Mistakes men make during Break-ups - Shaffie Weru, Dr. Ofweneke, Robert Burale share lessons

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  • @SwitchTVKenya
    @SwitchTVKenya  Před 3 lety +12

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  • @alexcharo272
    @alexcharo272 Před 3 lety +14

    whether am married, separated or devorced, I just wanna have peace of heart in my life, that's all I want, isn't that what we all want?

  • @agnesmawondo1706
    @agnesmawondo1706 Před 3 lety +39

    I can't lie, I've learned a lot from this conversion.you guys you've said it all.i would love every man to listen to this.wapi likes za hawa wasee

  • @Elwaque
    @Elwaque Před 3 lety +62

    'You cannot enjoy the intimacy that brought a child forth and run away from the responsibility'
    Real talk!

  • @moiben663
    @moiben663 Před 3 lety +42

    Shaffie's story is so real..big up king of zamunda

  • @belindajane89
    @belindajane89 Před 3 lety +8

    With all honesty, hats off for Shaffie.
    Not that my respect to him matters but you have earned my respect and am so sorry for propelling,fuelling,the tabloid propaganda.

  • @JastoLeleJnr
    @JastoLeleJnr Před 3 lety +15

    Shaffie's story is similar to mine...reaches a point where you let the women be, and be on your own

  • @TheKoreankook
    @TheKoreankook Před 3 lety +17

    It has come at the right time in my life, learnt a lot on my birth day.

  • @muddymakaveli9401
    @muddymakaveli9401 Před 3 lety +5

    I've watched this 20 time,passing trough shaffie situation

  • @nellythuranira6732
    @nellythuranira6732 Před 3 lety +15

    This guy burale got a lot of wisdom May God bless him forever!!

  • @lui5503
    @lui5503 Před 3 lety +16

    Respect 🙌🙌🙌 to these men and all the other unsung heroes doing right by their children and exes inspite of all else. Thank you Tamima for highlighting them.

  • @soniakithinji
    @soniakithinji Před 3 lety +5

    This three gentlemen have just made me realize I don't need to explain myself anymore, I was in the middle of the mtview story that has trended last three weeks.. It was full of falsehoods I was planning to speak my truth but now I have changed my mind.

  • @doleenwambaa9229
    @doleenwambaa9229 Před 3 lety +22

    Thanks shaffi for sharing I respect you.for not saying bad things about the mother of your only children.am keeping that. For myself

  • @cgichunge
    @cgichunge Před 3 lety +13

    Shaffie is smart ! Relationship is not a competition

  • @christabelfavoured9759
    @christabelfavoured9759 Před 3 lety +16

    Why are you busting ofweneke....... These men are just real to the best of my knowledge...... God bless me with valuable friends in my life 🙏🙏

  • @cathythuo8606
    @cathythuo8606 Před 3 lety +12

    I really enjoyed this candid conversation. Hilarious but eye opening too!

  • @Ngaiseri_teddy
    @Ngaiseri_teddy Před 3 lety +5

    wow just WOW.. I appreciate these men and the beautiful Tamima for talking about this.

  • @veemuyambo
    @veemuyambo Před 3 lety +10

    That statement """MAN ALSO HURT ""Its deep.

  • @fireone9692
    @fireone9692 Před 3 lety +7

    A looooong video , I could not move every word from this wise men is important. Thanks to switch Tv.

  • @gachihiwilson3590
    @gachihiwilson3590 Před 3 lety +5

    Amazing candid talk, my favorite gentlemen led by his excellency R.B

  • @miriammwangi1520
    @miriammwangi1520 Před 3 lety +23

    Weru at least you are honest "YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW"

  • @Ukversuskenya
    @Ukversuskenya Před 3 lety +8

    This was a healthy round table. It's good for the boy child.

  • @gitauwamukui5031
    @gitauwamukui5031 Před 3 lety +12

    This is great . We need a part 2 of this.

  • @sav.savi.
    @sav.savi. Před 3 lety +39

    untill men and women start having honest conversation about who they truly are, what demons they battle with, where they lack and what the truly want, love will continue to be a temporary emotion.

  • @polycapnyakoi8609
    @polycapnyakoi8609 Před 3 lety +2

    As a new dad this just came at the right moment... Guys you indeed gave me a life lesson.. Been struggling emotionally but am now stable having listened to your conversations...

  • @TheKaysti
    @TheKaysti Před 2 lety +1

    Men have been vilified and blanket-blamed for breakups. Big up to these guys for coming out and speaking for the most of us.

  • @silaton305
    @silaton305 Před 3 lety +4

    I love you Shaffie. So real really Smart. God bless you and your gorgeous family.

  • @blandinamnyinga8318
    @blandinamnyinga8318 Před 3 lety +27

    when the dust settles people will start knowing the actual truth wow!!!!being a woman who never said anything to anyone about what exactly happened in my marriage and even after the horrible separation 5 years ago,took all faults because I never wanted to shame my husband,am thankful to listen and watch this today.thank you Burale and the rest cause as am writing this people had all the answers they wanted.Silence is the best medicine during breakups.

  • @maloikevin9183
    @maloikevin9183 Před 3 lety +17

    Marriage is not meant for everyone,
    Sometimes it's better to be alone and happy than go through all the heart break. relationship are piece of work nowdays and the society has exaggerated relationship/ marriage.

  • @benkikz
    @benkikz Před 3 lety +4

    Thank you Tamima for addressing this issue. I always tuned in.

  • @tashmuthama7502
    @tashmuthama7502 Před 3 lety +3

    Respect to tamima how she contacts the interview. And also the chat spot show need so much intelligence and maturity ,big up tamima ad the crew

  • @florahariwo7833
    @florahariwo7833 Před 3 lety +1

    Wow wow wow... This is deep... The maturity is absolutely 👌.. Wishing you guys happiness and peace

  • @juliuskulokhoma8020
    @juliuskulokhoma8020 Před 3 lety +7

    People who disliked this information i think mathare rehabilitation center is best place for them

    • @beatriceawuor3077
      @beatriceawuor3077 Před 3 lety +2

      Those are irresponsible sperm donors,Those who dislike this

  • @karimiaggie4541
    @karimiaggie4541 Před 3 lety +30

    I hope to see all of them happily married again.. They have learnt from their mistakes.. They are wise men

  • @judyagutu5099
    @judyagutu5099 Před 3 lety +7

    Wow! Am starting to love shafie even more. He's full of wisdom

    • @bellaolum9768
      @bellaolum9768 Před 3 lety

      I'm shocked, when i saw the thumbnail I was like why Shaffie?? But I'm impressed!

  • @teresagitonga8749
    @teresagitonga8749 Před 3 lety +45

    Finally men opening up !! This is great miss Tamima. Hongera sana to these men for being open.

  • @bensobnny
    @bensobnny Před 3 lety +2

    Get more men of national caliber with this kind of impact to the society

  • @paulmainasmily
    @paulmainasmily Před 3 lety +2

    Wow I mean this was an hour full of wisdom and vulnerability in depth God bless you guys for sharing.

  • @lornaimali9011
    @lornaimali9011 Před 3 lety

    Very insightful. Love the wisdom from these 3 men

  • @suemugofwa1711
    @suemugofwa1711 Před 3 lety +6

    This was a very good conversation, really enjoyed the interaction and inputs.

  • @judyngina2330
    @judyngina2330 Před 3 lety +7

    Shaffie made me burst out.. ati 'King of Zamunda' hahahaha.. thanks for sharing

  • @dianawairimu1431
    @dianawairimu1431 Před 3 lety +1

    Iam enjoying this and as well learning so much . Thank you guys for being there . You all are going far by the Grace of God .

  • @prosperlilian1371
    @prosperlilian1371 Před 3 lety +4

    So edifying. Thank you big brothers

  • @jacksonkimondo6957
    @jacksonkimondo6957 Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks for the wisdom. Marriage is not a walk in the park. Parenting is eternal. Men we can do this💪

    • @jacksonkimondo6957
      @jacksonkimondo6957 Před 3 lety

      @Robert Burale is this you sir🤔. I have seen this message before word for word. Is this really you sir?

  • @gayazbundeh8424
    @gayazbundeh8424 Před 3 lety +2

    the is the best discussion have had on our media so far....

  • @dolly8081
    @dolly8081 Před 3 lety +6

    This channel is full of interesting and intelligent programs....so much to learn . But hey do we even have channels like this in Nigeria?

  • @sammugz
    @sammugz Před 2 lety

    This is a very good advice from the men, I wish every one would watch and listen to these gentlemen.

  • @kaykanana2700
    @kaykanana2700 Před 3 lety +18

    So true! Kenyans we are too ignorant....and the social media has really destroyed us.And it's even worse in the year 2020.....

  • @sarahndegwa3212
    @sarahndegwa3212 Před 3 lety +28

    this girl is so smart

  • @kirigomathu7434
    @kirigomathu7434 Před 3 lety +1

    Very true burale when men feel uncovered you might lose the chance to get him completely. It's good to learn how to control your words when dealing with breakup. I lost someone I would it wish to live without him but I learned so hard

  • @fatmanasir6691
    @fatmanasir6691 Před 3 lety

    Very mature talk. Thanks Tamima. I was very surprised by the guests too but a pleasant one. I love the fact how Shaffie weru(Big up bruh for sharing, sad& funny), Dr Ofueneke got vulnerable and real. Burale has had the biggest bash of it. It's tough to pick your stuff and walk, you literally feel a heart attack(not able to breathe) maaan does it not take time. You think you have healed then someone says something that triggers it off. It's 9 years of working on it...God help me, still solo&trying to get back in the game.

  • @nadinedonnah9100
    @nadinedonnah9100 Před 3 lety +8

    Wow, shaffie's maturity is on another level

  • @littlelloyd3930
    @littlelloyd3930 Před 3 lety +25

    I totally agree with the great words,'Marriage is a Bond between a person Who never Remembers Anniversaries and another Who never Forgets them.' Great Conversations Gentlemen.On behalf of senior bachelors,we're still happy!

  • @maryannndichu1470
    @maryannndichu1470 Před 2 lety

    I love this men. Keep doing this coz a whole generation of men and women who believe in love relationship and good vibe are right behind y’all.

  • @rugambwarobert7597
    @rugambwarobert7597 Před 3 lety +1

    Live from Uganda, thank you so much

  • @veronicahnjoroge3653
    @veronicahnjoroge3653 Před 3 lety

    Respect jameni. These guys are very mature and I wish all men and women can be this mature. This talk has been very enlightening

  • @wincy254
    @wincy254 Před 3 lety

    Burale you're a real coach...you got comforting words...have learnt alot from you guys ...i don't even know where to start n how to end it..but am surprised that men get hurts too...wow...hope from this i change to someone more better than i am n have learnt to always tame my tongue...
    Will start a program soon n will concentrate more on men n what thy go through..... In relationships, marriages n so all...

  • @calidlamini7823
    @calidlamini7823 Před 3 lety +9

    I'm glad I've listened to this three guys who are talking about these naked truths. If I were in kenya I would love to meet with one of them. May God bless you as you help others to find themselves in the lovelife journey. Love you guys

  • @assmanhadi3907
    @assmanhadi3907 Před 3 lety +2

    Wonderful conversation with great men. Thanks Madam

  • @mercyriungu6913
    @mercyriungu6913 Před 3 lety +1

    Great insights.This conversation is the real deal

  • @moreen734
    @moreen734 Před 3 lety +16

    OMG this Is the real shaffe weru...
    wow! I have to admit i thought he was different.

  • @SammyCJuma
    @SammyCJuma Před 3 lety +30

    Great conversation from the three gentlemen. I am going through a breakup myself and this couldn't have come at a better time for me. I have really learn't a lot. Thanks guys!

  • @zakayomwangi3661
    @zakayomwangi3661 Před 3 lety +9

    I've come to a conclusion that we men go thru alot it's only that we keep our eyes open and our mouths shut.

    • @janemusa9529
      @janemusa9529 Před 3 lety +1

      Because of your doings they never go unpunished.

    • @bellaolum9768
      @bellaolum9768 Před 3 lety

      Talking to someone helps a lot

  • @samops1074
    @samops1074 Před 3 lety +12

    Well Said guys am also a single father and it's not easy. However God gives grace to men

  • @jaineebito2661
    @jaineebito2661 Před 3 lety +4

    RESPECT to you MEN n all alike out there, be blessed. To the boys out there its neva too late to transform...fatherhood is neva delegated, Children will always remember the effort U made.

    • @georgengethe7280
      @georgengethe7280 Před 7 měsíci

      Thanx wat if someone manipulates u u do everytin for the kid then hataki uonge na mtoi ,even hataki u b with the kid wen school are closed utado??

  • @broken_arrow1813
    @broken_arrow1813 Před 3 lety +1

    So much wisdom in this conversation.

  • @lornaokoko9398
    @lornaokoko9398 Před 3 lety +15

    Relationships are tough i swear.

  • @counselgreen
    @counselgreen Před 3 lety +2

    Shaffie was quite candid. Awesome dude.

  • @annecongratulationswagga8231

    Burale i like your advice i think it can teach many ...........

  • @dianidiaries
    @dianidiaries Před 3 lety +2

    When you know better you can do better 😋😋....know your circle....very important

  • @lenny_kitash6276
    @lenny_kitash6276 Před 3 lety

    was I love this... So encouraged....wise men

  • @brianaluso
    @brianaluso Před 3 lety +58

    Guys am on a break up and the kids are involve. This is the hardest time in my life. I have broken down. 😭😭😭 . This interview has given me so much hopes. Kindly connect me with a therapist/psychologist

    • @rachaelwanjiku0
      @rachaelwanjiku0 Před 3 lety +1

      God is in control it shall be well

    • @aliceondeko3455
      @aliceondeko3455 Před 3 lety +1

      God will see you through

    • @marthakamau5540
      @marthakamau5540 Před 3 lety +1

      Pole sana, God is in control n all will be well

    • @mpendamuziki
      @mpendamuziki Před 3 lety +2

      When people break up and there are kids, it becomes a fight of ego..maybe the former lady would use the kids to punish you, and you may feel like she can't control me over my own kids..this is a very typical problem. This will obviously degenerate to a custody battle. First of all calm down completely. Stress kills and your own body can turn on you. I wish I could talk to you somehow.

    • @Tireito24
      @Tireito24 Před 3 lety +3

      Contact burale or Benjamin Zulu

  • @authentic_aquarius97
    @authentic_aquarius97 Před 3 lety +2

    Ofweneke oozing wisdom..my favorite comedian

  • @ronaldkavehagi2988
    @ronaldkavehagi2988 Před 3 lety +2

    I like Burale insights...

  • @mercysophiasiloba1749
    @mercysophiasiloba1749 Před 3 lety

    Marriage is not a walk in the park...thanx for this programme talk ..

  • @husseinlirova6299
    @husseinlirova6299 Před 3 lety +1

    Quite a lesson.needed that!

  • @akinyiokeyo4618
    @akinyiokeyo4618 Před 3 lety +31

    Shaffie is the only one who said why his relationships broke up.

  • @veronicahndungu4353
    @veronicahndungu4353 Před 3 lety +1

    I love Shaffie's honesty.

  • @ceciliamwakala3071
    @ceciliamwakala3071 Před 3 lety +7

    I watched this and I learned so much especially on co-parenting .. thank you tamima

  • @josephsosi3109
    @josephsosi3109 Před 3 lety

    Wow!!!you guys are amazing......I thought I went through this alone ......thanks guys am really build-up

  • @PlayboiSamusi
    @PlayboiSamusi Před 3 lety +2

    Just exactly what I was looking for... for my friend

  • @thomasmachuma9271
    @thomasmachuma9271 Před 3 lety +6

    Wise burale 💯well articulated

  • @nevilokuthe398
    @nevilokuthe398 Před 3 lety

    GREAT DISCUSSION......THANKS

  • @hanisaweru84
    @hanisaweru84 Před 3 lety +3

    Amazing.....

  • @eunicewambua8187
    @eunicewambua8187 Před 3 lety +1

    Thanks Tamima for this informative show,was nice learning about what men go thro after break n also concerning co-parenting afterwards,just proved my views about break up right

  • @gracewanjiru1175
    @gracewanjiru1175 Před 3 lety +5

    Thank you Tamima for the lengthy talk..It's, way much better than those short, short vlogs. I have really learned a lot. Thank you GENTLEmen for sharing your experience. Note I wrote GENTLE because not every man is a gentleman..In the same breathe heartbreaks are hell..Mine is 2yrs down the line and am still nursing the same wound..I clearly need help.

    • @ashtonzai9495
      @ashtonzai9495 Před 3 lety +1

      Find someone to talk. Deal with your pain and trauma. Forgive, if you were wronged. If it's a divorce, I have had it said, that it feels like death of sorts. You will be fine though. Cry it out
      And don't be scared to letting people into your space

    • @gracewanjiru1175
      @gracewanjiru1175 Před 3 lety

      @@ashtonzai9495 thank you am very skeptical with people I talk to..now days it's hard to get someone you can have are talk with..it's was a 3yr rlship not marriage.

    • @gracewanjiru1175
      @gracewanjiru1175 Před 3 lety

      @@ashtonzai9495 raw talk

    • @vannabella5853
      @vannabella5853 Před 2 lety +1

      Pole sana

  • @hilarymudigi226
    @hilarymudigi226 Před 3 lety

    Very interesting and educating, Thanks guys.

  • @samwelochieng4804
    @samwelochieng4804 Před 3 lety

    This deserves an Oscar. Real talk

  • @stephenmumina1796
    @stephenmumina1796 Před 3 lety +6

    I Guess this is exactly what I needed to hear... Might have lost it all with my feelings n in the process hurting innocent ladies every now n then. You guys spoke to me

  • @wagithiesther9583
    @wagithiesther9583 Před 4 měsíci

    Every moment I listen to this I get new strength

  • @bensobnny
    @bensobnny Před 3 lety +2

    This is really good and big up to Shaffie those words are a nail deep in hammered . Am marriage to a my wife (EA) just came to an end and am back to Kenya broken shattered and damaged . I took her thru college and university . Further I didn't the same to her sister . Gave her family life . But when I was doing all things she was out there doing her things. Infidelity and all . Caught her twice . Forgave her and married her in her big wedding . And she never stopped. I have said enough after she came to me saying she is pregnant with another man's kid while we have a 6rs daughter . I moved out in Dec 13th 2019 and now this round table comes 1year . She has given birth to a baby boy and she now turns it and saying is my kind . How can I agree to this .. and what is your advise way forward . ? After a year and but my small investigation she seems to be in a relationship or something . But now what of my kind or kinds ?

    • @jamz2636
      @jamz2636 Před 3 lety

      Let it go!! You did your best,her loss ..move on with your head held high..her actions speak disrespect to you as a man.There is life after that break up!

  • @bosscollionspares2281
    @bosscollionspares2281 Před 3 lety

    Shafi and Ofweneke i had a very different perception of you. Wise words🕺

  • @TheUnboxedMan
    @TheUnboxedMan Před 3 lety +5

    I am not a father. But I have gone through a break up that almost lost me entirely. Hearing what I am hearing from shaffie. I feel better

  • @inmyveinsinmyveins1465

    I just love how Tamima manages this talk. Had seen this video, it would have been great.

  • @judithdani9644
    @judithdani9644 Před 3 lety +1

    Indeed a candid conversation.

  • @catem8752
    @catem8752 Před 3 lety

    Such a refreshing conversation.

  • @generaliglobal.
    @generaliglobal. Před 3 lety +1

    Candid conversation from the men. It would be unfair for me to ignore the adept host. Tamima you are the best!

  • @evadtrent5607
    @evadtrent5607 Před 3 lety +16

    I knew she would introduce Robert Burale first. He is calm cool and collected

  • @duncunmamu1998
    @duncunmamu1998 Před 3 lety +2

    Mature conversation great talk

  • @nancyndichu8088
    @nancyndichu8088 Před 3 lety

    It was great listen to the three men.