Moving on from Family and Friends
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- čas přidán 16. 06. 2024
- There comes a time in the spiritual process when it’s not possible to stay in the family orbit or in the company of friends as before. In this video we hear why this happens and how the truth of life works to serve the good of the whole.
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I don't talk about my life and my beliefs with friends of the past or even in the present unless they directly ask me. But what I do is let the relationships be what they are and carry on with my own intentions of the heart. Mostly those old friends don't follow because our relationship is and was based on something else. I don't mentally cut off those friends unless it's highly negative, but instead don't have any expectations or a desire to recreate the past. If we meet again there must be some point or reason that I'm not aware and believe it to be synchronicity. Loniliness makes this a tough topic, but what's worse, not being yourself and not being authentic? In the end I think we know the answer and that we will attract those people who are more aligned to our vibrational reality.
Well said
Yes! it's a difficult thing to do because you feel so much guilt and shame and that is your ego talking to you. But it's the completely right thing to do. Friends not too difficult to walk away from, family is a different story. Yet it's been the best thing for my spiritual evolution.
Thank you at 52 I finally realise that I’m not strange after all of not fitting in with family and having few friends 😊
We are all each other’s teachers.
over time as one progresses spiritually internally you end up on a solo journey. It is virtually impossible for two or more people to progress equally and stay together on their journeys.
I have been solo for more than 15 years now
Same I have been on my own for a really long time. But through all the ups and downs it is been a pretty enlightening journey.
This comes as a synchronicity for me; I have practiced detachment for a while now and the people in my life generally do not choose the same introspective, healthy perspective in life. I am happy alone and miserable when others cling.
9:23 ❤My life has changed. I can no longer tolerate the old way of life 💕
I’ve found my family and friends to have been a lie . They’ve all fallen away . It’s lonely for me sometimes, even though I have my immediate family , and they are all journeying at the same pace spiritually as me. I am metabolising the process of being without them. It feels like I’m living in a different world than them if honest . I just couldn’t be embroiled in the lie anymore. Everything felt so disingenuous . I do still love them and forgive them their inability to see what I see of this spiritual journey. I’m quite sure that they think me quite mad . I do send them love, I’ve just found myself being able to send them it .
Why would they think your mad?
Why would they think your mad?
@@infinity_spirit because they just don’t want to hear truths. I’m no good at lying about anything, and they don’t want to hear it! I should probably have prefaced that my family is pretty toxic, a Narcissist father who dominated and bullied us all. I guess that I have studied psychology and have tried so hard to understand my family dynamics from a spiritual perspective. I so wanted everyone to understand that we were abused , but it is too much for them to comprehend! One sibling has made some attempts to heal , but the rest of them are stuck in this cycle of ancestral trauma. I’m left alone now and have been given the role of the scapegoat. If honest I always questioned the whole family dynamics, even as a child! Nothing made sense, everything seemed so toxic! I think that it’s easier to just leave and be estranged from them. I was blessed to find a therapist who was also spiritually supportive! I’m not sure if my limited explanation will help you to understand. I feel that it’s hard to put into a paragraph succinctly. Your post came up and resonated 🙏🏻
A pleasant, unexpected find Lance. I sometimes berate myself that my solitary pursuits are not necessarily with the benefit of the collective in mind.
Then I remind myself that many years ago while going through a phase which involved much Yoga meditation, I happened upon an acquaintance who told me of a dream she had of me showing a slight, serene smile on my face.
From that, I know we serve regardless of intent. ☺
Wonderful talk; I am in it -- timely share. Thank you!
This is a huge topic. Never given enough energy by so many teachers. I understand the trepidation, but still needs to be discussed and students need guidance.
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incredibly honest. this is real talk. you're right. thank you.
Going through this. Thank you, for this understanding.❤️
interesting thank you
Yes been through this. It was inevitable but painful too. ❤
This is wonderful, thank you! Exactly what I need to hear this morning ❤
Thank you 🙏
Densil Washington's The book of ELI . 👍
Rings true. Precisely what I've been going through. Thank you for explaining so clearly.
Thank you, it’s hard to find this kind of understanding. Much appreciated.
Beautifully said.
Thank you Lance .
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sad. that is all.
Spot on.
Wonderful insight. Did you find you journey speed up as you got around others also awakening? Great last name, too.
Thank you Ryan. My article on the awakening process goes into this subject:
Everyone alive is in the process of awakening to life; that the majority of the earth’s population is unconscious of this is irrelevant to the broader picture. As the word implies, an awakening is the conscious recognition of a previously dormant state of reality. This is the dawning of the light of self-knowledge and the destiny of us all, regardless of how long it takes. However, while the world of feelings and mental association remains the dominant sense, the truth behind the formal appearance of the world will be elusive and the person a prisoner in time.
A spiritual awakening can happen at any time during the life but not necessarily as a blinding light or visitation of a mystical being; more often it’s a gradual dawning of the reality behind the body. Each awakening, although different in everybody, imbues an individual with a purity of vision when truly changed in the light of the spirit. This is because the knowledge and timeless quality originates from the universal source of truth. The man or woman is inducted into a purified state of being which is registered as something beyond the normal living experience. An indication of an imminent awakening is when the contrast between periods of excitement and depression has begun to level out. The person can feel disconnected from their environment and the people around them as an overall absence of worldly experience. But from an inward perspective, life takes on an urgency of creative intensity, accompanied by an anticipation of something profound although unknowable as any memorable reference to the past.
The psyche is our immediate reality and consists of gradations in time. The integrity and justice of the psyche is that whatever someone acknowledges as thought or feeling is returned, reinforced by the psychic energies of the collective experience of humanity. Thus angry people attract more anger, and those more giving of their sweet nature tend to be less troubled and free of conflict in their lives. The band of the psyche closest to the surface of existence consists of the most intense energies attached to the sensual experience in the flesh. These psychic forces include the energy of sex in all its unbridled lust and the inflammatory emotions of hatred, cruelty and cunning which have burdened the human race since the dawning of time.
Beyond the surface level into the deeper psyche, the purified space has fewer forms and reflects the more selfless and divine energies associated with the spiritual realm. It’s from this place of the pure psyche that the awakening process is initiated. Here, the part of self most receptive to the abstract levels of mind faces directly into the source of the shimmering consciousness of the body of humanity. This supernal presence is an aspect of God, the essence of Mankind implicit within each of us as a being of the earth.
The purity of the spirit is modified or downgraded by the matter it enters within a particular body. The power of the spirit is affirmed through the harmonising of the circumstances and relationships which surround the individual man or woman in the challenges of the living life. This cannot be disputed, whereas claims of inner spiritual realisations are unable to be verified in the objective world. The direction the awakening takes is always towards the rectification of ignorance through an upsurge of inspirational knowledge relative to the advancement of the human race.
And yet not everyone can be an enlightened guru or recognised as a genius by the world at large. A mother raising her children or a factory worker in the assembly line is just as important in the grand scheme of things. Whatever role the man or woman performs in the crucible of the living moment serves to awaken a deeper truth, both inwardly and externally to others through their actions in the world.
@@LanceKellydirect Those are beautiful and helpful words. That second last paragraph hits home a lot. I find my self not being connected and not wanting consume old habits of food or media and now find myself more drawn to spiritual truth like you. Sometimes it feels crazy, like I should be relying on the old ways I was taught to navigate or behave but they are completely out dated to my spirit. I know this would all make more sense easier if we didn't grow up in concrete jungles next to McDonalds, but I guess that's also perfectly part of the process
@@LanceKellydirect This is so beautiful & very insightful ~ Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom & love, and I will be sharing this, with your name (of course) Lance~Much appreciated~❤
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Ohhhh yes x
Ive tried to back away facing forward, and it's not working.
@marklawsome2871 keep trying don't give up 😊
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What’s wrong with being emotional though? Or are you referring to drama? This yeah, nah. Sharing emotions on the other hand are healthy
@@StephanieMoDavis there is no here or there. Emotions is the human experience otherwise it’s spiritual bypassing
We may be at differing stages. And that’s ok.
@@StephanieMoDavis there’s no real stages. I’ve been on my journey for 33 years. Stages is an illusion all in itself. Sending you love my friend 🥰
Was my point all along. 🫶🏼
I respectfully disagree. Family in particular will not "gain" by my moving away from them. Nor is it necessary unless a relationship is toxic in some way. My dear son is struggling a bit with his own life choices right now, and though I feel powerless to help him, I am there for him should he seek guidance or comfort.
My husband is somewhat oblivious to my spirituality, neither showing an interest nor hindering me in any way. Why would I move away from him after many years of sharing life together? An entire family would be confused and feel abandoned, wondering what they did wrong.
Family and friends can be our best teachers, providing many opportunities for deeper awareness when they push our buttons or fail to truly see us.
When I feel alone or isolated, I remember that there isn't really any "me" and "them." There's only one thing. It's everything and we are all it.
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[Edit: I accidentally posted this as a reply instead of a comment. Sorry.]
This is utter bullshit.