i am 13 years old. i have and am growing up without a motherly figure in my life. it really hurts because i know my family can’t relate to my problems. i don’t feel comfortable talking to my father about my issues, especially my girly ones.. nothing really fixes that problem, but just watching your videos and relating to a beautiful, proper woman gives me so much confidence and joy. you are my role model, and you inspire me to be more lady like, kind, grateful and happy. thank you for being there for girls like me. i hope one day i will be more like you. i’ll certainly try. thanks Mrs. Midwest ☺️💕
As a man who likes seeking his masculine side, I love watching your videos because as more feminine a woman is I want to be more masculine. Much respect for your channel. I wish more women followed your videos.
Aida Tesfaye girl, no one is forcing you to be in a relationship with a man or woman who appreciates and prefers submitting to traditional roles of their gender identity. Against gay marriage, don’t have a gay wedding, against abortions? Don’t have one. Against traditional gender roles? Don’t partake in them. Same logic. But one is considered wrong...🧐
As a 70 year old lifetime homemaker, it is so encouraging to know there are young ladies who see value in managing a home, supporting her husband behind the scenes and embracing her femininity in a God honoring way. I have watched several of your videos and have noticed you sometimes refer to us older women as "old lady". Maybe just my personal pet peeve but to me I would find it much more feminine and lady like to refer to an older woman as "an older woman" or an "elderly woman: anything but "old lady" which sounds so undignified. May God bless you as you embrace your chosen path.
And there's no such thing as feminine because people still don't see football as feminine or being a doctor or scientist when there are women out their changing the world
@@skymarshmallowsuperstar8261 not to make this sound rude but that's how she wants to be. Not being forced to. If you are trying to state your opinion then that is fine. But you are being a bit rude about it. You don't have to respond it is fine I just wanted to say this. 😁🧡 have a great day!
30 YO female; as someone “transitioning” from young woman to woman and learning to appreciate every stage of the journey I agree “old lady” does not convey the knowledge and experiences gained after a lifetime. Describing an older woman as elderly/ mature/ senior can honor the accomplishment of a life well lived. Just something to consider 🥰
*A tip for any ladies who want to wear heels:* The wider the heel, the more comfortable the shoe! I worked with a Hollywood Costume Designer and she passed this tip down to me. FOR REAL. Don't get the shoes with the needle-like points. A wider support means more comfort and less hunching over out of pain at the end of the day! ♥
I agree. I was Lowkey triggered watching this because it's literally everything my ex friend/flatmate is not 😂 and I was reminded of her the whole time. I fully admit, her inability to do any of the things Mrs Midwest mentioned was one of the reasons why I decided to distance myself from her.
Temp Jones I recently lost a very dear friend. I’m guessing she decided I wasn’t worth being friends with anymore. All she kept saying near the end was that I “act better” or that I’m a “know it all”. No. She was coming to me for advice and I wasn’t giving her what she wanted to hear.
Yes they truly are no brainers and I’m shocked how many of these things I overlook! Feminine quality is so underrated. I pray I can embrace this more and not feel like an imposter trying too hard.
You are the only conservative woman I've seen who gives people an out in almost every video: if you don't want this, then it's not for you. Move on. That's very gracious and... ladylike!
I’m preparing to welcome my fourth daughter, and I am excited to implement the things that you teach. I was a home maker before I became a stay at home mom, and the things you share have always resonated with me. I always felt out of place with my desire to stay home. I’m grateful to you for creating this space.
Being a lady is definitely a lost art into days world. Thank you, katlylin for bringing it back. I definitely try be kind and courteous to others. You're videos have been such a wonderful reminder to me!
I also struggle because I think sometimes abusive people will take advantage of polite people as we are seen as passive and people pleasers. I notice acting rude can keep people away from me. I am trying to find the balance of being polite while also having firm boundaries so people do not try to walk all over me.
feel the same exact way. you know i want to be very polite to people but people as you said can take advantage of you and take your kindness as a weakness. so thats something that bothers me so much.
@@flowerssmile I think it is important to know when you need to be a bit forceful, but even then you can be polite. But if someone is abusive or threatening, at some point one has to fight back and be very clear about "not having it". There are extreme situations that call for extreme measures. But one can always make the effort to try his or her best way first, and be consistent about it. And even when being upset you can show it in a lady-like manner, only if that absolutely does not work then...either leave the situation asap, find support in another way and/or call your husband ;)
I'm usually a silent viewer but I love how calming and relaxing your videos are, I feel so at peace when I watch your content. Sending love from the UK x
I learned a lot from Marie Kondo's books. I didn't implement 100% but for example, she said to take out everything from your bag every single day, and put the necessary things in it freshly every morning. I already kept few things in my bag because I dreaded my mom's heavy, impossibly bulky, funny smelling handbag (sorry mom, I love you, haha). But after this tip, my bag is flawless, and I carry very little=good posture, lighter image, etc.
Our youngest daughter is the only girl among 3 older brothers and her tendency to go into "Cave-girl" mode has had our heads spinning. Then, yesterday I got a notion to search for videos on being "Lady-like" and found your videos. Thank GOD. We're less than 24 hours into introducing her to your work and the difference is noticeable! Thank you for finding your groove and making these videos. This work matters! Be blessed.
You are a breath of fresh air!! I am 66 years young, and through the decades, have ebbed and flowed with the times, although I’d like to think I always had manners and respect for others. My advice to young women, is to heed your lessons and try to incorporate them as best they can. “A lady is never lazy,” is something we should all strive for. I feel like with the advent of technology, we have become so distracted that we let our whole life pass us by as we stare at that little screen. I’m guilty of this also, but please, please, please young people, get off your phone and live your life! I was in the doctor’s office yesterday, and a beautiful young mother was there with her 3year old (I’m guessing at his age) son. He was beside himself with excitement as he watched the fish in the waiting room aquarium. He obviously had been well trained, because he was quiet as he tried desperately to get his mother’s attention. Unfortunately, she never looked up from her phone, and I can’t imagine those 10 minutes on her phone were more important than her son’s face, his eyes, his smile, as he watched something he probably rarely saw. I know it made MY day! I’m an observer of life. I was an international flight attendant for 40 years. I have a lot of life behind me, and your advice is wonderful to any young woman starting out in life, and will set her up for a beautiful life ahead! Bravo on your channel! You truly are a beauty, inside and out!
I was really skeptical of this video bc a lot of women who promote “ladylike” behavior look down and disapprove of others. But you didn’t do that and made sure you disclaimed you weren’t telling women to be like that, and you weren’t super extreme about it. Didn’t even finish the video and I subbed 😊
Rhat's funny. The only thing I DON'T like is, that she always says, that no woman HAS to be like that. Because firstly no one is forced to come here and secondly we live in a world where one stamps grumpy on the floor if someone dares to tell him what to do. People should learn again to take advise and to be humble. Audrey Hepburn was a lady. And she sometimes said how a real woman behaves and acts. She never cared to say: "Oh, but it's okay if you are not like that." No, that was what a real woman was to her and that's it. No excuses and trying to make it right for everyone.. I totally understand Caitleen, that's just the way it is nowadays. I still admire woman brave enough to say what they thing and believe in, without feeling the urge to make it right to everyone. Without judging obviously. But it's okay to say that's right, that's wrong
Your point ‘using the restroom’ instead of ‘going to pee’ is sooo right. That’s how my mom raised me and I always find it strange when people aren’t doing the same...too many people unfortunately 😬
I still use the phrase: "Excuse me while I powder my nose," to the extent where sometimes my male friends will joke that they too need to take a break and powder their nose.
I still use the phrase: "Excuse me while I powder my nose," to the extent where sometimes my male friends will joke that they too need to take a break and powder their nose.
My fiancee must be taking tips from you. I've met one of a kind four years ago. She's such a beautiful lady with a kind soul & the warmest heart. We never argue, we always talk. I'm a very lucky man. Keep up the great content & tips. All the best from Canada.
Thank you for being an incredible role model in this confusing world and especially on the internet. I love watching your videos and learning real life skills and tips.
I used to make eye contact in my younger 20’s and men would take it as a sign I was interested in them. It was weird and I (not so) subconsciously stopped so much eye contact and the people hitting on me lessened... I’ve been trying to get back in the habit of eye contact again. Love this video 💕
digitalteacup your situation is exactly mine! I used to smile and make eye contact, being courteous, and it felt natural & right, but then I felt like it was sending the wrong message to some men, so I stopped. I avoid eye contact now, for the most part and your comment made me realize that!
@@sarahs7253 There is a difference between eye contact in a conversation that is about a specific topic or small talk and just looking people in the eyes for a rather long time without reason. I realized that too much eye contact with men can be seen as inviting. As always, notice the fine line and the nuances here. When talking to your superior at work it is important to listen closely to things he or she says, and eye contact is important for understanding. When talking to a colleague, and he seems to be enjoying your company and would be a potential partner, then of course, you don't want to overdo it and be a bit more discreet about it. Except of course, you would like to flirt with him and be open to a possible relationship.
A true lady never gossips. Little girls need to be taught this along with the reasons to be lady-like. Kindness, gentleness, politeness, truthfulness, diligent, responsible, helpful... sound like character qualities? Yep. If we want this country to be a better, safer place in which to live we need women and mothers who reflect the beauty of inner character which is, of course, being lady-like.
I love your butterfly comparison!!!! I have been always trying to find words to describe proper ladylike posture either to myself-fairly often🙈😅, or others.
I appreciate it so much that you consider terms like "ladylike" and "elegant" as holistic and are about so much more than appearance. I love love your videos on topics like these! 💕
You know a few years ago I wouldn't have think this was necessary. But the way the world is now we need people like you more than ever keep up the good work! And God bless
I stumbled upon your channel a few months ago and my life has changed. I love all your advice. Thank you so much. I don't feel alone anymore. Also I love your fashion sense.😁😁😁🙏
I am so happy! I wish you all the best throughout your growth Munmun! I am still on a journey as well. So happy to be walking alongside people like you. Xoxo
Ok enough men commenting about how they wish more women were like this. Ladies, do this because you want to 😄 not cause of men 💃🏻💃🏻 Ps. I love men don’t get me wrong but it’s not always about you 😊
I agree with this. How it attracts men is a positive benefit but it's not the reason I'm interested in this and it's not why I'm investing in femininity.
Lots of women watch these videos partly because they want to be feminine around a masculine husband. If you don´t like it, you should simply stop reading our comments.
I love how you still embrace individuality and don't shame anyone for who they are or who they want to be. For example, in your video description you say how not everyone wants to be ladylike but this video is for the ones who want to. THIS is the true meaning of feminism. Nobody should be shamed for wanting to be feminine and vice versa. You simply show us a certain way of life without imposing it on anybody. It's absolutely so empowering and beautiful.
Love this! Being ladylike is a sorely missed trait in today's society. I'd love a more in-depth video on being a great conversationalist. This is something I was not taught, and does not come naturally to me. I've noticed the same goes for many people I speak with. When neither of us are good conversationalist, it makes for an awkward chat! I get better with practice, but would love more tips on how to graciously offer small talk. I think that conversation is a way we can be hospitable to those around us.
I love that you have such an open world view. My views are different than your's on certain things but you are so warm and inviting and the majority of the views you hold, I hold as well! I also appreciate that you are faithful to your religion but you don't insist others be religious. Personally I grew up in a non religious family but I have never said never to faith!
of course you are free to pick and choose these tips as they apply to your culture and circumstances! No need to throw convention out the window! But thank you for watching :)
Mrs Midwest right but i kinda can't avoid the eye contact part since I live in the United States 😭😭😭 It's been hard, but maybe one day I'll be comfortable doing it
you're like my big sis, I'm 22 but after a ..."problem" I realized I wasn't accepting my feminity and I was behaving like a sloopy guy. I didn't like it anymore. Being a lady takes effort but is true it gives you more confidence (I even start to wear dresses) I also watch old makeup or etiquette tutorials and is really good. I think our moms didn't know these thing and I get it. Thanks for sharing. Now I'm suscribed :)
Watching your video I realize how much my mom taught me about manners and how to carry myself in public. I feel so grateful to her now although it wasn’t always easy as a child, and I definitely want to teach the same to my future children. Your channel really is one of my favorite! You have such a nice energy, it’s very refreshing❤️
For improving posture, I’ve actually improved so much by sitting in an actual chair rather than laying in my bed all day. Making sure my back is rested against the back of the chair has translated to it being much straighter while standing and walking. It really helps. I got a nice, pretty antique chair from goodwill for about $10, and put it in my room to sit in. You can even bring in a chair from somewhere else in your house.
Geting in touch with my feminine side has helped me in so many ways. Thank you for teaching us abour our feminine power. I'm excited to learn more from you! You're a beautiful person inside and out btw! Your energy is contagious 🥰
i did not have a female role model growing up so i am so grateful there are kind, respectful ladies out there making helpful videos like this. dear mrs midwest, i hope you had a wonderful trip and i hope you make more videos.
Thank you! thank you! thank you!Mrs. Midwest! It’s about time we see young women act, dress, walk and speak like ladies. Your a great role model. Keep up the great work!
Thank you for the kind inspiration! Ever since coming across your videos I have really been feeling so much calmer and I have gotten so much inspiration from you as I believe in all of the same things you do. Thank you so much Katlyn!
Oh also can I give a quick video suggestion? It would be so amazing if you could make a video about how you have learned to be patient with yourself and how you do your makeup routine! I know you’ve said that your routine is very simple but I would love to see your do your hair and makeup it is so elegant and beautiful. The light of God really shines through you inside and out! Xoxo chloe
One thing I want to add. It's a mistake I have made and I didn't realize I was being inconsiderate... If someone has just lost someone it's important not to compare it someone you've lost. It's best to just comfort them and listen instead of trying to relate to their pain. I thought I was letting them know that I know how they feel but it really offended a friend of mine because she felt like I was competing.
Thank you so much for everything in the video!!✨ The message conveyed is amazing, and extremely helpful for young girls like myself!😊 and I really appreciate the ending where you emphasized ‘ The core of being ladylike is all about being free and fun’, because I believe being ladylike is a deliberate choice to stride towards the brighter side, instead of feeling controlled or pressured.❤️ we need more CZcamsrs like this! Thank you so much for all the efforts going into this🙏
I really enjoy your channel, as a teen I was very punk rock (still am) lol, but I always try to carry myself as a lady and it's really taken me far in my life and career. Feminine energy really flows through us and I'm glad to have your reminders 🌻
I'm so glad I found u on CZcams. Your kind words and grace are so catching. I have a teenage daughter and trying to teach her to be more ladylike. You help me out in so many ways. Thank you!
Oh my goodness! This video is a wake up call to me. I pride myself in being polite, considerate, and conscientious with other people. In fact, I put a lot of effort into reaching out to ppl with kindness and warmth. I have been wondering why lately some people don't always respect me and I realize there are many things in this video that I don't do, especially related to how I carry and groom myself. I will start by improving my posture tomorrow morning.
I'm only uncomfortable with small talk, but this video gave me the motivation to be better at it ! Haha thank you for your tips, I think you're my favourite CZcamsr now 🎀
You are truly a remarkable and unique lady! You always have solid and valuable advice and such a sweet aura about you! This will probably sound weird but you would make a great ,great mother!
I really enjoyed this! It's quite true that most of us ladies were never taught to be ladylike, most of us were taught to be tough. I hope to see a twist away from that mindset in future generations.
I love this video so much ❤ I was brought up by my father and unfortunately never had a loving mother to teach me and I appreciate you for taking time out of your day for this video 🤗 just subscribed ❤
You’re such a wonderful girl. I love your videos and I’m so happy I found you. You just have such a nice aura and soft voice that everything you say comes across as helpful. Thank you, here’s to being more ladylike! ♥️
Thank you so much... You are right I faced so many problems in my life with my man bcoz I was not that much feminine because I don't have my mother to teach me those things but thanks to you I learn so many things from you. I really appreciate the way you explain things. 😍
I LOVE you! You seem like a truly amazing woman. My parents never taught me about being classy, it is very nice to hear from another woman HOW to be classy and be a proper lady. You seem amazing and so kind. Thank you for sharing your knowledge on here.
I love your energy and tips 😍😍 I’d love to see a video of yourself about being ladylike as a student or young girl, since elegance is something I really want to start developing ♥️♥️
I love these tips! I think many of them also depend on the context and company as well. They can be applied to different situations to varying degrees, which is lovely. 😌
👏This needs to be a class in school... vital information and sorely lacking today. This is the kind of information that helps society function smoothly and with grace, adding beauty to our world.🌸
Hi Caitlin, fantastic video......I would love to hear more on this subject too.....keep up the excellent work, you are truly loved & respected by your followers, xxxx
Hi Caitlin, thanks for all these great videos you post! It's so refreshing to see femininity and lady like behaviours being encouraged on your channel. Ever since I was young I was raised by all these rules and it's something that aside from being taught to me also I guess stuck with me and comes naturally. I can relate to the way you speak, and hold yourself but I wanted to ask you how you deal with the negativity. I'm 24, and I feel like so many people (especially girls my age) seem to not like me for the exact way I hold myself. The fact I don't drink (and get sloppy drunk), use vulgar language, or even "sleep around". I put so much effort in and respect for others and I still get a lot of negativity for it. I've been called precious and prissy by some, often frigid by guys. You might think it's because I'm stuck up, but I try so hard to please people and be kind and it's really upsetting to see people still get bothered by me just because of my mannerism. Honestly, it's really getting to me lately as I feel like girls/women like us are not well liked, especially in this generation and especially by other women (mostly women rather than men it seems). Could you please discuss this maybe in a future video, how to deal with these sort of beliefs by others towards women like ourselves. Thanks so much lovely :)
I so relate to this. I think it is important for us to find “our community” or people who love, accept us and share our values. Good for you for sticking to your values as it can be easy to be swayed by others.
My mom taught me to say "pardon me" as well. People have definitely been thrown off by the formality of that phrase but usually in a positive way. Wonderful video, and suggestions as always :)
Please always make such videos,i was never ever born or treated as a lady untill i decided to be one,but sometimes i am driven away,your videos are so inspiring...top fan..greeting from a syrian living in germany😍❣🎁
I’m a 14 years old and when I heard a song called chivalry is dead, I learned about the whole thing and I also saw a quote chivalry is dead.. and women killed it. I thought I want chivalry back but I guess I have to start.
Please do a book, course or program. I would absolutely buy it! I appreciate how much your femininity videos don't revolve around men. This is not to bash men; it's simply to say that your perspective is refreshing. I feel like it allows me to safely develop confidence and femininity for myself, almost as an extension of my own self-care as opposed to making it seem like an obligation I have to have for someone else to find me as valuable. I'm a career woman and an entrepreneur and I'm tired of the masculine energy around me. I love your videos for teaching me how to show up as a very feminine woman, even as I do so in spaces that don't have a lot of women. I strive to become an example of a very successful woman who is beautiful, seductive, feminine but also badass in their career. Love the channel!
I am really enjoying your videos! I have a very different lifestyle to you, I am building a business which I hope will be an international success (touchwood!), but I think there is nothing wrong with taking enjoyment in traditionally feminine activities. I have always enjoyed keeping a home and setting aside time to bake etc. It’s important that women (and men) have the choices available to live their life however they wish.
You should seriously teach a charm school for adults
Yes, maybe even online. That would be a wonderful business she can do part time. I would also, love to read a book she writes.
Yes!!! Or maybe just a book about it. Sort of like a curriculum format with q and a's at the end of sections. I'd buy it in a heartbeat.
Yes please💖
You can read Judith Martin, "Miss Manners".
Please!
“Step away from sloppy and lazy behavior.” Being a lady takes effort.
L MMM being a gentleman takes effort. Being a person takes effort. Everything takes effort.
So much effort
That's too much effort for this unladylike ass
Already felt tired when I heard that :'D
Being lazy is so stupid.
i am 13 years old. i have and am growing up without a motherly figure in my life. it really hurts because i know my family can’t relate to my problems. i don’t feel comfortable talking to my father about my issues, especially my girly ones.. nothing really fixes that problem, but just watching your videos and relating to a beautiful, proper woman gives me so much confidence and joy. you are my role model, and you inspire me to be more lady like, kind, grateful and happy. thank you for being there for girls like me. i hope one day i will be more like you. i’ll certainly try. thanks Mrs. Midwest ☺️💕
I am a 15 year old girl who also isn't growing up without a proper mother figure. It's nice to know I'm not the only one☺
This is just beautiful ❤️
Random Kidz ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Sameee but I'm 11
Being with other women helps a lot.
Please write a book! I’d read every page and make notes too!
Yes that would be amazing 😍❤️
Read Judith Martin, "Miss Manners".
Dickinson58601 Living In Dickinson North Dakota thanks for the suggestion :)
Please!
Oh yes I'd love that!
As a man who likes seeking his masculine side, I love watching your videos because as more feminine a woman is I want to be more masculine.
Much respect for your channel. I wish more women followed your videos.
We are out here. I’ve been sharing her videos, so hopefully more ladies start watching.
SAME ❤️
@Chanel R. Long that's such a awesome way of putting it! :-)
@Blueend End
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As a man, there is nothing more attactive than a woman who embraces her femininity and stands by her values. I feel this is a rare thing these days.
Aida Tesfaye how is appreciating femininity misogynistic ? I wish more men actually did, that’s rare too nowadays
Aida Tesfaye Supporting women who are pursuing a lifestyle that makes them happy is the opposite of misogyny.
Aida Tesfaye girl, no one is forcing you to be in a relationship with a man or woman who appreciates and prefers submitting to traditional roles of their gender identity. Against gay marriage, don’t have a gay wedding, against abortions? Don’t have one. Against traditional gender roles? Don’t partake in them. Same logic. But one is considered wrong...🧐
maybe you think its more rare these days because more women nowadays do whatever they want ;)
I'm only replying to this post to note that I'm the 200th person to like the original post. Yeah, cause for celebration. My life finally has meaning.
As a 70 year old lifetime homemaker, it is so encouraging to know there are young ladies who see value in managing a home, supporting her husband behind the scenes and embracing her femininity in a God honoring way.
I have watched several of your videos and have noticed you sometimes refer to us older women as "old lady". Maybe just my personal pet peeve but to me I would find it much more feminine and lady like to refer to an older woman as "an older woman" or an "elderly woman: anything but "old lady" which sounds so undignified.
May God bless you as you embrace your chosen path.
*locked in the kitchen
And there's no such thing as feminine because people still don't see football as feminine or being a doctor or scientist when there are women out their changing the world
Amen!
@@skymarshmallowsuperstar8261 not to make this sound rude but that's how she wants to be. Not being forced to. If you are trying to state your opinion then that is fine. But you are being a bit rude about it. You don't have to respond it is fine I just wanted to say this. 😁🧡 have a great day!
30 YO female; as someone “transitioning” from young woman to woman and learning to appreciate every stage of the journey I agree “old lady” does not convey the knowledge and experiences gained after a lifetime. Describing an older woman as elderly/ mature/ senior can honor the accomplishment of a life well lived. Just something to consider 🥰
*A tip for any ladies who want to wear heels:* The wider the heel, the more comfortable the shoe! I worked with a Hollywood Costume Designer and she passed this tip down to me. FOR REAL. Don't get the shoes with the needle-like points. A wider support means more comfort and less hunching over out of pain at the end of the day! ♥
All my heels are wide lol cause I am not fussy about stilettos. I prefer to be cute and comfortable than to be cute and in pain.
You’re way in viewing femininity makes the idea appealing for us.Thank you
Yes very approachable
All of these are such no brainers, yet it is so sad how many in our society have forgotten these tidbits
I agree. I was Lowkey triggered watching this because it's literally everything my ex friend/flatmate is not 😂 and I was reminded of her the whole time. I fully admit, her inability to do any of the things Mrs Midwest mentioned was one of the reasons why I decided to distance myself from her.
Soooo true
Temp Jones I recently lost a very dear friend. I’m guessing she decided I wasn’t worth being friends with anymore. All she kept saying near the end was that I “act better” or that I’m a “know it all”. No. She was coming to me for advice and I wasn’t giving her what she wanted to hear.
Yes they truly are no brainers and I’m shocked how many of these things I overlook! Feminine quality is so underrated. I pray I can embrace this more and not feel like an imposter trying too hard.
95% forgot
You are the only conservative woman I've seen who gives people an out in almost every video: if you don't want this, then it's not for you. Move on. That's very gracious and... ladylike!
I’m preparing to welcome my fourth daughter, and I am excited to implement the things that you teach. I was a home maker before I became a stay at home mom, and the things you share have always resonated with me. I always felt out of place with my desire to stay home. I’m grateful to you for creating this space.
Being a lady is definitely a lost art into days world. Thank you, katlylin for bringing it back. I definitely try be kind and courteous to others. You're videos have been such a wonderful reminder to me!
"Its important not to stick your rear end in people's faces" yes ma'am! lol I agree!! 😄
...except for your hubbie's ;) *cough* excuse me :) ...was that a joke one should only make around lady-friends?
I also struggle because I think sometimes abusive people will take advantage of polite people as we are seen as passive and people pleasers. I notice acting rude can keep people away from me. I am trying to find the balance of being polite while also having firm boundaries so people do not try to walk all over me.
feel the same exact way. you know i want to be very polite to people but people as you said can take advantage of you and take your kindness as a weakness. so thats something that bothers me so much.
@@flowerssmile I think it is important to know when you need to be a bit forceful, but even then you can be polite. But if someone is abusive or threatening, at some point one has to fight back and be very clear about "not having it". There are extreme situations that call for extreme measures. But one can always make the effort to try his or her best way first, and be consistent about it. And even when being upset you can show it in a lady-like manner, only if that absolutely does not work then...either leave the situation asap, find support in another way and/or call your husband ;)
I'm usually a silent viewer but I love how calming and relaxing your videos are, I feel so at peace when I watch your content. Sending love from the UK x
Thank you for sharing your voice today! This comment is a blessing. So happy to meet my charming UK sisters 😌💕
She has the slight advantage of being gorgeous and charming.
Perhaps. Ladylike behavior makes her seem as charming as she is.
@@Je_suis_Jefe she's easily a 10 without saying a word but the ladylike demeanor turns it up to 11
You are just a really conventionally attractive woman. You manage to make every outfit you wear look dressed up. You could model.
I think so too! She's cute as a freakin button... except when she's wearing those darned black rubber clogs 😂 Other than that? A 10!!!
Ahhh you’re all too sweet. Thank you for blessing my day with this! 😊
I learned a lot from Marie Kondo's books. I didn't implement 100% but for example, she said to take out everything from your bag every single day, and put the necessary things in it freshly every morning. I already kept few things in my bag because I dreaded my mom's heavy, impossibly bulky, funny smelling handbag (sorry mom, I love you, haha). But after this tip, my bag is flawless, and I carry very little=good posture, lighter image, etc.
Our youngest daughter is the only girl among 3 older brothers and her tendency to go into "Cave-girl" mode has had our heads spinning.
Then, yesterday I got a notion to search for videos on being "Lady-like" and found your videos.
Thank GOD.
We're less than 24 hours into introducing her to your work and the difference is noticeable!
Thank you for finding your groove and making these videos.
This work matters!
Be blessed.
You are a breath of fresh air!! I am 66 years young, and through the decades, have ebbed and flowed with the times, although I’d like to think I always had manners and respect for others. My advice to young women, is to heed your lessons and try to incorporate them as best they can. “A lady is never lazy,” is something we should all strive for. I feel like with the advent of technology, we have become so distracted that we let our whole life pass us by as we stare at that little screen. I’m guilty of this also, but please, please, please young people, get off your phone and live your life! I was in the doctor’s office yesterday, and a beautiful young mother was there with her 3year old (I’m guessing at his age) son. He was beside himself with excitement as he watched the fish in the waiting room aquarium. He obviously had been well trained, because he was quiet as he tried desperately to get his mother’s attention. Unfortunately, she never looked up from her phone, and I can’t imagine those 10 minutes on her phone were more important than her son’s face, his eyes, his smile, as he watched something he probably rarely saw. I know it made MY day!
I’m an observer of life. I was an international flight attendant for 40 years. I have a lot of life behind me, and your advice is wonderful to any young woman starting out in life, and will set her up for a beautiful life ahead! Bravo on your channel! You truly are a beauty, inside and out!
I was really skeptical of this video bc a lot of women who promote “ladylike” behavior look down and disapprove of others. But you didn’t do that and made sure you disclaimed you weren’t telling women to be like that, and you weren’t super extreme about it. Didn’t even finish the video and I subbed 😊
Rhat's funny. The only thing I DON'T like is, that she always says, that no woman HAS to be like that.
Because firstly no one is forced to come here and secondly we live in a world where one stamps grumpy on the floor if someone dares to tell him what to do.
People should learn again to take advise and to be humble.
Audrey Hepburn was a lady. And she sometimes said how a real woman behaves and acts. She never cared to say: "Oh, but it's okay if you are not like that." No, that was what a real woman was to her and that's it. No excuses and trying to make it right for everyone..
I totally understand Caitleen, that's just the way it is nowadays. I still admire woman brave enough to say what they thing and believe in, without feeling the urge to make it right to everyone. Without judging obviously. But it's okay to say that's right, that's wrong
You are going to make such a wonderful mother one day, you’re only a few years older than me but I look up to you so much! 💛
Awesome! Who else loves this?! This is such a important topic that nobody talks about!
Love from a new channel💕
Your advice has helped me attract my fiancé & once we are married, I will be his housewife ❤️❤️❤️
Your point ‘using the restroom’ instead of ‘going to pee’ is sooo right. That’s how my mom raised me and I always find it strange when people aren’t doing the same...too many people unfortunately 😬
I still use the phrase: "Excuse me while I powder my nose," to the extent where sometimes my male friends will joke that they too need to take a break and powder their nose.
I still use the phrase: "Excuse me while I powder my nose," to the extent where sometimes my male friends will joke that they too need to take a break and powder their nose.
I think all these recommendations apply for men or women. We all love a clean and kind man. Love your video!
You are a character developer i needed this so much. Thank you.
My fiancee must be taking tips from you. I've met one of a kind four years ago. She's such a beautiful lady with a kind soul & the warmest heart. We never argue, we always talk. I'm a very lucky man. Keep up the great content & tips. All the best from Canada.
Thank you for being an incredible role model in this confusing world and especially on the internet. I love watching your videos and learning real life skills and tips.
No matter how old you are, it’s about the way you carry yourself. I love what you said in this video!
I used to make eye contact in my younger 20’s and men would take it as a sign I was interested in them. It was weird and I (not so) subconsciously stopped so much eye contact and the people hitting on me lessened... I’ve been trying to get back in the habit of eye contact again. Love this video 💕
digitalteacup your situation is exactly mine! I used to smile and make eye contact, being courteous, and it felt natural & right, but then I felt like it was sending the wrong message to some men, so I stopped. I avoid eye contact now, for the most part and your comment made me realize that!
It really is a bad idea... I know from experience, unfortunately..
@@sarahs7253 There is a difference between eye contact in a conversation that is about a specific topic or small talk and just looking people in the eyes for a rather long time without reason. I realized that too much eye contact with men can be seen as inviting. As always, notice the fine line and the nuances here. When talking to your superior at work it is important to listen closely to things he or she says, and eye contact is important for understanding. When talking to a colleague, and he seems to be enjoying your company and would be a potential partner, then of course, you don't want to overdo it and be a bit more discreet about it. Except of course, you would like to flirt with him and be open to a possible relationship.
A true lady never gossips. Little girls need to be taught this along with the reasons to be lady-like. Kindness, gentleness, politeness, truthfulness, diligent, responsible, helpful... sound like character qualities? Yep. If we want this country to be a better, safer place in which to live we need women and mothers who reflect the beauty of inner character which is, of course, being lady-like.
I love your butterfly comparison!!!! I have been always trying to find words to describe proper ladylike posture either to myself-fairly often🙈😅, or others.
I appreciate it so much that you consider terms like "ladylike" and "elegant" as holistic and are about so much more than appearance. I love love your videos on topics like these! 💕
this was uploaded on my birthday, I believe it's a sign sent from above...
You know a few years ago I wouldn't have think this was necessary. But the way the world is now we need people like you more than ever keep up the good work! And God bless
I stumbled upon your channel a few months ago and my life has changed. I love all your advice. Thank you so much. I don't feel alone anymore. Also I love your fashion sense.😁😁😁🙏
I am so happy! I wish you all the best throughout your growth Munmun! I am still on a journey as well. So happy to be walking alongside people like you. Xoxo
Ok enough men commenting about how they wish more women were like this. Ladies, do this because you want to 😄 not cause of men 💃🏻💃🏻
Ps. I love men don’t get me wrong but it’s not always about you 😊
@sandy smith why cap ? You sound like you're yelling. Lol
I agree with this. How it attracts men is a positive benefit but it's not the reason I'm interested in this and it's not why I'm investing in femininity.
Godess
That’s what I literally read it like in my head. Maybe they were stuck on caps or something.
Lots of women watch these videos partly because they want to be feminine around a masculine husband.
If you don´t like it, you should simply stop reading our comments.
sandy smith maam this is a library
I love how you still embrace individuality and don't shame anyone for who they are or who they want to be. For example, in your video description you say how not everyone wants to be ladylike but this video is for the ones who want to. THIS is the true meaning of feminism. Nobody should be shamed for wanting to be feminine and vice versa. You simply show us a certain way of life without imposing it on anybody. It's absolutely so empowering and beautiful.
Love this! Being ladylike is a sorely missed trait in today's society.
I'd love a more in-depth video on being a great conversationalist. This is something I was not taught, and does not come naturally to me. I've noticed the same goes for many people I speak with. When neither of us are good conversationalist, it makes for an awkward chat! I get better with practice, but would love more tips on how to graciously offer small talk. I think that conversation is a way we can be hospitable to those around us.
I think your sentences are very thoughtful and well-spoken, I bet you would be a great person to talk to!
I love that you have such an open world view. My views are different than your's on certain things but you are so warm and inviting and the majority of the views you hold, I hold as well! I also appreciate that you are faithful to your religion but you don't insist others be religious. Personally I grew up in a non religious family but I have never said never to faith!
Eye contact is hard for me because it's not in my culture... but Wow... that's such a hard transition.. but I think I've kind of mastered it
of course you are free to pick and choose these tips as they apply to your culture and circumstances! No need to throw convention out the window! But thank you for watching :)
Mrs Midwest right but i kinda can't avoid the eye contact part since I live in the United States 😭😭😭
It's been hard, but maybe one day I'll be comfortable doing it
you're like my big sis, I'm 22 but after a ..."problem" I realized I wasn't accepting my feminity and I was behaving like a sloopy guy. I didn't like it anymore. Being a lady takes effort but is true it gives you more confidence (I even start to wear dresses) I also watch old makeup or etiquette tutorials and is really good. I think our moms didn't know these thing and I get it. Thanks for sharing. Now I'm suscribed :)
Big sister? I think she is 22 as well :-) So rather your twin sister ;-)
In Russia they have Housewife schools. I saw a youtube documentary on it once and even picked up a few things.
Watching your video I realize how much my mom taught me about manners and how to carry myself in public. I feel so grateful to her now although it wasn’t always easy as a child, and I definitely want to teach the same to my future children. Your channel really is one of my favorite! You have such a nice energy, it’s very refreshing❤️
For improving posture, I’ve actually improved so much by sitting in an actual chair rather than laying in my bed all day. Making sure my back is rested against the back of the chair has translated to it being much straighter while standing and walking. It really helps. I got a nice, pretty antique chair from goodwill for about $10, and put it in my room to sit in. You can even bring in a chair from somewhere else in your house.
Geting in touch with my feminine side has helped me in so many ways. Thank you for teaching us abour our feminine power. I'm excited to learn more from you! You're a beautiful person inside and out btw! Your energy is contagious 🥰
I LOVE that you say that not all women want or need to be ladylike this is just for those who do ❤️❤️love
i did not have a female role model growing up so i am so grateful there are kind, respectful ladies out there making helpful videos like this. dear mrs midwest, i hope you had a wonderful trip and i hope you make more videos.
Thank you! thank you! thank you!Mrs. Midwest!
It’s about time we see young women act, dress, walk and speak like ladies.
Your a great role model. Keep up the great work!
Thank you for the kind inspiration! Ever since coming across your videos I have really been feeling so much calmer and I have gotten so much inspiration from you as I believe in all of the same things you do. Thank you so much Katlyn!
Oh also can I give a quick video suggestion? It would be so amazing if you could make a video about how you have learned to be patient with yourself and how you do your makeup routine! I know you’ve said that your routine is very simple but I would love to see your do your hair and makeup it is so elegant and beautiful. The light of God really shines through you inside and out! Xoxo chloe
One thing I want to add. It's a mistake I have made and I didn't realize I was being inconsiderate... If someone has just lost someone it's important not to compare it someone you've lost. It's best to just comfort them and listen instead of trying to relate to their pain. I thought I was letting them know that I know how they feel but it really offended a friend of mine because she felt like I was competing.
I’m from Louisiana and i feel like this is “how to be southern” 💖
Thank you so much for everything in the video!!✨ The message conveyed is amazing, and extremely helpful for young girls like myself!😊 and I really appreciate the ending where you emphasized ‘ The core of being ladylike is all about being free and fun’, because I believe being ladylike is a deliberate choice to stride towards the brighter side, instead of feeling controlled or pressured.❤️ we need more CZcamsrs like this! Thank you so much for all the efforts going into this🙏
I really enjoy your channel, as a teen I was very punk rock (still am) lol, but I always try to carry myself as a lady and it's really taken me far in my life and career. Feminine energy really flows through us and I'm glad to have your reminders 🌻
I'm so glad I found u on CZcams. Your kind words and grace are so catching. I have a teenage daughter and trying to teach her to be more ladylike. You help me out in so many ways. Thank you!
I’m nowhere near to becoming ladylike but I love watching your videos
Oh my goodness! This video is a wake up call to me. I pride myself in being polite, considerate, and conscientious with other people. In fact, I put a lot of effort into reaching out to ppl with kindness and warmth. I have been wondering why lately some people don't always respect me and I realize there are many things in this video that I don't do, especially related to how I carry and groom myself. I will start by improving my posture tomorrow morning.
I'm only uncomfortable with small talk, but this video gave me the motivation to be better at it ! Haha thank you for your tips, I think you're my favourite CZcamsr now 🎀
My mom taught me all the things u said in this video, im so grateful for her
Best mom ever
You are truly a remarkable and unique lady! You always have solid and valuable advice and such a sweet aura about you! This will probably sound weird but you would make a great ,great mother!
Such an important topic in our society Caitlin, thank you for sharing with us !
Love from France ! 🌹🌺
I needed this video so much!I love your feminine energy!❤
I’ve been doing college interviews this week and I was definitely thinking about all your advise! Can’t wait to use these tips tomorrow!
Really appreciate your view/outlook on small talk. I'm thinking of adopting this as my view
You’ve help me grow my wardrobe, & feel comfortable, confident dressing modestly yet stylish. much love thank you 🙈❤️
I really enjoyed this! It's quite true that most of us ladies were never taught to be ladylike, most of us were taught to be tough. I hope to see a twist away from that mindset in future generations.
I love this video so much ❤ I was brought up by my father and unfortunately never had a loving mother to teach me and I appreciate you for taking time out of your day for this video 🤗 just subscribed ❤
all of your videos are so helpful! ♡ really excited to watch this :)
You’re such a wonderful girl. I love your videos and I’m so happy I found you. You just have such a nice aura and soft voice that everything you say comes across as helpful. Thank you, here’s to being more ladylike! ♥️
Thank you so much... You are right I faced so many problems in my life with my man bcoz I was not that much feminine because I don't have my mother to teach me those things but thanks to you I learn so many things from you. I really appreciate the way you explain things. 😍
You had to see my face when I just discovered your channel! Your channel is amazing. My dream channel! Thankyou so much! You have a new subscriber.
yall- im chinese and japanese and the sentence "step away from sloppy and lazy behavior" really hit me thats effort right there
Yay for more lady like videos! Virtual charm school anyone?
I LOVE you! You seem like a truly amazing woman. My parents never taught me about being classy, it is very nice to hear from another woman HOW to be classy and be a proper lady. You seem amazing and so kind. Thank you for sharing your knowledge on here.
I’m rewatching this time with a journal and pen! This is so practical and helpful, I would love to see a series out of this if you want to make one💖
I love your energy and tips 😍😍 I’d love to see a video of yourself about being ladylike as a student or young girl, since elegance is something I really want to start developing ♥️♥️
i love that she says you don’t HAVE to be ladylike and she’s only giving advice to people that WANT to be ladylike. you’re the best ❤️
I love these tips! I think many of them also depend on the context and company as well. They can be applied to different situations to varying degrees, which is lovely. 😌
Very well thought out video. I think elegance and being lady like is so attractive and hard to find in people anymore.
Everytime i watch your videos i get super motivated to get things done!!
Great video as always! Thank you so much! Excited for your video on how to not be sloppy or lazy with our physical appearance ❤️🤗
I cant tell you how grateful I am for your channel. ♥️
👏This needs to be a class in school... vital information and sorely lacking today. This is the kind of information that helps society function smoothly and with grace, adding beauty to our world.🌸
I love the way you explain yourself about how to be lady like. I've referred you to my mom and sisters!!
Hi Caitlin, fantastic video......I would love to hear more on this subject too.....keep up the excellent work, you are truly loved & respected by your followers, xxxx
Hi Caitlin, thanks for all these great videos you post! It's so refreshing to see femininity and lady like behaviours being encouraged on your channel.
Ever since I was young I was raised by all these rules and it's something that aside from being taught to me also I guess stuck with me and comes naturally. I can relate to the way you speak, and hold yourself but I wanted to ask you how you deal with the negativity.
I'm 24, and I feel like so many people (especially girls my age) seem to not like me for the exact way I hold myself. The fact I don't drink (and get sloppy drunk), use vulgar language, or even "sleep around". I put so much effort in and respect for others and I still get a lot of negativity for it. I've been called precious and prissy by some, often frigid by guys. You might think it's because I'm stuck up, but I try so hard to please people and be kind and it's really upsetting to see people still get bothered by me just because of my mannerism.
Honestly, it's really getting to me lately as I feel like girls/women like us are not well liked, especially in this generation and especially by other women (mostly women rather than men it seems).
Could you please discuss this maybe in a future video, how to deal with these sort of beliefs by others towards women like ourselves. Thanks so much lovely :)
I so relate to this. I think it is important for us to find “our community” or people who love, accept us and share our values. Good for you for sticking to your values as it can be easy to be swayed by others.
My mom taught me to say "pardon me" as well. People have definitely been thrown off by the formality of that phrase but usually in a positive way. Wonderful video, and suggestions as always :)
Please always make such videos,i was never ever born or treated as a lady untill i decided to be one,but sometimes i am driven away,your videos are so inspiring...top fan..greeting from a syrian living in germany😍❣🎁
‘It’s important not to stick your rear end in people’s faces’… 🤣 sorry, that line really tickled me! Lovely work Caitlin 💕
you were like made to do this channel in this day and age! amen!
These things are so important! Thank you for teaching them, Caitlin! I'd love to see more videos on being ladylike and improving manners:)
This should be called " how to live with manners and grace " because these are the basics of kindness.
Thankyou so much for your time to teach me this and your effort that you have put in ❤️ I will defenitely use your advice 🌸💗
I’m a 14 years old and when I heard a song called chivalry is dead, I learned about the whole thing and I also saw a quote chivalry is dead.. and women killed it. I thought I want chivalry back but I guess I have to start.
Yes, please make more videos relating to being Lady Like! Loved this!
Watched this while I did the laundry and made cookies :) I love hearing about your homemaking and learning from you.
Please do a book, course or program. I would absolutely buy it!
I appreciate how much your femininity videos don't revolve around men. This is not to bash men; it's simply to say that your perspective is refreshing. I feel like it allows me to safely develop confidence and femininity for myself, almost as an extension of my own self-care as opposed to making it seem like an obligation I have to have for someone else to find me as valuable.
I'm a career woman and an entrepreneur and I'm tired of the masculine energy around me. I love your videos for teaching me how to show up as a very feminine woman, even as I do so in spaces that don't have a lot of women. I strive to become an example of a very successful woman who is beautiful, seductive, feminine but also badass in their career.
Love the channel!
I am really enjoying your videos! I have a very different lifestyle to you, I am building a business which I hope will be an international success (touchwood!), but I think there is nothing wrong with taking enjoyment in traditionally feminine activities. I have always enjoyed keeping a home and setting aside time to bake etc. It’s important that women (and men) have the choices available to live their life however they wish.