3 miscarriages then a healthy pregnancy and baby - my fertility story
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- čas přidán 21. 03. 2018
- Those of you who've known me for a while already know my fertility story, but those of you who have only recently met me might be wondering why I share what I do on fertility and loss.
So today I want to share our story over the last two years (actually I go all the way back to before we had our first son), how we've survived three losses in 12 months, what I've done to heal and what I think helped me get to where I am today - carrying a healthy 26 week baby boy.
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Thanks for listening to my story. I'd love to hear yours too if you're willing to share it in the comments below. x
Thanks for sharing your story. I have had 2 miscarriages and a possible chemical pregnancy the past 10 months. The hardest part is all of your friends and family getting pregnant at the same time and none of them have had to deal with a miscarriage before (which I am thankful for) but it hurts and makes you feel like you did something wrong. And even when the time comes when you don’t miscarry, you don’t know when you can be excited and tell friends and family because you never know if you will end up losing it after all. I love your positive outlook, it brings me hope.
I’m so sorry for your losses Heather. I’m glad that my videos have helped in some way. Sending you love and hope🙏🏻💜
Thank you so much for sharing your story. So brave. I also have gone through 3 pregnancy losses in the last 1.5 years and it is devastating. It changes everything. Trying to come "back" from it seems impossible at times. As you said, i would never want anyone to have to experience that type of pain. I am also so thankful you were willing to share your story as it can give hope and remind us we are not alone. Thank you
Thanks for reminding me about this video in your email today. After 2 years of miscarriages and not treating myself correctly I then gave myself a break like you and did all of the things to heal. I then fell pregnant with my angel baby, I birthed him at 24 weeks. I just had 3 months off ttc after him, tried, fell pregnant this cycle and I’m having another chemical now. This reminded me that I needed more time after him. So here I am having another break. And the break is so hard. I miss my boy so much 🥺
Thank you for so bravely sharing your story so that others don't feel so alone. This has helped me immensely as I am in the middle of my second miscarriage in 6 months. Hearing about your experiences has helped me realise I am probably harbouring more stress and anxiety than I thought, and I'll start taking steps to reduce that. So thank you for the support - I look forward to exploring more of your content!
I'm glad to hear that you have found this helpful Jennifer. I'm so sorry for your losses.
You’re amazing Bettina! I am in a different place than most women who follow your channel. I found your channel because I am in beginning stages of starting an IVF cycle to freeze my eggs to preserve my fertility. The first video I did of yours was to bring back my period because I had just gone off of birth control after being in it for many years to start this process. Your yoga teaching helped my period come back naturally! I will continue to do your videos to help me along the way to help balance my hormones that I’m sure will be out of wack. I too have started doing acupuncture and taking supplements along with following a healthy diet. Thank you for all of your information, you have helped me see how important it is to be kind to myself throughout this entire process. I am glad I know now, so I can create a healthy body to carry a pregnancy when the time comes!
Glad to hear this Leigh. Hope IVF goes smoothly for you. 🙏🏻💜
I appreciated this video so much. I had three normal pregnancies and healthy babies followed by three devastating losses. I lost my son at 16 weeks, then my daughter at 14 weeks, then my other son at 14 weeks. I did deliver all three, but I also had to have surgery after each one because my placenta wasn’t coming out. It was crushing physically, spiritually, emotionally. Truly. We planned to be done, and here we are almost two years later deciding to try again. I actually just found out I was pregnant today. My body and mind went through so much, but I truly am in such a better place now. I’m choosing to be positive and daily praying for this sweet baby. I love it how you said you have to come to a point where the possibility of loss is worth the risk. That’s exactly where we got to. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤
Gosh Megan that is so hard. I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through all that. I’ll be sending you love and hope for this pregnancy. Please reach out if you need 🙏🏻💜
Thank you so much. ❤❤❤
I found myself nodding along when you described the emotional state you were in during your losses. I've know exactly how you feel. Thank you for sharing. I am trying to change my mindset now to be hopeful
It’s so hard isn’t it. I’m glad that you were about to resonate. 🙏🏻💜
Just found your videos. Your story resonates so deeply 💜 Thank you for sharing. I’m currently first trimester, almost second! My beautiful rainbow will be my first baby, fourth pregnancy. I’m so angry and hurt when I think about my para and gravida numbers. It’s not fair that several of my friends have had successful pregnancies after their first month of trying. It took us over two years to get to our first miracle, then heartbreak. I’m hopeful, and I try my best to not stress and think positively and enjoy the process as much as I can. This time my symptoms have been different (more severe) and hormone levels have been sky high compared to past pregnancies. It’s so hard not to worry.
I am happy to hear of your pregnancy after a tough road. I’m sending you and your baby love. Please keep in touch,
Bettina your yoga videos are my saving grace. I had three miscarriages in less than a year and it’s been 10 months since the last, and I’m struggling with getting my head right to try again. I’ve worked on my physical health, but find the mental work far more difficult. Most days I’m okay but there are those triggers, like someone getting pregnant, that send me into a tailspin. I’m turning to your videos, mantras and visualizations to push me through my darkest days. Thank you, truly. I’m so sorry for your losses, and I agree I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy either.
Cassandra I am so sorry for your losses. I wish that you didn’t need my work but I’m glad that it has brought your some peace 🙏🏻💜
I lost my sweet baby boy at 17 weeks last September. Then lost two around 6 weeks this spring. It’s been 7 months now and I’m ready for my rainbow. I really resonate with your story. Thank you for sharing.
Our stories are so similar. Sending you so much love. I know how hard it is. 💜
Just experienced my second chemical pregnancy in a row (literally june & july). It sucks so bad when you want something, have it and then lose it. I love success stories like yours, because I remember to have hope. I'm so happy for you !! Wishing everyone the best of luck
I’m so sorry for your losses Sandra. Sending you love and hope. 🙏🏻💜
Just had my third miscarriage and I couldn't find comfort anywhere but your video did give me a hope and some comfort. I am in a very dark place at the moment but this given me a bit of light. Thank you
Alessia I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. I’m glad my video has given you some hope though. Look after yourself and please reach out if you need. X
You are not alone
Thank you for sharing so honestly your story ! It gives so much hope for others in similar situation.
You’re welcome Anna. I’m glad it helps x
I just had my third misscarriage. Thank you for your video. You really understand it and the advise is so valuable and pure.
I’m so sorry for your losses but I’m glad my work has been helpful for you. 🙏🏻💜
i actually cried in the end, congrats ♡ ive gone there a loss a year ago. i have already one healthy girl from my first pregnancy. but i am in that place now looking for that validation. thank you
Thank you. I'm glad my story helped. x
I'm 39, two beautiful girls and one loss 3 years ago. Learned a lot, made some healthy changes and trying again this month! Took a little long to get here!Thank you for the inspiring message. Love from Quito-Ecuador
Thank you so much for sharing. I had my third loss in May this year. I had spotting, had an emergency scan where we saw a heartbeat and was told “it’s a strong heartbeat everything is good” and miscarried the next day. I’m positive about the next pregnancy but stressed as we’re moving house soon. I found you by pure accident, at the perfect time. I do have a little boy already, his name is Luca.
Wow we have a lot in common. Im glad you found me though wish it were under happier circumstances. I’m so sorry for your losses. It’s so hard, especially when you’ve seen and heard their heart. 💔 Give yourself time to grieve and move and start with fresh energy in your new space. Sending you love and hope. X
So sorry to hear of your losses but I'm so glad I stumbled across your channel. I lost my first (and only) child Sept '19, a stillborn daughter at 36 weeks (medical negligence), we have been trying to conceive since then with zero success. All my tests have come back normal but I do think there are some strong emotional blockers there perhaps and definitely stress. I look forward to giving some of your videos a go, what can you recommend for a beginner yogi?
Justine I am so sorry to hear you lost your daughter. Most of my fertility classes are quite gentle so you will be okay to start with any of them. I guess it depends whether you feel like you still have some healing to do (of your heart) or whether you’re ready to focus on trying to conceive. Sending you love and hope. 🙏🏻💜
Thank you for posting this video. I have just experienced my first mc at 7 weeks after 2 years of trying to conceive. This is giving me hope for the future, even though I'm 34 years old and feel the age pressure...
Hey Anita! My name is Anita, too! So sorry about the miscarriage. I had my daughter (first and only child) at 37.5 years of age. Please try your best not to feel pressured. 😊
I just had an ultrasound today and have a blighted ovum. That's my 3rd miscarriage in less than a year. I'm devastated. Thanks for your video - it gives me hope. Pray for me.
Jill I’m so sorry to hear this news. Sending you love and hope. Please reach out if ever you need. X
Jill Colton I’m so sorry to hear this 😞 I also experienced 3 miscarriages less than a year. Received multiple blood test and everything came back normal. I’m keeping great Faith that u and I will have a healthy pregnancy and healthy baby ❤️ 🍼 🌈 Don’t lose Hope
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm currently going through my third miscarriage. This video has helped give me hope.
I’m so sorry for your losses. Sending you love 💜
Thank you so much for sharing your story. This confirmed so much of what I have been feeling after my third miscarriage around the need to really look into how much stress is playing a factor, giving a lot space and time to heal and grieve from the losses and needing to learn how to trust my body again. 🙏🏾
You’re so welcome Deja. I’m happy my story has helped you. Sending you love and hope. 🙏🏻
Thank you so much for your videos! I truly appreciate everything you are giving back to the community. I am actually working in fixing my adrenals now, can I ask what was in the supplement you took? Herbs, vitamins, something else?
I used a range of supplements over a period that were specific to me. I recommend working with a naturopath to give you supplements specific to you.
thank you so much to sharing this video. you are a good inspiration for every women .
This makes me happy to hear. 😊
I'm sorry for your lost, and I'm glad that you have two beautiful kids that makes you stronger in facing all of that💕. I'm in a two years old marriage and i got pregnant twice and lost them both💔 the first was 11 weeks with no heartbeats and after 3 months i got my second pregnancy and was scared but excited.. Didn't tell my parents about it until i passed 13 weeks successfully and after 2 days of telling people and celebrating i got cramps and had the second miscarriage.. I can't stop myself of thinking of those people who get babies by accident! I know i shouldn't think this way but can't help it😔
I’m so sorry for your losses. I know it’s so hard to see but don’t focus on the negatives too much. Try to focus on the parts of your life that make you happy. Don’t give up hope. 💜
Oh, your story is similar two mine. God bless you ❤️
I left my job in order to be in less stress, and the day before farewell I went to ultrasound and they told the heart stopped beating. But lest hope for the best my dear 🤗. We will get our gift one day 💗
@@florarium_uzb112 thank you Flora, we should be stronger💕 and i stopped trying to conceive for a year now, trying to be in a good shape and health to try again, and preying for me and for every childless mother out there to get the gift we need to carry on our lives 🎁
Thank you for sharing your story. Its very raw. Yet cathartic.
You’re welcome Haya. Thanks for listening x
I’m re watching this. After another 2nd tri loss for a different reason than my first. My body holds onto them. Loves them. Yes here we are. 2 little boys lost, this one a year after my last. 💔
I’m so sorry for your losses. Mine was the same, my body would hold on. Sending you and your angels love 🙏🏻💜
Thank you, Bettina
You're welcome Iryna x
I have a 4 year old daughter and after a long time thinking if we wanted another baby we decided to try in December 2023 and had a chemical pregnancy which didn't affected me so much so in January this year we conceived again and the pregnancy ended at 8 weeks when I found out I had an anembryonic pregnancy on my first ultrasound. this time around it was really sad. It's been only 2 weeks from my D&C and on top of that we had to deal with moving houses which of course kept me busy along with work but honestly I haven't had time to heal and process my losses. I absolutely love all the advise in my case I strongly believe the stress in my life is one of the things I need to focus to heal and not to rush before trying again. I feel like I cannot waste time as Im already 42 but at the same time I want to heal more mentally before trying again. I was very negative this pregnancy thinking there was something wrong. and turns out I was right.
I’m so sorry for your losses. Please reach out if you need support. 🙏🏻💜
I've had three miscarriages and it's been extremely hard for me to get pregnant again but watching this video gave me hope
Hi LA NeNa. I'm so sorry to hear of your three losses. I'm glad that my story has given you hope. Look after yourself. xxx
@@BettinaRae thank you
I got married at 28. And here it's quite old. And I had two miscarriages. Now every month when I have my periods, even though I try to not think, it's hard to keep on being positive. So I am here ☺️
It is so hard. I’m so sorry for your losses. Sending you love and hope 🙏🏻💜
Hi, I love your Yoga sessions and they definitely have supported me in my journey after my first loss and staying strong and positive. I'm just now waiting for my second loss due to a MMC. Would you ever consider making a session on supporting one through a missed miscarriage until the body and mind is ready to let go, hopefully to avoid medical/surgical intervention? It is mentally and emotionally so draining and difficult. Thanks for sharing your story and sessions.
Oh Lisa. I will definitely create this class. Mine were MMC so I know that painful space well. Sending you so much love 🙏🏻💜
@@BettinaRae Hi - this is exactly what I'm looking for. I'm just waiting for it to happen, praying it will as I'm keen not to have an operation during this pandemic. Did you create this? Please can you link if you did or do you have any tips of how I can encourage it to pass? Thanks
@@rachelmortimer2047 Hi Rachel, I'm sorry this one hasn't been created yet.I'm planning to film it in the new year. There is nothing really you can do to make it happy but I'll link a couple of practices to help ease the waiting.
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I understand being in the maternal area. I also delivered my little 16 week baby boy at the same place I had my daughter with all the other happy families. Very traumatic..also just had my 3rd miscarriage at 11 weeks and had to get the blood transfusion. 3 bags of blood and a D&C to make sure to stop the bleeding since I lost so much blood. They don't give that away easily but I was at a 5.5 hemoglobin so they finally did. SO hard. now I don't know what to do..who to turn to. It's emotionally exhausting.
Now you rest and heal. Sending you love and hope 🙏🏻💜
Thanks for sharing, I had three after my first and it wasn't easy
I’m sorry to hear you’ve had to go through this too. 🙏🏻💜
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! It was so helpful.
You're welcome Amrit. x
Hi .. I also had 3 miscarriage s and same experience ..thanks for this motivating video...I am looking forward to get pregnant with healthy baby
I’m so sorry for your losses. Sending you love and hope. Please keep in touch. 🙏🏻
I am going thru my 4th mc and almost all ended around week 8, I can see hopeless expressions of relatives towards me, it hurts, I feel every baby I lost, I named my recent loss, I dont wanna forget this baby and I hope I will bring him to life in my next pregnancy,.. I usually have 1.8 tsh very normal one.. But after miscarriage I got tested and it was 8, so I think it's my thyroid in pregnancy, this baby gave me the answer probably going to be careful next time abt my hormones and thyroid..
I’m so sorry for your loss Anusha. Please reach out if you need support.
I hv lost 3 in 3 years 😥 don't have any children, can u tell me how long did u wait to try next pregnancy? I been getting pregnant after a year, this time im thinking to wait 2 years then try again.
I’m so sorry for your losses. I don’t think it’s the time you wait necessarily. I think it’s what you do in that time. I focused on getting myself as healthy as I could; mentally, physically and emotionally. Sending you so much love and hope. 🙏🏻
@@BettinaRae thank u very much
I had two miscarriage in last two years. Now I'm too stressed. I don't know wether I will conceive or not. Or if I concived it will continue or not. Going through lots of stress. Personal reasons are adding to . Feeling like suffocating
I’m sorry to hear that you are suffering in this way. Sending you love and hope 🙏🏻💜
I hope you can reach out and get help from a counseling. It's been every helpful after my 3rd miscarriage. Sometimes friends and family don't know what to say and just suggest different things their friends did to have a healthy pregnancy which just makes things worse sometimes. Good luck and know that your grief is real but that it will eventually get better.
@@LisaKuhlehow did your journey continue? ❤
I've been on the birth control pill for 6 years and I've been off a year and I've had 2 miscarriages it's been almost 6 months of trying to conceive and I'm gonna be 32 I'm so scared of having more miscarriages than children I wish I wud have known what birth control does to your body my fertility Dr. said birth control has nothing do with miscarriages but im sooooo scared I want to have more children
I understand your fear and I’m so sorry to hear of your losses. Have you had any testing around your hormones? You can ask your GP or a naturopath to look into this for you. Sending you love and hope 🙏🏻💜
I'm 43 and have miscarriage 1 weeks ago,is there any possibility that I could get pregnant?
There are always possibilities. I’m sending you love. Sorry for your loss. 🙏🏻💜
Not yet because my obgn said after 6 months then can try to get pregnant again ,but I'm scared because I went to other obgn and he said I could get pregnant but it's difficult he said 🤣🤣🤣
@@BettinaRae thank you this is life we don't know what will happen, so we need to accept it even its very hard🤭🤭🤭
@@sweetgirl-cu5mz do I have children b4.
@@hinabaloch4210 yes I have 2 both of them cesarean ,my youngest is 12 years old and my eldest 16 years old
i had gone thrugh 2 miscarriges my pregnency didint goes after 6 weeks what should i do nw
I wish I knew the exact answer for you. Unfortunately fertility seems to be a bit like a jigsaw puzzle and you have to find the right pieces for you. I would start with finding someone to talk to about your losses to deal with your emotions there. Then I would see a naturopath/ Chinese doctor or acupuncturist about replenishing what your body has lost through your miscarriages and where you may be depleted. They should help you chart your cycle and help you balance your hormones. Hope this helps. Sending you love 💜
@@BettinaRae i will b waiting for ur answer i m very upset due to this miscarriages nw my husbnd also didnt care about m what should i do nw
@@hinazeeshan7681 Can you see my answer above?
@@BettinaRae yes but i didnt get u
@@BettinaRae my baby doesnt grwth after 6 week his growth stop this is my 2 miscarriges in year