The quiet power of introverts | BBC Ideas
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- Are you an introvert? If so, that's great! Animator Sofja Umarik (who is an introvert) looks at how it can be a real strength.
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Voice is so good to listen👂
agree*
Good one
❤️💯✌🏻
Yep absolutely 👏
"you want to get invited but you don't want to go."
an introvert thing
Thought that was just me
That's so true.
Dont invite me to anything. I'm all good with what I'm doing
They don't invite me anymore.....coz i just won't show up.
I don't even wanna get invited. Oh the pressure of refusing is immense. I am loving the social distancing right now.
Introverts are talkative when they are relatable to the topic and I'm one of them...
And me also
And today in the commet section I replied many people who are introvert like me and I feel like wow
That's true
True
Me too
Hi! I'm Sofi, the animator and creator of the video! So happy to see so many people starting to embrace their introversion!
Thanks Sofi! Where are your credits? @bbc
Wow Sofi, hermoso, recién lo veo ❤️ me sentí tan identificada 🥹 gracias!!
Podrías compartir tus cuentas así te podemos seguir en las redes 😉😊
Cute animation)) I'm not introvert i guess maybe a mix leaning to extrovert but it gave me chills
@@nashtrashcool So glad it moved something in you! I now feel that labels aren't so important. I think that deep down we all yearn for that peace and authentic connection..
Introverts are like dark matter, the universe needs it to balance out all the chaos
Dark matter doesn’t really exist. It’s just a coverup for not discussing elements like dimensions.
OMG it's Leo! I remember your Thomas knock-off and competition-like videos. Oh, and Mad Bomber as well. Anyways, who is the mad bomber? It's been like almost 15ish years.
കർത്താവായ യേശുക്രിസ്തുവിൽ ആശ്രയിക്കുക. ആശ്രയിക്കില്ലേ..??...
Love that quote ngl
I have to save this! Pinterest-ing now
An introvert will never ask extroverts to be introvert, but an extrovert will ALWAYS ask introverts to be extrovert.
Rohan Deshmukh - I absolutely agree. (I think it's maybe because our quietness drives them crazy. I once had a colleague who yelled at me, scolded me in exasperation because I was so quiet. I did not answer her - there is no need to coz I do not owe her an answer. That really UNNERVED her, drove her round the bend.). Greetings from Singapore !
@@iseeu-fp9po communication wouldnt have been problem. If you two likes each other imo
I hate that this is true
iseeu1980 i don’t like that extroverts could think that we could be like them
@@swiggitypotato6989 I think communication is the most important thing in a relationship. Only love doesn't work fine.
"we introverts always want to be alone but don't want to be lonely."
You read my mind dude i have this feeling ,
@@Blah201 same🙄😌
the most true thing about introverts
Sameeee
It's called 'get a cat' 😌
My husband is an introvert and i am an extrovert. Initially i used to feel he felt so out of place at gatherings etc. But when he explained it to me how he enjoys observing everything, my outlook changed. I appreciate his observations because I definitely miss most of them. I love him so much and I think everyone should appreciate introverts more. They truly make the best of friends.
We observe because we care, and can't wait to share with you after it's over.
This is so sweet, well done hope your relationship flourishes more and more 😊
We need both worlds. But I'm happy to be introverted. My daughter is also more introverted and I'm so glad that I understand how she feels and that I don't have thoughts like "why is she often so quiet" or something like that. If I were an extrovert and didn't know how it feels beeing an introvert, it would make things harder.
That we do! We more think within our minds, but it's more about any current conversation that might be going on. When I join a conversation, I want to be heard the same as anyone else. Introverts, UNITE!
They do make the best and most loyal friends! ❤
We introverts have our own world 😇.
Only a introvert can understand how beautiful it is.😌😍
Where we feel relaxed, comfortable.
It's like sacred place for us .
That's true
True
Thanks a lot for this comment
I can totally relate to it 😊
👍👍👍
@@jatinaneja9211 welcome
Introverts : “I think a lot but I don’t say much “
I do
I do
I do
I do
Same
Remember: “Quiet people have the loudest minds”
I like this
True
Love this
true! 😌
That's true💚
I am in my fifties. And a typical introvert. All my live I have felt like a weirdo due to society and other people. The times I fell asleep crying... Recently I watched a lot of videos about introverts, and I started to realise I am not alone, and I am not a weirdo. Finally, I have come to peace with myself. It gives me this enormous feeling of rest. I want to thank all other introverts.
❤❤❤❤
Glad you have found peace.
I cried reading this. I feel exactly this way at 30. I hate that society makes us feel this bad about who we naturally are. And we are great gentle people.
You got this buddy you are not alone anf you are not weird too ❤
If you guys need someone to talk to, this introvert is here for ya :) You're not alone
I tried to behave like exoverts but it felt like i lost myself so i decided again to be myself. it feels great & peaceful ❤️
Our plus point is that we understand others feeling.
Yeah 100% Correct.......
Should I become introvert? Bc introvert and adhd make me depressed
@@iamdoctorcat6347 don't stay whole time at home u can go on public places after completing ur works for relaxation for some time & meet people.
I try to act like an extrovert
By being chatty and loud and try to laugh and make people laugh they say I'm weird. But when im quiet they say I'm shy and too quiet and unfriendly. Life sucks.
Yes😊
Telling an introvert to talk more is the equivalent of telling an extrovert to shut up
sarah choi yaaas or telling an ambivert to choose 🙄🙄
Ha ha
Live and let live in both cases.
word! 👁
So true, i've struggled with this when I was in school, like teachers kept telling me to speak more and in my head I was like "I don't speak unless I have something meaningful to say not like others"
It annoys me when people forces me to socialize. I will when I want to.
Me too
Omg, same. My mom begs me to go out and socialize. I think she wants me to have a boyfriend more than I do at this point
It's frustrating because extroverts are like chimps to me, and they don't get it.
OMG YES! This is soooo irritating. I’ll speak when I feel like it.
Me either
Introverts are often among the people whom have the deepest interior life
As an ambivert myself, I honestly love my introvert side. And I'm glad you've mentioned that being introvert doesn't necessarily mean that you're shy or anti-social. On the other hand, being extrovert doesn't mean you have to be friends with everyone in the room. And so as being friendly is different from being a crowd pleaser. And being quite doesn't mean you have nothing to say.
I agree with you, although I'm an introvert and I'll admit to being shy around new people. But I'm pretty talkative around the people I do know. But eventually I just want to spend time alone.
Most self-proclaimed ambiverts are just extroverts who are capable at times of being less extroverted.
I mean, what this woman described could also be classified as an “ambiverts”, but you WILL have traits that dominate.
Ergo, you are more of an introvert or an extrovert, even if you have qualities of the opposite. Duh.
Loved this 🤍
Keep in mind that introverts can be talkative, in the right settings. For example, when I'm in a public group or group in general, I'm pretty quiet. But, if I'm with my friend or member of my family, away from everyone else, I'd become loud and talkative. It's just better to talk to who you trust.
In my family i m the most talkative person...when i said that thing to other they don't believe...🤣🤣🤣
So true....my mum says, "you are very talkative!!"
Other persons: "really??"
My best friends:- yup! We know that.❤
EXACTLY !!!
And to those who truly understand and value your words
Same
I’m an introvert. I talk a lot, but to my self.
Yes me too
Like wise
And about myself..
exactly
oh me tooo haha!
As an introvert I feel this is why I'm better at seeing someone's true character. I take time to watch whereas as an extrovert is always ready to speak to new people and always trying to expand their circle. This is the time when I observe and I end up figuring them out whereas the extrovert finds out way later who that person is whether it's good or bad I'm 10 steps ahead because I kept my mouth shut and watched lol I don't befriend people right away.
Same
So true!
Same for me. Listening instead of always talking, saving my words to distilate some useful thoughts.
Same here.
Same
Introverts enjoy their own space. They are the only ppl happy with themselves.❤
Fun Fact: we introverts prefer texting than Calling. And hardly attend any call.
Yea
That's true 😄.
That's so me🤣🤣🤣
Yup
Same here😄
Put us, introverts, in quarantine for one whole year, and we wouldn’t even take that as punishment but a reward.
XD Ikr i would gladly accept it
And i would still be like- "Wait it's over?????? Nooooo, gimme moreeee" XD
Yaa so true
@Pragyamaya Das ;-; i feel bad for you. Keep your head high one day you will be free
Yeah 😀😂
So well done and thank you for showing the world of introverts. We're not wrong, we're just silent and gentle in our living.
You're so very welcome and thank you for embracing your introverted side ;)! Sofi from the video here!
@sofiymarik I'm 15 and I'm an introvert. Back in elementary and middle school, I used to be an extrovert, and I befriended almost every kid and teacher in the school without knowing them. That just lead me to be betrayed, like one time during recess, no one invited me for a football game and when I came, they didn't even let me in the field and that's when I realized not everyone is trustworthy. I'm in highschool now and I've been an introvert (for over a year now) and honestly, it's fun spending my personal time, everytime someone asks me something, I just ignore them knowing that they will start up a conversation and waste my time and seek attention from me. Everything has changed alot and it's amazing to be an introvert. But the one thing that annoys me is when people say, 'you don't talk alot', 'you are so quiet' and etc. Also being an introvert has increased my patience alot. Have a great day!
If introversion were more valued by society, it could make a massive difference to our collective future 😊👏
I’m also an introvert and I can say that quarantine is heaven for me 😁 hello to introverts like me 👋
Hello there!
Omg!!! Same here ❤️❤️
Im introverted extravert haha i love it too but i kinda miss old days (
hahaha likewise. Hello, my friend. :-))
Same girl same 😂
“you’re so quiet”; the single most annoying thing people keep telling me. Like I have to be reminded of that, because I don’t know myself that well.
Don't get me wrong but why all these introverts always keep telling (both offline and online) that they are introverts?
@@bayezidhtanu2907 just an excuse to
hide
Bayezidh Tanu so people will understand why we are quieter and not ask silly questions
Take it as a compliment. Its a part of your personality.
@@deveshsingh752 It's way better than openly shitting in street and river
Something I wish I'd been told as a kid. I always struggled to be heard at work until I got to know 1 boss a bit better. She stood up at a huge meeting of senior people and said " Listen to her. She doesn't say much but it seriously pays to listen!" The bosses started to listen, and I started to find more and different ways to get my message across. A win-win!
Wow
I’m almost turning 30 and finally accepting+embracing myself the way I am🥰 I like doing things slowly, enjoying every moment. I like to speak thoughtfully and with kindness, not just blurt out the first thing that comes to mind lol. I value peace so much and find it in prayer and worship🙏🏼 I love my Latin American culture- it’s vibrant, energetic and loud💃🏻 But for a long time I felt rejected by my own culture and tried so hard to be more like my family and friends. I’ve learned that I am my happiest when I’m true to myself :) Thank you so much for this video!! It’s helping me see there’s nothing wrong with being an introvert; it may just be a gift😇 God bless!!
Cheers to those introverts like me who's A okay with the quarantine!!
I've been in qurantine for a month until now.
Absolutely.👍
Yeah. I don't feel any difference 😆
Cheers! Haha I feel you.
Cheers! Quarantine doesn't make any difference 😉👍😋
I'm proud of being an introvert. We can't stand small talk, but we could talk about our fandoms and dreams for hours.
But then we need to be alone. ALOT.
Yes😊😊
I hate small talk!!!!
Yes yes so true
yes
this is me haha
I am an introvert and i love my peace and freedom.
As an introvert myself, I like having people around, just without them making noise or talking to me.
Introvert in the time of Covid-19, sitting at home to stay safe, no problem for introverts, we love our space 💓🌺🙏
Except when all the neighbours are extroverts and noisy.
Offensive Username yes I’m an introvert and you nailed it i hate noisy neighbors and have a couple especially now many kids are out playing its driving me up the wall
Yup
Yes I'm so happy for an excuse not to interact...
Aicha Rezzouguy nope I am a true introvert hate crowds hate social gatherings always prefer be to myself this is my life I use to get depressed as a child because I didn’t fit in with the other kids I didn’t understand what was wrong with me a spent years trying to find myself but God showed me the way I didn’t know what an introvert was until maybe 10 years ago I was in my mid 30s I like a few people two at the most around me I’m not married and I don’t complain because I don’t think I could live with anyone to long because I don’t like people around long periods of time I have a boyfriend who I love we have fun together because he a bit like me and we have a lot in common but I have learned to expect to me and I love it but sometimes I do get lonely and want to come out my shell but to a concern degree can’t do the people thing to long lol lol
"I am an introvert."
"Nah! You are so talkative! So extrovert!"
"Being an introvert has nothing to do with being talkative. I still can be talkative with some people that I'm comfortable with."
"..."
"..."
"NAH! You're not an introvert!"
Anyone feel the same as me?
Definetly me I CAN RELATE TO YOU
Some people say I'm not that shy so I'm not an introvert
Yessss, we are all misconceived. I love my quietness. I love being around my kind of people. But I can't handle too much of it. I could put up a bold, approachable and talkative appearance in front of a crowd but deep inside I'm praying it'll all end soon enough so I can review my own thoughts and have my quiet again. Maybe that's what she calls ambivert in the video?
So me..... Am talkative even to strangers.... but I love my company
Yup. 100% i m so good at but i hate small talks. While the real me wants to sit by a lake and fish for hours and hours listening to birds.
It took me 27 years to understand that it's OK to feel overwhelmed by stimuli. I was raised to ignore my intuition. As my family has grown and changed, we've all started to appreciate our individual differences. My mum used to tell me to toughen up. Now she's the one who gently reminds me to slow down.
I'm an introvert and I love it!! At work I am surrounded by extroverts. Extroverts at my job do not embrace introvert s. Instead I am completely ignored at work. One day my coworker who is an extrovert asked me if I had a communication issue. I said no I am not. Sad, introverts should be accepted and not looked down upon
Just smile, and extraverts will stop thinking anything about you. Mistery will be your peaceful weapon.
@@AlOne-xg6dv beautiful ❤
I'd answer, "maybe the issue is with you." I may be an introvert but learned to never allow people to look me down.
@noemisolano
Who else feels like you listen to everybody but when u talk no one listens to u
Fr I probably know and remember a lot more about people then they do me by just listening to them.
Yow that thing sucks😢
Yahh
This hits me hard 😂😂😂😂
Me ;-;
"Being loud is mistaken for being confident and happy" I don't know why people think you're sad just because you are a quiet person ?
This!😂😆💚
And lonely, they often misinterpret my being alone as an anti social, thus i am a lonely person. I really can't understand them.
Same , many people thought I don't know anything , many times , some times I talk so much people feel I am fine , some time I don't feel like talking people think I am upset or try to find some or other reason ,but actually I don't feel like talking. Simply
Exactly. Sometimes I feel like it's a crime not to be like them. But then videos like these pop up!
Because they're stupid obviously. I dont allow mindless bozos to drain me.
I mostly like to stay quiet and calm in front of people but when I'm alone I like to dance and sing crazily as nobody is seeing 😄😁This is also a talent of an introvert😂
Haha yeah ❤️
same lol! Thats the benefit of an introvert!
super agree even i did this thing many time in my life
Exactly 🤣
I’m definitely an introvert and very proud of myself! I’m on the outside looking in; listening, learning and observing. I learn much about others and myself! Praise God!
Government: Stay inside your homes!
Introverts: Huh? I was already doing that
AM Productions 😆🤣😆
My family literally calls me the "Quarantine Queen" because they know how much I love being inside
I m a introvert who loves travelling and being outside alone...
AM Productions lmao me
Right!? 😂😂😂
My experience as an introvert is that we are shy and quiet in front of those we aren't comfortable with
But with close family members or if the topic of discussion is of my interest I can be more talkative than an extrovert 😂
But proud of being introvert
U r absolutely true in your sense,i too am that kind of person.
omg I can totally agree with that!! I rlly hate when ppl say “oh but she doesn’t even talk”.... well that’s bcuz the topic you’re discussing is just out of my sense of interest, but i feel that this is smth only a few ppl (especially introverts) can understand.
I can’t agree more. :)
Looks like u r talking about me 😊
Yeah me too 😂😂😂
Being introvert and having music by my side...nothing can be better than this:)
I'm not only an introvert but a highly sensitive empath. I can read a room very quickly, and most extroverts sense it and get uncomfortable around me.
I have that feeling too, that extroverts fear that you can see behind the surface and some may hate you for that. Introverts seem to like it if you sense more.
We were chosen and given the "Gift"!
I'm an introvert and i just want to say...
To all introverts in the world, I love you...
Love you too introvert sibling
introverts need our own dating site. you mentioned love...
Lots of love to you.
Much love coming your way 😌💝
Aw, love you 🤩 🥰 you are adorable !
"The world feels like a place that rewards extroverts. Where being loud is mistaken for being confident and happy."
as an introvert, there is so much truth in this statement. sending all love to my fellow introverts. 💛
bernadette 🖤🖤
I love you my mate
yes
Ikr I always wish I were extroverted and said whatever was on my mind to fill up small talk instead of being so quiet and awkward cuz online I’m an extrovert idk why 😂 but irl im the opposite. I think if I were my online self irl and looked super duper handsome that would be fun
True that!❤
This video speaks to my soul!! I've always been told things like "You're so quiet", "Why don't you ever talk?", "You SHOULD talk more!" etc. And who knows what more they have talked about me behind my back. I wish people could have seen what was going on in my head at those times. My inner world has been and is more interesting than having superficial talks with people. But those kind of people never understand this, and unfortunately they won't. They disrespect our natural choice to live a calm life but they never get questioned for talking too much or being too "lively". I now know that people who talk more than needed definitely have much more problems than the ones who "never talks". The talkative people I have met were either narcissistic or had some kind of insecurities. I might be one of the unluckiest introverts since I have had to live in a student dormitory with different people every year for 7 years and I find silence much more valuable than anything now for a peaceful life. The more I find myself having to spent time with people other than some people who appreciate my reserved nature, the more I love being and spending time alone.
Happy to find so many people like me.. I m not alone
this girl makes introversion sounds so freaking magical
blinking white guy totally agree
Do you know another video has her voice?
Nguyễn Như Ngọc no i don’t
It is
❤️😊
The positive side of being introvert is I actually do enjoy social distancing during the quarantine. Do you ?
👍🏽 Certainly!
very much!
Oh yes! So much!
Yesssss and I keep telling people I need to stay in to flatten the curve🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yup, it's more time to work on things that truly count, like family and doing things that make us truly happy; be it art, music, whatever really.. Life generally has us so busy with so many things, we lose sight of those things that honestly don't get as much time as we'd like.
Being introverted is not the same as being shy. Most shy people are introverted but that doesn’t mean even the most introverted people are shy. As an extreme introvert, I actually find it more difficult to talk with my friends than talking with strangers. And I really really like talking to strangers. It’s so easy. For a while I thought it was some strange, inverted version of shyness. But as I grew older I realized I wasn’t shy, and the reason I had difficulty talking with friends was simply because of childhood trauma in which best friends rejected and left me. I was just shying away from topics and saying things which might recreate what happened to me in the past.
As an introvert I feel very proud of myself even though it took me a while to realize how precious I am. Sometimes people around me consume that I don’t enjoy talking but actually I prefer to be a good listener and ready to share my words if I want to. Sometimes I give extra energy to join the conversation with my trusted and beloved friends, but sometimes I do want to stay alone to recharge my energy. Keeping silent is not being shy, it is just because we wait for the right time to talk.
Same feel
well, I think I'm an introvert. But I ain't quiet everytime. It's just that we became more hype and noisy when we are with someone who we are comfortable with.
Same (r u army?) 😊
@@vaishnavinrao7231 yess and hi co-ARMY 💜
Same
Borahae 💜💜💜💜 army
Yayyyyy!!! 💜 Armys are everywhere I love this!
"Why are you quiet?"
One question common to all the introverts.
Always. Alwwaaays. It is just that I don't want to drain my energy to small talks
😌😅
Only one. No more 😊😇= Introverts
Quiet doesn't mean inactive. It means I'm open to observing more from surrounded people.
Talking one quality sentence is better than a long paragraph.
My answer "because I prefer to listen and observe than blabbering and showing off"
I've always felt that being Introverted has been my most significant virtue. My Dad always told me the reason you have 2 Ears and 1 Mouth is so that you can Listen before Responding, so I've always taken that advice literally. I'm always the most quiet in any group I'm with, listening, smiling or laughing to everyone talk over each other, just waiting for others ask me for my input or opinion. 🤣😂 I literally get exhausted in groups bigger 3 or 4 people and easily fade away, but I have great friends and family that know how I am and they respect me as I am.
I often feel criticized for being an introvert but everyone is different. Not everyone is an extrovert and not everyone is an introvert. In my opinion, I love being an introvert. I feel safe in my bedroom, I do go to parties because they overwhelm me and people do some pretty stupid sh*t at them and I do not want to be involved in that. I do like to go out sometimes only with the people I feel comfortable with but I mostly like to stay home by myself in my room because I find that fun to me.
Don't let people shame you for being an introvert. You know what makes you happy and if you staying in makes you happy then thats what matters. You do you!
People often mistake introverts as shy people. As an introvert myself, I am shy around people I am not comfortable with but i'm not shy around my friends and family because I know they are nice to me and won't say mean things to me.
For people who are extroverts, good for you guys. If socializing and going out makes you happy then thats what matters.
"Everyone has something to say but nobody listens"
110% reletable :(
Frozen Cappuccino 🥺
Frozen Cappuccino true ,I experience that a lot
@@inesmira2350 ?
@@kajal9158 bitter truth💀💔
@ARMY With Luv! :"(
“I am an introvert, and I love it” every single person who is an introvert on this planet needs to say this phrase! 💕
Yes!! 💜 I love it! I wouldn’t like to be any other way.
Yes!! I love it!!
Hmm even I'm loving it
I LOVE IT
Just today , I was in great depression , thinking I'm not fit for the society. Then I found the video. Hope I could say this line one day.
I as an introvert, born in a big city, have always been confused on how to act and be succesful. I pushed the extravert in me to an extent I became blunt, because that was warped version of me to get the respect from
my environment I wanted. I didn’t know how to act, I was lost, I developed an alcohol dependency.
Now as I get older, I respect the introvert self more and more and find more inner peace. I see old introverted friends still acting as an extravert and it makes them very unhappy! Introverts: Be proud of yourselves!
I relate to this. I love being alone, in quiet places. Some people can't understand that I never am alone, because I'm with myself.
Sometimes loneliness gives happiness. Cheers to all introverts 😂
🥃 cheers
Cheers!!
👍🌟🌟
Thats funny😂
Cheers 🍹
"It's in quiet spaces that I feel truly at home". Yes.
Same.
🙋♀️😉me as well.
Yes 😔👌🏽
Hello bookstore......I'm lookin at you library....and good old stand by....the bathroom.
💯💯
I'm also an introvert...but when I'm with the right person I become extrovert...
The most important is, be what that makes you feel happy and comfortable.
Being loud sure do make some people feel smart , you know who im talking about , always the loudest in the room and have no care for people around.
I have a friend who is like that, it's so annoying
cough trump cough
Tru there so annoying and can't ever shut up and sit down
That's just a stereotype for Extroverts! That's not the case.
Jo Molololo oh so it’s ok to attack an extrovert? Get off your high horse...
As an Introvert, I'm never really lonely. I'm my own best friend.
Anton Resurreccion i love that :)
Same, I’m never lonely or bored. Whenever I hear others complain about these issues, I’d just think to myself - Nah can’t relate. Just read a book or watch a good movie/TV show.
Me too
Exactly
But sometimes don't you want to share your thoughts with others? I don't have any friends and I'm an introvert but I will still like to express my opinions and share my interests with other people. I do fell lonely sometimes.
Being an introvert is like peace flow of water in the river , what does introvert like most ,
1. Silence
2. Love nature too much
3. Less or not active on social media
4. Music such as lofi, water sound are so beloved for us
5. They are good thinkers, philosopher,
HAR har Mahadev 🙏🏼
Yes, YES, Philosopher, absolutely love being overly philosophical but i only tell few people about my philosophy and logic
@@namrataarora7973 chalo koe to Mila hamare jasa , i think people like us are minority in whole world. But happy as an introvert 😇
@@HassanIQ777 i think we all introvert have to make new world for only peace and nature lover
@@askhinduofficial176 idk dude I may as well be a sociopath most if not all symptoms apply on me💀
@@namrataarora7973 yes it's really true, then what we have to do for community,
This is utterly beautiful! You hear the compassion, empathy and softness in her voice and words. This resonates. Thank you little oasis of hearts! :)
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That's what I feel empathic introverts are: a little Oasis, a little place to let go, feel at home, feel understood.
Do you guys know that moment, when you finally meet somebody who is compassionate, softspoken, sensible, open hearted that you cant help it but cry in their presence :)
Hi! I'm Sofi from the video, so glad you liked it!
The narrator is an introverted person i can feel it through her voice.
how do you say so?
@@jayasanka5978 if you can't feel it you're an extrovert
Yes she is defining the video as I yoo
The same feeling
I felt it too
I love the fact am an introvert, people don't realize how much being quite and fading into the background makes you observe,see,learn the things that most people barely realize and it's just before their eyes.
Relatable. Us introverts are much wiser, because we take the time to observe situations and people.
@@jf17thunder63 I feel like extroverts can be pretty wise too but I agree that you will notice a lot of things when you fade into the background
Really? I hate it! Everybody thinks I'm too arrogant to speak with them, or too stupid, or just weird, but I just can't. I have a lot of thoughts in my head, but when I want to talk with someone they just vanish and I don't know what to say. It's frustrating. In school nobody wanted me in their team because they would get bored with me.
@@PsychoblackSpider Don't name urself psychoblack....u r not psycho ofcourse...extroverts must understand and accept the opposite personality type.All above comments are right of being wise. But extroverts seem more popular as they talk too much and have an impact.
Everything's all good with me, until I am faced with the dreaded question of:"why don't you talk?" 😒
I've been an introvert my whole life. As comfortable as it is, I'm so tired of it and am slowly finding myself craving more social interaction which spikes a dopamine rush. But, as soon as I'm back with my own company, I turn into an introvert again and it take a while to get out of that suffocatingly comfy space.
I love to read… I love to write… I like to travel alone…I enjoy my own company … and in school I preferred working on projects alone rather than in groups. I enjoy being around people, but after awhile I just need quiet time and space, even if just to re-charge…I love this video. It helps me be ok with myself, even when others don’t quite understand 😌.
Omg... just yesterday my 10 year old daughter said, “this isolation thing doesn’t bother me at all, I don’t like going out anyways” 😐
She’s an introvert,
she can sit for hours at home at one place, doing arts & crafts, writing, drawing, colouring etc... she’s not lazy, she can do that for hours & not get bored of it! She hates going out, especially shopping & to crowded places! She prefers gifting handmade cards made by her, to her loved ones on birthdays, Mother’s Day etc..
she’s sensitive to peoples emotions.. she makes double sure that everyone’s okay with her decisions...
She cares deeply but doesn’t know to express it by hugging or kissing or won’t say it cos she’s too shy! She’s accommodative & understanding!
She finds a quite corner to sit, at family get togethers.. she’s often judged for it..
she’s also often compared to her extroverted cousins & told to be like them.. that upsets her a lot!
She’s told to smile more.. she’s just not okay with small talks when she meets her extended family! At the same time she can be extremely talkative with people she’s comfortable with, so much so that, she can spill all the family beans & I have to literally shut her up!
She’s extremely smart & comes up with smart ideas, she gives her 100% to whatever she’s entrusted with!
She’s wise & has a lot of patience..
even though I’m her mom, I learn a lot from her everyday..
When I’m stressed, she tells me not to think too much about it!
She lives in the moment & doesn’t need much to keep herself entertained & needs very little to make herself happy!
I’m so proud of her, I feel secure & at peace in her company!
You have a wonderful daughter 💟💟💟
I would be proud too. She's amazing!
You may want to get her personality tested. She sounds alot like myself and I am INFJ. If so she has a very rare personality. Thanks for sharing! :)
Your daughter sounds awesome! Hopefully she always know that being the way she is perfectly fine and normal.
She sounds a lot like me when I was growing up. I was often ridiculed for being quiet and content being by myself. I was happy doing my own thing and being quiet. I never did a lot of babyish activities that young people like to do. Once at a slumber party when I was about 10 years old, all the kids went out to ring doorbells and run away and laugh when someone answered. I stayed back and talked to the parents! Sounded goofy then and still does now but I just wasn't into the same things that seemed childish. I liked playing in my room, coloring, reading, etc. and being sent to my room wasn't a punishment.
Thanks for being a mom who understands and doesn't try to change her. You're amazing yourself.
"you're so quiet"
"why you're so quiet?"
"Can you speak?" ,OF COURSE I CAN SPEAK, I'M JUST NOT COMFORTABLE WITH YOU OR I DON'T TRUST YOU.
*THE MOST ANNOYING THING THAT PEOPLE KEEP TELLING ME, AND I REALLY HATE THAT*
Agree.. it’s really annoying when you have to sit with people like that..
same..
You can answer instead with: why you are so noisy? Or why you talk sheet? XD I love their expression, they get quiet then and don’t know hoy to react to that haha. It’s pretty funny ✌️
My friends are like this...
My Neighbours 😳
I’m introvert and really happy. I wouldn’t want to be different.
It irritates me no end when someone says, "you're awfully quiet today". I am ALWAYS quiet.
Rather than talking, I enjoy listening and observing more. Spending time alone is actually pretty awesome.
❤️😊
Yah . Right 💜 .
And I didn't know what I was ???
Me too
Fr tho that’s dope
David Lawson ur evil
How introverts makes friends:
10% They don't
90% Extroverts find them and adopt them!🤣😅
Lol
...i'm that extrovert and that's why all my friends are introvert 🤠
Truuuuue. I love being friends with extroverts although sometimes I don't feel like hanging out with them. Their energy is too hard for me to catch on lol
Could we actually call this a symbiosis? Lol.
Hahaha this is so me,
"I have few friends, but our connections are deep." 100% relate! 😊
When I feel that extroverts overwhelm me, I see my introverted neighbors and I feel "accompanied" by them...
It's nice to know that there are a lot of introverts who have fun like you
Reading the comments made me feel I suddenly have a lot of new friends that I can relate with!
Yeah, me too
Yuh❣️
Yeah
☺
Yeah
It's sad how being a introvert is unfair in schools especially where it requires active participant. extrovert who talks more in class gets better grades but quiet people like us gets marked down. I remember how lecturers kept giving me lower grade for daily class because I wasn't speaking up and he would keep writing comments asking me to talk in class full of unfamilar people and how it is to help me in the future... I wish teachers and lectures would understand about the different personalities and judge better.
Exactly... I can relate to this.
Literally I get on every teachers report 'great student but could contribute more to class be answering questions' like nahhh I like to listen to others contributions instead and I can write my own down. Me answering questions just gets me all nervous I hate it so much like I have not learnt stuff by answering questions I get too nervous 😂😂
Exactly.
Brace yourself. It's gonna be the same in the work place. My team leader would often tell me to socialize with our team and to participate more... even though I'm already performing excellently, metrics wise.
This happened me too many times in school, my grades are pretty good but my teachers would rather talk about my quiet personality and inactive demeanour in class instead, like imagine you worked your butt off to get those grades but all they talk about was your personality that you had been born with, i was so sick of that mentality, i'm still an introvert but in high school i started enrolling myself in more extra-curricular activities, ironically, those activities require me to talk more, like debating and choral speaking, but i find myself comfortable doing those things because those were what i'm passionate about and i would rather talk about more serious issues among debaters rather than striking up a random conversation between friends or people about a random topic,
So in conclusion, if i know that topic or i'm very interested and passionate about something, i would definitely see myself joining the conversation however if it's really not my cup of tea or my taste or i literally have nothing to say, i would rather coop up in my room or just be that random person in the background
I love being a introvert
This video defines me... ❤
Life of an introvert is not easy... People misunderstand them a lot
Yupe fr! Like they think we are rude or we have a high attitude that's why we don't talk ..😢 but who told them we wanna talk them but we can't....
This is the most relatable comment section I had so far. Feels like home.
That's amazing to hear!
@@bbcideas thank you for posting such amazing contents 😭
Yes
I am an extrovert, still I have introvert friends. They, are good. I feel happy with both of my introvert and extrovert friends
Yes
"Everyone has something to say but nobody listen"
i really felt that
Yes fact bro
Vee it really be like that sometimes😶
😭
Truuu
It doesn't make sense to talk 24/7 so that's why I'm quiet. There is peace at mind in a quiet place where no one is talking.
100% introverted, and for most of my life, rather my entire life but the last few months, I was made to believe this was a really big flaw with my personality. I never really cared, but there came a point a year ago where it really harmed me immensely career and friendship wise. I didn't have friends, nor connections. I hardly spoke to anyone, family or friends. I have since built a little confidence and tried becoming more vocal, but I still feel it's a fake personality I need to maintain to be a part of society. People say I'm feelingless, I have no emotions, I don't care, I don't live... But honestly, I do. I do it differently. If you cared about me or talked to me, you would know that. :(
I used to think so too, in fact, I still somewhat mimic other extrovert behavior too rarely nowadays, as I've been able to know what I want to do or not. Been a mix of like 70% introvert and 30% extrovert, so meeting new people usually isn't too much of a big deal, though VERY dependant on which type of person I'm meeting. Since I grew up on a farm, I always had close realtionships to others, since in the countryside everybody knows everybody, and therefore always was better with country people, truckers, farmers and stuff, also city people who give me the 2000s ,,ah it don't matter" vibe. Today I went on a bridge over a countryside road and waved at a truck, and dude it is always such a nice time, since he started blasting his horn, and knowing that farmers and truckers usually get underpaid and even seen as dumb from city people, I of course loved to see that they still got my back, even after having to move to a city due to finances and regulations destroying our passion. Of course on the other side, as a result of my childhood and stuff, I struggle to make friends with people my age in the city, as It's just a different culture, and don't know if just coming straight is seen as weird, which it usually is.
Also, the saying of you attract what you are kind of applies, I managed to get some shy, introverted girls from the city to have crushes on me, but thats good for me, because I'm also into these types. It's a hell to start convos though, usually taking months of looking at each other before anyone takes initiative in the form of asking for a favour.
Almost 15 years ago one of my colleagues called me "antisocial girl". Then my colleagues diagnosed me with autism... Such is the ignorance about introverts. Hugs to all introverts reading this! ❣️
That's so insensitive of them to actually diagnose you with autism. If I were in your shoes, I would've slapped the hell out of them.
SeaJay ETC I had the same thing happen when the reality was that I could sense they had a cruel streak and were rotten at their core so I avoided them. My body would literally send me into a state of intense discomfort around them and hence, awkward interactions. But how do you say “No I’m not autistic, I can just intuit that you are a horrible person”. Whoops
@@gaple1995
I was bullied at work because of that
@Aneczka C I'm just like you, the trash people who like to judge and get people to their behave as they wish, I really want to punch them a few times.
I was also diagnosed and it ruined potential friendships...
If I don’t get my time and space I become moody and irritable. When I’m alone I feel peace and happiness communing with myself!
Me 2
Crowded places suffocate me. My happy place is at home lying in bed wearing comfy clothes and watching CZcams or reading.
Yep. Same. I just get tried spending time with people.
@@ocholajennie1249 👏👏💕❤️ movies for example 😜😜
Wow thanks that’s how I feel 😳
My cousin call me 2 days ago and he was like Can I come tomorrow? And I was like..Why? And he goes because I want to visit you..my family..and I’m like Sorry dude we’re in quarantine..and he was like Okay Fine 🤣😂 Inside me I hope this quarantine last for a while 😅
One of aspects of the video is quite relatable with myself that most people always tend to think that introverts are antisocial
55% of the people saying that are probably functionally quite introverted themselves but the problem is people often misuse the word “introvert” in many ways, so that’s why the terms overlap. If being content with your own company ruins certain people, that’s their problem. You don’t need to worry about that.
I'm really proud of the fact that I'm an introvert; I can be satisfied and happy with very little (tiny apartment, living alone, reading a good book, raining days, dining alone and going to the movies alone)
This quarantine made me realized how blessed I am to be an introvert- my extrovert roommates are literally losing their minds but my life hasn't changed much and I'm quite content with spending my days indoors and being able to focus on creative hobbies
Same
Bella Lobo love it 😊😊😊😊
Me too 💞💞💞
Same. I am also delighted to read that others feel like this. I am 44 years old in this time of quarantine and I have finally realised that I am an introvert. I never fully understood what one was really and I am enlightenment to be honest. I now feel good about myself.
- stay in home and keep calm!
Me: Yuppppi!!!! (internal speak, of course!)
I once saw a sign on the door of a coffee shop:
"We're open. The door's just a bit heavy"
That basically describes my social life.
Apt.
Bruh you just described my entire life
True
Wow.. amazing..it says it all.
And i wouldn't open it for you, i'm too lazy..
That's why it takes a longer time for someone to get to know me well.. 🤷♀️
As an introvert I couldn’t relate more with this video !
I like being with people , I like clubbing and dancing etc
I just need to recharge myself and energy for a while
This is pretty much it
You don't imagine how helpful this video is, especially now... Thanks a mill... 🙏🏻
*"I have few friends , but our connection is deep ."*
*I liked this sentence a lot .. Because I also have a few friends.*
Same I only have one best friend but we are sooo close, I love her
Me too
I don't have friends :(
@@yath3681 samee :( everyone hates me
Me too
Being introvert is a gift because not many people feel peace in the silence of today's rushing world. So hardly anyone understands and I am often labelled as one without any 'opinions'. Being ' arrogant' is the last thing on our mind.
If only you'd have stopped talking before interrupting me instead of saying " Why so quiet?"
We don't have it easy. But doesn't everyone think grass is greener on the other side.
The quietest people have the loudest minds, it's true, I hate it when things are chaotic, I take some time off for myself to stay away from the chaos.
OMG yesss! The one "without any opinions or ideas" is BEYOND annoyingggg!
@@okaythen2667 yeah but sometimes we do have opinions and the greatest ideas but we choose not to tell it out, we also choose not to confront people if there's an issue cause we don't want to deal with people's stupidity or don't want to indulge in something that doesn't benefit us.
Lol.. A senior in our school hates me because I'm his sitmate in the bus and that "I'm so quiet" and get mad if I 'complain to myself' on how noisy they are..lmfao..
rosh& rosh I definitely relate to that. Probably why I have never gone to a nightclub in my 28 years of existence. I can only imagine the chaos and I’ve never been willing to to experiment on it. Exes definitely find it too weird. And it makes me wonder, is it so wrong to desire peace of mind? Even my extroverted mum takes offence in my silence and desire to withdraw to a quiet place a lot of the time. Like I tell my few friends, nothing is worth sacrificing my peace of mind to except when I start having extroverted children (God help me).
Thank you very much. I needed to hear this right now, at this exact very moment in my life. It mattered.
Clicked on the video to know more about myself, but left in tear 😣 I know who I am