6 Signs You're Depressed, Not Lazy
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- čas přidán 1. 06. 2024
- Have you lost your sense of direction in life and didn’t know what else to do? Do you always feel "lazy", unmotivated, and uninspired? Because we live in such a cutthroat and hypercompetitive society so obsessed with the pursuit of wealth and success, we're likely to suffer from chronic stress. When we constantly overworking ourselves, we're bound to experience some adverse effects on our mental and emotional well-being. But what if your laziness is about more than just emotional burnout? What if it’s already become something much more serious? Watch this to find out.
Are you curious about the difference between depression and burnout? We have a video on that too: • Burnout vs Depression:...
As a quick disclaimer, we wanted to remind our viewers that the depression signs discussed in this video should not be used to diagnose anyone with depression. If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.
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I wish everyone would get that “depression is not a choice.”
I feel that way a lot. I never choose to feel like crap. I want to hang out with friends or do something I like doing, but I never feel like I belong with my friends or when ever I look at anything I was interested in I feel like "meh nevermind" but I can't talk to people about it because I always get talked down to or I'm not listened to. Like people want to "help" but it usually makes me feel worse than when I started, so I don't talk about it or want to reach out. I remember feeling Suicidal once and the person I talked to about it made me feel like I was being a downer on purpose. So I learned to hide my thoughts very well
However there are types that are not prolonged, like major depression can be.
Yes this is not a choice!!! LOUDER
Why do I kind of feel like some people in my life always told me that depression WAS a choice?
I don’t think everyone will but if the majority finally get it then maybe we can fix it but that is just wishful thinking.
"Depression isn't a choice " this made me cry . Yes it isn't, I wanted to hear this so badly .
Sometimes you need that good cry but for me I’m ashamed to admit that I feel this way so nobody knows and I wish that I could just go have that dry without being judged by others
@@legolokicars5820 Jan 1 was a disaster .I was weak, and my whole body was hurting. Like I think I have a little bit of depression . 😔
those 4 words just made me feel so good
@@legolokicars5820 I understand I am very nervous that someone is going to judge me I also overthink I can never build up the courage to tell my parents that I need therapy my mind and body just hurt in pain please put me out of my pain
In most cases in our modern wall depression is a choice, what I mean is most people do the things that make them depressed such as porn, binge eating, video games, and indulging in all pleasurable activities (which they know are bad) and then play victim and blame others for their depression that they caused to themselves. In other very rare cases, a person might have went through something bad, such as losing a loved one or getting a hard physical injury. But other than that everyone is depressed because they are on their phone all the time on these addictive social media apps, and this video is for desperate people who are looking for nice words such as “depression isn’t a choice” to make them feel good and then back to being the lazy losers they are.
00:01 intro
1:21 you can’t snap out of it
2:05 you can’t cheer yourself up
2:42 you’ve lost interest in everything
3:20 you can’t function like you used to
4:01 your laziness isn’t triggered by anything
4:48 your laziness isn’t a choice
5:39 outro
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BRO TYY I NEEDED THIS SO BAD I CANT THANK U ENOUGH
I think it would be better to watch the video🙃
Spoilers!
thank you!! :)
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.
aa this made my day
Thank you very much 😭😭😭😭
Needed this a lot. Thanks
This really came at a right time, you are appreciated my friend ! 💜
thank you, kind internet stranger, this made me feel just a little better
man i'm burnt out, stressed, and depressed. Not only is the world cutthroat and basically only support those who constantly are productive, I happen to choose/excel/am passionate about art and the game industry...arguably the peak of literally needing to be constantly productive to get a chance at success. I feel constantly like a lost cause, all steps back and none forward. It's so frustrating.
I wish I could do what I want to do, but society today is so forceful. I can't deal with school because I have extreme social anxiety and I can't relax and I get super overwhelmed, but i have to. I can't have my own dark feelings without someone calling people to put me in a freaking service and therapy which I don't want. I can't be myself around people because everyone always judges the hell out of everyone. I can't live life without me asking myself why I need to do things I don't want to.
I am so sorry you have to experience that. I truly wish I could give you some sort of advice, but unfortunately I am in the exact same predicament. All I can say is this:
1. I know how tiring it can be to feel as though you constantly have to be productive, but in truth, that thought process is COUNTER-productive. You're probably aware of this, but sometimes we all need a couple external reminders?? Taking breaks is vital to making progress and preventing the dreaded feeling that is burnout. I would advise that you try to come up with a schedule that works for your mental health (if you haven't already) and try not to be too overbearing on yourself. I promise you're doing great.
2. Just know that people really do care about you, whether or not you know it. I care about you too, and I really appreciate the courage it must've taken to write this comment. (You might even be inadvertently helping people [like me] in the process.) Know that you do have the strength to get through this; don't waste all of it trying to do more than you're physically/mentally able.
Much love to you, and good luck!! ^^
@@koriMarikori I am an adult and I feel a lot of those same things.
@@thenightporter I'm so sorry you feel those same things, I'm just a child so I'm still sorting through my feelings of what I need to do to get out of this
@@grammarnazi3876 Hoboy I really do appreciate you taking the time to write all this. Personally for myself it's not that helpful but I know for others it is, I'm usually like you and write similar comments.
I've been through the whole shebang, on and off therapy for 10 years, multiple medications,multiple therapists. I've been through post secondary and crash landed after. I love organizing and problem solving so coming up with routine ideas is easy I've made dozens. Find myself too knowledgeable about it all sometimes, yet fail constantly at making use of it to better my own life.
But I have super low self esteem, extremely stubborn and can't seem to force myself to do much of anything I don't want to. I'm very much 'high functioning' but severely struggling, in such a bad grey area where not much support exists. I know, agree, and regularly tell others much of the advice that you have told me, and didn't go on a bit of a ramble to disregard your kind words. But more so just to acknowledge that sometimes the words do nothing, the support isn't helpful. I really do thank you for your words, I hate seeing others struggle. Mental barriers are so fucking hard to break through sometimes, I definitely envy those who can just do therapy+ take medication and turn their life around in a few years.
To everyone who is depressed or struggling with your mental health, I feel your pain. Always remember that you're not alone. You were put on this Earth for a reason. Never forget it :)
What a kind message to share!
@@Psych2go Not much use to atheist though, right?
@joanna exactly, i feel the same too.. what is the reason?? I'm so exhausted, honestly
my thinking is, that the "reason" to exist is to increase entropy. entropy is converting useful energy into less useful energy. for example, taking the energy stored in food and converting it into heat. the direction of entropy coincides with the direction of time.
thanks, but don't deceive people into thinking they are here for a ''reason''. the only reason why we are here is because a couple decided having spawns would somehow fulfil their needs.
I just wish that there was a more transparent and straightforward way to explain this concept to our partners, friends, and family who have never had to see the world through our eyes. When you are down and depressed one of the greatest feelings is that of acceptance and understanding, and when people don't understand our actions or behaviors their initial instinct is to get angry and defensive because they don't understand. Also, the guilt and anger that they feel stems from not being able to help or feel as though they are contributing or liable. If we just had more empathy and compassion for that which we don't understand, we would have a lot less pain from depression. I can't stress this enough but if there are family members especially parents with children that they fear for, just hug your children without trying to change them. Grab their hand, sit with them without asking questions for a bit. Let them know that they aren't broken, damaged, and a disappointment in your eyes. All you need to do is lie down with them for a moment in their hole to prove that they aren't in it alone. The very last thing they would want is for you to get sucked into that sadness, so instead of attempting to see the world from their eyes when they feel that empty numbness that we wouldn't wish upon anyone, just recognize it as it is and just be there. Make some chicken nuggies, bring home some pizza and wings, eat with them in their "sad place" which is probably their bed, and if you're against the thought I recommend that being an excellent starter sacrifice. Bedding can be washed, yet that gesture and act of compassion would add light and fond memories to their darkness. Do some of these things without asking if they even want it done (if it is something you know they enjoy of course) because nine times out of 10 we will say no out of fear of being a nuisance and extra trouble. Creativity and out of the box goes on for miles, and it's not the amount of money spent, but the actual ENERGY you put into it just because you want us well and care deeply from an intuitive space and on a deeper level. Feel out the moment of course and use best judgment, but when asked we will most likely turn down everything placed in front of us in the moment. When we are falling, all we want is to know that we are worth a place in this world and sometimes need a grand gesture from our loved ones that shows a little sacrifice of their time and special interest in the situation. It isn't always the job of others around us to cure our depression, but sometimes in any relationship if one party goes down the other party picks up the slack because that's what love is. Love is sacrifice, empathy, understanding, acceptance, unconditionally. I love you all and wish you well.
wise words
Wow. Im Literally at work crying to this. You explained this so perfectly, i've been depressed for years. i'm actually surprised that im still here considering the fact that I've attempted suicide multiple times and ended up having a breakdown. No one knows. Not even my narcissistic mother. Im only 20 years old and when I tell you, I've spent half of my life being depressed... IT'S SO DIFFICULT and people think you can just be happy like it's a choice, if happiness was a choice I would be like that forever. But it's not.
@@itsamunyall Yeah it's not only infuriating but heartbreaking as well that family and friends sometimes take the things you do as a result of mental illness personally. They think you are being depressed and not wanting to do anything to hurt them, at least in the beginning prior to recovery.
All my parents talk to me about is studies... Can't really remember the last time they asked how I was doing. Nothing except studies.
I'm a random person but I agree with the person above. Love is being a friend family or partner or mentor or teacher etc who is a listening ear, a slice of cake and a sandwich... Yeah person before me said it all.
Been struggling with chronic depression since I was 12. 20 years of depression, and counting. It's not easy and sometimes I've been close to doing something really stupid, but so far here I am.
💜
Try moving.. If u could
I know this is weird but I feel like I know you @wolfgang i'm 20years old too and I've been depressed for the longest time. I've never been diagnosed though
Happy to hear your story one day and have it shared to the world!
@@itsamunyall I mean 20 years of depression, I'm 32 currently. Maybe I wrote it bit confusingly. I've been "formally" diagnosed, even though it doesn't make my depression any more real than anyone else's. Stay strong and stay safe. There will be better times coming.
I'm so tired of depression I just want to be happy
I'm diagnosed with depression and I relate to a lot of these so hard. Especially the days of not wanting to do anything. With added pressure of my mom always expecting things from me that she later tells me I can't do. I have a loving fiancé by my side and even then it's still so hard to live with.
To who ever sees this little slice of my story, please know that you are not alone and it's okay to have days where you can't do anything. What I do is set 1 goal a week or even 1 month. Whether it be I treat myself to something that I really want or to pick up 1 grade in school or even get out of bed. 1 little goal can help, even with my depression it helps me get out of bed.
Even small tasks like brushing my hair, changing my clothes, picking out what I want for breakfast and lunch are considered to be huge accomplishments for me
@@PearlFirexx 😭 You're right
@@PearlFirexx same your're right then everyone who thinks that we're lazy but depression won't let us do anything and if we can it takes a lot of effoirt to do it
Oh my god is this why I am feeling this way?? It's increasing day by day but very small....what to do now?
Thank you for this I'm suffering from people who is toxic and calling me lazy and I'm so stressed out :(
I m also suffering
same, just remember that people still love u, even if it doesn’t seem like it.
Ah thank u.
Oh wow man even im suffering and it's so hard getting by..
@@everydayfun9531 all of us are suffering
I wish i could donate my life to someone who wants to live
I've been diagnosed with depression this year. It's just so hard to even open your eyes. My parents told me that I just being lazy, and my gf told me to get over with it. What a month. Now, I'm feeling better. But deep down I know, I might be fall into depression again if people keep pushing me too hard. To all who read this, keep strong, you can do this. It's not easy, but I believe we can survive. Seek help from professional, not from google. Wish you all the best.
Thank you for this short message… I feel the same as you do… but you can get through it! I believe in you!
You be strong too. Seek those who are understanding. People really don't understand depression if they have never had it. Prayer works.
Get away from your Parents and gf. They are toxic and bad for your health if they can't take care of you. Maybe they are the problem get away from them, and take care of yourself.
Just don't choose a narcissistic therapist, u will suffer more... Finding decent care in a capitalist society is becoming rare. I lifted depression by sitting in the backyard... lighting some firewood & looking up at the sky. I connected to God because I had No where else to go. I took that light & placed it right on top of the feeling of depression. God spoke to me..
All I heard was... No weapon formed against a child of God shall prosper. Evil 👀 ...uses depression as a weapon to hold us down. Cast that demon Out of yr life & let it know that in the end... Jesus Wins.
I suffered from intense depression in my 20's. Had no friends, rarely interacted with family, and attempted suicide twice, although I never told a soul. My sister would mock me by saying "You have a great life. What do you have to be depressed over?" Did she truly believe this was something I chose to go through? I would NEVER wish what I went through on anyone. I probably still suffer from depression, but it has lessened over the years. I don't know if I would say that I'm better now. I live alone, away from others, and rarely interact face to face with people. I just, I don't feel the motivation to do so. Guess my depression still resides in me.
Same buddy... I can feel you....I cannot give you any false motivation because I know most of the time it doesn't work with depressed people....but I really wish that our lives will change for better...I just hope....
Yup. I think others who have never experienced true depression or suicidal thoughts confuse our experiences with sadness. It is not a superficial and fleeting feeling, yet a deeply rooted thought process that can't be controlled. I always hated it when people would say "think happy thoughts!" or "count your blessings!" If it were that easy...
I suffer from depression and my sister calls me a crybaby and makes my self-esteem worse, calling me fat. Ugly and everything, but I guess I agree with her....
Sounds to me your sister was confusing sadness with depression. They are absolutely NOT the same.
I'm 36 years old. I've been doing a lot of research (especially on this channel). And I'm pretty sure I've been struggling with depression for 20 years now. As a male, I've always had the message that it's not ok to ask for help... I finally made an appointment to start therapy in a few days. Just the thought of possibly getting back to being the man I used to be, is so exciting. I had forgotten what it felt like to smile for real, instead of because I felt it was required by the situation
Damn hope you start feeling better
I hope you get there. Believe, you can do it x
I can relate. So excited for your journey! I wish you all the best
I'm glad you took the initiative and though it may be a tough journey, you always deserve to feel better. You deserve to find yourself again and I hope every ounce of energy you need is readily available ✨
@@belltowercollective7821 thank you
1:23 You can’t snap out of it
2:05 You cant cheer yourself up
2:44 you’ve lost interest in everything
3:20 you can function like you used to
4:02 your laziness isn’t triggered by anything
4:49 your laziness isn’t a choice
Hope this helps :)
thanks this helps I have all of these please put me out of my pain I will die very soon I can't get out of this pain and suffering that I have
Depression is due to childhood trauma, repressed emotions.
To anyone who is reading this now : Everything will pass. You are so worthy to this world. I'm struggling with ptsd everyday and I'm trying so hard to heal myself. I know you're tired. I know it's exhausting. I know you can't feel anything. But please remember you are so worthy. You can do this even if you don't have enough strenth. There is a hope in your life. You need to find it. It's okey to walk slowly. It's okey to cry. It's totally okey to not to be okey. You are a human. Let's be kind with everyone. I'm so proud of you all. You are not alone. Let's keep fighting..😊❤️ *sorry for my bad english.* (Sending warm hugs) ❤️
I have to pass with it. I can't just watch it all get better, I actually have to make it better. Every. Single. Day. It will pass only if I work to make it pass.
I think I just very recently greatly alleviated my PTSD. It was by no means easy. 4+ years of PTSD, and the last month had been the worst it's been, the biggest rollercoaster.
I don't know how far along into your PTSD journey through hell, but given enough time not away from stressful triggers, you will lose your memory, and wake up confused and not understand who you are anymore. Where you already don't recognize yourself, you will REALLY lose that thread of identity, and have no hold on the past. Multiple personalities and no consistent identity.
I don't know what I did that alleviated my PTSD. Maybe it was talking to trustworthy people, helping them through their problems, or reaching out and talking about my trauma to multiple trustworthy people and a therapist in a very desperate attempt to get my story across before I forget it or lose my cognitive function which is the norm. I know throughout this time, my personality and cognitive power STILL kept changing drastically and rapidly.
But eventually it reached a point to today, where I'm calm and collected, the way I was before the PTSD. And I'm very taken aback at the transformation, like I DIDN'T just travel through hell just yesterday and the week before, where I wasn't completely off-the-rails and unhinged due to my inability to control my emotions, my cognitive function, my memory.
I don't know what more to tell you, as someone else with PTSD. I just want to give you advance warning to maybe help guide you when you eventually experience these things.
I actually had restorative sleep and a good dream I can somewhat remember today. It's been so long since I've felt that. I feel the pleasant tingliness on my skin as I lay in bed. For 4+ years I forgot that that was a thing.
The drama and anger and paranoia, mistrust, isn't there anymore, when it was there just the day before, week before, month before, for 4 years.
I really am taken aback.
What a beautiful post. I couldn't have said it better myself ....and "it's ok to walk slowly". How many times that's the first sign something is bothering me, so I write or read.
I’ve been feeling depressed lately and told my parents about it. They said that they will seek help for me, and I’m glad I said it. But the thing is, even if I have depression, being the introvert that I am, I don’t want attention so I’m probably not going to talk about it. There are many people which are probably gonna say that I’m faking it, or to just get over it. It is not fun…
If you think you have depression or any other mental illness like me, please seek help because it’ll probably help you…
My age is 19 and Idk but everyday I get scared at night while sleeping and I’m going through in the worst time because I don’t have anyone who is emotionally connected with me, and Also I don’t feel comfort with my fam to talk very deep things and I don’t have that kind of even one friend to whom I can express my feelings
I wish things get better and I wish for everyone also and take care be strong 😊🙏🏼
Trying to find your primordial light may help. Your inner self lives in darkness so when u search ur inner self for comfort your searching in the darkness. Deep within that darkness exists a light that's the spark of life and contains ur knowledge that's been dormant for sometime. Through meditations that focus on breathing techniques aimed at moving energy around the body and breathing it in from different directions outside our bodies and aiming it out different areas of our bodies. There is a technique where u can breath in up through ur stomach into ur lungs and up I to the place in ur brain where the pineal gland is that massages it and helps to open ur third eye. Be sure to accept what's averse to u externally so ur not cutting off parts of your internal self which helps u feel whole as u accept parts of yourself u unknowingly reject when you reject anything outside of your body. Understand your born perfect and haven't made mistakes as every experience gets us to where we need to be to evolve so no matter how 'bad' something feels or appears to be understand it's necessary even if the reason isn't easily discovered. So drop any feeling of shame guilt or feelings of being unworthy. Self acceptance is practiced by accepting every person we come into contact with and interact with. Conflict between u and another is not bad it's a triggered a fear formed from trauma usually early childhood and veiw the conflict with gratitude as it presents an opportunity to address a fragmented part of self or a place inside that requires attention or it serves to halt something ur not meant to do. Don't try n figure out what it is u want in life but instead quiet ur mind and let ur feelings with no thoughts flow from ur chest out to source which is connected to ur chest by an energy chord. When letting ur soul in ur chest communicate to source with ur feelings good or bad or indifferent angry happy doesn't matter then source can feed ur soul what it needs to feel better raising ur vibrational energy. Try n manifest only to do what ur created to do and not manifest what u were taught to desire.. We live in a world governed by the law of attraction so ur level of energetic vibration is very important as a low vibration associated with grief depression and sadness will attract tragedy and loss. Doing the previously mentioned practices will raise ur vibrational level making u capable of attracting things we associate with gain joy and success. Take a personality test like the mbti and find ur personality type and watch videos everyday on CZcams explaining all about your personality. Enjoy learning all the wonderful traits your blessed with that u may not know or may have taken for granted. Get to know urself well. If one of ur personality traits is something like 'very private and not like to communicate personal feelings that may make cause u to feel vulnerable' u can embrace that as a very good trait however recognise the strength in practicing communicating feelings as it's not bad not to however things we don't like can be viewed by ourselves as an area that's weak and like a body builder we want a full workout....if the body builder only did lower body work they would be lopsided. So to if we don't recognise that all aspects of us can become stronger or at least acknowledged and accepted we risk offending parts of us we can't see nor hear and can be setting ourselves up for shame. Try not to judge any of life harshly. We r all just as capable as one whose committed atrocities however so too r we just as capable of one who commits selfless sacrifice n acts of inspirational beauty. If u can't find time to do these things consider becoming homeless or living in a shelter where rent isn't required and u can devote urself to the university of YOU. Your self knowledge and expertise of self is by far more valuable than any job or college in existence. Please let me know if u find these things helpful and keep me updated on ur progress. I have a feeling ur depression will be gone before u r done reading this message. Why? Because u needed to know what move to make in life and the choices u have had aren't worth choosing from. I've suggested things that are easy fun and accessible and are free. So u have a tool bag now to build ur life with. As you feel better and are able to take family and lack of communication on as if it's ur own fault U can say to ur mom or brother or uncle or father.....whoever.....say I have been working on myself to resolve things I felt I was lacking from others and I discovered that I have been creating my inability to relate because I wasn't accepting myself and had some self hate for not feeling good and confident but since I began to get to know me and accept myself and like myself I've noticed that our relationship seems to be better and I realize now that my Outlook had been putting a barrier between us which made me feel more isolated and I ended up with depression. I'm working hard on focusing on acceptance of myself and self love and as I realize I'm really liking me I want to let u know I'm very thankful that u put in the incredible difficult task of giving me life. Maybe apologise for being distant and explain u hadn't become depressed out of animosity just out of misunderstanding ur feelings of a young person at a transitional time. Become autonomous and self actualize and help others in ur family to do the same.....if they should present an issue or concern do as I did with u. Point them to recourses that help now not something that may or may not work and takes months to find out. When out in the world armed with knowledge of self and ur strengths and things u r naturally good at try n get involved in an activity that your personality is good at and u enjoy. Then u will meet people u have things in common with. Make an effort to do eye contact smile with ur eyes cuz u might have a mask on and introduce yourself. Ask questions about them and show interest. If u hit it off ask for there number or offer yours even if it's to text a website you know of that you think would be beneficial to them because of my something they said while conversing. When the activity is ending maybe say I'm getting an ice cream before I go home anyone wanna join me....someone may say I'm hungry but I want a burger and u can say where do u wanna go? I'm sure they will have ice cream....all burger places do. Make sure and be friendly with everyone not just the one person who u feel most comfortable with. Text them next time ur gonna do something and see if they wanna join. Have as much fun as u can!!!!. Okay ...you ready? Steady.....Go get ur life!!!!!
@@jodisherland5335 hello I don’t have a any words to explain my feelings, thank you so much Sherland for taking the time and making me understanding about it 😊 it means a lot and you also take care and I’ll be also fine and will follow these amazing ways to stay calm relax and happy, thanks a lot 😊🙏🏼 take care
@@rohitsingh6578 take the appreciation you feel towards me now and aim It at urself. So in other words we are all one. Think of me as your self leaving yourself messages so you can feel appreciation for who u r try to imagine anyone you u admire as urself and then direct all the love u feel towards them at urself. That's teaching u self love. Because life is all one so anyone else is you. So anyone u wanna kick it with is you too ...so we have to learn to be our own best friends and use the people around us as mirrors.if we see the people around us conflicting we turn in words and look at our selves and accept what we see outside yourself . The more I us that do this the faster we get put back together. to me there is just too much sadness and suffering and I know pain veru well so if I can use my experience to help others find themselves I feel like I e done something worthwhile. I need to feel like my life has meaning....so thank u for the very gracious reply. You made my whole month brighter! Happy holidays :)
Number six explains a lot on my end. I've gone through all of those "Be happy", "Don't be sad" motivational videos and things, but they never really worked 'cause I just couldn't pull myself out of the funk
My laziness makes me depressed. It's like a cycle. I'm not achieving my goals and distracted entertaining myself with non-growth things. But doing growth things is stressful so it's easier to procrastinate doing something I'll get an immediate reward from. Which makes me depressed.
Take the red pill.....life is difficult anyhow
Hey Psych2go, how can I tell my parents or ask for help concerning this? They’re constantly on my back, comparing me to their hardworking selves and I just feel a lot of pressure and stress as a result. I often blame myself because I can’t do anything about our hyperactive society, and going against the tide just might make me even less motivated and more depressed. Not sure if you guys will see this but anyway I very much appreciate your videos and the awareness you spread through them, thank you for such informative and comforting content! 💜
Same, i feel this way too... i dont know how to tell mom, shes always positive and such. I dont want to make her sad and start blaming herself for it
I also feel this way. My parents are the most positive people I know and they are always encouraging me to feel happy. I just can't shake off the feeling that I'm just....not. I wonde how to tell them everyday but I just can't bring myself too. I think I feel just a little bit better knowing that I'm not alone in this struggle
Do you have any friends who know about this? (I don't so if you don't either don't feel bad)
If so maybe you could ask them to say something to your parents/parent and hopefully they would tell you what your friend told them and ask you if that's true and then you could explain to them
The only other I can think of is to just come out and say it (I'm not one to talk I can't even get myself to do this)
I hope this helps and I hope you get the help you need
Sounds like you have toxic parents. Mine are the same way too. You probably should talk to your therapist about this.
@@iamjohnporter67 unfortunately they may not have a therapist
But I do sorta know what it's like my dad is toxic I'm really sorry you have to go through this
No one should have to go through this
I feel so related to these videos 😭
Same
I agree
same
I love this channel so much! (: this helps me know and acknowledge that I'm not just lazy...I'm just depressed): but this channel feels like I'm not alone (:
Happy to see that the content could be useful!
Everything will be ok soon ♥️
My dad once said "depression is when you don't think you can be happy" im so glad that someone actually knows what's going on and knows that it's not a choice
I never admit that I had depression until I seen this video, it describes all things happen on myself. Pray for me, I’ve gone through a lot adversity.
You always seem to post whenever I'm not feeling my best. Thank over and over again :)
Happy to know the content could make you feel better!
Ive suffered with depression all my life and still do till this very day. I take meds and talk to others, but nothing changes. Crying almost everyday in my sleep, in my arms, even at school, but I hide that. Putting a fake smile not only hurts those I love, but it hurts me because I wanna show a real smile. I'm exhausted mentally and physically everyday. Even my family can see. They try to help, but nothing works. I wish those who suffer from depression like me, keep your head up, don't fall down you stand back up. What ever is trying to bring you down is already beneath you
Bonnie, Life and people will never happen the way you want. Develop your mental muscles. To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. When taking a walk, at office, in school, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce negative media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 Thank you...
@@FatherlessDog . A reminder--Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even during my normal activities and I am feeling relaxed and healthy. Anywhere-anytime it can be done. The best part is nobody comes to know that you are doing the breath observing practice as there is no deep breathing or sound. Normal life is not affected. Read my msg and do the practice regularly. Best wishes. Senior counsellor.
So true!
@@Je11keng If you have problems of stress or overthinking read the msg I sent yoiu and do the simple practice regularly to feel better. . Best wishes. Sr. Counsellor.
Love these videos, they've been helpful for me and possibly everyone here
Really glad to here!
@@Psych2go 😁💜
I feel appreciated and my feelings are valid TwT it's hard when someone close to you, parents, downplay your experiences and feelings for they are just minor problems and not a big deal :(
Question: Do some people still believe it's impossible for children to be depressed?
I can tell you from personal experience that it won't help a child feel better by showing them Bible verses that condemn sloth and self-pity while demanding they beg God to forgive them for laziness. In fact, it really complicated my childhood depression!!
It would be more biblically accurate to share verses with them like, “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted“ and “Come to me all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” And to go through the book of Lamentations with the child.
And for the genuinely lazy child, show them the verses that show God made us to make the world a better place through working. Working was once enjoyable, but because of sin it has been subjected to futility. Work is often painful drudgery now instead of fulfilling and joyous. However, those who seek the Lord and pursue his honor in their work will see a renewed world where work and rest are no longer mutually exclusive. The Lord is pleased when we are faithful to work so that we may give to others in his name. He himself gives the strength to “not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” So we may hate to work, but all who seek the Lord work with hope. We work to please him, not our bosses or teachers or parents. We work for an infinitely kind Master who is most pleased to give us joy in serving him.
As a person who has been dealing with depression myself it helps having people taking time to make these videos it's a very troubling time right now as we watch these videos and the people who watch this like I do we should definitely try to look out for each other
I certainly don't feel so alone. This channel is a good support group.
Imagine having Asperger’s, social anxiety, MDD, dyslexia, and bi polar disorder all at the same time… oh wait… that’s me…
dont care💀
@@KanoaTVOfficial they werent talking to you
@@KanoaTVOfficial sorry to hear the sad news about your mom 🤭
@@KanoaTVOfficial I don't think you were asked for an opinion. And you clearly do care as you felt a need to comment. Putting others down doesn't help your own pain. I get that misery loves company and I've done the same myself, but I digress. Maybe you should meditate about why you feel like leaving comments you know are going to hurt vulnerable people is something you do. There's no shame in getting help.
@@KanoaTVOfficial hey thats something you shouldn't say to anyone going through all these.
I’m in a really bad, depressive episode and I haven’t had one this bad in over a decade where I was first hospitalized for my depression. My girlfriend and I just moved in together three months ago and she’s been visiting friends and I’ve literally been on my own, with no (meaningful) human contact for a month and half. I know I probably need to go to the hospital because I’ve stopped eating and I’m hurting myself and thinking of doing much worse, but we have two cats and I can’t leave them alone because I don’t know when she’ll be back. I just moved to a new city and I have no friends here and my family are hours away so they can’t reasonably help. I’m just feeling so lost and alone and I want it to stop
bring your cats to the hospital with you as therapy cats or get a therapy cat and maybe expresses your feelings to your gf
I've been depressed my whole life. Still not through it all. Still think of myself as a piece of garbage and I feel so much guilt and embarrassment for being so "lazy" and unreliable. Maybe I really should start seeing a mental health professional.
With someone whom has depression I do have to say this is all very true. I almost failed school last year and my teachers just said I was lazy but my mother wanted me to get help and I'm glad she did. If you do have depression please do get help! It my help you feel ok for a little bit but remember they need to know more about you before they can diagnose you. ((Unless you were already diagnosed))
I can't get help so I will kill myself I am weak and powerless
Well true, I haven’t been myself in ages, I’ve lost interest in the hobbies I used to do, and I have no motivation anymore in school and work and I’ve given up on myself completely. I don’t have the self drive in myself anymore. I’m just always on my phone trying to distract myself from reality but soon I get bored of it quickly. I don’t think I have depression, maybe I’m just tired. I did go to therapy once and I regret lying to them and wish I could go back. My parents would never let me go see a doctor about my mental state cuz they wouldn’t believe me. Once I did open up to my parents yet they didn’t do anything, they just apologised to me and that was it. Guess my expectations were too high. Lmao sorry for venting I just wanted to tell someone, anyone, just wanted to talk.
Anyone reading this, you have a good day/night and say safe♥️♥️
Complete and utter lack of motivation, hopelessness, tired and laying down all the time while your house goes to shambles, feeling alone in the world, and no energy or capacity to do what you have to do as an adult. And anxiety comes to join the party as well. That’s how it’s been since 2020.
I believe that feeling easily overwhelmed, even by mundane tasks, is another depression marker.
I've been depressed since I was 2 years old and was in a toxic family, so didn't get any treatment until 28.
Feels like I already had the best part of my life stolen from me. I'm living in a homeless shelter and it's the best environment I've ever lived in. Idk how to even handle that.
I have no idea how to handle being around people who think I'm a good person and act as if they like me. I spent my whole life around people who hated me and constantly told me I was the worst person on earth.
Same
My mother hurting me for 10 years so I decided to leave her
I really hope I never get depression it sounds like one of the worst things someone could go through
just do what makes you happy aslong as it’s not harming any one, and don’t be around negative people , if u do all that them you’ll be good
I suffer depression, but talking to people who care about me, makes me feel better. Sometimes for a little bit
Guilt has always been the hardest for me to get over. I’m Bipolar 1 vet with PTSD and I constantly feel guilt when I can’t get things done. It only makes it worse but that’s depression for you I guess.
The animation has so much emotion!
Also I’ve been feeling that why for years…
Im only 15 and a third of that life is sadness
Glad you like the animation!
I’ve had depressive periods in the past but this time I’ve really felt it. Until now (M.sc economics) all academics had been a ease but since this new program I’ve felt lost, there is no joy in my life only function. Now I’m terrified to the point where I’m nearly throwing up over the fear of failure. I’ve never felt so alone and ashamed, I’ve said all this because well 2 reasons, firstly online consoling is bullshit, and secondly I’ve gotten into my dream college the best in my country top program all of that stuff but it isn’t everything so to fellow overachievers please take care of yourselves.
I have depression and I spend most of the day bed-ridden because of it. There are so many things I could do, but I just don't feel like doing anything. I have no hobbies, no goals, nothing.
i wish that everyone could see that depression is not something that we choose; its something that we cant control inside us: so please if anyone is having depression issues help him and dont mock them or make fun of them.
Thank you I had depression in the past and I got rid it when I met someone special and again thank you for making these videos they really help a lot of people
I'm depressed. You're depressed. We're all depressed. What's the point anymore?
Depression is like anus.....everyone has it
VERBAL ABUSE SURVIVOR
I just want to share my story
For a little backstory my mother was verbally abused by her father when she was very little up to her early 18 birthday. Right now I’m currently 15 and I’m glad I know the signs of abuse and educated myself to break the cycle she thought it was ok to talk to me like that EVER SINCE I WAS SMALL she didn’t break the cycle. I moved with dad and he has custody of me he makes me feel warm and welcome and I’m truly greatfull. When I was with my birth giver I was just so drained and tired I also thought I was lazy. But trust me these are YOUR feelings don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise. You’re a wonderful human being that deserves happiness please please please reach out to someone ANYONE
sorry you got verbaly abused
I’ve just… lost interest in everything man. I’ve tried therapy for 5 years now and it only makes me feel worse. I wish the best for of you people like me. I don’t even fit in. I don’t Even feel like living anymore. I always feel guilty and I just need a hug man 😔
Thank you so much! ❤️
I have seen lots of motivational videos, attended seminars trying so many things to deal with this feeling, whenever I started doing something I feel drained. Also felt guilty for wasting my time
I don’t know if I have depression or not, but j do struggle with mental health and I really needed to hear that last one. I didn’t choose to not want to wake up because I know it won’t change my mood. I want to be active and hang out with friends but its not that easy.
5 months later after I lost the woman who raised me; my grandma, I am still trying to shake off this depression that came over me…and today is her birthday…🥺..
4:35. YeP. It’s a bunch of really bad things happening to you all at once, usually because of trauma and stress, (another reason depression & anxiety go hand in hand often) . That’s why there’s been a severe uptick in depression and mental health awareness as a whole in the past few years.
Im so lucky that my family have been super supportive of me with being diagnosed with depression my mom went far and beyond to help me and im still in therapy almost over a year later and still see my therapist cause it helps me cope with everyday life and im still on medication there is no shame in it no shame in not being okay and needing a little help everyone needs a little help now and again i still do
I have talked about going off my medication but my mom is scared i will spiral she does not want to see me in the hospital again
It's just so difficult to say something kind of motivating to someone with depression, but i would say that always have hope in that better days will come and that this current battles are just a small part of the path of life you have to keep going. Peace and love.
Number 6 hit me hard. So much guilt. Thank you for this. Truly.
I cried during this video thank you for making this 💜
Literally me these past few weeks in finals... i even had to drop out of 2 classes because of it... but i can retake them next semester. I hope you all can get through this and know that you're not alone
ahh this isn’t talked about enough, finals week is so stressful rn. i also had to drop a class and i’m mad at myself for it because i don’t wanna retake it but i also literally don’t have the mental capacity rn to endure it unfortunately
@@emmyseignon there is no shame in dropping out of singular classes. You'll get through this, just believe in yourself and keep pushing forward!
@@matthewcenteno5515 tysm matt, wishing the same for you! just keep going
I think people often miss the ''illness'' part of mental illness. How could anyone possibly 'snap out of' an illness?
That's a good point :)
Thanks! This what really helpful, also you animation style is very cute!
Hello just wanted to say your vids always help me a lot and learn as well😊
I’m having a depressive episode rn. I always feel so guilty. I was diagnosed 4 years ago and I’ve had many ups and downs since, even a couple times I would’ve told you I was completely over it. Since I’m used to it I forget how debilitating it really is, and I feel like I’m just supposed to suck it up, but I can’t. The journey to recovery and better quality of life is really hard, I have PTSD and things adding to the challenge so o try to remind myself to be patient. I didn’t know what to do this morning. I couldn’t/can’t move, haven’t even used the bathroom (tmi sorry), so I just started binging this channel. It makes me feel less alone, and the cartoons make me really happy. You’re doing amazing things and I’m so grateful to have this channel as a resource especially on my down days. Thanks friend.
What hurts is how some people I know think that I can just *stop* being sad when I want to.
My parents: *Gurl you're being lazy af*
Me: Nah I'm just _depressed_
If nothing goes well it's the end.. Of me
Good timing. I’m sitting here on my couch wanting to go to bed but too tired after finally folding my clothes that have been in my hamper for a week…
according to my mom, I am taking my depression. When I told her, she reacted supportively. But in front of dad, she guilted me without limits. She's the reason of my problems. Mental and Emotional.
This really helps :)
School: Let's pretend we didn't see this.
It hurts a lot to talk about it, I feel like being depressed makes everyone figuratively give me the finger. I talk about my lack of motivation, school still wants me to do stuff to be successful.
This... I really needed this. After a year full of anxiety and constant compulsions brought on by OCD, I got a therapist and we worked through it. Soon enough the anxiety wasn't constant and weaker, and the compulsions were smaller and easier to ignore and manage. Finally I felt normal for the first time in a while! But soon enough I started to feel worse, I had constant existential thoughts that made me feel unreal, and I felt sad all the time and unmotivated. I caught a cold and had to stay home for a few days. When I got back I was convinced that I had my late assignments under control... But I couldn't. I just couldn't do it nothing mattered anymore I just wanted to lay down and cry all the time, sometimes for no reason. I felt extreme shame and guilt for not doing my hw, or spending time with my family and procrastinating because that was the only thing I could do. I'm still going through that but it's getting better. I feel like I'm faking it to get out of school or something but I'm not, I can't control, people with depression can't control it. Just make sure u get help and get better, talk to someone, talk to your teacher or boss as and make sure they know that something's up. My teachers were super understanding and helped me.
I wish I can show this to my mom . I really want to do something but I’m not lazy . Getting there is like a battle field .
This information can not (and will not) trigger empathy in a person that does not have any. Sadly. Family included. With depression, we ARE often alone and it is what it is until something breaks, bends, or snaps. Hopefully when the levee breaks by then all of the pieces can be recovered and be put back together. By then sometimes it's too late..
Would you like to see a video on how to approach parents with these types of topics?
@@Psych2go sure I could need that and a bunch of other kids
My parents call my brother and I lazy multiple times a day, maybe this will help me understand why for once
Omg same like today. I have a little depression 😔. No one understands me or likes me.
I didn't really know if I should write this comment or not. I noticed that there's SO MANY people who write their stories and experiences with depression and try to cheer other people up with motivational speeches.
I'm actually quite happy that there's so many people who try to help each other. But to be completely honest, for me it's not enough at all.
I myself am dealing with depression for 4 years already. It was very bad 2-3 years ago and it starts to get pretty bad once again. After reading through the comments I was touched by other people's words, but then I thought to myself, why isn't someone like that living close to me. I don't have any friends that live close to me and I lack the feeling of being loved.
What I wanted to say with the comment is that motivating comments are there, but they aren't really helping that much (for me at least).
Even if I have to deal with a lot of stupid stuff, I want you to know that I'm always there for you.
If you need someone to talk to, I'm going to listen to your problems and I'm going to try to help you.
But keep in mind that I can't help you with your depression, but I want to help as much as I can.
If you notice that your life is hitting the bottom ground, PLEASE seek help.
I'm going to a social pedagogue each Monday and he is helping me as much as he can.
So if there's something you want to talk about, you can message me any time.
“Don’t let anyone tell you that something you genuinely enjoy is weird, because they are weird for caring so much about what you enjoy.” -Dream, 2020
I was diagnosed with severe chronic anxiety a couple of months ago but the therapist I was seeing thinks I'm depressed. Starting an intensive mental health program next week and it's possible I could be diagnosed with major depressive disorder.
Love this animator
I believe that unless you have suffered some sort of depressive illness in your life, and have been in a dark place, you can never really understand how it feels, I fully identify with this video.....
These contents helped me understand what I am feeling, though sometimes I feel anxious but I'm glad I'm just lazy and not depressed.
When it gets to 2:05, everything after this time mark is true of what I am struggling with.
Hey Psych2Go,
Your channel always has these videos like "signs you're depressed, not lazy" so I was wondering if you could do a reverse one? Like "X signs you're lazy and not depressed?" Thanks :)
why
for the 14 year old girls looking for an excuse against others
@@crazebanana6432 So that people know not to misinterpret their laziness as depression/differentiate between the two concepts and look for solutions in the right places
I needed this right now. Thank you. 😊
4:48 when she said “ your not making the choice to be depressed “ is so true almost everyone in my family doesn’t understand me they think it’s because of my phone it really hurts when no one understands you they think you can just get out of it or just ignore it
It happens sometimes! But it's alright bro!! I understand that sometimes no one really understand us nd we feel ignored but u can get rid of that jst be positive nd be bestfriend of urself ❤
Reading about people grabbing multi-figures monthly as incomes in investments even in this crazy days in the market, any pointers on how to make substantial progress in earning? would appreciate
The likes of Claudia Kershaw. Really knows her way around tradi ng, its evident from her deep knowledge of how the market works, reading signals to perfection, i feel very safe trading with her.
You make it seem unreal to make up to that as a passive in come annually, when its clearly possible. I have made over 1Hunnid thousand dollars from January till now with no joke game plan from her. She’s a masterpiece and her name’s Kershaw
It’s Simple to reach her through her telgram page with the name
Which is surekershaw
This lady right here, I tradr with her she’s inventive and the P.O.T are no jokes, i won’t look awestricken u made mention of her
What’s wrong with being both?
I'm 45 and have been on Zoloft for nearly 10 years. I haven't felt depressed since but I am starting to get bored with a lot of things. I have no problems with daily routine or work but I just feel no motivation to do anything creative. I get seriously bummed out whenever I see all these couples and families or remember that all my peers are light years ahead of me. I will constantly think of myself as a failure and will never be satisfied because I never got to do anything they did when I was younger. I have constant regret and envy and fear judgment so much that I only leave the house to go to work, do errands or go on a nature hike just by myself
I don't particularly know if I do have depression. Really I don't know what I'm doing anymore. I'm just trying my best to not let it get in the way but when I try to get things like homework done I just feel like I can't and I used to do all my homework. Maybe it's because I'm in middle school now or something else. I can never word my feelings out in a way where people don't think I'm lying and multiple times my parents said they would take me to see someone but that never has happened and they've known about how I've been feeling for a while now. I keep trying to hide it from people who don't know about my feelings yet but I feel like I can't hide my true feelings forever and I think one day I might just want it all to end. I try my best to act positive for other people but that's hard when you want your entire family to die for the pain they caused you. Thank you for reading this.
Life Is so dumb what is that point of it smh
❤️sending love and light to everyone suffering with mental health💖i love yallฅ^•ﻌ•^ฅ
This really hit home for me, as someone who struggles with depression. Btw, the animation is really smooth and good!
I hate admitting it, but yes almost all of this sign related to me.
Thank you for the video, now i know what happen to me, been trying to figuring it out for months.
I'm sorry to be that guy, but this is pretty much the same video as the channel trailer with different animation... hopefully I'm not being rude with this...
First
Thanks for posting this video. I've been trying to get help for this over the last few years but it's getting worse and worse due to the situation I've been in since covid began. It's even worse being made to feel like I should just pick myself up and carry on - my manager has in a roundabout way said I shouldn't be taking too many sick days and need to put my "unselfish" hat on and try and come into work. Not a nice thing to hear especially when I'm already feeling so bad about myself and where my future's heading.
I needed this😭 thank you so much!!!🥺
I realize that not everyone has the complete option to just "walk away" from the situations that make depression even worse.
After over 2 decades of experience with mental illness and depression being the heaviest hammer hitting me every day, I never imagined a way out. I've had to fight for a way out.
While I've come out on the other side of this seemingly endless darkness, I know one thing for sure, and that's the fact that I won't be writing a book about it, making a CZcams video, doing any talks about it either. The ultimate reason for why not, is because everyone is living a different life, and after everything I survived, I don't want anyone attempting to replicate my long process to stability, because what works for me, it's not something that will effectively help everyone.
There's no miracle cure, there's no instant procedures, and all I will ever endorse, is whatever is working out best for you, keep doing it. If you're not there yet, don't give up, because you'll want to quit so many times.