I love this perspective. I travelled to america as an african and from what i experienced, i would want to live there. I realised that i prefer living in africa. I learnt to appreciate what we have in Africa and not to glorify america as its being potrayed on media. The grass is greener where you water it. I only travel as a tourist but when it comes to settling and retirement, i feel safe and loved by my african community. I realised that i dont need to date or be married to an american since all men are the same, the only difference is mindset and access to opportunities. Its a paradox.
@AntonsClass I had the misled mindset that coming to America will 'save me' only to land at JFK and experienced racism from black folks for the first time in my life. I found that people are so mean and selfish. It's all about chasing the bag. People don't have communities like here in Kenya where I live. It was shocking to me. I also met African America who pretended to be black Americans, faking their African accent, which was very fake and distasteful for me. I could watch my loved ones work back to back and come back home very tired and I felt petty for them because Africans who don't travel will never understand the hustle in America and how it's hard because of bills to pay. Also, I am not used to the credit system. I am used to buying all my stuff with cash. I hate debt, and because of that, I had to re-think the quality of life I wanted, and I realised I prefer African systems. It's free. I don't feel like a slave when in Africa. I am also not used to living in a country where people have guns casually. I find Africa safer than America, you will never hear of school shootings or neighborhood shootings here. It was so strange to me. I actually have time for my passion, family, and friends, which is rare to find in America or Europe. I also found it shocking that homes in America don't have fences, unlike in Africa. I found them very insecure. In Africa, we have our own shortcomings and less cash flow because we are a young continent that is growing exponentially. I wouldn't trade my freedom and simple life in Africa for any other continent. I've learned to accept and embrace the differences.
@@wendyomanga you're absolutely right! I appreciate your fresh perspective as a Kenyan who traveled to the US. The lack of community, the slaving away and hustle culture, and the ridiculous amount of firearms in this country are all real issues. Thank you for sharing! I just subscribed to your channel 💯
I had two marriages to African men, but neither of them turned out. Too many expectations, preconceived ideas and disparities in culture existed. My most recent marriage to my husband here from the United States proved the most enduring and long-lasting. Everyone has someone for them, but I think the strongest connection that unites us firmly is our shared history among others.
100% agree, even though differences might be minute it may end up being irritating after a while because we as humans do not like to hide our emotions. One of the most irritating things is being treated like a guillable person who has no problem with being used as an atm, or being put in situations which are not your cup of tea, but over there it is the go to lifestyle to have
As a Pan Afrikan Nationalist I have learned that their are two types of Afrikans one is the continental Afrikan and two is the Diasporian Afrikan. Both are Afrikans but with different shared experiences, due to different forms of enslavements and colonizations. My first marriage was to a continental Afrikan woman from Ghana. All was beautiful as long as we stayed in Afrika. Due to American brainwashing as usual, Afrikans on the continent and on islands like Jamaica where I am originally from due to slavery, are hell bent on thinking that going to America will change their lives for the better. So when you let them know that your chosen home is afrika most will show their true colors if they are not truly in love with you such was the case with my Ghanaian ex wife. My current marriage is with my best friend from my village in Jamaica and she is way more comfortable for obvious reasons and she Alis desire to go live in Afrika as well due to our shared long time apathy for all things American other than the educational and financial opportunity. As Peter Tosh sang no matter when you come from as long as you black you are an Afrikan. As long as we are maintaining Afrikan Traditional Family culture then all is good. No snow bunny hopping and definitely no gender dysphasia relationships of confusion and death.
You have no idea how hard this video hits for me!!!! WOW! I did not travel as far as you to discover that my pride as an American shifted while abroad. I would have never appreciated home had I not left! At 55, I did not go looking for love, but I was looking for a “Black” community! Well, needless to say, my community is at home in America! However, I will still travel of course, but not looking for greener grass, but simply to experience different cultures without make believing that I will ever be FULLY EXCEPTED as one of them just because of my long-term residency. Thank you for sharing your truth! It’s confirming! 👏🏾👏🏾🤜🏾🤛🏾
@@gileskisife6966 Thank you for the gentle correct word correction: ACCEPTED! I think it’s a combination of both. No one to blame here. We’re just culturally different.
@@SPINESHINEGODDESS What did you expect? Even in the US, someone from the south is culturally different from the north, I'd say! Even within Africa, people are culturally different. African Americans, I believe, should be the least to complain about these differences in Africa. The glass is either half empty or half full, they say!!
@@gileskisife6966 Ok You’re right! You are sooooo right! What on earth was I thinking. Thank you so much for setting me straight. I have learned my lesson! Next time, I’ll know better and do better!
This is a very interesting topic for me personally. We all have such amazing and unique journeys. This is mine. I was born in Kenya and came to the US as a kid with my parents. My dad was studying here. I was in the US from the age of 5 to the age of 10. Very formative years! I absorbed American culture and also learned to speak English with a "middle American" accent. When I was 10 our family went back to Kenya. My parents never had intentions of settling in the US. It was clear to them from before leaving Kenya that we were coming for my dad's education and we would go back to Kenya. Back in Kenya, I re-met my extended family and re-learned my native language. But still spoke English with an American accent. Along with my American cultural background, my accent made me an oddity even among family members. I never really fit in and longed to come back "home" to the US. I spent the next 12 years in Kenya and eventually came back for college when I was 22 years old. By then I had absorbed a lot of my Kenyan culture again. When I came back to the US, it really did feel like a "homecoming". I didn't go back to Kenya, not even for a vacation, for 19 years! Eventually, though, I did go back. I had gotten my US citizenship by that time so I had dual citizenship. Since then I have been going back and forth between Kenya and the US. I am nearin retirement age and fully plan on going to live my last days in Kenya. After all these years in the US I have never quite "fit in" here either. I am at the same time American and foreign. I have never referred to myself as African American but don't feel that I will ever be completely Kenyan either. I am caught between. Partly as a result of this in-betweenness, I have never been able to settle with a spouse. Besides family members, I don't have any friends in Kenya either. My friends in the US tended to be international people and are flung far and wide all over the US and the world! They have their families and communities. Strangely I don't feel badly about my situation. I am looking forward to living in Kenya in retirement. The US is most definitely a country that is good for young people! I cannot fathom growing old here with no family close by. I greatly appreciate the US for who I am today, and I also love my home country of Kenya, even though socially, I feel far more an alien there than in the US! I don't know what the future has in store but I have always been an adventurous person who can live just about anywhere. BTW, my experience is typical for what is known as a "Third Culture Child". That is, children who spend significant parts of their lives living away from the culture of their birth. You become an international person who does not fully identify with any one culture. We have our unique challenges in the world, but we also have incredible strengths and such discerning perspectives on the world in general.
Thanks for sharing your story. Shows the difference between being stolen and brought over and enslaved verses traveling abroad to a further country, its like the flip side of the coin being able to grow up in the place you came from. You are like a remnant returning to the land. Interesting. You should do your DNA if you haven't, you will probably see all the nations that flow through your veins. I call myself Creole or Pueblo. 🙏🏾
For a person like you I guess you should marry a white partner, they don't seem to care much about culture. Also mingling with educated people could make it easier to find a less culturally attached partner.
Thanks for sharing your story. Yet again, I am enlightened. I've gone down the ytube rabbit hole on this topic and was amazed to find out how many black Americans have decided to go back to the US after living in Africa. However, I completely understand why, given the many perils of such an endeavor. I once had a long-term desire of wanting to relocate to Africa because of my negative experiences from working in the US workforce, however, I have since changed my mind and too have decided that I can and will succeed in the US. Much peace and many blessings to you.
I wonder why so many people feel the need to pick up and move completely? Most diasporans of all sorts work in the West and build back home over time. Black Americans can do the same. Live here and build a honeycomb hideout in the motherland to visit and take a break from the Belly of the Beast until you're fully ready for a permanent move (if ever). Much love to you bro, hoping to bust a move of Namibia one day, you've been a valuable resource.
There are no "Black Americans".. All socalled blacks ain't from Africa🤷🏾♂️🤦🏽♂️ America is Turtle Island the Original People are what people are taught is Black, Afro-american🤷😂 or whatever.. People need to do the research and stop being ignorant.. It is American..that is all.. The Original📕🧐😎👍
Something similar happened to me. I think I was searching for home, somewhat dissatisfied with the US. I’ve traveled to Asia, Europe and two countries in west Africa. Although I loved visiting Africa - I realized the US is home. I had to take a second look and I realized all that we African Americans do have here. My travels made me that more appreciative of what we have and more curious to learn and know more about my own people. We have a beautiful rich culture - we have history here, ties to the land. We do have family and community - as well as all of the conveniences that come with living here. You do at times need to move a certain way but if you know how, then you’re good. Also the US is a huge country that I’d love to explore more of. Does it have it’s not so good, absolutely - but if you focus on the good you can live well, or at least decently here. And for me, this is home. Also, it’s ok to change your mind - to move back home or to another country.
I have homes abroad but the US is my home base. When I get tired of the various challenges faced abroad I know I can come home and be "good". People glorify living abroad way too much. I am grateful for American citizenship and have lived many places but I like being home.
Too many African Americans (and Americans) in general complain a lot about what they have and fantasize about the grass being greener. I was one of those years ago and lived abroad. Long story short, I learned that the U.S is not perfect but it's the best place for me and I think everyone who chronically complains that they hate it here, should absolutely leave then re-evaluate. If they are happier elsewhere than that's a blessing too.
I would say black Americans, Afro Caribbeans, and Afro Latino are the same people - as we have the same collective history We are different to Africans.
Culturally differences, infrastructure not developed enough, power outages, lack of respect or awareness of time, quality of medical care, and realizing I already have a great life here in the USA are just a few reasons why I decided not to move to Africa (Ghana) after several stays and consideration.
Me and my 2 children went to live in West African Senegal🇸🇳 June 2023. (Not knowing it’s the most expensive country on the continent, I thought it was Nigeria) I wanted to make it our new home but I quickly seen major differences and we were also addressed as foreign or just American. We stayed 10 months almost a year we left March 22 2024. It was nice and I like it but financially on top of having to learn 2 different languages Wolof & (the colonizers French) it was just too much being a single mother. I needed true genuine friends & love
Wow! Thank you for sharing your experience with us here. I never Knew Senegal was the most expensive country until like last week! Lol. Glad you were able to experience it and make the right decision for you and your family. 🙏🏾 Blessings
Our uncestors who were enslaved in America for 400 years reinvented their identity and became African Americans. I personaly being a South African understands why you will never be the same again. Your African American culture of living in an inviroment that the west made it for you and the evolution AAs had wilst in a foreign continent, the ability to adopt ,will forever live within you. I will not blame you for deciding to go back to USA. I am happy that you have rediscovered your roots. And going back there will forever rewrite a history within you. Us too in S.A are not the same because our sub- cultures are not the same. I praise you for taking such a brave quantum leep. May you have a wonderful life over there.
Molefe it is interesting how you identify with them in your opening remarks. Anton is a highly educated individual, especially about the origins of mankind. Is 400 years a long time? Do we have people who are sticking to their ideals , dating way back longer than 1400 years ?
@@Seeta_sa_gauta Mr Seeta I did study Earthnology at university. I write comments according to how the book and my lecturer made me to undrestand it. In South Africa we have institutions that are regarded the best in the whole world. The black Americans were shielded from studying about their origin as Africans. Now they have found us, Let us ebrace their African American culture but we must not forget that the education they had received, the west did try to hide their Africanicity to a certain extend. Only wars and femine was what they know about the continent. The west dont want us to unite. It is because we have any raw minerals and some they lie untouched. Do you know that our big five animals are only found in Africa's Southern hemisphere? Our tourism in S.A. is the most regulated not forgetting Kenya and others. So let us celebrate our uniqueness. DANKO.!!!
Too many people are looking for someone to take care of them; not enough people willing to help out, work, and build each other up. I see why most men are staying single when they are only wanted for their financial resources.
You're my living life Sir.. Even the starting over is happening to more Good Souls (like you) than you think. Appreciate your transparency.. you got this and you know it. SO CRUSH IT! 54yr old Gentleman here, Peaceful Journey and Bless you!
Yeah if you are a successful traded you will be very good I live in Africa from America and alot of forex and crypto folks living just fine especially the ones who know what they doing
It's still a job that you have to work to get paid. If I had to make a move to the mother land, I'll have my money working in the US and I'll get paid off that. Plus I'll get me job if they hire Americans.
Bravo Bro! Many kudos and much respect for putting yourself out there. I've traveled abroad a great deal for over 30 years. And, I'm clicking my ruby slippers..."there's no place like home". I learned that change is all you can count on. Ready or not, here it comes! Your pivoting skills are awesome! Welcome back!!!
I was just wondering how you were doing. Glad to see you doing well. I was on the move to the motherland train for many years. I took my son on a graduation trip to Morocco last year. Although I really enjoyed the trip, I came to a realization that I want to explore Africa but may not want to live there full time. I also came to realize, like you, that you can really make your life what you want here in the states or most places really. Good luck in your Master's program. I know you will do great.
i have been to Africa several time. It it weren't for the difficutly in securing permanent residency, I would have stayed, no doubt. Now I cannot return to Ghana, which was the easiest to stay legally, long term, becuase I am past the age where they innoculate me against yellow fever. You know, sadly, most black people in America who decide to go to Africa or make Africa their home or disappointed because they are just not ready. They still consider themselves American first and foremost as it is something to be proud of. They fail to realize or to accept how indocrianted we really are, or so have not prepared themselves mentally, even though they think they have. You have to have that love for yourself as African and the love for African people. I made friends easily because the people could feel my vibe and my love. I did not expect perfection and did not care when I very raretly encountered negativity. Bottom line. MOST OF US ARE JUST NOT READY PERIOD, SORRY. With all the hell we catch in America, we still cling to some kind of fantasy that is the best place for black people. It is sort of a machochistic attitude as far as I am concerned. We are humiliated in America every damn day, if you are really paying attention to what is happening and do not have your eyes wide shut.
We are American...For the last 25 years, I've worked as a teacher in my community where my bosses look like me..I don't have a problem here...I love to travel but I'm American my ancestors built this country..there's pride in that!
As a South African, I can only talk about SA. If you want to live a good life in SA, plan well before you move. Visit different cities first, such as Johannesburg, Capetown, Durban, Gqeberha, Pretoria etc. and see which one you like the most because hey, these cities are so different. South Africa is so diverse, even black South Africans have different cultures and languages. When I moved to Pretoria from the Eastern Cape being Xhosa, I couldn't understand a word in Tswana 🤣. I had to fully depend on English. If you have a job back home, don't just quit and move. You can apply for a digital nomad visa if you can work remotely and earn +/-$53000 p/a. Keep earning your dollars, pounds etc. The rand is much lower, so your dollar can do wonders for you. If you are an entrepreneur, again, do your research and plan well. South Africa has great business opportunities. Big cities in SA can be brutal if you run out of money, like almost anywhere in the world.
He would've fitted right in in E.C this one😂😂😂😂 he can even click😂😂 i even was like dayumnnn i missed an opportunity there 😂😂😂pitty he was simping though😂😂. Them lot did him dirty😊. When we have independent worldly travelled south african women like me.😂😂he even looks like umxhosa yellow bone😂😂😂 bless him
I love your perspective on the subjects you covered.. no negativity.. you are open minded and I personally think if you meet someone here and then move together. It makes your journey so much because you will have a person you can confide in and support and understand things from a diasporan experience
This topic has given me an idea for my podcast video on my podcast channel, though I have touched on it before. Bro, your happiness comes first and I support that 100%. Africa will always be here, will always have its arms wide open for you. I wish you everything of the best, going forward.
Just came across your channel. Great video! Loved your transparency. ❤ Subscribed after watching. Looking forward to getting caught up on your past videos and following your journey.
Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. I’m back in the US getting a 2nd degree and in a sense starting over as well. Hubby and I are managing the distance until I return to Ghana in a few months. The power of pivoting and the ability to do so has really made for an exciting life these past few years and I wouldn’t change my experience for anything. Wishing you the best in this new chapter bro💞
I just came across your channel and I like your honesty. I'm a Kenyan who immigrated to America, now in my 60s.Hard to believe how fast time has passed 😅Having taken care of children who are now all grown, My husband and I are seriously planning to retire in Kenya😊When we came to this country, more than 20 years ago, it never occurred to us that we would be permanently going back😅It's amazing how our perspective changes with time😅All the best in your future plans 👍
Anton what a pleasure it is to discover your podcast. Your transparency, clarity & intelligence is refreshing. I've Worked & traveled predominantly in Europe. But also in Japan, HK & S. Korea. I'm a native of Chicago but reside in NYC.. Recently decided that I would like to visit Namibia I've never traveled to the African continent nor the Caribbean. I plan to rectify that in the next couple of years. But I just want to acknowledge what a sentient & radiant soul you are. Thanks for sharing . Peace, light & luv my brother.🙂
Greetings Anton! I am Dating a Nigerian it’s so different for me. But I am adjusting well. I was just in Ikeja Nigeria in December for 2 weeks. I will be traveling back there in December but this time for 30 Days! I Love the Country and the People. I felt at Peace. I am 57 and Living my life to the fullest. I have been divorced for 14 yrs Kids are grown and Living their life! And Just want Mommy too be happy❤🙏🏽
Thank you for sharing your experience here with us! I am glad you are living your best life and enjoying Nigeria! I pray you and your family are blessed 🙏🏾
Anton, thanks for your honesty. Living life has been a great lesson for all of us. I'm back home as well and being back home has been a big blessing for me, too. I'm definitely meant to be back home working on my personal goals. I love the diversity of America too much to live in Africa. I'm talking about the land as well. It was something I miss abroad. Rest, Regroup, and go for your goals and I pray you find love along the way. Good Luck! No subscriber! I'm rooting for you!
Im glad people are starting to see that Black Americans and Africans aren't the same people. Not the same culturally or ethnically. Africa isn't our home. That ended hundreds of years ago...
I think there's nothing like experience to give us a dose of what hardships there are. No amount of planning or theorizing can prepare you. Thank you for taking the risk and stepping out
Your story is very interesting. I guess you didn't cover the basics before you made the move. 1. You need a consistent stream of income and NOT live only on your savings. 2. You need a business idea and understanding of how to do business in the country you want to live in. 3. Sufficient money to do business 4. Live a moderate lifestyle and not middle class when you're not generating any income. Better luck next time
I did travel to Africa, because, I met an Ethiopian while I was teaching in another country and a colleague introduced us while he was in Ethiopia. I eventually moved to Kenya and we met there. He was unable to travel to other African countries. That was a disaster. I literally had to support him and myself. We are no longer together and I would never support someone again like that.
Sorry to say but you got played. No one is unable to travel to other countries, it was all a ruse to milk you of your hard earned money. You were living with a con.
Idk why your video came into my feed but i was enlightened to hear about your experience. What i got from this is, sometimes the very happiness we're looking for is right in front of us, or in your case, right here at home. 😊
You have a new subscriber! Thank you for the transparency!!! I myself am someone that wants to live abroad but I will be going to Haiti where my family is from.
@@osimeon00 I hear so many conflicting stories about that.. may I ask why not? Because I’m aware of all the conflict going on in Haiti, but I do know that it’s not the country in its entirety. It’s only a few particular areas to avoid..
@@kerlinne you should avoid completely right now. Gangs have taken out civilians and police officers. There is no protection if something happens to you. Haitians diasporans are targets. See the news story about the Haitian American couple that was kidnapped. They were lucky to get back. If there was ever a time, this ain't it.
Question... Have you solely financially supported a woman here in the States? I see often that brothas don't have a problem supporting women abroad (not saying this is you) but here in the states some want women to go 50/50. I wonder why that is.
Because we are d##b!! I am 62. In my late 20s and 30s I lived and worked in Singapore and Japan. I was ALWAYS guarded with foreign women. Many are just predators. Especially when it comes to BM. They know we are not that bright. Just being honest about it.
The United States is an egalitarian 50-50 culture. White people are the majority. Statistically 47% of white women earn higher salaries than their white husbands. Mathematically couples that go 50-50 build wealth 4 times faster than those who don't. It's why whites are collectively richer than black people because white couples earn and invest together. White couples in the United States their ancestral Western Europe homelands go 50-50 in an egalitarian way. It's where we get the phrase "going Dutch". Asian and Hispanic couples do the same. Hispanic women work the hardest, dirtiest jobs in the U.S. as maids, cleaners, hotel workers, fruit pickers, home health aids, and many other difficult jobs and Hispanic women use the money they earn to support & invest into their households for their future. Black women are some of the only women looking to be "provided" for. Other races of women are in the workforce and use their money to invest into their households
I think it’s more of the adventure, also maybe the ties are easier to sever when dating/marrying abroad, as for the u.s there are many obstacles for divorce. Some brothers who date overseas are compelled because local attractive women don’t give them a chance, whereas overseas they are given attention, it’s also a small percentage of men who date overseas, the white men are a large percentile of those, esp if you go to places like south east Asia
Anton I wish you the best you will find that someone your very informative. Continue to love you first growing and learning wherever you go. Proud of you too by the way at 30 something taking the leap of faith to go abroad cool.
Hello Mark. You are absolutely right but I would say it is the same for us African born in Africa who have lived in the West for decade. The best thing to do is to find an African woman in the West who is willing to go back to Africa with you
This was a great video. You are right, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. You are exactly where you need to be in life. Your experience will make you a stronger and more open minded person. You will find your way here in America and you will find the love of you life and have children. Your experience has given you perspective and that is something you can never put a price on. I wish you well and you will do well. Good luck to you.
Thank you Anton; good to see a video from you! I have followed you since your Rwanda days, and always respected the eloquent storytelling of your journeys and your transparency; not everyone stands in their truth. And you're so right; America is huge; I've lived West, Midwest (Chicagoan), and now near-south, and there are different cultures, within our black and brown people, right here in the U.S. SO much to see here. I plan on visiting South Africa when budget permits, but in the meantime, I'm learning about, and enjoying me, right where I am. 🙂
Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story. I taught in the Middle East and plan to return to the Middle East some day soon. The only negative for me about living abroad is being so far from family but that’s what planes are for…lol! I wish you much success and blessings in the pursuit of the life God has for you!
African man here that lives in the United States,all I got to say is that I am happy for you in your pursuit of soul searching,the fact that you feel you are or African Americans are not African is valid,I wish you well in your conclusion be good brother I am happy you find your way
Thank you. Your experience would make a good book and help those who are planning to travel for love or business. ( of course it would be Part 1 or your journey) But sequels of such a book, as a part 2, return to country(s) in Africa would be great too. Sounds like you learned a lot. I've heard some folks say, before, that if they could start a business in a country(s) in Africa, do youtube, there is no reason they can't do the same in the US. Many people left the US who have never explored, let alone their own backyards, and many other places in the US. Sure there are social issues; but they exist every where. You carry yourself wherever you go. Thanks again for your honesty and transparency. You'd make a good consultant for those thinking of being a bro brother, entrepreneur startup or youtube. You've got skills. The best knowledge comes from actual experience than theory, whether or not the perception is a fail. I think you've won, actually. You've got many more years ahead of you. So glad to have seen your journey.
Greatly appreciate your honesty understanding what is really true about us not being african,treated totally &completely different people. You have a very kind loving heart that embraces everyone no matter how they treat you.Which is an amazing testament to who you are as a being connected to the divine creator .
Men too, I am an American who moved to Jamaica and married a Jamaican man, same attitude with Jamaica men for American women.He and most folks their scammed me out of all money between 3 years.
With the average American income, taking care of a woman in an African country is very easy. Did you overlook him mentioning that he was taking care of 2 different women just on his savings.
Hi Anton, I’m currently married to a Nigerian and we are about to celebrate our 6yrs anniversary in December, I’m open to moving there in the future with him and making a life there. So far we are enjoying living in the US.
Africa is a BIG PLACE and I think it would take some time to figure out what cultural/ethnic area would really fit my personality and mindset, So we black Americans know something about Ghana, South Africa, Nigeria, Kenya. The bigger English language countries, But maybe a different area of the continent we're not familiar with is really a good fit. We are the first generation of black people to freely move around WORLD in centuries as free men and not property. So we're just beginning to reach out to each other across the oceans. Different places may or may not be the match but we're going to work it out. Reestablish connections. I congratulate him for going to Ghana to see for himself unfiltered.
Make $USD passively and live in Africa , that way you will have US money flowing in to take care of all your needs and wants and able to invest in business in Africa!
I don’t know how and why your video popped up on my timeline, but it’s almost in line with everything I’m going through! I live in yt Iowa and there’s not a lot of opportunities for Black professionals like bigger cities. I’ve been to Europe but am trying to visit Ghana. I still want to move outside of the country, but I first have to get out of Iowa once God makes provision. What month are you born? Thanks for sharing your journey! 🎉
Totally appreciate the wisdom. If I may share mine... Live your life, keep making moves in your travels. All else will fall in place... you have great energy, be cautious of who you share that with, as it is your blessing. And no, I am not the religious type. Peace, my brother and thank you.
I wish you well on your journey for marriage and love. I'm on a similar journey but have not made the leap of moving there. I appreciate your transparency. America has problems but we can realize our dream here as well. Finding a business that can make money in Africa is tough bc our mind thinks of the currency exchange profit. That is small for us so we shy away. Can't wait to see your marriage blog.
Great vid. Am South African can't imagine living in any other country. I have travelled but never thought of moving anywhere. I know for a fact the grass is not greener. Finally; where are people getting people to support them financially? In this economy 😮😮😮
Appreciate your candidness. It sounds to me like improper planning. But I'm glad you shared your experience to assist others in this area who are considering moving abroad. Africa is an EMERGING market. You must plan your financial future out BEFORE you go family ❤. Jobs are not as readily available as they are here in the states. And Africans are a lot more connected to one another than we are. They hire their own before any others.
Uh, anyones funds will run low supporting a love interest as opposed to a spouse. This can affect any decisions in US, Africa or anywhere in the world….
@@AntonsClassthey took advantage joohh you were a simp😮. It all started with the Nigerian 😮. Don't do that pls. U ended up in the wrong part of s.a nways...that's a jungle. Try western cape or eastern cape..😂😂😂you will fit right in😂😂😂btw s.a has westernized women who are expats❤❤❤js
Anton. You have made the right decision. You are ahead of time and your dream has already come true because you are back where you belong. May Hashem continue to bless you.
Hi anton I appreciated your video. People always think the grass is greener on the other side which is most definitely not the case. My parents left Jamaica in the 50s looking for a better life in England. Life was extremely challenging for them. They never earned enough money to be able to go back to Jamaica. My mother is now 97 and constantly talks about her childhood in Jamaica. You can make a good life for yourself where you are in America.
So if I take your analogy about your parents.. you can struggle both abroad or where you were born 🤔 .. my parents left looking for a better life, would have loved to return home but never got enough money in America to do so.. and you can't send them home either. Interesting.
Appreciate your courage and honesty in sharing your experiences. As you say, we can find love anywhere. As a Bahá’í I believe that diverse marriages can be beneficial and fruitful to us as a human race - they can help to promote unity, understanding and peace. However, we must exercise care: "Bahá’í marriage is the commitment of the two parties one to the other, and their mutual attachment of mind and heart. Each must, however, exercise the utmost care to become thoroughly acquainted with the character of the other, that the binding covenant between them may be a tie that will endure forever. Their purpose must be this: to become loving companions and comrades and at one with each other for time and eternity." Ideally marriage should be an eternal bond. Wishing you success in all you do!
Wow, I’ve been debating since 2010, my spirit hasn’t been into the move to Africa. I think I will eventually visit, but, I’m really not feeling even a visit. I see countries like China and Russia moving into various places which I must confess is troubling. Your comment about appreciation for your Afro-American was interesting, not judging. I enjoyed your all your comments.
China way better than america. The difference is Chinese go to set up economic power and business. Why African Americans going to live there and do the same as natives? You control economy, you control the country.
Thank you for being transparent. It’s helpful. I’ve considered moving abroad in hopes of a better life. Maybe because I’m African descent I have a desire to know what it’s like to live there. Feeling it would provide a sense of freedom and safety. ❤
There are more FREEDOM in Afrika But safety? Emotional safety you have to have the money to give out because living in Afrika is not a vegetable if you have spend all your live living in the western world. Physical safety same like every country on this earth - life is a risk at any giving time.
God bless you brother. Trust God to give you wisdom in choosing your spouse in life so that you will be equally yoked together. I'm now a widowed senior. When I was younger, I traveled the world, including Africa. I have many African friends and sweet memories of the African continent. However, there is no place like home. I enjoyed your podcast and your honesty.
I love this perspective. I travelled to america as an african and from what i experienced, i would want to live there. I realised that i prefer living in africa. I learnt to appreciate what we have in Africa and not to glorify america as its being potrayed on media. The grass is greener where you water it. I only travel as a tourist but when it comes to settling and retirement, i feel safe and loved by my african community. I realised that i dont need to date or be married to an american since all men are the same, the only difference is mindset and access to opportunities. Its a paradox.
Very good points! I agree, it's a paradox, right? Thanks for sharing.
@AntonsClass I had the misled mindset that coming to America will 'save me' only to land at JFK and experienced racism from black folks for the first time in my life. I found that people are so mean and selfish. It's all about chasing the bag. People don't have communities like here in Kenya where I live. It was shocking to me. I also met African America who pretended to be black Americans, faking their African accent, which was very fake and distasteful for me. I could watch my loved ones work back to back and come back home very tired and I felt petty for them because Africans who don't travel will never understand the hustle in America and how it's hard because of bills to pay. Also, I am not used to the credit system. I am used to buying all my stuff with cash. I hate debt, and because of that, I had to re-think the quality of life I wanted, and I realised I prefer African systems. It's free. I don't feel like a slave when in Africa. I am also not used to living in a country where people have guns casually. I find Africa safer than America, you will never hear of school shootings or neighborhood shootings here. It was so strange to me. I actually have time for my passion, family, and friends, which is rare to find in America or Europe. I also found it shocking that homes in America don't have fences, unlike in Africa. I found them very insecure.
In Africa, we have our own shortcomings and less cash flow because we are a young continent that is growing exponentially. I wouldn't trade my freedom and simple life in Africa for any other continent. I've learned to accept and embrace the differences.
@@wendyomanga you're absolutely right! I appreciate your fresh perspective as a Kenyan who traveled to the US. The lack of community, the slaving away and hustle culture, and the ridiculous amount of firearms in this country are all real issues. Thank you for sharing! I just subscribed to your channel 💯
@@wendyomangaamen America is a toxic place and I can’t wait to get the hell out of here me I’m African for life
@@wendyomangaDid you say you are a young country??
The freedom to change your mind is the ultimate form of liberation.
Yes! Thank you so much 🙏🏾
Nice one!
It depends on what are your priorities,if seeking lots of money is your number one priority,then Africa might not be for you.
Well Said
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That's why it's good to travel. When you go out and travel the world, you get a better appreciation of home and who you are.
Absolutely! Well-said, and thanks for sharing!
I disagree. Amerikkkan WS travel and come back WS.
I appreciate your courage and flexibility. You stepped out, you learned, you loved, you left, you grew. Quite inspiring.
Thank you, brother! Your support is truly appreciated! 🙏🏾
I had two marriages to African men, but neither of them turned out. Too many expectations, preconceived ideas and disparities in culture existed. My most recent marriage to my husband here from the United States proved the most enduring and long-lasting. Everyone has someone for them, but I think the strongest connection that unites us firmly is our shared history among others.
Absolutely❤!
So you've been married at least 3 times?
100% agree, even though differences might be minute it may end up being irritating after a while because we as humans do not like to hide our emotions. One of the most irritating things is being treated like a guillable person who has no problem with being used as an atm, or being put in situations which are not your cup of tea, but over there it is the go to lifestyle to have
Thank you for sharing! That makes a lot of sense.
As a Pan Afrikan Nationalist I have learned that their are two types of Afrikans one is the continental Afrikan and two is the Diasporian Afrikan. Both are Afrikans but with different shared experiences, due to different forms of enslavements and colonizations. My first marriage was to a continental Afrikan woman from Ghana. All was beautiful as long as we stayed in Afrika. Due to American brainwashing as usual, Afrikans on the continent and on islands like Jamaica where I am originally from due to slavery, are hell bent on thinking that going to America will change their lives for the better. So when you let them know that your chosen home is afrika most will show their true colors if they are not truly in love with you such was the case with my Ghanaian ex wife. My current marriage is with my best friend from my village in Jamaica and she is way more comfortable for obvious reasons and she Alis desire to go live in Afrika as well due to our shared long time apathy for all things American other than the educational and financial opportunity. As Peter Tosh sang no matter when you come from as long as you black you are an Afrikan. As long as we are maintaining Afrikan Traditional Family culture then all is good. No snow bunny hopping and definitely no gender dysphasia relationships of confusion and death.
You have no idea how hard this video hits for me!!!! WOW! I did not travel as far as you to discover that my pride as an American shifted while abroad. I would have never appreciated home had I not left! At 55, I did not go looking for love, but I was looking for a “Black” community! Well, needless to say, my community is at home in America!
However, I will still travel of course, but not looking for greener grass, but simply to experience different cultures without make believing that I will ever be FULLY EXCEPTED as one of them just because of my long-term residency.
Thank you for sharing your truth! It’s confirming! 👏🏾👏🏾🤜🏾🤛🏾
Regarding notbing accepted fully, was it you or them?
@@gileskisife6966 Thank you for the gentle correct word correction: ACCEPTED!
I think it’s a combination of both. No one to blame here. We’re just culturally different.
@@SPINESHINEGODDESS What did you expect? Even in the US, someone from the south is culturally different from the north, I'd say! Even within Africa, people are culturally different. African Americans, I believe, should be the least to complain about these differences in Africa. The glass is either half empty or half full, they say!!
@@gileskisife6966 Ok You’re right! You are sooooo right! What on earth was I thinking. Thank you so much for setting me straight. I have learned my lesson! Next time, I’ll know better and do better!
This is a very interesting topic for me personally. We all have such amazing and unique journeys. This is mine. I was born in Kenya and came to the US as a kid with my parents. My dad was studying here. I was in the US from the age of 5 to the age of 10. Very formative years! I absorbed American culture and also learned to speak English with a "middle American" accent. When I was 10 our family went back to Kenya. My parents never had intentions of settling in the US. It was clear to them from before leaving Kenya that we were coming for my dad's education and we would go back to Kenya. Back in Kenya, I re-met my extended family and re-learned my native language. But still spoke English with an American accent. Along with my American cultural background, my accent made me an oddity even among family members. I never really fit in and longed to come back "home" to the US. I spent the next 12 years in Kenya and eventually came back for college when I was 22 years old. By then I had absorbed a lot of my Kenyan culture again. When I came back to the US, it really did feel like a "homecoming". I didn't go back to Kenya, not even for a vacation, for 19 years! Eventually, though, I did go back. I had gotten my US citizenship by that time so I had dual citizenship. Since then I have been going back and forth between Kenya and the US. I am nearin retirement age and fully plan on going to live my last days in Kenya. After all these years in the US I have never quite "fit in" here either. I am at the same time American and foreign. I have never referred to myself as African American but don't feel that I will ever be completely Kenyan either. I am caught between. Partly as a result of this in-betweenness, I have never been able to settle with a spouse. Besides family members, I don't have any friends in Kenya either. My friends in the US tended to be international people and are flung far and wide all over the US and the world! They have their families and communities. Strangely I don't feel badly about my situation. I am looking forward to living in Kenya in retirement. The US is most definitely a country that is good for young people! I cannot fathom growing old here with no family close by. I greatly appreciate the US for who I am today, and I also love my home country of Kenya, even though socially, I feel far more an alien there than in the US! I don't know what the future has in store but I have always been an adventurous person who can live just about anywhere. BTW, my experience is typical for what is known as a "Third Culture Child". That is, children who spend significant parts of their lives living away from the culture of their birth. You become an international person who does not fully identify with any one culture. We have our unique challenges in the world, but we also have incredible strengths and such discerning perspectives on the world in general.
Thanks for sharing your story. Shows the difference between being stolen and brought over and enslaved verses traveling abroad to a further country, its like the flip side of the coin being able to grow up in the place you came from. You are like a remnant returning to the land. Interesting. You should do your DNA if you haven't, you will probably see all the nations that flow through your veins. I call myself Creole or Pueblo. 🙏🏾
For a person like you I guess you should marry a white partner, they don't seem to care much about culture. Also mingling with educated people could make it easier to find a less culturally attached partner.
Very interesting indeed!
That's me too. I'm guilt tripped about 'culture lessness' all the time. I prefer being a global citizen
I also am a third culture kid. Born in San Jose Costa Rica 🇨🇷 but raised in the United States. For this reason, I travel extensively internationally.
Thanks for sharing your story. Yet again, I am enlightened. I've gone down the ytube rabbit hole on this topic and was amazed to find out how many black Americans have decided to go back to the US after living in Africa. However, I completely understand why, given the many perils of such an endeavor. I once had a long-term desire of wanting to relocate to Africa because of my negative experiences from working in the US workforce, however, I have since changed my mind and too have decided that I can and will succeed in the US. Much peace and many blessings to you.
I wonder why so many people feel the need to pick up and move completely? Most diasporans of all sorts work in the West and build back home over time. Black Americans can do the same. Live here and build a honeycomb hideout in the motherland to visit and take a break from the Belly of the Beast until you're fully ready for a permanent move (if ever). Much love to you bro, hoping to bust a move of Namibia one day, you've been a valuable resource.
Very true.
@millionairemaine8901. You're right.
Agreed
There are no "Black Americans".. All socalled blacks ain't from Africa🤷🏾♂️🤦🏽♂️ America is Turtle Island the Original People are what people are taught is Black, Afro-american🤷😂 or whatever.. People need to do the research and stop being ignorant.. It is American..that is all.. The Original📕🧐😎👍
Absolutely correct 😢been to Nigeria and Ghana..I live in USA my husband lives in Ghana and Africa isn’t for me long term
Something similar happened to me. I think I was searching for home, somewhat dissatisfied with the US. I’ve traveled to Asia, Europe and two countries in west Africa. Although I loved visiting Africa - I realized the US is home. I had to take a second look and I realized all that we African Americans do have here. My travels made me that more appreciative of what we have and more curious to learn and know more about my own people. We have a beautiful rich culture - we have history here, ties to the land. We do have family and community - as well as all of the conveniences that come with living here. You do at times need to move a certain way but if you know how, then you’re good. Also the US is a huge country that I’d love to explore more of. Does it have it’s not so good, absolutely - but if you focus on the good you can live well, or at least decently here. And for me, this is home. Also, it’s ok to change your mind - to move back home or to another country.
Absolutely! I think many of us go through a similar experience when going abroad. Thank you for sharing! 🙏🏾
@@AntonsClass Very true. You’re welcome and glad to share!
So why you didn't find a house that was for you in west Africa and did you travel with a business partner or tried to do everything on your own
True. Black America just needs marriage and fathers for kids. With that, black America would be unstoppable.
I have homes abroad but the US is my home base. When I get tired of the various challenges faced abroad I know I can come home and be "good". People glorify living abroad way too much. I am grateful for American citizenship and have lived many places but I like being home.
Too many African Americans (and Americans) in general complain a lot about what they have and fantasize about the grass being greener. I was one of those years ago and lived abroad. Long story short, I learned that the U.S is not perfect but it's the best place for me and I think everyone who chronically complains that they hate it here, should absolutely leave then re-evaluate. If they are happier elsewhere than that's a blessing too.
I would say black Americans, Afro Caribbeans, and Afro Latino are the same people - as we have the same collective history We are different to Africans.
Your taking to long to just say why u left
Why doesn't he want to say "he" or "she" instead of this person X and person O b.s.?
right?
@@AlkebulanMan-rw8cpHow does it help you if is she or he? Please eat yr food and mind yr business.
@@Onlyfacts0224 I don't OVERstand stupid comments and broken english! What are you speaking?
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Culturally differences, infrastructure not developed enough, power outages, lack of respect or awareness of time, quality of medical care, and realizing I already have a great life here in the USA are just a few reasons why I decided not to move to Africa (Ghana) after several stays and consideration.
Me and my 2 children went to live in West African Senegal🇸🇳 June 2023. (Not knowing it’s the most expensive country on the continent, I thought it was Nigeria) I wanted to make it our new home but I quickly seen major differences and we were also addressed as foreign or just American. We stayed 10 months almost a year we left March 22 2024. It was nice and I like it but financially on top of having to learn 2 different languages Wolof & (the colonizers French) it was just too much being a single mother. I needed true genuine friends & love
Wow! Thank you for sharing your experience with us here. I never Knew Senegal was the most expensive country until like last week! Lol. Glad you were able to experience it and make the right decision for you and your family. 🙏🏾 Blessings
Living in Afrika Not a vegetable experience in deed.
Our uncestors who were enslaved in America for 400 years reinvented their identity and became African Americans. I personaly being a South African understands why you will never be the same again.
Your African American culture of living in an inviroment that the west made it for you and the evolution AAs had wilst in a foreign continent, the ability to adopt ,will forever live within you.
I will not blame you for deciding to go back to USA. I am happy that you have rediscovered your roots. And going back there will forever rewrite a history within you. Us too in S.A are not the same because our sub- cultures are not the same. I praise you for taking such a brave quantum leep. May you have a wonderful life over there.
Aww. Such kind words.
Molefe it is interesting how you identify with them in your opening remarks. Anton is a highly educated individual, especially about the origins of mankind. Is 400 years a long time? Do we have people who are sticking to their ideals , dating way back longer than 1400 years ?
@@Seeta_sa_gauta Mr Seeta I did study Earthnology at university. I write comments according to how the book and my lecturer made me to undrestand it. In South Africa we have institutions that are regarded the best in the whole world. The black Americans were shielded from studying about their origin as Africans.
Now they have found us, Let us ebrace their African American culture but we must not forget that the education they had received, the west did try to hide their Africanicity to a certain extend. Only wars and femine was what they know about the continent.
The west dont want us to unite. It is because we have any raw minerals and some they lie untouched. Do you know that our big five animals are only found in Africa's Southern hemisphere? Our tourism in S.A. is the most regulated not forgetting Kenya and others. So let us celebrate our uniqueness. DANKO.!!!
@@molefejappie3284 danko Molefe.
Too many people are looking for someone to take care of them; not enough people willing to help out, work, and build each other up. I see why most men are staying single when they are only wanted for their financial resources.
I've lived in 4 countries. You honestly need to see how you'll adapt to a foreign everything to truly know what you're made of
Good listening to a black man with integrity and character.
You're my living life Sir.. Even the starting over is happening to more Good Souls (like you) than you think.
Appreciate your transparency.. you got this and you know it. SO CRUSH IT! 54yr old Gentleman here, Peaceful Journey and Bless you!
I'm moving to Africa and I'm taking my day trading skills so I'll be able to do pretty much anything I'll need done cause of this skill set...
You should be just fine!
Research employment of the people where you are going, if you do not have continuous stream of income….
Yeah if you are a successful traded you will be very good I live in Africa from America and alot of forex and crypto folks living just fine especially the ones who know what they doing
@zaharalmole u hit the nail on the head... those who know what they are doing ....as there are many pretenders with trading
It's still a job that you have to work to get paid. If I had to make a move to the mother land, I'll have my money working in the US and I'll get paid off that. Plus I'll get me job if they hire Americans.
Bravo Bro! Many kudos and much respect for putting yourself out there. I've traveled abroad a great deal for over 30 years. And, I'm clicking my ruby slippers..."there's no place like home". I learned that change is all you can count on. Ready or not, here it comes! Your pivoting skills are awesome! Welcome back!!!
You were very honest, and that was very refreshing.
Your video popped up on my feed. Loved hearing your story and welcome back to the states.
I was just wondering how you were doing. Glad to see you doing well. I was on the move to the motherland train for many years. I took my son on a graduation trip to Morocco last year. Although I really enjoyed the trip, I came to a realization that I want to explore Africa but may not want to live there full time.
I also came to realize, like you, that you can really make your life what you want here in the states or most places really.
Good luck in your Master's program. I know you will do great.
i have been to Africa several time. It it weren't for the difficutly in securing permanent residency, I would have stayed, no doubt. Now I cannot return to Ghana, which was the easiest to stay legally, long term, becuase I am past the age where they innoculate me against yellow fever. You know, sadly, most black people in America who decide to go to Africa or make Africa their home or disappointed because they are just not ready. They still consider themselves American first and foremost as it is something to be proud of. They fail to realize or to accept how indocrianted we really are, or so have not prepared themselves mentally, even though they think they have. You have to have that love for yourself as African and the love for African people. I made friends easily because the people could feel my vibe and my love. I did not expect perfection and did not care when I very raretly encountered negativity. Bottom line. MOST OF US ARE JUST NOT READY PERIOD, SORRY. With all the hell we catch in America, we still cling to some kind of fantasy that is the best place for black people. It is sort of a machochistic attitude as far as I am concerned. We are humiliated in America every damn day, if you are really paying attention to what is happening and do not have your eyes wide shut.
We are American...For the last 25 years, I've worked as a teacher in my community where my bosses look like me..I don't have a problem here...I love to travel but I'm American my ancestors built this country..there's pride in that!
As a South African, I can only talk about SA. If you want to live a good life in SA, plan well before you move. Visit different cities first, such as Johannesburg, Capetown, Durban, Gqeberha, Pretoria etc. and see which one you like the most because hey, these cities are so different. South Africa is so diverse, even black South Africans have different cultures and languages. When I moved to Pretoria from the Eastern Cape being Xhosa, I couldn't understand a word in Tswana 🤣. I had to fully depend on English.
If you have a job back home, don't just quit and move. You can apply for a digital nomad visa if you can work remotely and earn +/-$53000 p/a. Keep earning your dollars, pounds etc. The rand is much lower, so your dollar can do wonders for you.
If you are an entrepreneur, again, do your research and plan well. South Africa has great business opportunities.
Big cities in SA can be brutal if you run out of money, like almost anywhere in the world.
He would've fitted right in in E.C this one😂😂😂😂 he can even click😂😂 i even was like dayumnnn i missed an opportunity there 😂😂😂pitty he was simping though😂😂. Them lot did him dirty😊. When we have independent worldly travelled south african women like me.😂😂he even looks like umxhosa yellow bone😂😂😂 bless him
@@sammym9259facts. The minute he said NIGERIAN woman. I knew it was over 😆 they were going to trap him 😆
This was helpful.
@@soulrebel2006He did not say Nigerian Women, he said Nigeria, so what the O person from Namibia? You think you know.
@@Onlyfacts0224 he said he was dating a Nigerian woman.
May The Most High Grant You Great Wealth. The Journey Is Not Easy But Keep Praying Brother and Great Things Will Happen In Your Life.
I love your perspective on the subjects you covered.. no negativity.. you are open minded and I personally think if you meet someone here and then move together. It makes your journey so much because you will have a person you can confide in and support and understand things from a diasporan experience
Thank you so much! Truly appreciate the support, and I also think that's a great idea. Thanks for sharing! 🙏🏾 Stay well.
Welcome back to AZ!!! It's hell hot at this time of the year, as you know. ❤
Very much hot.
This was a really good video. I like your attitude and that your not bitter.
I wish you much success
You gave it shot and emerged better. Good 4 u.
This topic has given me an idea for my podcast video on my podcast channel, though I have touched on it before. Bro, your happiness comes first and I support that 100%. Africa will always be here, will always have its arms wide open for you. I wish you everything of the best, going forward.
Thank you, my brother! I appreciate your support 🙏🏾
@@AntonsClassGuine bissau here
Clantis don't go emmigrating nawe😂😂😂. Home is best for happiness ❤😂😂
Just came across your channel. Great video! Loved your transparency. ❤ Subscribed after watching. Looking forward to getting caught up on your past videos and following your journey.
Thanks a lot! I appreciate your support, truly! 🙏🏾
Anton its so refreshing to see someone so open and genuine. You have an amazing aura about you.
Love, love, love this video❤. Thank you so much for sharing. You are now in a new season in your life.
Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. I’m back in the US getting a 2nd degree and in a sense starting over as well. Hubby and I are managing the distance until I return to Ghana in a few months. The power of pivoting and the ability to do so has really made for an exciting life these past few years and I wouldn’t change my experience for anything. Wishing you the best in this new chapter bro💞
Thank you. I enjoyed your story.
I just came across your channel and I like your honesty. I'm a Kenyan who immigrated to America, now in my 60s.Hard to believe how fast time has passed 😅Having taken care of children who are now all grown, My husband and I are seriously planning to retire in Kenya😊When we came to this country, more than 20 years ago, it never occurred to us that we would be permanently going back😅It's amazing how our perspective changes with time😅All the best in your future plans 👍
Thank you much! I appreciate that 🙏🏾.
This was insightful, thanks for sharing 🎉
Anton what a pleasure it is to discover your podcast. Your transparency, clarity & intelligence is refreshing. I've Worked & traveled predominantly in Europe. But also in Japan, HK & S. Korea. I'm a native of Chicago but reside in NYC.. Recently decided that I would like to visit Namibia I've never traveled to the African continent nor the Caribbean. I plan to rectify that in the next couple of years. But I just want to acknowledge what a sentient & radiant soul you are. Thanks for sharing . Peace, light & luv my brother.🙂
I truly appreciate your kind and support words! 🙏🏾 Thank you for your comment and sharing your travel plans as well.
Love the way you pronounce Xhosa. Thanks for learning Zulu as well. Siyabonga.🥰
Greetings Anton! I am Dating a Nigerian it’s so different for me. But I am adjusting well. I was just in Ikeja Nigeria in December for 2 weeks. I will be traveling back there in December but this time for 30 Days! I Love the Country and the People. I felt at Peace. I am 57 and Living my life to the fullest. I have been divorced for 14 yrs Kids are grown and Living their life! And Just want Mommy too be happy❤🙏🏽
You better date to marry , otherwise you won’t smile at the end , beware .
Thank you for sharing your experience here with us! I am glad you are living your best life and enjoying Nigeria! I pray you and your family are blessed 🙏🏾
Anton, thanks for your honesty. Living life has been a great lesson for all of us. I'm back home as well and being back home has been a big blessing for me, too. I'm definitely meant to be back home working on my personal goals. I love the diversity of America too much to live in Africa. I'm talking about the land as well. It was something I miss abroad.
Rest, Regroup, and go for your goals and I pray you find love along the way. Good Luck! No subscriber! I'm rooting for you!
I was wondering what was going on with you. Good to see you're doing ok.
Hey, thank you for checking in with me!
Im glad people are starting to see that Black Americans and Africans aren't the same people. Not the same culturally or ethnically. Africa isn't our home. That ended hundreds of years ago...
I think there's nothing like experience to give us a dose of what hardships there are. No amount of planning or theorizing can prepare you. Thank you for taking the risk and stepping out
Thank you so much for your comment! I appreciate you watching and understanding! ❤️
Your story is very interesting. I guess you didn't cover the basics before you made the move. 1. You need a consistent stream of income and NOT live only on your savings. 2. You need a business idea and understanding of how to do business in the country you want to live in. 3. Sufficient money to do business 4. Live a moderate lifestyle and not middle class when you're not generating any income. Better luck next time
Honestly if he or she has a partner that is in USA working sending money to there American citizen in Africa it will work perfectly
@@ZaharaImole it all comes down to getting a stream of income and not living on savings, it doesn't matter where the person is
I did travel to Africa, because, I met an Ethiopian while I was teaching in another country and a colleague introduced us while he was in Ethiopia. I eventually moved to Kenya and we met there. He was unable to travel to other African countries. That was a disaster. I literally had to support him and myself. We are no longer together and I would never support someone again like that.
Sorry to say but you got played. No one is unable to travel to other countries, it was all a ruse to milk you of your hard earned money. You were living with a con.
@@jahzinho5784That's not true. My Ugandan girlfriend got denied twice for a South Africa visa.
Idk why your video came into my feed but i was enlightened to hear about your experience. What i got from this is, sometimes the very happiness we're looking for is right in front of us, or in your case, right here at home. 😊
You have a new subscriber! Thank you for the transparency!!! I myself am someone that wants to live abroad but I will be going to Haiti where my family is from.
Respectfully as a Haitian, this is not the time to go back.
@@osimeon00 I hear so many conflicting stories about that.. may I ask why not? Because I’m aware of all the conflict going on in Haiti, but I do know that it’s not the country in its entirety. It’s only a few particular areas to avoid..
@@kerlinne you should avoid completely right now. Gangs have taken out civilians and police officers. There is no protection if something happens to you. Haitians diasporans are targets. See the news story about the Haitian American couple that was kidnapped. They were lucky to get back. If there was ever a time, this ain't it.
Come back when you are alright or atleast when you have a plan! Take it easy next time.
Question...
Have you solely financially supported a woman here in the States? I see often that brothas don't have a problem supporting women abroad (not saying this is you) but here in the states some want women to go 50/50. I wonder why that is.
Because we are d##b!! I am 62. In my late 20s and 30s I lived and worked in Singapore and Japan. I was ALWAYS guarded with foreign women. Many are just predators. Especially when it comes to BM. They know we are not that bright. Just being honest about it.
The United States is an egalitarian 50-50 culture. White people are the majority. Statistically 47% of white women earn higher salaries than their white husbands. Mathematically couples that go 50-50 build wealth 4 times faster than those who don't. It's why whites are collectively richer than black people because white couples earn and invest together. White couples in the United States their ancestral Western Europe homelands go 50-50 in an egalitarian way. It's where we get the phrase "going Dutch". Asian and Hispanic couples do the same. Hispanic women work the hardest, dirtiest jobs in the U.S. as maids, cleaners, hotel workers, fruit pickers, home health aids, and many other difficult jobs and Hispanic women use the money they earn to support & invest into their households for their future. Black women are some of the only women looking to be "provided" for. Other races of women are in the workforce and use their money to invest into their households
I know I have and the sense of entitlement and lack of appreciation was disgusting.
Blk woemen in the states fought so hard to work alongside men. Now y'all are complaining 😂.
I think it’s more of the adventure, also maybe the ties are easier to sever when dating/marrying abroad, as for the u.s there are many obstacles for divorce. Some brothers who date overseas are compelled because local attractive women don’t give them a chance, whereas overseas they are given attention, it’s also a small percentage of men who date overseas, the white men are a large percentile of those, esp if you go to places like south east Asia
Thank you for sharing !
Welcome home!!! 🎉❤
Anton I wish you the best you will find that someone your very informative. Continue to love you first growing and learning wherever you go. Proud of you too by the way at 30 something taking the leap of faith to go abroad cool.
Hello Mark. You are absolutely right but I would say it is the same for us African born in Africa who have lived in the West for decade. The best thing to do is to find an African woman in the West who is willing to go back to Africa with you
fat chance of that. most african women will never want to leave the west.
@@DetroitMuscleSome will want to go back to the mother land.
Same. Onward and upward. Welcome home. Life is good here.
This was a great video. You are right, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. You are exactly where you need to be in life. Your experience will make you a stronger and more open minded person. You will find your way here in America and you will find the love of you life and have children. Your experience has given you perspective and that is something you can never put a price on. I wish you well and you will do well. Good luck to you.
Thank you so much! Your words are appreciated! 🙏🏾
Great video bro! 👊🏾
Good to see you again... It's been a long time 😊😊😊 good luck for the future Anton
Thank you! Thanks for being here
I totally agree with everything that you said❤
Thank you Anton; good to see a video from you! I have followed you since your Rwanda days, and always respected the eloquent storytelling of your journeys and your transparency; not everyone stands in their truth. And you're so right; America is huge; I've lived West, Midwest (Chicagoan), and now near-south, and there are different cultures, within our black and brown people, right here in the U.S. SO much to see here. I plan on visiting South Africa when budget permits, but in the meantime, I'm learning about, and enjoying me, right where I am. 🙂
Wow! Thank you for coming along on the journey since Rwanda. I appreciate you 🙏🏾
Thanks for sharing.
t_ahnks for sharing your truth!
Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story. I taught in the Middle East and plan to return to the Middle East some day soon. The only negative for me about living abroad is being so far from family but that’s what planes are for…lol! I wish you much success and blessings in the pursuit of the life God has for you!
Thanks for sharing your experience everbless family tv CZcams channel supporting you from Jamaica
Interesting, i wish you all the best❤
We still love you in South Africa my brother, all the best at home and may you have good health and prosperity in all your endeavors
Everwere you need Money
Facts
If I didn’t have $$$$ in d bank d steady monthly $ coming in I wouldn’t have stayed
You just opened up my eyes a little bit more with this video.
African man here that lives in the United States,all I got to say is that I am happy for you in your pursuit of soul searching,the fact that you feel you are or African Americans are not African is valid,I wish you well in your conclusion be good brother I am happy you find your way
Thank you. Your experience would make a good book and help those who are planning to travel for love or business. ( of course it would be Part 1 or your journey) But sequels of such a book, as a part 2, return to country(s) in Africa would be great too. Sounds like you learned a lot. I've heard some folks say, before, that if they could start a business in a country(s) in Africa, do youtube, there is no reason they can't do the same in the US. Many people left the US who have never explored, let alone their own backyards, and many other places in the US. Sure there are social issues; but they exist every where. You carry yourself wherever you go. Thanks again for your honesty and transparency. You'd make a good consultant for those thinking of being a bro brother, entrepreneur startup or youtube. You've got skills. The best knowledge comes from actual experience than theory, whether or not the perception is a fail. I think you've won, actually. You've got many more years ahead of you. So glad to have seen your journey.
You are like the second person to mention a book! Great idea 💡! And thanks for sharing. Your comment and engagement here is very much appreciated!
Greatly appreciate your honesty understanding what is really true about us not being african,treated totally &completely different people. You have a very kind loving heart that embraces everyone no matter how they treat you.Which is an amazing testament to who you are as a being connected to the divine creator .
Welcome back home🏡🇺🇸
Bro no more passporting for love if you are not prepared. Women of other countries expect for the man to provide.
what and they dont in the USA ,there not looking additional income
@Black I am sure you are single , go find a mate , or else get a dog and die alone , smfh .
Men too, I am an American who moved to Jamaica and married a Jamaican man, same attitude with Jamaica men for American women.He and most folks their scammed me out of all money between 3 years.
With the average American income, taking care of a woman in an African country is very easy. Did you overlook him mentioning that he was taking care of 2 different women just on his savings.
@@KoolE23 absoulte nuts
all i can say is respect to him
Hi Anton, I’m currently married to a Nigerian and we are about to celebrate our 6yrs anniversary in December, I’m open to moving there in the future with him and making a life there. So far we are enjoying living in the US.
Africa is a BIG PLACE and I think it would take some time to figure out what cultural/ethnic area would really fit my personality and mindset, So we black Americans know something about Ghana, South Africa, Nigeria, Kenya. The bigger English language countries, But maybe a different area of the continent we're not familiar with is really a good fit. We are the first generation of black people to freely move around WORLD in centuries as free men and not property. So we're just beginning to reach out to each other across the oceans. Different places may or may not be the match but we're going to work it out. Reestablish connections.
I congratulate him for going to Ghana to see for himself unfiltered.
Make $USD passively and live in Africa , that way you will have US money flowing in to take care of all your needs and wants and able to invest in business in Africa!
I don’t know how and why your video popped up on my timeline, but it’s almost in line with everything I’m going through! I live in yt Iowa and there’s not a lot of opportunities for Black professionals like bigger cities. I’ve been to Europe but am trying to visit Ghana. I still want to move outside of the country, but I first have to get out of Iowa once God makes provision. What month are you born? Thanks for sharing your journey! 🎉
Totally appreciate the wisdom. If I may share mine... Live your life, keep making moves in your travels. All else will fall in place... you have great energy, be cautious of who you share that with, as it is your blessing. And no, I am not the religious type. Peace, my brother and thank you.
I wish you well on your journey for marriage and love. I'm on a similar journey but have not made the leap of moving there. I appreciate your transparency. America has problems but we can realize our dream here as well. Finding a business that can make money in Africa is tough bc our mind thinks of the currency exchange profit. That is small for us so we shy away. Can't wait to see your marriage blog.
Welcome back home!
Great vid. Am South African can't imagine living in any other country. I have travelled but never thought of moving anywhere. I know for a fact the grass is not greener. Finally; where are people getting people to support them financially? In this economy 😮😮😮
amen! Lesson well learned you will get everything you dream of
Appreciate your candidness. It sounds to me like improper planning. But I'm glad you shared your experience to assist others in this area who are considering moving abroad. Africa is an EMERGING market. You must plan your financial future out BEFORE you go family ❤. Jobs are not as readily available as they are here in the states. And Africans are a lot more connected to one another than we are. They hire their own before any others.
Thank you
Uh, anyones funds will run low supporting a love interest as opposed to a spouse. This can affect any decisions in US, Africa or anywhere in the world….
Agree 💯
He should've invested in land vs. A Woman! My opinion🤷🏿♀️ probably could've had a better turn out
@@AntonsClassthey took advantage joohh you were a simp😮. It all started with the Nigerian 😮. Don't do that pls. U ended up in the wrong part of s.a nways...that's a jungle. Try western cape or eastern cape..😂😂😂you will fit right in😂😂😂btw s.a has westernized women who are expats❤❤❤js
Anton.
You have made the right decision. You are ahead of time and your dream has already come true because you are back where you belong. May Hashem continue to bless you.
Thank you much! Blessings to you also!
My brother Anton , both women dated you with full intention of emigrating to the US one day , don’t be naive , you too nice .
Hi anton I appreciated your video. People always think the grass is greener on the other side which is most definitely not the case. My parents left Jamaica in the 50s looking for a better life in England. Life was extremely challenging for them. They never earned enough money to be able to go back to Jamaica. My mother is now 97 and constantly talks about her childhood in Jamaica. You can make a good life for yourself where you are in America.
So if I take your analogy about your parents.. you can struggle both abroad or where you were born 🤔 .. my parents left looking for a better life, would have loved to return home but never got enough money in America to do so.. and you can't send them home either. Interesting.
How long will America last seems not long
Appreciate your courage and honesty in sharing your experiences. As you say, we can find love anywhere. As a Bahá’í I believe that diverse marriages can be beneficial and fruitful to us as a human race - they can help to promote unity, understanding and peace. However, we must exercise care: "Bahá’í marriage is the commitment of the two parties one to the other, and their mutual attachment of mind and heart. Each must, however, exercise the utmost care to become thoroughly acquainted with the character of the other, that the binding covenant between them may be a tie that will endure forever. Their purpose must be this: to become loving companions and comrades and at one with each other for time and eternity." Ideally marriage should be an eternal bond. Wishing you success in all you do!
Thank you so much for sharing that about your faith, and thank you for being here! Blessings to you 🙏🏾
Sir you are a provider and very masculine I’m glad I found your channel.
I've been waiting to see an update on your life in Africa... welcome home, we Black Americans are happy you've returned home to stay...
Thank you! I appreciate you 🙏🏾
@@AntonsClassWelcome home brah, I see you .
Wow, I’ve been debating since 2010, my spirit hasn’t been into the move to Africa. I think I will eventually visit, but, I’m really not feeling even a visit. I see countries like China and Russia moving into various places which I must confess is troubling. Your comment about appreciation for your Afro-American was interesting, not judging. I enjoyed your all your comments.
Thank you so much for your comment! I also appreciate your perspective and what you've shared here. Cheers!
China way better than america. The difference is Chinese go to set up economic power and business. Why African Americans going to live there and do the same as natives? You control economy, you control the country.
Africa is definitely not the move. Build a strong community in the U.S.
Excellent commentary.
I love your video. I live in San Diego, and I think you are right. Love will find you soon.
Thank you for being transparent. It’s helpful. I’ve considered moving abroad in hopes of a better life. Maybe because I’m African descent I have a desire to know what it’s like to live there. Feeling it would provide a sense of freedom and safety. ❤
I appreciate that! And I totally feel you on that. Maybe one day you will get to experience living there 😊.
There are more FREEDOM in Afrika But safety? Emotional safety you have to have the money to give out because living in Afrika is not a vegetable if you have spend all your live living in the western world. Physical safety same like every country on this earth - life is a risk at any giving time.
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God bless you brother. Trust God to give you wisdom in choosing your spouse in life so that you will be equally yoked together. I'm now a widowed senior. When I was younger, I traveled the world, including Africa. I have many African friends and sweet memories of the African continent. However, there is no place like home. I enjoyed your podcast and your honesty.