Update: Thoughts on Davao, Staying Busy & Dating Options
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I lost a very expensive phone once in the back of a taxi in Davao ,anyway the next day i got in another taxi ,and the driver said hey did you go to crocodile park yesterday, i said yes i went there (but could not remember the driver's face) he said i have your phone back at the taxi rank ,went there later that night and the phone was there wow ! That would not happen here in the UK .
I think you miss the Philippines more than your letting on.
Davao is our home, my wife is pinay and I am American. We have been married for almost 14years. We have a home in northern buhagin. Davao is a safe city and relaxing place.
You should be safe Reekay you look Filipino
Great points you made Henry about 40 plus year old women. As you know, I am 57 BUT I stay active and am sometimes adventurous and decided a while back to concentrate on women in their 30's from the Philippines. Here in the USA, it is expected that I date a woman in her late 40's or early 50;s BUT GUESS WGAT? They are NOT the type for me because of what you said. Too many requirements, too old fashion, and too old on their ways. I stay young, look young, and FEEL young and that's what I'm looking for!
Guys, gals, everyone. It is rather simple. "Everyone wants a good deal in relationships". That simple. Researchers and therapists have done lengthy studies about this. But the key to long-lasting relationships is selflessness. Love is supposed to be about selflessness, not selfishness. Now, find someone who is crazy about you for starters, i.e. Attraction. It has to start with Attraction. Not money.
Single mothers by and large have maternal instincts where you most likely will be relegated to utility status.
Thanks for sharing your views. You hit on some very important points about dating and following your bliss. I fully agree.
-Nils
Davao is definitely one of the safest cities in the Philippines. Even when roaming the sketchy red light areas- so I’ve heard
Nice video Reekay. I visited Davao a few months ago and found the city to be very safe and the people friendly.
This video is well thought out. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you! I enjoy your channel , I want to go to the Philippines soon.
Nice topics! Have fun Reekay
30 years of experience here in the PH and dealing with the people...Seldom if ever will you find a pinay between the ages of 20 and 25 (or even 30 for that matter quite frankly) that a) doesn't already have a kid(s) and may lie about it for the sake of preserving the relationship with a foreigner who's the meal ticket OR b) wants to have kids BUT for the sake of a relationship with an older foreigner who doesn't want to have kids she lies about it (it's part of their retirement plan in the PH)...Almost never will you find one that's honest about NOT wanting having kids...The society and culture is set up herre around having kids and being part of a big family...Good luck though on your search...
Yes Reekay if you know eachothers wants up front and like her personality are similar to yours it will be a lot easier and more fun. Take care
Reekay, it is smart to identify mutually uncompromisable items upfront, those are relationships killers
Great insights Reekay.....something to chew on for everyone in this one....
Magandag Umaga Po! Another Great Observation and Decisions. Keep It Going My Friend.
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Totally love your channel, your openness, and down-to-earth wisdom. In a few years I will settle down in Vietnam and have much appreciated learning from what you've shared. Best to you!
As you know, I've been in Vietnam as long as you have. I have meet many single women here that range from their 20's to 40's. Most don't even bring up the subject of a long term relationship. They are curious about you and just want to know more about where you came from and what are you doing in Vietnam. I guess that is just the precursor to wondering if you are a potential partner/bf/husband. Early on, I bring up the fact that I have a Filipina girlfriend for the sake of full disclosure and am not really interested in dating. My intentions are to be just friends. Here In Vietnam, once you make that disclosure, they women quickly lose interest. In the Philippines, the women there don't seem to care if you have a gf or not.
Your plan to meet a Filipina and then explore the possibility if they want to travel with you and be spontaneous is great. You are right in the fact that older women are set in their ways and are less accommodating to your needs, goals and desires, no matter what country they are from. You will become a low priority after time, usually 90 days. LOL
Stick to your plan, but try to be open about a kid. Hard to avoid a girl in her 20's that doesn't want kids or already has one. They truly can be a blessing and a joy. I thought I never wanted kids again either, but it was the woman that I loved that brought me 2 adorable kids that gave my life purpose now. You're still young. You can bring a lot of joy and happiness to someone else and end up realizing that you too are happy.
Just saying,
Mark
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Thanks for the VDO! How is your Vietnam language learning progressing?
Try Ben Tre or Vung Tau (by boat down river) both day trips from HCMC.
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I have been in Davao for 3 yrs., now I love it here. Davao is the safest city I have ever lived in. Correct we have large police presents & the military is also here. They R both nice & friendly to us. I just take metered taxis here. We live in a studio condo. Ne is now 47. We have 5 daughters 17-26 & 5 Grandkids. I love them all. We have been together since I got her 4 yrs. ago. I don't want a younger 1. She is 22 years younger than me. A girl my sons age isn't an older woman to me.
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I think you are slipping back to old memories from the Philippines. Might be better to try somewhere completely new such as Penang, Malaysia where English is widely understood and where plenty of mature aged western men.
Coming to Davao for the 1st time, can you recommend where to find rental for long term, especially near shopping malls
Nice video and update Reekay, glad to hear your latest interest is ongoing. I share your desire to still see new places and keep travelling while health and wealth allows. I’d like to see Hoi An and Hanoi still, and I might go back to Davao for another look on my next trip to Philippines, but so many places I haven’t yet seen. I don’t think honestly, that I will ever settle down again, and I think after a couple of longer relationships, I’ll just date for a while. In the Philippines, there is more opportunities for that than anywhere else.
Grab in davao is hooked up with the taxis. It's not like in Manila you do not get a set rate.
Tim W is it reliable grab there does it accpet to far areas ?
DR Mike lives in Davao for a long time.
Enrique: you left something out I think you were going to say ".... have the best of both worlds... " you forgot to add : bring the Filipina to Viet Nam and live there. Or did i miss it. Thank you.
Lets see your new woman brother.
all things at the proper time.
A lot of older women are carrying a lot of emotional baggage from hurt from past relationships don't get me wrong we all have emotional baggage it's how we deal with it that matters .good video thanks for sharing.
I have a question concerning living in the Philippines. What percentage of your income should be considered for living, be it rent or mortgage or whatever?
Henry, based on your experience in both the Philippines and Vietnam which country has more of an issue with single moms? My guess would be since Vietnam is more conservative the issue is less of a factor or they practice birth control better.
I've been in Vung Tau about 1 1/2 years and also am frustrated by dating here. I've also thought of bringing a Filipina here. In your mind what are the positives and negatives.
How is traffic and pollution in Davao?
I you think about getting married, then for sure 90 days is not enough. I would say that then you need more like 700 days. lol
Davao is safe neva had a issue in 25 yrs been goin there longer than most foreigners so iv seen 80s 90s and now there wen I first went there hardly ever saw a foreign man only me . Dont need worldly white guys there making fools of themselves drunk swearing Filipino hate that .I'm so popular cause I'm friendly sense of humor dress cleanly and very respectful I know tons of Filipinos .playboys also get lost .only get a bad name Doin that everyone will soon know if a white guy is a playboy type and gossips will run rampant. Have a good name there and people will love ya !!!
Wayne Mathews I haven’t noticed many westerners there either.
You mention Dalat, have you been there? Seems many Foreigners love it.
yes, i spent 2 days there and really enjoyed it. cooler temps there as well.
Just saying! I’m a old subs from you! You are looking for a unicorn! This girls 22-24 they need to work to support there family! Pinays are family oriented! And they are poor! They need to survive! Good luck! I’m married a pinay too! But she is 40 and she work to support her family! We don’t live in Phil’s! Good luck!
There is flights into Dalat
awesome, i'll check it out. the bus-ride was scenic, but next time i just want to get there and enjoy it longer.
Hello Reekay.. let me just ask you, have you ever been to Cagayan De Oro City in Philippines? there's this woman that I know over there and I have considered maybe going there some time next year. however I found out that most US flights don't fly directly over there. you must go to Manila first. I'm a little confused now and find this maybe a little complicated. do you? I have never even been to Philly before it would be my first time if I do go. what's your take on this?
yes, i was in CDO about 2 years ago. internationally i don't know of any direct flights from the usa. i was in cebu at the time so i took a ferry there and then a flight back.
when i went to davao recently, i also had to first stop in manila and transfer to another flight to davao (which is also on mindanao)
I booked a flight to Davao for February. No real reason for going there. I will be in Thailand in January also. Exploring for my future home. I will move to Southeast Asia in July 2020.
I would definitely want a girl that loves fun, travel, and she has better love the beach, and swimming so she can learn to scuba dive.
yes.. having the right mate in life is partly their character but also their energy-level (high or low) to match. i don't consider myself a high-energy, rock-climbing, cliff-diving person.. but i'm not ready for a rocking-chair either. :)
Davao City, is in my opinion the safest place to live in all of the Philippines. Lots of Police and Military Presence 24/7 everywhere. Of course its Duterte's hometown. Its clean, well organized, traffic isn't as bad as elsewhere in the Philippines. Very honest and cheap taxis, all metered. And compared to Makati prices are about half for food, restaurants, etc.. And if you're looking for a real pinoy hottie - Davao is the place for you. Go to the nightmarket and chat with the ladies.
I agree with you 100%. You covered some very interesting observations. I am 71 years old and I still prefer the 18 to 24 years old Filipinas. They are very spontaneous and fun. That is my personal experiences in Davao and Cebu.
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I think Dumaguete is for you
I figure if I can find a late 20 something Filipina without kids we can always use nieces and nephews. After raising three I don’t feel the need for more.
If dating younger women is your preference, it might be in your best interest to move back to the Philippines.
Dont knock east la come on now
ha!! i have family in east l.a., they know what i mean. :)
Does "tampo" go down as age goes up? 😉
A little bit, not completely
Filipinas being able to get long term visas to Vietnam are almost nil except for the one who come as helpers/maids.....unless you marry one lol....
Is it true you’re having difficulty finding female companionship in Vietnam?
yes and no, depends on the generality of your question. i have dated about 8 vietnamese women of ages from 20 to 46 during my first 6 months in vietnam. and had a 3-month relationship with one. another friend of mine is currently dating 3 vietnamese women at the same time. another expat i know has had about 5 vietnamese women in the last year.
the better question is, "is there difficulty in finding female companionship with younger women?". again, depends on the age of the expat. expats under 45 seem to have no problems dating vietnamese women in their 20's.. but it's often casual dating, not a relationship.
meanwhile, expats over 45 will find it requires more work and patience to date a younger vietnamese woman beyond friendship-level.
I thought you were doing well with your Vietnam girlfriend. What happened?
I enjoy your videos. Just a constructive criticism.... If you say "again" again, I'm going to scream. I had to laugh on the watermelon remark. What about whether to squeeze the toothpaste from the end or the middle? Deal breaker. LoL. Sometimes I wonder if it's best to stay single. After listening to your videos, I'm leaning more that way. Thanks for the efforts. All the best.
i'll try to not say again, again. but it could happen again.
@@Lifebeyondthesea LoL I sometimes hear Alan Watts say "and so..." then pause. I imagine there are other alternatives. Hey, keep up the great work. We love ya'
The first question is whether you want to date the daughter (PH) or the mother (VT). Next question is whether you want to eat the same meal everyday (VT) or have a variety (PH).
The younger filipinas *always* want kids.
younger filipinas USUALLY want kids. i personally know filipinas in their 30's who long ago decided they do not want kids. some so they can work abroad, others to avoid the pitfalls of being a single-mother in the PH economy and some to be with the expat they love who has had a vasectomy.
so, no... the word 'always' does not apply. not all filipinas want kids. 'most' do, but not all.
Reekay, you seem like a cool guy and someone who enjoys life. I would like to meet you one day when you are in Canada and have a beer and smoke some cannabis with you.
sure, just drop me a line on my FB...
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MGTAT - men getting their act together? Yeah, because it’s men who don’t have their act together, not women. No, women have their act together, they have all their ducks in a row. ... 🤣 just messing with you Reekay. Sweet video as always!
99% of women bring nothing to the table...
There are still some corrupt police but if Davao isn't safe then no place is. We already have a house there for retirement. How it will be like in ten years nobody knows. Good point about the armed security, it makes me feel safe.
- RunningWithScissors - When we were in Paris the security were toting rifles. It’s not something I’m used to but it still made me feel safe. A few weeks later there was a shooting at the Notre Dame Cathedral. Despite the armed security some will still take their chances.