Decoding Modern Love, Dating Apps & Situationships | Ekta Dixit x Karishma Mehta | Ep 31
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- čas přidán 6. 07. 2024
- “Ever wondered why we react so differently to the same situations in a relationship? Attachment styles - anxious, avoidant, and secure - are one of the factors that determine how we operate in our relationships and life. Someone with an anxious attachment style may be needy and keep feeling anxious; someone with an avoidant attachment style may shut down in difficult situations and those with a secure attachment style may be more understanding. These attachment styles stem from how we were raised as children, and indicate how we’d behave in our day-to-day exchanges with people.”
When it comes to navigating the complexities of relationships, Ekta Dixit, a relationship coach, is a beacon of light, passionately guiding individuals on the journey of self-discovery and growth, ultimately leading to fulfilling relationships.
By creating content on love, childhood traumas, and healthy and toxic patterns in relationships, among several other topics, she offers eye-opening insights that initiate conversations and even help people cultivate a deeper understanding of their relationships.
Delve into a conversation that’s all about love! Ekta shares her insights and expertise on varied topics-from the definition of love to how it has evolved, from the ‘orange peel’ theory to ghosting and how to deal with it, and lots more. Ekta also decoded some modern millennial slang for us, and we had fun talking about red, green, and the gazillion-colored flags there are!
The conversation will leave you with a little more understanding about love and relationships than you began with… So, do not miss it!
We also spoke about:
How to build meaningful relationships today
Why is it difficult to find love today?
Dating apps and boundaries
Attachment styles
Communication advice for couples
How to find and attract love?
#humansofbombay #relationships #podcast
TIME STAMPS:
00:00- Precap
01:00- Welcome
01:45- Let’s start with love…
02:15- How does a relationship coach define love?
03:18- How has love evolved?
04:32- How to build meaningful relationships?
05:57- What‘s the viral orange peel theory about?
06:59- Why is it so difficult to find love in the world of dating apps?
10:43- How to set boundaries on dating apps?
12:46- Why do people ghost on dating apps?
13:49- Why is communication in dating & relationships important?
15:11- Why can’t GenZ commit?
16:50- What is a healthy relationship?
17:40- What clocks do men & women have?
18:49- Why are people afraid to get into relationships?
20:49- Communication advice to couples
25:29- Types of attachment styles
29:52- How to develop e a secure attachment style?
32:36- Love & sex
35:12- How to develop a relationship that began just physically?
38:56- What to do if…?
43:12- Red flag or Green flag?
46:30- Decoding modern relationship slangs
51:37- How to attract love?
54:30- What is true love?
55:15- Thank you
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LinkedIn: / karishma-mehta-b22151174
About Humans of Bombay -
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Our idea is simple - to strike a chord with our community and catalog the beat of humanity, one story at a time. - Zábava
So informative. Love the attachment styles especially. Really really good information!
So comprehensive! ❤️
Sooo good @karishmamehta3337 & HOB ❤
Men think that they shouldn't get into a relationship if they're not financially stable because 'RESEARCH' says that women leave struggling men.
Not true for all women…I was with a struggling man,still I am…now he has become a little bit of successful…I would be with him throughout his each and every journey….m not talking about only me…I agree that some of them are gold diggers but not all…if they truly love someone,they cannot leave those struggling boys…struggle ek common phrase hain,it prevails in each and everybody’s life..
@@prarthanapathak8100same we started with nothing.Never had fights about financial issues.
@@prarthanapathak8100 you're exception. Most woman not like the struggle. They're papa ki Pari.
yeh sach aise nahi bolna tha@@bonniewright1103
I was watching this but as soon as she said that men do this, I stopped watching it. She don't even know reality, In todays world its mostly mens who gets cheated. Saying from personal experience as well
The only thing I would like to say- it goes both ways. You can't expect ANYTHING that you're not ready to give
At least introduce the guest first. I had to go search in the description to find out who Ekta is.
Manual to complicate simple things ,nothing personal 😊
Karishma's voice is so soothing I can listen to her speak all day ❤
Love this thank you for breaking love down! ❤
Loved how she decoded ghosting & attachment styles! So informative 🙌🏻
Very insightful conversation specially types of attachment
Wow...Just wow conversation
I learned alot!!
Thankyou guys!
dear host , its really appreciable , if your facial expressions could appear more welcoming in return to her perspective statements in some cases , no offense but felt like it should reach you , take care , thanks for this episode !
I really appreciate the work done by Humans of Bombay and while I really liked this conversation, I think that the explanation of attachment styles is quite reductive. It is A- not secure, avoidant and anxious. Attachment styles fall under the broad categories of secure and insecure and then insecure attachment consists of avoidant, anxious and disorganised attachment. B- There are several models that define attachment under which you can look at attachment from a dynamic and a categorical perspective, however, Ekta completely convoluted the point here. I am pointing this out because she mentioned research quite a few times. C- It is high time, we take the onus away from the mother in fundamentals of attachment and instead put it on both primary caregivers, which includes same sex parent, fathers etc. It is not fair to quote mother as an example every time we are talking about attachment because research shows attachment also stems from father being distant or proximal as well. I understand that you are trying to communicate complex ideas to a broad audience, but I do feel that our facts need to be right and well-informed otherwise this can very easily go into mis-information.
Great podcast....
Learnt many things...
Thanku 😊✨...
Many people needs to understand this... I'm tired of dating the avoidantly attached persons who don't understand what's wrong with them
You said men are not ready when they are not financially stable. Tell me how many girls are ready to be with a guy who is financially unstable but a great guy? The society's pressure is on men right? Would like the the guest to answer these questions too.
Very very true 👍
I don't think so because unemployment is uncertain. This can happen after you get married too. There are some girls who are ready to commit and do not care about the financial status of a guy. If they both want, they can build their empire from scratch and I think we all should normalize this.
@@rahartistic7653 are u one of those girls of whom u takking about ??
@@Rehamkarmuzpemaavaishnodevi of course. My partner is still growing and we are there for each other in every step.
@@rahartistic7653 bhn shaadi hoe jab ke lie rakh ye que , gf bf tk sab chlta hai , even my gf wanted to marry me even when I was unemployed at that time so I agree this type of girls exist but very rare
Most of her relationship understanding/ advice is only applicable to urban youth / genz. Not for old school millennials who want to get married or are looking for a serious relationship. More like catering to teenagers / college audience.
agree being a millennial
I Agree being a millineal
ohh godddd such an amazing podcast!
Nice epsiode. Karishma always asks the right questions! Loved this
Absolutely! Thank you for watching! ❤️
31:00 Loved this part!
Loved it!!
Helpful ❤
Came here for the thumbnail only: Bunny wasn't a red flag because he didn't know himself or got into casual hookups (everyone is not self aware and perfectly put together and serious from the get go, and they don't have to be!), but he WAS a red flag because he was extremely self involved. He was an absolute dick to Avi, even after coming back. If exploring the world was Bunny's "growing up phase", coming back to India wasn't his "mature phase" which should have been. Insulting his friend while knowing absolutely nothing, and not even being genuinely interested in what's up with him, or Aditi for that matter. Even his confession to Naina was all about himself - I want this, I felt this, bas ho gaya. He's not a bad person, but as a friend or a partner he's awful. These kind of people are so much better off alone, and I don't say this unkindly. Not everyone is made for relationships.
IMO Naina loved Bunny because Bunny loved himself, unlike Naina who hadn't yet learned to love herself. He was confident, passionate about his dreams, and those are really good qualities in a person.
Loved the episode ♥️
Oh, Shabash from USA! What a great video! Thank you for creating it! These are American issues and opportunities too. Dhanyawad. Hushes Ahe Retu and your guest is wonderful too!
Great conversation, touched the root of problems and complications genz go through today. Described what love is a very apt way. Enjoyed watching it.
I learnt about the attachment styles . Cause I was very curious on why things were not working.
I told him that this is the reason as to why we are fighting a lot.
I talked to him about it. I talked about our attachment styles.
He learnt about them and went back to square 1.
So yeah. It’s really going to be hard for a person who has anxious attachment. Cause the other person doesn’t care. No matter what you do.
Anxious attachment style should face their fears of being left alone, or the fear of cheating, or whatever insecurity. Cause no matter how much you want to work upon your relationship if the avoidant person has zero intention or is too scared to work on it. Then u better leave the connection.
Ahh finally someone's explaining stuff
We’re glad it helped! ❤️
It was really good podcast ❤
Great podcast anyways! much needed.
Thank you! ❤️
15:15 So true!
This type of things is just for rich people. Not for all Gen z.😂
This comparison doesnt make sense
Wow my dream episode
We’re glad! 😁❤️
relationships helps to grow in career
I agree. My situationshipa gave me enough validation to grow
i love it i love watching your podcast 😍
Thank you so much for watching! Hope you have subscribed! 🙏🏻❤️
yesss i do@@humansofbombay2801
I like Kari....she is sooo cute so beautiful....her smile nd voice is really amazing ❤️🥰😍😊
40:00
I don't want to please someone to be loved ❤
Informative!
To both lovely humans, Hey Hi... and Thanks...
I feel sometimes the fillers and acknowledgement used by Karishma Mehta is appropriate for the topic
(Seductive tone followed by charming voice to grab the attention of the listeners)
People 🔎 search right one but don't b right one that's shocking
Wht r u searching for ?
@@itsU017 I don't search just be right one care support love respect give don't search
@@Teena340 Charan kha h Devi ji aapke
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Ekta dixit❤💯
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*There is a famous saying,”Divorce starts in Bedroom and ends in Courtroom”.* ❤fy
I like episode but I think just terming everything in a kind of lable is not good because i think after being familiar with all these terms will lead to choose people fixed path based on flags like red green pink which i dont think is good idea , if one think to go in certain way with his brain but by seeing only different kind of flag just turn back , i dont think is good idea , and also then people will have fixed behaviour . And also everyone not every genz is same or have same kind of actions n not necessarily every mellennial is always right...
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Madamji hum bharat ke rehne wale hai kya aap bata sakate ho ki AAP sabhi podcasts English language me hi karoge.aapki taraf se hame bohot knowledge milta hai plz aapse nivedan hai aap sabhi podcasts Hindi language me hi kare.
Hindi is not my lingo but im indian
Hindi toh hamlogi ka national language hai bhi nahi💀
Karishma M ✨💯🥇☀️🌟⭐🇮🇳
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Thank you Humans of Bombay 😊
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How to find out what are my non negotiables? What are the questions to ask from my own self that what I want in a person?
Your non-negotiables should be things like respect, boundaries, morals, values ,etc.
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shed did not talk about fearful avoidant
16:49 😂😂😂😂😂
Green flags are all exists in karan johar movies.bunnys happiness was in pursuing his passion which is more real character trait.
Women don't want his money. She wants him for the way he makes her feel. She wants him to have an interactional(communication) intelligence grasp, creativity in using words , always responding to the ways she wants him to , and we can say she wants someone customized, irrespective of his family archetype, background, job he is doing, boss he is working under, past traumas. She will analyze him on the basis of parameters she has set after watching 100s of web series, completing 100s of novels , and she will not merely love him only because he is putting efforts and really wants her to accept his proposal. We men are told to be practical and logical to fulfill our social responsibilities, but We men are able to figure out these whole concepts after we go through that phase. Girls test us through number of p
Heyy! When are you going to release the episode with Avinash tiwary , it's been more than a month.
Soon! ❤️
Relationship & Marriage is when you Find "Compatible-Matching-Understanding-LIFE-PARTNER ( Mentally, "Physically", Financially ) INSTINCTIVELY...
Otherwise it is just a Show-Off of "Adjustment-Contract with your STATUS-SYMBOL-PARTNER Only till Attraction Lasts".....
Please Invite Sandeep Maheswari Sir.. Please Ma'am
We definitely will! 🙏🏻❤️
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Thank you ma'am... One more request, Divya Dutta ma'am also...
Even the millenials not just the GenZ
There are many fishes in the pond....keep dating couple of people until u find the right one.
New Indian woman
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@@mohitanand1844 Kyu bhai machli Khali ladke hi uthate hai kya? Sahi toh boli ladki..ap thoda modern ban jao..
@@parnalidas0kha machli tutha thi he ladki mene toh aaz tak nhi dekha 😂
Then the girl need to have surgery for her innocent husband 😅
8:00 Hypergamy
16:22 Men
Someone plz call ekta dixit's bf to any of the shows
What's orange flag?
host is so cringe and disguisting
Yes, She is
Everything is non negotiable withvwomen except money n her ego...total gynocentric shit talk
90percent rubbish 10 percent knowledge
yeh log discuss karte hi rah jayenge shaadi kabhi nhi ho payegi
Both have each other though 😂
Casual hookup is not bad either.
Sure! It isn't, rather it helps you know what you don't want. However, the problem with current hookup culture is essentially that the two people are most likely to not be on the same page. It is extremely difficult to establish respectful communication especially around the boundaries and expectations.
Non sense
Ye Ekta naam ki ladkiyon ko relationship mein kya dilcaspi hai bhai Pehle Kapoor ab Dixit inko aur koi jindagi me kaam nhi hai kya
Ye kya ho gaya hai samaj ke berojjgaar ya useless faltu content creators ko har koi laundiabaazi ko relationship ka naam dekar discuss kar rahe hai Yaha dekho ye dono Nibbiyan bhi yahi kar Rahi hai 30+ ki ho gayi hai iske baad bhi laundiyaa baazi nhi ja rahi hai.
So informative. Love the attachment styles especially. Really really good information!
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