How to Leverage Being an Introvert | Simon Sinek

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  • Some of the greatest leaders you've never heard of are introverts. The one thing all great leaders have in common is an undying belief in their cause.
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    Simon is an unshakable optimist. He believes in a bright future and our ability to build it together.
    Described as “a visionary thinker with a rare intellect,” Simon has devoted his professional life to help advance a vision of the world that does not yet exist; a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every single morning inspired, feel safe wherever they are and end the day fulfilled by the work that they do.
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Komentáře • 927

  • @eashwarmurthy
    @eashwarmurthy Před 3 lety +4447

    The biggest mistake an introvert can make is trying to act like an extrovert.
    Just Be yourself.

  • @POSITIVEMILLIONAIRE
    @POSITIVEMILLIONAIRE Před 3 lety +1883

    “A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing

    • @PeterJButko
      @PeterJButko Před 3 lety +31

      I think that’s missing context. A life spent ripping off old people and stealing their savings is better than nothing?

    • @skybluelovely8358
      @skybluelovely8358 Před 3 lety +10

      meaning? It is only when u learned from mistakes and improving, when u still have room for improvement.. Yes it is..

    • @PeterJButko
      @PeterJButko Před 3 lety +14

      As long as one is learning. A life spent making mistakes is not honourable or useful. That’s just a life wasted and spent doing the wrong thing. All of this self help stuff becomes mindless cliche.

    • @skybluelovely8358
      @skybluelovely8358 Před 3 lety +1

      Yes it is, sir, according to your view, coming from your experience.. But not all people were just like you.. Yes this stuff help for us not to do the same mistakes and I hope so..?

    • @skybluelovely8358
      @skybluelovely8358 Před 3 lety

      Just when u think everything is perfect and it isn't... Well, believe God instead

  • @demetriuscooksey7147
    @demetriuscooksey7147 Před 3 lety +839

    I'm an introvert, one of the problems we have is people dont understand we need to get away from everyone to recharge once in a while, or might just need a pass on a social event on occasion.

    • @szkokee
      @szkokee Před 3 lety +19

      They dont, many people think its their fault that you "dont like them so much so you hang out with them every day" or that you are weird.
      Hoewer its a great natural push-pull techinque tbh :'D just always be mindful of yourself, take it as a joke just say im a robot i have to recharge for a weekend so maybe next weekend we can arrange something...because guess what? If you are "nice" and dont take it to the heart, others wont do it either also on top people treasure rare things and an introvert's time is effin' rare!

    • @mariahconklin4150
      @mariahconklin4150 Před 2 lety +1

      Yeah people don’t get this at all

    • @lexco6534
      @lexco6534 Před rokem +6

      Even our family can't understand us sometimes

    • @ethanpintar5454
      @ethanpintar5454 Před rokem +1

      Sure, if you understand that they equally need social interaction.

    • @demetriuscooksey7147
      @demetriuscooksey7147 Před rokem +1

      @Ethan Pintar true. People start getting weird when they're alone too much. Everyone needs to try and find the right balance.

  • @chaddelong998
    @chaddelong998 Před 3 lety +323

    i think introverts need a topic that they are passionate about, to be in a crowd. otherwise, we stand silent and try to be invisible.
    extroverts need a crowd to so they can be passionate about any topic. otherwise ,they will feel invisible.

    • @fidget2020
      @fidget2020 Před 3 lety +25

      That’s me, I can’t be bothered with small talk, but pick a subject that I care about and stand back!

    • @chaddelong998
      @chaddelong998 Před 3 lety +7

      @@fidget2020 like minds brother! i wander parties looking for something to dive into. if i cant find one, i bail or recluse.

    • @optimizm71
      @optimizm71 Před 3 lety +1

      I really agree with your point

    • @sreyasunni
      @sreyasunni Před 3 lety +1

      Absolutely!

    • @davidjupiter4307
      @davidjupiter4307 Před 2 lety +1

      @@chaddelong998 or eating cheese by standing in the corner -
      One of the Introvert Leader

  • @nadirahcroom1938
    @nadirahcroom1938 Před 3 lety +319

    Hello to all the introverts of the world!!!!

  • @timbobau
    @timbobau Před 3 lety +1306

    Oh boy, I needed to hear this.
    Listen up my fellow introverts... you don't need to change who you are to be a great leader!

    • @AreebIrshadSimplifies
      @AreebIrshadSimplifies Před 3 lety +5

      Got it!

    • @spyxkk1122
      @spyxkk1122 Před 3 lety +4

      I already know that i know it from the day I realized I am an introvert.

    • @godless789
      @godless789 Před 3 lety +9

      Why is being a leader a good thing though? 🤔 I feel like I would loose so much of my freedom if I were to become one. The top spot is hardly ever the most comfortable one 😉 let the leader lead I'm too busy having a good time for that.

    • @shashankgm2533
      @shashankgm2533 Před 3 lety +4

      Now every introvert should stand for presidency

    • @William_Clinton_Muguai
      @William_Clinton_Muguai Před 3 lety +3

      Am comforted!❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @kawrno5396
    @kawrno5396 Před 3 lety +1728

    Extroverts always tell introverts to speak up more, open up to people more. Why can't they direct the finger at themselves and quiet down, have some personal privacy, mind their own business et cetera?

    • @stevecarter8810
      @stevecarter8810 Před 3 lety +57

      Because they are extroverts and aren't biased toward that kind of reflection

    • @francescocangialosi7710
      @francescocangialosi7710 Před 3 lety +85

      Yeah they always say why don't you talk more!!!.....Well i never told you to shut up!

    • @justinrogers9010
      @justinrogers9010 Před 3 lety +32

      Agree 100%. I have a brother and sister in law like this, and you should see them at get-togethers. They love to hear themselves talk. Be the center of attention at their own parties and prey on introverted minded people. (Myself). Annoying beyond reproach.

    • @magnolia8626
      @magnolia8626 Před 3 lety +58

      Extroverts suck up all the oxygen in the room. They gain energy because they're basically emotional vampires.

    • @kawrno5396
      @kawrno5396 Před 3 lety +6

      @@justinrogers9010 Seems like when extroverts preach to speak up more, what they mean is 'praise me more' and 'tell me more about your vulnerabilities, so that I can gossip abount those behind your back'. This must be the case, because when you are brutally honest and say something like 'your singing was bad', or 'what you did was wrong' the usual response is 'shut up', 'why do you talk so much', or something similar to that.
      Your mentioned brother and sister-in-law might or might not have histrionic personality disorder or borderline personality disorder. Attention seeking is the common symptom of these two mental disorders. Which made me think, when people see a introvert, they wonder what is wrong with him, why he is so quiet. But when someone sees an extrovert, he doesn't think, 'Why is he talking so much? What is wrong with him?'

  • @griffinina
    @griffinina Před 2 lety +163

    Laughing out loud on the part “going to a party with an extrovert friend so the friend can do all the talking while I eat” 🤣🤣🤣

  • @Mike__G
    @Mike__G Před 3 lety +318

    Sometimes I am energized by social interactions, sometimes depleted. Seems to depend on the company.

    • @seanregehr4921
      @seanregehr4921 Před 3 lety +68

      For an introvert, the context of the conversation is everything. If the conversation is in regards to something that holds value the one having the conversation with an introvert will either forget the individual is an introvert or not even be aware at all.
      The best quality fo introverts is they generally have slightly better listening skills, while extroverts generally have better talking skills. This is not to say either cannot become proficient at both, it is just a matter of where one started off.

    • @Youbeentagged
      @Youbeentagged Před 3 lety +26

      Even introverts need social interaction.
      I can hang out with 7 friends who I am really close to, for a long time and enjoy it.
      I can also hang out with 3 people I'm not very comfortable with, and I will not enjoy it.
      Either way, I will be tired afterwards (different levels of tired), but I will recharge faster after if I enjoyed the company.

    • @jamesa.1345
      @jamesa.1345 Před 3 lety +4

      you have standards

    • @eibbor171
      @eibbor171 Před 3 lety +4

      yea same ,for me it depends on the relationship with said person and subject of discussion

    • @rickharriss
      @rickharriss Před 3 lety +4

      I am an introvert by the definition give here, yet I have been in senior management positions in several job.. I actually dont have a problem telling people what to do although I am told I come across as a somewhat distant person. - sounds about right.

  • @Mathi80
    @Mathi80 Před 2 lety +233

    We are all social creatures, no matter our dispositions. I am an introvert. I moan when my phone rings rather than jump with joy. I don't organize parties. I like to spend quality time with individuals. But I still gain from social interaction - it helps me come out of brooding, develop ideas, and when I'm sharing knowledge and thoughts, I can actually become pretty talkative and excited.

  • @niels2520
    @niels2520 Před 3 lety +287

    “Its not about being socially awkward”
    Gives 2 example of people who are introverted “hugely awkward!!!”

    • @trevbarlow9719
      @trevbarlow9719 Před 3 lety +13

      I caught that too.

    • @gianluke
      @gianluke Před 3 lety +2

      Thank you, you anticipated me.

    •  Před 3 lety

      Good catch. I heard the quote with some added context and the thought was that socially awkward folks can be both introverts and extroverts, so it's not part of the introvert description ;)

    • @admiralhyperspace0015
      @admiralhyperspace0015 Před 3 lety +8

      You didn't get the point then. Both introvert and extrovert can be socially awkward. Social awkwardness is a symptom most likely of introversion but the actual the definition is in terms of energy exchange. If you focus on that you are socially awkward, you will miss the point.

    • @jeromeg.8461
      @jeromeg.8461 Před 3 lety +1

      @@admiralhyperspace0015 true because you are less likely to know how to talk when that sucks your energy so talk less hence more social awkwardness which makes perfect sense

  • @syedjafferimam5789
    @syedjafferimam5789 Před 3 lety +144

    "I like to talk to individuals, I'm introvert"
    Yes Yes that's what I do.

  • @adamwilliams8482
    @adamwilliams8482 Před 3 lety +142

    0:06 introversion is not being shy and awkward.
    1:53 describes an introvert as awkward and shy.

    • @tomasestephan753
      @tomasestephan753 Před 3 lety +4

      Came to the comments looking for this!

    • @sarabestaatal
      @sarabestaatal Před 3 lety +1

      Haaha ye I was like, wait what? 😳

    • @MrSuperhuman23
      @MrSuperhuman23 Před 3 lety +8

      They are the example of awkward in introvert.
      But u really dont have to be awkward if u are introvert.
      (Maybe...Simon knows better bout what he talking about)

    • @exhibitD79
      @exhibitD79 Před 3 lety +6

      @@MrSuperhuman23 maybe he just made a mistake. Humans do that.

    • @adamL58
      @adamL58 Před 3 lety +3

      He is speaking about social akward it is different

  • @eibbor171
    @eibbor171 Před 3 lety +60

    i love being introverted i can leave parties and say goodbye and no one would notice social camouflage at its finest

  • @Christianmusic191
    @Christianmusic191 Před 3 lety +14

    That's why musicians on stages are often introverts: Being the musician you don't have to do conversation at parties.

  • @hughparker3971
    @hughparker3971 Před 3 lety +61

    Two things that exhaust me are people over taxing my attention, and expecting me to be like an extrovert. It is awesome when people see me for who I am and engage to be with me, not just to get my attention, or have some expectation for me to get some thrill out of having attention put on me.

  • @wupper1337
    @wupper1337 Před 3 lety +68

    For the longest time, I've been made fun of because I am an introvert and I aspire to be like you someday, but today my whole world has shifted it seems

    • @letsgoBrandon204
      @letsgoBrandon204 Před 3 lety +3

      Are they making fun because they think you're unskilled socially, or because you just tire sooner than they do?

  • @samann95014
    @samann95014 Před rokem +16

    Gives me hope. I am shy, awkward introvert but very ambitious and focused. We have our strengths as introverts.

  • @mightymight24
    @mightymight24 Před 3 lety +43

    I used to hate being an introvert but now I just love being one. Introverts can get shy, awkward, aloof all the things you can name but once you get to know them they're one of the genuine people you can find (I'm not generalizing anyone but introverts don't find joy in being the center of attention so you could always trust on their genuinity)

  • @roopsoops202
    @roopsoops202 Před 3 lety +42

    That chef thing he talked about I can really relate with as whenever there's some kind of event or gathering going on I always hide behind my cooking skills 😂

  • @priyanthawijeratne6508
    @priyanthawijeratne6508 Před 3 lety +77

    I believe no-one is 100% introvert or extrovert. Everyone has attributes of both. More prominent attributes of yours will make you an introvert or extrovert.

    • @hkicgh7277
      @hkicgh7277 Před 3 lety +9

      Who said there are 100% of either of the two?

    • @rydersonthestorm7175
      @rydersonthestorm7175 Před 3 lety

      cgh boom

    • @chrizles
      @chrizles Před 3 lety

      you can think like an extrovert and still be an introvert

    • @hannesk7800
      @hannesk7800 Před 2 lety

      I mean, how _could_ someone be "100% introverted" for example? Literally no one thinks in those terms. What would being "100%" introverted even mean? That you walk out the door, your neighbour says hi and you just _die?_ Of course there are different "stages" of introversion and extroversion, because people aren't programmed machines. The key difference is the experience of finding social interaction either fulfilling or draining. That's it. And as an introvert myself, I feel like one of the reasons for it is that I give a lot of attention and thought to every conversation I have, and I also generally don't like getting attention in everyday situations. And because of that, there are only so many conversations I can have before I'm "out of battery". Whereas extroverts seem to often be different in that they enjoy getting attention, and are often less focused in conversations, jumping from one person to the next, maybe even having multiple conversations at a time. At the end of the day, being introverted or extroverted isn't a personality. It's two different ways that the social part of your brain can be hardwired.

  • @HowGoodGodIs
    @HowGoodGodIs Před 9 měsíci +5

    I think the problem is how we associate hyperactivity or hyper-energy with good leadership. True leaders walk together with everyone, not ahead of everyone.

  • @davidhayden4743
    @davidhayden4743 Před 2 lety +2

    Reminds me of a story about Johnny Carson. He hated Hollywood parties. If he went you'd find him off in a corner talking to a couple people, or more likely showing them a card trick. But every evening, he was in millions of people's homes on their television and talked to the most famous and powerful people of his time.

  • @fatimaliban1877
    @fatimaliban1877 Před 3 lety +38

    As an introvert and social awkward persons this video gave the hope to continue what I doing, and there is nothing is wrong with.

  • @KennethEash
    @KennethEash Před rokem +7

    SPOT ON!!
    I think one key is understanding what's needed in the current moment, and showing up as needed. While also understanding how you recharge. An introvert isn't necessarily "anti-people", they just "recharge" best with some alone or quiet time.

  • @TobleroneCraft
    @TobleroneCraft Před 3 lety +6

    I’m the same way at parties, except I’m always asked “what’s wrong?”. Didn’t know there had to be something wrong to talk less...

  • @revolutionofordinaries
    @revolutionofordinaries Před 3 lety +94

    Introverts unite!

  • @stilliving
    @stilliving Před 3 lety +20

    I am impressed with the intensity of John Maxwell's listening. Knows more than everyone on that stage, hungrier for knowledge than everyone in that room. Awe inspiring.

  • @Kevin51611
    @Kevin51611 Před 3 lety +28

    When I was younger, I always thought I was different. I was shy and never outgoing, I'm not the type of person to start a conversation. As I got older and wiser, I realize I'm not different I just have a different personality type, but they don't teach you that as a young kid.

  • @TheOgrande
    @TheOgrande Před 3 lety +70

    This definitely helped me a lot. I am an introvert who is going into law. I was having second thoughts of not pursuing a career into law because I am an introvert. I feel at ease from watching this video

    • @SupremeSpicey6976
      @SupremeSpicey6976 Před 3 lety

      Have fun

    • @CockmageLVL99
      @CockmageLVL99 Před rokem

      How is your career going?

    • @HisMajesty99
      @HisMajesty99 Před rokem +1

      Johnny Depp’s Lawyer, Ben Chew, seemed like a fellow introvert, but he was also an exceptional lawyer! Don’t worry about being an introvert, use it to your strength!

  • @PracticalInspiration
    @PracticalInspiration Před 3 lety +25

    Self awareness and understanding your individual unique qualities is fundamental. Regardless of being introverted or extroverted, knowing what you can offer to others means you can be incredibly empowered either way

  • @Dr.AikenIsaac
    @Dr.AikenIsaac Před 7 měsíci +2

    I wake up with the 5 coins. I get recharged when I’m alone so that when I show up as my authentic self, I have something to give to someone else. When I’m done, I go home to my peaceful, quiet house with no pets or people other than me & my husband. I love children, so my students have been my kids. It works quite well to have love, energy, peace & quiet, & balance.👍🏾

  • @baseerulla764
    @baseerulla764 Před 3 lety +8

    'Undying belief in the cause'💯💐

  • @MistaSmith
    @MistaSmith Před 3 lety +15

    I think most people both gain energy from some interactions and lose energy from other interactions and a key is finding, filtering for and creating the interactions that give you energy. When the social batteries are empty it's important to recharge without too much interactions, true. I worry though, that labeling oneself as "introvert" makes one lose out on the opportunities that one could have had created without the label when having high social battery loads.

    • @iccotom
      @iccotom Před rokem

      i like this manner of thinking : when social battery is empty. Indeed this is how it feels, regardless of what caused (interesting to figure this out, not always possible), then it's time to recharge by yourself.

  • @theinterra
    @theinterra Před 2 lety +47

    Yes, agree with you. If you are an introvert try to reaching out one by one. Don't start with a group talking, just start with a person by person and then try to group. It gave you more confidence more than you ever imagine.
    Good Luck Guys. Hope it helps ❤️🔥

  • @rameshiyer1
    @rameshiyer1 Před 3 lety +5

    That's a good definition of an introvert / extrovert. If social interactions sap your energy you're an introvert, but if it boosts your energy then you're an extrovert. But there's another type called ambivert, who enjoy limited social interactions. Simon is not an introvert but an ambivert, and so am I.

  • @dumfriesspearhead7398
    @dumfriesspearhead7398 Před 3 lety +14

    0:14 Susan Cain's definition is taken from Carl Jung's definition of intro and extroversion.

  • @BryterTraining
    @BryterTraining Před 3 lety +15

    So leadership is basically a series of competencies and beliefs, regardless of personality traits which is what we focus on at our channel. I agree that a leader can be successful regardless of personality traits and how they re-energize.

    • @chingbachiller2613
      @chingbachiller2613 Před 3 lety +1

      Wow! I can relate. Thank you Simon.

    • @PeterJButko
      @PeterJButko Před 3 lety

      @Justin Lukas that may be your experience with people you’ve worked for, however I disagree that your definition is what the essence of leadership is about. Good leadership is a cluster of behaviours, skills, and responsibilities just as @brytertraining says. There are always good and bad leaders though. Hopefully you become one of the good ones.

  • @mujahidanwar7968
    @mujahidanwar7968 Před 3 lety +1

    Absolutely! the energy and charisma all these comes from undying believe in your cause and "Why". and the second thing is you learn what you don't have or unskilled at is through or from the ones who have or skilled at those things.

  • @IntrovertAmateur
    @IntrovertAmateur Před 3 lety +2

    Wow that was amazing. Basically what Simon sad I did make my own experience in small cases. But I would never find the worlds to formulate it like him. Just brilliant !

  • @anniesaspect
    @anniesaspect Před 3 lety +4

    This is so true, I find it so easy to talk and almost unconsciously one on one but recording videos is hard to do .. free though via words vs thinking before speaking. This was gd 👌🏽

  • @hideorgochic
    @hideorgochic Před 3 lety +10

    🤔I've never heard introversion characterized quite like this before. How it's about energy (and not so much solely about social awkwardness). That bit he said "an introvert wakes up in the morning w/ 5 coins, every social interaction they spent a coin at the end they're depleted" 🙊those words ring true for me!! I'm having an aha moment over here - I am an utterly, unreservedly, unequivocal INTROVERT🙈☺️

  • @altctrlscream
    @altctrlscream Před 3 lety +2

    Really needed to hear this today. Thanks Simon!

  • @AlternativeReality
    @AlternativeReality Před 3 lety +1

    You helped me shift my perspective and I am enjoying my life and others are enjoying why I am doing what I am doing! Thank you!

  • @MyK091
    @MyK091 Před 3 lety +9

    Quick 2 minute motivation 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @odisolveki7286
    @odisolveki7286 Před rokem +3

    Confidence is key. Introverts have quiet confidence and extroverts have loud confidence. It is assumed that all extroverts are confident by default. That's not true. The are lots of extroverts who waffle a lot of nothing at social gatherings. Introverts can have quiet confidence. When this confidence is delivered properly, their logic becomes impactul. Elon Musk always delivers logic and intelligence, and no one notices how shy and introverted he is.

  • @zenlotus8696
    @zenlotus8696 Před 2 lety

    I just love this guy. He can inspire just by talking. Love you Simon ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @w.954
    @w.954 Před 3 lety

    Thank you Simon. Bless you.

  • @suzannebryant3107
    @suzannebryant3107 Před rokem +4

    Absolutely 100% spot on!! I am an introvert & I limit my energy even with my own daughter & family!! I am my own company❤️ too many people, too much noise, lowers my vibration...

  • @fr33urmind54
    @fr33urmind54 Před 3 lety +13

    I love this! When he said "undying belief in your cause" I got chills. I could never explain this flat out need to accomplish this mission my souls has but he spoke to me just then.

  • @paulnielsen1592
    @paulnielsen1592 Před 2 lety +1

    2 of my favorite Leadership leaders on the same panel. Awesome. I have to fine more from this gathering.

  • @milanpb
    @milanpb Před 2 lety +2

    Love that! All great leaders - whether introvert or extravert - have an undying belief in their cause. Charisma is how much you're willing to devote to that. And if you have charisma you heave leadership. Powerful!

  • @shriefmageed7698
    @shriefmageed7698 Před 3 lety +11

    This is what I needed to hear as introvert i thought that I can neither be a leader nor a speaker i am really grateful that i found your channel

  • @SimonSchatten
    @SimonSchatten Před 3 lety +432

    Beginning of the video: Socially awkward is not introverted.
    End of the video: Look at Richard Branson - introvert! He's really awkward.

    • @0i0d
      @0i0d Před 3 lety +27

      lol I was thinking the same thing

    • @MooneLightEntertainment
      @MooneLightEntertainment Před 3 lety +35

      Chill. He's using the language of the General Public. That shouldn't be an issue.

    • @omatbaydaui722
      @omatbaydaui722 Před 3 lety +40

      he meant not "necessarily"

    • @arcguardian
      @arcguardian Před 3 lety +13

      @@MooneLightEntertainment Chill. it's not an issue, but it cuts directly against the statment he made in the beginning. It's ur loss if u don't see the irony.

    • @exhibitD79
      @exhibitD79 Před 3 lety +2

      Bwhaha. I just wrote the same thing. Hilarious.

  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek2568 Před rokem +2

    Spot on! The charisma is the undying belief in your cause! They do the talking and you eat the cheese!😊 Thank you. 😊

  • @dougyoung3213
    @dougyoung3213 Před 3 lety +1

    Wow that's is a very important example of how you find your passion , because imagine doing something that you love and would do for free, but just so happen to make a great living in the process 💯 percent 🎯🥂

  • @nomadnik8963
    @nomadnik8963 Před 3 lety +15

    I can listen to this man whole day... Amazing 😍

  • @CandyLemon36
    @CandyLemon36 Před 7 měsíci +3

    This content is impressive. I once read a book along the same lines that shifted my worldview. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn

  • @irenegroh3537
    @irenegroh3537 Před rokem +1

    YES!!!! This is the best explanation I've heard regarding introverts and extroverts! People tend to think that I'm an extrovert because I have a fun personality more one on one, but get me at a party and I will do the exact same thing you mentioned. People also don't get how I'm perfectly content being by myself. I have an in depth understanding of energy, but most people don't or are just beginning to understand, so explaining can take a little time.

  • @anabreseneuman
    @anabreseneuman Před 3 lety +1

    Awesome! Thank you! I've learned to balance my energy by not giving too much of it away. And sometimes, it varies right? Just listen to your body and take rest and quiet when it suits you. Move forward again to socialise when you feel your cup is full again. But I still have a firm belief and passion in my true North and that's what I'm devoted to.

  • @navalkumarshukla9447
    @navalkumarshukla9447 Před 3 lety +3

    The definition he just gave is actually quite an interesting one

  • @hpathak530
    @hpathak530 Před 3 lety +3

    This made me feel soo goood!

  • @xenialxerous2441
    @xenialxerous2441 Před 3 lety

    You are undoubtedly an exemplary human that I look up to, thanks

  • @JayDetti
    @JayDetti Před 3 měsíci

    Energy is one way; I certainly can see this.
    I just reflect on where I feel I’m my best self, and that’s never in the big meeting, it’s most often when I’m spending hours staring at that enormous spreadsheet finding the patterns and plotting the critical charts everyone else is missing.

  • @franklu8580
    @franklu8580 Před 3 lety +6

    Maxwell and Sinek in one panel? Must have been a great time.

  • @William_Clinton_Muguai
    @William_Clinton_Muguai Před 3 lety +5

    This is exactly what I needed coz I have always felt guilty for possessing all the xtics of an introvert. I have always tried to cover it by speaking a lot to friends & acquaintances but deep within, am feeling awkward. Thank God that now am comforted! Now I am completely comfortable with who I am.

  • @PassiveIncomeGeneratorPIG

    Thank you for this motivation.

  • @scott.594
    @scott.594 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Thank you,explains alot on who I am and plus answers many situation I end up in and feel I've wasted my ability and energy to someone or a company that don't appreciate it or don't see it that way . Any whoe, forwards we go,reintergized with great hopes and faith in what fuels one's self.and for that ,
    I thank the good lord and our creator of this universe for such an experience in my life time. Never look back, the end is always forwards, stay focused and never be discouraged by others,👋😀stand firm to the end.

  • @the10th90
    @the10th90 Před 3 lety +6

    I find it interesting him saying he can't "hold court" but can talk to people individually. I'm an introvert as well, but I'm the exact opposite. I have no problem with public speaking to a group (after years of practice) because the group generally follows your speech and the response is more as a collective. I have real problems speaking to people one-on-one because they expect actual answers to questions and for me to hold up my end of the conversation.

    • @dsfs17987
      @dsfs17987 Před 3 lety

      your problem is lack of confidence in what you're talking about - not a problem with groups, because they won't challenge you generally, but in one-on-one situations you are more likely to get into debate - and if you have problem with that - means you're unsure of yourself and your opinions - it has nothing to do with being extra or introvert

    • @borreholic7238
      @borreholic7238 Před 3 lety

      I'm totally like you in what you're describing, but I would guess with "hold court" he means being in the center of the conversation in a casual/party setting rather than speaking on stage (which you can prepare for). I myself would think I can give a prepared speech in a captivating way, but I wouldn't pull off being the center of everyone's attention in a dinner/party setting because of my captivating storytelling in a million years even if my life depended on it.

    • @the10th90
      @the10th90 Před 3 lety

      @@borreholic7238 Ohhhhhhhh, that makes a lot more sense, and I totally agree. Thanks for the insight!

  • @grantmccoy6739
    @grantmccoy6739 Před rokem +5

    I feel like the true cause of introversion and extroversion is how you are adapted to your environment. If the environment is hostile or you don't fit in, you are going to feel awkward and prolonged awkwardness leads to introversion. Likewise, if you fit in well and feel comfortable, you become open, engaging and confident. It leads to extroversion.
    It's just a form of interaction with your environment. Not a personality that is set in stone.

    • @biohomie369
      @biohomie369 Před rokem

      Yup I too believe that

    • @lukableecker4603
      @lukableecker4603 Před rokem

      i disagree

    • @skmanunited
      @skmanunited Před rokem +1

      I’m pretty sure I inherited my introversion from my dad while my brother is extroverted like our mother. Nature over nurture

    • @Artlove8900
      @Artlove8900 Před rokem +1

      Nah i believe its part of personality .u get it from parents .yeah enviroment and people contgibute hugely to this factor but there is nothing wrong with being introvert .its just like a normal personality type .

  • @AnantVSingh
    @AnantVSingh Před 3 lety +1

    I'm an introvert and my brother is extrovert!!! Best of both worlds for my mom and dad.❤️

  • @mandlankosi5198
    @mandlankosi5198 Před 3 lety

    "Undying belief in you cause "❤🙌🔥

  • @metalgarri4194
    @metalgarri4194 Před 3 lety +4

    I think people focus a lot on complementary character traits, as if being being an extrovert makes 90% of being a leader, for example. It seems that things like extremely high competence in a field would not play a role at all in leadership.

  • @swerndly
    @swerndly Před 2 lety +3

    People always tell introverts to be more talkative and leave their comfort zones. yet no one tells extroverts to shut up to make the zone comfortable.

  • @RamaKrishna-ue2jh
    @RamaKrishna-ue2jh Před 3 lety

    Fantastic Simon, as always. Cheers.

  • @mansisharma9030
    @mansisharma9030 Před rokem

    This is unresistable to not fall in love with the personality mr simon have !!!

  • @MysticaAriYena
    @MysticaAriYena Před 3 lety +12

    Oh! I need an extravert so I can get the cheese!! that's brilliant! 1:06 min in and I'm good. Thanks!

  • @Donna-C
    @Donna-C Před 3 lety +8

    The spending coins analogy for introverts & extroverts is the best description!
    I also prefer the word “introspective”.
    Prof Cheek - There are 4 shades of introversion:
    social, thinking, anxious, and restrained. And many introverts are a mix of all four types, rather than demonstrating one type over the others. STAR Model

  • @businessguide6219
    @businessguide6219 Před 3 lety +1

    Your videos are splendid! Thank you for giving me a new perspective to contemplate!

  • @razakovakbar
    @razakovakbar Před 3 lety

    thanks Simon, your words are changing my life!

  • @Paco_Avila27
    @Paco_Avila27 Před rokem +6

    I wake up with only one coin

  • @i_am_processing_
    @i_am_processing_ Před rokem +3

    I’m an introvert, and just reading through the comments makes me tired.

  • @joellalruatfela5911
    @joellalruatfela5911 Před 3 lety

    Thank you, Simon! 😮🙏🔥

  • @melvin8696
    @melvin8696 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I failed at public presentations and just because I seemed nervous and the reason probably I lost a lot of good job opportunities even tho I was qualify. Stay strong my introverts people you will get there eventually.

  • @SpringismySeason
    @SpringismySeason Před 3 lety +7

    I would have loved to have learned more! Being an introvert in the corporate world can be challenging. At my company 30% of your year end evaluation is based on being seen as a leader. Unfortunately, the activities and projects that are required for this type of engagement often have nothing to do with the day to day responsibilities of your job. Also, these projects add little value to the shareholders or employees of the company, and creates destructive competition with teammates. As an introvert it is difficult to stand out in this type of environment. You can excel in your job duties but if you aren't "seen" frequently among leadership you could be overshadowed by others who are better at playing the game. Accomplishments become less about merit and more about a popularity contest.

    • @AtheistEve
      @AtheistEve Před 3 lety

      What about moving to a company that’s run as a co-operative?

  • @chrisdavies274
    @chrisdavies274 Před 2 lety +3

    A big challenge for introvert leaders is having extroverts below them that question their leadership because they’re quieter than them… but my thinking is your more likely to listen to an introvert because it’s going to be more constructive and they pick their words more carefully, instead of rambling.

  • @johncarton3023
    @johncarton3023 Před 2 lety +2

    Make the most of who you are and what you have. Charisma comes from belief and commitment.

  • @sourishsaha8067
    @sourishsaha8067 Před 3 lety

    100% my case. Thanks for the advice

  • @Mashburn007
    @Mashburn007 Před 3 lety +21

    Classic trick , get an extrovert with you in a party , all introverts been there

  • @racaciaruth4460
    @racaciaruth4460 Před 3 lety +3

    Yes wow 💕. It's about the energy being depleted or replenished. I lose my energy but refuel by being alone. I love it Simon ❤️. 🙏 Give all of it always. Cheers to passion and charisma. 🙏

  • @FOD832
    @FOD832 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Wow wow wow 😯 💯 he has literally unlocked 🔓 the door for all introvert’s.

  • @ShelleyM007
    @ShelleyM007 Před 3 měsíci

    Beautifully explained!

  • @xDSTRYRx
    @xDSTRYRx Před 3 lety +3

    How in the heck did I just learn so much about myself in two minutes and thirty-five seconds?!?!

  • @UnleashthePhury
    @UnleashthePhury Před 3 lety +34

    Introvert: social interaction takes energy from you.
    Extrovert: social interaction gives you energy.
    Yes. Sounds exactly right.
    My wife is an extrovert. She gets excited to go to parties and events, and could stay until 2am if you let her.
    I’m an introvert. I get excited when it’s time to leave.

    • @rydersonthestorm7175
      @rydersonthestorm7175 Před 3 lety +2

      I hate it lol. Sometimes I go to my wife's parents and I just pray for it to be over for like six hours.

    • @dsfs17987
      @dsfs17987 Před 3 lety +1

      I get all excited when just an idea is being proposed of going somewhere, and excited not about the going part, but how to avoid it altogether
      I don't know much about the person in this video, but he speaks way too much for an introvert, so I'd say he is full of it, he is bending the perception to suit his agenda which seems to be famous I guess - that doesn't fit any introvert definition I know

    • @JR-gb6no
      @JR-gb6no Před 3 lety

      @@dsfs17987 I have watched a few of his videos and he seems like a huckster to me.

  • @jenniferbates2811
    @jenniferbates2811 Před 3 lety +1

    👋 Extrovert here, my best friend is an introvert. That definition is perfect. I work 2 customer service jobs, so I talk alot, but I'm an amazing listener and I have a great memory. I'm going to college for psychology and sexual science. I love this video so much! You sir, have a new subscriber!!!😁

  • @rydersonthestorm7175
    @rydersonthestorm7175 Před 3 lety +16

    Being an introvert has nothing to do with social skills. There are socially awkward extraverts too. Introverts just prefer small groups or being alone to large groups since solace and deep connection is how we recharge. Nothing more, nothing less.

    • @winoneformebammer1980
      @winoneformebammer1980 Před 3 lety +2

      But then how can I feel sorry for myself and dismiss my social awkwardity as my natural programming?
      I was one of those people. The more I try to remove my “filter” and just express what’s on my mind, the more most people like me. And then I like being out more and feel more confident.
      It’s made me wonder if I’m actually an introvert, or just a person who is socially awkward and too lazy or fearful to hang with others.

    • @rydersonthestorm7175
      @rydersonthestorm7175 Před 3 lety +1

      @@winoneformebammer1980 I guess it just comes down to whether you are comfortable by yourself. My wife hates being alone even for a few days. I can be happy as a clam by myself. It's just a matter of taste I guess.

    • @kayondothomas7343
      @kayondothomas7343 Před 3 lety

      @@rydersonthestorm7175 There's no such thing as an introvert, everyone has topics they're passionate about and if you hit that button boy will they talk all day. Introverts are called so because no one talks about what they're passionate about...I know coz am an "introvert".

  • @missmessy3
    @missmessy3 Před 3 lety +7

    I've always said that I love talking to people individually, for example group chats are boring but chatting with each one of them alone is interesting, I'm an introvert but I didn't know it's an introvert think I thought it's a me thing 🤭

    • @spiral5650
      @spiral5650 Před 3 lety

      You could be an ambivert which is a mix of the 2.

    • @markcharron3036
      @markcharron3036 Před 3 lety

      Please can you invite me to any of your groups

  • @erickahidalgo3144
    @erickahidalgo3144 Před 3 měsíci

    I feel the impact of his message 💜thank you 😊

  • @Sippin777
    @Sippin777 Před 3 lety +2

    That can be a very eye opening two minutes if you were never given the true meaning of introversion.
    Good clip.
    Susan’s book is great.

  • @jinalparikh5402
    @jinalparikh5402 Před 3 lety +5

    I love simon! Really admire his thoughts, always have, but here he contradicted himself. Initially he said that introversion and extroversion is all about energy lost or gained due to social interactions.. but then while talking about examples for introvert leaders, he gave examples on the basis of how awkward they are in social settings. Something to think about. Just an observation.

    • @thulasikumar9908
      @thulasikumar9908 Před 3 lety +1

      I think Simon is talking w.r.t socially presentable.

    • @feintfoot1589
      @feintfoot1589 Před 3 lety +4

      i think he meant to give examples based on the popular definition, examples which everyone will accept, not just those with the correct, energy-based, definition of introversion

    • @dumfriesspearhead7398
      @dumfriesspearhead7398 Před 3 lety +1

      I don't see the contradiction. Being socially awkward can also come from being drained from social interaction and trying to fit in.

    • @guybrushthreepwood3173
      @guybrushthreepwood3173 Před 3 lety +1

      He did contradict himself because he was using their social awkwardness as evidence of their introversion despite at the beginning claiming there is no such link. Most people I know who are socially awkward are introverts, I don’t see anything controversial about that claim. However - and maybe this is the point he is trying to make - that doesn’t mean all introverts are socially awkward and it doesn’t mean all extroverts are socially confident.