ARE KOBE'S FRIENDS TRYING TO SPLIT UP HIS MARRIAGE?
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- čas přidán 12. 04. 2024
- Kobe's best friends don't seem to like Emily. In fact, they don't seem to like American women, period. And despite Kobe standing up for Emily and making it clear he's happy in his marriage, his friends don't seem convinced their marriage will last long term. They boast about how their wives are submissive (something Emily most certainly isn't!)
So has this chat planted seeds of doubt in Kobe's mind? Because at their date night, Emily seems concerned that it has. But isn't it ironic that by acting bratty and complaining about everything, Emily's only serving to reinforce the fears that Kobe's friends were warning him about... Someone needs to tell her she's got a good man. It's a rare thing on this show. Chill out and stop nagging him before you drive him away, Emily! - Zábava
I mean...Emily IS bossy and condescending. Kobe seems like a really nice guy but Emily grinds my gears to an insane degree, so I don't really blame them for finding her annoying. That said: they're already married, already a family, and he obviously loves her a lot and is happy. If I was his friend, that would be enough for me.
Yes she definitely has her issues, but that’s for him as her husband to chose if/how to deal with it (if it bothers him). Either way this is manufactured drama and not really an issue for them lol.
Agreed
Emily needs to come down from her pedestal as very bossy , annoying , pushy & know it all..What she doesn't realize is how fortunate she has parents too accommodate her whims and demands...Koby is a great guy and father but she needs to let Koby be a husband on his terms not by her self spoiled attitude.
Emily behaves as a only child and believes she is entitled too her parents finances and home property as hers alone..Emily needs her own space away from parents her apt or house ..Thing is Emily wants to know where Koby is 24/7 she has trust issues and keeps Koby close away from work and friends 🤔
@@Sweettooth25 Eh, I don't really think his friends not liking Emily is manufactured. Just inconsequential. But I agree that that's his wife and if it bothers him, he'd say something I guess.
Bravo Kobe!! This is great to see a man standing up for his woman. How is he on TLC?
When I found out her friend submitted them to TLC, it made so much more sense.
He is conflicted he is nit happy
I think Emily and Kobe are fine. They’re just using his friends to stir the pot.
Most definitely. TLC is not slick 😂
Emily and Kobe are so wholesome. I’m shocked Emily is one of the least annoying person of this season. 😅
@@thereisnostore right. Like I know people say that her voice is annoying but that’s just a personal issue. It doesn’t make her as a person annoying lol.
True, which she is incredibly though.
@@LucyAllisonforever yeah the worst thing about her is she’s still naive and immature but but I’ll take that over all these malicious and thirsty cast members
As an African woman, this is why I date interracially. Sorry, I can be domestic but the misogyny is real. However, not all Africans share the same sentiments despite of the cultural mentality. That being said, Emily isn't very likable, but I appreciate Kobe for being loyal to her. She is a very blessed woman and shouldn't take anyone for granted. Supportive parents, husband, and lovely children.
More African women living outside of Africa shouldn’t limit themselves to African men. Not that they can’t make great husbands, but it’s not for everyone.
South Sudanese American woman here 🙋🏾♀️ and I agree
It’s not only African culture…. But it’s popular in other cultures too. It’s disgusting.
Kobe's friends are insecure. They see him doing well-- featured on a popular tv show, living in a wealthy country--and they want to make him feel smaller. They are playing up how obedient and traditional their women are because that is the only thing they have that he doesn't. It's the classic scenario of hometown-friends being jealous over their local buddy having outgrown the slice of the world they once all shared.
Kobe has the patience and the loyalty of a saint!
@@KSS2444 They don't really live under the house, they live in the lowest level. Basements these days aren't really like root cellars of times past. Personally, I think it looks like a nice place to live...and they are probably saving a lot of money.
Insecure? That’s completely ignorant… marriage in Cameroon is way more successful than American marriages 😂 so clearly how they think is working. Just to try to insult them by saying they are “insecure “ is ignorance
@@TheSands83 What do their ideas of marriage have to do with it? The problem is not their ideas or traditions, it is the way they are criticizing a man's wife and his choices to his face. This is rude in any country. I believe they are insecure because the fact that their friend has left home and found a happy life wouldn't bother them if they were secure. They would feel no need to disparage his wife or his new home.
@@TheSands83as someone from West Africa, the reasons a lot of marriages “last” isn’t because they are happy but because there’s not choice or options out, except to accept whatever situation. So yes, it works for plenty but not everyone. Kobe seems happy with his family and lot in life and his friends should be happy for him. At this point what is he to do? Abandon his family with Emily to date someone from home he might not be happy with? What he has works for him, and he would say something if it didn’t. Emily is bossy but Kobe still has authority in the relationship.
@@maeahem and you know they are not happy how exactly? Its fucking stupid to act like the American way is the best way when it leads to the most divorces and miserable marriages 😂 and year people in west African marriages report happier marriages than Americans
I live in Africa and i can assure you, these men are not telling the whole truth. not all women bow to men.
That's what I heard too. We've even seen that on the show. I highly doubt that Binyam's sisters in Ethiopia are stepford wives.
@@habeashumor9814 LMAO
I am Ethiopian, how you saw Biniyams sisters treat Ari , is not how they would treat any husband, father, brother, man in their life including Biniyam.
If you notice they baby him.
This is the culture here.
Women of the family feed, wash clothes, and take care of men in their family including adult brothers.
Even neighbors will do a single mans laundry. It is extremely traditional.
Being an outspoken woman who does not cook or do chores is looked down on,
and I haven't seen any women who arent home care takers even if they work outside the home too.
People will have maids but the wives,daughters,mothers still help out in the home with the maid.
There are outspoken women in Ethiopia but it is definitely not the culture and they will not do it towards men. Maybe just chatting to female friends and sisters/mother.
Towards men they are still soft and feminine. But they expect a traditional life, that means a husband who is providing for them.
I will still point out that women in western society still have to do over 90% of house and childcare whether they work outside the home or not.
The only real major difference is - it is more culturally acceptable for women to be more direct and outspoken.
And this has its positives and negatives.
fr they are talking trash fs
I totally understand Kobe’s joy at being home, back in Africa after a long absence. Probably hard for his friends and family to accept that he has become a man of the world and is equally happy at home or in another country and society. Kobe is my all time best person on 90 days. He is open, has a sense of humour and huge respect for others. Hard for his friends - I’m sure they miss him.
I friends cud be jealous because his rent is paid
I disagree, I don’t think his friend wants a house maid but instead a traditional wife is all
No one is ever just as happy in a foreign country. Home is always home, family, culture and history.
I hate the way his friends are portraying relationships and marriage in Africa. As a South African I can assure y’all that it’s not that way for a lot of couples. Yes, women can be submissive but not in an oppressive way. Many husbands see their wives as more than just maids and people to merely cook and clean for them. It’s so concerning the way they think a wife should be. Kobe and Emily are obviously very happy.
Are the friends even married? The need to stay out of their marriage and 3 kids. Way too late to start the stuff now.
@AllThingsReality, you said it SO right, all 90 Day couples, new and old, need to take a page out of Kobe's book.... It IS incredibly beautiful that he ALWAYS defends his woman!!!!
As a Kenyan from the Luo tribe, I disagree completely with Kobe's friends generalization.
Men from my culture prefer strong willed and intelligent women who can and will make decisions for their household. Sure, some couples honor traditional roles, but even then we still value the intellectual capacity of women.
I won't speak for other cultures, but I know more tribes and nationalities that share the same perspective.
On behalf of all Africans, I absolutely would like to apologize, we don’t all have luke warm IQ’s, in fact, I rebuke Kobe’s whole entire friend group. That’s all. Thank you. 😂❤
I feel like Kobe and Emily are a rare couple who have real love. They're a good match
Is it because that he's that color and she's your typical white one that will go for that lol
Can't say the same thing for the other people on this show 😂
I agree.
@@naomitarot104 well said.
They are a good couple, but she does need therapy. Her bossiness and condescending tone will get old. She should work on that.
His friends display their contrast to him of how insecure they are.
Kobe is awesome! I hope Emily also holds him high like he holds her. A real man! Good husband, good father, good son in law.....
I finf Emily Annoying but Kobe is one of the Most Genuine, Sincere Individuals in this Franchise!
Kobe’s attitude is so refreshing what a great guy honestly so calm, really reasonable and respectful to everyone even when he’s in a confrontational situation. The rest of the cast definitely needs to take notes from him.
He is, but she isn't.
@@laurastuart3814 Which is exactly why I didn’t mention her in my comment lol
It was supposed to be a 1 night stand🤦🏻♀️
Kobe is a gem of a human. Emily doesn’t appear worthy, but I hope to be wrong.
Poor Kobe has to turn his own shower on 😅
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Love Kobe. He’s so sweet and mature for his age. I wish them well!
They are nice couple, friends should stay out of there marriage. His wife is very sweet plus they are family of two beautiful children. There is nothing for him to go back home, he was in China when he meet his beautiful wife. Some friends are no good PERIOD!
Three children now...😮.....
I'm sorry but the way the Emily Laughs after Kobe says something very factual (13:25) and defensive, makes me really angry. She really seems like a double standard kind of person and that is just not ok. You're upset with him, and hes defending himself so you laugh and say why is he making it into a big deal. That's actually psychotic behavior...
I dated several Cameroonian guys, also worked with some of them. As a woman from Europe and not EU but Slavic part of it, I can say that these guys are looking very good but most of them are not loyal and like to lie. I know 2 of them who are loyal to their wives and the rest of them are just messing with too many women. I love loyalty and I would do everything for a man I love and I did but they were using me in every way. When they see that you are an honest person with a good heart they will milk you for the money (to help them and their family back home) they buy themselves nice expensive clothes and have bunch of kids everywhere. When I finally opened my eyes and admitted to myself that I have been used and played because in my culture men always pay for everything. Women are buying food with their money, buying to their husbands clothes just to show apriciation for their men. Women cook and clean, work , thake care of the kids, garden...I tried to do that with my ex Cameroonian boyfriends and didn't end well. I am very disappointed but don't hate them, I still love them even though they have families and never chased men who are married or have gf's because it is disrespectful. Their women are very jealous and possessive and it is ok. They usually don't like to see a white woman with their men. I understand that, I don't blame them. I am not like that. You are welcome to date or marry whoever you love. So when I see Kobe as a good husband and father it breaks my heart, I am happy to see that some of them are emotional and sensetive. Kobe don't let those "friends" to fool you. I know that they have to say something to make a scene but most of them really don't like white women
Kobe is happy. Leave the poor boy alone and just support him and his marriage
You know I am seeing alot of people saying Kobe's friends are jealous . I don't think that the case. Why would they be jealous? They seem pretty content with their lives. I think where this is coming from is saying how Emily treated and spoke to their friend on national TV and this is the first time they can sit with him alone to find out if things are ok. Remember this isn't the full conversation we would have seen. They are also accustom to a particular way of life so its natural for them to have questions. People are acting like they never confide in their friends or they will never ask their friends or family about their partner.
I really like this couple. They're lovely.
Kobe is a gem and I hope Emily appreciates him
Kobe is a handsome guy. She better hold on tight!
I feel you missed the mark a little on this one. Emily wasn’t bratty or nagging this episode. Really just came across as if you just have a personal vendetta. If my partner didn’t sit next to me in a car ride I’d also tease them like that, doesn’t make me a naggy brat. And she’s completely and totally justified in being hurt her husbands friends don’t like her. I once found out my exs best friend hated me and I cried for 2 days. Your partners best friends not liking you hurts and sucks, how is she a brat for being hurt?
I really like most of your videos but this one just felt really rude for no reason towards her :/
Kobe is one of the best people I've ever seen on tv... absolutely an amazing human.. I'm so happy for Kobe and Emily
Kobe is so sweet and such a catch! I hope Emily realizes how fortunate she is.
His friends are secretly jealous of his American opportunities, that they will never have.😊
These men are not friends, they are envious of his relationship and the fact he seems happy. The minute he breaks up with her oh the joy on their faces. These friends need to go about their own business and Lives. The jealousy in them speaks volumes. Men like this ruin the Lives of men that are happy so they can feel better about themselves and their own situation.
That is not true, those friends are expressing what they are used to, and Kobe knows that very well. African culture is very much different from American.
@@Vee668 You assume I don't know about different cultures. Fully aware as not American.
Misery loves company.
OH EMILY HES HAD THOSE DOUBTS...A MILLION TIMES BEFORE...😮....
12:57 "Exceptionally specific on how things should be done" 😂👏🏾
These people need to mind their business! 💯
The basement dwellers.....Emily get a job...stop using your parents...YES EMILY HES HAD THOSE THOUGHTS BEFORE..EVEN REPEATEDLY WHEN HE SEES YOUR BEHAVIOUR...😮😅😅......
Thankfully they are happy.....
I honestly feel like these two love each other.
I love Emily and Kobe, they have a beautiful family. All the Emily "drama" in the beginning was just for the show, imo.
Emily is soo immature. Just Watch her during pillow talk. Kobe can't even talk for himself. She will never move out of her parents home. She has no idea whats it like to be take care of her children on her own all day long. She couldn't even respect Kobe wish when he first came to America not to breast feed in front of her parents she couldn't even cover up. She talk to him like he had no right to what she was doinging..Thats your husband you want respect well you need to give your husband respect. She's a very selfish woman...Good luck Kobe .
I think she acts this way to also stir the pot for tlc drama but if they have been together for a while than she may not be as she portrays
I don’t. I think she is pissed and any of us would be. She went there to visit where the dad doesn’t even legitimize their marriage when they have children! Ridiculous! Then the friends constantly berate her and tell everyone all around town she’s not good enough. If I was her, I would make sure we never went back there again.
Emily had always been bossy even her family said so when the show first came on with Emily and Kobe. It was almost like her family was scared of her she was so outspoken towards them too. Kobe laughs at everything she says at least when they are in the states. She’s not rude to him tho. Just bossy in general.
Kobe is a 💎
Well its refreshing to see my home country on this tv shows 😂😊
His friends and Emily automatically made me think they are taking from the Michael and Angela and. Michaels friends playbook.
As an African person I can tell you I wouldn’t expect anything less than a ceremony when I bring my husband home if they didn’t get to be at the first one. I would be shocked if my family did not do this.
They did her dirty showing old photos of her
She did herself dirty by putting in the work to lose all that weight and then immediately turning around and getting knocked up by a stranger in China. 😅
If Emily had been a man anybody would complain about him for knocking up a foreigner in China.
Kobe=dad...koben=son...creative....
@Allthingsreality and @Arthurtv, both equally have the most dreamy accents, they are my go to CZcamsrs, definitely hilarious amd relaxing to listen to, every video is perfection ❤
Get a gay friend if you like it that much.
@@MrE1981your life must be terrible if you're consistently insufferable like this in the comment sections. Find peace, you need it.
@@MrE1981 Allthingsreality has a wife .... Tf why are you even on this channel?????? I've loved both of them for years, idk why you ruined my comment with this garbage comment 🤬
@@MrE1981 why are you even on this channel if you don't like the channel????
They're NOT the same person? WTF?
🤦🏾♀️I always thought this was an alternate channel.
#AsthmaBrain
@MrE1981 Your bigotry is glaring
I wouldnt ever line up for marital advice from EMILY.....
Or any type of advice !!!@
@@rosannecole4992 the basement dwellers...her father is retired and she still has her hand in his pocket...
What a man, what a man, what a mighty good man!!
Kobe is a sweetheart
Yes...emily..kobe has had those thoughts about u million times already....
Emily and Kobe are both financially dependent on EMILYS PARENTS. They wouldn’t be able to afford those kids nor travel around the world if it weren’t for HER parents and TLC paycheck. Let’s just get real here for a second..Emily does have KOBE by the balls. If he did want to leave, he’d be sacrificing his relationships with his kids. Emily holds all the power and Kobe is just along for the ride.
The way he looks at her... it's sweet. It's love.
When you say that the male-dominated family structure won't work on a Western woman, you underestimate the conservatism of about a third of America. There are a lot of people here who follow very biblical gender roles.
They just have to sit down and talk about their communication with each other and let her know how to be respectful
His friends want Kobe for themselves
U can't understand that (in African proverb) they are telling him that he is weak
Kobes friends are idiots don't listen to them they will ruin your marriage. Kobe should have shut that conversation down
I love Kobe. good man
The friends don’t like women that have their own mind.
Just for the show, they are completely tied up with each other!❤❤
They went for a visit,not counciling. Kobe needed to put them in their place. If he did it would be no reason to tell his wife till they got back home. Ijs
Kobe was worried about Emily behavior before coming to Cameroon if you remember, now look what is happening, Emily need to come down talk less and listening to her husband more this problem will go away,in Africa people who think they know everything we let them deal with anything because they think they know it all that what kobe is doing
Emily needs to be grateful that Kobe doesn’t treat her like the men of Cameroon treat their wives. It’s clear that Emily still has some growing and Maturing to do…. And it needs to be done moved out of her parents basement 🤷🏽♀️
Nah, Kobe needs to be grateful that Emily’s parents don’t treat him the way a lot of white parents treat black son-in-laws, and he needs to be grateful that he has an American wife to have American kids. 🤷🏼♀️
it seems like everyone is top toe’ing around the fact that his friends real problem is that she is a white American woman which they’ve vocalized a few times
Shut up they are happy
I think TLC is worried this family is too boring. I didn't like Emily on her first season, but I started watching them on Pillow Talk and started to like her. She seems to have matured and they have fun together. It's the same way TLC is drumming up controversy with the parents. I'm sure everyone was excited to have a traditional wedding. I'm looking forward to it.
I like them both. They both have their faults, as we do, but they seem happy overall. I'd do like Kobe, ignore his mates poor advice.
Emily can be irritating, yes, but for Kobe’s friends to insinuate he’d be happier without her (and without his kids, because leaving Emily to go back to Cameroon would also mean leaving his children) is really cruel.
For better for worse devoicing her would be is worst mistake ever because he will never see is kids and all is friends and family would reject him for not bringing the kids with him after devoice
The way she treat him is better than when he devoice her,she is an American woman white woman he is playing with fire he know that
Emily is ❤❤❤although them as a couple are perfect together ...and those babies 🤱 are loved! ❤❤❤
As a South African woman this is all bluff. We don’t just follow the man like brainless robots. Emily’s behaviour is a little bit appropriate. would be slightly modified it were an African woman but it’s literally around the lines of how a lot of women in healthy partnerships.
Bad freinds. He keeps telling them is happy his wife might be bossy but is kind. They have beautiful kids. But his freinds are still negative.... I sense jealousy
Good for Kobe 🤎
I seenhow happy they are. Why do his friends influencing him negatively.
Every couple should decide what works for them, the friends have given their opinion, now they should stay out of it
It seems friends are more like Mike's friends the one from Nigeria on Angela. They are not the same
She is crazy but she has come around and had made it work she needs time to learn
They are already married with kids, and he is happy and not complaining about being mistreated, so I don't know why this is even a topic for his friends. On the neg side, they are living in the parents basement and they think they need a 3rd baby? Who is supporting this family, chump daddy ??
The real question is why are all of Kobes relationships toxic. First the wife now the friends. Who next the aunts and uncles, the coworkers?
Kobe’s friends can kick rocks!
3 kids and counting....I just don't understand having multiple in another man's home.
They are absolutely right about her and he will eventually get tired of her
Kobe knows better. Friends are just being friends.
OMG at 8:14 Emily looks amazing
They are just jellous that is it!
All the things he says he loves about her now...he will hate later when he breaks up with her...and leaves the basement...
Did Kobe ever date the loud mouth, opinionated guy? He sounds like he’s not over
Kobe.
I think they are of the same people live and let live
Tbh I don’t think neither Kobe nor Emily are bad people. It’s just culture/mindset. It’s not even race. I think both sides seems to be trying hard to not rock the boat but both sides have to try to make it work.
I haven't watched any of this for years, I had forgotten how fake it is and I had also forgotten how obnoxious Emily is.
like Kobe a lot seems real sweet
Kobes culture and traditional look, looks good on Emily 😊❤
I love this couple!!!
They not supportive cause they envious of him
Her speech impediment is unbearable because there is so much entitlement behind it
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@@Avmuhammad64 They seem to be happy but I do not like Emily. They are happy because Kobe is so easygoing, seems to always let her have her way. She is bossy, loud, lazy and overbearing. Her parents do alot for her kids and they're having a third still living with the parents in their basement. She is and always was spoiled. They've showed her sister and she's totally independent with a good job and living on her own. If Kobe was any less easygoing, they'd have a big problem. She's lucky he's such a nice guy.
@@jojojersey8190 💯🎯
Different people
offcause his not so stupid to.listen to them, he has children by her
i have always thought emily is a spoiled brat. disrespecting her parents,by having a nother baby when they said no babys in there house, to wait till they get there own place. i just really dont like emily.
I have never liked Emily. She is a bully. If she is what Kobie wants so let it be.