , wuestions must be expected and they must be answered, that is part of Leadership with Responsibility
There's no formula in life, love yourself and choose happiness.
I agree with you
There is formula.
There is no single formula, but why take a path on which most of the people who have used rarely reach their destination. I'd rather take that route on which most people who used it reached their destinations.
Correct Jael â€
Is that not formula? Delulu
This guy is talking a lot of sense but mnamshambulia sana kkkk
This guy has a wounded masculinity. High value man is not degrading women and does not put them in a box
Dont think so.
He's a narc according to me
Hiyo ni yako
True
He says what all men think
Interesting conversation here.. though mnaingilia the man for giving very honest opinions. These are things we men keep to ourselves, but they define our interactions with women. So if you want to understand a man, listen to Jacob, whether you agree or not. Jacob handled himself excellently here, but the dr. is very defensive
Let the man finish two sentences yawah
Leave a man to respond, why ask him and then interrupt him when he wants to answer your questions. This lady Zippy thinks she's wise & strong but I think she's just argumentative . She's using this show to justify herself from bullying men.
As a woman in my 20's what I have learned is that I should love myself selfishly, go for the best man in my pool of attraction even if I do not love him or am not attracted to him. Be focused on the best man even if he is 50 years old, as long as he has money, status and can give my children and I the best lifeđ
Provided you don't take someone's husband
Okay, money
đ Quite sarcastic
Lynn I love how you listen first...you are a good listener which makes you very good at understanding both sides perspective
Karibu nichelewe đđđjust tuned in right now â we gonna learn more here! Good morning everyone watching â€
Personally I can't deal with a man like Aliet! Those who can, go for it! Salute to the wife! She has extra energy.
Good day all
You and I both. Itâs just exhaustingâŠ.wueh!
đ đ đ
Ata Mimi wueh đ The Negativity towards Women Siwezani....
Was wondering if he is married until I saw the ring.....it is exhausting!
Same whatsapp group !
Why is he patiently waiting for you guys to ask questions yet you interrupt him when he's answering, especially Zippy
Zippy is a good example of delusional women.....
That's generally the nature of Women
Isnt this how all ladies mnafanyanga?đđ
Zippy is on another level, she is interupting even the moderatorđ
Lynn ngugi has plugged me to you dama..am watching from santorine Greece đŹđ·
Hey doctor, give Lynn her chance to ask her questions and donât interrupt her
I like the calmness in Aliet. This is a trait I should cultivate especially when dealing with ladies
It's not easy as they are yapping too much and not giving him a chance to explain his thoughts
Great respectful debate. Well done. We need more such debates. When we listen to each other even if we have different perspectives we learn from each other. We have become very used to listening to opinions that reinforce our own beliefs and such debates where we talk to each other about our differences are healthy.
I am divorced and have no kids, but I am not settling with a man with kids. I'd rather stay alone because the same men don't want women with kids.
That school of thought is why you are divorced in the first place,so juvenile...
But it's true, men have many babies everywhere but don't want women with children
@@holie869 if having standards is juvenile, let me be juvenile. đ€·đŸââïžđ€·đŸââïžđ€·đŸââïž I am not designed to raise anyone's kids. Neither did I avoid teenage pregnancy only later in life to rescue those who made their decisions.
Don't settle for less my dear,,put standards the right partner wll come on ur way
â@@holie869alaaar but men say always say they can't start 1:0
Men love blame game, donât want to be questioned even when they are wrong and his ego doesnât allow him to own up his wrongdoing
Exactly what am facing right nowđą
Exactly they're so self centered
The opposite is true
When you're faced with facts, "men are egoistic"
Narcissist, they are called Narcissist
I was patiently waiting this wonderful people now here weâre âïžâïžâïžâïžâïž
3hours oh damn! I am sorted for the evening.
Let me listen to Aliet ooze wisdom.
Just tuned in to learn more
Nawapenda bure Team Lynnâ€
Stay blessed always
no books can define man woman sexual relationships only GOD Almighty
With an open mind, u will get his point clearly which is very true
â@@Ogachocaro science tries to play God. I believe the Bible when God says he specifically ties the womb of a woman. Sara gave birth at 90
Weuwe....This conversation take away...differing without personally attacking
Hi Lynn I didn't see this coming let me sit and enjoy they are all brilliant đâ€
I'm happy to live in America where age doesn't define you. Our local TV hosts are mostly in their 40's and 50's. Heck, even/ the presidential candidates are in their 70s and 80's
yes thats good
The forgetful president and dysfunctional leaders?
But you're single
I listened to Dr Cindy Trimm she's so calm about her life and got married at 60..watch her video so fulfilling â€ïž.I feel Dr Zippy deserves more, she is so good May God give her a man who gets her point,she inspires me alot
You are very right. In kenya there is a lot of age discrimination. In USA we are valued at all ages. In kenya itâs a different story. I donât see how your value can be defined only by your age.
It is demand that determines the value of a product. A product can't decide that its valuable if nobody wants itđ...
Lynn forgot to be a moderator the whole conversation and joined the discussion đ đ
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Zippy is interrupting a lot. can't let the man give his points.
She's not a good listener....
She has no qualities of someone to teach others
This conversation has been engaging. Beautiful work LNN network.
Lynn, the sofas and interior decor is amazing đ
Not me trying so hard not to roll my eyes every time Jacob is speaking.â ïž
Anyway if more people understood our assignment on Earth is being in a relationship with God, I think our relationships with each other would be beautiful.
Mine a rolling seizure styleđ
@@fnyaruhanga đđđ I can imagine.
How can you claim to have a relationship with God if you can't have a relationship with a brother you can see and touch đą
@@becomingchannel9674 I just don't agree with most of what Jacob is saying. That's all.
This is deep â€
Aliet arguments are based on biological reality while zippy n lynn arguments are based on perception đđâ€
Biology is man made
â@@joylenekanyaris7567since when? You don't grow old because you want to but because God made it so. May be you have another definition of biology.
Date someone you can manage with period
But settling at 22-26 still young thatâs the time we were discovering life
Thanks Aliet manđđyou speaking facts that women find difficult to accept but instead remain in denial
I like how aliet is calm and composed. Reading his book is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. Slowly unplugging
Keep going bro,that book changed my life for the better.
Also read 50 memos to men by Silas Nyanchwani.
You will be a boss!!
â@@Itsmeagain00 I will definitely check it out. Thanks man
Some biology. The highest quality of eggs is at 16. At 32 quality drops. At 40 quality and quantity is low. Chances of defective pregnancy is higher
Good stuff Aliet .. am following you straight up!
Lynn you're a gem thanks for having this conversation
Jacob has a different way of looking at things, not the usual way but factual
From a neutral point of view... there are bitter truth, justified by Zippy's way of cutting short sentences to "fight" .. to be honest this was not about discussion.. she tries to dominate. Kudoz Lynn for trying to be objective in that space. Zippy should be a listerner.. she cant ask a question and control how it is answerered it as well
100 percent true, I go with this guy from the previous show, not because am a man but true men don't like argument regardless of their status and ladies should not know this, they have to believe..
Jacob my guy next show should be given 80 percent on air,
Very interesting conversation...Well done!
Iâm 25 years old female , and doing my Masters. Most women in their 20âs today have no desire to get married young. They are either in school or trying to better themselves. So itâs a high time Men understand that we are not leaving in the old days. And Today women are comfortably happy leaving
a Single life and take care of themselves!
Living *
If you want to stay single stay single;đ, nobody is forcing you into marriage, we will still go for the submissive ladies we want , after master's your pool of men will be small, you won't tolerate a guy with a lower education threshold like you.
Time will tell
â@@Aliulemmojayou'll need a man
Iâm sorry but Zippy was throwing this conversation off balance!
True she's so loud that the main points are not well delivered
Good morning team Lynn... today's show is on đ„.it's about to go down â€â€â€.
I have enjoyed the show. Well done ladies and gentleman.
truth is if zippy was right she'd be married right now. Can't argue with results.
Very true.. she is very annoying. No man can want to live with that