Mikko struggles with morning routine

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    Morning time has lately been a struggle to get Mikko to follow a routine. She has been very demanding with what she wants to do and less focused on what she needs to do. Though it is becoming more frustrating for me, I am trying to remain calm and find ways to help her transition activities even when she is not so incline to. The key, I think, is patience and repetition and treat it as a routine for myself as well.🧡
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Komentáře • 705

  • @teeandkids937
    @teeandkids937 Před 11 měsíci +559

    I love that you don’t baby her, you talk to her like you would your other kids tone and word wise. You’re incredible momma! ❤

    • @Duhmeeekw1256
      @Duhmeeekw1256 Před 11 měsíci +30

      Exactly my older sis has bipolar disorder and we do the same we do not make her feel like she is " different " we treat her the same ❤

    • @char-briyagandy9578
      @char-briyagandy9578 Před 11 měsíci +16

      All her kids are autistic...she only shows mikko and I keep questioning why

    • @nickyjones2709
      @nickyjones2709 Před 11 měsíci

      ​@@char-briyagandy9578have you had an autistic child?

    • @char-briyagandy9578
      @char-briyagandy9578 Před 11 měsíci +9

      @@Tameka731 yes and she claims she is autistic...she lies alot ,she is a "pick me" and a "me too".. type of person...I find it really weird that shebdoesnt show the dark skin kids .only the yeow one..and I think mikko is his only child with her.the boys have a different bio dad..to me I discern she has favoritism to the light skin kid and always just speaking on the boys...I said a year ago mikko was verbal.. and all of a sudden after 2 months of therapy she speaks... this channel/family is odd...it's like dad plays video games .I think they are military living..and her golden trophy is driving her insane..but mikko is a whole different child with dad..why are we hiding the boys?... mom used to be obese she had weight lost surgery..I wanna know why is she ashamed

    • @Shining_hellokitty
      @Shining_hellokitty Před 11 měsíci

      @@char-briyagandy9578how😭

  • @bethedifferent1
    @bethedifferent1 Před 11 měsíci +337

    You look so exhausted I can't imagine the level of parenting that you go through everyday. No one expects to have a child with autism and you are so patient and loving. Such a good mom. Never forget that.

    • @DevineLoved
      @DevineLoved Před 11 měsíci +18

      My thoughts exactly sometimes I feel like she knows what she is doing

    • @nickyjones2709
      @nickyjones2709 Před 11 měsíci +9

      Imagine how exhausting it is to be a single mother with a autistic child. No help from anyone. Now that's exhausting!!

    • @HappyHonee
      @HappyHonee Před 11 měsíci +19

      I truly don’t think I could handle this. That’s a lot. I’d probably cut her hair or loc it. And I probably wouldn’t have waited at the car for her to calm down. I can’t imagine needing to work or do anything else. Kids are a blessing and I don’t mean this to diminish their love, but just to acknowledge even the average decent person would really struggle in this scenario. We salute you and all the parents who attempt to be their best.

    • @Khrys32
      @Khrys32 Před 10 měsíci +1

      Beautiful comment! ♥

    • @emmacooper3573
      @emmacooper3573 Před 9 měsíci +12

      It's a LOT of work for any main caregiver, regardless of your marital status. My married son was dealing with a older child battle with childhood cancer AND with premature twins (one whom has autism), as they say THE STRUGGLE IS REAL. Mommy you are doing a wonderful job with your daughter ❤

  • @angelacleveland75
    @angelacleveland75 Před 11 měsíci +251

    I hate hearing Mikko cry, but watching you love her through it is so refreshing. Thanks for sharing.

    • @thegentlelife
      @thegentlelife  Před 11 měsíci +71

      I hate it too! 😞 thank you so much, I really try to give her the help and independence she needs 💛

    • @khismet
      @khismet Před 11 měsíci +20

      Always tough to hear babies/children cry. It must be allowed as it is a way for them to express their frustration, sadness or fear. The key is balance. This is the concern I have with my adult niece who punishes her 3yr old for crying. She frustrates the child by not addressing her needs then disciplines her for crying in frustration. My niece says she doesn't want her toddler to be a crybaby. I tell her she should have patience and recognize the tears for what they are, a cry for help. Not just crying for the sake of crying.
      Mikko has a very gentle Mommie. It's what I wish for my baby niece, understanding and gentleness.🤗

    • @adornedNwaisted
      @adornedNwaisted Před 11 měsíci +5

      @@thegentlelifeyou do a beautiful job❤

    • @wingeddragonra3953
      @wingeddragonra3953 Před 10 měsíci +1

      ​@@thegentlelifeyou and your husband are such amazing parents

  • @brodymorales3520
    @brodymorales3520 Před 11 měsíci +294

    Such an amazing mom. My daughter has same level of autism at 3 and she can be very much like this some days. The level of patience needed is saintly. You doing an amazing job and you inspire my patience with ny child as well

  • @amazingly...natural
    @amazingly...natural Před 11 měsíci +177

    Her saying "thank you" after you did her hair is everything.

    • @wingeddragonra3953
      @wingeddragonra3953 Před 11 měsíci +2

      I love it ❤

    • @rosehampton2901
      @rosehampton2901 Před 10 měsíci +1

      God gives special children to loving, patient and kind people that are blessed with a gift such as your daughter because you are the chosen! God bless you and your beautiful daughter! ❤

    • @TragicallyDelicious
      @TragicallyDelicious Před 9 měsíci +1

      @@rosehampton2901 He also gives babies to moms who hurt them.. ask me how I know

    • @rosehampton2901
      @rosehampton2901 Před 9 měsíci +1

      @@TragicallyDelicious This is DEFINITELY not the case!

  • @HisbeautifulTruth-nl1ch
    @HisbeautifulTruth-nl1ch Před 11 měsíci +81

    Whats really good about these videos is that i keeps you, mom, accountable and in control of your emotions.

  • @MsCynthia1203
    @MsCynthia1203 Před 11 měsíci +52

    She's is testing her limits. That comes with learning independence. Keep setting limits and being patient. You're doing well. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @catgirlcat1618
    @catgirlcat1618 Před 11 měsíci +120

    sometimes in life we need extra encouragement and that extra person telling us we're doing it right

  • @cherry_bear_aestheticd6840
    @cherry_bear_aestheticd6840 Před 11 měsíci +66

    Awww Mikko is talking so much now. Mikko’s little “thank yous” are so cute 😊

  • @dianaestrada8711
    @dianaestrada8711 Před 11 měsíci +100

    Im crying, we have not yet evaluated my son and I know for sure he’s on the spectrum. Today I’ve had such a hard day and my little man went down for a nap but I lost it. I lost it today and I feel like the worst mom. It’s hard dealing with so many tantrums in a day but feels good to see I’m not alone

    • @angelacleveland75
      @angelacleveland75 Před 11 měsíci +21

      Be kind to yourself. You got this, mama.

    • @lorrainejohnson5461
      @lorrainejohnson5461 Před 11 měsíci +22

      Oh my goodness! I am in tears right now for you and Mikko's mother. I am a 65 year old woman and my heart is breaking for all of the mothers going through this with their babies. I'm going to immediately start praying that God gives you strength and patience and that you not give in to frustration and exhaustion.🙏🏼❤️

    • @dianaestrada8711
      @dianaestrada8711 Před 11 měsíci +18

      @@lorrainejohnson5461 yes it’s something so hard. Specially when going out, many people think our babies are just tantrum spoiled kids. In reality we’re trying our best for them to behave and feel loved. It’s hard. There’s harder days then others but I’m praying to go to give me the strength to push. I’ve actually recently came back to the lord and he’s given so much strength in these moments.

    • @dianaestrada8711
      @dianaestrada8711 Před 11 měsíci

      @@angelacleveland75 🫶

    • @TheMelanatedElephant
      @TheMelanatedElephant Před 11 měsíci +7

      Wow. This comment hit home. My son has not yet been diagnosed, but he is absolutely on the spectrum. We just don’t know where. We will officially know next month at his evaluation visit. Watching these videos let’s me know I’m not alone. That I have more patience and understanding for this.

  • @uniquely__awkwardsimply__b2701
    @uniquely__awkwardsimply__b2701 Před 11 měsíci +70

    But you do know there is a fine line between a meltdown and a tantrum?? I saw a lot of tantrums! Which that’s normal!! She’s a toddler! A lot of people who has autistic children feel as though for some reason they can’t correct tantrum episodes! Which they absolutely can. Just because a child is autistic doesn’t mean they don’t understand right from wrong. That’s the misconception! They’re highly intelligent. I appreciate your balance! You’re firm yet gentle!

  • @mzmel1
    @mzmel1 Před 11 měsíci +60

    Her speech is improving :). You are doing such a great job. Even on the days when it doesn’t feel like it.

  • @millyroots292
    @millyroots292 Před 11 měsíci +57

    Sending you and Miko lots of love. You are a strong warrior, mom!

  • @debralewis2978
    @debralewis2978 Před 11 měsíci +39

    I've never had to raise a child with challenges, but you seem to handle it well. My only concern is Mikko is very smart and has learned to manipulate you. She knows so much and so pretty 😍

  • @pai9255
    @pai9255 Před 11 měsíci +60

    Hi Mom,
    Have you considered having Mikko attend preschool a few hours 1-2 days a week? She maybe ready and you could use a little time to yourself. Lots of love to you and your family.

  • @GeorgiannMoore-rc7ew
    @GeorgiannMoore-rc7ew Před 11 měsíci +23

    Precious you are a wonderful mother. You have a lot of patience.
    I realize that Mikko is autistic, but I do feel she knows what's she's doing.
    Special needs or not, you have to let her know that you're the parent and what you say goes. Always lifting you and family in prayers.

    • @monicarivers7769
      @monicarivers7769 Před 11 měsíci +2

      Best comment!!

    • @ld5480
      @ld5480 Před 9 měsíci +3

      Yes bkose after each cry she waits to see mom’s reaction👀👀 I know it’s hard to deal with but in my opinion she should let her cry just a little before approaching her and see how long it will last just saying!!!!!!

  • @Ladylew122
    @Ladylew122 Před 11 měsíci +17

    Great job mom! Take some pictures of places you two like to go. Introduce them with simple names. Each day show her where you’re going. You can take pictures of routines for daily life too. Always talking. Play soft music to prepare for rest time. Peace and blessings to you and your family! These are suggestion only. No one way works for everyone. Keep doing what works for your family.

  • @Nikkijs915
    @Nikkijs915 Před 11 měsíci +27

    As a mom to a severely autistic non verbal 4y/o boy, I can relate to all of this. I’m so exhausted most of the time. Everything we do is a battle, eating ,getting dressed, doing hair, brushing teeth. You’re doing a great job stay strong mom !

    • @motherearth2414
      @motherearth2414 Před 11 měsíci

      Please get a stool test. I guarantee your child has a high level of candida in the stool.

  • @b.jackson-bg2jq
    @b.jackson-bg2jq Před 11 měsíci +9

    Mikko is learning thar she can do things on her own but doesn't want your constant reassurance to stop. That's actually a sign that you have been and are doing the right thing. You're an amazing mom. She values your support even when she's knows she doesn't need it, just wants it. You are amazing😊🎉

  • @afeminame
    @afeminame Před 11 měsíci +58

    @TheGentleLife Mom, may I suggest you research an independent picture schedule. Where you'll place photos of activities paired with a timer and reward system for completing and transitioning to new tasks without tantrums. It's gotta be done in steps. She given some control as she is the one who starts the timer and stops the timer.
    I was ABA specialist for over 4+ years with children with Autism. This strategy helped with easing into other activities without resistance.
    By the way, you're doing a great job!❤

    • @afeminame
      @afeminame Před 11 měsíci +12

      @phoxxy2516 There were techniques that were not approved for where I worked years ago. We stayed heavily on positive reinforcement. We used the "No, no, prompt," technique, which falls along the line with what mom is doing here.
      Do your research. All ABA techniques aren't bad. You go to work late, they dock your paid. Guess what? That's ABA. You go to work, do your work, and you get paid. Guess what? That's ABA. ABA is used in everyday life to modify people's behaviors. You don't always have people using it correctly. That doesn't mean it's all bad. That's a generalized statement that isn't true. Stop trying to breed fear.

    • @marfialennox2642
      @marfialennox2642 Před 11 měsíci

      Great HELPFUL suggestions

    • @annangel1005
      @annangel1005 Před 9 měsíci

      Great suggestions. Those autism often struggle with transitions, and young kids, in general, struggle with the concept of time. Knowing when activities happen is a method of patterning.

    • @oliviarichardson8458
      @oliviarichardson8458 Před 7 měsíci

      I’m curious to see what it would look like if she didn’t get rewards for what is expected of her.

  • @Nikkimorox1
    @Nikkimorox1 Před 11 měsíci +35

    Thank you, you make me a better mum to my son with autism. You have shown me how to have more patience and more self aware when i feel myself get stressed out. Of course i have bad days where i have a good cry but every day is a learning day. Where the new little thing's he learns and does means so much more as we thought for years he would be non verbal but hes 7 now and wont be quiet even tho a lot of the time he is reciting favourite shows hes watched on you tube 😂

  • @claricespencer6856
    @claricespencer6856 Před 11 měsíci +105

    It's JUST terrible 2 at 3 years of age...She is growing...YOU GOT THIS MOM!😊

    • @Avastylist
      @Avastylist Před 11 měsíci +22

      I said the same thing! 🤣🤣 Toddlers love putting up a fight and saying no!🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @cherry_bear_aestheticd6840
      @cherry_bear_aestheticd6840 Před 11 měsíci +9

      Yup it’s completely normal lol ❤

    • @darlene9145
      @darlene9145 Před 11 měsíci +10

      @@Avastylistexactly!
      My grandson was just like that as a toddler. He is 15 now and one of the calmest people I know 🥰.
      Each year got a little easier with him as he learned and matured.
      She will be just fine. 🙃✌🏻

    • @jacqueline-fc8wb
      @jacqueline-fc8wb Před 11 měsíci

      YOU, got this MOM😊

    • @charronrose68
      @charronrose68 Před 8 měsíci

      Smh you don't know ijs

  • @SamizzleWren
    @SamizzleWren Před 11 měsíci +27

    “Thank youuu” omg melted my heart lol

  • @jacquelinesmith3450
    @jacquelinesmith3450 Před 11 měsíci +21

    I so happy for Mikko. She just has the best ever parents 🙌🏽👍🏾

  • @Marlodrama
    @Marlodrama Před 11 měsíci +7

    Also, I feel her so much on the difficulty transitioning activities. Im 25 and those are still the hardest parts of my day most often. My heart goes out to her, some days are just extra overstimulating, and existing is exhausting for us. I really appreciate you, just like my mom, being so patient and gentle with her.

  • @bren7067
    @bren7067 Před 11 měsíci +88

    It might be time for her to go to a daycare or a pre-k that specializes in children with autism. Maybe if she has something more to look forward to in the morning, it may help.

    • @RectPropagation
      @RectPropagation Před 11 měsíci +22

      We were incredibly lucky to get our child into a daycare that specializes in children with disabilities. Very worth it if you can get into a good one.

    • @ItsNotthatDeep_86
      @ItsNotthatDeep_86 Před 11 měsíci +27

      Agreed. My son is 4years old, non-verbal with level 2 autism. He has an IEP and attends pre-k part-time. He has made drastic improvement in speech, interacting with peers, and regulating emotions.

    • @angelarios2931
      @angelarios2931 Před 11 měsíci +11

      Yes my daughter just started k-3 in spec ed and she is doing great!

    • @jendayiKa
      @jendayiKa Před 11 měsíci +8

      I agree. I worked with autistic preschoolers exclusively and schools like the ones I worked at are valuable for growth of the child and mental balance & health for parents. This awesome mom and her partner really needs to consider letting Miko be in school.

    • @freezo244
      @freezo244 Před 11 měsíci +2

      Hard to find such a school. Plus expense??

  • @maryannlee1491
    @maryannlee1491 Před 11 měsíci +7

    You're doing a Great job Mom..even when she cries, you show her that things still have to be done and it helps her to push through...you are so tender and patient..even when she is having her difficult moments.❤

  • @bAiLeY_dInO_nUgGeT-vb5ui
    @bAiLeY_dInO_nUgGeT-vb5ui Před 11 měsíci +11

    As someone with autism (Im not that high on the spectrum) I'm glad you know how to handle it so well. I would be so grateful to have a mother like you because you know your childs boundaries and sensory needs and you help when Mikko is feeling overwhelmed. Autism can be really hard to live with and the ways that you try to help Mikko to adapt to it. You're amazing :)

    • @456DA-h6t
      @456DA-h6t Před 3 měsíci

      My sister almost had an autistic son, first she instantly rejected the situation as a NIGERIAN. SHE stopped the socking by doing it the African way. She did not encourage almost of things as she has 3 younger ones. She put him in daycare. He cried a while but he adjusted and right now he is 13+ and doing very well.

  • @Lysaidaromero
    @Lysaidaromero Před 11 měsíci +12

    You’re an amazing mom, it takes a lot of patience and love. My sons as autism and he has his tantrum and behavioral issues but with patience and love we get through it. He’s getting better especially with early intervention and school it helped a lot. Praying for you and your beautiful family.

  • @tbatt4364
    @tbatt4364 Před 11 měsíci +13

    I love that you are recognizing the changes while still able to give her a form of discipline/ boundaries. She will in time accept it and also respond better as she grows and matures. It's great that you speak to her the way you do instead of babying(is that really a word) her. I guess the hardest thing is the autism along with what is just her age. Cuz at the end of the day... she's 3.

  • @MsMonique
    @MsMonique Před 11 měsíci +19

    Wow your patience is everything!

  • @blossom3468
    @blossom3468 Před 10 měsíci +11

    My daughter hasn't been diagnosed yet and she does everything Mikko does....thank you for sharing everything it is so valuable ❤

    • @merillo5
      @merillo5 Před 9 měsíci +1

      My grandson is 26 months & does all the actions as Mikko. My problem is my son & daughter in law are in denial. Any advice is appreciated.

    • @dedebry
      @dedebry Před 8 měsíci +1

      @@merillo5man im sorry please try to get them help like therapy so they will see a doctor. it’s better to get help early

    • @merillo5
      @merillo5 Před 8 měsíci

      @@dedebry got them to enroll him in daycare hopefully the teacher will explain it to them & get him help

    • @blossom3468
      @blossom3468 Před 8 měsíci +1

      @merillo5 denial is very common amongst parents a health professional once told me in conversation! Research and speaking to my health visitor about my daughters development allowed me to understand what I was dealing with which in turn allowed me to embrace her and everything in a healthy way.

  • @riyagirl_
    @riyagirl_ Před 5 měsíci +5

    Her saying thank you is adorable! Well raised child.

  • @ladygorgogorgo7403
    @ladygorgogorgo7403 Před 11 měsíci +12

    Nikki’s “THANK YOU” melts my ❤️
    And-Mikko is your twin! The older she gets the more she looks like her Mom.😊
    Watching Mikko grow and your love and dedication are so beautiful to witness. Thank you for such uplifting content.

    • @jinaedinisci203
      @jinaedinisci203 Před 11 měsíci +4

      Nah....Mikko is Dad's twin. She's a literally double of him. Her mannerisms are soft & gentle like her Mom

    • @ladygorgogorgo7403
      @ladygorgogorgo7403 Před 11 měsíci +1

      @@jinaedinisci203 🥰

  • @jennygil1
    @jennygil1 Před 11 měsíci +11

    Thank you for always being so transparent and real on your chanel. Your strength and patience are really admirable.
    With my 3 year old grandson (also autistic) it helps to count down minutes to the next event/transion. Ex: Ok Liam in 2 minutes we are going to leave the park. 1 minute to leave. Ok Liam it is time to go. It doesn't always go smoothly but for the most part, he knows that something else is going to happen and it gives him some time to be aware of the next thing.
    Sometimes he is ready before the count down is done and other times I have to extend it, however it feels less traumatic some how for the both of us.
    Nap time is also tough, and sometimes he doesn't fall asleep and crys but offten times he calms his breathing and lays on his bed until he is ready for what comes next.
    I hope that you know that your not alone and that Mikko is blessed to have you as a Mom. You all have come a long way in this journey of love, patience and joy. Thank you for all that you and your family do for each other and all of us. Many blessings 🙌🏾 🙏🏾 💜💜💜

  • @tennillepatterson5500
    @tennillepatterson5500 Před 11 měsíci +18

    I feel like my "normal" children at this age had trouble regulating their emotions. Im sure with autism its worse, just be patient. I see that you are good at stopping and redirecting or slowing down with tasks. You are a good mother.

  • @FAITHWALKIN2023
    @FAITHWALKIN2023 Před 11 měsíci +42

    I admire your patience with Miko😊

  • @lindywheeler4192
    @lindywheeler4192 Před 11 měsíci +28

    Wow! This is a lot! You might want to consider seeking out help for Mikko as well as for yourself. This has to be extra hard on you! As a Mom who loves her child, I know you'll do whatever you have too. But, your only human your going through a lot and from just watching this video, I couldn't imagine having to go through this every day, all day! Mentally, I don't think I could handle it. Your amazing! Thanks for sharing your story, this has definitely given me a totally different insight on the behavior of some children with Autism. I wanted to ask if Mikko reactions are the same with her Dad?

  • @crohniequeenab
    @crohniequeenab Před 11 měsíci +8

    Oh poor baby girl. Sometimes we all have hard days. You’re doing great mom. Maybe you can make a schedule with pictures with Velcro and she can see what tasks are for the day she can add and remove them throughout the day. You can reward her good behavior of that task to help with the transition to the next. So she knows what’s coming for the day. You’re doing fantastic and you’re doing the best you can like the rest of us. So many great suggestions in this comment section to tray and that amazing. She also is a trying toddler as well and pushes your buttons to see how far she can go before discipline. She’s got lots of personality momma one day at a time.

  • @cynthiajones4689
    @cynthiajones4689 Před 11 měsíci +8

    Mom she knows you very well and knows what and when to do certain things. She throws Tantrums so that you will give in to her. She's very Smart. SHE has to Learn that when Mommy says No or it's time to Go Mommy means it.

  • @zstar8
    @zstar8 Před 11 měsíci +5

    OmG shes so angry n frustrated she wants to do things on her own and communicate 💔😢❤beautiful Mikko!

  • @naturallynewtothegame3891
    @naturallynewtothegame3891 Před 11 měsíci +8

    You are human. Love your dedication. You are a winner. I work with adults on the spectrum. I totally understand you. Keep it up. ❤❤

  • @kathrynjames6151
    @kathrynjames6151 Před 11 měsíci +4

    This reminds me of my little brother when he was her age. While he wasn't non verbal, he often had meltdown just like little Mikko does. You do such a good job with her I can see it. Keep up the good work.

  • @mbesama4202
    @mbesama4202 Před 11 měsíci +10

    I truly appreciate you for sharing this video. Often times family channels only cherrypick and share their best moments--which is all fine and to each their own, but I think having diversity in medias of being a parent is important. It's okay to have bad days and struggles sometimes. Most important reason being, to have people learn what parenting looks like with an open mind. Parenting is unique on every families out there and it's an amazing learning experience to get to understand each.

  • @honeycrisppineapplegames7430
    @honeycrisppineapplegames7430 Před 11 měsíci +4

    My cousin has Autism and is verbal but sometimes he has meltdowns that my grandparents struggle to calm down, so I try talking to him, taking him for little walks, or just holding him and singing to him. You did all the right things to calm her down, and your patience was extraordinary!

  •  Před 11 měsíci +6

    You are so patient, mama. Mikko is blessed to have the family she has. You're doing amazing ❤❤

  • @MeeMeesArtyParty
    @MeeMeesArtyParty Před 11 měsíci +6

    Her smile on the swing melts my heart.

  • @yfallinlove
    @yfallinlove Před 4 měsíci +1

    I cry watching this. This is my everyday struggle with my 26 months old. He was just diagnosed with asd level 2. I sometimes don’t want to go out. Because everything is a fight. Pjs, diaper change, car seat etc. he doesn’t eat but snacks all day. He’s my fs and I am adopting him soon. I also have a 6 months old. Who I suspect is on the spectrum as well. I cry practically everyday. I love my baby with everything inside of me. And want to do the best for him. Thank you for sharing your life with us. It helps me to understand and handle my situation better.

  • @ngwacahnyagwaswa9979
    @ngwacahnyagwaswa9979 Před 11 měsíci +4

    When she grows up and come and see all these memories ❤ she will be so proud of herself that you made her become a better version of herself by being such a patient and loving mum ❤

  • @brenettaglass2509
    @brenettaglass2509 Před 11 měsíci +22

    Sending up prayers for the storm to be calmed. You have so much patience and love ❤️🙏. She’s going through those obstinate stages; my prayers are with and for you and your family.

  • @bobbiedavis8498
    @bobbiedavis8498 Před 11 měsíci +4

    Thank you for showing me your patience and yet persistence in teaching and loving Meiko ❤ it can be frustrating to see our children kind of regress and struggle with things that we know they can do. We are going through some of the same things with my 2 year old granddaughter…however watching you has given me inspiration to let her figure things out and not rush her because I know she can do it. I think Meiko is such a smart baby and she will figure things out for herself ❤ Thanks for sharing your morning with us 😊

  • @lionelclements5675
    @lionelclements5675 Před 11 měsíci +7

    ❤️‍🔥 & 🙏🏽 goes out to all of us parents and families of Autistic children and adults ❤ I love your support channel, your family is a blessing to me personally, “WE Are Not Alone !”

  • @justaylex
    @justaylex Před 11 měsíci +3

    my son is like this though he hasn't been diagnosed yet. I applaud you for being so patient and calm, because I sometimes lose my cool a lot. Watching you with Mikko really helps me know that I'm not alone and that this is very difficult.

  • @joycehol8052
    @joycehol8052 Před 11 měsíci +6

    I love that she says thank you sweet baby 🙏

  • @reedo9002
    @reedo9002 Před 11 měsíci +7

    She likes Doc McStuffins!? Id bet they have toys ( Doc McStuffins) that could be beneficial to Mikko's motor skills development. You're endlessly patient. It's absolutely a blessing to your family. Dont forget it mom. ❤

  • @Kat.Beanie
    @Kat.Beanie Před 11 měsíci +6

    Visual timers might help or a now and next board. Good work Mama you got this! The thing about her seeking reassurance could be anxiety and she just needs that extra re-assurance, I'd also look out for skill regression, losing skills she once was able to, it can be quite common in Autistic kiddos.

  • @RectPropagation
    @RectPropagation Před 11 měsíci +7

    Transitions are so hard! We sometimes have luck giving our child a countdown (anywhere from 5 - 20 minutes) with a lot of warnings so she's at least aware for a while that the current activity is going to end. I'd love to know how y'all learned to deal with the hair dryer! She's obviously very unhappy with it, poor thing, but she's also still letting you use it. Her ability to sit through something she finds upsetting is impressive.

  • @bugibirdibooboo3349
    @bugibirdibooboo3349 Před 11 měsíci +3

    Thank you for being so real in these videos, I know it’s hard on you mama but you’re such a light on this earth; Thank you

  • @silverdoe9477
    @silverdoe9477 Před 11 měsíci +2

    I have autism & sometimes I would get “stuck” in destructive situations & meltdowns with my mom in the morning. Around Mikkos age. It became the norm to close down & hyperventilate.
    What helped was a new routine, but that’s also risky. But I didn’t get stuck & expect the meltdowns as much. You are awesome. ❤

  • @davidprotheroe4432
    @davidprotheroe4432 Před 11 měsíci +3

    You are never ALONE God will always guide you... no it's not going be easy but in your patience there will be a reward more than you ever imagined. Patience = True love.... God sees what you are giving to the rest of us out here.... and He is definitely Smiling .... thank you

  • @witnessofchrist2524
    @witnessofchrist2524 Před 11 měsíci +4

    I really admire your patience and unconditional love for Mikko and her siblings. ✌🏾🫶🏾

  • @ThizbeeSez
    @ThizbeeSez Před 11 měsíci +10

    It looks like Mikko is struggling with transitions.... I know you got your routine down, which helps.... might I suggest a "transitions song" (either a modified real song, or something you make up) to use during transitions like brushing teeth finishing and then off to the next thing

  • @Laurabear91
    @Laurabear91 Před 11 měsíci +3

    Nikki is so beautiful her little cries break my heart. I love her “Thank you!”

  • @andreanetteable
    @andreanetteable Před 11 měsíci +5

    I have been going thru the same thing, my daughter will be 3 next Monday and has the Spectrum, she has been acting so different lately, the outburst of emotions, wanted things how and when she wants them, screaming, etc…I have tried calming her down with rubs and hugs, nothing works…I’m so lost and break down often..but I know God will guide me

  • @laurapip666
    @laurapip666 Před 11 měsíci +4

    Hey! I really love how you are with Mikko (& your other kids too ofc) you are such an amazing mum -so much respect to you ❤
    Our best friends kids have both got similar issues -Freddie didn't talk till he was about four & my other friends daughter has struggled with speech & has just turned two.. but, much like Mikko has started to learn & pick up on convo skills very quickly. Freds is 8 now, and doing brilliantly so I really hope the same for your girl ☺️💜
    I've not had kids myself, but have studied child psychology & generally love good people so hope all is okay with you and yours. All the very best xx

  • @sherri1304
    @sherri1304 Před 11 měsíci +2

    Sweet mom thank you for sharing the daily life of Mikko with us. She’s absolutely the most adorable child and I enjoy seeing and learning everything about her journey. I know that this will be a challenging journey but you and her father are the best team and parents that she could have. Y’all are in my thoughts and prayers 😊

  • @Titihookedthatup
    @Titihookedthatup Před 11 měsíci +4

    You look and sound like me. My daughter is 9 and is the same way. We are gonna be starting ABA therapy soon. It breaks my heart to see her struggling with everyday things that we as "normal" people have no issues with. It will get better just keep teaching her over and over because she will get it in her own time. Good luck and God bless

  • @Space_Princess
    @Space_Princess Před 5 měsíci +2

    You’re doing such an amazing job with your daughter ❤ I’m autistic and your videos are healing for me because I didn’t get to have the opportunity to get treated like this and just knowing there are autistic children being understood and nurtured is a beautiful thing. It makes me hopeful ❤

  • @rondas7772
    @rondas7772 Před 10 měsíci +2

    It's kind sad, that mom doesn't have any time for herself, may you patience and love be rewarded with self care and time beautiful mom

  • @RobloxPlayerOne80
    @RobloxPlayerOne80 Před 11 měsíci +6

    My 8yr old autistic son used to be very difficult each morning when we'd do his "get-ready" routine.. and I soon realized that I could make everything so much easier on the both of us just by putting him in a tub of warm water, with some calm scented oils, and gently wash him down with a wash cloth for 10 mins each morning before we get him dressed and do his hair. I know it sounds like a bath every morning is so much extra work - but I cant express enough how the bath has calmed my son, making every step afterward so much easier. It has actually ended up saving us almost an extra 40 mins of time in the mornings by giving him a bath. I know this wont work for every family... but if its something you can manage, I highly recommend trying it.

  • @kimweaver4844
    @kimweaver4844 Před 11 měsíci +3

    Oh no...there comes that bottom lip curling upon precious Mikko 😢. I know she will have challenging days but Lord it just crushes my heart. On the other side you are doing the best job with Mikko. You are a good mom.

  • @user-ze9nv8ci5g
    @user-ze9nv8ci5g Před 11 měsíci +5

    You’re doing a wonderful job with Mikko. The routine & transitions are hard for all autistic children. Have you tried a visual schedule (pictures & words) of how her routine day will go? It works really well because they can see first & next.

  • @marybowen1630
    @marybowen1630 Před 11 měsíci +3

    Sending you and Mikko love, blessings, and encouragement. You’re an amazing mommy. You’re patience is so beautiful. You are doing a wonderful job. Blessings ❤♥️❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @lorenzocanto1612
    @lorenzocanto1612 Před 11 měsíci +4

    Such an amazing and beautiful family ❤ mikko will become so so much introverse and infipendent because you support is all she needs ❤ all my blessings and love share❤

  • @thelifestylebybudgeting
    @thelifestylebybudgeting Před 11 měsíci +5

    Don’t be too hard on yourself mama aside from her diagnosis a lot of her behavior is age based. My son is 3 no diagnosis as of yet but he is speech delay & he’s WILD lol I’m from Jersey so he started public school already & his teachers just remind me that it’s all understandable.

  • @1sassyclassyselah284
    @1sassyclassyselah284 Před 11 měsíci +7

    Wow, that’s stressful especially on a daily basis. You need support.

  • @becareful8235
    @becareful8235 Před 11 měsíci +5

    Keep your head up Mom, you’re doing a great job!
    God never promised us a life with no troubles but He did promise to comfort us and strengthen us through them.
    Matthew 11:28
    😊😊❤❤

  • @Jenna-Roo
    @Jenna-Roo Před 11 měsíci +4

    Such a wonderful, amazing momma. The children are so blessed to have you and your husband. We've falling in love with Mikko and pray God continues to guide you, give you strength and the ability to balance it all. He knew who Mikko should be gifted as parents and thank you for sharing this precious little girl with us. I'm learning so much. Take good care of yourself momma, so you can continue to give such great love, compassion and empathy for your children, especially Mikko. God bless you all on this journey of life and may you find peace and comfort in knowing the world needs educated and that we want to see this sweet girl thrive. Good job! 🙏🏻💕✌🏻🌈🌞🍭🦋🎠🧸😊

  • @Kakarbajoinsthefight
    @Kakarbajoinsthefight Před 11 měsíci +7

    I realize that they've diagnosed Mikko. But honestly, her behavior including the screaming is typical of a child who gets a lot of love and attention. They call our child spoiled, lol 😆. You're doing an awesome job, please don't stress Mom.

  • @Shuronda-qx2xx
    @Shuronda-qx2xx Před 11 měsíci +1

    I luv how you hold her accountable for her actions and to let her know that her her behavior is not acceptable so times. And speaking to her just like your other childrenI think that is really important that she knows that and somewhat understand❤ well done precious

  • @crystalgreene971
    @crystalgreene971 Před 9 měsíci +3

    Watching this and I’m worried about you. I am a mother cerebral child he’s not a child anymore. He’s 48 years old I’ve been taking care of him for nearly 50 years …so please let me say this to you find a caretaker for her maybe a family member who you can trust or another professional in that field ,allocate her to someone else so you can get a break even if it’s only two or three hours a week. I’ve been lucky that I’ve had caretakers to take him over the weekend once a month so that my mind and body get a bit of rest .I wish only God‘s blessing to you and your family. Remember this if you are sick, emotional, physical spiritually your family will not run as peaceful as it is now, so please take care of yourself. You are important ,you matter, loved and cared for … you are fearfully and wonderfully made but you still need a break every now and again.

  • @amandanoelle101
    @amandanoelle101 Před 11 měsíci +2

    Your love is so powerful ❤ I have such high respect for all you are doing for Mikko and to raise awareness, as well as educate. A visual schedule may be helpful with transitions or if/then statements to incentivize.

  • @peacebalance8067
    @peacebalance8067 Před 11 měsíci +1

    I love mother's. They show such compassion and strength even on our worst days when we don't even know why we feel the way we feel. I get it, sometimes you just wanna scream. This life just makes you wanna scream. Loud. But then mom steps in with a gentle, patient, understanding touch, rub, kiss, hug, good food. She understands. She motivates you on bad days to still show up for yourself by brushing your teeth and combing your hair, getting dressed and getting exercise. Showering. Taking a nap. Crying it out. Mother's are the best. I miss my mother. Mikko has the best mother too. You are doing such a phenomenal job. ❤❤❤

  • @lauriewromar5478
    @lauriewromar5478 Před 11 měsíci +1

    What stands out to me about watching this is how few words were spoken. I’ll preface with I’m not saying one way is right or wrong or better or worse, but I talk to my kid so much more than this. About anything and everything. What we’re doing what we’re gonna do next, singing, doing chores, playing outside etc, I talk to her in some capacity through all of it.

    • @thegentlelife
      @thegentlelife  Před 11 měsíci

      There are many ways to communicate with people other than verbally speaking. Mikko is nonverbal (autistic) we have a different way to communicate. If you choose to have the kind of relationship where you speak with your children more, that is absolutely great. No way is better than the next, Nor should be pointed out in a negative connotation, for example “I see you did this BUT I do this” context words and intent behind the text is everything and can be read without hearing a tone in someone’s voice.

    • @lauriewromar5478
      @lauriewromar5478 Před 11 měsíci +1

      @@thegentlelife
      Never mind

  • @beelove8740
    @beelove8740 Před 11 měsíci +4

    You're doing great. You definitely need and deserve breaks. If you can get a trained person or family member to spend one day a week with her she can develop a routine with them and you can do you. It will help you feel refreshed.

  • @monicarichardson2086
    @monicarichardson2086 Před 11 měsíci +1

    I love how far she has come! It's very clear what she wants and doesn't want. I adore her!

  • @clairebear1808
    @clairebear1808 Před 11 měsíci +3

    I trust in you! You are such a great mother. ❤ breathe you’re allowed 🤗😘🙏🏻

  • @laratannir655
    @laratannir655 Před 11 měsíci +3

    Maybe a visual timer will help her understand the concept of time? I have a countdowns application on the phone that I like to use ☺️ 1more min… and she can see it… or maybe a before/after visual schedule so she can know what to except before hand and it gives her time to process the transition 😁 She is such a cutie 🥰

  • @lynnbonseigneur1366
    @lynnbonseigneur1366 Před 11 měsíci +1

    You are amazing, your patience is a gift from God. You keep praying and asking for strength and it will be provided. She is going and advancing. However, I don’t want to minimize your struggles. Stay prayed up, and I will agree with you. All will be provided that your family needs. To God be the glory❤🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @obnoxiousbluebird6634
    @obnoxiousbluebird6634 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Reminds me of when my son around 4-9 years old, had a huge sensory issue with toothbrushes, specifically the bristles. Brushing his teeth became an actual battle, and I was afraid he'd end up developing a major aversion to his own teeth! His dentist and I tried several different types, but the only one he would tolerate inside his mouth was these little disposable silicone bristled brushes. I bought a box of 100 and had no problem until 9 when he decided electric toothbrushes are ok!

  • @Rea.awareness
    @Rea.awareness Před 3 měsíci

    I really commend you for making these videos of your private life as a mother. I really encourage you to not give up on being patient and tolerant... I also appreciate you educating others that may not know the struggle... God bless you and your babygirl, Miko❤

  • @lindellbeatty3100
    @lindellbeatty3100 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Shes a beautiful little girl. And one day you'll look back on this and "whew"... y'all made it. Keep hope alive.

  • @keybaddieb5851
    @keybaddieb5851 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Your doing a great job mom. You're so patient and understanding to her needs. Mikko is so beautiful and she has a very sweet voice. I love the way she say Thank you. She is so sweet and polite 😍

  • @taay333
    @taay333 Před 11 měsíci +3

    Transitions are so hard for my kids. I tell them consistently like over and over before we are going to leave so they’re prepared, and then when meltdown comes I just reflect to them what I think they’re feeling… like you’re bummed out you had so much fun at the park you don’t want to get back in the car bla bla bla. I think it helps them lol.
    You are sooo patient mama my goodness, the patience of a saint!
    Also Do y’all have one of those hanging cloth swings? They can be out indoors. Those have been very helpful at my house. As a hide out for quite time or to swing play and move in.

  • @elleniandersongrey8367
    @elleniandersongrey8367 Před 11 měsíci +1

    You have got to be one of the most amazing Mother's I have ever come across. God bless you abundantly. Your videos are awesome.x

  • @legendarymayormarylikestur8874

    Watching your videos is like a trip down memory lane for me. Lits of tears, happy and empathy filled. My son is 28 now. All this patience is so very worth it. Your beautiful girl has so much potential and is advancing speech (super helpful eventually!!) Hang on there mama!

  • @lowdown1904
    @lowdown1904 Před 11 měsíci +1

    My cousin was the same way. As he got older his temper became uncontrollable. By the time he was 25, he dislocated his sister’s arm. You’re doing a great job

  • @joycepetty2264
    @joycepetty2264 Před 11 měsíci +3

    Your daughter reminds me of my granddaughter. So much alike. I learned a lot from your videos. Thank you

  • @lol------______..._____---912
    @lol------______..._____---912 Před 11 měsíci +2

    You're such a great mom! you have so much patience. I genuinely want to be a mother like you ❤God bless you and your family!

  • @jenniferbrown7659
    @jenniferbrown7659 Před 11 měsíci +2

    Aloha! My daughter, 34 is special needs. I'm 24/7 Caregiver for my mom, 90. Your videos are extremely educational. Asante 🌄🌍🌙