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Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-hosts Justin and Lauren! Have you ever heard someone say something so crazy you just have to stop and let your brain recuperate? Sometimes people say things and you're questioning if you heard them right.. well these stories are no exception. From a partner not being attracted to you after surgery to you MIL saying something terrible these stories are preposterous.. What're your thoughts?!
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Index:
00:00 -- Start
04:21 -- Story 1
17:36 -- Story 2
29:44 -- Story 3
45:34 -- Story 4
01:08:17 -- Story 5
01:20:05 -- Story 6
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Sorry for Lauren’s chip asmr 😭 I was unable to cut mic lines this episode of all times. Sorry y’all!!
I love chip asmr!!!
Maybe move the mic away next time. It wasn’t very loud but a little disrespectful to eat when people are listening for your input and convo.
@@user-sn9sc3lk1v I only did because my mic is usually completely cut when the other person is talking but there was a technical issue this time and the mic wouldn’t cut.
@@Lauren-ib3okFree ASMR? I’m here for it. Love you girl!
@@SamiMichelle love you back 🥺
Story 1: I’m ngl, as soon as I heard “didn’t tip waitress” followed by “48 male” I already decided he was the AH before the story confirmed it 😂
OMG SAME 😂
BAHAHAH
LOL SAME. I was like “ Yes. Immediate asshole”.
No not immediately asso just because hes a man who didint tip kinda sexist while i agree this guy did suck thesnt mean u should judge before hearing the reason why what if she was a bad waitress
@@tiffmitch702what if it was a joke & you need to relax, maybe?
48 yr old guy coming on to a most likely 16-18 yr old. Of course she was disgusted. Because it's disgusting 🤮
Look story one OP definitely is an asshole. But stop tryna make it into something it isn’t. There’s no ages mention. So stop trying to assume shit💀 y’all try to make it something so much more than it isn’t. AGAIN. DUDE IS A CREEP. but you have no idea their ages, you know what they say about assumptions.
I THOUGHT THIS TOO! Most waitresses are young. He is VERY lucky she didn't report them for pedophila
And to know the other waitresses that normally laugh are only doing that because they’re uncomfortable and creeps like this take it as positive reinforcement
Most likely lol it could have ben a 30yr for all we know😂
Genuinely bc likely the same age bracket as her dad?!?!😷🥴
Story 1: So...OP...1. Harassed the waitress 2. Got mad at the waitress for not liking the harassment 3. Got mad at the waitress for the CHEFS mistakes 4. Got his friends to harass the waitress 5. HAS A WIFE and still said "I guess you aren't on the menu". Ew ew ew
6. He wanted her to beg for her tip when he told her why she didn't get one and was mad when she didn't play along. He's a disgusting!
Wife needs to ask this guy how he'd feel if his daughter was a server and got that comment.
Exactly my thoughts
You wrapped it all up perfectly here! Thank you!!!
don’t forget rhyming off a list of her mis-steps 😂 dude’s from another planet
Everytime my grandpa took us out to eat, he always said “You’re a good cook!” in a slight Norwegian accent after paying the check. That’s how you joke with the server, not objectifying.
RIGHT jokes are supposed to funny, and sexual harassment isn’t funny
Your grandpa sounds very sweet!
That sounds like my almost 80 year old Boomer father. Never in a million years would he objectify anyone and he makes cheesy jokes that I love. See, there are good things about boomers. ❤
Because Norwegian Grandpas RULE! I miss mine so much.
YES! This humor is welcome and encouraged.
Story 4- he found HER attractive. He doesn’t find an extremely altered version of his wife attractive.
*extremely mangled version
Uncanny Valley = a THREAT lmao
it’s kinda sucks bc the wife obviously got surgery to feel better about herself, but by changing herself she caused the person who loves her so miss her natural face. idk i’m all for changing yourself as you’d like, but realize that the people around you already love how you look, and changing that can have those consequences
Nope sry, that btch who didn’t listen to her husband and got the extreme surgeries has to deal with those consequences. He tried everything he could to prevent this from happening and told her that by doing so, it’s a likely possibility. She didn’t listen and still did it ALL, which means if she did it for herself then fine, but she is NOT ALLOWED to be upset or hurt by his reaction. That’s actually absurd…
Story 4, he was in a no win situation. I feel horrible for both of them.
she should have considered her partner’s opinion as well. obviously her’s is the most important when it comes to her own choices, but him missing the face he fell in love with is heartbreaking and totally valid.
she is so insecure. It was her sister and mom telling her that he would leave her but he literally told her he doesn't like unnecessary plastic surgery. She has major insecurity issues.
@@MeowMeowDuck Yup. Sacrificing what seems to be a healthy relationship over something super shallow.
As an indigenous person that practice traditional spirituality, it is NEVER ok to approach grieving people like that. It’s a common rule for everyone and anyone to not bring up people’s trauma EVER unless the person with the trauma brings it up first. So uncouth and worse, that woman made it about themselves, not the grieving family, not how upsetting it made the whole party especially the kids. If this person does have “abilities” it’s still bad medicine.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I haven’t gotten to that story yet, so I’m not commenting on it, but I gotta disagree with your views on trauma. You should never ignore things like that. That stuff builds up and makes everything worse. You need to deal with it immediately. I’m not saying to try to fix everything quickly, but to start addressing and trying to deal with it quickly. I’ve heard so many people talk about how they held onto traumatic events and kept them or their feelings about them hidden for ages. Stuff like that can eat your whole life and fill you with false shame and guilt. Yes, it hurts to be confronted, but it’s the difference between being pushed to a healthier place or finding comfort in pain and isolation. Trauma is something you can work through and overcome and telling yourself it can’t be helped just gives people an excuse to ignore the pain and isolation of others.
Okay, so I just got through Story 5. I guess first of all that was more recent trauma. It was an active thing that the whole family was feeling and was weighing on them. They were all in the middle of the grieving process and were probably reminiscing about it plenty, so I don’t think it was a buried topic, and it was probably fine to bring it up and discuss it in the moment, but to jump in with your weird foreign procedures and try to inject yourself into their grieving process without even vetting them beforehand feels way out of line and borderline narcissistic.
LMAO first story.. I am a server and have heard that line many times. When I do have inappropriate guests, I hand them their tab and let them know that dealing with this behavior is actually *not* part of my job. I definitely do not laugh and joke back.
Doing what people call "the lords work", make them know they shouldn't do that 💪🏽
good. i hope they get a taste of their own medicine and learn how uncomfortable it is to be preyed on as a service worker. I'm sorry you had to deal w that
That's what I was saying. I served for many years and it's unfortunate that I did not respond to these situations better. I have been told to smile and had my ass grabbed, etcetera. I think the best way to handle a situation like this is the way you handle it. You let them know you're not going to put up with it and tell the manager and either a guy can take care of them or they get kicked out.
I served for many years and would never put up with abusive customers - they are 100% not going to tip anyway.
I got pretty good at telling them to G F themselves without actually saying those words, lol
It's purely part of "the customer is always right " type of thing. Which I hate and find gross. A customer doesn't have every right as soon as he walks in a restaurant or store or whatever... manners and politeness are not optional Sir!!!! His comment no matter what the context was rude.
Lauren referring to an autograph as a signature is so humble and adorable.
awww stop i didnt even notice teheh
i thought the same!!
In some languages it's the same word. Like in Dutch: handtekening (handdrawing)
@@pienutbutter.. oooo I love handdrawing
Story 4: if your partner got a huge face tattoo, against your wishes, I feel like that would be a very similar situation.
Ya. He's not in the wrong imo. She felt that insecurities over her looks was more important than her relationship. Now she is upset about the very obvious consequences of her actions.
I mean how many women get mad when their significant other shaves their beard.
Story 1: I am a cook, and when bad/annoying customers arrive the servers imediatly come to us to warn "that guy/girl is here, brace yourselves". You won't get spit on your food (not at a decent restaurant at least), but we will put the least ammount of effort possible into your food in the hope that you NEVER COME BACK.
I read cook as cock
Just felt the need to tell you because wow I am tired
Dont blame y'all for that one tbh
Thank you from a server. I use to work at a restaurant that had a regular who was rude to all the staff and never tipped. I kept telling the cooks to wait to put up his ticket. Usually he’d wait like 30 minutes for a stack of 3 pancakes lmao
Story 4: she never once mentioned to her husband that her mom and sister were pushing for her to get surgery in the first place? for the entire year they argued back on forth about it? never once thought to mention it? why? this never would've happened in the first place if she was more open and honest with him. it doesn't feel like a good resolution to me
Right!!!! And the fact that he KEPT telling her please don't do this, you dont need to do this. Look at these people who got those procedures done and how it turned out!! Its not attractive, please dont do it. How does her family telling her that he would leave her if she didnt do this, trump anything that HE HIMSELF said to her!? Its crazy. Why wouldnt she have said -well, this is what my family keeps telling me, is this something i need to worry about?? They could've come to the conclusion that her family is HORRRRRRRRRIBLE to her, and shouldn't be so involved in her life if this is what they do to her. Her sister, her own mother..... disgusting.
As a spiritual person, that lady is incredibly dumb, insensitive and foolish. You DON'T tell somebody that, especially after a recent passing. You don't tell that to anybody unless they ask for it. Gods, I can't understand how people can just say stupid shit like that and think it's okay. When you're actually in this line of existence, with those abilities, you know how to walk through conversations like that. Respect the deceased, respect the living and understand that you're not the main character. Imo he (OP) doesn't need to apologize. She had no right and the brother is ridiculous for being upset when his girlfriend was mad disrespectful
Totally agree. It almost makes me wonder if she's faking, bc I feel like people with that ability usually knows how to approach people with more empathy. Maybe she was just excited or something, but maybe she just thinks she has some connection that's not really there.
yea ive interacted w a lot of spiritual ppl as my mom is one and has many friends like that, and ppl vary in understanding other's comfort but i really cant imagine anyone doing that, very clearly crossed a line
I agree their take on it was kinda weird. She should never have said anything at any place or time.
Thank god I found a comment like this. She may not be faking but convinced herself she can do more than she can at the moment and is in fact, playing the main character and has now idea how to handle a grieving family. The husband is explaining how vulnerable the wife is. What if she grabs this 'contact' with her deceased son so extremely (I am sorry, that's poorly translated but the best I can at the moment) that she will totally lose herself in this?
This girls has probably no idea how to handle that based on how she handled this first conversation.
Someone truly deeply connected to the spirit realm can read the room
I remember reading the first story and it was so insane and gross. I think he mentioned how other waitresses have laughed at his and his friends' creepy jokes. And as someone who has social anxiety, I can say that it's not because they found him funny. They were uncomfortable and in disbelief. They didn't know how to respond and they probably couldn't get mad because they feared losing their jobs.
Uncomfortable laughter is definitely a thing. Especially in customer service where managers will berate you for standing up for yourself against disrespectful and disgusting customers.
They could've laughed and pretended to like it simply cuz they need the tip. So many male customers will retaliate from getting their ego hurt. If you don't laugh or give your number to them, no tip. Been there.
i was talking about how back in school boys would prey on girls often and their nervous laughter was used as proof that it was ok. nervous laughter or people accepting abuse does not and will never make predatory behavior or abuse okay!!
@@nancyanderson7335 Exactly. I can pretty much assure the OP of the first story that none of those women liked the behavior of those of he and his friends.
@@karlagonzalvez4703 Exactly! And servers basically survive off of tips. They aren't paid much.
In story 3, I wonder if the kids feel guilty about not being there more for their dad during his end of life care and they're projecting that guilt about abandoning him onto her and her moving on.
Completely agree
My first thought was "well how old are they" and then after hearing their ages that is immediately where my mind went.
I’m wondering how attentive the mother really was, she referred to him as a “veggie”. That’s super disrespectful. And I have to wonder what Tim may have said or done that OP is glossing over
I think they're definitely having different experiences from it all, at least, due to how different their presence was prior to his passing.
I think that she already did her grieving. Her husband was gone and he was never coming back. She saw that every single day and grieved that loss years before they got even got a start on it.
That’s what I was thinking. They feel guilty and are misplacing that energy on their mom, which is NOT fair. She went through years of trauma and she deserves someone good and special for herself.
First story giving me PTSD about how mad men get when your serving them and they feel so entitled that you have to accept getting hit on wtf is wrong with men like that
Absolutely I was a bartender and some men were absolutely disgusting. I don't understand how people can act like that.
@@reliebeThey act like that because they peaked in their Fraternities in college and never left that state in their minds
My thoughts on the mom moving on story is that she mightve had those years to mourn while the dad was in his vegetative state because she was there constantly but the kids weren't. They either didn't have the time to go often which is fair or didn't want to see their father that way which is also fair. But they didn't have those years to mourn before he died so the mourning process was very fresh for them when their mother started dating again, I imagine that felt like a betrayal
So trueee. I lost my dad at a young age and I watched the devastation drown my mom and then about 3 years later she was with another man. I remember feeling that way.
Also moving on is an indication that she had a happy marriage with her deceased husband. Typically if you had a good relationship you move on faster.
It sucks because it’s two different ways of grieving and both parties are valid
Yes! All of this. Plus, the mom sounds like she protected them while bearing the brunt of the work. “They have their own lives” and whatnot. I could see if she did the mom thing and shielded them from the hard stuff that they might view things differently. Like tunnel vision with her on a pedestal and the dating threw them off course. Hoping they come around.
I agree & that makes me sympathize with the mom even more.
She was alone in her suffering, and her fully grown kids barely had to deal with it.
She deserves to be happy, their feelings are valid but damn, after all this time its crazy they don’t want their mom to have peace & happiness
@@kristengilliam3137 To me it sounded like they had busy lives (in their 30s, so understandable) and feel guilty because they knew the state he was in and did not visit a lot. They are dealing with their own grief but ignoring the mental toll it took on their mom for years. My dad worked in the ER and every holiday they would get a ton of people bringing in parents who "looked sick" because they only saw them 1-2x per year and the reality was their parents were just older and actually aging and they couldn't accept it.
Story 4 it’s hard bc if it was an accident or gained weight yeah he’d be the worst. But she made a choice
Also 20 pounds isn't that much, depending on how tall you are. Rearranging a face is overnight, and in this case, extremely noticeable.
this is what i thought. i know exactly what he means when some women go overboard with plastic surgery and start looking kinda uncanny valley. it’s an unfortunate situation because he did express against it but it was ultimately her choice. especially doing it all at once is a lot
I think it’s the way he worded it. In the end, as we grow old we won’t be objectively attractive anyway (like dying old together). But he could’ve said something like “I feel like you look like a different person and it was so quick that I’m still adjusting to the new you. I miss the old face because that’s who I fell in love with”. Idk, something like that. I’m sure it is jarring to see your SO change so rapidly and it would be weird and less about attractive or not.
@@mferrariish agreed. He also voiced that he would rather her not do it beforehand
I think if you’re unattracted to you wife due to her being fat or whatever, just dont have sex with her, cause its harder to maintain A rock when youre not attracted and you cant lie to yourself. Shes still your wife so just do other stuff with her. like gardening, or some fun activities. So you can just cut out sex and leave it at that
Story 1: the worst part about being a server is that, to some people, everything that goes wrong is your fault. Also creeps
Story 5. Why did she think it was her place to provide them closure?? If they asked it’s one thing, but just unprompted? Absolutely not
For story 4 - how is no one picking up on the fact that he was very honest about not having an affair, she looked through his phone FOR AN HOUR and found nothing. He tried every way to nicely say he was just not interested in sleeping with her/turning the lights off, and didn’t want to tell her even though he told her he didn’t find it attractive BEFORE she did it. (He did say he didn’t have a say in her going through with it.) He tried everything before telling her he didn’t find her attractive. I feel like his wife changed her outward appearance because of an inward insecurity and it just changed the physical not the mental part of her insecurity. And now he is just not interested.
Love this comment 100
yeah the wife fucked up. obviously she can do as she wishes when it comes to her body, but she has no right to be upset when he’s being honest about missing the face he fell in love with.
@@Mysticbeee agreed
Story 4: I feel OPs wife getting the surgeries done in the first place was really glossed over. If I was OP I‘d feel some kind of way knowing MIL and SIL convinced my wife she needed them to keep ME, when I spent a year telling her to please not do it..
Second story, I couldn't even imagine feeling safe enough to do yoga in a house where there was a man around because I was sexually harassed so much. Knowing that someone used to have the joy of being able to trust and do yoga in yoga clothes like that and then it was taken away from her is gut wrenching
She's just insecure
@@dream6562she’s not insecure, she’s uncomfortable bc her friends’ husbands are gross children who have no respect for women
@@dream6562WHO??!
Story 6: if grandma had meant "IF your mom dies, it'll be okay. You can come live with grandma and we'll try to get through this" I'd somewhat understand that. But to say "I hope your mom dies" what the absolute fuck
I would be so creeped out if I went to a friend’s house and I found out her husband was making those comments about me. And if I had friend in my home and my husband talked that way about her I would be mortified and pissed at him.
Story 5: Anyone else getting vibes that she was about to whip out some spiritual scam stuff after her disrespectful comment? I could easily imagine she would have tried to scam the family with stones and such.
Her comment was out of touch. My mom is medium, I can feel energies but I'm more into tarot. Even if we feel such energies or if my mom see something we don't comment it in full display. You can talk one on one with person and say he is always with you or say some message but not saying it is from him. The same is with everyone who say to you that sth bad is going to happen - human brain is to powerfull- if you see sickness, you say take time to take care about yourself etc. She could be like not very well trained witch but believe me, she will receive even harder lessons than that
@@anastazjawronka5502 As someone who loves Maya Fey and Amy Rose, I'm no stranger to mystic characters. This lady is VERY SUS!
WAIT LAUREN WHAT, I’ve NEVER met someone else who doesn’t feel like their mouth is clean until they’ve basically gagged on the toothbrush. I know it’s gross but I don’t feel satisfied with a brushing job until I’ve gone far enough back on the tongue. Thank you for the validation today!
I’m the same way, we’re validated together! 😂
Same
Same
Story 4. I don't think Lauren paid attention to the story lol (love her by the way). OP handled it great until he couldn't hide his feelings anymore . His feelings are justified by her surgeries, which he didn't want at first. Justin hit it on the nail. You can love someone so much but by getting all those surgeries, he was turned off by her new look. You can't force yourself to be turned on and continue with the same sex life if attraction isn't there. I don't think they should separate, but they definitely need to sit down and talk, whether it's alone or therapy. As woman we want our man to love us mentally and physically, so she is going to be insecure for a bit, but she made the surgery decisions by herself. It sucks they are in this situation but I hope all goes well for them.
As someone who works with patients with profound brain injuries, including vegetative state, I would say NTA. One of the toughest parts about brain injuries is that you have to grieve twice- once when you lose the person they were but they are still alive and then again when they actually pass. I have seen many different ways of coping with brain injuries and it sounds like OP dealt with her grief long before he passed. The only thing I would say is that she does sound a bit cold toward her children and that they probably don’t understand the process OP went through with her grief. Some good, calm communication is needed in this situation, probably some help with a mediator/therapist to keep things in prospective for both sides.
She feels really cold! Very much “I’m starting a new life with this guy” rather than “I’m bringing a new guy into the family.” I totally see why there is friction with this family.
I get why she’s upset tho, bc she was the only person in the family taking care of him. She took her time to mourn him and grieve his memory. She doesn’t love him any less. I wish the grown kids wouldn’t be so harsh on her. The dad would probably want her to be happy anyways. It sucks when the mom probably finally felt happy and got to do what she wanted for once in years and then the kids couldn’t be happy for her. I get that they feel like this rando could never be their dad, but he’s not trying to be. I doubt this new guy would ever try to replace the dad’s memory. Idk their response felt selfish and immature and they’re all like 30-40s I forgot the ages but like….idk they all should go to family therapy they have a lot to unpack
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Story one: so…. She rejected your sad attempt at “humor” and you punished her for it… just say that dude
14:51 I used to work at a dog grooming salon and I was responsible for selling retail items. Most of the time I would help people pick products for their dogs based on what they do. I would get tipped sometimes. The company kept those tips and never gave them to me. So people were tipping a really shady company. So if intend to tip I always ask, “If I tip do you get it?”
Dang .. that shady AF. Thank you for sharing. I plan to ask from now on. I always tip bc I worry the worker isn't getting a fair wage even at places that have no reason to ask for tips.
oof ! oh god i wish there were a way for the workers to signal whether or not they get it ! sometimes i directly hand the worker my tip in cash so i know they get it
Customers use to ask what car we drove and hide the bills under the windshield wipers. They knew to ask in spanish, no one really liked our manager and got the feeling we wouldn't keep the tips if they did it on camera.
15:01 As someone who works in a service with those iPads- don’t feel bad hitting no tip. I work a service that I absolutely feel bad when people are expected to tip. Before I flip it I usually hit no tip so people don’t feel obligated to.
It actually helps us get paid more because they can’t say that tips make up for lower wages. Hitting no tip sticks it to the man!
If you feel your service worker went above and beyond totally feel free to tip but don’t feel bad hitting no tip!!
The story about the mom getting remarried. I lost my mom this year to ALS and I’ve told my dad that I hope when he’s ready he finds someone else. He’s only 63 and lives an hour away from me. I don’t want him to be alone forever. He deserves to be happy. He was there with my mom till she took her last breath. If he found someone else it would never be a replacement
I’m sorry for your loss, it’s beautiful that you wish your dad happiness.
OP’s fully grown kids are being selfish, especially because it sounds like OP dealt with the hardships on her own
Sorry for your loss. I'm glad you are understanding. My grandpa remarried a year after grandma passed, but it was to his high school best friends widow they had raised all their kids together even. Plus, grandpa was getting to the point that he couldn't get along completely by himself anymore, and she had basically taking care of him since grandma's funeral. Most of the family understood them marrying, especially since they came from a generation that simply didn't live together until they were married. Anyway, my aunt is a spoiled brat, she was in tears at one point. My mom told her to go outside and that she better not let grandpa see her crying. My aunt was in her early 60's at the time. Sorry for the long post just really related to this.
lauren and justin episodes are always SO GOODDD, literally the perfect balance >>
First story.. Customer service does not mean pandering to sexual harassment. Wants to treat girl like an object and doesn’t like when she doesn’t act flattered by it 🙄
Maybe the waitress was so uncomfortable with the inappropriate comment she forgot things she wouldn’t normally
Definitely
For the yoga story: it seems like the wives that laughed it off are dealing with some internalized misogyny.. yeah, maybe they just have that dynamic with their partners and they know it’s happening and they’re fine with it, but it seems more to me like they didn’t know it was happening and then just laughed it off when they found out. It’s giving “boys will be boys” but that situation is NOT OKAY. Even if they were consenting in that behavior, the third wife clearly wasn’t
Spiritual story. Let's stop holding people to being polite when others repeatedly cross boundaries. Natural consequences are needed. He did the right thing, proven by the brother doubling down.
At a restaurant I worked at we used to fight over who got to serve this guy Steve. Steve would come in order one beer, talk about his divorce, and tip 50-100 dollars.
And btw it’s always the people who are acting showy for their friends, buying all the rounds for their friends and impressing their friends… who tip nothing
Steve probably needed that. ♡
Cheaper than therapy ❤😢
Gaining 20 pounds & having several plastic surgeries are two very different things.
I could understand concern & losing attraction if suddenly your partner gained 50-100 pounds for no medical or mental reason & didn’t want to do anything about it, but 20… half of that could be water weight or a big meal (exaggerating but .. bffr).
I personally would not care if my partner gained 50+ pounds, except that I know they wouldn’t feel their best & it would definitely be a sign of depression or some health issue because that would be a drastic change.
I would also recommend really investigating why a small weight gain is affecting your feelings so much. Is it really you or is it what society has taught you. Or do you just want to shame and control your partner because you see their attractiveness as a trophy for you to show off. 🙄
I do agree you can’t help your attraction or s3xual desire, but if you’re no longer attracted to your partner or spouse over 20 pounds, get help.
Anyways, the point is, several surgeries to change your whole face is not the same as gaining 20 pounds. So yeah one can be not the asshole & the other kind of is unless there’s really specific circumstances.
Man thank god you posted today! I had a baby over the weekend 3 1/2 weeks early so she’s a premie, and I needed something engaging to listen to while I’m stationary with my tiny adorable human.
The guy in the first story, I think every woman who’s ever worked in that industry has a story about a customer like that, MAJOR ICK!
Congratulations!!! ❤
Congratulations 🎊
Congrats! Hope you are having a very smooth healing process, and you n the kiddo are doing great!
Congratulations 🎊
Getting high watching this
And eating nerd clusters
I’m tryna be like you
Yup 💚
LMAO me toooo
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Story 3: There’s definitely more to the story. On the surface, OP is definitely NTA. But I just feel like there’s some missing context, somewhere in the backstory about her marriage before her husband got sick. Otherwise the kids are just kinda bratty and immature for their ages, even if they are grieving the loss of their dad.
By the way the mom was saying they were not around alot while the dad was sick makes me wonder if they feel guilty.
I don't think she is being totally truthful, personally. But even if she is, I don't think it is fair to call her children bratty and immature. Their feelings are still valid. They have lost their dad, in what sounds like a traumatic way.
@@lozzibear1989 their feelings are valid, but they’re too old to be acting the way they are in my opinion
@@fredskull1618 acting what way? If they don't want to be around him, go to the wedding etc then they are entitled to do that.
Completely agree, I think there is some context behind the mother’s relationship that she is leaving out. I believe that if children dislike their parent’s bf/gf, there is a valid and bigger reason why. They’re adult children too, so I think there is more to the story than them just grieving their loss or the “plane rant”.
The last story sadly is restraining order and moving town territory. She considers her only grandkids as her last chance to have daughters. She'll stop at nothing. A 6 year old is too young to not leave with grandma if she waited for her chance.
My relative is going through it right now and informing EVERY adult of the threat is crucial. They won't be able to take the child from school etc. And cut off anyone who's loyal to grandma.
For story 3:
I would like to mention both parties are absolutely valid. Grieving is not necessarily rational. The adults can still be upset especially since in their heads that’s a position that cannot be filled and it can feel like betrayal. The mom also is valid because what she went through was completely different. Everyone grieves differently. I think both are the AH. They both need to grieve and possible go to therapy. They are not seeing each other’s pain.
My dad gags SO HARD every time he brushes his teeth it literally sounds like he’s throwing up and it’s like a violent sound. Everyone I ask my mom “is he alright!?” Mom says - “yea he’s probably trying to brush his teeth”
😂😂 I don't know why this is so funny to me
My parents are the same but the other way around lmaoooo and I think I get it from my mom too
The last story: that woman is completely deranged. I'm so glad that for once, the husband stuck by his wife and didn't brush it off like it seems most of them do in these stories. MIL needs professional help. Jail seems to be the best place for her. Those poor babies should have never had to witness such unhinged behavior.
Story 3: My dad passed when I was 11 (I'm 27 now), and my mom started dating (my now step dad) a year later. My dad had lupus and was sick for most my life and ending up passing from pneumonia. The hurt is so real when you lose a parent, and I definitely felt betrayed by my mom for moving on too "quickly". I definitely didn't like my step dad for awhile. Until I got older and matured and realized that my mom is still young and should be able to happily move on with her life. We've had many deep conversations about that time in both of our lives and not only how my dad's death impacted me and my brothers, but my mom as well. Everything she went through during the time before, during, and after I never knew until I was older and we had those in-depth conversations. Communication is key.
Another thing, my mom always made it a fact that our dad was always still apart of our lives. To this day there are still pictures of my dad up in their house. He was never replaced or forgotten.
P.s. I love my step dad and step siblings. ❤
I lost my fiance of over 5 years at the age of 22... I thought I would be alone for the rest of my life. Then I met someone so amazing about 10 months later and now we're engaged and getting married in May. I was so worried about what others would think, but it really doesn't matter what others think. Sometimes you need to do what makes you happy and what's good for you. I couldn't be happier. Though it's stressful, I feel so grateful for the life I have and I know I wouldn't be the person I am today without having gone through what I have. Not to mention my now fiance had been so understanding and supportive of my healing journey and I honestly feel like I don't deserve such an amazing, understanding, loving person.
❤ so much love to you and your fiance. I went through something similar at 25 and now I have two kids with the man who I moved through my grief with. The man you loved before would absolutely want to see you happy AND loved!
you do deserve them🩷
Personally my problem with this story isn’t that Op is moving on. What bothers me is that while talking a a lot about her grieving process, she seems to have very little sympathy towards her kids’ grieving process. Just because she was already done mourning by the time her husband was dead, doesn’t mean the kids feel the same way
@@kokopuffs7618 that's true. Though we can't know for sure, it seems like maybe she could have expressed what she went through with them. And then, they as adults, even if they're still grieving should be able to honor their mother's happiness in her new relationship.
@@kokopuffs7618 exactly. She might have come to terms with losing her husband, but they lost their father. As their mom, it doesn't sound like she has any empathy for her own kids
OP in story 1 mentioned having a daughter. I wonder how he would feel if a middle-aged man spoke to his daughter the way he spoke to that waitress.
Morgan, can you do another episode where the AH is not clear? For this one the categories were very obvious and we just talked about how they messed up. I love the murky ones with different takes especially with Lauren and Justin. I know it’s hard with the popularity of this genre now and more people writing stories for shock or validation. Love Ya Show! 😊
Ooo I love the idea of bringing this back. Let me get the theme rolling
@@TwoHotTakes Oh ☺️ this is awesome! I’ll look forward to it.
I was serving a guy who made me SO uncomfortable, kept hitting on me, asking what time I was done. I asked my coworker (male) to complete payment while I closed up. The customer got upset, called me names, racist, all the insults. My boss told me “it was my job as a server to take sexual harassment, it’s how you make money”
I literally walked out right then
Sorry you had to go through that some people have an abundance of audacity
Story 4- When the wife said she was “talked into it “ by her mom and sister?? I find that hard to believe as he begged her for a long time to not do it and the fact she took her mom and sister’s advice over her own husbands, her partner… that’s a bigger issue. 1:00:44
First Story: You don´t have to tip a server but you are expected to treat them with common respect and decency. So sad that this was apparently the first time that a waitress „didn´t like his jokes"
Oh trust the other waitresses didn't like them either but they still needed that tip
bro as a barista nothing is more awkward than having to flip that ipad around with the tip screen, half the time i don’t even turn it around 😭 i wish people knew that i truly won’t be bothered if they hit no tip like we really don’t care i swear
This!! I’m not a barista but I did work in a cafe where the order system was similar to Panera where customers would order at the counter and pay but I would run their food out to them and was essentially a server. Flipping the iPad around always made me anxious bc I didn’t want anyone to think they had to tip even though I was technically still a server. The only time I got mad was when a lady tipped me 36¢ on a curbside order and her bill was like almost $50 so she just rounded up the change 😂
On the note of the first story…. Our customers say terrible things to us at times, sometimes disgusting. But our boss has TORN us apart for sticking up for ourselves. We just have to sit back and “enjoy” what they say to us now.
This makes me so angry i’m so sorry your boss is enabling the customers behavior! 😤 Can you guys report him??
@@yazmintorres9084HR is just as bad… they’re always on the *bad guy’s* side as well 😞
This job isn't worth it sweetie. Start looking for something better than quit and tell them why. Life is too short to put up with such disrespectful behavior everyday at a shitty job with a shitty boss. You are worth more than that.
"you can't eat" *keeps eating*
In terms of loving your partner no matter what they look like:
I feel like gaining weight, losing weight, cutting hair, etc. is all natural ways our body can change. It’s okay to not be attracted to non natural changes (tattoos, hair dye, surgery,) IMO.
It’s such a grey area but I feel like it’s more rational to not like unnatural changes as. He still loves her just jerk attracted to her
Agreed!
Story 3: I really feel like we are not getting all the details. Like you all said, the kids’ reactions seem really extreme, which makes me think that Tim has done or said something that OP is not disclosing
I thought the same thing and was expecting one of them to say it. Something about the fact that all 3 of her kids just hate him that much feels off.
ugh just in time for me to put my earbuds in at work and not say a word for the next hour!!!
Absolutely me too
Omg I could never, i make too many facial expressions and “OMG”’s
Same my husband though he might have did something while I was watching this 😂
I’m cackling at Lauren eating chips so aggressively 😂😂
I’m dying trying to listen to the podcast. Misophonia triggered soooo badly 😭😅 this was a hard one I was yelling STOP EATING FOR THE LOVE OF G…
Poor Justin 😂😂 the look in his eyes after he saw the lipo video. You could see the sadness in his eyes lmao
Story 5 nta, the sil had absolutely no right to do such an awful thing. No one who lost a child wants to hear that nonsense. The sil was absolutely in the wrong and had no right whatsoever to do that to anyone. Absolutely horrible and delusional behavior. Seriously I'd never speak to them again. She deserved everything she got and worse.
Story 4: I wish the surgeon asked more questions during the consultation or at least cared to ask because knowing if you’re doing surgery for someone else is extremely important . And how are your mom and sister gonna tell you that your husband won’t like you anymore but he’s drying the opposite. She should have gone straight to the source (her husband) and realized he really loves her for who she is.
It’s expected that a server treats all guests with hospitality but that does NOT give anyone the right to berate them or put them in an uncomfortable situation
I'm not giving any extra service if a man is hitting on me and making me uncomfortable in a situation where i cannot leave.
Story 1: in my families restaurant they would have been asked to leave and never return from the moment that first comment was made
I’ve never commented on your videos but I just wanted to say I found you guys back in 2022 and have listened to every video. You make my time at work go by so fast, love you all!! ❤
As a medium, story 5 makes me so salty. If someone that can/says they can sense spirits, it should NEVER be done unprompted like that. It has to he something someone asks for, it's so traumatizing to just dump that on someone that might not be ready or even want to hear that
As a large, story 5 made me so salty that I bloated up
Especially since there is no spirit world and you people are delusional it feels like some wacko inserting themselves into your grief to steal the show and live out some weird magical power fantasy
Story 3 I can relate to in a way. My grandma spent several years on her own after my grandpa passed away. She eventually reconnected with a man they had been couple friends with for decades, who had also lost his wife years prior. Their kids had all spent some portion of their childhoods together. Dispite the fact that every "child" was at least in their 30's, and the deceased parents had been gone for 5+ years at that point, almost all of them had an issue with the relationship. They acted like some kind of affair was going on, or someone must be in it for the money (they were BOTH well off). I look back on it now that I'm an adult and I think it's all due to not processing the grief of losing your parent. They were happy together and that should have been enough, but there was always tension.
I feel for the adult children losing their dad. I don't think they will be able to look at any relationship their mom is in objectively until they process that grief, but she also doesn't need to wait for that to happen to move forward with her life.
I'm a new-ish viewer & I've been binging your videos. It's taken me awhile to get used to the dynamic but that's on me because I might be one of your oldest viewers! I'm 46 yrs old today 😉 I love all of you & can relate in enough ways to really enjoy the show. Plus I'm from Wisconsin (born & raised until high school in CA). Morgan.. I feel your pain because I went from saying baag to baeg instead of the other way around 😅 now I just settle for something a little in between & people can usually figure it out. I'm so happy that Justin feels the way he does about the yoga gals. Maybe it's more my generation but that is not unusual to me at all for men to act this way. I don't like it but it generally rolls off my back just because it's so common here... where everyone is drunk & plugged up with cheese 😂. I love that you can't understand that mentality Justin & you & Morgan will be better off for it. You're all good people.. FKS too! Keep up the good work & success ❤
P.S. Go Pack Go (team fan only. Rodgers can go get hurt somewhere else)
HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I’m so happy to have you joining us at your young age, we need balance in our takes around here and I’m sure you’ll continue to add good ones ❤️ I can’t get behind the packers though .. SKOL
Happy Birthday 🎂
Lauren’s skin looks so good! Glowing
Can't even do yoga in a locked room in your friend's own house without being sexualized for it
I look forward to y’all posting on Thursdays! I’m currently cleaning my clients house and it definitely makes time go by faster! I could listen to it ALL DAY!!!
Story 3 is very off to me. I feel there’s a lot op isn’t saying. “The worst thing he’s done is go on a rant about planes” yes the worst thing he’s done IN FRONT OF YOU. You have no idea if he’s made comments in passing to them about you or their father, you don’t know if he’s contacted them separately, and because the phrase “they hate him for no reason” was used that’s tells me there is 100% a reason but she doesn’t view it as a valid one. She has every right to be happy but her children also have the right to not go to the wedding. Your child shouldn’t have to make themselves uncomfortable to prove they love you. If they aren’t comfortable watching their mom walk down the aisle to someone who isn’t their father, they have the right to not go. She has the right to be happy just like they have the right to remove themselves from any uncomfortable situations
Yes! I feel 100% that’s somethings left out and I’d love to hear from the kids! Also, she has this vibe of “Let me start a new life!” verses “Let me bring this guy into the family.” I know her kids are adults but they’re still her kids, the fact that she’s a willing to basically end her relationship with them over a guy she’s known 2 years is so weird to me!
Yes!!! A lot of details are being left out with that story.
100% agreed
I don't agree. The children are all in their 30's, there probably wasn't even much time Tim spent with them without the mum. I think she just started the grieving process years ago and was ready to move on. The kids weren't there often, they probably only started their grieving process after the actual death, so for them it might have felt too fast for the mum to move on. But if she explained it like she did on reddit, they should understand... 30+ year olds accusing their mother of "replacing" their dad sound extremely childish. I hope they learn to see further than their own grief and to be happy for their mum. That poor woman shouldn't have to stay alone and on her own while her kids are living their own lifes...
And the current partner is also a widow ! which means they connect and understand each other in a way that her kids can’t relate to. imo her kids need to accept that she has found someone else but that doesn’t mean she is “replacing” their dad, these are two different relationships.
Thanks Morgan for unlocking a new fear when staying in hotels. Heck, even my gym where I shower constantly and use their dispenser to wash my body 😂.
story 5 - op is TOTALLY NTA - as someone who has also dabbled in spiritual stuff and knows a medium or two what his brothers gf did was immature. You never READ anyone WITHOUT CONSENT. Op and His wife did not agree to be 'read' or to know that their son was around. Ugh the whole story made me ick
Story 3: My grandfather suffered a series of strokes and eventually one almost took him out, he survived but half of his body became paralyzed (the right) this obviously changed everyone's lives. My grandma's especially, she became his caretaker from carrying him out of bed to the wheelchair, changing his diapers, feeding him, showering him, and even teaching him how to speak again. She was obviously getting old with him and she struggled (they lived in Mexico while my parents and I in the U.S weren't able to help out) she had help from family there but at the end of the day it was her who really had to take the heavy load of caring for him. After 13+ years in late 2020 he passed away it obviously hurt all the family and I miss him to this day, even if he couldn't really talk he knew how to ask for a coca cola :'). But no one would ever blame my grandmother for finding love again, we all know how much of herself she gave up caring for him so I can't even understand the "kids" in story 3 even being in the same country and not making the effort to visit or try to help out someone who very much could be gone the next day... NTAH at all live you're life ❤️
Poke a hole and squeeze it out 🤣🤣🤣 I died Lauren 💀
Lauren if it helps, places that don’t make sense to tip but ask for it anyway, that money doesn’t go to the employees. It almost exclusively goes to the company. So you’re not keeping money out of the employees’ pockets when you don’t tip at those places.
Got my husband to listen with me today and we had the best time chatting along with you guys!
The grandma wanting her granddaughters is very similar to my MIL. She literally ask to keep our eldest son (we have 3) and that he is her do over kid!! Like what! No! She asked us if we could have him a couple of weeks but my eldest lives with her full time🤦♀️🤦♀️ He doesn't stay there often now.
Story 4: he was against it and I looked up the Blue Alien in element and Ive seen poeple look like that, and its probably the only thing he could describe it as. Men can be descriptive but in a weird short way
Story 5: the dad isn’t the asshole and tbh I’d do worse. She clearly was taking advantage of a grieving family to show off her ‘skills’. And in front of the kids?? Goodness
I’ve been having the worst day so I am taking a mental day to eat at my favorite restaurant by myself and listen to my fav podcast :,) thank y’all, this is making my day 🩷
POV: you are about clean up and a new episode to listen to just dropped 🙌
I had to rewind Morgan saying “KACHING” on the Shopify ad 3 times 😂😂😂😂
I’m suspicious of the story with the kids in their 30s. Because for one of the kids to throw a hissy and boycott the wedding I can see it as they’re just still grieving a lot… but three? And the account is banned…. Which means the verdict was most likely AH. How old is the man she’s seeing? Is he in his 20s or something? Did the mom do something else to turn the kids against her? Something isn’t adding up for three grown adults to all turn away from their mom. She did something.
Agreed! Adult children Don't turn away their parents /family unless there's a lot going on back there
With story 5. I 1000% agree, not the time and place. Not the way to approach it. Cause OML if one thing my family has taught me with our generational gifts, it's never okay to just flat out say that shit with people you hardly know, and especially if you don't know if they're okay with spirituality in that form.
I had a plastic surgery procedure a little over a year ago and I have no regrets - but I wanted it and thought about it for over a DECADE. And I considered all the negative possibilities and came to terms with the fact that they were possible outcomes before getting the surgery.
Story 3: It's so hard for me to agree with you guys on this one, as someone who is currently in a startlingly similar situation. Only hearing the mom's side of this story isn't enough. My mother was an absolute terror growing up. She verbally and emotionally abused all of us kids, and our dad was the only thing that kept the household and the family together. He got diagnosed with cancer when I was young, went in and out of remission, but eventually could not beat his illnesses by the time I was 19, older sister 20, and younger sister 14. When he got seriously ill again, my mom became a very dedicated caretaker and was willing to do whatever it took to save him, but it just wasn't meant to be. She was devastated, how couldn't she be after 25 years of marriage? Despite how horrible she was to us and all the hell she put us through, me and my siblings do want her to find peace and be happy again.
Queue her re-entering the dating scene, six months after he passes away. The very first man she dates, a man who also was obsessed with planes as a part of his career oddly enough, immediately moves into our home. There are so many red flags, ones that we try to point out to our mother. She didn't marry this guy, but they did end up splitting for different reasons. She dated a couple of other guys here and there, and for some reason she dumps the only ones who are ever decent to her over nothing. Me and my siblings realized how much her narcissism and codependency decide who and what is important to her in a relationship.
A little less than a year ago, she met her current partner, call him Dewy. He's freshly divorced, and within two months of them dating, she was telling me how he's the one and that they have already talked about marriage being their goal. This was a crazy fast turn around. They also merged bank accounts almost immediately, saying that "it just made things easier." It's impossible to be around him, he's always picking fights in the name of "joking around," and thinks he has a say in what her children do even though we are all independent adults. Not only that, but he is a raging alcoholic, and the most pessimistic person I've ever met. My mom never really drank much in her whole life, and now she drinks every single day, her health is declining, she tells us she can't remember anything and has breakdowns, etc. When any of us try to bring up the fact that we don't think her and Dewy are healthy for each other, she refuses to hear it, and says similar things as in this story that there's nothing wrong with him.
Yeah, her and Dewy just announced their engagement earlier this month....on the weekend of the anniversary of my dad's death. What kind of psycho purposefully chooses that date to propose? When he KNOWS that was the date. Understandably, none of us were thrilled, and couldn't really give congratulations. My siblings and I just awkwardly did our best to get through the rest of the FaceTime and then immediately convened on the side afterwards to express our concerns.
I can't say for sure that anything as wild as this is happening in this particular story, but it would be worth to hear the kids' side of things. Maybe they're just being selfish, but maybe not. They could be seeing a lot of stuff the mom is either in denial about, or is too in limerence to see. I want my mom to be happy and find love again, but I don't want to be expected to support her destroying herself and her relationship with her kids.
I'm really sorry to hear that, I feel for you. I never experienced a situation this intense myself, but my bullshit antenna was definitely quivering for that whole story.
Especially after finding out all of her children are in their 30s expressing these sentiments? There is no way that woman isn't leaving out essential information in her post.
I'll be reserving judgement on this one just because of how strongly I feel that there is missing information, and I disagree with their takes on this one too.
Story 4 isnt super hard for me, because he told her before she had the surgery that he didnt like it and that he wasnt comfortable with it
He also respected that she still wanted to go through with it. I honestly think they both were very aware of the consequences of her actions.
Listening to this after getting off my closing shift from my server job made me feel so validated 💕💕💕 love yall
I love episodes like this where the theme is super cohesive
"Shopify: kaching" aawww Morgan that was so cute 😅.
"Let me show you the picture of the alien"
This episode was full of Morgan cuteness overload 🥰.
Ok it may be messed up but if someone I barely knew told me "oh i can feel ___ presence here" I'd tell them to shut up and stay out of my coffin. If someone told me "you were my kid in a past life" I'd mess with them and say "but I thought I killed you" and see how much they keep talking about it
This episode came out right when I needed it the most, I laughed and now I feel better so thank you ❤
Story 5, I also am one of those people who has “gifts” I can sometimes catch vibes of passed loved ones and I get messages to pass on. I would say to never do it while it’s fresh, and never just jump into a reading without checking if it’s okay, it’s very personal and heart wrenching. Also around the kids?? Not okay. Like Morgan said, it’s more appropriate to say, “hey, just so you know I have done work in the past where I help people connect to their passed on loved ones, if you’re open to it sometime please let me know and I would love to come over and see what we can do.” No pushing, no going right into it, leave the ball in their court. These things are so personal and I often treat it like a form of therapy, where it’s in a more private intimate setting and where someone can feel okay to cry or feel a lot of emotions for a while, it’s being up a lot of feelings. Also it’s between you and your reader/ energy worker. It’s not a whole family affair, it’s not done in a public setting, it’s not done to impress the people around you and it’s not done for financial gain, especially for family. If someone were to ask me to do it for them and I don’t know them well compensating me can be arranged but it’s such a touchy and personal thing, and if you’re the one offering you’re probably not supposed to do it with a monetary ask. I know that wasn’t brought up but just in case anyone was wondering for themselves. People in your instagram DMs saying they have messages for you and wanting payment are usually scammers, most people who have actual psychic gifts may advertise but are not cold calling people to get money and work.
Again, approach lightly, and wait until it’s not a big moment in their lives, funerals and birthdays are out of the question. Having an intimate coffee or tea together or having a chat about the loss itself would be a time to say “this is something I can try to do if you’re interested, if you’d like I can tell you the gist of some of my past readings and I can do my best to try to help you with your grieving through this.” It’s a very lightly treaded subject, the girl in this story with gifts is obviously young, new to this, or looking for attention in the wrong way, not to say she doesn’t have a gift but she doesn’t have social tact.
YAYYY GRABBING MY SNACKS! Loved seeing y’all in Austin 💕🫶🏼