What are the DUTCH Really Like?
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- čas přidán 1. 05. 2024
- Are the Dutch rude? Cheap? Do they smoke w**d? I went to Amsterdam and Utrecht to ask Dutchies which stereotypes they thought were most and least true.
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0:00 Intro to Dutch stereotypes
1:10 Dutch are direct: true or false?
2:36 Dutch vs American/British communication
5:18 Second True Dutch Stereotype
5:48 Third True Dutch Stereotype
6:53 Foreigner Culture Shock in the Netherlands
7:37 Most untrue Dutch stereotypes
8:23 Forth True Dutch Stereotype
8:45 The "Do Normaal" Attitude
9:27 Are Dutch people cheap?
11:27 Dutch word you have to know
CREW:
Marina Iakovleva (directing)
/ youtubermarina
Sahra Abreu (video)
/ sahraabreu
Oleh Voitovych (editing)
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Filmed in:
Utrecht and Amsterdam, Netherlands - Zábava
let me be direct: the tallness is not a stereotype but a fact.
Me being 5'3/160 😂
That's because the Dutch live below sea level and constantly have to look over the dyke to see if water is coming in
I know enough Dutch that are not that tall at all, even are frustrated about it. I live in Portugal and once a tiny tiny tiney colleague visited the Netherlands and after that she said.. oooh I discovered you are not that tall at all (1m84) but here in Portugal I am a giant :D
@@BenvanBroekhuijsen i'm also 1,84. It's apparently the average for Dutch man. With roughly 1,70 or so for women.
But it seems to be right though. Walking around anywhere in the Netherlands, i often notice i'm indeed smack dap in the middle.
Some are taller, Some are shorter. But i'm never the tallest or shortest.
@@pascalmerschaudio Not really. Studies show that is has to do more with our general diet than anything dyke related.
(edit was a typo fix)
We don’t brag about how expensive stuff we own is. We brag about how much discount we got when we bought it.
The discount thingy sounds like an Asian parent would flex to their friends LMAO
One of mine is when I buy a few things, I keep like one or two and I resel the rest for more than I bought it for. So proud of myself
I think I might be Dutch
This is kind of fake.
@@kaarthuisplus its real?
''I'm like nee''
fucking dying, real dutchie right there.
If you don’t complain, nothing will ever change for the better, except for the weather.
There's a difference between criticising and aimlessly complaining I believe. The weather is a good example of aimless complainig, not much you can do about it besides trying to take a positive perspective. (little known and mostly denied fact; it only rains 7% of the time in the Netherlands. Unbelievable but true).
@@shoelacedonkey The same with a white christmas. We’ve been complaining there are no more white christmasses. Since they started measuring in, I believe 1900, we only had about 7 or 9 white ones. Have to look up the exact amount, but it’s very low. As if we had a white christmas almost every year in the past. For the first part of your reaction, you are right. It might not be complaining, but it is the ability of walking up to your “boss” to say, wait a minute, I don’t agree, I have another idea, without being reprimanded.
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The dutch are not the same in the whole country... the diffrences are big in the way they are. There are diffrent cultures in the netherlands in diffrent provences.
@@mariskab.9106Zuid Limburg? 😂 Doe maar gewoon Limburg hoor
Which province would you say is nicest? I'm genuinely curious because I do see that a bit
@@ay.maripoxaI would say Brabant
@@ay.maripoxa Overijssel, specifically the region called Twente.
Ah yes, a country of contrasts and diversity.
Dutch: We're very open and direct.
American: Hello, how are you?
Dutch: Jesus Christ, the audacity. Scared the shit out of me.
It's not that.
American: Hello, how are you?
Dutch: Ah, actually, didn't sleep so well, headache, and I might be depre..
American: .............
When you ask a Dutch person how are you, expect a real answer. We don't get asking this question out of politeness without expecting a real answer lol
@@sonneh86 Thats true 100% The Americans I've met so far do ask " how are you" but don't expect a reply.
They expect a little dance of "I'm fine/I'm good" to be replied with the same thing lmao@@dancelover020
@@mahadevovnlamerican: same bro same
If your culture does not distinguish between directness and rudeness, there is a trust issue in the other person's intentions. Holland scores very high in interpersonal trust, and it is this that allows us to be relatively direct without much conflict
Yeah but a soon as a foreigner points out any flaw all you hear is: Ga dan terug naar je eigen land.
There is a big spectrum and understanding of directness I guess. When I came to the Netherlands I was tired of saying: ´´Say it straight!´´. I was thinking: why the Dutch are so indirect and can't say something directly? Then I learned that I know Dutch ppl only from the workplace. To be specific: Ppl were polite to me even if I knew they disliked me and I had to say things like: ´´Why do you act like this? You don´t have to pretend you like me just keep it on the business level.´´. It was also something new for me to call my boss by his first name and I did like it, but whenever he wanted to criticize my work or make me do something he tried to give me an explanation or begin with small talk and that was kind of annoying, I had to say: ´´Get to the point!´´. After a while, however, I learned that this is a business level in the Netherlands, politeness and trying really hard not to make ppl feel bad in the workplace. In Poland, we don´t get offended easily, and it is very normal to show on your face that you dislike something or someone without even saying anything, but I eventually began to like the Dutch way. After a while, I discovered the directness that everyone was saying about, but outside of work: ´´Wat een rare pet heb jij?´´ or ´´Wat kost zo´n ding?´´ or ´´We gaan eten.´´. It´s funny when I think about it. I´ve learned a lot: to be more relaxed at work and to be more direct in my private life when I returned to Poland. Actually, I connected the best of two worlds. Now when I want someone to leave I just say it.
@@piecia66 Your speaking a lot of text here, but I still agree
@@elpepe9451 now I also find it strange that I expressed myself so extensively to random comment on random CZcams video pushed to me by the algorithm. Weird stuff, the Netherlands is weird, but somehow addictive
Wow Interesting Thinking 🤔
3:39 "we like discounts" while there are 3 big "SALE" signs behind them. Spot on 😆
Once you enter the kruitvat your being spammed with : “40% SALE NOW + 1 FREE IF YOU BUY 3”
I just love that so many liked your comment and didn't even realize you mistyped the timestamp. 😁
Llllloooolllll 😂😂😂 I noticed that in the video 📹
Hahaha, i am randomly appearing on 3:13 speedwalking to the work 😆
And being really Dutch by wearing orange 🍊😂
@@dianacastaneda7928 indeed 😂
Hahaha that’s how I walk to university on mornings when I don’t feel like getting out of bed but I end up late and have to speed walk
😂 that’s very funny
😂😂😂. Did you get there on time
I really like the dutch way of living/communicating. I see some people in the comments that say ooh I'm just gonna be rude back. And there lies the problem. Dutch people don't intent to be rude. They are just direct. And other dutch people understand this and don't take it as rude. Foreign people who don't understand it and are like " ooh i'm just gonna be rude back" have very different intentions. Their intent is to be rude.
But I do want to point out that some teenage boys are rude and use the "culture" to hide behind. That is not culture, those are just rude.
Yeah, its nice being told something directly.
No Dutch people are just rude. You can be direct without being rude
@@magical5181being honest isn’t the same as being a jackass
@@night6724 well that’s more a personality thing than a culture thing. There’s shit people everywhere, but we Dutch generally like it when your upfront with what you think.
Directness, punctuality, not faking, no spendthrift... I'd prefer that.
It’s unfortunately not like this there when you living there, I have been 4 years and Dutch people are direct when it’s comfortable, I’m not saying that they are not nice people, but not everything I found here to be meeting reality
It sounds contradictory how the dutch are known for be so tolerant with diversity and at the same time being jugful if someone doesn't act "normal" 🤔
Thats the dutch way. We say we're honest but really...we are quite two-faced. They will point at someone ordering a bottle of champagne. And the next day, they'll order the same bottle online and drink it at home. That way they don't have to share😂 but they will break out the cheap bottle when you visit. In other cultures it's usually: give your best to your guests. The dutch will gladly take it(saves money😂) but they are more like:' keep your best for yourself and give your guests the bare minimum😂
Oh and as a dutch person of foreign descend: they say they are tolerant but....I much rather be accepted. Eventhough I'm dutch born and bred, according to the law, I am an 'allochtone/allochtoon'.
Stop whining Roddo.@@roddo1955
It's spelled "libtard"
@@roddo1955 I don't know that side at all - to me (a Dutchy) it would make much more sense to get the nicer/more expensive things when having guests. Partly perhaps as a way of showing off, but I think it's mostly about respecting your guests and wanting nice things for them. Like, I'd want to treat them, but want to save money when I'm just eating on my own... I'd think it's a waste to spend money there & will just save it for special occasions (like with guests) 😊
As someone who has family and friends in the Netherlands. They are direct and you know where you stand with most of them. Most tourists don't realise there are other provinces besides Holland.
No one knows Holland is a province. But here's some directnes for the dutch - nobody cares Holland is a province in the Netherlands. :)
Well most people from Holland would agree. Theres Holland and then theres the other areas which we refer to as "the provinces" or "foreign territory". If someone from a different part of the country is talking about something or some issue that we dont have here, we just laugh and say they live in another country.
For reference, besides north and south holland there are 10 provinces. Groningen is in the north, theres nothing to do there, its just used for mining natural gas. Friesland is where the Frisians live, who are foreigners, theyre not Dutch people, we leave them alone and they leave us alone. Then there is Drenthe which is just a bunch of sheep and approximately 5 people live there.
Gelderland has some nice forests but the people there are German and we dont care what goes on there as long as the trains are on schedule. Same for Overijssel.
Then Utrecht is a lot like Holland but they are just a bunch of wannabes who cant afford the rent here.
Brabant is known for 3 things, carnaval, producing illegal drugs and drinking a lot of beer, but they cant even do that right because the people who drink the most beer per capita live right here in Holland.
Then theres Limburg which is basically fake Belgium. They even have hills over there. Weird people. Zeeland is also fake Belgium, its main use is for building dams and annoying the real Belgians who are trying to steal our trade with their ports around Antwerp, to which we control the sea route.
And lastly we have Flevoland which was reclaimed from the sea to provide housing for people who cant afford the rent in Amsterdam.
@@TheSuperappelflap and then the Holland provinces are not even Dutch anymore because there are only foreigners, criminality and expats there. And the ones that aren't foreigners are extremely poor Hagenezen, Crooswijk Rotterdammers or cultureless YUPpen.
@@TheSuperappelflap Hahaha you made my (dutch) weekend :)
The only good thing about Amsterdam is the train to Eindhoven.
I think we sound rude because our ways of expressing politeness don't translate well into English and vice versa. We aren't actually quite as fluent in English as we migh appear.
Many Dutch people speaking (their version of) English don't add words like 'please' when they are due, because we don't do that in Dutch. We have different ways of expressing that, like 'Zou je even willen...' But that's hard to translate into English on the spot when you're not that fluent. So the Dutch leave it out all together and sound rude as a result.
"zou je" is the conditional tense, often used for politeness. In English we would say "could you" or "voudriez vous" in French.
I know, but it's hard for the average Dutch person trying to speak English.
You are right
I think it depends on the generations as well. My generation and after me are usually good at speaking and understanding English@@anniehope8651
I just love our being direct. I can't stand people that tell you one thing and mean the opposite! Even if it hurts, be true and we will accept it.
Exactly
Really great video! Dutch society is a beautiful dimension to discover! 😄
A lot of the stereotypes the Dutch have are actually more stereotypes of Amsterdammers in particular. Amsterdammers are considered rude and loud in the rest of the Netherlands too.
I never tell other Dutch people i live in Amsterdam, because you tend to get shit on. So i just mention my birth place. But yeah, for some reason we are consider the arrogant ones
I've travelled to most European countries and beyond. More times than I can remember. Amsterdamers aren't just "considered" rude, they truly are! VERY rude and cold people. Don't know how the Dutch in the rest of the country are but the Amsterdamers are definitely a piece of work!
Most people who live in cities are the same. You get fed up with being an unpaid tourist guide eventually.
I have a complete different experience of Amsterdam. I was raised in the Hague, lived in Utrecht during studies, and now live in Amsterdam for work. Amsterdam people are so open minded and nice, I actually had to get used to switching from The Hague’s cut throat attitude. Utrecht was ok, but the The Hague mentality is most aggressive, direct and rude.
@@Psychedelicah I do agree with that. The colleagues from The Hague (not all but in general) I founded the most two faced, rude and complaining a lot. I like Rotterdammers more.
Happy Friday, Marina 🍷! My parents went to Amsterdam in 2019 on a cruise around Europe for almost a month and they had enjoyed it. As an American born, I like to be punctual when it comes to making plans with friends, girlfriend because I like to value my time to people and I hope in return people value their time to me. I do hope to experience one day to take a trip to the Netherlands and other areas of the world as well. Hope you had an awesome experience over there!
Interesting insights into Dutch culture! It's fascinating how directness is valued, even if it may seem blunt to others. Embracing authenticity seems to be a key principle. Thanks for sharing! 🇳🇱
I like how the woman who keeps claiming she is not direct..... is in fact very direct towards the interviewer.
The Dutch are Friendly, Frugal, individualistic, low on politeness, high on life.
They talk directly like children do if they're not taught any manners. They live in a remarkable country with an unremarkable landscape. They're super organised and are natural planners. Don't expect a let's go now spontaneous outlook because their agendas don't allow it.
As a Dutchman I can say that the statements in this video are very accurate 😂 and I think Marina is a very good host of the show 😄
Wow good for you if ur a Dutch man seeing you’re comments getting a heart by this CZcamsr
"I don't like Americans, no." Meanwhile, "don't call us Germans. Never say it, we hate that." So they can openly say that don't like an entire nationality, while if you mistake theirs for another, that makes them mad. To be honest, I think they are pretty full of themselves.
From the outside in (Dutch who immigrated to the US almost 2 decades ago), I do think that many Dutch are more small-minded than they think themselves, especially the whole 'doe maar normaal' en 'brood voor lunch'... how boring :-)
And in defense of the American smiling and doing the little 'how are you' dance... after getting used to it I like the positivity people start with over people being grumpy and moody. And it's nice people try to be customer friendly, why would that be a bad thing?
What I miss most about Dutch culture is that people are often genuinely interested in each other. It's easy to meet a Dutch person and end up talking for hours about all kinds of stuff, or start a new job and spending the first day just chit chatting with everyone over coffee. America often feels very impersonal and distant once you have the first brief interaction out of the way. That, and that everything is walkable, especially the old towns and cities.
Where do you live, because most "Dutch" stereotypes are mostly Hollands and Randstad, for a country as small as we are we have a lot of diversity. With the creation of the Netherlands, there was a "Dutch" way to do, speak, write, etc. with the Unification of the Lowlands creating the Netherlands, uniting and splitting to get the Netherlands people "know" and think off/associate when hearing the Netherlands.
They don't think of the Benelux area.
Also a stereotype doesn't mean all Dutch people do/are the same, not all local cultures and dialects are the same there are similarities etc.
Because it is fake, and you force the employee to behave like they are in a play for the profit for the company and their commissions. Like working at Disney. Wearing a mask for profits = the public you.
Doe normaal dan doe je gek genoeg. In the US everything is a competition, being the best, American excellence/superiority.
Similar to the tip cultures, instead of paying a fair wage.
It is all about the profit for the owner classes, and the working classes are the monkeys that have to "dance" for their money. Work multiple jobs and still don't earn a living wage. Go bankrupt with medical bills, etc.
Also it is not like we don't have these or similar social dances. "Small talk"
Wishing people a good day/morning/afternoon/eventing, etc.
If you are in a big city you don't greet people you encounter, if you live more urban or rural it is more likely you will greet a stranger passing by.
I lived all over the place in NL: Delft, Rijswijk, Rotterdam, Lelystad, Zwolle and Deventer.
I think the statements you make are pretty un-nuanced (like, do you really think Americans are 'forced' to greet you like that?), and you may have a different take on things if you'd live here for a while. Though I agree that how the medical system works and how the income disparity is so large in the US are pretty terrible things, and in fact are some of the reasons why I'm considering to move back again at some point.
@@EelcoHillenius South Holland, Flevoland, and Overijssel. How where/are your experiences with the nuances in provinces and their local cultures as well as from the individual cities and their local cultures?
True, it was un-nuanced, generalizing and stereotyping. If I have to put nuance in, my reactions would be longer still. And it also all depends on the view on 'forced' and what is or isn't that.
The point is as made in the video, to us it comes across as fake. A thing you do, but not sincere.
Also a different stereotype of Dutch people/tourists: "Kijken, kijken, niet kopen."
@@schiffelers3944 I know, I don't blame you as I myself thought it was fake when I visited/ just moved to the US. But having lived here for almost two decades, between immigrants from all over the world, and being married to a Thai person, I appreciate how cultures have their own particulars, but the end of the day people aren't really that different once you get past these things.
As for the differences between parts of the Netherlands, yeah, there certainly are some. Frankly, I felt most at home in Deventer. I love the midsized cities and the 'nuchtere' attitude of the Dutch East :-) On the topic of 'fake', we even have that in NL, where - in my experience - people from outside of Amsterdam sometimes look at the Amsterdam 'joviaal' attitude as fake.
Maar niet in het zuiden Eelco .@@EelcoHillenius
One of my favourite things to do is when the native Dutch are direct with me, I am mirroring that back to them, being direct as well... Really funny to see their reactions and how they consider me being rude.😀
You weren't being rude. You probably just were wrong. Greetings from a Dutchman.
couldn't agree with you more !
that's also I am happy to do while visiting Netherlands.
If they consider you rude, you probably were being rude and you don't really get the difference between Dutch directness and being rude
The Dutch are direct but so am I. It shocks them but things get done quickly 😐
I found people in the Netherlands very critical of Australia, even though they had never been there. Yet when I dared to say something critical about the Netherlands, their royal family, or their colonial past they did not like it at all.
Excellent job with this video.
Interesting video nice seeing different parts of the world
I lived in NL (not Amsterdam) for almost 5 years. What they call "direct" the rest of the world calls "rude".
I think the guy in white hit it spot on: "Calvinism" - the reason for almost every Dutch stereotype! (Seriously, I tell every other foreigner I meet this and it is like a lightbulb goes on!)
(I still remember the look of horror on the faces of my ex's parents when I put the meat AND the cheese on the same sandwich ::gasp:: the horror!)
Also, the complaining is mostly about the weather, the NS (trains), or how expensive things are/becoming, lol.
Now I will go make a pindakaas and hagelslag sandwich 😅
The discount part is so true. Im living in Spain right now and compared to NL there are hardly any discounts here in shops and especially supermarkets. For me it always gives me a good feeling when I do shopping and get many things that are discounted
David Wen! Also love his channel.
Some of the things the interviewees say about American communication reminds me what my dad used to tell me growing up in America - to distrust people when they are saying nice things (implying Americans give compliments they don't mean) and to trust the negative things he/other adults say to improve implying people won't say negative things unless they are true. I internalized that and I realized later it was holding me back especially because confidence is currency in the US. He's not Dutch and I'm not saying that this is what the Dutch people mean, it just reminded me of those things.
Yeah over here its the opposite, if someone is being negative and complaining theyre probably just talking or maybe have a bad day, and if someone gives you a compliment they really mean it. Unless theyre trying to get your money, then we will say anything you want to hear.
@TheSuperappelflap In my experience, only sales people that follow the scientology way to do sales.
I love the dutch people.
My first boyfriend was a dutch guy...
When I was a child my parents used to have a house there and we went there every holiday.
They remind me a lot of americans.
Nice to children, friendly and open, love dogs...
I am German, lived in the States for 20 years, back in Germany and sometimes I need to go to the netherlands to be around nice people for a change.
Germans are very stoic and cold.
I like the Germans, but you need to "reheat" them every time you are talking to them. But they are very helpful and protective (to an annoying degree if you know them probably, but as a stranger, the helpfulness of other strangers is cute.)
Planning to visit. Ty for your content
I feel like the directness really helps a lot. Whenever I ask a friend if I look good, and they say yes, I know I actually look good. I don't have to think "Oh but what if they are just saying that".
Genieten is enjoy, enjoyment. There s A word for it in every language i think
I was married to a dutch man for 45 wonderful years. It says it all.xxx
That’s so sweet!
Gezellig is like having a nice atmosphere while engaging in a social activity. E.g." we went for dinner and it was " echt gezellig" really nice,cosy diner.
It has to do with being in " gezelschap" in company of other people. Its very rare someone says: i had a really gezellige evening on my own! 😂
When you meet up with someone, being a little bit early is better than 1 minute late, like it shows you care and are punctual. High credits for this!
One thing that I will never forget with the dutchies: I give a gift to my dutch colleague and he said: *"why did you give it to me? where did you buy this? Do you still have the receipt?"* and I was like: OKAY?!? THAT WAS RUDE!!!
But when my birthday came, HE GAVE ME ALMOST THE SAME THING, WITH THE SAME PRICE 😭
But anyway we're dating now
🙂🙃😆🥲🤨😞😠😥
aw thats cute
6:21 Wow... That attitude towards food is just wild. I'm such a food snub, I handmake my dumplings, mapo tofu, skewers, etc, I love this part about living in the US
The quality of this food is very high. The hagelslag, chocolate sprinklers, for instance are 35-58% chocolate. The cheese is most of the time Gouda, but there are other delicious varieties. The bread is without sugar. The milk most people have with lunch is pasteurized. And lots of people also eat some fruit, which is also of high quality.
@@jannetteberends8730 I guess I have to go there and try. But I really can't imagine a slice of bread + Cheese being anything above chicken + broccoli
@@yunleung2631not to be a dick but there is a reason for the difference in % of obese people between our country's exactly beacause of this .
Im dutch and idgaf what people say. I mean, we have all these luxury products. Why shouldn't I enjoy them, if I can? And those places where you can get enjoy an expensive food are never empty, so a lot of dutch people do splash out. But when they see others do it: they have to have some opinion on it and share that opinion with you: 'im just being honest'. Bull....😂Mind your business! I will eat my steak while you eat your slice of bread with bland cheese! It's almost as if they don't want you to enjoy life😂 but thats a stereotype ofcourse. People in the southern provinces have a bit more joie de vivre.
@@yunleung2631 Fresh, whole grain bread, butter and really old Dutch cheese... just typing this already makes my mouth water
Being open-minded is another trait that is often associated with being Dutch (which I can generally confirm as a Dutchman). You can chat about virtually everything, have small talks about the most far-out topics you can imagine. This goes hand in hand with the fact that we often don’t have to deal with underlying social judgments or tension, because people just say what they think, which we all kinda accept. There are, in other words, little taboos.
I moved to Netherlands around 1,5 year ago, and... I love Dutch directness
So im dutch, and i live near the southern part of the netherlands. I think that you might find it interesting to do interviews there one day, cause it's culturally quite different, especially the directness thing. I am from the nord and one of my parents is from amsterdam, so i used to be (and parti
ally still am) direct, even for dutch standards and I really had to adjust to the way that southerns express themselves and their shocked reactions to my communication style.
Congratulations if ur Dutch👏👏👏
BS. You guys always pretend you are more special. Yeah, special needs.
Most Dutch people are direct but only when asked for their opinion or when it's needed in the situation. People from Amsterdam are a bit much though, they act like it's their whole identity. It's very easy to spot someone from Amsterdam because they will tell you within the first minute of talking to them.
You: Hey how are you doing?
Them: Hi I'm fine, I'm from Amsterdam so I always say what's on my mind, cool right?
You: Okay, have a nice day. Bye!
I believe you can say what you think, but there is a WAY to say it.
You CAN be honesty but still think of other people's feelings.
This was finally and actually one of the greatest interviews of the dutch. Very representative, and finally some people that are intellectual and know how to explain themselves in English. Very good!
Have a look at Dutch people in the diaspora. After World War 2, they were one on the largest sources of immigrants into Australia, and there was a strong feeling among Australians that they were arrogant. I've known a lot of them, and, sad to say, they genuinely were arrogant.
In America we have to ask how you are and be super friendly if we work at a store, restaurant or customer service. If our bosses don’t think we’re being friendly enough we can get in trouble. So it’s ingrained in us to be that friendly. I’m naturally nice but hate small talk but I’ve had to do it for my job.
In the Netherlands we appreciate as well if the customer service or a waiter is friendly. But being "friendly enough" is a wrong perspective. Be friendly or kind if you really mean it. If you pretend to be friendly, you can recognize this immediately. Maybe it's better to find another job.
This just sounds annoying & exhausting to me 😅
It is funny how countries see themselves as opposed to other people. In Australia, we generally see Americans as rude. They are extremely loud and never say please or thank you to staff.
@@markjacobs1086then don't work in customer service 😂 it's the standard in North America to be friendly.
@@rouky123456 Not just as someone that has to work there. It sounds tiring to interact with as well... I'd rather have customer service get to the point instead of asking how I am feeling. 🙃
I studied French in Aix en Provence, France with students from around the world. The Dutch students were universally disliked for talking loudly and incessantly in class.
Really? I think French people are one of the most disliked people in the Netherlands.
We know 😂But atleast were enjoying our lifes haha
I know that the Dutch have people like this, this really depends in The Netherlands where they would be from.
We don’t care if we offend people.. if you’re not used to that I get you can be offended. Problem is that mostly we’re right 😀
Everyone dislikes you.
Statisticly dutch people are considered one of the countries with the tallest people. I used to live in NL for a while and my experience tells me it is quite hard to make new friends in NL. Something that surprised me becasue they can be quite friendly at first glance. But getting to know them is very hard. Also most speak English on very high level so learning dutch is a challlenge since nobody really allows you to speak it unless you speak it well. About the directness this depends really on the people you have around and I would not say it is typical dutch it is more about personality rather than being dutch. The aspect of culture is more a true statement because in some countries hierachy decides so than it does not matter if you are direct or not. It depends also more about your personality as a whole.
Finally a good and accurate interview about the Dutch people in the Netherlands. I'm also Dutch and agree what the people say. Well done Marina. 👍🏻
I’ve lived in Amsterdam for 6 years now and here’s what I think about the Dutch stereotypes.
Yes they’re tall, the majority seem to be blonde and most guys have the mid length ‘Prince charming’ haircut.
They are quite direct but not in a rude way.
I’ve never felt insulted by their directness. I actually admire it because in New Zealand where I’m from, we tend to beat around the bush and don’t say exactly what we mean because we don’t want to hurt any feelings.
The way they use disease and illnesses to call people offensive names is a bit wild though.
To sum up though, they’re good people and are nice to travelers (from my experience).
You lived in Amsterdam. That is not a good representation of the rest of the Netherlands.
I don’t care. 6 years in a tiny country is enough for a valid opinion of them. Just because i live in Amsterdam doesn’t mean I haven’t traveled. Don’t be ignorant. I stand by what I say.
The dutch guy at the end said there isn’t really an english translation to the word “genieten”, but it really just means enjoying. I think we just use it in different contexts, not so much about food maybe but more so when we are in a relaxed environment and such. A typical dutch wordt that actually doesn’t have translation tho, is the word “gezellig” which all my foreign collegues joke about since its really hard to put the word into context when you don’t know what it means for the dutch.
Edit: shit i paused the video right before the guy explains exactly this💀
I think getting the best bargain is almost like a national sports in The Netherlands. 😛
My farther was born in Amsterdam he came to New Zealand when he was 18 I'm planning to visit next year
Don't forget to visit some places other than Amsterdam. Beautiful as it may be it's also easy to take a train into any direction for 30/40 minutes and experience a totaly different Netherlands. Have a good trip!
Americans are generally really friendly and genuinely mean it. We'll treat people like a best friend within minutes of meeting them, which I know can be off putting for other cultures. It is a genuine in most cases though. Even in stores. We make friends in the grocery store line.
I trust you feel it is genuine. That said to me calling someone you just met in the grocery store line a friend would feel weird towards my long time & actual friends. One can be friendly, even Dutch people can be friendly but to get to a certain point of actual friendship will take time, effort and honesty.
@@shoelacedonkeyit's funny how when the dutch go abroad they enjoy the advantages of being treated like a welcome guest but that same courtesy isnt there in the Netherlands.😂 thankfully i only surround myself with people who aren't 'stereotypically' dutch. I'm a bit of an oddball so most dutch people I know are odd like me: Sensitive, non-confrontational, welcoming, generous to a fault....😅
I am Canadian and I would second that. We are genuinely warm, friendly and helpful. It does not mean we are best friends but it’s not hard to be considerate and positive towards others. People who are suspicious of that are cynical and entitled.
@@MonsieurChapeau i feel i might be a canadian in a dutch born body😅 i like my own company. I dont like to form close friendships off the bat. Gimme some space, first. Unless you need my help: that is a given. I won't make a big deal out of it. I don't need a 'thank you' nor, does it obligate you or me to become friends. But if we do become friends; it's the real deal. No fakery! Being rude and calling it direct, is fake to me.
@@roddo1955 But being nice to people isn't fake! If you are helpful to me, then I of course would say thank you because that is a proper and decent way to behave, and it is proper and decent for you to accept my thanks or say you are welcome. And that is all.
I always hate it when foreigners only visit Amsterdam and see that city as "the Netherlands", when I think that really does not represent the country correctly or do it justice. Amsterdam is very touristic, international and a lot of unusual things happen there. Where as that is defenetly not the case for most other cities. (Or at least not in the same way …carnaval in the Brabant region…)
Good thing you also went to Utrecht 😁🙏🏻
I appreciate the Dutch directness to a large extent. I like what the lady said about "getting to the point" - this approach simplifies things a lot which is incredibly useful in the work environment. On the other hand I do feel like a lot of people use "directness" as a substitute for basic respect. For instance - making jokes or comments about a persons race while they are sitting across from you is not being 'direct', it's just being rude. I've met met more than a fair share of people who are blissfully unaware of this difference.
Quite clearly the rudest people in Europe in my experience - at least as far as customer service is concerned!
You have to understand, American staff are overly nice bc they mostly rely on tips to live. That is absolutely fake nice. Americans are actually not polite to staff.
100 procent
@@sonnysantino7849100% bs
You never been to France? Go there, they will show you what being rude really looks like 😂😂
Yesz closely followed by Nordic people.
As a person from northern germany i can totally agree with that all 👍👍
Yes ! We are direct! Better than lying ! Honesty is better than
In Leiden I was informed fictionally the Dutch and Irish swopped their countries. Dutch Ireland prospered, they sent a mission back to the old Netherlands, but there was only water it had fallen back to the North Sea 😅
It's unfair that criticizing America is viewed differently than criticizing other countries. Insert the guy on video saying how he doesn't like Americans.
Unfair or not, the US is over present in many things all over the world so they're an easy victim for critisism. That said I thought that specific couple came across as ignorant and presumptuous. They werent a good example of a Dutch stereotype imho. Especialy the younger people are much more open minded towards new people from other countries/cultures.
That guy is a typical 'grachtengordel' person😂.
@@shoelacedonkeythat guy is every teacher I've had. Typical middle-upperclass mentality. I wish she'd go to Rotterdam or the Hague and ask people, there. Amsterdam is a tourist trap where only the wealthy can live. Utrecht is a city you move to when you can't afford Amsterdam but still want to be fancy. Lots of students from wealthy backgrounds who have no idea what goes on beyond their own social circle, live there. I must say that most people Marina interviewed are the kind of people I avoid😂 would be nice to have her interview dutch people outside her comfort zone.
Dutch people literally translate the language to English; that isn’t to say our English is lacking, just that we remove filler words
As a Dutch person, I have things I'm proud if about my country, but I HATE the quote "doe maar normaal, dan doe je al gek genoeg" ("Just act normal, that's weird enough already") I just hate it soooo much
I have to say, I am dutch and I am not as direct as people are saying in this video. You can be subtle about things. I think it also differs from where you are in the Netherlands. I am from the south. Overhere it is not excepted to be to direct. So there is a difference in the Netherlands also.
Absolutely right. You can get the same message across in many different ways.
"Doe maar gewoon, dan doe je al gek genoeg." means "Just be normal, that's crazy enough.". It's a way to tone down irrational excitement, overly dramatic persona's and delusions of grandeur. We don't disapprove of ordering champagne, we have a distaste for the accompanying social hysteria and showing off your wealth in an obnoxious manner.
A good way to compare it for me has always been visiting the cinemas.
A dutch cinema will usually be very quiet and respectful of those around you, trying not to make too much noise so we all can take in the movie better.
Then you see recording of some other countries cinemas where people lose their absolute shit during a movie: clapping and screaming during it. It's a sign of shared excitement and respect for the movie... Part of the experience for them.
This is VERY different culturally.. In a dutch cinema this would be considered rude, annoying and disrespectful.
@@FlorentiusIV absolutely, though it does matter what kind of movie is on display. I remember one edition of the Lowlands Festival in the cinema tent, where it was rowdy, people walking in and out, cheering and clapping for the action scenes in Face/Off. Under the right circumstances we do appreciate it.
3:47 4:02 Ah, so much for open-mindedness of other cultures. 🤨
For the record, when most Americans are friendly, it's not always "fake." From a cultural perspective, asking someone how their day is going is a means for conversation, for engagement.
Culturally, Americans have conversations with strangers - it's just who we are - and I think that comes from a time when pioneers relied on each other, despite being strangers, to build communities. The same applies for immigrants arriving in America during the 18th, 19th, and early 20th centuries - they talked to strangers to find commonality or to build connection.
I know this channel is in the spirit of having fun; however, if there's an expectation that Americans need to be more culturally aware, I think this expectation of awareness needs to be considered when perceiving Americans, as well. There are practical reasons for our behavior. It's not about being "fake."
Don't compare Americans to these soul-less people. They lack a sense of human depth, empathy, and the emotional intelligence to bond with humans. I lived in Europe, Sweden and Holland for the most part and the hypocrisy is real.
*they love to talk shit behind your back
*they criticize everything not European
*they think other nations are less than them especially Americans
*You're not pretty if you're not white
Europe looks shiny, but the inside is rotten.
triggered american spotted
@@perlabianca155 No. It's about noting hypocrisy. Or, as to paraphrase Scandinavians, "I'm just being direct and honest."
@@perlabianca155 nothing's triggering about people who pretend to be happy but in fact 80% of them are depressed.
Are you culturally aware of how many cultures? The whole world needing to speak your language because you guys can't learn anything else besides English isn't enough?
about punctuality: true. my wife is pedicure. ALL of her clients ring the bell 5-3 minutes before their appointment. no exception. When you will be late, phone 15 minutes before your appointment !
If you are 15 minutes before time, you might still think you can be on time, why would you call?
Wow I was born and raised in the Netherlands and after watching this video I realised I’m not Dutch, apart from the lunch part, peanut butter en hagelslag is a banger
Some Americans are friendly and actually mean it. They just want to spread happiness to others by being happy and nice.
Honestly most Americans are like this. Some are fake obviously but the majority actually do care.
Nice and kind are two very different things. I do agree that smiling at a stranger, as an Australian isn’t weird but to Europeans it is. They say they think you are are not all mentally there if you walk around smiling😂. A smile from a stranger can make someone’s day or a simple hello as you pass. These things are seen as normal here. As a girl I learnt not to smile while in countries like Italy bc all the men think you are interested in them, which I found sad and disturbing at the same time😂. I do have to say though, seeing Americans in Australia, Americans are not polite to staff. It is customary to say hello, how are you to staff then place your order followed by a pls and thank you. Americans just don’t do this. It is seen as very rude not to in Australia.
I've started to experience my Dutchness after I started dating a Scottish woman. Many of these stereotypes have truth to them. I am from the South and we are a bit less direct than the north, but I still need to watch what I say around Brits since they aren't used to very direct feedback. I'm not down with cold lunches though, I like a sandwich as much as the next guy but if there are leftovers from dinner I'm eating them for lunch the next day.
We very direct and always right😆😆
This was fun to watch
Americans: *Being polite to make people feel comfortable*
Dutch: "Why are you so fake?"
Americans: ...
Since we are not assholes we are assholes. Gotta love their circular logic.
It is an odd assumption to think being considerate is being "fake."
As a dutch person I would say: Use the autofocus or use the manual focus right. There is this setting in the camera called: Focus Peaking. You will see a red or blue line around the subject that is in focus.
Don't record on the lowest aperture either. you see this a lot so you can use low ISO but trust me. Newer camera's can handle up to 1600 ISO so you can record with F/11 - F/14 easily so you can keep everything in focus and don't have blurry subjects
I’m Dutch but born in America my father is very straightforward so I was raised to speak my mind, I never knew why people in America were so uptight and offended by people being straightforward
I would say “I love you, you are so great!” to the tall dutch with the bike 😍
I'm Dutch and I can totally agree with the guy in the video saying that things like weed become less appealing when it's legalized. In my surroundings, I know more international people smoking weed than Dutch people. I can also remember having an exchange with other European countries in high school, and all they could think about was to buy weed and they also thought that every average Dutch family has weed at home (which is not the case)
Interesting your name is sedathefarmer. The thing I always think when I think about the dutch is farmers :)
Congratulations if ur Dutch as if we care about it👏👏
@@The_LivingdudeI am Australian not Dutch but I really don’t understand why you are watching a video about Dutch people, if as you say, you don’t care😂.
@@soullessnight6539This guy has been commenting this all over the comment section lol
Lol
we do complain and we do pick out our fellow dutchies in foreign countries I remember I was in Kyoto, Japan and I suddenly hear someone say (in dutch) "boy, we're sure lucky with this weather(sarcastically)" so thats really acurate.
Interesting & fun video... just _terrible_ music at the end 😉 (I thought I'd practice my Dutch directness)
I work for the last 15 years with dutch people and I can confirm that you are rude. But most of you are getting pissed off if I say the same things. Among other nations I work with are Filipino, Croation, Romanians, Indians, Indonesians, Bulgarian...etc.
They are disrespectful and call it "just being honest" 👎 they are so egoistic and conceited they think everyone is waiting to hear their "opinions" all the time. They do not. I'm just being honest.
Philipino people are really polite and kind
@@MonsieurChapeau We could also lie to you if you prefer that but thats not in our culture 😂
@@MusicIsLegal Being polite and respectful to people in public isn't "lying". If you have a bad mood, keep it to yourself. You make the atmosphere toxic.
@@MonsieurChapeau Lying is not polite or respectful. Being honest is polite and respectful.
I'm really a direct person and don t like small talk and I'm canadian😅
In my experience and opservations
Canada is very Dutch / french
You have good healthcare you eat the pouten thats just alot of cheese and fries
You have the weed
I think
When the people moved from
Europe to the new land merica
What
Americans often forget is were did you came.from.yourself
Most of your ancestors came from Europe
So prob they just gave alot of people
That wanted to start a new love or actually earned it
But also the more radical people the treats om society
And what sounds better then
Land of the freee
Marketing
If your running a country you probably
Better of having them over seas
That also can explain
Why Americans are such a agressif country
Couse it were alot of loonies from Europe 😂😂
But getting back to the point
In alot of states in America you can see the Dutch influence
Like for example
That 70 showww whoooo minesootttaaaaa
Is about a bunch of stoners in a basement
Minnesota mainly know for productions of cheese
Hmmmm
Weed and cheese
Were did we hear that before 😅
some dutch stores are expensive but we dutch like to get a discount and thats why many people go through folders to get discounts, our stores are structured to feed our cheapskate mindset
As both Dutchman and autistic, I have had to find the middleground of saying nothing and being too blunt. I tend to have to be more wordy online and I also don't like if people act like my best friend after a single day. I agree with the "How are you?" thing. I don't want you to ask me if you want a stock answer.
I have a friend in Lebanon and they told me that they were called rude for being direct. They explained the respectability and dancing on eggshells. I actually find it a lot more rude to not say how you feel and to expect me to read your mind. It's shady. Be honest. If somebody says I look exhausted, it's because they're concerned, not because they're trying to insult me. It lets me talk about a problem I'm having rather than hiding it to save face while people talk about it behind my back.
I too have never touched a weed. The punctuality depends on how long you've known someone and the reason for the meeting. I do like to wait on sales... My dad takes pride in finding stuff cheap. I gladly take the frugal stereotype. You get stuff for less so you can get more bigger stuff. That was very eloquent, I know.
I'm an American and when I ask how someone is doing, I mean it. My favorite people are the ones who answer honestly, too!
Emotions are for my family and my gang members... rest is definitely business...
@@kalebind1😂
If you want to be rich, spend like you're poor.
If you want to be poor, spend like you're rich.
Actually, that's not how rich people get rich. Rich people spend a lot of money on investment to get rich. Income can only generate so much wealth.
the rich get their wealth on the backs of the poor
@@lissandrafreljord7913 So, you call that investment? I remember a time it was just called abuse.
'What the Dutch are REALLY Like?'
Laid back and mind-your-own-business.
For the darker side of what the Dutch are REALLY like wath 'The Miniaturist'. The cold atmosphere of light, climate and people is very well captured.
Our accents 🤣
When English people say “it’s interesting”, they mean it’s NOT interesting…..Why, because it is polite to lie ??
They say that the English are too decent to be honest, whilst the Dutch are too honest to be decent.
@@PetraStaal Haha, I will remember that one. Very accurate.
I lived in the UK and found the roundabout way of approaching things diplomatically, a lot better. 😂 then again; I lived in very poor areas where people are very direct but genuinely kind. It would really make my day if I went to the local off-licence for a pack of cigs and the lady goes: 'Hiya! You're alright, love?' And when you accidentally bump into someone it's: 'safe, bruv. No worries'. Gotta love the brits😂 they are very similar to the Dutch, just nicer.
We’re just clever with our words to avoid conflict. We’d probably call someone who is too lively too early in the morning ‘enthusiastic’ when what we really mean is they’re annoying.
I'm from Amsterdam, and personally I hate (!) the stereotype ''Doe maar gewoon, dan doe je al gek genoeg.'' It literally means in english; ''don't be yourself, blend in with society.'' Sounds awful right?
Doesn't it mean "just being yourself is good enough" ?
@@jodidoest2389 No, it means you have to blend in with the rest. I also don’t like that sentence but maybe because I live in Amsterdam too. My family is from Twente (the east) and this sentence could be their motto. I don’t like it, it is not tolerant at all.
That's not a literal translation at all, might wanna look up what that word means.
A literal translation would be. Just act normal, that's scrub weird enough.
@@mormacil there is a difference what it literally means and how Dutch use it. It is mostly used by people outside the cities, ‘just don’t do too weird’. It fits some more Calvinistic people and they also say ‘we zijn zo nuchter’ but they are not. Just in their own bubble.
@@mimijanssen7589 That's an entirely different point. What something literally means is a word for word translation. That's what the word literally in English means.
As a lifelong Dutch guy I'm well aware of what it means. I was pointing out that rosavisser5764 was completely wrong to use the word "literally" here.
I do also disagree with your interpretation of how the saying is used in Dutch culture. It means there's no need to act out. Which is a very Calvenist worldview. It's of course not remotely intolerant.
Also being in your own bubble and being nuchter are entirely separate things. Nuchter has a wide variety of meanings and I can't recall a single one that's incompatible with being in a bubble. Assuming you mean something like a social bubble.
Most interesting.
In australia we have a saying dont sugar coat thing well have it straight up.that way we know were we are but there is a different between not beating around the bush to brutal honesty i think we've come somewhere inbetween .my husband of 34 years is dutch and it works from the start i like his honesty and he liked mine but his mother thought i was rude because she ask my option and i give it but it wasnt want she wanted to hear 😂
I suppose honesty is a part of Dutch culture, but if an elderly lady who owns a charming restaurant asks if the food was good, just say it was good. Your Dutch opinion won't make her cook better or change her cooking style. Just giving my two cents.
In most cases that is exactly what will happen in the Netherlands.
I mean, as long as it's edible & has a taste to it I'm game!
I'd probably focus on the one thing that *was* decent and not mention the rest. Still honest but decent enough to not offend.
@@patrickreuvekampexactly. The complaints are done later, behind people's backs. 😂
Absolutely, we are definitely very honest relative to other cultures, but we still make the conscious consideration whether unfiltered honesty is actually appropriate. White lies are often just necessary to avoid negative tension or conflict when there is no net positive to be gained from it down the line, and you don't have to give your opinion when it's not being asked for.
Yes, they definitely are rude. Also, they will tackle you down on the street, never say sorry if they accidentally bump into you, they just go like bulldozers, no spatial awareness whatsoever.
They would not do well in Australia then. Caring about other people is not fake. A sentence I thought I would never have to write.
Haha I love this comment 😂
@@soullessnight6539 I'd think an Australian would be able to spot the sarcasm in the OP 😅
"Ken je niet uit je doppen kijken?"
@@shoelacedonkeynah. Australians can come across as brusque but in my experience, they are very gregarious. And if they call you 'mate', they mean it.
Kijken, kijken, niet kopen 🤣
As an Australian I have only ever had one experience with a Dutch person. It was quite a few years ago. He came to our small town in Australia and formed a friendship with my friend group. We all hung out together but could not understand a word he said. We were having farewell drinks on his last night before going back to his home. In the clearest English he said… women should be in the kitchen at all times with their legs spread. My friend, a girl wanted to kill him but me, also a girl just couldn’t stop laughing😂😂. This guy couldn’t speak a word of English the whole time we knew him but that, THAT, he said in perfect English😂.
What a stupid creature he was
( you left a comment below my comment hence I simply had owed you one)
i think he probaly meant that as a joke
I’m half Dutch and half American. I find the Dutch a lot more fake and less blunt. In my own experience living in both countries I think Americans are way more direct and say what’s on their mind.
One things that still strikes me when watching Dutch Tv or interviews. People are always fake smiling constantly. Many times people are answering directly laughing or smiling without a joke or reason.
The Dutch are definitely a lot more cheap and less giving then Americans. In America people really dislike cheap and stingy people.
I’ve heard a lot of Dutch people refer to employees in stores when shopping in the US. Its just costumer services, friendly costumer services. Americans are more customer friendly.
I believe most Americans are genuinely interested in how someone is doing and would love to converse. Americans are definitely more social with strangers and enjoy and spontaneous conversation.
Dutch are more punctual and definitely plan things more. People have to make a appointment to see their own family members. In the USA people just by randomly for dinner for example.
Oh ur Dutch mom or dad thinks they’re now American by making you a half Dutchie that’s new
What's that then when we were invited by americans to come for dinner and see how disappointed they were when we showed up?
As a southwest German I don't see any difference between the cultures 😃
You don't like to be called German either? 🤣😉