How To Never Run Out Of Things To Say - Verbal Game, Storytelling And Flirting

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  • čas přidán 6. 09. 2024
  • I love words... and my game reflects that. I'm firmly of the belief that what you say DOES matter and I want to teach you how to have the right tools to have the right things to say. Hopefully you find these guidelines and tips at least a fraction as useful as I have.

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  • @publiusvelocitor4668
    @publiusvelocitor4668 Před 5 lety +5034

    Any girls on this channel, take note: this is how much energy and effort guys put into going up and talking to you.

    • @MsReegee
      @MsReegee Před 5 lety +315

      Lol 😂 as a girl I learn so much about human nature and use this on guys.

    • @astrixx
      @astrixx Před 5 lety +171

      No guys puts this much effort. Anyone that follows this advice is like .001% of the guy population. STFU.

    • @theredninja2817
      @theredninja2817 Před 5 lety +262

      @@astrixx then why are you watching didn't you put more than zero 0.1%shouldn't you not be watching it or reading I mean I'm putting in effort all men put in effort people put in all kinds of effort you shouldn't try to make someone feel bad

    • @tsukiya_0
      @tsukiya_0 Před 5 lety +111

      However guys who put the effort to do this get the widest option of chicks as well lol

    • @pckroezen
      @pckroezen Před 5 lety +206

      What girls bring to the table besides sex?

  • @henrikviktorsson
    @henrikviktorsson Před 4 lety +1052

    “Sex with me is like a roller coaster, there are pictures taken of you when you least expect it” 😂😂😂😂 This one cracked me completely

    • @marselshtylla
      @marselshtylla Před 4 lety +8

      not a native speaker what does this mean

    • @onemonth8644
      @onemonth8644 Před 4 lety +14

      Marsel Shtylla I’m not really sure but in roller coasters they take pictures of your reaction when there is a big drop or scary moment so when you least expect it and the same thing when having sex, pictures taken when you least expect it

    • @guitar300k
      @guitar300k Před 3 lety +2

      I don't understand how this works?

    • @dhruveshs5759
      @dhruveshs5759 Před 3 lety +4

      totally different video bro😭😭

    • @slickcatricky7694
      @slickcatricky7694 Před 3 lety +2

      😂

  • @weirdandtrue4441
    @weirdandtrue4441 Před 6 lety +820

    Quick notes for myself and others:
    1) Assume the burden (90%/10%) and be willing to talk.
    - Come with the intention to give a good experience and have great sex (win-win). Study and appreciate language on your own time.
    2) Tell a good story:
    situation, interruption, change. Develop bullet points, have great specific details.
    3) Humor.
    -Go beyond the obvious and observe the nonverbals.
    -Emphasize different words in the same sentences. Learn the setup and punch, and 3 point rule and etc.
    -Learn how to exaggerate well by taking something mundane, take it to a new direction. -Improv format is to observe something unsual, justify it and if this is true, then this must be true. *Important* Have high value humor. Do not self depreciate yourself humor.
    -Develop alpha male humor. *Also important* You don't have to be hilarious. It's more important to be interesting and high value than funny and low value. Use humor with escalation.
    -How you deliver and what the context is helps dictate this. With a smile and sarcasm, you can disqualify her.
    4) Flirting. Tools of the trade:
    - It's an attitude you use that is playful. Without serious intentions.
    - Physical flirting is following attitude first, technique second (just like verbal flirting)
    - PUSH PULL = I love you, I hate you. Negative first, positive next and vice versa. "You have a nice shirt, you must be trying to impress someone."
    - Cold read and exaggerating = Look at their reaction with the open. Justify it and work with it.
    - Misinterpretation: Treating something mundane and taking it sexual.
    Exercise: Sex with me is like.....
    - FRAME: Control how the interaction will be treated as or the purpose of the conversation as. Set it up at the beginning where it's not boring. Make it playful and not make it logical or boring. Continue to play with the idea that she is trying to seduce you or you are trying to have it fun and you're sick of girls hitting on you.
    - Presuppositions: Assuming things that are true. Make that interaction you want.
    - Plotlines: Creating general drama during the entire interaction. Tension and drama.
    5) Practice. Attitude: light hearted, fun, and trying new things. Be playful. Love words and find the richness in language.

  • @survive678
    @survive678 Před 6 lety +593

    I love how he breaks everything down scientifically

    • @J040PL7
      @J040PL7 Před 5 lety +17

      @Brexit Monger you're looking at it the wrong way, everything can be broken down to its science in theory, how you translate it to practice is you make it seem like you never studied it by making it look natural.

    • @afonsodeportugal
      @afonsodeportugal Před 5 lety +26

      @Brexit Monger
      You must be fun at parties.

    • @streetough
      @streetough Před 5 lety +7

      @Brexit Monger Maybe in your experience. I've personally witnessed people that had virtually zero social skills blossom. Sometimes knowing certain steps or viewing social skills in a different way IN ADDITION to practice helpful. Just consulting your "handy notebook" isn't helpful without the work

    • @channelmin3cr4ft
      @channelmin3cr4ft Před 5 lety +2

      @Brexit Monger I know your just judging the lifestyle more than Todd himself, but for the record, Todd does have a wife and a kid. As I understand, they are in an open relationship, and occasionally indulge in three ways with a guest partner, in addition to Todd gaming on the side for pleasure and business. This is further elaborated on in Todd's "Relationship Manifesto" found on his CZcams channel.
      Honestly, it seems like a pretty happy way to live as long as you know yourself, manage your attention, and find a person who is satisfied with the lifestyle as much as you are.

    • @leono7416
      @leono7416 Před 5 lety +4

      @Brexit Monger what the hell are you even doing on a pick up channel? You obviously have no idea how you can transform from a antisocial weeb to an actual alpha male
      It is possible with practice, repetition and science to explain why certain things work and dont work
      There is science in everything.
      There is a book called
      "How to win friends and influence people".. that in it self can be broken down into science

  • @akumamatataaa
    @akumamatataaa Před 3 lety +221

    You know you've told a bad story when you hear "I find the defendant guilty of all charges" and now you're serving 9 consecutive life sentences

  • @user-qb1si3lq8y
    @user-qb1si3lq8y Před 2 lety +148

    Summary:
    Assuming the burden
    -you need to be willing to talk 90% if she's not yet interested
    -flirting is like a lawn mower
    -decide to make the conversation happen, push through 20 seconds even when it's awkward
    --short term --(energy and will)
    --long term -- (material, pattern, delivery)
    Proactivity of frame
    -desire for outcome is necessary (good outcome) -- get to the point don't just talk about anything, it's like a carsman talks not about cars but his family, hobbies etc.
    (The good outcome needs to be for both of you)
    -random conversations lead to random results = poor results
    -appreciate language
    Everytime you hear quotes, jokes, phrases write them down
    - study stand up comedy (write down lines)
    Point is the principle
    Part 2
    Storytelling and "Being interesting"
    -show high value and create comfort to have sex with her
    It's a paradox
    But storytelling is good for both things
    Structure of a story:
    Situation -> interruption -> change
    -don't just communicate facts
    -a one-minute story can be told in ten or vice versa
    -there need to be some bullet point to let the story exist
    -just remember the bullet points
    The secret's in the specific!
    -add specifics to little things (hamburger example)
    ----- book: zen and the art of motorcyle maintenance
    20:05
    -you have to have depth in story to really communicate (emotional specific)
    -imagine yourself in the story you're telling
    -Improv Comdey is great for learning specifying
    -make it real as you play it
    Part 3: humor
    -don't brag in your story, you don't need to look good in story, the story will make you look good
    -lead through your story
    - take opportunities when they come (walking past eachother story (100% perfect girl story)
    -for a story to be good, you need to like the story yourself!
    Penetrate the Ostensible
    -be aware of multiple meanings (what are you doing for a living? -teacher -are you sure?), Words, phrases, intonations
    -don't treat conversation as literal
    Specific formats
    -setup/punch
    Creating a pattern and surprise is the joke
    -Rule of 3
    3 creates a good pattern, that you can destroy later
    -callback humor
    -impressions
    Etc.
    -when you hear something funny understand what was funny and appreciate it
    What's exaggeration
    -just exaggerate
    Improv Format
    -when do a scene, firdt should be normal
    1.look out for the first unusual thing
    -observe what's happening
    -you always get information, use it
    2. Justify
    -interepret something into the thing you observed
    3. If this is true what else is true
    -you don't have to be
    hilarious in game (it seems tryhard), just need to havr a more interesting than normal conversation
    -try to be interesting
    High value Humor
    -self-deprecating humor defeats the man purpose of game, it'll work against you
    -don't become the clown
    Humor and escalation
    -you can get away with (almost) everything if it's funny
    Part 4: Flirting
    How to differentiate between high and low value humor:
    -delivery and past circumstance
    (If she could believe your not self confidence, don't make jokes like: yeah, i'm a bit boring)
    -create tension but bad tension needs to be lessened
    Flirt ~ definition:
    To court *triflingly* or act *amorously*, *without serious intentions*; play atlove; coquet.
    -have a flirty tone
    -try rephrasing stuff in a flirty kind of way
    -touch can be relevant
    Flirting is an attitude first
    -the keyword is *playful*
    Push-pull
    -you're sitting in a tensed way, seems like you're focused, thats cool
    > If it's positive make it negative and the other way around
    Cold read and exaggerate
    -- firdt thing to say: hey; hey excuse me
    +UCB improv exercise
    > Interpret things into the behavior when saying hi
    Misinterpretation
    -sex with me is like exercise
    Frame > Technique
    - frame: excuse me, I saw you look over and wanted to help you get over your shyness
    -needs to be playful, out of the ordinary
    -get out of the boring
    -just ideas, you can approach normally
    Frame = the thing that controls the meaning: i'm trying to pick you up; you're trying to pick me up; I'm over girls, convince me, that i shouldn't be; etc. etc.
    =Idea of the purpose of the conversation
    Presuppositions
    -what are you assuming is true (do you find yourself attractice, try to assume something wrong and she needs to convince you)
    Plotlines
    -gives tension
    -adds spice and let's you get into right direction
    Like: "why are you so cute, I'm trying to resist women"
    !!!!Practice!!!!
    Without all these informations are to much
    Practice one after a time
    Have fun, be light harded
    Love words more and try to play with them

  • @mav6232
    @mav6232 Před 6 lety +467

    thanks a lot bro! good to see u cranking out the content- hope its win/win for u
    timestamp:
    0:00 goal of this talk
    1:15 attitude and philosophy
    assume the burden , 90-10 b4 hook point
    book todd talks about is 'making people talk'
    lawn mower analogy and percieving in the start of interactions
    + my sports analogy i always talk about! thats crzy!
    4:50 proactivity of frame- outcome independence , half hour convo to nowhere + showing intent
    great point + car salesman analogy which is gold3n!
    have a outcome- it must be win/win
    7:15 appreciate language, personal wit journal / study stand up
    11:00 value/comfort - story stelling
    12:35 structure of a story
    14:00 story- 16:50 u can make your stories conscise or long
    18:33 the secret is in the specifics like max said - sing a song and paint a picture
    oh and dhv without context is not effective
    25:00 u have to seize the moment- brilliant story
    30:35 go beyond the obvious
    33:35 specific format- set up punch, rule of 3, call back humor etc

  • @flamesaldanha8360
    @flamesaldanha8360 Před 6 lety +823

    Todd,
    Just wanna let you know this is one of your best videos. Guys charge a fortune for teaching this stuff. I'm really happy your sharing such massive value. Much respect for you. God bless you.

    • @reimaderazo8186
      @reimaderazo8186 Před 6 lety +17

      He will charge soon, Don't you worry. It's marketing: you give massive value then you take value afterwards. He has really good content though.

    • @flamesaldanha8360
      @flamesaldanha8360 Před 6 lety +29

      RG LM
      It's ok if he charges there is nothing wrong in it. He's worked 10+ years to learn this knowledge. Unfortunately when a lot of people get something for free they do not value what they get. Also they fail to take action. But if pay for something you feel the pinch. But again if your someone who takes action regularly this is great stuff.

    • @user-jg6bn3mj6f
      @user-jg6bn3mj6f Před 6 lety +13

      I would absolutely pay for the content that comes. Granted it's not outrageously expensive

    • @mjcube1830
      @mjcube1830 Před 3 lety

      It is. But he's gonna charge

    • @jacksonzheng3103
      @jacksonzheng3103 Před 3 lety +2

      he already charged the people attending the seminar, he's actually just repurposing the footage to make more money from AdSense. It's not a bad thing but I'm just saying good things in life don't come for free

  • @aluumina
    @aluumina Před rokem +131

    TIMESTAMPS (I'm surprised this video has so many view but no stamps)
    00:05 Part 1: Verbal Chrisma (+intro)
    10:58 Part 2: Storytelling and how to be interesting
    24:02 Storytelling Q&A
    30:35 Part 3: Humor
    43:45 Humor Q&A
    47:00 Part 4: Flirting
    I'm going to come back to these now and then and will fill em out more (unless anyone wants to help me in the comments :D)

  • @mog882
    @mog882 Před 3 lety +67

    No matter how much game you have, especially if it’s a “dry spell,“ it’s good to watch some of these videos to brush up on your skills. Even if you learn just one thing it was worth it.

  • @negvey
    @negvey Před 6 lety +714

    Todd with this free content... youredoing gods work my friend

  • @initiatorhater0688
    @initiatorhater0688 Před 6 lety +461

    conversation-skill should be taught in our formative years in the education system or have programs in the community that put strong emphasis on this, I feel they matter more than math, history or science.

    • @Kochos
      @Kochos Před 6 lety +3

      initiatorhater0688 people skills is the one

    • @mrcookie97
      @mrcookie97 Před 5 lety +30

      It's not an education system anymore but a teaching system. They test your memory and capacity to memorize information and instructions useful to solving problems. They don't give a shit about you being educated or not

    • @Acsion42
      @Acsion42 Před 5 lety +20

      It is. As opposed to math or science, social competency has the universal potential to improve your standing.
      Sure, some people can take advantage of their understanding of math and science to become successful, but most people can’t.
      The thing about our educational system that people need to understand is that it’s goal is NOT to make more successful happy individuals, it’s to manufacture employees.
      If everyone had skills to make their own way in a social world there wouldn’t be nearly enough desperate marks to con.

    • @mariawoods1047
      @mariawoods1047 Před 4 lety +1

      Your sarcasm @Brexit Monger! So refreshing.

    • @n8likesmath
      @n8likesmath Před 4 lety +1

      You have to be educated in these subjects to get at least a decent job...

  • @karaokeforyou4
    @karaokeforyou4 Před 2 lety +11

    - Flirting is an attitude first (keyword Playful)
    - Push Pull (I Love you, I hate you), also works via Bodylanguage . Creating a Rollercoaster of Emotions, while giving subtle signs of interest
    - Notice subtle things (Physical apperance, Clothing/Accessories, Body Language, Actions of her (weak handshake) and playfully exaggerate them or assume other traits etc. of her based on that
    - Cold Read/ Assumptions of her Personality or what she does (hobbies, job etc)
    - purposeful misinterpretations and sexual innuendos (when possible in a sexual way [you can find the sexual in almost everything])
    -- having a flirty Frame (going in with an interesting/funny/non-serious Frame to play) [a bad/lame frame example: "Im trying to pick you up - a better frame : " You are trying to pick me up"]

  • @lou7980
    @lou7980 Před 3 lety +68

    “Imagine going to a car salesman and he starts talking to you about your family for 20 mimutes” great point lmaoooooo

  • @scottm2553
    @scottm2553 Před 3 lety +8

    This guy speaks from a rare, genuine perspective. I'm so glad I found this video.

  • @sydneybeaa
    @sydneybeaa Před 3 lety +299

    This is aimed at men dating, but I’m using it to become a more interesting streamer lol

    • @j_jones_
      @j_jones_ Před 3 lety +31

      Seduction is life in a way

    • @restlessmind8921
      @restlessmind8921 Před 3 lety +11

      There is a lot of interesting information in here that i think can help everybody. Its helping me improve my communication skills which is , just like for you , a key part of my work as a real estate agent.

    • @DESTRAKON
      @DESTRAKON Před 3 lety +2

      Smart

    • @salman__1909
      @salman__1909 Před 3 lety +1

      And yet, u have one subscriber

    • @sydneybeaa
      @sydneybeaa Před 3 lety +12

      @@salman__1909 I got more than you OoOoOo, no but actually this is my personal account lol. I’m not super successful at streaming or anything, I’m just doing it for fun anyways

  • @BrianChoiOfficial
    @BrianChoiOfficial Před 6 lety +189

    This is an incredible inside scoop of one of Todd's greatest strengths. Great video

  • @armin38822
    @armin38822 Před 4 lety +17

    I've listented to so many damn podcasts,just hours and hours and hours and hours of many,MANY different podcasts. And by now,I can literarly talk for hours with anybody. Comes naturally. And I can shift in witch direction I wanna talk the conversation at any time. I remember talking to a girl for 7 hours straight. Literarly all night.

    • @awaisamjad119
      @awaisamjad119 Před 4 lety +2

      Any recommendations??

    • @armin38822
      @armin38822 Před 4 lety +3

      @@awaisamjad119 I'm interested in skateboarding and basketball so that's where I've listented to a ton of conversations. That's how I learned english. But my main source of podcasting was joe rogan expirence. I was early with that pod,around 2014 and it helped me a lot on how to carry a conversation. But that is not enough usually if you want to attract a girl. Talking is great but you have to be able to flirt,tease be funny etc. That's a whole another game lol . But being able to talk,I think in the long run matters more. In the start,flirting is more important.

  • @glenvalley4326
    @glenvalley4326 Před 3 lety +9

    Few guys are so eloquent that they use the right word every time not even great orators can do it.

  • @simondayan2737
    @simondayan2737 Před rokem +2

    I realized these convo skills go far beyond game with women they relate to work, negotiations and even just meeting friends in a new place.

  • @jasonharvey4028
    @jasonharvey4028 Před 3 lety +61

    I feel guilty for not paying for this valuable, life changing information.

    • @bobopatchnosuke229
      @bobopatchnosuke229 Před 2 lety +1

      I shockingly only discovered about him now which I feel so sad about, this guy knows what he is talking about, his 5 minute video on the difference between flirting and teasing helped me, this guy is insanely good😭

    • @Guus115
      @Guus115 Před rokem +1

      I'll send you my paypal

  • @Mr06261984
    @Mr06261984 Před 6 lety +184

    i enjoy how he doesn't sound like a salesperson

    • @theupthere9989
      @theupthere9989 Před 6 lety +27

      I'm a very good salesman and most customers tell me "I don't sound like a salesman at all" :) True for most good salesmen.

    • @mjcube1830
      @mjcube1830 Před 3 lety +6

      He's a sales person

    • @davidpinontoan3429
      @davidpinontoan3429 Před 3 lety +6

      To not sound like a sales man is a true sales man 🥷🏿

  • @josuastangl7140
    @josuastangl7140 Před 6 lety +143

    21:48 good storys are like ass
    "It has to have some depth to it"

  • @anonymousunknown7845
    @anonymousunknown7845 Před 5 lety +22

    "Find the play in every word, every sentence and intonation."

  • @mikefromflorida8357
    @mikefromflorida8357 Před měsícem

    Thank you for not suppressing the profanity. It adds to the context.

  • @SammyCee23
    @SammyCee23 Před 6 lety +26

    Someone once said words are the best aphrodisiac for a woman ;)
    Thank you for the value in this video, Todd

    • @annmarieknapp
      @annmarieknapp Před 5 lety +2

      If a man can hold an intelligent, but playful conversation that does pique interest. It has to seem genuine and not phony for me to listen. The best game to get a woman's attention is not to play a game. Just be genuine and actually care.

    • @javohirabdurazakov6957
      @javohirabdurazakov6957 Před 5 lety +5

      annmarieknapp thats the whole point of game, to do it right you need to care

  • @Jay-ef2ii
    @Jay-ef2ii Před rokem +1

    It is all about the details along with putting heart into what you say to the ladies. January 1, 2023. North America.

  • @orestis6420
    @orestis6420 Před 3 lety +6

    You had me during the first 30 seconds when you said that people are going to appreciate and ''love'' Language just a little bit more at the end of this..Nice work!

  • @flip7428
    @flip7428 Před 3 lety +16

    This is an impressive video, one of the highest value adding videos i've ever come across. Real-life situational advice, love it.

  • @Nico-eb1ev
    @Nico-eb1ev Před 6 lety +23

    Good explainations and those simple examples (buying/selling the car f.e.) and small but important notes (why and how the 90/10 rule is temporary important) really helped me seeing my mistakes. I did so much right but those small things I misunderstood lead me wrong all the time. Real, useful and applicable instructions!

  • @aurelionicoletti4614
    @aurelionicoletti4614 Před 4 lety +12

    Todd you are a legend man so much value in this clip thank you. Respect for your expertise in your craft.

  • @DmitryHimself
    @DmitryHimself Před 6 lety +37

    Simply gold.

  • @AjayKumar-id7mb
    @AjayKumar-id7mb Před rokem +1

    Notes and Material
    7:50 wit journal and study stand up comedy, collect phrases, study format of jokes, collect few jokes
    11:00 Story Telling
    Structure of story
    Situation - interruption - change
    One minute story
    Remember the bluepoints 123
    Imagine yourself in story and feelings
    19:00
    improv comedy
    24:25 Social Proof Story
    Story that leads to something better
    33:40
    Specific format of Humour
    Setup/punch Steven Wright
    Rule of 3
    Callback Humour
    Impression
    37:55
    Use jokes to exaggerate
    38:00
    Improv Format
    1.Find something unusual
    2.Justify with example
    3.
    42:35
    High Value Humour Dan Cook
    43:10
    Humour and Escalation
    Shit Test
    47:40
    Flirting
    Humor and Escalation
    50:00
    Push pull
    50:51
    Cold Read and Exaggerate
    53:00
    Misinterpretation

  • @yeonhokang7719
    @yeonhokang7719 Před 4 lety +6

    you answered a lot of questions when you covered the telling a story part. thank you friend

  • @pooiertje
    @pooiertje Před 4 lety +1

    Its always great when you first think that 1 hour is way to long to watch and then the hour is over allready. Great information. THanx bro

  • @Trent717250
    @Trent717250 Před 3 lety +7

    I love "parasite" phrases and I'm digging Todd's constant repetition of "does that make sense" :D
    Joking aside, brilliant content!

  • @West1010
    @West1010 Před 6 měsíci

    So much information here. First step, appreciating language in the way he talks about. Keeping notes for interesting turn of phrases, jokes, stories & reviewing it. Like a comic would for standup but in everyday life.

  • @srghma
    @srghma Před 4 lety +9

    Books:
    - how to make people speak
    - Zen of motorcycle
    1. Bear conversation when conversation stalls.
    2. There should be an outcome.
    3. "Girl I love you" destroys value.
    4. Story has situation, interruption and change. If no - it's pointless
    5. Good story - story without bragging
    6. Story about girl and boy, you should catch a moment, you have control in life
    Setup punch (normal, not), 3 punch list (norm, norm, norm, not)
    Observe unusual (can find everywhere), exaggerate, make assumptions
    Good comedians for game - not self deprecating
    Dane Cook, dont be clown
    Flirt: repeat her, "you are hot thing flying through a universe"
    Sex with me it's like a...

    • @srghma
      @srghma Před 4 lety +1

      Frames:
      - you looked at me
      - you are bored
      - talk in statements, not questions

    • @acharich
      @acharich Před 3 lety

      🔥💎🔥📝🔥🔑🔥

    • @bobopatchnosuke229
      @bobopatchnosuke229 Před 2 lety

      @@srghma assumptions instead of questions, I was taught this but I'm still trying to learn this

  • @rob28882
    @rob28882 Před 4 lety +2

    I have watched so many videos about conversation skills that tell me to do this and that. But never seem to teach me the thought process to how to get there or how to build my own plan of action through understanding what I need to work on. All the others seemed to be in a foreign language to me. Thank you.

  • @dudewat212
    @dudewat212 Před 6 lety +74

    That's Good game. 🔥

  • @wilfredocarlos2822
    @wilfredocarlos2822 Před 5 lety +8

    Todd you are an angel amongst men. Thank you for this. I hope good karma will take care of you. Cheers

  • @xavierlopez6545
    @xavierlopez6545 Před 4 lety +4

    What’s a story
    1 situation, something happening
    2 interruptions, something interrupts it
    3 and someone or something is changed by it

  • @lewestbrick8638
    @lewestbrick8638 Před 2 lety

    carry convo at beginning (be willing to carry 90% at start)
    first thing you say might suck so try again
    have desire for outcome(get to the point)
    have frame to conversation(random convos=random boring outcomes)
    STORYTELLING
    builds value and cormfort
    story =situation and how it changed you or change
    get bullet point from your own other person story(tell the story in bullet points)

  • @ToddVDating
    @ToddVDating  Před 6 lety +192

    It's tough to do anything like a comprehensive treatment of verbal game, because it's such a rich subject, but consider this a good primer on the topic. I hope it helps your game massively, and I hope it helps you to appreciate words and language a bit more. And for more insane FREE content, be sure to check out toddwinnergame.com

    • @user-jg6bn3mj6f
      @user-jg6bn3mj6f Před 6 lety

      It's excellent Todd! I've been looking for a good tutorial on improving storytelling for a while. The examples help a lot to! I put this to the test at work tonight and had some awesome results already

    • @uribalsam1081
      @uribalsam1081 Před 6 lety +2

      Todd V Dating there's a book you might like called There's A Word For It. Since you're interested in language.

    • @gabrielcodina6188
      @gabrielcodina6188 Před 6 lety +1

      Can we get a powerpoint download.

    • @SammyCee23
      @SammyCee23 Před 6 lety +1

      They say words are the best aphrodisiac for a woman :)

    • @renandomingues16
      @renandomingues16 Před 6 lety +15

      Hey Todd, Can you add English subtitles to this video? It would help who is not a native English speaker. Check out rev.com , they do it. With the English subtitles, I can make the Portuguese subtitles for this video.
      Thanks!

  • @bishalchaudhary6523
    @bishalchaudhary6523 Před měsícem

    OPENING:
    -Cold read and exaggerate
    • Use witty lines
    • start storytelling
    - Add humor: Callback humour, punch lines
    -Go beyond the obvious: Use exaggeration
    - 1 min Stories can be extends to 10 min long and vice versa
    - Add small details in the story
    - Don't act like secret agent, have fun and banter
    - Convey value with story-telling like pre-selected, having options of females
    - show her intent, compliment her and don't over validate her
    - Use push pull
    - Don't be hilarious, be interesting
    • Flirting
    - misinterpretation
    - Create sexual tension
    - Proximity, eye contact, smile, voice tonality, and body language
    - Body rocking sometimes

  • @Yamikaiba123
    @Yamikaiba123 Před 5 lety +982

    How to never run out of things to say: have ADHD.

    • @sumira8669
      @sumira8669 Před 5 lety +94

      It's actually really interesting to learn game with ADHD, because it's really easy to be empathetic and have a great humor, but on the other hand there are many challenges, i.e. not getting stressed out during the night

    • @dramatriangle
      @dramatriangle Před 5 lety +3

      @@sumira8669 good point.

    • @alaplaya5
      @alaplaya5 Před 4 lety +2

      Not if you had ads

    • @deswill2737
      @deswill2737 Před 4 lety +20

      Sadly ADHD fades away over the years once you become an andult it's not nearly as strong as it used to be

    • @ZoidBorgir
      @ZoidBorgir Před 4 lety +1

      I wish

  • @aluumina
    @aluumina Před rokem

    Self notes for me to come back to
    More advanced openers than a direct approach:
    50:26 - push pull
    52:25 - cold approach and exaggerate

  • @paulsanantoniotexas2926
    @paulsanantoniotexas2926 Před 6 lety +8

    Please keep coaching and teaching Todd!

  • @jholliday3
    @jholliday3 Před 3 lety +1

    I believe everyone would like to have a positive outcome. But by outcome independent they mean not quitting after rejection. I have a sales story I use of a bad experience with a small organization then getting a big deal with a multinational company on the next call. You do a good job of breaking things down practically.

  • @MrAntifunctional
    @MrAntifunctional Před 5 lety +8

    I would've liked more on the subject on how to never run out of things to say.

    • @attilaseyfullah8522
      @attilaseyfullah8522 Před 3 lety

      Think about stuff when you're alone. For this to work, you need to be alone a few hours each day.

  • @jeffreytruckenmiller2284

    These videos are great for men at any level that they are at in life. I appreciate your humane approach towards people in general and the general gist I get from these is that you want everyone to be fulfilled. Thanks dude!

  • @tkushhhnigga
    @tkushhhnigga Před 6 lety +5

    aye bro the whole community love you and we appreciate what you're doing, I feel guilty even asking but one manifesto we all drooling for is a Validation Manifesto, all your manifestos have a fuck ton of value and show us how to and gives us all the contextual framework for how to use what tour teaching but a validation manifesto would be next level

  • @antonioortizburciaga1158
    @antonioortizburciaga1158 Před 6 lety +18

    When Todd asked who knew about the concepts of Value and Confort and almost no one raised their hand, I knew I'm old.

  • @denis3208
    @denis3208 Před 6 lety +4

    Thank you Todd, this leads from outter game fine point others omit right into inner game of self acceptance. I'll try to save up money for a bootcamp.

  • @jhjhj2172
    @jhjhj2172 Před 2 lety

    - In short term just pure energy and will at the moment
    - story has 3 elements 1. Situation 2. Interruption 3. Outcome make sure your story have tension and drama
    When telling story get into specifics, include what was there, what you were wearing etc specifics make it come alive
    If your not living the story as you are telling it's gonna be flat
    Frame is the thing which controls the meaning

    • @jhjhj2172
      @jhjhj2172 Před 2 lety

      Long term learning conversational material and learning proper delivery

    • @jhjhj2172
      @jhjhj2172 Před 2 lety

      In conversation outcome is important ex: is car salesperson talks about family instead of cars
      Ideal outcome: i wanna meet you i wanna spend time with you have fun teach you something travel places
      Convo must have frame, random conversation have random results

    • @jhjhj2172
      @jhjhj2172 Před 2 lety

      Fate doesn't work by itself you have to sieze the moment

  • @anonymousunknown7845
    @anonymousunknown7845 Před 5 lety +39

    This guy ends alot or almost all of his points with "RIGHT?" That's subconcious programming. He's giving useful information but don't let him take control. Take action. Apply information you'll learn waaay more. He said enough for you to take action.

    • @matthewbaumann630
      @matthewbaumann630 Před 4 lety +3

      Getting to the conversation is the hard part. Opening is the hardest part for men.

    • @AZTigerMMA
      @AZTigerMMA Před 4 lety +2

      I don’t know if it’s as much his masterful public speaking as much as a reflex ...

  • @goldplayer2003
    @goldplayer2003 Před rokem +1

    What do you answer when a girl says "you have to improve a bit if you wanna have a chance with me"

    • @Swooosh21
      @Swooosh21 Před rokem

      I am not going to downgrade myself to that level you gotta climb up girl

  • @hazamyuncle6784
    @hazamyuncle6784 Před 3 lety +8

    This won't be taught in school. School just makes people more awkward.

  • @peterschiller2451
    @peterschiller2451 Před 2 lety

    I loved her month ago, because I didn't matter what I said to her. Even saying nothing was okay. She always wanted me. She is good girl.

  • @notunder8738
    @notunder8738 Před 6 lety +24

    This should be basic education for everybody tbh.

    • @dustbustr91
      @dustbustr91 Před 3 lety +2

      i think socializing should just be less complicated

  • @jfdesignsinc.innovationsid1583

    Bro , to put this out to anyone who could use help , for free , speaks volumes of your character... way to change the world for the better,
    The only word that I think you should add to this seminar. Is the word. Brevity. Keep at this sir! Thanx for sharing

  • @creed4466
    @creed4466 Před 4 lety +5

    ima just keep watching this over and over till i make friends

  • @oneshowoneservant
    @oneshowoneservant Před 3 lety

    Clean word flow.
    Clean presentation.
    I-approve.
    Thanks for sharing your light brother-light.
    Be well.
    Be love.
    Be light.

  • @InsertNameHereBoi
    @InsertNameHereBoi Před 6 lety +31

    36:39 Todd needs to make an entire video of just impressions.
    Would watch in a heartbeat

  • @TheWorldsnotenough
    @TheWorldsnotenough Před 4 lety +1

    25:33. -Lead through story telling "100% Perfect gir"l story - great seg way into NLP pattern. Very powerful sir Todd

  • @zendad8374
    @zendad8374 Před 5 lety +90

    Her: “How was your day?”
    Me: “I have no response for that, can we just be normal now..?”

  • @ShamariLyte
    @ShamariLyte Před 3 lety +12

    I find girls like to talk about themselves. Maybe you put effort in in the beginning to get her to open up but eventually you have to let her talk.

  • @riptomydeadhomies
    @riptomydeadhomies Před 2 lety +3

    Imagine if Todd was a professor for sociology. I would attend every class on time...

  • @jasonashley9853
    @jasonashley9853 Před 2 lety +1

    The getting bored thing is huge. I've been wondering often when one should just get the number and move on. I'm trying to get to know her to build rapport. But no one thinks spending the whole time you're out with them is a good idea.

  • @rogerdinhelm4671
    @rogerdinhelm4671 Před 6 lety +6

    Amazing lecture, thank you!

  • @deeterfly
    @deeterfly Před 4 lety +2

    That is a top notch power point presentation.

  • @LaGataSolar
    @LaGataSolar Před 4 lety +4

    3:26 wow... you are the first person i have heard talk about this... thank you, I feel good knowing that at least now, some men know this 😪

  • @taha9892
    @taha9892 Před rokem

    Honestly suprised, didnt expect much, but got a lot of new knowledge for free. 👍

  • @ErvinMitchell
    @ErvinMitchell Před 6 lety +5

    I watched this video once before and sort of understood but now it's blowing my fuckin mind and I'm sure it will continue to do so as I watch it more and more. Makes so many vague concepts make sense and shows me that I've already been doing pretty much all this stuff but understanding why helps exponentially in knowing when and helps me read the girl so much better without having to go into my head! How do you give this stuff away for free Todd haha. You're the GOAT!

  • @ErvinMitchell
    @ErvinMitchell Před 6 lety +17

    this new stuff has been really dope

  • @jirehtay6092
    @jirehtay6092 Před 5 lety +8

    Im in sales and this is GOLD

  • @Robbie85291
    @Robbie85291 Před 3 lety

    I didn't know what to expect with this talk, but I learned a lot. Great video. R.

  • @kungtony
    @kungtony Před 6 lety +9

    Todd I'd love to take coaching with you! I'm finding myself drawn to you over most pua teachers.

  • @BelegaerTheGreat
    @BelegaerTheGreat Před rokem +1

    5:00 I believe they meant "All outcomes are good."
    10:57 Storytelling definitely is not the most important in game. Stories are neither about the girl nor about your (possible future) interaction with her.
    12:53 Omg that applies to TTRPG! Or, more likely applies along it. Being good at one makes you better at the other! (Ofc that's not all there is to Game/TTRPG, otherwise GMs would easily pick up girls, and PUAs would run D&D like pros.)
    24:03 How to use storytelling in Game.
    25:34 "100% Perfect Girl" may be a good story, but it seems like too much of a downer for energetic nights.
    30:35 Underlying meanings in speech.
    33:33 IMO Humor is not something you can learn studying. Go out. Talk. Joke. That's how you will learn what works with which types of people.
    40:34 DON'T TRY TO BE HILARIOUS. TRY TO BE INTERESTING, AND FUNNY BY THE WAY!
    41:52 Avoid self-deprecative humor, unless it is obvious (and she is certain) that you are just joking.
    46:21 Influencing tension with humor.
    49:09 Basically flirting.
    54:32 Frame. The thing Todd is big on. Do not act like the situation is "I'm trying to pick you up" but something more interesting, and giving you more value.

  • @brominik4522
    @brominik4522 Před 3 lety +6

    you missed a perfectly fine joke about meteors being long, burning hot things crashing into uranus.

  • @bskee001
    @bskee001 Před 5 lety

    Hey Todd, you’ve recommended countless great books over the years to us, and given you’re hands down the best of the best, a god among gods, and a living legend, you absolutely must write a book of your own!! Please!!!! As you and countless of us already know, videos can be deleted and lost forever such as the ones you put out in the past were with an endless amount of priceless information. Your book, however, will be with us for eternity...

  • @codythep
    @codythep Před 6 lety +154

    The new Todd content is HOT

    • @AyAy008
      @AyAy008 Před 5 lety +7

      You mean like sexy "hot" or literal "hot"?

  • @jjmartco
    @jjmartco Před 5 lety +1

    One of the best gaming tutorials on CZcams. Thanks bro. 👍🏾

  • @chinesemohd
    @chinesemohd Před 6 lety +40

    keep pumping out that good shit

  • @mopbrothers
    @mopbrothers Před rokem

    My old dating coach said it’s important to be direct with women right from the start. The thing I trip up on is “how much rapport do I need to build before telling her I think she’s cute and asking her out”? 1 minute? 5 minutes?

  • @treymurray4780
    @treymurray4780 Před 6 lety +24

    Todd you’re putting out great content, I think you’re the best pickup guy out besides Alex

  • @chltmdwp
    @chltmdwp Před 9 měsíci

    18:36 verbally charismatic - exaggerate specific
    21:30
    25:15 lead through storytelling 100% girl story
    35:28 argument golf club
    39:32 exxageration for unusual jokes
    43:48 flirting
    47:00 flirt definition, attitude is key
    49:51 push pull, i lovr you i love you not
    50:06 push pull example
    50:48 opener, hey execuse me. Looking for their unusual response
    52:56 misinterpretation - sex with me is like
    54:33 frame is important than technique when you first approach with exaggeration

  • @tommytowe7881
    @tommytowe7881 Před 4 lety +6

    I kept getting like, distracted from like, how many times you would like, say the word like. It's like still an awesome video tho. Good stuff.

    • @JohnDoe-qq8et
      @JohnDoe-qq8et Před 4 lety +3

      I liked your, like, comment on talking about the word like

  • @DjBigDunc98
    @DjBigDunc98 Před 6 lety

    RSD were wrong to let you got. You provide the information brilliantly and you give reason for it rather than just stating it as well. The only other coach I’ve watched that I’ve got this much out of is Jeffy. Good shit man!

  • @KingBowserVlog
    @KingBowserVlog Před 6 lety +23

    When he describes the low value comedian he described Louis CK to a t lol

  • @thessmchannel3583
    @thessmchannel3583 Před 5 lety +1

    you carry the conversation real well we just like to listen...nice job

  • @guinthehouse
    @guinthehouse Před 6 lety +47

    I am not entirely sure if I can agree with you on Dane Cook, he is not funny, but I loved this video Todd.
    Did I do the push/pull right? ;)

    • @javohirabdurazakov6957
      @javohirabdurazakov6957 Před 5 lety +6

      Sigma Business I mean push pull is a flirting technique 😂 but good try sir

    • @reiniskrauklis7433
      @reiniskrauklis7433 Před 4 lety

      This joke would heve ben perfect if You would have used Push an Pull tehnique in it...

  • @fixtradingpsychology
    @fixtradingpsychology Před 2 lety +1

    1. Assuming the burden to women also. She can't show intent on the go because of social issue.
    2. Desire of outcome Proactivity of frame.
    3. Must be a frame to conversation.
    4. Appreciate language.
    5. Find your humour by Watching standup and put it on journal.
    6. Storytelling.
    -> situation
    -> interrupt
    -> someone and something is changed by. Change
    7. There's secret in specifications.
    8. Humour
    9. Lead through story.

  • @jokerimmortal
    @jokerimmortal Před 3 lety +9

    Taking notes for after the pandemic lol

  • @mahmoodbilal3316
    @mahmoodbilal3316 Před 6 lety

    Thank you for listening Todd! 😸

  • @mathijs1345
    @mathijs1345 Před 3 lety +10

    and then a plague hits the village, hahaha he was ahead of time!

  • @Jay-ef2ii
    @Jay-ef2ii Před rokem +1

    Just treat this course as something that you would take in college. It is all about the details in the beginning and in the end, but it too is about not being a clown when in the presence of Women. Study sports, watch the news, do community service, learn to play pool, learn to play poker, learn to play checkers, along with shuffleboard in order to have things to talk about with the ladies. It is all about the details, always. Try not to be sexist because the lady may lose interest. January 1, 2023. USA.

  • @WonderBlubber
    @WonderBlubber Před 3 lety +7

    lol i try to tell stories at a good length and get talked over. being ugly and short means game will not help

  • @fexbio
    @fexbio Před 3 lety

    The stand up comedy advice is really, really good.
    Stand up is mostly observational, which means you'll find a lot of common interations where you can use its logic to make a smart quip. I'm a big fan of stand up comedy. I never studied it, in the sense of making a structured effort to understand it, but not only I've watched hundreds of hours of it, I also tend to watch a lot of it multiple times. So, without even trying, a lot of it becomes ingrained in me, and I'm able to recall it at a lot of situations. And way before I even thought of learning PUA techniques, I was improving social interactions without even intent.
    Before watching this video I used to quote the comic. Like: "Yeah, this is like when Louis CK said...", so to not steal credit. But since I'm not a comic making money out of it, I'm gonna start just emulating quick wits.
    Also, another thing for the foreigners: the best stand up in the world is in English. So, if you live in a country that speaks another language, you won't even deal with that high of a risk of the person you're addressing knowing it's not your original thought.

    • @fexbio
      @fexbio Před 3 lety

      Here's an idea for a story:
      "Years ago, when I was backpacking across Western Europe, I was just outside Barcelona, hiking in the foothills of Mount Tibidabo. I was at the end of this path, and I came to a clearing, and there was a lake, very secluded, and there were tall trees all around. It was dead silent. Gorgeous. And across the lake I saw, a beautiful woman, bathing herself. but she was crying…"

  • @drumloop
    @drumloop Před 6 lety +89

    Todd! Todd! Todd! Todd! Todd!