How To Be Confident Without Being Arrogant
Vložit
- čas přidán 20. 11. 2016
- Conor McGregor: How To Be Confident Without Being Arrogant
Get Our Best Tip To Turning On Confidence In Just 60 Seconds:
goo.gl/AiIEjJ
Conor McGregor is one of the most confident athletes in the world. He displayed that confidence in his flawless victory over Eddie Alvarez in UFC 205. But even though Conor McGregor's confidence is one of the best traits you can have, arrogance is one of the worst. And the line between the two can be blurry. Some people are worried that if they become confident, they’ll cross the line into arrogance - or that even if they don’t other people will perceive their new confidence as arrogance.
In this video I want to help distinguish between true confidence and arrogant bravado
0:52 Don't talk if you can't back it up
1:01 Confidence is a statement while arrogance is a scream
2:55 Achieving more doesn't mean you're better than other people
4:05 Arrogance doesn't share the credit of success
5:04 Confidence is secure because it's based on reality
Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s CZcams Account:
bit.ly/COC-Subscribe
Connect With Us Further:
Website: www.charismaoncommand.com
Facebook: / charismaoncommand
Periscope: www.periscope.tv/charismaon
Video Editor, Andre: www.goandre.com
Or if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music):
Instagram: @CharlieHoupert
Periscope: @CharlieHoupert - Jak na to + styl
"Confidence does not need to shout to be heard" amen
It is however not his words ;)
Ron Burgandy
would be if i was shouting or if it was my words =P
lol you are cracking me up thanks that made my day
xD Good lols Ron xD
MY HERO
*learning on youtube > learning at school*
true story..
just buy a porsche ;)
lol
yeah man
exactly *****
Arrogance to me is thinking you can do anything without making mistakes.
Confidence is thinking you can do anything even while making mistakes.
lol so true.
Peaches N Cream Damn, can I quote that?
Peaches N Cream ~2016
Not to mention that arrogant put others down and they think they're perfect
Nani q
You should definitely cover Gordon Ramsay sometime
People, like this comment.
There is nothing to cover, he is an abusive twat. Not just verbally, there's videos of him physically assaulting another chef too.
Cloud Strife No mate. That's just what reality TV demands of him. Well yeah he might be naturally grumpy, but the actual Gordon Ramsay, not the TV one, is actually incredibly charismatic. You see more of this Gordon Ramsay in some parts of the show Kitchen Nightmares, and his daughter Tilly's cooking show. His natural anger and hostility is just amplified tenfold for the purpose of TV. I mean, think about it, if you were actually like he is on Hell's Kitchen in real life, pretty much everyone would hate you, and no psychologically normal human even subconsciously wants that.
How can you tell what's fake and real? He faces no repercussions because he's reach such a high level of success, and the people he behaves that way to are his subordinates who are relying on his "help". Don't talk like you know him. You just said "reality TV", so how are you justifying his other side as being his true self with more "reality TV" sources?
Someone I know worked with him and studied under him for a while. Said he was quite strict, but a nice guy who was a quite grumpy a lot (as a lot of chefs who work long shifts rarely seeing their family are)
Confidence says "I can win."
Arrogance says "There's no way I could possibly lose."
camdevtube more like confidence says :"I will win" rather than i can. very different approach.
Bullshit.
Say "i will" instead of "i can"
"I will" is arrogance. Miyamoto Musashi ( a man regarded as the greatest swordsman to ever live ), even after not losing a single fight in over 60 duels ( most to the death ) and multiple wars, said that no man is invincible. Saying "I will win" rules out the possibility of you losing, and the fact is there is ALWAYS a possibility of you losing because no one is invincible. This is why Conor McGregor lost his first fight against Diaz. He thought it was impossible for him to lose and for the first time in his career he was forced to humble himself and realize he can lose just as well as any other person can.
As cocky as Mayweather makes himself out to be, his success came from the fact that even though he talked as if he underestimated his opponents, he never truly did underestimate his opponents. He ALWAYS outworked his opponents in terms of training and preparation. Before a fight, he would talk shit and say there's no way he can lose, and then train rigorously in the days leading up to the fight. You would think someone who was 100% certain they were going to win wouldn't spend several hours a day preparing for a fight, but the amount of work he put in shows that despite his words and competitive banter, he takes his opponents seriously and never brings anything less than his A-game whenever he steps into the ring because deep down, he knows he can lose if he doesn't.
unslaved films
I will is not arrogance, it's confidence. Arrogance is saying you will, then failing, and giving excuses. "I didn't have the time/X happened/I didn't have the right tools/not my fault"
Another way to put it: I can lose, but I will win.
Conor is so confident because he believes in his skills and abilities that took him years of hard work and dedication.
I second this. He put in the work, He knows its there and that very belief in his self comes across arrogant to other people. You're looking at the likes of Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant who are known to have had legendary work ethic.
I wish he would fight Khabeb .. but hes too scared of Khabeb I think.
khabeb is one scary mofo though
ffs he's only just had a fight and you want him to agree to fight kabib straight away
Japples not right now but maybe in few weeks or a month or two no matter xD
Habib would exterminate him in my humble opinion!
Conor McGregor is a VERY clever individual. He realises that confidence (and building confidence through practice, hard work and skill) is the key to winning a fight, but arrogance (or perceived arrogance in this case) is an unbelievably powerful tool for selling and promoting a fight.
He can flit between the two in a heartbeat to achieve his desired outcome and it's served him very well. Underneath it all though, I think his natural state is confidence rather than arrogance.
Lot of respect for him.
his behavior after fights (like when he fought José Aldo) show us his natural state
Yes you are right
@@MultiWar22 100 % right bro
Arrogance makes me hate a person especially if he is close to me. Can he not say something in a nice way?
@@estermarchadesch6666 The problem is that, the aim of arrogance itself is to emotionally distract the opponent, as used by Conon. He is very clever in that
You uploaded a Connor Mc Gregor video exactly one year ago. Included visualization and back then you had just reached 10 000 subs
Wow, that's amazing. I remember being back home for Thanksgiving and waiting until everyone was asleep so I had the quiet I needed to record. It's been a great year :-)
ditto on Gordon and how he deals with confrontation
This
Next year this time, I hope you've visualized that 5 Million subs! Keep doing what you're doing! All the best with launching your other channels / different languages!
Sami S it's Conor
you can't believe how relevant this is to my current situation. I feel like I am slipping into arrogance, when all my life I have been struggeling to accomplish confidence. I am looking foreward to more!
Could you do a breakdown video on zlatan ibrahimovic
oh god yes please :=)
Furthermore, to attach a thought to the video here incase you see it, you left out one of the most important parts to me, and that is how confidence vs arrogance reacts after losses.
Greetings from switzerland
he already did by making video of Muhammad Ali. They are basically the same thing.
jon ken overrated
Sexy Beast lol no
Cold Hunter lol yes..
do a video on harvey spectre.
agreed
yesyesyes
yes
Specter*
Hank Moody
McGregor is confident but acts arrogant to build up fights.
"Confidence isn’t walking into a room with your nose in the air, and thinking you are better than everyone else. It’s walking into a room and not having to compare yourself to anyone else in the first place."
thank you so much, it means so much, i just realized i'm arrogant..
The thing I know about me is that I can change it.
how dare you to bring your arrogant ass remotely close to this nice, humble fucking comment section
for some reason i sense arrogance in your comment about changing.
That's great you noticed ,tgat's tge first step.
And you know you can change,the 2nd step.
Now,did you pass the 3rd one : being willing to change?
Did you became Confident or you are still Arrogant? I want to see what have you done 🤣😁
At Press Conference he is arrogant because he wants to hype his fans up. Sometimes he does that by throwing someone under the bus, but press conferences are kind of boring if you don't have someone to hype you up. Press conferences are supossed to be boring, but it's still nice if you have someone that gets you hyped.
I'm not the biggest McGregor fan, but he truly is confident in what he says and does. And now that he has himself in such a position where the UFC needs him, almost as much as he needs an organization like the UFC, he can start calling the shots.
Exactly, it was just a marketing ploy and the fans dig it.
Negan my savior👑
I've recently changed my attitude towards life thanks to Conor
Kamil B what did you change if I may ask?
Through listening to his empowering speeches, I have discovered what the law of attraction is. I've done research on it, I've read about the biological fundaments of how it works and it all made me approach life in a way more positive manner. I'm still working on it, but I believe my confidence has grown, so has my happiness and awareness of how good the life can be If we just shift our thinking
Kamil B right on
unslaved films
You have a great channel going here. I can not count how many times I have gotten trough horrible days with the inspiration from your videos. You are helping a lot of people.
A Muhammad Ali video would be perfect with this channel.
Null Nol there is one already
I been going through a tough time in my life and I just watched two of your videos and it's has boosted my self believe. Thank you you earn yourself a subscriber.
Glad to have you!
Great video, as always!
I 100% realize you guys get a bunch of requests for videos, but I have a topic for you that has not been covered. It is also not about a person (which most requests are about). It is VERY personal and yet I think it could be helpful to a lot of people
It is kind of hard to put into words, but I'll do my best..... Since I was a kid, I have strived to be a good person. By my definition, a good person is one who is kind, well-mannered, generous, etc. Basically someone who follows the "golden rule" (do unto others, etc). But almost as far back as I can remember, something about the way I present myself gives people the impression that I am a weak person.
....or at least that is how it seems. I seem to have a target on my back, because people seem to take advantage of my kindness, steal from me, act disrespectful towards me, act inconsiderately, etc often. More often than other people deal with, so it seems (unless most people just "bottle up" getting screwed over by miscellaneous people?).
At one point in my life, my family told me that I complained too much, too often. So I made an active effort to not do that, and I don't complain at all nowadays, for the most part. I am generally a happy person, even when circumstances are not the best. I joke all the time, and I am often smiling (even when alone... lol). So at one time, I thought my attitude might have been the reason for the "target" on me. I don't subscribe to a "victim" mentality nowadays, as far as I know.
But that begs the question, why do I seem to have the problem I mentioned? Why do I deal with people walking over me, treating me as an inferior, stealing, blah blah blah blah? Am I demonstrating weakness? Should I be more concerned with how to fix whatever is causing it or should I be trying to have thicker skin about it (recently got conned out of $300, hard to have thick skin about that... taking the guy to court, but still)? Is this a common issue with other people? If so, how to fix it?
One thought of mine is that I am TOO nice, making people think I have ulterior motives.. In that case, how does one tone that down? It is kind of "embedded" in who I am, it is a fundamental part of all my values, beliefs, etc. I can't really even fathom not being kind to people, but I also can't imagine what toning it down would even look like. I also don't want to deal with this crap from people for decades and decades until I die (assuming I am lucky enough to live that long).
So anyways, I guess the video would be something along the lines of "How To Be Nice (But Not Too Nice)" or something. Excited to hear your tips/thoughts, see the vid (if you happen to make it). or check out any books/articles/other videos you might be able to recommend about this.
Hope to hear back, and much appreciated!
-EJ
My Path To Self you have no idea how similar your story is to how my life is
***** I know what you're saying, and I do act that way. I used to be really concerned with what people thought of me, to a point of neediness. I would go out of my way for other people all the time, and I'd end up frustrated that it would go unnoticed (seemingly) most of the time. After years of dealing with that whole scenario, I have kept in mind that I need to take care of me before I worry about anyone else, and I have acted through that.
I think I do help people in the way you are talking about, but can you give me an example anyways? I grew up as a "problem solver" type of person, and it has definitely carried on into my adult life. But I am all about teaching people, rather than doing things for them. I don't have the time to do favors. I'm just generally energetic, kind, and well-mannered (most of the time).
ik jaws Wish I could say "glad to hear it"! lol
You should be glad to know that I'm working on an answer ;)
Pretty much the same for me, the way I look at is the age old saying, "Nice guys finish last."
I still struggle with this, but after string of bad events in the past year i've kinda hardened who I am. I'm nice and still follow the golden rule, "treat others how you'd like to be treated." But i also do so with caution, I just slow down and think a little more about the things I do, Plus I really choose wisely the ppl I let close into my life. I analyze who they are and really focus on how it would be helping others, if i chose to do this action for someone. As Shimassi said, Sometimes it's more helpfully to let the person help them self, than it is for you to do the heavy lifting.
Truly, I know how you feel. I'm a big guy, and I have a decent amount of confidence in myself and my abilities, so I was never really bullied. But I've been screwed over so much it's not even funny. Theft, friends walking on me using me, Girls in every way, and much more. But this last years really beat me down, and it took a long while to build myself back up, and i'm still not 100%, but I have figured out the problem with me atleast.
It's about knowing your self worth, Once you know how much your worth, don't let ppl treat you like less, otherwise they shouldn't be in your life. I can tell you when you shut those doors on those ppl, most the time, they come after you apologizing, at that point It's your choice to allow them back in. For me, i'll give ppl a second chance because I would want that, but If I really wanted that second chance I would put the effort in. If they don't, they never get a third.
Hope this helps, Best of luck.
Could you tell me a bit more about the specific things that people do? What do they do that is disrespectful? What do they do that is inconsiderate?
Could you please do a breakdown on James "Sawyer" Ford from Lost! He is a such cool and badass guy, in a very unique way. I believe that many would enjoy a deep analysis of him :)
Agreed
SAWYEEER!!
YASSSSSSSS
This is honestly one of the best channels on CZcams. Thank you so much for your amazing content
every time i'm confident i get anxiety and mistake it for arrogance
don't ever put Connor McGregor and kanye West on the same room please
has already happened after ufc 202... Kanye done nottin
hahahahhahahahahhaa
Kanye is in a psych ward today for some reason.
There's something i would pay to watch on Pay Per View
juan meza Conor probably listens to Kanye anyways lol
Great video! I really needed this. I've always admired the look of a confident woman who isn't afraid to speak her mind but was always afraid to be that woman out of the fear that people would view me as being arrogant or bossy.
50 seconds in and you already summarized the whole topic accurately, good job man! I just subscribed.
Thanks for the encouragement!
This was an absolutely beautifully crafted video. Thank you for making this.
thank you for making these videos, i cant wait for the next video about self esteem cause thats exactly the area im working on right now.
Thank you very much for this video and especially for subtitles. Really really like your channel.
I'm glad that you pointed out that arrogance is really a response to insecurity, well done!
One of your best topic choices and one of my favorite videos on this channel. Great job!
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom! I feel like it's slowly reshaping my way of thinking and I hope that before I realise it I'll be able approach things/situations/myself more rationally while respecting everyone's emotions, including my own and I know for a fact that I'm not the only one.
I'm so glad I found this channel and I really wish you to be able to reach out to more and more people because after all it's quid pro quo 😏
Thank you so much for your videos man! Some of the best value in the internet period! Keep out doing yourself my friend.
The best channel dude. Love your deep diggings and the insights and tips you provide. Thank you
I LOVE this video. Fantastic content.
Cheers for the gym motivation Charlie, Arnie is a legend.
realy man please continue what you do im start learning a new stuff from you and i love that thank you man
Dude, these are really really good! Thank you for these videos, I'm really happy I found your channel.
Excelente contenido! Sigo el canal desde hace tiempo y es de esos que valen la pena. Me gusta que estés explorando nuevas formas de presentar un video, el uso de imágenes es muy buena, pero siento que verte en pantalla le da un toque más personal y potencia la llegada del mensaje. Vas por buen camino
"Don't talk if you can't back it up" good advice.
Be honest with yourself. Always a wonderful and necessary reminder.
I just can't trust Conor, an Irish, MMA fighting, UFC champion, and he's got perfect teeth?!? WTF is up with that?
It's just not natural.
mouth guards go a long way don't they
+Jamie Murphy if we're basing on how little someone gets hit Cruz is P4P #1 lol, conor gets hit a lot when he's up against a southpaw like nate but orthodox vs him I'll agree he's the best counter puncher.
***** if nate didn't hit him that much it wouldn't be a controversial split decision and it'd be a 10-8 unanimous decision :P
It was a unanimous decision though?
+SOB we're both wrong it was 47-47, 48-47,48-47 so it was a majority win not unanimous. Original point I was trying to make steal stands though :p
Dude this video is perfect! You doing a great job
You have enlightened me tonight. Sincerely, from the bottom of heart.
Thank you for this presentation.
Great video! I love how you break it down.
Confidence is knowing you put in the work to get the results you desire.
Awesome job. I'm blown away every time you post.
Visualization is so important! One of the best ways to calm yourself or inspire yourself. This is why creativity is such an important skill to develop. By developing your creativity it will improve your visualization skills and so much more! Awesome video Charlie! Keep up the amazing work brother :)
You have tripled your subscribers since the last time I came here...good job!
Fanks for the video! I love practicing social skills. Charisma and confidence really do get you ahead in life.
Thanks! Glad you like it
this video is priceless. thank you so much
Well thought, reasoned and executed video. Great, great work. Subbed.
Thumbs up another excellent depiction!
Very thoughtful. Great work.
Remember, competence is always more important than confidence.
Hey Charlie your videos are awesome especially the analysis of certain people.
I would love to see on of those from the character "Harvey Spector" of the tv series suits
who has an insanely charismatic personality and would fit in with your videos perfectly
Thank you so much I love you conor Mcgregor videos more of them please
Great video! Thank you so much! :)
Fantastic video, I love this stuff! Keep it up
this video is exactly for me!!!! I prefer to be less confident, for the fear of being arrogant
What a legend he is. My biggest inspiration!
gosh, thank you, when ppl tell me kanye is arrogant, they having been down the path he has, your videos are really inspiring!!
been a sub when this channel had tens of thousands of subs. Now this channel is blowing up
Great video. As always.
I love your videos please keep up the awesome work
Hi, excellent video ty so much, your absolutely right, arrogance is loud and seeks external validation, confidence is quiet and speaks for itself, internal validation, love this video ty, regards, Bob,
The content in this video was Quality! Subscribed!
just discovered your channel. love it
Your videos are unbelievable... such great content
I believe the arrogance is a persona to draw in the fans , the man is truly confident and quite a humble man just acts arrogant to draw publicity, completely agree great vid
Absolutely love your videos, you give great advices on charisma and shit
The description bar did everything for me.
Love it how when I commented on your first McGregor confidence video, where I claimed that he's more arrogant than confident, people took strong offence in that, and some of them even went on to call me names etc.
Good very, really enjoyed this.
Very interesting video, considering that I watched McGregor's win recently and heard, prior to the fight, of my friends' opinions of him and how cocky he is. It's easy to dislike his arrogant persona, but it's clear that he respects his opponent in the ring and after the fight. And he does back up what he says with real skill. I don't necessarily agree with his choice to become bombastic before fights to promote them, however I respect the hard work he has clearly put in to be at the top. Thanks for the food for thought!
How are there dislikes on this vid? Haha!
Great content Charlie, as usual! Good breakdown, and accurate observations about the differences in each. When people pay homage to their mentors and support, it makes them more humble and confident.
Confidence = security
Arrogance = Insecurity
Great comparison!
Gr8 video man. Conor is awesome and probably the greatest MMA fighter of all time!
I 100% agree with the putting on a show of arrogance and more genuine confidence (with some hints of arrogance of course)
omg this has been so so helpful Mr. Houpert. i love Conor McGregor! knocked out Alvarez though!
THANK YOU SOOO MUCH
This video actually made me self reflect. Interesting. Good video dude :)
Mate your videos are great!
This is great stuff! Thank you for the video. Can someone link the visualization videos, I can’t find them. Thanks!
Hello I am someone who really enjoys your videos and bought one of your books. I have a problem with being very monotone when I speak and I don't know how to fix it. Can you please make a video on this subject?
BBC Pepe yeah he's used the example of Neil degrass Tyson on this subject but I want to see it on a deeper level because in my opinion this is the second most important trait of speaker (being behind a good conversationist)
Andrew Ryan
learn how to sing
Roger Love teaches public speaking as well as coaches singing.
best thing I did was to read into a microphone, and listen back
listen to stand up comedy. It's timing and expression. The silence in between is what builds the tension, draws you in.
my tips:
Try to sing
Record Yourself
Listen to Stand Up Comedy
just try to sound more enthusiastic and put emotion into what u say. Easier said than done though.
Try to imitate Neagan from The Walking Dead. He's very expressive, record yourself than correct it. Plus he's confident so you might pick on that too.
Interesting! It would be nice to see a Don Draper's charisma breakdown. Amazing work on this one!
Please please do an analysis of Ragnor Lothbrok from Vikings, what is it that makes him radiate so much power and his smile while he is confronting enemies
Hey, man! I've watched this video several times since it was released. Your simplicity and precision on explaining a difficult topic is impeccable. I wonder if you can do the same analysis on Lebron James though. He's one of those superstars whom fans are greatly divided on whether they love him or hate him, so I'd like to hear what's your take if he's arrogant or just confident. Thanks!
Excellent video.
Your self worth is so solid that you can evaluate your skills honestly. BEAUTIFUL AND NAIL IN HEAD!
great video!
Wow, this is a much-needed wake up call for me. I wouldn't say that I am fully arrogant, I definitely don't go around with bravado, im usually pretty chill. I think that have a balance of both of these traits though. I am very willing to admit being wrong about things if proven to be wrong, but i have caught my self having a moral superiority to people when it comes to politics, which isn't the right mind set. I often place my self-worth in my opinions and skills, and as a result I often feel threatened when i see some one doing better than me in my field instead of just feeling happy for that persons success and focusing on what i could learn from them. I don't think i would ever become arrogant in the loud and brash sort of way, but i can recognise the fact that i don't have very good self-esteem, and as a result I may sometimes lean towards arrogant mentalities and thoughts.
Be humble (In reciprocity)
He’s confident at times but he has moments where he goes above and beyond but he’s not afraid to speak his mind which I gotta give him credit most people are either scared or don’t know how to handle a situation
*Hello dude. Please do a Charisma breakdown of Adolf Hitler.*
You are mad :: ))
its a good idea. there gotta be some reason based on charisma, or else the entire german wont follow to his orders.
He pulled off a Trump, capitalizing on people's economic anger to push his agenda of hate.
Razvan Andrei You are mad man. You people call someone mad just because he has the balls to say things you don't.
wouldn´t have followed
im glad some1 else noticed that he is quiet the less cameras are on him, and something he said about people talking alot and not doing much, the only moments when he talks shit is when he is at press conferences where as others seem to do it whilst training, conor talks more than any1 in the ufc works and works himself more than he talks and thats saying something imo
Your videos teach me so much! Thank you so much Charlie
when he shows up late it just adds to his hype i think its good for the ufc show its entertaining.
Amazing.
I'm new to your channel.... it's terrific.
Glad to have you!