How to Be Comfortable Being Alone | Robin Sharma
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 15. 06. 2024
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Most people on the planet today are terrified of being alone.
And yet, there are multiple benefits that come to the leader who carries the wisdom of being alone more often in this noisy world:
1. It is in solitude that you build intimacy with your gifts plus talents.
2. It is in quietude that we can do the deep inner-work that allows us to bring our finest games to our marketplaces (and communities).
3. It is when we are alone that we receive the opportunity to build a relationship with who we truly are.
4. Great geniuses leverage serenity to capture the insights that allow them to disrupt their fields and make history.
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âThe way to heal a wound, is to feel a wound.â Hardest thing to do
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Yes lt's so hard I try to avoid it it's hell if I try to feel it cause of C-PTSD it's like I go back to the same fear anxiety doubts and terror
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Actually, pray for courage. Once we acknowledge our feelings, we can become free.
Being alone contains a power that very few can handle đ„
Absolutely
Indeed.
It's painful
Authentic Self Guide I need some tips on how to learn to live a good life on being alone
I can't handle it now i Just want to do sucide.
I stay alone most of the days . Best person to be with, is your self.
Exactly! Living alone is just awesome đ
yes
Of course
Same
Agree
*Believe it or not* , being alone is better than feeling alone.
INTROVERTS UNITE
With themselves.
In small groups for a short amount of time!
@@MH-cv5ye XD
We in the building
Paradox
There's nothing like inner peace.
this is how you see the world :)
The best line "You are the only person who's gonna be with you as long as you live"
Amazing video...
Love your books sir.. Huge fan
Stupid statement, if you have family and friends many of them will outlive you.
@@km4hr but not everyone will be there for you. You can only trust yourself
Right? My Ma would tell this to me, (word for word) as a child. Although a devastating reality to us hopeless romantics... it's as true as the Earth rotates.
@@km4hr That statement applies to ones persona not others.
Its easy for me because i find most people exhausting to deal with.
Yes and they will let you down eventually at some point so why even bother that much w other external factors and people haha
18ys
Being able to be okay being alone is the most powerful. I need for nothing. I want for nothing.
Amy 75206 You have everything
I am always alone. I really like to be alone and quiet. While I'm alone I like to day dream and think about the things I love to do every single day. Being alone is the most best thing to do when your sad or happy because some alone time could make you figure out things that your confused with or things your trying to understand. Sometimes you need to be alone and have time for your self. It is sometimes healthy to be alone and quiet rather than being loud and with your friends all the time.Thats all I have to say. I hope y'all understand what I'm trying to say because I'm not really good at explaining :).
i agree my friend thank you
Not easy for me and the tfl community
U hit the wall. Nothing u can do about any wants now đ
I get depressed when Iâm by myself. Iâm trying so hard to feel sufficient with my own company
You have to be strong đ
I relate to this so much :(
samee
I get anxious in my own thoughts, just know youâre not alone in your battle â€ïž
Man ik its Hard but you have to get Used to it its a tough World out there u cant Trust Everyone cause there are some People that Are Willing to Use you For their Own benifits etc so u have to be Strong.
I've tried a lot of things to get some friends but that didn't work, so here i am.. watching this videođ
Exactly dude...same here.. still can't figure out what's wrong!
Same here
Same! It is hard to fit in or even chase so i dont want to force myself into
Azizah Febriyanti I feel that
Same, but we could be friends ;)
He speaks so warmly and with so much simplicity.... listening to him....feels like meditation âïž
Tarunpreet Kaur damn trueâš mediation would be the best word to describe his sessions đ
I feel the same thing
Smoke weed while listening to this
Or he have mic with high sensitivity!!!
Same
My ex boyfriend changed, my best friend changed, my friends changed and now I should try to live alone and focus on my success because I know people now :)
You go
Same with me
TuÄçe Karaman everyone and everything is subjective to changing the space changes the world changes the life changes people changes the animals changes the trees changes the weather changes unless we complete standstill like Groundhog Day everything do same things and nothing different. Changes is experience new challenges new skills and growth like a seed changes to a plant then changes to a budding plant then to a flowed plant environment also cause of effect but the plant chooses to correspond to environment or not
@@djpatt81 I don't know, I am afraid of changes tbh
TuÄçe Karaman I do to itâs not knowing what it is I am autistic so difficult although I study well but sometimes fear can take you right at edge the unfamiliar the unknown the alien changes being outside comfort zone even pandemic is dramatically change to life style and mind set changes because experience and not knowing were go next or what worse might come
I was actually feeling fearful being alone due to Covid and unemployment for over a year and being single I do feel however that I have gotten to know myself better Well I just want to send love â€ïž to everyone who feels alone and I know this feeling will pass đ€
You be fine
I'm alone
and I've been alone for 20 years now. And I love it. I've been married and divorced for five years. No more drama or arguing over stupid little stuff. I'm more happy now.. People need to try it sometimes. You're love it đ
Did you learn anything from your experience and did you grow as a person.
"I mighty be alone but never lonely" âš
how do you do it
Sometimes I feel sorry for myself and feel lonely. Then it goes away and I'm okay.
@@lonerhappy I have gone through the same feeling many times.I dont knw how to handle with it
@@kodedbadguy1903 phone social media does that count alone.
One man can sit in a crowded room and feel alone. Another man can sit in an empty room and never feel alone.
Being alone is free and priceless at the same time.
Day 4 up @ 4am I love it!
U can say that again.
I never have lived alone even on my own for years. It is my first two years, alone and awkward I thought I hated it so much and I always was in a relationship many times but I never found love. Men play games. I am not a dog anymore. I don't want to deal with dating chaos or relationship chaos anymore. I found this and I want to learn how to be alone again. I was a child, I knew how to be alone and happy. I have forgotten about it for many years and I want to bring comfortable again.
Gudddd
Same here
Let's see how it goes
Don't know why, but sounds scary.
Scary because, most of the time you talk to yourself, reason with yourself,you are in a loop, What if it never stops ?
You know the very damn thing, but your heart pulls you to some other direction, and mind stretches you to some other domains and you are in a constant fight with yourself. How can you be happy living that way ? I guess, one can point that even if you are struggling, one day you gonna learn it and be happy with your new self but that doesn't sound logical to me. Bcz if it were something to happen to you the way you imagine, then it should not be a struggle at the very first place. Of course it gonna be a new experience, but it has to be a smooth transition. One is struggling bcz its against their nature, against what they really are at the core.
Those who are happy alone( if they are not fooling themselves) would be miserable with the crowd. I mean, he can't be made to be happy with people around. Its like we as individual, are different from one another and can't fool ourselves of being happy when we are wearing only a mask of happiness.
I am not saying one can't change themselves. All I am saying is that being disciplined and having a strong will is not enough. There are several factors which brings the lasting change and it takes time. So the idea of changing at will no matter what your intention is something I don't think gonna work ever. If you follow it religiously, after sometime, you gonna feel like you are living someone else's life, residing in someone else's body, or in other words, feeling like your emotions, your thoughts has been hijacked. How long can you brainwash yourself ????
If someone is not a loner by his/her very nature, then he/she still gonna need someone trust worthy atleast to talk his/her heart out and the best one can do to accelerate the change is increase the time with himself/herself but still it gonna take a long time or may be very long time to slowly change into a new yourself.
How are you doing these days ?
Can you share your life experience ?
How did you handle all these ? Any suggestions ?
Girlfriend of 4 Years left me recently. We talked about our future all the time even up until the end, when she decided to she wanted to live the party life. I tried talking to other women and all that and it only made me miss her more. This is the true path to growth and recovery from anything. As sad as it sounds, you are the only person you can 100% trust in life, but that should be something were okay with. Stay strong everyone.
I love being by myself alone with my guitar playing! I want to be the best guitar player I can be. I donât need ppl in my life. I have my family and my coworkers. Music is my life my dream and my goal! I always make time everyday for my guitar. I believe in me! Itâs really weird in that as I get older I donât want to be around others. Just too much damned work! I love me! And not in an egotistical sense!
"Ego is just the voice of your fear" had to stop at that
Yes... a good way to think about it ...ego
I love being alone. I only need books, films, nature, my dog....I lile my soul and my thoughts...I enjoy revelling in them
Wholesome đ
Beautiful people make this world beautiful!
I hit like without listening to this man. I know he nails it all the time. Been a follower for years. Listen to him, you're fuelled.
As an extrovert, its my weakness. I dont have a best best friend where they could be available for me 24/7. And im having a hard time being alone. But now i realize i cant please everyone and that i have to master this.
So so true . Same happening with me . Instead of making others happy I learnt to make myself happy .its been 2 months leaving all alone in this Corona situation. I call everyone and talk but no one calls me and talks to me . But its okay I am learning to live alone .
@@preetman7829 you can do it bro!! i believe in you đ
I am just the same. We can't change our nature.
Amen Brother. Amen.
same,I've always gone through this..i don't have friends to talk to.I need to deal my breakup(that I've been so hurt ) myself.
It was hard,but I've gone through till now,hope i can overcome again for the days to come..This World is so hard..stay strong everyoneâ€
there's a limit to this. i am alone pretty much all day every day - I work from home, fairly limited hours. i have absolutely no problem being alone and quiet and with my own thoughts. I've been single most of my life. I've travelled a lot (on my own) and done quite a few different things, probs more than most. but eventually it gets old. going to dinner by yourself, hiking by yourself, travelling by yourself, gardening by yourself, going to the beach by yourself, doing yoga by yourself, cooking by yourself, learning to scuba dive by yourself, seeing a play by yourself, etc etc. it gets old eventually. and it's expensive.
Why don t you join some clubs of interest to get to know people???
@@stefaniakonstantinidou981 I do. I run a meetup group, currently doing belly dancing and horse-riding classes, sometimes spanish classes (as well as teaching myself piano). But most people my age have busy jobs, partners, and children. So it doesn't really change that much.
Get a dog!
I used to be okay to be alone when I was in high school, but no longer in university, your video helps, thank you
Agnes Leung I feel the same way! I loved just being home alone in high school but now i feel so pressured to make friends and network that i canât enjoy being alone anymore. Itâs been really hard. I hope things get better
Lauren Sturdivant Thanks, I feel better than I was a month ago. Maybe itâs because I finally found something that I want to do while Iâm alone :)
@@newbiepetrohead what do you find ??
I have never thought there was someone that that like me. In essence this make me feel not alone. I was once a man with so many friends and popularity. I had to ditch all that because I felt lost. After being alone for so long I started to miss what I once had. Now it gives me strength spiritually. Modern society has so much pressure towards success it easy to get lost. I just want to say thank you for making me understand that being alone doesn't mean you have to feel alone
Austin Alder u are never alone in this world. U donât have to fit into society. I myself have always had the pressure to be something to have something to want something. But the question is, do you need that something?
@@luciarutz6985 truth
âTranquility is the new luxuryâ i felt that statementđŻ
Such extremely powerful advice. Iâm 18 years old and grateful knowing I can use this advice for the rest of my life.
Yes yes you are so fortunate you hear this advice ...just make sure don't engage and anything sexually ...becareful out there ...please don't get married until you finish college ok ....good luck I wish you well ...I people don't believe in you I do !!! You're enough , and worthy!!!!
I'm never alone. There's always me myself and I Am.đ
And God â€
"So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom." Psalm 90:12
Being alone is being yourself. No judgement no matter how crazy it sounds. You can wear, eat, watch or just seat idle without justifying to anyone. Be alone, be creative, be crazy as normal world is not my cup of tea :)
How true
This is me, afraid to be alone with my own thoughts. However, it seems like you're saying that I will be free of this if I get that time alone. I am willing to do it, I have got to change the fear!
Half a century spent in the crafts making fixing stuff, taking the work home is essential, when alone things get done repaired created visualized and prepared for the next day's work, bringing to material reality what the night before was insights dreams and emptiness ~ great human process of creativity ~
Seriously being alone itself has a strong personality.
Living alone is solitude of sublime joy
When I get alone,I tend to think of all the bad things that could go wrong,ie,death,loss,melancholic feelings.i spend too much time like this,Iâm getting better but the advice your giving is brilliant,thankyou.
I know that my being alone can give me an anxiety attack. Iâm trying to learn about myself. You are probably much younger than me + Iâd hate to see you go through life like I did. Donât do it, Emmanuel! You enjoy every moment you can in life - whether you are alone or not. The trick is that if you learn to really like yourself, opportunity will knock!! Enjoy this time for now + take care of yourself!!
This guy's voice is so soothing
Tranquility is the new luxury đđ
Being alone âŠ
Being Clarity ⊠is breeds âMasteryâ
Thank you âSir đđ»
I do enjoy my own company, I always say when I started spending time alone that's when I met myself - reintroduced myself to myself!
I love being alone but I never feel lonely đđ
Wow he is a good human being i respect to you sir
And people around me doesn't understand my idea of "I maybe alone but I'm happy." but I still keep myself up the way I want it to be.
Just broke our friendship but this Video Just made my school life easier
So true . I'm doing this now. People that bring me down. I'm leaving them behind . I use to need them. Then I saw a picture of myself in my 40. I ddint rely on people . I came in did what I had to and left them to it.
The way you speak, so warm and polite gave me relaxation at the moment that i am alone and sad.
Im in the same boat right now. I feel so alone and unwanted. Sometimes i feel like an entity just walking by strangers day in and day out. I have many issues apart from being and feeling alone. Ive thought about seeing a therapist but shits expensive so books is my best bet. This video really immensely helped calm my nerves. Thank god for youtube otherwise idk what id do.
Finding out that no one will ever truly love me has got me feeling extremely alone.
You will become the way to behave with yourself when you are alone.... Great says. đ đźđł đź đł đźđł Wish đ· đ· đ· đźđł
If you are happy alone then you are admiring who you are and how nice you are !
Very few ppl can handle it.. Be proud of it đđđđ
Always was seeking love my whole life, trying to makeup for love I didn't get as a child but spent 37 years married to wife beating husband, I finally woke up and realized I would eventually be dead, I looked around and didn't see any support, I decided to be my own best friend, I spend most of my time alone when I'm not working, lm learning to appreciate it and appreciate me as a person, self love is the best love you can truly give yourself, you can be your own best friend, by doing so, you will never ever settle for less than you deserve.
Iâm hoping you are now safe and happy.
I have come to the level where Iâm listening to this because I wanna find some inner peace with myself. I was a truly, truly loud and proud extrovert until life said Iâve had enough of it. I fell so so deep into darkness and I have picked myself up so many times. I tell myself that life does this every time. I tried to gain strength and continue living as an extrovert because I felt the happiest being loud and socialising. And again I was proven wrong. This time I have had enough and want to actually take a break and isolate myself from everyone and actually finding who I truly am. I wanna figure out if this is really a better way of living. I wanna find peace and happiness being with myself and no one else.
I did it you can too!!! Life will be much better when you stop dealing with toxic people and delusional!!!! .
It is very important we find
That inner being who God's plan is for us
Getting to know our inner self is a journey
Quarantine brought me here đŠ
Welcome
Hahaha
A year later and Iâm still heređ
As I reflected after this talk, I realized I've been feeling alone because I left myself alone. I did all these self improvement all these years but for thought and want of having others fill my cup. I hated my own company because I saw myself as uninteresting, and so I sought affirmations, adventure, and intimacy from others.
But after listening to this talk, everything felt different. I see myself now.
I am no longer afraid of staying up alone during late nights.
Actually, the perspective shifted. I am not and will never be alone.
Sometimes Being Alone Is The Only Awnser
Yes..I am alone all the time.Alone is power.Yes.More time to think and grow!
Why would you be alone?
It's better
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I used to LOVE and CRAVE alonetime (introvert) although I have the best husband and kids đ Then one day I developed panic disorder. It's been 6 months and right now is the first time I'm home alone (ok, my son is in his teenage cave) and here I am googling how to be comfortable home alone đ€Ł
I just want to be independent again.
I will get there, I am in therapy and have started meditating but it will take time... đ„
Im like you. Introvert that just had panic disorder.
Its m'y Time to bé alone.. Tranquility IS thé New luxury. This is m'y Season to bé Alone. 21days to bé alone.
#Believe :)
Hey Evan!
Evan hey!
Are bhaiya ji aap
Tranquility is the new luxury...love thisâ€ïž
Sharma, thank you for sharing your wisdom. I love you! â„ïž
I'm alone for the most part of my life and I'm truly happy. Love you Robin.
Yes Life is hard.
But do remember however it is sprinkled
with bits and pieces
Of happiness here and there.
It can't always rain
Hey robin
yh our one book changed my life
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I cant socialize but i also cant be alone i keep on trying and failing
Accepting being alone.
Thank you very much!
When people ask if I live alone, I usually reply, "not alone, no, I live with myself".
It is something you learn to do.
I listen you each day morning. ....
Thankyou so much for your contribution ...
I read all your books...Love reading your books
Thankyou for being so amazing
I thought i was having a rough day with loneliness so i sought out this video to get a grip. This insight actually helped me realize how far I've come into my personal growth & validates how comfortable im becoming alone. Still got patches to smooth out but im working on my relationship with myself. Thanks!
You are an angel on Earth, God bless you
I choose to be alone and i am now 42.
Before i was like others with a lot of people but no deep connection....
Now i have power, rest, peace and my happyness is not with extern factors but start inside you.
My happyness is not with extern factors like status, money, material things that is empty for me and all relativ.
Blessed and be the light in this dark world
I think, its the best videos ever I've ever seen by Robin Sharma. Its the 'Next Level stuff! Good Luck!!
Wow. This is the most life changing and valuable video I have ever seen in CZcams. Thank you Robin. Sincerely appreciate your video. I feel my life will never be the same again and I will strive for improvement.
Love what goodness you spread. Thanks.
Pretty much I have spent the whole year by myself .lot of thoughts pours in ..not necessarily all positive thoughts.and in those time I had to deal with myself.accepted my flaws,my fears and those poor decisions. Admitting is hard.slowly letting go of regrets and guilta. I realised only way to sustain is to fall in love with yourself first.
I like your podcasts so much robin... thank you for mastery sessions đđ
Loneliness is different to some.
Some people have days where they can take a break from being social and can go back to it at any time when it gets too much. Some people are lonely because they don't have any other choice. I just happen to fall in the latter category.
They always say "reach out to someone" like they assume everybody has someone - but they don't understand some of us have no one to reach out to.
Thank you so much!!!! So happy to have you robin !
Being alone bring negative thought if you think about it
A lot
If your alot on social media, then of course since u will have FOMO and all that other garbo that comes w being dependent on other people lol
It really does im like that most of the time
Itâs because you are not comfortable being alone. Itâs because you are scared of getting to know yourself.
Thank you so much for the love sir Robin. â€ïž
Thank you so much for this!! GOD bless you!
Interesting point about how many of us are addicted to distractions. So important to be intentional and productive as we go throughout our day. Great topic and so important for everyone these days. Cheers!
Your work is a legacy. I am so glad that I am living in the same era.
Wow absolutely. Iâm going to start meditating more and have time alone to understand who I truly am so I can attract what I am wanting in my life.
Sir Robin, I'm so grateful to hear your wonderful messages. Thank you so much for all your guidance, loving encouragement and kind support.
This made me cry. Thank you đ
This was so beautiful! Thank you so much. Most searches lead you to "learning social skills". This has really helped me embrace the beauty that is solitude. It really is about your ability to change your own mindset.
Content is very nice. I am glad you choose this subject. Thank you.
Thank you so much đ.. this video has validated me for how I lived for many years. I always tell myself: " If you look to people for value, acceptance and happiness; I will be disappointed 99% everytime." I mentioned this in AA, and pissed people off
My favourite video on the subject....
Thank you
This really just changed my life đł it confirmed every inner vibration Iâve had for a while now!
I love being alone.
This is a very simplistically powerful message... Thank you.
All i youtubed was "how to spend time by yourself" and its resulted in learning several life lessons! thanks for this message
the most time i get creative in , is when im walking alone
your powerful package of thaughts like this video is the best finishing shot of my everyday life which i hit everyday before going to bed THANKYOU SO MUCH MY GURU ROBINđđ
This is what I needed to watch. Thank you
Thank you so much! Very helpful!
My bestee blocked me,my ex blocked me,my mother died,my father hurts me which makes me enjoy my self.Now I spent time with myself only.