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Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-host Justin! They say don't cry over spilt milk, so how exactly do you move on? From not wearing a dress someone made you on your wedding day to freaking out at your husband for pranking you with flowers, this week's Reddit stories are some of the most frustrating we've had in a while. Going to need your takes on these ones because they were tough..
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Index:
00:00 -- Start
03:34 -- Story 1 AITA for laughing at my cousin after she had an absolute melt down after her boss saw her buying toilet paper at Costco?
18:12 -- Story 2 AITA for not wearing the wedding dress my stepsister handmade for me?
32:39 -- Story 3 AITAH for sleeping with a guy after the man I thought was my bf said we were not a couple?
46:25 -- TW* traumatic birth story || Story 4 I F30 told my doctor I would sue him if he touched me and delivered our son on all fours and “embarrassed” my husband M32?
01:02:08 -- Story 5 AITAH for being upset and not picking my girlfriend up from the airport after she married her guy best friend (theoretically for the military health care)?
01:09:22 -- Story 6 AITAH for refusing to donate my kidney to my dying sister because she got with my highschool bully?
01:18:36 -- Story 7 AITAH for screaming at my husband to get out after he pranked me with flowers?
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How can she get offended when the dress is nothing like what she wanted??? It's not her wedding day
Literally. It could have been a well made, beautiful dress, but that doesn't matter?? If she wants to go into the wedding industry when she graduates she can't just change the plan that the client agreed on, just because it's not her preferred design. She can decide to specialize in a specific style that she think looks good and she's good at, that's fine. But if someone asks for something that she's not comfortable making, she needs to turn down that project. Her actions were so childish.
she had to know she was blowing it, since she never sent progress pics
I agree only issue I have is that OP should have shut her step sister down when she didn't get any progress updates
I would have told him if he loves it so much, he can wear it
@@KellyKnowlesArtagreed, i honestly think she planned from the beginning to never go with the agreed design and would just make whatever she wanted
Story 4. In the moment a doctor was coming at her to cut her open without pain management her ape brain took over and went into survival mode. She did everything she needed to do automatically. She got the "threat" away and got her son out. The women is a warrior. Now every time her husband brings it up her ape brain is telling her "He sided with the person who wanted to cut you open while you could feel it". Every time he shames her he is placing himself in line with the "threat". She is never gonna trust him again. Rightfully.
Yes completely terrifying. To understand at the most important moment - your partner is a double agent for the enemy.
100% !!!!!
If the baby has crowned and isn’t coming out, it’s in distress. We’re missing a chunk of information here, because OP was understandingly upset. An episiotomy is to prevent horrible tearing-which OP said wasn’t that bad. She’s lucky. And “after the milk was spilt”, what else was the nurse going to say? OP needs counselling too
This might sound fucked but I don’t think male doctors should be allowed to deliver. Or at least one without empathy whatsoever
The woman from the first story needs therapy immediately
I know that was so ridiculous
I’m so mad for OP. WHERE ARE THE GROCERIES
Absolutely! That is theft
Yeah she sounds like she’s having a mental breakdown, that was so extreme.
I feel really bad for her :/ omg and the stolen groceries
Anybody else notice how in second story op said her stepsister wanted to be a fashion designer in the wedding industry. If somebody ask for a custom wedding dress and the designer ignores everything the person asked for that person is going to fire her or go somewhere else to get her dress made. U can't just ignore what the client asks for and make something u think they will look better and make it 3x bigger than their measurements the client literally gave u. Because don't forget that is what the stepsister did. Op gave her measurements and what she wanted, and the stepsister made it 3x times bigger
I just commented that I think the dress wasn't for her. She never made the dress that was for her.
Exactly! I was so caught up on the dress being the wrong design that I entirely forgot that it was 3 sizes too big. Was op expected to wear a dress that was literally falling off of her? Lol why would anyone be mad at op in this situation??
Exactly! Even as a first time doing it, those are huge mistakes. You go step by step with the client picking out materials, accents, train, zipper corsets or buttons, what neckline, and do multiple fittings before delivering the finished dress a month before the wedding. The dad is also a HUGE asshole. The OP is his daughter, not the little girl in tears because of her own mistakes. OP is not there to placate her or pretend the step sister did a great job when she didn't!
This sounds like something a "villain" type designer in a movie would do, like maybe in The Devil Wears Prada or something of the like... But they're always already successful which enables them to have that type of reaction/audacity, it's what everyone expects. I doubt a beginner can allow themselves this sort of audacity in any job
Honestly I wonder if stepsister is bigger and wanted the dress for herself
As a cashier I can confidently say I’ve never thought twice about anyone buying condoms or any other “awkward” items. However. An employee’s wife came through my line once with condoms and said “I always love buying these at a register to remind everyone that my husband and I still have sex! It’s so funny because he works here.” I felt so weird and scared because WHY WOULD YOU TELL ME THAT?!!😭😭😭
I’m sorry that’s so weird but also hilarious 😭
the fact that she has to do that proves they're not having sex 😂
While weird, I’m not sure how it would be scary tbh.
I think that people often assume that people in committed relationships don’t use condoms, so maybe she felt like she had to say that so people don’t speculate about her having an affair.
@@IAmContemporary Some people just like messing with others. I've met quite a few like that. From what I understand they get entertainment from the reactions. She probably loved the reaction above.
I’m a nurse and I think too many healthcare workers get stuck in the mindset of “another day on the job” rather than remembering that for the patient, especially in high stress situations such as labor, this is a HUGE moment in their lives. This may be an every day event for us, but for the patient it isn’t, and they deserve compassion and communication.
I am a nurse as well and totally agree. The dr likely felt he needed to do episiotomy for baby’s safety. But that should have been explained to the patient. Communication is so important. I often think that us medical professionals assume the general public knows a lot of the stuff that we do. But they don’t. They need to be taught just like we did when learning!
@@Alexa-qg8evas a nurse, do you think this is a case of prioritizing the baby's life over the woman's? because getting caught without pain management is terrifying, i think ppl can and have died from the pain. so a doctor going for that nonchalantly is crazy to me
@@janine2957 I would like to think that’s what it was. No telling for sure. But it would have been much better to explain why he needed to do it to the mother. But also, the pain of an episiotomy is nothing compared to what you’re already going through.
@Alexa-qg8ev I feel like it's yet another example of how women are ignored in medical situations. She was severely traumatized by the whole ordeal and all the men just kept acting like she was making a big deal out of nothing.
@@mercurialmelody yes, women are more often ignored and things written off by doctors than men for sure. Which is wild because, in my many years of experience, women handle pain and traumatic situations much better than men!
I feel bad for the woman in story 4. The moment i say the pain preventatives are not working or say i don't want something done, i would expect my husband to enforce that and back it up when needed. Sure there is a line, but this wasnt it.
Right? That’s the point of having someone else in there! The father of the child should be an advocate- whew this story hit a nerve with me.
This is why I brought my mom in there for the birth of my son lol I knew that woman would END anyone who disregarded my wishes
The husband going "aww everything will be okay honey" at the idea of a blade cutting genitals without any anesthesia made me immediately feel all levels of rage. And he thinks he had it worse because he got EMBARRASSED 💀
@@natkatmac Right?? "Oh, I was embarrassed." "Oh gee, that must have been SOOO difficult for you, much worse than being in excruciating pain for 24 hours and having a doctor come at you with something sharp when the anesthesia wasn't working." Let's offer to give him an involuntary, unmedicated vasectomy and see how he's feeling.
Husband is supposed to support wife in this moment. He is meant to be her advocate.
Lmao I’ve been gagging while brushing my teeth since I was YOUNG. People love to accuse women of being pregnant for any reason.
Well, it's not uncommon to feel nauseous from things like this when you're pregnant. I have been gagging every time I brush my teeth since the beginning of my pregnancy. So it's not so strange that people thought that way. But there could definitely be several reasons, so good for her if she's gonna check.
YOU have been gagging when brushing your teeth since you were young, not her. That’s an important distinction. What is normal for you, is not for sheer and could be a sign of varying things like she mentioned. It’s not about loving to speculate about pregnancy, it’s a legitimate thing.
100%
@Duckduckobtusegoose doesn't mean you accuse every woman of being pregnant when something Changes about them
My husband and I both do it I thought it was normal...
I understand why she didn’t think they needed to talk about anything because they said I love you for the last year, THEY MET EACH OTHERS FAMILIES. I would never ever let some dude I’m just sleeping with for fun meet my family 💀
But also, she kind of asked after the pancakes, and he said «idk, really good friends witg benefits?» and then he gets mad and says she cheated?????
@@barmhjertige1 he sounds like a man child because yeah you’re right, I was referring to earlier in their relationship! She was meeting his parents, he said I love you on a regular basis so up to that point she had no need to ask because it’s clear to all of us that THEY WERE OBVIOUSLY DATING- so to be told “no seriously I am not your man…you’re not my girlfriend we’re not dating” he’s a loser.
exactly!!! if the parents had asked would have him given the same answer, that they were friends with benefits?? can't imagine anyone doing that. i think as they said he wants all the funsies of having a partner but either wants to fck other people (and doesn't have the courage to suggest an open relationship), or he has this weird thing where he likes to make her feel bad or not important to him. either way, fck that dude!
The 5th story had me triggered. I would have told her, “Have your husband pick you up, you ain’t my problem anymore.”
Same
Story 3, as someone who was lead on and heartbroken from a situationship; the second he said "im not your boyfriend, for real we're not dating" sir those are not your pancakes and you are a home intruder since you wanna play games gtfo 😭😭😭
Right? Like why you sleeping over here & eating my food if we're just friends with benefits?! Even worse this guy met her family & had her meet his family, that's NOT a fwb situation, that's a serious relationship.
😅😅😅❤❤❤❤
Not only mental health but then she STOLE the groceries and is holding them hostage lmao
Story 3 is bringing back some dating ptsd. Lol, don't be afraid to ask, " What are we?" So you don't waste time. Dating nowadays is dumb and I'm tired of people who don't take it seriously and don't make their intentions clear.
Yes! It can be nervewracking in the moment, but I always tell people, "If you're on the same page, you can move forward. If you aren't, you can move on." The relationship will either get even better, or you'll know to call it off before someone gets way more invested than the other.
Yeah, but also, she did ask, he replied «really good friends with benefits?» and then he gets nad and says she cheated?? Huuuh
The toilet paper story would only make a little bit of sense if the cousin was working for a toilet paper company (competitor to the brand of tp she bought) 😂
Or a bidet company? 😂
@@DiMagnoliahaha exactly! How dare you use toilet paper instead of using a bidet!
@@michellehan7960 you heathen!! Hehehe
Justin saying that legit made me laugh out loud 😂
The first story is giving strong Claire “I look like a pencil! I’m going to lose my job!” Energy
Omg yes 😂
It’s french!
Story 4 - no mention of fetal distress or the nurses rushing the boy away for examination, (she mentions it was calm after her son came) with this context it genuinely sounds like the doctor just didn't want to wait around for this baby to come. OP was definitely in the right to listen to her body and instincts who told her how to give birth to her own son, which clearly was a much better method because she actually delivered him that time and the nurses agreed.
24 hours with no movement ABSOLUTELY causes fetal distress.
I can only say what I would do I can’t judge other women in those situations, but I can tell you If I was in labour for 24 hours without movement, I would BEG to be cut open and save the baby right there. Episiotomy is commonly done without anaesthetic, they do it during a contraction so you just feel the sting but the contraction is still the main and distracting pain. That being said, I don’t know the situation, if they tried other positions etc … but 24 hours without movement? I would be way more worried about the baby than a benign intervention from doctors. To me it’s a simple math. What is the worst that can happen if you let doctors do the episiotomy? It might hurt for some time. What’s the worst that can happen if you don’t? You might loose your baby. Thank god the baby is ok
@@veronikapop8161 Women are just totally dehumanized.
it’s about consent..not the procedure itself
@@sar7560the sad part is, this was likely consented to in the waiver . Mine was, and is exactly why my doctor didn’t listen when this happened to me…. To save my daughter. I hate that doctor, but I thank God every day he knew what he was doing, bc he’s a doctor and I’m not. My daughter is only alive because a doctor went against my verbal consent after already shaving signed consent.
Story 4, if my husband did that to me, I don’t know if I would be able to trust him again. That is such a traumatic experience and he was not on her side even after all the dust settled. It sucks that people seem to show this side of themselves after major life events that make it harder to detangle from them. I feel so bad for OP. I hope she has a good support system outside of her husband
Ya the husband had one job and it wasn't to restrain his wife. His wife was incapacitated, and his sole job was to be the physical embodiment of her wishes. She yelled no to the doctor and he still advanced like he was going to slice open between her vagina and asshole? Dude's one job was to escalate his wife's demand, "SHE SAID NO! BACK THE FUCK UP!" It was that simple dude, you are there to support her and your baby, not help anybody else execute their own will. In that room you are a ferocious guard dog, not a doctor's assistant. I'm sure there are rare circumstances where a man would need to go against his wife's stated wishes (like during a psychotic episode, actually that's probably the only time), but with her lucid, mentally aware, and sane he should've 100% been his wife's backup. He was the only person there with a personal connection to the woman, and he was ready and willing to violate her consent because some doctor said so. Nah bro, that ain't right.
Story 6: My Brother-In-Law donated a kidney to his best friend and he ended up having some strange complication where they accidentally nicked some sort of vessel or something that carries lymph and he ended up needing another surgery to fix it when he had a huge amount of ascites that they kept having to drain. Every couple of days. He ended up hospitalized for quite some time, I want to say 4 to 6 weeks maybe? That was for somebody who he loved and wanted to do that for. Op owes the sister nothing, in fact the sister is getting her karma
My petty a** would go give blood needed to get tested, and then block all of them 😂
Story 4, I was in labor for 3 days and was so delirious I was terrified to hold my daughter (ended up needing a csection because I had only dilated to 7cm by the 3rd day of labor). I had a team of midwives and my husband was my rock. My heart is breaking for that mom because I wouldn't be able to look at my husband the same way again. My husband has enough sense to trust me when it comes to labor and my body. OP should take her husband to therapy if she wants to save their marriage but I wouldn't blame her for wanting a divorce.
Story 3: Absolutely NTA! You DIDN'T cheat. You weren't exclusive. He clearly said he wasn't your man! He wanted you to be exclusive, but he wanted to play the field from what he said. Chuck him out of your life.
Along Justin’s line of thinking on story one I was like, “does she work for a company that sells bidets?”
you still need toilet paper tho...
Or has a really weird boss that doesn't believe in toilet paper. 😂
Story 3 left me speechless. THE NERVE OF THAT MAN
The "oh my god my blankie fell" 😂 you looked so personally attacked by that blanket
Story 5: dude. That is fraud. I would break up and run, I also would snitch to the airforce.
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Not sure what the Air Force would really do, cuz it’s basically part of the military to get married for the benefits. Every person I know who was in their married a random person super fast or just got hitched to their best friend for the benefits.
@@sarmaangelit’s not part of the military to just get married for benefits. Not everyone’s marriage is based off that BS.
@@go1d3n.nightmare what I meant to say is that it’s common. At least when I was growing up, it was common for two people to get married for the benefits but still stay just friends or eventually the relationship becomes serious. I’ve seen it maybe twice in my own extended family and from serval other friends I’ve had through the years.
Not everyone does it but it’s not an uncommon occurrence, that and it would be a bit hard for the military to try and prove which marriages started from benefits and which didn’t. That’s the full area of what I mentioned to describe.
For the birth story- momma’s primal instinct took over! The nurse is right, she is a champion!!!
Story 1: any job you’d get fired for buying toilet paper isn’t worth keeping. For Justin thinking about examples of when not to see your boss, my husband won’t go to any of the recreational weed dispensaries in our town due to the fear of encountering a co worker
@/your husband. That is funny he thinks like that, because if he saw a coworker, they both would be there. And it would be like the Spiderman meme 👉 👈. Lol
Your husband should probably not smoke if he's already that paranoid
@@jimmiesavage437he doesn’t he just won’t go with me.
I am not a mother(almost became one, but it was ectopic), but ever female doctor and doula I have talked to says women giving birth laying on your back also does not allow your sacrum to rotate as easily to open the canal. In addition, gravity is unable to assist the baby's descent down through the birth canal. We really need to stop this practice and OP, in the traumatic birth story, her body knew this. We NEED to stop making women give both on their back. It is one of the reasons why the process is more traumatic then it should be for a lot of mothers.
Story 6 reminds me of a story i heard, on Reddit on wiki's channel, a while back, it was about the OP who had a POS brother. The brother would beat him up, stole his stuff, slept with the OP's girlfriend, got her pregnant then tried to make her get rid of the baby, then convinced the family to kick the OP out of the house because "i don't want to sleep in the same room as a *insert F slur*. Then years later they wanted the OP to donate an organ. My favorite part of the story is when OP retorted "i doubt you would want an "f slur's" organs" then walked out of the hospital room.
Story 3: It's important to get tested not only because cheating but also because some STIs can lay dormant and not pop up the first time you get tested
*S2:Say NO to the Dress -* I’m w/Justin on this. In what world is Zoe’s feelings more important than The Bride’s?!?! Suck it up??! That’s what Zoe should hv been told. Not OP on HER wedding day?
The only thing OP did wrong was to gamble on a novice pulling off a Vera Wang. Incredibly rookie move OP.
Feel like OP is a people pleaser, and this is the first time she said no to someone
@I don't think so at all. I just think she wanted to vibe eith her step-sis
I would of just planned on getting a back up one after the those attempts in the beginning bc Zoe beating around the bush caused some very alarming red flags
The one thing I can fault OP on is waiting 1 month before her wedding to get a dress, especially with how Zoe was acting.
I would have absolutely told Zoe "I'm sorry but I need to continue planning my wedding and with no updates I have to move on with my dress"
That would definitely started a fight now that we know Zoe's personality but she would have known sooner and it could go from there.
Her dad walking out on his own daughters wedding because of his step daughter? I can't believer it
not even stepdaughter shes his girlfriends kid
S4: She did what she had to do, it’s horrible that they weren’t listening to her. A huge part of the reason why I’ll always advise friends and loved ones to have a doula or midwife present who can help advocate for you.
Girl, I’m laying curled on my bed with a heating pad just listening to this in agony from period cramps too. I feel you
Hey we're twinning the only difference is I'm not using heating pad.. just struggling through it😅
MIDOL caffeinated midol is my savior
Me too! 😂
The pains of having periods 😭
@@Maddiemcc322 believe me, I’m only here because of midol 💀
OH BOY STORY 3
fuck that nonsense. I got an “I love you” all the time from this guy when he’d come home to visit. he lived across the country, and when he went back he’d ghost me entirely. The lines were blurred constantly and it fucked me up real bad.
Dude similar situation here, it sucks so bad. Went up to go see him and than was ghosted, which hurts more than just being told they're done
I think people completely underestimate how traumatic childbirth is. No matter how it happens. I honestly thought the pain I felt when I gave birth was a horrific prank. Homegirl was her own advocate (I had my nurse mother in law thank god), and she should be proud of herself. Husband and her have some healing to do, and I’m sure they’ll be okay, but this is why we need to educate ourselves and others on what and how to prepare for one of the most traumatic intense things a woman can go through. Again, everyone’s experience is different, but even the easiest and painless child births require the upmost respect and effort from all parties. And poor thing- they were impatient with her- as if she wanted that pain and experience. Everyone considering having a baby through childbirth should educate themselves. I promise it’s important.
I gotta push back on story 3. He literally said he loved her, she shouldn't have to have "the talk" with him. "Hey babe, I just wanted to know if you meant that platonically or romantically and that we are really in love with each other." C'mon, man. Who talks like that? Be real.
exactly!!! it gets to a point where a conversation is no longer necessary
But aaaalso, he did say (after pancakes) «idk really good friends with benefits?» okay, so clearly she didn’t cheat then??
EXACTLY. Like do I have to ask if you're saying, "I do" like a friend or in a partner way if we get married?
7:26 correct me if I’m wrong but doesn’t every household buy toilet paper? Lol 😅😂
Lmao. I think my response would have been ' does he think you wipe with your hands '.
Maybe she works for a bidet company? 😂
Yeah even if you use bidets, wet wipes and/or reusable butt rags, I think everybody keeps toilet paper in their house for other types of cleaning, or guests.
@@ScarletASV I’ve never used a bidet, but I’ve always assumed you wipe before using them and they’re just meant to make you cleaner, not replace toilet paper
Story 2: She either never intended to make that dress, because she knew better, or she didn't make that dress for her. I can imagine that dress for another project or something. It's because it's not even the bride's size! So that tells me that she's either a bad seamstress, or she didn't make it for her.
Was just trying to find a video to watch, this is perfect timing
Good morning
SAME!
Saaaaaaaaame
Same here!! Was trying to find something good to listen to while I work from home🩵
Sameee usually they post later in the day I was like woahhh
Story 4 makes me so happy I had an amazing group of women that delivered my baby. I specifically said ahead of time I did not want a male doctor and luckily I didn’t have any male nurses either. I had an amazing support group in my room and it was STILL traumatic, I can’t even imagine if I was this woman. Honestly I wouldn’t be able to continue to be with my husband if this happened
Yes! Child birthing in and of itself is already traumatic. We don't need the added trauma. This is my greatest fear and I have given birth already with an amazing team. That doctor needs to rethink their career.
Do yourself the favor and define your boundaries from the start. I told my husband we weren’t exclusive or committed until he asked me to be his girlfriend; we were absolutely transparent about our casual relationship from the beginning and it helped so much. Setting that boundary from the beginning goes a long way for communication moving forward.
So sorry for saying “in the beginning” 80 times
Justin is going to be a wonderful father and husband. I’ve watched every stream, every story and he has so much empathy and love. The family you create together is so blessed. 🤞🏼
morgan i’m at the end of a 12 hour overnight shift and i was catching up on episodes and was sad i had nothing else to play for the last hour of my shift. so thank you for your absurd posting schedule 🫶
bahaha it is absurd. But have a good end of your shift and get home safe
Story 6: Cut contact. Make your own family OP. You deserve love and happiness. The love from a family that love and respect you.
Story 7: Divorce. He doesn't want to be married to you anymore. You deserve better.
I’ve had 5 babies. One by emergency c-section, one by planned c-section. The rest vaginal births. 20+ hours of labor for each one. There is no way in hell my husband would ever try to restrain me. He is a complete idiot for not advocating for her. In that moment when she is so completely vulnerable he should have fought for her.
I also kicked my husband out of the room, but during labor. The nurses were totally used to it, and were so kind. I unfortunately also had a failed epidural and was not prepared for the pain of forced natural child birth. We found out later that due to my epidural spot in my back, all epidurals will always fail.
At this point, we laugh about me kicking him out. He saw the pain I was in.
But what I still have nightmares about is being pinned down by two nurses and being sewn up with NO Anesthesia or pain management. The only difference is mine was a life or death instance. The bleeding was uncontrolled because of how I tore and they had to sew me up immediately to stop the bleeding. I had a nurse at each shoulder pin me to the bed, I couldn’t hold my daughter and was screaming in pain while I had my body sewn together. It still haunts me even with the good intentions. The whole time she was sewing me, my doctor (who I love) was just saying over and over “I’m so sorry honey. You did so good mama. Your baby is safe. I’m so sorry. I have to stop the bleeding”
It was extremely traumatic
Story 3, like yall said they did have the talk…he confirmed they were fwb only hes just mad he can’t have both speaking from experience as well. The fact he didn’t think anything was off after that was crazy, his casual attitude says that he expected her to stick around and be hung up on him 😂
Story 5: relationship sounded toxic from the very beginning. Doomed from the start. Relationship is not just about the “good sex” but about the respect too. She did not respect your boundaries with her “best friend” from the get-go. I think you were more the “side dude” since her “best friend” was not local.
UGH the friends with benefits story reminded me of a guy who literally told me he loved me the first time we hooked up and would even talk about “our kids ___” “when we get married ___” but then decided to cut me off because i was apparently getting too attached 😂
17:53 something my therapist told me that stuck with me the most is “things that happen to us aren’t our fault, but how we respond to it is our responsibility.” That really changed me from someone who used my disorders as a crutch to someone who made an effort to curb my anxieties, so I didn’t alienate and hurt others.
the last story: he went out of his way to humiliate her, he showed her he can put effort to do things, but only to hurt her this guy is a bad person and he deserves nothing but disdain
The last story was genuinely shocking. I cannot fathom doing that to a person. Hell, my socially awkward father wouldn’t even be able to conjure that idea in his head, much less do that to his wife??? I can’t even imagine him doing that to me! It’s legitimately crazy.
@@witchassbitch3 he's genuinely a bad person who does that to someone they say they love? What would he do to someone he h*tes?
For real!!
Ugh I bought a pregnancy test once (because my coworkers insisted I must be pregnant because I was sick- I wasn’t pregnant). The cashier made conversation ABOUT THE PREGNANCY TEST! It was the most uncomfortable and inappropriate conversation I’ve ever been a part of.
Why though? A pregnancy test can mean a bunch of things. You could be trying. You could be hoping you're not pregnant. You could be worried about it after SA. That's one of the worst things to comment on. Worse than condoms because at least condoms, most people are buying them for the same reason
I think they shouldnt make conversation about your purchases in a pharmacy. I am a private person and the other clients in the pharmacy don't need to know what I am buying
@@carolinaazevedo2088seriously lol. I was in line buying a bunch of Reese’s recently (5 to be exact) and there were people behind me and the cashier was like “WOW, THAT’S A LOT OF CANDY!” and I was weirdly embarrassed lol?? I’m not sure why as I’m super fit and have no eating disorders (I say this to say, imagine making that comment to someone who did struggle with a food related disorder) but for some reason it just felt weird. It was a guy so of course I had to tell him the truth and say “yeah, I’m bleeding out of my vagina and I fucking love Reese’s eggs”
43:11 “sitting on someone’s face without a dental dam” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
When she said baby wasn’t moving I didn’t think the baby was in distress, I just thought wasn’t progressing down the birth canal. Which could have been from any number of causes, and probably had a lot to do with what position she was in. The way the United States functions around birth is first based on convenience for the doctor. Which is why we have one of the highest maternal and infant mortality rates in developed countries. She rolled over got on all fours and delivered her own baby, a common position for delivery in MANY European countries.
The last story has me HEATED. I work a few streets away from my boyfriends house. My work is a women's substance abuse treatment facility but it's a house. We got a bad snow storm last month and I got stuck at work for 36 hours. Both mornings I woke up to a text from my boyfriend saying "your car is cleaned off, I hope you have a great day." The roads were terrible but not only did he still go into work but he went out of his way to come clean the snow off my car and shovel around it so I could get out if need be. I never asked, he did it because he wanted to, because he knew it would make me happy. OPs (ex) husband is going to realize how valuable she is but it'll be too late and I can't wait
Morgan is hilarious just so casual “ sitting on somebody’s face without a dental dam “
The pregnancy one, I went through something similar. I could feel everything even after the ep. Son’s head was stuck in my birth canal. I told them I wanted to stand. That was all I wanted. 3 nurses held me, 1 held her hand on my throat, dr told me I obviously wanted my son to die. Then cut me. While seeing me back up he yelled repeatedly to “stop flinching”. That it was making it hard to sew and I couldn’t feel it anyway. When I cried I could feel it all, he told me to suck it up. Someone came to file a complaint from the board. More members came to tell me how sorry they were.
That sounds like a total nightmare of an experience. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Obstetric violence is no joke.
Girl same 😭 shark week is killing me !!!!
hang in there!!!
Me too it is such a pain.
How are we all on shark week together 🤣
@@jayt5685because each day 800 million people menstruate, which is 26% of the global population simultaneously on their period.
Right there with y’all 🫠
First story, mental health isn't an excuse. Plus, the cousin insulted OP's job in their rant. I think OP's reaction was warranted.
You are correct. Mental health isn't an excuse it's a legitimate reason
@@user-pm5mi3io7r I completely disagree. Mental health should not be a reason to be mean and insult someone that doesn’t deserve it, nonetheless family.
An excuse? When did we talk abt excuses
@@user-pm5mi3io7r As someone who also struggles with anxiety and depression I cannot blow up at my family and expect them to take because of my mental health.
Once the cousin calmed down - yes, sure. But when the cousin is still *actively* a panicking, to laugh at her to her face? I’ve had someone laugh at me for panicking at something ‘stupid’ only once, and it’s stuck with me because of how awful it was. I was never able to feel safe around that person again. I wouldn’t wish that feeling on my worst enemy. Once the panic attack has faded, sure, jab away. It’s only fair, she said and did some cruel things, and her mental health doesn’t absolve her of that. But saying “mental health isn’t an excuse” as a reason to kick someone while they’re down like that is, in my opinion, downright awful. Especially since, as we saw, it only made everything worse in the moment (it might be a different story if it had somehow helped in any way).
When I had a cesarean, my epidural did not work. I told the anesthesiologist who proceeded to tell me it did work. She rubbed an alcohol wipe on my stomach and asked if I could feel it. I told her I could feel every bit of it. She told me I was wrong and that I couldn't feel it. When the surgery started it was the most painful experience of my life. I've blacked out shortly after.
holy crap. If that were me the hospital would see one hell of a legal shit storm for that malpractice
Not remotely the same but when I was a teen I had to get 4 molars removed bc of braces (my mouth was too small for all the teeth that were coming in lol) and I told the dentist hey I can feel that pressure. I screamed and screamed for 2 molars my mom ran into the room told them to FIX it and she finally gave me more anesthetic and the other 2 removals were a breeze. I refused to go back to that dentist again. For idk 8 yrs after that dentists made me violently nervous to the point that everytime they took my BP and heart rate they had to let me sit for 20 minutes by myself to let me calm down
@@alexshaw8167 after that, a woman came into my hospital room and very aggressively told me that my baby tested positive for narcotics. I was shocked and confused. She told me they were going to be doing further testing. Then the doctor came in with a couple of hospital people that I had not seen before with some paperwork and asked me to sign it excusing them of any liability. Of course nothing ever came of the narcotics lie. I'm now know they were just trying to intimidate me. I was so exhausted and out of it, I just wanted everyone to leave me alone. Later I regretted that but the statute of limitations was up after a year. For a couple of years, anytime I even tried to talk about the surgery, I would start shaking and my heart would race.
@@PoppyL99 totally understandable. I'm a red head and red heads tend to be resistant to anesthesia. I struggle at the dentist. It's very hard to get numb. Do you have any red head genes?
@bigfishbunny77 no actually! Lol I'm Mexican. Got the darkest hair in my family, everyone else already has Grey's coming in and despite being the eldest of my siblings I don't have any. I've just always had a crazy pain threshold and then also had a high tolerance for pain meds.
Whoever said not to worry about spilt milk has never spilled ounces of breastmilk 😂 That is the only time I cry over spilled milk. Otherwise I totally agree.
THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I THOUGHT 😭
I LOVE the idea of divorce being a "happy ever after". I'm sure someone needed to hear that way more than me, but it was pretty profound. Love you guys and the cast ❤
Honestly, with the 1st tory, I would like to remind everyone that anxiety is a very illogical, very chaotic beast. The silliest things will make you feel like it's the end of the world
Wedding dress story: not the asshole. If she really is wanting to get into the wedding industry this is a good lesson for her to learn about ignoring the client's wants and needs
Registered Nurse here. The grey line for consent: there is not one. If deemed mentally competent, it's whatever they say. It is your RIGHT to refuse care.
Doctor was probably trying to help. However, she said NO. It's your job to help them to the right decision. Not force them.
Exactly. And she was obviously conscious. She had the wherewithal to get herself into a position more conducive to labor. At no point did they even need to start a “power of attorney” discussion. I’m so appalled by that doctor.
The act of pulling your knees apart closes/tightens the birth canal, this is why a lot of women are unnecessarily given episiotomies rather than having women squat or having the knees in a position pointing towards eachother. Highly suggest having a midwife or general advocate for mothers giving birth.
Isn’t it also true the in stirrups position is just easier for doctors, not for mom or baby
just want to say i appreciate morgan kinda shutting down the whole "homophobic bullies are just in the closet" stereotype, it's always rubbed me the wrong way. something about always assuming bigots just need to come out and are projecting doesn't sit right with me
Story 7: He resents her for being the breadwinner. He hates that women and hates that he depends on her. His stupid pride.
Traumatic birth story - my mom was told she wouldn’t feel the snip when the doctors cut her and she felt everything! She said it was one of the most painful experiences and the doctors didn’t care. It’s sad to think that 30 years later this hasn’t changed. It bleeds into IUDs for me where women are made to experience extreme pain that’s not necessary if doctors listened and used medication that is accessible.
story 1 reminds me of when i worked at walmart during covid and whenever we got toilet paper pallets in my boss would just tell us all to go buy some on our breaks. everyone buys toilet paper no one cares that much lmao
As a person who works in surgery, you saying that hip fractures are the silent killers of the elderly is sooooo freaking true. I can't tell you how many times a hip fracture is an older person's final injury before they pass. It's terrible.
Really like the episodes with just Morgan and Justin. They compliment each other so well, and the conversation is so natural. Great episode, and it's great to see yall thriving together!
THIS PART. they make the best episodes
Couldn’t disagree more. Dear Lord 🥲
the “girlfriend tax” 😂
by the way the other story about the birth… I had an episiotomy because my daughter was technically stuck and suction cup snapped but I was too out of it to really know what was going on. Initially, the doctor wanted to do a C-section and I said no …Thank God my midwife stood up for me and let me push. The doctor did look at me like he was annoyed, and guess what … I never went back to him..
I often think Men don't get it because they can't.. then had a female compare our pregnancies..Dr's I mean. It was her first..my third..I never went back to her!! She couldn't understand I was Always sick but refused to be put into an anti nausea drug trial!! Where I might get the drug, ginger or a placebo..I knew a woman who buried a thalidomide child!! Still gives me trauma..they were on strike so I had no obgyn for the rest of the pregnancy.. healthy Bratgrrl lol.
Morgan- I am so happy that you’ve found such a good man to spend your life with. He’s such a green flag!! His comments during the birth story blew my mind. It’s refreshing to hear a man think this way. Woman to woman, I love love love that you’ve found a good one. May your lives together be blessed and happy ❤
the RAGE i feel for the birthing story.....
Story 2. If zoey wants to be a wedding dress designer she is going to need to learn that you do what the client asks, that is within your skill set. She made the dress she wanted instead of the dress op wanted, she broke the rules of having clients and running your own business. Op is not the asshole and her dad and stepmom need to have a conversation with zoey on whats appropriate business behavior and how to treat clients.
For story #4, no there isn't really a grey area with unconsentual episiotomies. They should not be performed without consent. It's almost never necessary
Story 4 is my greatest fear. Already gave birth once, but I'm still terrified this could happen
As someone who wants to be a midwife one day, I am so. Proud. Of Justin popping off at Story 4.
My sons probably 5 years away from dating and he's watching these with me religiously. With both Morgan and Justin's commentary, I feel like hes gonna be set up for success 😂
Story 4 - every part of this story sounds strange and abnormal. When I was giving birth, there was a consent form for everything and my birth plan was a legal document at that point. I understand the idea of cutting to reduce tearing/infection, but in my experience it requires consent and signature on a legal form. I’m genuinely confused at the lapse of formal procedures and processes missing from this interaction.
I had an emergency c-section and even in that emergency situation, the surgical team had someone come in and explain the procedure, risks, the reason for the surgery, and other options then I signed a legal document to consent to the procedure. OP is obviously not the asshole, but I’m wondering what are the standard procedures in this hospital for the labor and delivery team and are they being followed?
Story 6- donating an organ to anyone is choice and not something that a person is entitled to. If the sister is sick enough to need a new kidney she would be put on a transplant list as well as having her family tested. She will become a higher priority the sicker she gets and if OP has gone NC with the family and sister then why they suddenly feel OP NEEDS to give his kidney is so twisted.
Also speaks volumes that the sister is willing to date a high school bully, that made your brother's life hell and the fact that the family side with the bully- no wonder OP doesn't want to get involved with them anymore!
2nd story: how on earth can her father not see that she traded a free dress for one she had to pay for, with one month’s notice. You don’t choose to spend money when free is an option without a good reason. She would have to pay money to alter a dress she doesn’t even like that she had no input on.
Justing being so disgusted by the idea of the french king enjoying watching births that he almost begged to move on is everything😂❤
PERFECT morning- drive-on- my- way- to- work video! Great timing Morgan, thank you☺️
Just be careful and be aware of your surroundings. Don't want any accidents
@championanthony7643 that's why I just listen and don't watch it
@@tkat921 awesome. I just tend to worry about people in general when I see a potentially dangerous situation. Sorry if it sounded weird 😅
Morgan thank you so much for the TW’s, not going to lie I used to think it was unnecessary but I am currently pregnant and I now have a new appreciation 💓 thank you!
Story 4: The line is whether or not the patient is alert and oriented to time, place, person, and event. If they are alert and oriented, you MUST have consent or it is assault and battery. If they are not alert and oriented a medical team can move forward under “implied consent” meaning, if they were alert and oriented enough to make decisions it’s safest to assume that a person would want to move forward with what is best for them medically. That’s the line. That’s what we are taught in school. It’s not grey. You medically diagnose if they are capable of making decisions and if they are, you inform them of your advise and potential outcomes if they choose not to proceed with it, then accept their decision even if you feel they’re making the “wrong” decision.
The birth story, I’m sorry who gives af if the husband was embarrassed?!? She was about to be ripped open haphazardly without consent and her husband is embarrassed? F off dude
S3: I’ve been in waaaay too many situationships to not ask about exclusivity or being official. Left no room for confusion when I was dating my bf early on. I’ve had friends who say the idea of talking about it is awkward but my anxiety and I can’t handle the blurred lines and uncertainty
Story 4:
1. Justin is going to be such a good partner and medical advocate for Morgan if they decide to have biological children
2. I think it’s important for men to know that them being in the room is not mandatory. If OP stays with him, she needs to get legal paperwork to decide someone else being the medical executor over her in the event she can’t make a decision for herself
The birth story gets me heated. I love that they mention patient focused care. I sweat so many OBs come into the delivery room with their plan and the woman giving birth is almost like an obstacle to overcome. I had a horrible first birth, I was clueless, I discussed in depth the plan for my 2nd birth and my female Dr was onboard with every decision, the day arrives, my Dr isn't available and when I start discussing the birth plan, the unfamiliar Dr just shut me down, he said he doesn't use those methods and I felt like I was at his mercy.
I’m sorry that happened to you 🩷
The terrifying birth story: I don’t know how op can trust the husband in the future for anything. To hold her down… instead of fighting for her and her rights… if she didn’t threaten the doctor with a lawsuit maybe he wouldn’t have stopped? This seems like he didn’t do anything right but was then ready to take drastic measures just to be done? Was he at the end of his shift? That doctor is ready for a lawsuit and then retirement.
Story 4: I had all women when I was delivering my son, it was still a s* show. Part of the problem was probably that most of the contractions I didn't feel where you're supposed to, but in my thighs. They felt like they were ripping apart every time. When I first went in, the doctor, a woman, checked me and said I hadn't dilated at all. So I said, but then why am I in agony. Then they took my details, the nurse fat shamed me for being 84kg. They put me on a monitor and then told me I'm not in labour and I should stop making a scene. I was screaming, I was in so much pain. They told me to go home and put a hot water bottle on it. 2 hours after I got home I was in an ambulance. My water broke and I had the urge to push. At the hospital I got some gas, tore badly when I couldn't resist the urge to push because of the gas. My son was out in 30 minutes. They had to saw me together without any painkillers. It took them another 30 minutes. Oh, and I was still berated for screaming. They told me I can't push if I scream. Yeah, it took me three pushes and he was out. I'm actually a belly dancer and have strong deep abdominal muscles. I'm still traumatised from the whole thing a year after.
I’m having a depressive week … I’ve been watching since nearly day one and today is the first time I’ve availed of a trigger warning. Thank you for always including them and being so informative with them 🫶🏻
Sending Healing Hugs From Edmonton XooX
One of my favorite quotations goes something like: "Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but gets you nowhere." I have it as a magnet on my fridge. I have an anxiety disorder, so if worrying was something I could get money for, I'd be a millionaire by now. Still, I try to remind myself that worrying really won't get me anywhere, even as I'm pacing around the house playing worst-case scenarios in my head.
I really appreciate how honest Morgan is about her health in every aspect. Colonoscopies and gynecologist appointments! Thank you for just normalizing it all by being casual!
20:01 ah heck nah, I’ve done some commission work for friends as an art student, and even in my classes they tell you to do *what the client wants.* you’re allowed to make suggestions, but you cannot make them take something they don’t want.
Hi! Using my husband's account. I'm a two time mom. Episiotomies are NEVER recommended anymore. They don't help babies come out and they end up harming the mother more than a natural tear would. Also this mother was not necessarily in hysterics. Women in labor enter something called "labor land" where they just do whatever they need to get the labor over with as safely as possible. For more information on all of this, I recommend the Evidence Based Birth Podcast.
day two of shark week here and even though it’s almost 3am, I’m ready to listen to some good Reddit stories. I needed this after officially starting up my small business yesterday and almost everything that could go wrong did go wrong when trying to just get things up and running.
Hahahaha im also on day 2 and woke up at 4am 🙃
People who give birth naturally tear when its right forba tear to happen. Typically a cut from a doctor is straight, but at times the cut can be too deep and cause damage and issues. But doctors prefer it because then you only have to sew a straight line, not a crooked tear. She is a badass for advocating for herself. If I were in that state I dont know I would have been strong enough to say "NO" to a doctor. Medical trauma is VERY real. And women and AFAB people are going to always be at the recieving end of it. That husband should be backing his partner up, he should be protecting his wife and child. He should be thanking her and thanking heavens that HER mama instincts kicked in and she saved herself and her baby. Like fuck that guy.
(Edit: People with more intersectionality are also at very high rates and risks of being dismissed by healthcare providers, and experiencing medical trauma. Didn't want to forget anyone)
the fact justin went to the lengths of considering she worked for the competing toilet paper brand lmfaoooo
That's immediately what I conjured up because my brain demanded any logic possible 😆
@@rachelspencer3717 hahaha i love other people's brains so much
Last hour of my overnight shift, this is perfect timing 😅