Bereavement and loss counselling: working with grief

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Komentáře • 129

  • @rickdavis3593
    @rickdavis3593 Před 2 lety +6

    Grief is a scream inside you that nobody can hear but you.

  • @elizabethnewton9034
    @elizabethnewton9034 Před 3 lety +20

    I have left the earth,
    But I am still about,
    I kiss your cheek at night,
    When your light is out.
    I am the wind,
    That blows in your hair,
    I am spirit now,
    I am near.
    I sit on your shoulder,
    I see all that you do,
    My body is gone,
    Still my love is with you.
    When times are tough,
    I hold your hand,
    You are never alone,
    Together we stand.
    If you are in trouble,
    I shall help you out,
    I am your instinct
    When you doubt.
    I am the angel
    Assigned to you,
    You will never be alone,
    For I am next to you.

    • @janettefraga9752
      @janettefraga9752 Před 2 lety

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety

      I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday....

  • @lmusima3275
    @lmusima3275 Před 2 lety +9

    I lost my mum recently to cancer. We were informed that she was terminal just a week before she went. The final month was difficult seeing her health get worse sleeping all day, not eating or drinking sufficiently, not communication and avoiding contact with friends. Days before she passed I called all her closest friends to come around. Now that she’s gone I’m waking up everyday in shock realising she’s not there. My siblings are suffering too especially my brother

    • @mychoice1489
      @mychoice1489 Před 2 lety +1

      So sorry for your loss. I've lost my parents, sister and recently my brother. It is very hard. You have to talk to each other and support one another. You will get through this difficult time. You did all you could and it's out of our control when God takes our loved ones. God bless you with strength and courage 🙏

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 Před 2 lety

      God bless you. Please allow me to share my best friend's story of true hope.
      Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      czcams.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/video.html

  • @JV.-jv.
    @JV.-jv. Před 6 lety +47

    When my mum died in April 2016 the pain was massive , panic attacks it was the worst. When my 25yr old daughter suicided in Sep 2017 , the pain I had from my mother was not in the same universe as losing my daughter. Losing a child is the pinnacle of grief nothing even comes close

    • @dianewallace8206
      @dianewallace8206 Před 6 lety +4

      I lost my dad 2013 watched him pass, the same yeary mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer she passed in 2014, but before that in the same month found my husband dead, the day of his funeral was the day myum passed, then suddenly this Feb my 44 yr old son passed, my whole family wiped out, only child, I see no future just a big hollow in my life.

    • @JV.-jv.
      @JV.-jv. Před 6 lety +2

      Diane Wallace I’m on fb as Wayne urbanos beard , contact me there

    • @dianewallace8206
      @dianewallace8206 Před 6 lety +1

      Ina Acielo Thankyou, word's are hard to find, but I'm blessed to think people think of me, this hole will never be filled.

    • @anveshdommati3360
      @anveshdommati3360 Před 5 lety +2

      @@dianewallace8206 be strong madam all your loved ones who missed early wants you to be healthy and strong . One day every one will meet till then be happy and strong . you don't know that many people loves you . Try to smile for them .

    • @anveshdommati3360
      @anveshdommati3360 Před 5 lety +3

      Every one has to leave this world some day . All your loved ones are at peace and happy on the other world of life they want you to be happy and strong . One day you will meet them till then be strong and happy . Your pain can't be replaced but you can help those people who experience similar losses like you .

  • @betha8761
    @betha8761 Před 2 lety +21

    The worst time of my entire life. Grief is an emotional roller coaster ride. It’s been three years now. It does change with time passing but it’s always there. You do your best to move forward with it. There’s really only one other choice. You can choose to stay and muddle through it or go be with them. It’s normal to have those feelings, it doesn’t mean you’re going to kill yourself, but you certainly want to in those moments. Everyone grieves differently. I think the more one gets validated about their story and about their feelings is thoroughly helpful to the grieving person. We want to heard, our friends and family start to wane on listening, so a therapist would be helpful in that.

    • @caramelfrappuccino234
      @caramelfrappuccino234 Před 2 lety +2

      We are definitely on the same page. Lost my mom in December of last year. I've done ok until now. Ive hit an all time low. I'm seeking therapy.

    • @betha8761
      @betha8761 Před 2 lety +1

      @@caramelfrappuccino234 I’m so sorry about your Mom. It was my Mom too. The first year I was numb and in shock, so my first year was just ok. Second year was absolutely the worst. That’s when it really hit me. Just awful. All kinds of emotions and so so much crying. It hit me that she wasn’t really actually going to come back, etc. It even makes you wonder if they ever really existed sometimes. That’s how crazy it can feel. More crying and more crying!
      I personally also developed what I guess I would consider to be a mild version of PTSD along with my grief. We were living together and I was woken up around 3:30 AM by her yelling for help way down at the other end of the house. She knew I was in the room but she couldn’t really respond, just kept saying she didn’t know what was happening. So I had to call 911, get the blind and deaf dog out of harms way, open door and turn on lights for ambulance, do the CPR on her after she lost consciousness, etc. She was gone within about 30/40 minutes. I knew she was going, but still had to do CPR. Ambulance couldn’t find the house easily so it took them longer. When I heard them walk in, I walked passed them and told them she was gone. Anyways, it was in the second year that I figured out that I had been through emotional trauma. Developed mild PTSD.
      I’m glad you reached out for help. I just did the same thing the other day. Thought it couldn’t hurt. David Kessler is a grief counselor online, listening to him has helped me. He lost his son and knows even more about how grief really is. Also there is another man online that I found and really understood a lot more, his name is Dr. Bill Webster. Living with Loss Series. There is one called Grief Attacks. That really helped me. You’re not going crazy! It’s all normal and it’s your normal way to grieve. We all do it different but yet all the same. Grief attacks is a good name for what can happen. You’re in the middle of a store, driving, in the shower and it hits. You want to just melt down onto the floor and disappear into all the tears your crying. You think the crying will never end, etc. I’ve had death of loved ones before but this was a whole other thing. This was my Mom and she was my best friend. So felt like I lost double. I have friends and family, etc. but if you’re really truly close to someone and they pass, it does change you. I hope you and I both get the extra help we want. Please take care!🌞🕊🌞

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety

      I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday....

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 Před 2 lety

      Or you can turn to Jesus and allow Him to comfort you. I love sharing my best friend's story to offer true hope to those suffering through grief and sorrow. I pray it is a help to you.
      Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      czcams.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/video.html

  • @dawnnevin8839
    @dawnnevin8839 Před 8 lety +21

    I have worked with bereaved clients for years and the concept of frozen feelings is so easy for clients to understand but using the analogy of freezing part of their heart was very powerful and explains similar situations with sexually abused clients and flashbacks thank you"

    • @ChrisJohnson-hx7ld
      @ChrisJohnson-hx7ld Před 3 lety

      such is life we've all lost our loved ones in death, but life goes on, I lost my partner 3yrs ago, I understand how you feel, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054 😇

    • @jeanniemotherof3
      @jeanniemotherof3 Před 2 lety

      I cannot wait to read this and I am so thrilled you included me and sent it to me may God bless you thank you, I know this is going to impact many many lives please stay in touch with me, I’m going to read this as soon as I get to work and I can go up and be quiet and focus
      🙏🏻❤️

  • @marylebeau679
    @marylebeau679 Před 7 lety +14

    I love this video it helped me to cope with my dads loss recently!!!!

    • @jessicawhitehead8914
      @jessicawhitehead8914 Před 2 lety +1

      I am here to listen to you my friend if you ever need or want to talk about anything day or night or both .

  • @premillareddy882
    @premillareddy882 Před 2 lety +9

    I lost my son in 2020,on fathers day he took he's life, my world collapsed, 6mths later on the same date I lost my husband, that is so hard for me, I can't move past that pain 😪

    • @patriciacharrier3620
      @patriciacharrier3620 Před 2 lety +1

      I understand your grief, I too have lost a child and husband, 8 weeks ago, I am sorry you are going through this. I am reconnection with Jesus and Gods teaching, this is helping me. I will pray for you, and I know with Gods help we both can move through this debilitating grief.

    • @jeanniemotherof3
      @jeanniemotherof3 Před 2 lety

      Only Jesus can heal your broken heart and fill that empty place, he promises to bless those that are mourning and comfort them, I beg you to turn to him -I can imagine what you’re going through. I lost my daughter three years ago. And my mom three months ago, and my sister and best friend 15 years ago, I understand how you’re feeling, only the Lord can turn your sorrow into joy one day, you just have to be patient in him, it will get better, but you have to have him, there is no other way. He will love you through🙏🏻

    • @Laughwithmecrywithme
      @Laughwithmecrywithme Před 2 lety

      II just read your comment and I’m so very sad that you lost your son and your husband 6 months later. So hard. There’s no words. can’t imagine and I hope you find anything and everything you need to grieve and live. I see you shared this 9 months ago and am wondering how you are… love and prayers from a stranger… thank you for sharing.

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 Před 2 lety

      God bless you! Please allow me to share my best friend's story of true hope.
      Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      czcams.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/video.html

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 Před 2 lety

      @@jeanniemotherof3 amen! Thank you for sharing that with others! Please allow me to share my best friend's story of true hope.
      Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      czcams.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/video.html

  • @yazstar9342
    @yazstar9342 Před 3 lety +3

    Lovely work! After all the decades..you've inspired me to seek an amazing counselor! Yay!

  • @preciousdevere288
    @preciousdevere288 Před 4 lety +11

    I wish I could get to see this wonderful man. The grief I am experiencing is the most painful episode in my 56 years.

    • @ChrisJohnson-hx7ld
      @ChrisJohnson-hx7ld Před 3 lety +1

      I'm so sorry for your loss, such is life we've all lost our loved ones in death, but life goes on, I lost my partner 3yrs ago, I understand how you feel, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054 😇

    • @ChrisJohnson-hx7ld
      @ChrisJohnson-hx7ld Před 3 lety

      @@preciousdevere288 I can understand how you feel, I'd like to talk to you and shared thoughts together, you can text me on my cell if you don't mind..

    • @caramelfrappuccino234
      @caramelfrappuccino234 Před 2 lety

      I'm with you. I didnt know one could experience so much pain.

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety +1

      I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday....

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 Před 2 lety +1

      @@caramelfrappuccino234 Please allow me to share my best friend's story of true hope.
      Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      czcams.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/video.html

  • @erlindamarcano271
    @erlindamarcano271 Před 3 lety +2

    THANK YOU FOR THE VIDEO. I AM HAPPY TO KNOW THAT MY WORKING WITH CLIENTS HAVE SIMILARITY TO YOURS ,SIR.
    YOUR GENTLE VOICE IS A FORM OF HEALING IN ITSELF.
    GOD BLESS YOU.

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety

      I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday...

  • @MrHetherton
    @MrHetherton Před 9 lety +12

    june 2013 I lost my dad to lung cancer, within a few weeks about a month I started bereavement counselling, I believe the second year after a bereavement is harder than the 1st year. a few weeks after my dad had passed one morning I just burst out into tears, I thought I was over all that but it seems not ive had a few months where I was good, now especially coming up to Christmas which is a time I find can be quite depressing I find it quite hard. my sister thinks I started bereavement counselling too soon, that was just her opinion though. me my brother and my mother witnessed my dads death.

    • @redlady935
      @redlady935 Před 9 lety +2

      Thanks Paul. Im sorry to hear about your dad. I hope you found the counseling helpful. I had the same experience as you regarding the second year being harder and I wish more people knew about this because I found that lots of people (friends\colleagues etc) are sympathetic for the first few days\weeks but in some ways that was the easiest time for me as still in shock. Obviously every one grieves differently but I wish we were taught about this stuff at school. Ive found it a really difficult thing to communicate to people when I'm struggling as is hard to casually slip into conversation. I hope you are coping OK now Paul and I wish you all the best

  • @muttoncyborg
    @muttoncyborg Před 7 lety +1

    A very useful video in my counselling teaching...thank you

  • @RobertBrown-mm3un
    @RobertBrown-mm3un Před 2 lety +1

    Amazing transformation!

  • @akshatkapoor3283
    @akshatkapoor3283 Před 2 lety

    My father passed away 5 days back. But I don't know why I have a feeling of sense of Peace. Supreme being is giving me assurance that he is with them. The empty space will always be there however I have no right to stop my father's soul for his next journey. Dad I love you and will always love you. I will take care of myself and our family. I want you to begin your next journey.

  • @margaretchaudhry4839
    @margaretchaudhry4839 Před rokem

    We think of our love loss in silence we often speak there name .But all we have are memories and there picture in a frame .Keep up hard work sir .

  • @nosaizekor8389
    @nosaizekor8389 Před 3 lety +5

    i love this video it heps me with the way I feel about my mother loss I feel I should move on and heal i guess my mother was old she isn't in pain anymore I would love to go to a grief support

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 Před 2 lety

      Let Jesus be your support. Please allow me to share my best friend's story of true hope.
      Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      czcams.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/video.html

  • @vj-if2cp
    @vj-if2cp Před 8 lety +12

    My mum passed 5 years ago. I looked after her for years,every time things got bad we turned it around and she was ok. We still thought she'd be ok a week before she passed. I still feel troubled and in so much pain at times. I've been thinking about counselling for a while but feel reluctant for some reason. There's also a lot of other things in my life that have troubled me. I wish I knew where to turn

    • @dcdddddd1
      @dcdddddd1 Před 7 lety +1

      Me too. Somebody at my job just died in January and I'm hurting. I don't know who to turn to or who to talk to. I've been feeling sad a lot.

    • @Sunny105121
      @Sunny105121 Před 6 lety +1

      Vicky Jones and dcdddddd1 - I hope you have both been able to talk with somebody since you both posted. Your feelings are genuine and it's a wonderful thing to be able to speak with a professional. I don't know where you live, but you can ask for any counselors at your local hospital or perhaps your place of worship. You can also see if there is a local mental health organization you can contact. They would have the resources available to point you in the right direction. I am praying for you both!

  • @maryngshwuling9916
    @maryngshwuling9916 Před 2 lety

    Thanks for sharing 🌻

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety

      I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday....

  • @tshidimwyllie2156
    @tshidimwyllie2156 Před 3 lety +2

    When we put the feelings in that "inner deep freezer" doesnt that delay the therapeutic healing process; When does the client and counsellor then get to process the emotions? How easy and practical could it be for a grieving client to put their feelings into a deep freezer ?
    What's the best technique parroting the client ; repeating what client is saying word for word" or paraphrasing?
    Your response to these will help me learn. Am a psychotherapy student. Thank you.

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 Před 2 lety

      Hello, I love sharing my best friend's story to offer true hope to those suffering through grief and sorrow. I pray it is a help to you.
      Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      czcams.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/video.html

  • @MrEmotionalhealth
    @MrEmotionalhealth Před 12 lety +1

    I liked this video. I liked the analegy of putting things in the freezer. Not sure if you are aware of the original research by Kirtner and Cartwright, that clients behaviour, particularly the ability of the client to be in relationship with their experiencing, and not in the middle of it, or surpressing it. Of course the theraputic relationship characterised by the Rogers Core conditions allows the client to dip in to their bodily felt sense.

  • @MegaMissfitz
    @MegaMissfitz Před 7 lety +2

    theve offered me upto 6 free counselling sessions! i didnt have the heart to tell them im quitting foamy , that sounds like a bargain !!!

    • @DearTherapist
      @DearTherapist Před 4 lety

      It's up to you how to end you may have good reasons.

  • @johnayres7302
    @johnayres7302 Před rokem

    i just lost my wife of 62 years Surviving members visited for a few weeks. They're back home 2000 miles north.
    ive studied everything on media but its so negative. last two said next 2/6 years i will be same or worse , if i last;.
    I dont find this helpful'.

  • @russellconstant1202
    @russellconstant1202 Před 2 lety +1

    I am griefing sooo bad! just because my ex walked away we are going to see eachother soon but i dont know if that will help with my grief

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety

      I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday....

  • @philliparmstrong1541
    @philliparmstrong1541 Před 2 lety

    In this model that you have portrayed this time???.

  • @deborahdavis6463
    @deborahdavis6463 Před 10 lety +2

    was this guy english? lol my mom was from scotland, miss her to pieces.

    • @DearTherapist
      @DearTherapist Před 4 lety

      Definately English accent

    • @samuelmichael2449
      @samuelmichael2449 Před 3 lety

      such is life we've all lost our loved ones in death, but life goes on, I lost my partner 3yrs ago, I understand how you feel, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054 😇

  • @kelleymcfadden9675
    @kelleymcfadden9675 Před 2 lety

    I love sharing my best friend's story to offer true hope to those suffering through grief and sorrow. I pray it is a help to you.
    Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
    Family Story
    Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
    My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
    That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
    a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
    Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
    His Story
    Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
    “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
    “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
    He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
    “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
    “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
    Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
    “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
    “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
    Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
    “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
    “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
    Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
    “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
    Your Story
    What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
    The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
    “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
    We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
    “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
    “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
    “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
    ******************************
    This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
    Tribute to Ethan Lakey
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  • @philliparmstrong1541
    @philliparmstrong1541 Před 2 lety

    This connection we made this time had no motive

  • @DziesevituoMereHIS
    @DziesevituoMereHIS Před 6 lety

    looks like Greg Kinnear

  • @ananse77
    @ananse77 Před 9 lety +27

    I like the content of this video, but my God, this guy is possibly the slowest speaker I have ever heard.

    • @issaccox6773
      @issaccox6773 Před 8 lety +3

      +ananse77 Speed the video up, it sounds less like a self hypnosis CD!

    • @maniantam
      @maniantam Před 8 lety +3

      That's totally what I did...the speaker is making a point but my eyelids dont agree....

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety

      I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday....

  • @miriamanglada3393
    @miriamanglada3393 Před 5 lety +1

    Dr are you Christian l want my son back why God apart of Life God knows

  • @leonoradompor8706
    @leonoradompor8706 Před 5 lety +1

    When my father died i don't feel sad !

    • @redcowcat8705
      @redcowcat8705 Před 4 lety

      Same.

    • @BUBBLESPOGO
      @BUBBLESPOGO Před 11 měsíci

      Some people dont deserve anything. They were horrible to.others and made others lives miserable instead of contributing to a happy life experience. No one will miss them
      They were a dark ugliness that went out and no one wants them back.
      Very justified and reasonable.

  • @avellinoituk
    @avellinoituk Před 4 lety +1

    How can I cope with the pain and lost of my mother when she was abused and mistreated by the nursing home and the hospital put my on end of life by giving my mother a Syringe drive with Diamorphine and nil by mouth because my mother was a pain in the back side for them because she had psychosis and it's easy to get rid of her my mum is gone now and I have buried her but I WILL NEVER FORGIVE THEM BASTARDS WHO DID THIS TO MY MOTHER AND TO ME

    • @frances2912
      @frances2912 Před 4 lety +1

      That's an awful thing to go through I'm really sorry. I'd really advise counselling, it sounds as though you understandably have a lot of anger and resentment wrapped up in your greif. Unwrapping all this by talking it through with a good counsellor would really be beneficial. Really hope things get easier for you.

    • @frances2912
      @frances2912 Před 4 lety

      By doing this hopefully you will be begin grieve properly and begin to heal.

    • @avellinoituk
      @avellinoituk Před 4 lety

      @@frances2912 Hi I am going for counselling and because of this virus it's hard because my counselling has stopped I have a very good friend who I can let my frustration out to and my anger out there is an investigation on the solicitor for deception and the court case of the abuse from the nursing home of the nurse and the carer who dragged my mother across the floor and on the bed with out using any equipment or slide sheets when my mother was blind disabled and had mental health issues and I cought them with a spy cam the video isn't on any social media because there is an ongoing trial and if I put it on social media I can get myself in trouble but for what they did including the hospital one year later I will never forget or forgive them and thanks you for responding

    • @frances2912
      @frances2912 Před 4 lety

      That's so awful! Must be horrendous for you to know this and feel so powerless. . So, so sorry. I'm in the UK and our charity is closed for face to face appointments but we're continuing to work by doing telephone counselling. May be worth finding out if you can do that in the meantime? I'm suprised the counselling you're supposed to have hasn't offered this. Sounds like you need a lot of love and support to get through this, glad you have a good friend who you talked to.

    • @avellinoituk
      @avellinoituk Před 4 lety

      @@frances2912 thanks I am from Yorkshire and still living here sometimes I ring the
      Samaritans just to talk to someone as well as my friend why are humans are so cruel to others I don't know if you believe in God but I do believe in judgement day and karma what goes around goes around because one day it will happen to them or the love ones justice is my revenge I will let the lord and low do the job thanks

  • @aces541
    @aces541 Před 4 lety +3

    That would drive me crazy the way you take so long in responding...its somewhat old fashioned....

  • @catherinefox7832
    @catherinefox7832 Před 5 lety +5

    The over sad sympathy voice is a bit depressing to me

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety

      I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday....

  • @user-sv3mn8yw9z
    @user-sv3mn8yw9z Před 2 lety

    سلام عزیزم شهرزاد جان میرطاهری هستم پرستار مادر مرحومت دلم مبخواست باهات حرف بزنم توانستی تماس حاصل کن

  • @Minecraftletsplayer-tb2mq

    Counseling ? Lmao. So this is for people who have no friends that listen to them? What does this man do besides repeating what she says and nodding his head. Its a good profession where u don’t really do anything like a surgeon does surgery lawyer fight ur case in court.

    • @lorestla.
      @lorestla. Před 5 lety +3

      Counselling is so much more than just sitting there and repeating what the clients says. Mental health is so complex and not always observable through physical symptoms or behaviour. It requires a lot of dedication as well as a lot of personal work on oneself to be able to just sit, actively listen (which is so hard to do) to a client and guide him into finding a solution for whatever he needs without being personally affected by the client's experiences. As a student in Psychology, I feel like counselling is the most challenging part in therapy as the practice and the theory are so different.

    • @markrose9568
      @markrose9568 Před 4 lety +1

      @Tara H it's very important to repeat, or at least paraphrase what the grieving person is saying. It helps when you know you're being listened to.

    • @schoolwork232
      @schoolwork232 Před 4 lety

      @@lorestla. wow! Tell me about it!

    • @RobertBrown-mm3un
      @RobertBrown-mm3un Před 2 lety +1

      TAKE YOUR NEGATIVITY ELSEWHERE, YOU'RE NOT IMPORTANT ‼

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety

      @Tara H I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday....