UNMARRIED "RED PILL" MUSLIMS
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I've been seeing this kind of behavior a lot and its been pretty unreal. That a Muslim can actually sit there and pretend that he is emulating the Prophet by calling women spoiled milk, saying things like "you women are always like this, unbearable" and so on. Glad that there is someone who is pointing it out. Allah tells us that "The believing men and believing women are allies of one another." and yet there are people who think that such behavior is acceptable.
Except many don't say those things. Sure some do but I've met many who claim to be redpilled but don't say any of those things. Criticising modern women is not the same as harassing them.
@@SheikhPill Yeah I've seen some that aren't like that but it's widespread enough for it to be a big issue. People almost definitely had similar conversations when feminism first infiltrated the Muslim population: "I've met many that aren't like that". That's not the point, the point is that when any Muslim decides to use the reactionary movements of the kuffar (feminism and redpill are both reactionary) instead of just following Islam as it is with no bias, then idiocy and kufr will rear their ugly heads.
i remember my red pill phase alhamdillilah that it passed and that it happened
Except the prophet saw said in Sahih al-Bukhari 304 Narrated Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri:
Once Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) went out to the Musalla (to offer the prayer) of `Id-al-Adha or Al-Fitr prayer. Then he passed by the women and said, "O women! Give alms, as I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-fire were you (women)." They asked, "Why is it so, O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) ?" He replied, "You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. A cautious sensible man could be led astray by some of you." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! What is deficient in our intelligence and religion?" He said, "Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?" They replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Isn't it true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?" The women replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her religion."
western dating market is doomed since social media this has nothing to do with religion but with female nature. even some muslim women are affected by these feminist ideas or social media, making them more materialistic. this is a real issue and not just hate by some virgins who cant get women.
I'm not a Muslim, but I think this person, Saajid is quite wise and intelligent. I have been fallowing Islamic (and other religious) content for some years now, and in my opinion he is one of the very very few people who stick to the principles of their religion without being affected by emotions. He does not get angry, doesn't take side with whoever opposes his enemy, and doesn't show obsessive behavior. Other Muslim preachers often fall into the trap of anger or get obsessed with one kind of ideology they oppose (feminism for example) and therefore fall from the other side of the roof and undermine their own principles in order to side with the enemy's enemy.
First of in sha Allah your heart is opened to Islam and id highly recommend watching more saajid videos for help, secondly agree he’s a great brother who sticks to what he believes, recently he had a terrible campaign of slander against him but still stayed calm and conducts himself well may Allah reward him in this life and the next ameen
True, may Allah bless you and guide you to islam.
We consider bro Saajid a good brother and student of knowledge who follows the quran and Sunnah jazah Allah kher, and only Allah knows for sure.
Follow also brother Mohamad Ali from "the muslim lantern" for more benefit inshallah
It makes sense to oppose feminism what it has become today directly contradicts the teachings of Islam, and there is a difference between a preacher and scholar and that is evident when they speak they don't let emotions dictate their behaviour.
@@wilddon5363 yeah, of course feminism is not compatible with Islam, but there are many other ideologies that also oppose Islam and when one gets obsessed with attacking only one enemy, that garners kind of dumb behavior. For example Daniel Haqiqajou, who is also is very intelligent Muslim preacher, is so obsessed with feminism that he sides with figures who are also very problematic according according to Islam. His obsession with feminism has made him constantly promote Andrew Tate who, sincerely I thing, is going to embarrass him and his religion at last!
@@nima3633 Andrew Tate is a revert now he's still learning what it means to become Muslim he's not perfect and he says many thing for satire purposes, when cameras are on but women mostly can't stand him I've noticed which I understand but he's not as bad he just says stuff others don't have the courage to say in liberal corrupted societies.
You seem like the only sane Muslim man, who is talking against the toxicity of the followers of that movement
Shamsi has spoken up against this as well, may Allah bless him.
You need to get offline. 99% Muslim men and women are neither feminists nor red pill idiots. All this stuff happens for people who don't get along well in society
@@Zzucia I don't know who he is , but I'll check and see🌝
@Gicybb Jcybh omg😂😂😂😂 please just accept that many people (especially women) are scared of that movement and people who follow it. His color has nothing to do with it, he's just right. End of discussion. I'm black and I'll never worship people based on how much melanin they have
@@adjadenisedoumbia9305 You should be scared. You women probably want the dajjali feminism but men are slowly waking up
Thank you for speaking on this brother, this is a huge issue muslim brothers are getting sucked into believing it’s the male version of feminism and needs to be called out
Thats a great description. Male feminism.
Absolutely 💯
_Who are the majority of the followers of the Dajjal after his main followers i.e. the apartheid tribesmen?_
Narrated 'Abdullah ibn ‘Umar رضي الله عنهما that the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
"The Dajjal will camp in this salty, barren ground in Marr Qanat [a valley in Madinah], _and most of those who go out to him will be women, to the extent that a man will go back to his relative, to his mother, his daughter, his sister and his paternal aunt, and will tie her up for fear that she may go out to him._ Then Allah will give the Muslims power over him, and they will kill him and his party, until a Jew will hide beneath a tree or a rock, and the rock or tree will say to the Muslim: ‘Here is a Jew beneath me; kill him.’ "
[Musnad Ahmad » Musnad 'Abdullah Ibn 'Umar » Hadith no. 5353 » But there is some weakness in its isnad because of the ‘an‘anah of the Sirah scholar Muhammad ibn Ishaq (i.e., narration by saying ‘an (from) rather than saying 'so and so said/told us).]
There are other corroborating reports; see the commentary on al-Musnad in the Mu’sasat ar-Risalah edition.
These corroborating reports were quoted by al-Hafiz Ibn Hajar رحمه الله in Fath al-Bari (6/610); he classed as hasan the hadith of Samurah ibn Jundub رضي الله عنه then he said: 'What is meant by fighting the Jews is that this will happen when the Dajjal emerges and ‘Isa (Jesus) عليه السلام descends.
Also these terminologies from the disbelievers like red pill, chad or using their memes should be labelled as Jahiliyyah and imitating disbelievers.
A certain person and his deobandi Taliban 'Aqidah of no education for women has no basis in the Sunnah. Women should cease this feminism and become loyal to Allah ﷻ and His Messenger ﷺ and Islam that gives them all of their rights.
Brother Saajid, thank you for addressing this issue. I have been so disgusted and disappointed by the rhetoric a lot of brothers and sisters influenced by this ideology have been using towards women. May this video be a means of many people being guided to the balanced path. May Allah keep us all on His balanced path and safeguard our religion. Allah ya baarek fik.
I literally had to leave Instagram because of this and unfollow so many Muslim accounts
Ameen.
A man should approach a woman (for marriage) the way he would want his daughter to be approached. Also, a man should treat his wife how he would want his daughter to be treated. If not, you are a hypocrite!
Thank you brother for speaking up against a growing problem in our community, that no other Muslim influencer has the courage to talk about!
EXACTLY!
Why would these men insult women like this and expect fathers to give them their daughters?
Thank you, brother Saajid. You're always a sane voice on these matters!
" Men age like wine and women age like milk " Hope they feel the same for their mother, sisters and daughters . Also hope their father, brother in law and son in law also feel the same for their women.
But it is true in a way. Men do not become permanently infertile at around age 40. And the Prophet mentioned to us that men should marry young virgins instead of barren women if possible. He did not say women should marry young virgins if possible.
Milk is good tho , wine is Haram and stinks new or old
Thats not the prophets sunnah tho. The prophet married 11 wives. But are allowed 11????
So the prophet sallallahu alihi wasalam encouraged us to marry virgin in command NOT just in practice which can be his cutsomary practice or prwctice that was only for him.
Jabir ibn ‘Abdullah (Allah be pleased with them) said that Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to me, ‘Jabir, have you got married?’
I said, ‘Yes.’
He asked, ‘A virgin or one previously married?’
I said, ‘One who was previously married.’
He said, ‘Why didn’t you marry a young girl who you could play around with and who could play around with you?’
I said, ‘I actually have a number of [young] sisters so I wanted to marry a woman who could look after them, comb their hair, and run their affairs.’ (Muslim)
@taimurahmad
Jaber the Sahabi was also an unmarried man . He was not a divorced or widow man
الحمد لله
Very nice my brother Saajid. I am not up on this "red pill" garbage. I'm glad that both of my daughters are now married. May Allah ta'Ala guide these young brothers and sisters to avoid the new distractions of today and stick to Qur'an and Sunnah to the best of their ability. Stay far away from the entertainment callers and listen only to those teaching the pure deen.
💯 Br Saajid.
I’m already thankfully married Al-Hamdulilāh, but the comments on those pages are absolutely disgusting..if I was single I’d rather stay single if this is how people were behaving. Allahul mustaan
I grew up with that kind of misogyny and in the last few years I was glad to see men be brave enough to educate themselves and find a balance whilst remaining respectable.
But now ego is getting in the way and they’re resorting to childish behaviour and insults again.
It’s so funny that they can’t make the link, that their extreme hate for women is affecting them getting married, and vice Vera’s too. Not to mention to have this hate towards your fellow Muslim brother or sister is sinful !
I agree and know extreme feminism has potentially caused this.. Allahu Alem
We found a balance before and In’ shā’ Allāh we can again.
Brothers there are plenty of women who aren’t feminists but if you are so deeply misogynistic where you do respect the women in your life, I’m sure you’re directly or indirectly causing them to be on the defence and or become feminists..
most of these brothers who behave in such a way will have a super feminist sister too. 😂
Most well mannered respectable men have sisters who are secure in their family home, who respect and love their sisters, who in turn don’t feel the need to be seen or heard via feminism. It’s the opposite that creates them! Which I bet most of the one’s complaining are like..
Everyone’s ego is getting in the way. End times are here
Wake up people and stop being so petty. Life is too short wallahi
Fear Allāh ﷻ and we’ll all be ok
You're very right. The people most attracted to these have feminists in their lives and push good women to feminism the way feminists pushed them into this
Alhamdulilah once again brother you are doing good work
Allahumabarik
It’s been really embarrassing to see a lot of Muslim involved in red pill right wing movement.
I have know about this red pill incels long before it became famous recently by recently famous people and I was shock at how the Muslims jumped on this.
I am not shocked at all by this. If you live in the West you have seen for years how feminism has corroded the minds and communities of many Muslims, this red pill reaction (while wrong and misguided) is very natural seeming to anyone who has seen this
From a womens perspective, I completely agree, thank you brother Sajid. No father will marry their daughter to these men and no women will marry them either.
Lot of women won't marry any man these days, I have seen them myself. Not sure what can be done about it...
Women won't marry average Muslim men anyway. They are rather enjoying their freedom than pushing for marriage, only if they can gain something out of it. It's not like Red Pill is the reason for marriage being delayed, it's not even close, and women have been delaying marriage for years. It's more common to join the workforce than it is to get married.
Tbh, and this is very unfortunate is that women won’t even marry the average Muslim man. It’s a real problem and it’s why finding a righteous souse has become so hard these days. The destruction the western ideologies of feminism is now leading us to the opposite extreme and I only see it getting worse. May Allah protect us from such fitnah
@@blueflame3531 yep, and I'm also seeing a lot of traditional Islamic marriage values being labeled as "redpill" or Islam is the most "redpilled" religion. Astagfirullah, may Allah protect us and make it easy for us.
@@nxronite9994 I'm not even Redpill. The amount of time I've been called all the words from misogynist to incel on the web is hilarious. Just because I said a husband has the rights over his wife.
Sajid hit the nail on the head! I don’t know one father who is happy with his daughter being uneducated, just having her husband take care of her. The reality is that some men abuse their wives, some men cheat, and some men will leave their wives. It is imperative for women to be educated and have the ability to take care of herself if mistreated by her husband, and every father knows this. Now I’m not saying every woman should be a career woman, not at all, she could be a housewife, but she should at least have some type of education or training.
I don't agree with this. I think a lot of father's (including me) see that a woman's beauty is her asset like a man's education, and in the worst case scenario, just as a man leans on his education, if he is laid off, to find another job, so too could a woman rely on her femininity and beauty, if she has to leave her marriage, to find another husband
@@fark69 that's truly depressing. I'm so thankful for my father who made sure I got my driving license as soon as I turned 18, taught me how to swim and learn self defense aswell as finish my education and experience independence.
My mother made sure we were well taught in Islamic knowledge and how to take care of a house and cook. She taught me and my brothers equally so we were all able to fully take care of ourselves in every sense.
My siblings and I are all successfully married now with children and are thriving. I'm celebrating 18yrs with my husband this summer. We also never stepped out as teens having been raised in the west.
You're doing your daughter a disservice by not giving her all the tools she needs.
@@Falasteen7urra haram
Jazaka Allah khayran for talking about this important topic!
Exactly I have been saying this from day one, and most of us (hopefully) see right through this. There are a lot of weird uneducated characters online preying on the naive. And subhan Allah these individuals, their videos and their lack of haya says it all. People you need to see the red flags. Jazak Allah khair for the video, couldn't have said it better.
good message brother Lipham.
i watch that content, really just to observe. and like you said some things they get right, and many wrong.
you addressing this was needed.
Salaam.
The best education for women is something that can be performed part time from home when there aren't many small children demanding their mother's attention. This is the best of both worlds IMO.
I dont want to deal with the financial consequences of divorce or be stuck in a horrible marriage
The situation is complicated in America. When I was married my dad "gave me away" in the ceremony (that's what we call it) and in fact it was merely ceremonial because at that time he had no choice in the matter of the groom , the bride herself chose. My dad bought us a bedroom set and a new car and after that he was never really involved, as in checking up to see if I was happy as he spent all his time running his life insurance company.
And if I wasn't happy, I would certainly never go complain to my parents.
Over the years I noticed that traditionally the Greeks and the Italians Involved themselves much more in the he lives of their children and grandchildren.
In the end we are all under Allah's decree no matter a waly involved or not. Only Allah turns the hearts, It really doesn't have much to do with who works or does the domestic chores. Our youth need intense aqidah lessons before they marry, so they realize the only real power comes from obeying and loving HIM.
Jazaak Allahu khayr for tackling this touchy subject which is overlooked in any real sense.
Saajid, you are a real one. Allahumma baarik.
السلام عليكم و رحمة الله وبركاته
Excellent advice. بارك الله فيك
This advice is every much needed.
Thank you brother Saajad, this is what's needed uniting men and women not dividing like other YT. This is Islam. May Allah bless and continue to guide you. 💯🤍
Finally ustaz Saajid talked about this, thank you very much. I always felt that redpill view abit extreme can lead muslims astray..but they sound appealing to men generally. Sometimes i feel bad when some muslims men talk to muslim sisters in a degrading way. Although the sister view is kinda valid. This is different to the story of Muslim women asked the Prophet about an issue with her husband, then Allah revealed the quran verse. Then the story Umar was reminded by muslim women also. They did not dismiss the opinions of the muslim women. If it is a valid issue, try our best to help people regardless of gender. Just my opinion as normal guy who view redpill or feminine movements as outsider
@Gicybb Jcybh yes i feel sad also..and sometimes i reminded them. Too bad some of them fall into feminism. But i feel the redpill is another extreme that could lead muslims men to treat women unfairly.
@Gicybb Jcybh doesn't make the red pilled guys right
May Allah bless you all and guide me and my family, ameen!
Allahumma Barak akhi I never heard of this thing ya Allah keep us guided on the haq the way of our predecessors Ameen
Assalamu alaykum Saajid. There are so many ayaat and ahadeeth on how a wife should be treated, both before, in marriage and even after divorce. It has the perfect balance of women being treated good and not pedestalized. I think you should introduce and reminds us of that. Because most seemed to be focused on the geerah and want of the father who could be on the straight path or misguided, or even a feminist himself. Wallahu a'lam
I used to be heavily redpilled but no longer anymore thankfully. I can't exactly fault young Muslim men who are attracted to the redpill lifestyle (i am not defending it though). When you're young and directionless it makes sense you will want to emulate those you see who live better lives than you even if those people aren't morally great. On the topic of involuntary celibate men unfortunately this is becoming an issue in many countries with young men struggling to find partners which leads to them wanting to become "redpilled" or even "blackpilled".
I use redpill for argumentation of what happens to relationships that dont follow islam. Nowadays both genders are unhappy.
You are now Sheikhpilled.
@@bilalel-baher7859 Can’t you use islam to prove what happens to people if they don’t follow Islam? Lol
Outside of it giving a outlet for men to just vent these type of hateful thoughts and ideas of women, overall it not helpful or conducive for a healthy marriage or even attracting women. It’s withering in such negativity and I think it blackens the heart
@@yamilahj9666 prove red pilled is not in line with Islam. go on
Very true my brother. I heard these comments and as a older woman feel very sorry for the Muslim youths of today. Jazakallah khiran.
When are we going to blame the parents of both men and women trying to get married??
The tribal and cultural beliefs of some families are making it very difficult to get married. Most of the blame should be on the women's parents.
Red Pill and other movements have a piece in this as well.
@ok00001 - My wife is Egyptian. I'm American.
People, not my wife's family, were telling her what would happen if he leaves you, divorces you, takes the kids etc etc. They are so ignorant that they refuse to see that it happens in their own "tribe" or "culture."
Alhamdulillah my wife's family chooses Islam over their tribal and cultural beliefs. It is the duty of people to learn others culture and tribal beliefs
A pretty wise take; Islam was never about extreme approaches. Alhamdulillah may Allah enlightens our souls and minds.
Well said brother.
Thank you for making this video. I hope it reaches our lost Muslim brothers. Islam made me feel proud, protected, honored and important as a woman. These "Muslim influencers" made me fear for myself and fear for my future daughters, and much worse, it made others believe that Islam treats women like sub-humans who are only there to take care of men.
Spot on subhanallah both men and women have gone off the deep end unfortunately. May Allah subhanawatala guide the ummah on the straight path. This situation can be easily fixed by following the sunnah. Both sides have been blinded unfortunately. Allahul must3aan.
People have to understand that women by nature are more emotional. In many situations being harsh really doesn’t help. It especially won’t often help with those who are already influenced by feminism. You might end up only pushing them further away from the deen. Use wisdom when you advise.
he did. this video was the most balanced take on this situation, but you wont understand cuz you're one of those involuntary celibates
So what would you recommend? I don't think any Muslims really have a great response to those already influenced by feminism. I'm open to other ideas
@@fark69 as a woman, sometimes my heart leans toward feminism when I read comments by Muslim men that women are perceived as the worst being and most of us will enter hellfire.
What makes me stay in Islam it's because of the Qur'an. Because of the truths and the scientific verses, the wisdom, but above all, it's because of the verses in the Quran which show that Allah loves women and merciful to women. because Allah tells us to never lose hope in Allah's mercy.
when men say that the wife has to obey her husband no matter what and if there's a conflict it must be because of the wife, There's a verse in Quran, which is An-Nisa: 35 that gives both husband and wife the same position when it comes to resolving conflict and two way communication :
"If you anticipate a split between them, appoint a mediator from his family and another from hers. If they desire reconciliation, Allah will restore harmony between them. Surely Allah is All-Knowing, All-Aware".
When some men say that we shouldn't follow our feeling and there's no such thing as love, it's all about worshipping Allah, Allah says in the Quran that love is one of the signs of Allah:
"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect" (Ar-Rum 21).
Quran is the only one who saves me from being part of feminism and not too affected by comments from red pilled guys.
So my suggestion is, if you want to tell women not to follow feminism, it can't be with negative words and attitude. You have to show them that Allah loves them.
Feminism manifests itself in a wife in 3 main ways:
1. Wife is confused about her own role and identity (she takes on masculine qualities, like being in charge, aggressive, dominant, disagreeable, combative, argumentative).
2. Wife is confused about her husband's role and identity (she expects him to have feminine qualities, like being over-agreeable, docile, or obedient to her whims.)
3. Wife is confused about the nature and the tenor of the marriage (she sees it as a competition instead of complementarity, elementary-school "equality" instead of natural male-female polarity, and stunted androgeny instead of full-fleged masculinity and femininity.)
Naturally, if her husband resists her distorted view of marriage, the feminist wife will become angry and start talking about "abuse!"
And if her husband acquiesces to her distorted view of marriage, the feminist wife will become disgusted with him and start talking about "abuse!"
Either way, the marriage is doomed. Feminism is the death of marriage.
you just copy pasted Haqiqatjou's wife's post. this is an anti-incel video. you dont belong here
You can replace "feminism" with "red pill" and reverse the sexes and end up with a similar essay. No one is saying Muslims should be feminists, although some aspects are compatible with Islam (while many are not). The same can be said about red pill- some aspects are compatible with Islam (while many are not). Each extreme want to promote the interests of its sex while dismissing the rights of the other. Each denigrates the other side. Each promotes promiscuity. Learn your values from the Qur'an, the sunnah, and the scholars who are upon the truth. Internet "girlbosses" and "high value men" will lead you down a road of misery where you end up alone and bitter.
@@skywa7183 That's like saying you only have to enroll in university to receive a higher education.
I don't get why red-pill men choose to marry a woman having clear feministic views and actions and put all the restrictions later in marriage trying to make her "true Muslima" and cry when they are exhausted from the efforts that go into changing the mindset of the other person after marriage. I mean why put all your valuable energy into molding a woman's fitra and trying to adjust her in a western system? Red pill mentality manifests arrogance and it's the trait of a shaitan, it is more dangerous than a liberal ignorant mindset. Jahalat is better than arrogance.
@@skywa7183 they didn't have RESOURCES but they still grew up hearing stories and examples from the Prophet pbuh. They learned about the deen constantly throughout their lives. They still learned Quran or other people around them would correct them and teach them. I knew people that lived in the mountains in Yemen with no schools, electricity or running water, and still knew their deen very well. This is something we, the diaspora living in the modern west, have lost in a way that we don't even realize, so we HAVE to go out of our way to learn the deen. Strengthening the imaan is absolutely important and needs dedicated effort. Jizzak Allah Khair
Brother Saajid raised a valid and crucial point. You can blame the society today as much as you want but a Muslim man single man should have honour and courage to handle marriage. Of course you have to have an income to support a wife. I think young men should step up a level and have the guts to approach the family of a woman they're interested in. In many cultures you appoint a family member to approach the girl's family to ask her hand. This is the best way and it even encourages the girl to mary.
Assalam wa Alaikum
Jazakallah for making this video ... muslims need to hear this!! ... many muslims, specially young boys have taken marriage as a joke ... and women as objects without saying it so ...
I hate feminism as well but this extreme incel thing is cruel as well
This is the reaction to feminism. Feminism has institutional support whereas this does not. Both require different strategies to combat
Ustadh Saajid please do more videos on this
Alhamdulilah you are the second brother speaking about red pill , Hamza T has a very nice episodes regarding this
Work on yrself and the right woman will come.. Patience is the key.. Rushing can lead to regret.. Allah Knows best
Wallahi brothe saajid you made me happy with this, unfortunately even my father is refusing me marrying a women of my age (no one specific just the idea) because "women grow older faster so they get ugly"
may Allah guide us all
I'm pretty sure you don't need your father's permission who to marry if you're a male.
@@shahidabdoullakhanzorovr1564 yes, but they are the ones looking for a spouse for me, it is a cultural issue
@@favhwdg Understood.
That's true, women age like 🥛
Another great video like usual brother Saajid. May Allah keep you on the straight path always speaking the truth ya Rabbi
you are right brother Saajid, may Allah ﷻ reward you, ameen. wallahi, the ummah is so confused and ignorant, unfortunately!
On the topic of involuntary celibate men unfortunately this is becoming an issue in many countries with young men struggling to find partners which leads to them wanting to become "redpilled" or even "blackpilled".
Time to dispense some Sheikh pills
Blackpilled?
I don't understand why this is an issue. Islam allows polygyny, so naturally there will be men who have no wives. If you are a man, earn money, become righteous, learn Quran, make yourself a catch, and you might even have two wives. If you are struggling, improve yourself. Men are lucky this way that they get married for their status (which can be improved). Women are often married for their beauty (which is hard to change) or their haya (which is hard to guard)
@@fark69 Saheeh, in a way this marriage crisis is a blessing from Allāh because it sort of forces us to try and be the best versions of ourselves, we have to get stronger in our deen and dunyah. May Allāh make it easy for us Ameen.
@@monito3575 They don't associate with women at all outside of necessary business transactions. They're bitter and don't want to even marry anymore.
True. Mahdi Tidjani should watch this lol
Alhamdulillah that's a breathe of fresh air, may Allah guide DH
What are your thoughts on
pre nup? The masjids in USA won’t do your Nikkah ceremony unless you bring state marriage license. And we all know how the kufr laws are skewed heavily against men in the event of a divorce. A fair pre nup done according to the Quran and Sunnah seems like the most reasonable option.
You don’t need an imam or masjid for a nikkah. Check Islam rulings on what is needed. I think 2 witnesses the wali, you and someone doing it is needed.
Exactly, and this problem doesn't only concern the west. Even in many muslim countries, the marriage/divorce laws are unislamic, secular and highly biased towards women. Look at tunisia for example. The laws there are even worse than the west. Muslim women there get to have both their islamic rights and their western secular rights while the men gets nothing. The men there don't even get to have their islamic rights.
In USA I had my nikkah done first (no one asked me to bring a state license), but before all of it, I took our nikkah contract to a lawyer to turn it into a prenup. He said a nikkah contract will stand in court as a prenup. As long as you both sign it, the court will consider it like your prenup. In ours we wrote, no alimony / splitting of assets if fault in the divorce, etc.
Allah SWT command Musa as to give dawah to Firaun (the worst kafir ever live) softly and kindly so he maybe will listen. Nowdays the way so called muslim man give dawah to muslim woman like they are worse than Firaun. So many insult and humiliation and hurtful words that Instead bringing woman closer to the deen, its actually drive them away. For all my muslim brother, please treat woman with kindness like Rasulullah swt advice you to. Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I advise you to treat women kindly, for the woman was created from a rib, and the most crooked part of the rib is its uppermost part. If you try to straighten it, you will break it; and if you leave it, it will remain crooked. So, treat women kindly
This video was much needed. I can see so many Muslims - brothers and sisters alike, who are able to understand your message.
And then, there are a few brothers undermining your video and basically expressing disappointment for something as beautiful as you showing kindness and compassion.
No doubt, far too many of them are afraid of becoming potential “simps”. Isn’t that the phrase trending in the Muslim echo chamber these days? Oh that, and “compassionate imams”.
I don’t know if the negative comments may influence you to be harsher towards women, brother Saajid. But I sincerely hope that you can overcome that influence.
Because believe me, your video has been a ray of hope in a long tunnel that seems to be filled with women-bashing, all while hiding behind the garb of refuting feminism and liberalism.
Inshaallah, brother Saajid will read this CS and see for himself how he has satisfied all the f'em'i'n'ist/M'isa'ndr'ist/l'g'b't wmn.
Pandering to wmn is disgraceful and disgusting.
Brothers need to have honour and masculinity and we should never satisfy those who seek to destroy us.
The trending words are "pick me girl", "mysogynist", "extremist" etc that you'll throw at our rightous brothers and rightous sisters.
@@Therebelliousprince001 If your idea of honor and masculinity is trashing every woman with a differing opinion/life experience than yours as a feminist - then you’ve got the definitions of masculinity and honor wrong.
Thank you for educating us all that according to your idea of masculinity, kindness and compassion towards your fellow Muslims sisters is apparently, pandering, disgraceful and disgusting.
I have seen quite a few versions of these sentiments online, but by all means, please keep them coming. I mean, how else are we supposed to know that we are dealing with an absolutely, irrefutably, wholly masculine man? Like, how could a man ever show his sense of honor without dishing it out to his Muslim sisters online, just to show that he is a manly man? Dignity, civility, compassion - these don’t do justice to the kind of man you are.. only the insults solidly that definition, don’t they? :)
And in light of all this: Isn’t it ironic that us women are supposed to be the out-of-control emotional ones?
I like the sense of humour people like you portray. :D
@Gicybb Jcybh Hey. Whoa. Hold on there. You and I follow common channels and comment on said common channels. Now, if you have found me not defending a brother being unjustly treated on one of our common channels - then please bring it to my attention and I will do the needful, and thereby ease your troubled soul.
But in no way will you transgress and accuse me of hypocrisy towards my brothers in Islam.
Please don’t be the “All lives matter” placard holder in a “Black lives matter” protest. I am sure we can be better than that.
As regards to other parts of my life which you aren’t a part of - you don’t know. So don’t assume.
Very well articulated 👏🏻
I’ve been watching kevin samuels videos in this last few weeks, and your video snapped me out back to the reality
Honestly can't believe Saajid made this video. It's a step in the right direction, MashaAllah.
why do you say that? He is always on the right direction.
@B F Not always. And his previous associations with Daniel Haqiqatjou despite his dishonesty being present even in those times is proof of that.
In any event, let's be grateful for this current stance that he's taking and hope it will encourage his followers to be more balanced on these issues in general.
@@Abbas-obq Even in that he was right.
Daniel Philosophy ruined his mind to the point that he thinks it is possible to differ in aqeedah!
@@Abbas-obq People don't realize that Daniel didn't start out the way he was. For years he was rightly pointing out how very influential centers and Muslim speakers had watered down, wrong, liberal versions of Islam and how liberal lenses were used to distort Islam. He's only very recently been all on feminism, probably because it is the most popular manifestation of liberalism and the one most often pitted directly against Islam. He may get some things wrong but he has done a lot of good for Muslims as well. It's obvious Saajid and him would cross paths and even get along
Thank you brother Saajid for talking about this issue as as Muslim sister I applaud you.
Moderate and beneficial tips بارك الله فيك we must know that our prefect role model is our beloved prophet Muhammad صلي الله عليه وسلم and we are commended to apply and adopt his lifestyle as a believer not the lifestyle of the Red Pill followers or Feminism followers. الله المستعان!
Thank you!!
Thank you for treating and speaking about women with respect. Red pill feels like a plague.
I love you for Allah's sake brother Sajid. May Allah bless and protect you.
There's no such thing as Muslim Incel, it can never be involuntary abstinence if you are abstaining because you don't want to commit zina, clearly you are voluntarily abstaining even if you cannot get married because you don't want to commit sin.
If I get a spouse with your thinking heart, I'd be blessed.
Very good point brother. Not a lot of people discussing this.
red pill is like the ilm ul kalam of our time subhanAllah, Allah almusta'n
This was one of the very best videos I ever watched, its one of a lifetime, May Allah reward you brother .....
Brother Saajid never disappoints with his videos, Alhamdulillah.
Thank you for making us aware.
جزاک الله خیر
Thank you sooooo much for speaking up on this. These muslim guys on youtube all spouting this rhetoric are causing great damage. In their eyes, they think they automatically become high value men and place the blame on women. Instead of dumbing down and insulting women why are they not raising themselves up to be the best men they can be. These men are the first to request for a female doctor for their wife.
Jazak Allah for being one sensible voice among many red pill-stung unrealistic extremist ones. They do not understand the real issues with Muslim men, especially a typical Muslim "father" mentality, and raise all their fingers at women who belong to those fathers.
I don't think this is true at all. If you talk to average Muslim women in the West they have nonsense ideas about Islam where it's just a cultural hue over feminism, and it's not their fault. The whole society around us, schools, jobs, movies, tv, etc. pushes feminism and we don't do a good job combatting it. And I've seen these attitudes equally in women with mean father's and women whose fathers loved them highly paid for their expensive education, did everything in heaven and Earth for them and still they think he oppresses them because he believes in Islam which has gender roles. I don't think the fathers are to blame here. The society is heavily biased one way and you get this extreme reaction which is also not balanced
@@fark69 yeah NO don't blame fathers for raising their daughters confused as Muslims. Men are not to blame for trying so hard to adjust Islam values with the west. It's only women's fault that they get to open their eyes around fitna. It's only women's fault that they are confused about their identities and purpose. It's only women's fault that they are living in their dor-e-jahilia and looking for men with the same kind of mindset. No it's NOT Muslim men's fault that their reputation, identity, priorities and purposes is messed up. It's only the mother's fault that they were raised under the authority of low-standard men as their husbands are. Blame women for belonging to high Iman wali and Qawamoon enjoying the Western laws .
According to me Red pill is nothing but this idea of reprogramming confused Muslim women's minds so they can ADJUST themselves to a kufr system and stay loyal to so-called Muslim men who have found ways to adjust to this system already and have no intention to fight against it because it's hard of a job. Feminism is a form of azab on men who are fighting with Allah and rasool SAW. You cannot make your women stay loyal to you when you are the one rebelling against Allah. This is not how Allah's system works. The sooner you realize it the better for you and all red pill-stung arrogant brats.
@@fark69 I don't get why red-pill men choose to marry a woman having clear feministic views and actions and put all the restrictions later in marriage trying to make her "true Muslima" and cry when they are exhausted from the efforts that go into changing the mindset of the other person after marriage. I mean why put all your valuable energy into molding a woman's fitra and trying to adjust her in a western system? Red pill mentality manifests arrogance and it's the trait of a shaitan, it is more dangerous than a liberal ignorant mindset. Jahalat is better than arrogance.
Masha Allah. May Allah increase you.
Thank you for this take brother Sajid. Its been disheartening to see some of the rhetoric bleed into our Umma. Sadly it appears that the value of women has been reduced to being maids, and that of the men as being ATM's. They do not adequately prepare them on what it takes to have a successful, nurturing, trusting long term marriage where love and respect has the room to blossom. I think people try to ride on the coat tails of controversy for "clicks", disguise it under misunderstood cloak of Islam. I wish they do the basics and study the life of our beloved prophet (PBUH), his relationships and the manner and wisdom in which he handled them.
💯. Thank You for the video brother 🙏.
We as Muslims need to take our guidance regarding gender roles and rights from our religion. We don’t need feminism or red pill. I do think that brother Saajid needs to clarify that while women can be educated or work that it should be done without haram free mixing.
Should men also limit education and work to male-only spaces or no? Just curious
That would be best and also avoid riba based student loans as well. I do acknowledge that this is highly idealistic but safeguarding deen should be prioritised.
@@Raza2483 I agree with you but I rarely see advice to men to pick lower paying jobs that guard them from women (e.g. construction) over higher paying jobs that force them to mix (e.g. office jobs)
@@fark69 because no woman wants to marry a man with a lower salary, most women won’t even look at you if you earn less than a set amount of money. Also those office spaces are still largely men dominated, not women dominated.
جزاك الله خيرا
Thanks!
May Allah subhana reward you in abundance brother ❤
اللهم إكفني بحلالك عن حرامك ، وإغنني بفضلك عمن سواك..♡'
Great work brother thank you
Finally... I have been waiting for this
Neither I completely agree with you neither I completely agree with those red pill people
May Allāh guide us all. SubhanAllâh both of these ideologies being so rampant amongst the youth are no doubt in play partly due to the massive failure of many of the older generation of Muslims who didn't raise their children properly.
But I also understand that they probably didn't see things becoming this bad so I don't blame them entirely for it, Allāhul musta'an.
its funny how they claim a woman should get married and she is worthless without marriage and they use divorced / widowed women for misyar marriage ( no strings nikah) and they claim they don't degrade women and then they wonder why women don't trust us , they see polygamy as a punitive measure , if your wife won't lose weight or she is terminally ill or infertile or if she doesn't worship the ground you walk on get a second wife and they threaten women with it
Lujain Ot
Go back to your feminist classes sold out. If you dislike polygamy which is sunnah of Prophet; don't blabber about Islam.
@@prizma45 this is the truth of red pill misogynist don't deny it
They? I am aware of many "redpilled" muslims who have none of those attitudes
What the F is redpill.??
@@danoneall4013 foolery
I’m a non Muslim red pill guy having said that there’s No reason a Muslim brother couldn’t get his act together and money together and move out of the west to a 3rd world Muslim area and have plenty of wives. I say this as a man who has traveled to these places and have been treated well and yes I’m thinking of reverting and moving over seas to protect and provide for Muslim women and too live a different life
Beautiful video shaykh❤❤
Jazaakumullahu Khairan. May Allah bless you. May Allah preserve you.
Good points. Baaraka Allahu Feek
BaarokaLlahu feek bro saajid Staying and maintain a balance between the two extremes has always being root cause of many issues, it requires an adequate level of knowledge hikma and intellectual maturity
But like you mentioned when Muslims indulge and expose themselves to new ideologies contrary to Islam it beclouds their minds and shifts them towards the one of the extreme sides
Although I am not married at 29yrs for other reasons
I am not against women getting educated or having a career, but my position remains that the best and most virtuous career for a woman is to be a mother and a wife and not exposing herself to the fitna and fasad that is easily spreading in this generation
Allah has recommended for the women
"And stay in your homes and do not expose yourself like the days of ignorance"
there nothing more honourable for a woman than this recommendation of Allah
Fatima RA also said that the most virtuous women are those that are not seen by men and they do not see men
Allahu 'aalam Wa huwal musta'an
I'm a christian woman but he is 1000% right. That's what I am comcerned about as well.
Assalamualaikum, Saajid Lipham. I am wondering if you can tell which Shaykh can be trusted and such? I have no idea, and I do not know who to believe in my country especially how Salaf is seen as extreme, however those can also claim as Salaf themselves, though I will try because I believe Salaf has been more recognize around compared to years ago. Jazakallah khairan if you are able to list some. Also, I found a channel and wonder if it's okay called ThePillar1 who reference many Shaykh but I do not know who they are. Jazakallah khairan.
Follow Abdulrahman Hassan
@@MohammedAlSharif2002 I'm sorry but I have heard that he is lenient type of salafi .
@@voiceforpalastinerohingyau2507 then you should kick out every Salafi scholar from Salafiyyah because they are also “lenient” Salafis. This sectarianism is causing damage in the Muslim community.
Yeah, Pillar1 is fine. I have a ton of channels you can watch from. Would you like me to post some?
Where you're from? Salafis are everywhere. Just type these keywords in your language.
"Salafi The danger of khawarij"
-to filter khariji.
"Salafi Befriending/collaborating/sitting with ahlul bidah"
-to filter mumayyi.
If you found du'at that warn against both, then they're most likely true salafis. Look at their biography just to be sure. Students of kibar ulama are everywhere.
Then for beginners listen to their sharh of these books,
1. Usul Thalathah
2. Qawaid al arba
3. Kitab at tawhid
4. Kashfu ash shubuhaat
5. Aqidah Wasitiyyah.
Just another note to make: most of this isn't even the sisters fault. It's actually the system's fault in the west that is now expecting women to take on the responsibilities of men and be 'equal'. And this type of thinking has also now recently reached the east as well.
Pure facts my brother
May Allah swt reward you abundantly
I do not always agree with him but I have to admit he is very smart.
They should hustle as much as they hate
Someone just told me this description of many modern Muslim women vis-a-vis marriage:
"Feminists in their duties, Muslims in their rights."
So apt.
Now you know why so many Muslim men are red pilled.
If they have been thru schools, higher education and career race for 10-15 and then decide to get closer to Allah, settle with a man and have children, It's not your obligation to save them when their beauty and fertility eggs are gone and become a distorted image of a man. Muslim Men need to have a standard and not accept anything.
Thank you 😭
Can someone explain to me in TLDR about these various pill movements? I've heard red pill, blue pill and also purple pill for quite some time now but still don't know what they actually mean. Jazak Allahu khayran and thank you
It's important we focus on Islam and not such movements. As long as your Islam is taken care of, no movement matters.
"Dear men,
May your daughters meet guys like you."
Ameen
Dear women may Allah marry your sons to the women of akhlaq and religion
Ameen
@@dpredator5201 aameen
Amin, Inshallah.
Shaykh Rabī‘ bin Hādī Al-Madkhalī حفظه الله:
“Look for the religious woman. Even if she was from the common folk, that is better than an educated woman who mixes with the opposite gender. By Allah the women from the common folk are better and more clever than the educated ones these days. It is not a must for you to marry an educated woman, upon you is to find a righteous and fearful woman. And if she is educated as well as righteous then thats’s goodness upon goodness, otherwise just marry an ignorant woman who is upon the Fitrah (natural disposition) where you can teach her and she accepts knowledge from you. This is what I have to say, and Allah knows best”
📚Majmū‘ Al-Fatāwa 2/418
Oh-oh, Siham. You made sense, you must be a RP woman too...
Just read the title and immediately said " I hate them."
Allah hu Akbar! You said that very well brother Sajid.
Excellent 👍