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  • čas přidán 18. 08. 2024
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    Timestamps:
    0:00 - @lesbic0re (he/him)
    0:06 - @itsabigaillea (they/them)
    0:50 - @thecorysinger
    1:39 - Redbubble promotion (RandomlyRainbow)
    2:00 - @fwogbwutt (any pronouns)
    2:14 - @almostzander (they/he/it)
    3:58 - @thanksmilla (they/she)
    4:10 - @mindfulasamother (she/her)
    4:18 - @wonder_art (they/them)
    5:16 - @tic.tac.lotts (she/they)
    5:23 - @thelittlesnaillover (it/he)
    5:29 - @reberrabon_bon (she/they)
    6:45 - @blackinfinityking
    7:30 - @chloeshayden (she/her)
    7:38 - @peachycewch (any pronouns)
    7:45 - @likelysalty (they/them)
    9:34 - @chronically.chaotically (she/her)
    9:44 - @kellyanderson721 (she/they)
    9:59 - @planetordinary (she/they)

Komentáře • 122

  • @jilliandittrich8810
    @jilliandittrich8810 Před rokem +371

    Does anyone else hate when people say “wow are you supportive of the autism fandom?” AUTISM IS NOT A FANDOM!

  • @rainways7586
    @rainways7586 Před rokem +121

    After getting the results of my ADOS assessment (a very outdated and unhelpful method of diagnostics) I was left with so much confusion as I had never considered myself being autistic until multiple of my doctors suggested I am and talked me through it. On Friday I talked to my psychologist about it and she told me that she believes I am and that a test designed for a very specific person with autism is not going to work on 60% of people. Please don’t feel invalidated by societies way of defining and understanding neurodivergent’s ❤

  • @WanderingInWonderland93
    @WanderingInWonderland93 Před rokem +86

    I related to the dude at 1:09 because growing up I often didn't laugh at the things I may have even found funny in movies and tv and people kept asking me if I wasn't finding it funny and I got so tired of reassuring people that I started forcing a laugh but it always pulled me out of the experience a bit.

  • @WanderingInWonderland93
    @WanderingInWonderland93 Před rokem +30

    Am in the only autistic person who prefers Build-a-bear over Squishmallows? I've got the alien bear and the pink axolotl and I love the personalization especially picking the scent that goes inside and how firm/soft you want the toy to be. 💗

    • @25jinx
      @25jinx Před rokem +2

      !!!!!! ive been hoping to get one, unfortunately we dont have a build-a-bear in my country :(

    • @WanderingInWonderland93
      @WanderingInWonderland93 Před rokem

      @@25jinx I got both of mine from the online store, do they ship to where you live?

    • @25jinx
      @25jinx Před rokem

      @@WanderingInWonderland93 i just searched, unfortunately no 😭

  • @justyourfellowduck
    @justyourfellowduck Před rokem +74

    7:39 i relate to this immensely. when i was younger, i would correct people ALLLLLLL the time to the point where i was losing friends and people didnt like me. i still do it some now, but i have to stop myself so often and learn not to do it 😅

    • @fish_toes
      @fish_toes Před rokem +7

      SAME OMG i was constantly scolded about it and given weird looks 💀 i never realized it was possibly an autistic thing shgsbsjd

    • @bynnyn
      @bynnyn Před rokem +3

      Yeah, it's so difficult to control though. I've been a fact-checker and correcter ever since I was old enough to understand English and read.
      One of my closest friends in grade/elementary school straight up told me she hated me because of my fact-checking habit.
      Another friend of mine, in middle school, called me annoying because I proved him wrong, and he spread a bunch of rumors about me.
      I've upgraded to not talking at all in school or to people I don't already have a connection with. I'm at the point where I can't talk to people at school even if I want to.

  • @Goose-dw2ct
    @Goose-dw2ct Před rokem +17

    that second one i really resonate with, cause i got bad anxiety over music for a while then i just realized “wait i don’t have to feel guilty for not looking into bands i don’t actively listen to”

    • @Arkylie
      @Arkylie Před rokem +2

      I asked my friends to recommend some bands I should look into.
      They responded with a gigantic Google spreadsheet of like two hundred entries or whatever. I promptly freaked out at the overwhelm and ran off and didn't actually look up any of the bands for a while, and even now I've only looked up a few but I felt guilty for not doing more with what they did for me 😖
      Also, I grew to enjoy the game Kingdom of Loathing, a silly little browser-based RPG with stick-figure illustrations, because it's chock-full of pop culture references and I could kinda gauge my awareness of classical pop culture by how many references I got (since you play through the same game multiple times -- basically just eleven levels then reset and do it from the start again), and it gave me a little jumping-off point to look things up that I'd never encountered on my own but that a lot of people could be expected to know.

  • @tamaradavis2276
    @tamaradavis2276 Před rokem +33

    Watching these videos and others, I distinctly remember my mother teaching me how to walk properly because other people were going to think I was weird (that's not the word she used), "heel, toe, heel toe." She specifically taught me to mask.

    • @nicolem9930
      @nicolem9930 Před rokem +6

      same but with my dad, he’s the reason for a lot of my trauma in my childhood that relates to my autism

    • @funstuffwithjordanuniverse5119
      @funstuffwithjordanuniverse5119 Před rokem +5

      You just awakened a memory in me of my mom saying the exact same thing!!!

    • @haileys5224
      @haileys5224 Před rokem +4

      How do we all have the same memory

    • @frootjoostoob
      @frootjoostoob Před rokem +3

      My dad asked me why i walked weird when i was really really young. He made a (probably exaggerated) impression of landing his feet on different degrees of 'pointing inwards' and 'pointing outwards' on each step at random. I taught myself to walk with my feet always pointing forward like a Ken doll and it took me years to look and realise almost nobody walks so strightly like that naturally.

    • @astro_penguin_
      @astro_penguin_ Před 6 měsíci +1

      While autistic masking in general can cause long-term issues, in this instance your mother was right. Constantly walking on tiptoe during childhood can have consequences in terms of muscle/tendon health. You might end up needing a brace or even surgery if it's really severe. It's a habit that's important to break young, not for social acceptability, but for health.

  • @crowsandghosts
    @crowsandghosts Před rokem +98

    So uhhhh question: I was tested for autism at age 1.5, since me twin brother is autistic. I was not diagnosed with autism, but now I suspect it was a misdiagnosis (I'm AFAB). My question is.... Help?

    • @potatoes125
      @potatoes125 Před rokem +24

      OMG same! When I was really little, my parents had me get tested. First they had me tested to see if I was autistic, and then they had me tested to see if I was deaf because I didn't respond to them when I was focused on something. After I got tested, they said it was nothing, but here I am, years later knowing something is definitely up. (I'm not a girl, but I am AFAB)

    • @Rui_Kamishiro_15
      @Rui_Kamishiro_15 Před rokem

      It's harder for AFABs to get dicnosed with Autism and it's proven by science that AFABs don't get dicnosed because they show it differently

    • @JonathanHinterberger
      @JonathanHinterberger Před rokem +6

      It's not surprising (especially in the past) that if you weren't presenting quite stereotypically you wouldn't be diagnosed. I'm not AFAB but I just wanted to say if you think you might be on the spectrum or even just want clarification, you absolutely deserve it. Your life quite possibly will be richer for going down that path. There are autism assessment centers available in many places, and I know it can feel really daunting considering sort of putting your identity in the hands of a stranger; it's something I'm currently struggling with. But if you have someone you feel safe with who is well versed in neurodivergence, maybe you could start there. They may even be able to assist you with making an appointment somewhere. Coming up with a few written reasons why you think you may be on the spectrum could help you feel more prepared to take that step too.

    • @greyking8925
      @greyking8925 Před rokem +4

      This happened to me as well. When I was a kid, I was tested for Autism and ADHD, neither of which I had. When you are a kid, they have to observe you instead of asking you questions, so a bunch of kids get misdiagnosed because of many reasons due to not presenting "autistic". The only reason I seem more stereotypically autistic now is because I have had 11 concussions, which has broken down my mask over time.

    • @crowsandghosts
      @crowsandghosts Před rokem +3

      @@JonathanHinterberger thanks friendo /gen

  • @beans5357
    @beans5357 Před rokem +14

    Me not have ADHD or Autism, even though it runs in my family, because my mom doesn’t want me to get diagnosed: 🥳Yippie 🥳

    • @Samael1113
      @Samael1113 Před rokem +1

      Fight her on this with everything you have before you graduate from school if possible.
      It does not get easier, the older you get the less likely you are to be able to access the assistance you need, and if it goes long enough, around 35-40, when you start losing the energy and focus of youth, you will struggle to find the energy to fight through many of your issues that you used to be able to push through.
      I am 43 now, I told my parent multiple times I likely had a disabling mental disorder when I was younger, they got angry with me when I said I probably need to be on Social Security, I am now struggling on my own with the wrong kind of family supports and constantly being burned out and depressed by the weight and expectation of society and not being able to exist within what I have available to me.
      My mother absolutely has ADHD, and her mother, grandmother and great-grandmother all exhibited signs of moderate, untreated Neurodivergence being forced to conform (When they got overwhelmed they would lash out and punch down, somewhat literally, at their kids). Some of her uncles also showed signs. My brother and I absolutely have it as well.
      Undiagnosed is not a great place, please, please do not let yourself get to a similar point in life. Push to get what you need now, before you start feeling like a burden.

  • @epsilon-6thevillageidiots143

    Honestly I have a lot of autistic traits however one I didn’t think I had was the sensory issues since I more sought out Sensory based things then avoid it
    Then I heard of Sensory seeking and then thought “…everything makes so much sense now”
    I’m not diagnosed but I’m 99% sure I have Autism and ADHD

    • @Samael1113
      @Samael1113 Před rokem +2

      Lol... was about to say, that's frequently a sign of AuDHD (both combined).
      But then I hit "read more" and there it was.
      Welcome to the club.
      It's not great, but the people are nice and generally accepting.

  • @broken_queer_but_fighting8589

    Hey you yes you, take a deep breath let it out slowly, and lower your shoulders. Know that you are important to someone even if you feel like no one loves you, guess what I do. I'm so proud of you being here. Thank you. Now make sure you take care of yourself and drink some water, eat something and take a stretch break.💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

    • @user-dg3ug7ny5d
      @user-dg3ug7ny5d Před rokem +3

      Hey! Great seeing you here! I usually come across your sweet comments on a dude's compilations and I think we've chatted once before. Anyway, I hope you can treat yourself with the same kindness and support too. Happy holidays!

    • @broken_queer_but_fighting8589
      @broken_queer_but_fighting8589 Před rokem +2

      @@user-dg3ug7ny5d aw thanks and I hope the same for you too m8 have a very magical holidays 💜💜🤗🤗

  • @sandpiper_
    @sandpiper_ Před rokem +5

    two taylor swift songs in one video omg (taylor swift may or may not be a special interest) i like that a lot thank you

  • @The_bisexual_crow25
    @The_bisexual_crow25 Před rokem +7

    7:39 thats litterally how ever political conversation goes with me and my brother (he’s diagnosed not sure for me) but it’s always « well actually….. »

  • @25jinx
    @25jinx Před rokem +3

    i get the speaking for u thing i used to whisper everything to my friend and shed tell them for me, the exception being in gymnastics which was the only place i allowed myself to comfortably socialise in a way TT

  • @kelleywyskiel3478
    @kelleywyskiel3478 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Before even thinking of being autistic I’d go nonverbal like her. I’d be overly chatty a day or two, which is masking and super anxiety, then show up and just be very quiet. People were always are you ok? Why are you so quiet. I was perfectly ok, just contented quiet and had nothing to say.

  • @Tirio_WitherGod
    @Tirio_WitherGod Před rokem +2

    2:14 THATS THE ZANDER I LOOVVVEEEEE!!! YOU MADE IT KING-!!!

  • @voidquill
    @voidquill Před rokem +18

    6:45 Share your squishmallows that you have here! I have Perry, Miss vi, Xenia, I lost a red panda one i nicknamed mei mei at school, and i have 2 flipamellows im using as gifts!

    • @deinodinosuchus
      @deinodinosuchus Před rokem +2

      omg is mei mei named that because of turning red? 🥺

    • @eggfroggowo
      @eggfroggowo Před rokem

      I have two squishmallows, Ava(pinkish-purple unicorn) and Ben(blueberry dino) and another on name Felicia (mint panda with a unicorn horn and wings) but I'm not sure if she's a squishmallow👁️👄👁️

    • @voidquill
      @voidquill Před rokem +1

      @@deinodinosuchus yep!

    • @deinodinosuchus
      @deinodinosuchus Před rokem +1

      @@voidquill that’s so sweet!!!

    • @Ace-hd3di
      @Ace-hd3di Před 4 měsíci

      Omg I have so many it’s hard to name them all(as their under my bed but I’ll comment there names later!) I have some memorised like I have the big fuzzy avery!

  • @CroutonLuvrr
    @CroutonLuvrr Před rokem +3

    2:14 OMG ZANDERRRR HIIIIII 😍 ITS MY FAVORITE BOI PERSON YAYA GET THAT EGG SANDWICH KING

  • @atlaswrites13
    @atlaswrites13 Před rokem +35

    Hi CZcams people, I wasn't diagnosed with Autism, but I think I might have it. I show a lot of symptoms listed for girls (I'm AFAB). I've been hyper-focused in a lot of my interests (chess, reading, writing, etc.), and I don't talk well in class or groups and i have a lot of anxiety if I have to talk. I can't handle certain sounds or textures, and I have routines for random things. I feel I get sensory overload, like I'll almost shut down sometimes if I'm in a place with noises, lights, or smells (Anthropologie will forever be my enemy). I've never had to go in for an Autism screening before.
    Anyone have suggestions?

    • @jazzboots8893
      @jazzboots8893 Před rokem +6

      Hello fellow CZcams creature! I got my diagnosis this year (adult,
      Late diagnosed).
      A lot will depend on where you are_ some countries charge a lot for diagnosis, some are free but have a looooong waiting list etc.
      I recommend doing lots of research and taking as many self-assessments as you can, because you're likely to come up against people trying to put you off pursuing a diagnosis. I had a spreadsheet full of my autistic traits, saved images of online self-assessment results etc. Before I started trying to move things forward.
      Remember that self-diagnosis is valid too and that the autistic community is a loving and accepting place ❤ take care of yourself!

    • @atlaswrites13
      @atlaswrites13 Před rokem +2

      @@jazzboots8893 great thank you!!!

    • @roanokeay
      @roanokeay Před rokem +1

      As someone who is also autistic, contrary to the other commenter, I say DO NOT SELF DIAGNOSE. Please. It's extremely harmful.
      Take online screenings, but don't take them as gospel. If you think that you're sure enough, get a real diagnosis. I'm not trying to be rude, it's just that I, and many others like me, believe that self diagnosis isn't valid. Trust a medical professional, not the internet.

    • @honeybeerandom
      @honeybeerandom Před rokem +10

      @@roanokeay As another autistic person, I'd like to caution you against saying that self-diagnosis is harmful and invalid. There are many reasons that people may be unable to get a professional diagnosis and self-diagnosis is seldom ever "I relate to this one thing I'm just going to go and call myself autistic." While it can be, it is an unlikelihood. As the commenter above stated research is key. Also, a lot of late diagnoses start as self-diagnosis. This rhetoric can be hurting the people we may need to support the most, our own community. I can't change your opinion, but maybe don't discourage someone from exploring their questions and self reflection. I mean no disrespect, and I hope you have a wonderful day.

    • @renbaker5124
      @renbaker5124 Před rokem +3

      @@honeybeerandom yeah I agree with you :) I myself haven't self-diagnosed but have considered it. I got tested but my mom lied about everything during the evaluation which led me to not get diagnosed. My therapist thinks I likely have ASD though. Also I love your profile pic.
      -another Aromantic and possibly autistic person :)

  • @RosemaryBBak
    @RosemaryBBak Před rokem +1

    There is something about the one at 3:59 that i cannot get enough of..I've already played it a dozen times in this and another TikTok reel

  • @voidquill
    @voidquill Před rokem +11

    reply to this if you are a certified awetism creacher /j

  • @ScatterSocks
    @ScatterSocks Před rokem +1

    4:11 yup, all of above and more. I haven’t been diagnosed from a a doctor, but I have a lot of symptoms and my little sibling is autistic to. I have a reason to believe I have asd, but when I try to get what I need to be diagnosed it always goes to; ‘that’s normal’, or, ‘everyone is a bit autistic bc it’s a spectrum’ it makes me so mad! I like doing research on invisible and visible disabilities so I know what my symptoms are and I already have all the proof I need to at least ask for a diagnosis, but apparently there is never time for my parents to ask that because of all the time my lil sibling takes up.

  • @katherinepulitzer586
    @katherinepulitzer586 Před 10 měsíci

    0:09 I highly relate to that. And I never understood why people would get so angry about it. Someone threw a Nintendo switch at me in 7th grade bc I didn't know who Dream SMP is😭

  • @notquitedogboy
    @notquitedogboy Před rokem +1

    2:14 ZANDERRR :DDD

  • @ErutaniaRose
    @ErutaniaRose Před rokem +9

    How's the vibe/opinion here on self-diagnosis of Autism as an AFAB, anxious, and ADHD, woman person? From the months of researching and testing, I have been able to do on my own, I am pretty sure I am autistic.

    • @Samael1113
      @Samael1113 Před rokem +1

      Umm, there's a pretty good chance. It's like an average of (presumed) 35% of people with ADHD have ASD, and 65% of ASD have ADHD - which is roughly half the total population. (though some data can suggest as high as 50 and 80% respectively)
      I'm male, but, when I was 7, taught myself to express more as a woman with ASD, or maybe hybrid?... I personally don't like the hard gender expression that has come to exist in ASD awareness. The initial studies were flawed science and only studying young boys with certain expressions. It screwed everyone who expressed different or had to diagnose the disorder. It's a shitty circumstance that ignored women, but continuing to make it about gender continues to exclude those that express atypically, and ND people are also among the most Non-binary / queer people...
      Anyway, about 5 years ago I realized I was probably what would have been referred to as an Aspie (ASD), since that was the info available to me and the people who's stories I shared and connected to.
      Over the past year or maybe two, I've come to realize I very likely have a little ADHD as well, and that's why once I started refocusing and controlling my meltdowns I was able to blend in to society a little better as a youth. (I also had 3 or 4 really good friends I could "borrow from emotionally" for lack of a better term, as a HSP person)

  • @joz3965
    @joz3965 Před rokem +1

    I really like the last one

  • @TheeJested
    @TheeJested Před rokem +6

    I was diagnosed VERY young with ADHD, had to take medication from 1st grade and in the middle of 6th I stopped because it never helped, and now that I'm older I'm either thinking they misdiagnosed me or I also have autism. I've done research on the topic but I still can't tell if it was a misdiagnosis or layered-

    • @Samael1113
      @Samael1113 Před rokem +3

      I'm going to assume you were in school in the mid-90s to the mid-aughts.
      In like was it 1990 when the DSM IV was released? Anyway, when DSM IV was released it folded ADD into ADHD and Big Pharma and shady doctors saw a money-making machine.
      In this time the kids diagnosed with ADHD exploded and everyone knew at-least one or two kids on a pretty potent methamphetamine cocktail. Usually one of them was confusing as-to why.
      There have been a number of studies, lawsuits and reports over the last 15 years to this effect. Some suggesting they targeted the youngest, most energetic and immature Kindergartners (so first grade isn't a huge leap). In this time ADHD rates at least doubled (Like 4-5% of the population should be expected to have ADHD, and somewhere around 10% was the diagnosis rate).
      So yeah, very possible you were misdiagnosed.
      That said, if you show signs for Autism, it could be a dual disorder kind of thing. While Ritalin may suppress ADHD tendencies, it does little, if anything, for the 'tism (from what I understand). And AuDHD individuals tend to blend in a little better than just having one or the other issue. The two sides, frequently seeking naturally conflicting things, allow the individual a little more agency and control in how they respond to situations.
      Though executive dysfunction can hit them harder - though that may just be my experience. Without a little assistance to give a jump-start, I find it very difficult to self-motivate anything. My energy says no, or my logic center asks "What's the point?" and I have no good reply.

  • @theinfamousTeyo
    @theinfamousTeyo Před rokem +1

    3:21 second on is literally me with schedules and I don't like the fact it is me when it comes to it like I get overwhelmed

  • @kelleywyskiel3478
    @kelleywyskiel3478 Před 8 měsíci

    Mr egg sandwich you did not break you fulfilled your very real need within your structure.
    Yes, I’ll eat my breakfast regardless if what time it is. If I forget to eat and it’s dinner time I still make my every damn day meal.
    I’m in my fifties. My husband is totally used to a double plate dinner where I make dinner, put everything on the table, pretend to eat but just sip my drink, then eat my food happily sitting on the sofa as we watch an evening episode on the Telly together.
    It was only ever questioned if he made dinner and thought I didn’t like it, but now he gets it even if he doesn’t understand it. lol.
    I’ll eat the dinner later, probably at midnight…..😂

  • @artifundio1
    @artifundio1 Před rokem +4

    7:45 I think she has had but luck finding out her ideal enviroment so far. I have been able to do impressively well socially when I've been in enviroments with proper mature, caring, respectfull people. I know I can live without so much effort when surrounded by the proper company, BUT proper company is very hard to find and identify. I don't feel impared or dissabled when Im in the right place for me.
    Childish, gossipy and shallow people are the worst energy suckers for me.

    • @nicolem9930
      @nicolem9930 Před rokem +1

      i relate to this! i tend to feel “more autistic” around overbearing, gossipy, and negative people and calmer around my closest friends

    • @Samael1113
      @Samael1113 Před rokem

      Yes and no.
      Everyone's ideal is different, and everyone expresses their symptoms different.
      My ideal is very functional and difficult to distinguish from normal (or at least it used to be, the last 8 years have been damaging enough that I don't know what my ideal looks like anymore), but some of the issues she points out would still be a factor and can cascade other issues.
      Not eating usually doesn't affect me too bad. But from other people's experiences relayed, they become very prone to meltdowns / shutdowns / other overstimulation when they miss a meal. There are supports that can help a person to not miss that meal (already prepped meals and alarms), but it doesn't mean they won't miss the meal, so it means they will still have moments, at least, where they struggle and things aren't ideal.
      For me -some people love cheap, disgusting, manipulative fast-food. They eat it 1-3 times a day. They "can't live without it". Personally, I find everything about it disgusting and being in it's presence is a good way to trigger aversion reflexes, and meltdown reflexes if confronted with it. My ideal is, no fast-food ever anywhere, but that's not a societal ideal. I'm an anomaly even among the neuro-divergent with that "quirk". I would still struggle with societal interactions "In an ideal world" where fast-food is a presence.

  • @GhostGecko
    @GhostGecko Před rokem

    the sencond one was a compltete call out lmao

  • @Creepergirl7794.
    @Creepergirl7794. Před 5 měsíci

    I go nonverbal a lot, and not just from being overstimulated (though that is the main reason). If I go nonverbal from overstimulation, it's because I'm just so overwhelmed and exhausted from masking that I just stop masking. I stop trying to look friendly and I literally cannot bring myself to do so because I have no more energy to. I also will most likely go nonverbal or partially nonverbal (meaning I can still give simple answers like yes or no, or simple sentences), but if I try to fully talk it feels like I'm literally pushing my lungs and mouth to move so I can continue talking. This had puzzled me for so long before I was diagnosed and I always wondered why it felt like I had to put more effort into talking, but now I understand.
    Other reasons I can go nonverbal is if I'm really focused on my special interests or I'm zoned out so hard that when I zone back in I can't speak for a good 5-30 mins afterwards

  • @guppy1821
    @guppy1821 Před rokem +10

    I want Fam Avery the duck
    But it’s sold out at smiths
    I’ve cried for an hour.

    • @guppy1821
      @guppy1821 Před rokem +2

      Please tell me where I can get one

  • @milo_thebeloved6459
    @milo_thebeloved6459 Před rokem +1

    2:17 ITS ZANDERRRR!!!! 🤍🤍🤍🤍

  • @akatheloser13yearsof1D

    i relate to the second one so much bc i can tell you everything abt like 3 celebrities and literally nothing abt any other ones

    • @EskiMoThor
      @EskiMoThor Před 6 měsíci

      I don't really care about celebrity stuff either, but I always found it oddly satisfying making lists of characters and recognizing people in different roles. Especially in sci-fi and fantasy movies with lots of makeup and props, it gives me a little shot of pleasure to recognize someone and recalling all the different roles they played.
      Like John Rhys-Davies is Gimli in Lord of the Rings and Salah in Indiana Jones, and Vasco in Shogun.
      Turns out it is useful to practice this, as it has helped me easily learn people's names and 'roles' at work too, though I still can't remember all that relational or personal stuff.

  • @juicebox2430
    @juicebox2430 Před rokem +19

    hello friends 👋
    my mom believes I'm "leaning into my autism" because I've had more sensory issues recently and apparently "acting more autistic" because I wouldn't let my other parent hug me goodbye when I was overstimulated
    she also wants me to learn how to mask around her??
    My mom is the only person I get emotional support from so it really hurts when she tells me this, especially when it's confirming my own insecurities
    Can autism symptoms get worse overtime? like how anxiety can get worse when not treated
    Because of quarantine and being homeschooled a lot of my life I was never around people I didn't know or in stressful enviourments, and when I was I would always just dissociate
    Recently I have gone back to school and also stopped dissociating as much because the structure is comforting for me
    I'm so confused because I have to deal with new emotions I haven't had before and I just wish my mom would understand this
    Is it possible that my autism symptoms just weren't obvious because I was never in an enviourment that made them clear? Or because I always had a way to cope that covered them up?
    please have a great day!!

    • @Hucktheweresheep
      @Hucktheweresheep Před rokem +9

      hello friend(sounds like Mr. Robot lol),
      so I am pretty new to knowing I am autistic and after having my diagnosis confirmed it felt like “I was leaning into it" even though I just worked on unmasking and became more aware of sensory issues and stuff. I also get more autism symptoms when I am stressed out from school and so on
      Autism doesn't get worse over time, but as Chloe Hayden says in her Video on 'The problem with Functioning Labels' Context and Support change an Autistic person's ability to function.
      I think it's probable that the environmental change and lacking coping methods cause you to "act more autistic"
      I suggest trying to explain to your mom the above and how much it hurts you that she wants you to mask around her. (literary telling you to not feel safe around her??)
      I wish you success and a great day.

    • @juicebox2430
      @juicebox2430 Před rokem

      @@Hucktheweresheep thank you so much!! :)
      I talked more about it with my mom and I think she understands a little bit more
      I still don't understand a lot of how I feel or why so i appreciate you for replying it helps a lot
      have an amazing life internet stranger!!

    • @Nighteyes_14
      @Nighteyes_14 Před rokem +4

      Autism traits can seem to be more pronounced than usual for 2 main reasons: 1 - You're unmasking more and starting to act more naturally. This usually happens during the first few months after being diagnosed, or 2 - You're going into Autistic burnout, and simply don't have the energy to mask anymore. During this time you'll probably be more susceptible to sensory overload and anxiety attacks too.

    • @juicebox2430
      @juicebox2430 Před rokem +1

      @@Nighteyes_14 this helps a lot! I'll look more into these things thank you

    • @cactisaurusp7864
      @cactisaurusp7864 Před rokem +4

      everyone on this threat explaining it is correct, but i also wanna add that your support needs might change over time, so one day/month/year/etc you may not get overstimulated or go nonverbal, and in the next period of time you do
      people grow and change all the time, and they may need different kinds of support, whether they’re allistic or autistic ! that doesn’t mean that you were/are “faking it” just because your needs are different now than they used to be !
      it’s taking forever for me to stop convincing myself i’m faking it LMAO but it still helps knowing that my needs may or may not change, and i hope it helps you too

  • @Samael1113
    @Samael1113 Před rokem

    2:14
    Relatable.
    Not with food, but yeah... when home-based structure and routine is forced to change it can breaks me.
    Or someone cleaning the fridge, and in the process moving everything, particularly my stuff, makes my brain scream, and I am compelled to spend however long it takes rearranging it to back the way it was to the best of my memory (which probably qualifies as Eidetic) I can't function until it is back the way it was.
    4:18 as well.
    I start trembling and shutting my sense down, and frequently get very irritable, if I'm forced to vocalize when I'm trying to be non-verbal. And it takes like 10 minutes to get to the point where I can get the first word out.

  • @renbaker5124
    @renbaker5124 Před rokem

    I truly don't know if I'm autistic. I have bad sensory issues, am very particular (clothes, procedures, food, etc), and have bad social anxiety but I don't have noticeably "poor" communication. My therapist thought I may have it, as did I. I got testing done a while ago and the psychologist said I either don't have ASD or am just really good at masking. Keep in mind, this psychologist also told me I couldn't have ADHD because my IQ is too high, despite the tests showing I have it and meeting the criteria. She also left halfway through the ASD evaluation and another psychologist took over because she had a family emergency. Then she diagnosed me with somatic symptom disorder despite havinf documented physical disabilities such as POTS, EDS, and osteogenesis imperfecta. Plus some of the diagnosis was based on parent interview (since I was 16( and my mom lied about almost everything because she is in denial that I could possibly be autistic 🙄. I'm thinking about getting evaluated again when I'm 18. What do y'all think?

    • @frootjoostoob
      @frootjoostoob Před rokem

      I believe in you. I'm in my early 20's and only recently really started thinking I might be on the spectrum as well. The "IQ too high to have ADHD" thing is gross imo and kills some reliability on your therapist's part.
      From all that I've seen from the ASD community, they seem to embrace self-diagnosis as well. If you know yourself and you recognise that relating your behavior to autistic behavior improves your life then there is no harm in embracing the label.
      Sorry if I derailed. It's your choise in the end whether a proper diagosis is worth it. Keep in mind that you may have to prepare arguments because in the end they can only evaluate you based on how you explain your experiences. This comment may be 6 months old but good luck in your future!

  • @rtj630
    @rtj630 Před rokem

    Sensory seeking/avoidant person hit the nail on the head. Lol

  • @mechadrake
    @mechadrake Před rokem

    Well, some might not like it, but the Sheldon Cooper is why I know now I am autistic, lol.
    Wifes friend once mentioned that I am just like Sheldon, when we were having some table game party and I was explaining rules for a new game. I guess some are like Sheldon :D

  • @snail8755
    @snail8755 Před rokem

    3:37 YES

  • @math1937
    @math1937 Před rokem +2

    I’ve suspected I might have asd for a little over a year at this point, both from my own observations and those of a friend who’s autistic and is convinced I am too. However, I keep seeing enough symptoms and traits that don’t quite match my lived experiences that I end up doubting myself enough that it feels like taking steps to find out from a specialist would be a waste since I “probably don’t have it” even though I very well could. All of the online assessments I’ve taken have said I at least have autistic traits.
    I’m just not entirely sure what I should do. I know logically that since I’m unsure, what’d probably be most helpful would be to find out from a specialist, but that uncertainty also makes it so that that seems like it would likely be a waste.
    I do have diagnosed adhd though, so I at least know that means I’m more likely to have asd.

    • @25jinx
      @25jinx Před rokem +1

      im on the same page, and everytime i see my psychologist i fail to bring it up 😕 i hope u get to get a diagnosis if thats what youre hoping for :3

    • @mousetherat
      @mousetherat Před 11 měsíci

      I hope things get better. But remember, it’s a spectrum. You don’t need to have all of the traits to be autistic

  • @asap._.d1rt
    @asap._.d1rt Před rokem

    me when my mom refuses to accept the fact that i self diagnosed bc she won’t get me evaluated and it’s expensive af and that self diagnosis in autism is valid and mind you rarely incorrect

  • @DeeWeber
    @DeeWeber Před rokem

    7:39 I've gotten so bad.

  • @soft_boy24
    @soft_boy24 Před rokem

    0:06 that person has the same earrings as me >:3

  • @asterisk994
    @asterisk994 Před rokem +3

    Can we get some REAL Osdd TikTok’s ? Pleaseeee
    All I can find is fake disorder cringe comps, with people who do fake
    I need somthing that’s not degrading : (

  • @Thecollectoristheruler

    Whenever i use a a toilet, shower, tap, doors, ect that i havent been around since a kid ie basically every house except my own, my grandparents and my uncles i have to cover my ears when i flush turn on close because the sudden sound is so loud and freaky, this was especially bad when i was younger and got terrified of the sound of the sound a toilet makes(i live on a boat and have never had a toilet that is elctric it has always been manual) also our water pressure is really low so at friends houses when they turned on the shower i cover my ears. I am still to scared to ask my parents to get a diagnosis but they should have picked up on this behaviour before right?
    I also cover my ears throught entire movies and tv shows, i just learned when i was very young that i wouldn’t be so loud in the loud bits and I wouldn’t get jumpscared by the noise if i constintly had my ears covered, even if it was like in the night garden or peppa pig when i was little i would ALWAYS and still do have my hands covering my ears. Sometimes i also walk around with my hands or fingers in my ears, i thought it was just random but i know realise it is genderally when it is loud or louder than normal,
    Anyone relate?

  • @Maudgaud
    @Maudgaud Před rokem

    I also have a babs squishmallow I got it for Valentine’s Day which it obviously isn’t but I have it anyway because if I don’t have it now I will obsess about it until the point of insanity anyway I love birds so that’s why my mom got it

  • @ashlynanderson8713
    @ashlynanderson8713 Před rokem

    Could you please enable the subtitles. It makes it easier to listen .

  • @boiledmilkgirl
    @boiledmilkgirl Před 11 měsíci

    0:07
    is that what that is??!?!?

  • @Julia33066
    @Julia33066 Před rokem +7

    I’m so early lol