Similar thing happened to me (trans woman) at my doctor's office recently. The nurse came in before giving me a flu shot and asked if I was pregnant and I was just like "uhh no"
Actually, that may not be as far away as you think. I mean, I don't think it's right around the corner but, with some technology that seems doable on the ballpark of within a lifetime (almost) any two people should be able to have a biological child together. Basically, the idea is to pull stem cells from each parent and then make one set into sperm, the others into eggs and boom! There you go. There might be exceptions but practically speaking everyone who could possibly have a kid now and most everyone else this would work for. There has been at least a successful pregnancy with a transplanted uterus but that was with a cis women so idk how use for trans women looks. As far as getting (or getting someone) pregnant the free way idk of any ideas on how to make that work for trans people. But still, I'd love to see a world where any family could have a kid and who knows maybe we'll live to see that! So exciting!
@@solsystem1342 Your last line, "a world where any family could have a kid", we do have that. It's called adoption. There are so many kids out there waiting for a family to love them and give them a safe home. If anything we need to make adoption cheaper and more accessible to good couples because many foster systems are screwed. My sister's HUSBAND had to pay over 10k once all was said and done, and over 8 months to adopt her biological son. It's not like there was a battle either His biological father easily signed over rights. It's even more expensive and time consuming for couples to adopt non biological related children. And this is in Canada. I've heard it's even worse in the USA and other countries.
That last one was wonderful. A mom who was so accepting of her child's transition that she literally just forgot? Kinda rocks. If the 84-year-old lady saying "my wife" doesn't get you, you just have no heart.
Old lady with a wife... Dang, that's my life goal right there. To grow old with whom I love, retire in a nice house and be happy. But I'll probably commit bye bye myself if depression gets to me, which it is, lol
@@Catwithaknife69 Dont, please, being happy with a wonderfull woman by your side can totally happen maybe faster than you think ! And even if it's hard to find ""the one"" then it will be true one day. Life is long. Keep going on the way of hope please.
@@Catwithaknife69 hang in there. I fought with depression for years, though now that we've moved to a rental that is out in the country, and away from the people that were triggering me it's greatly improved. Mostly seasonal now. (Coming up on my worst season) I am going to hope for you to become the coolest old lady with a wife ever.
@@akitokutikabanae7010 I feel like I'm losing my mind a bit more everyday and sometimes I just wanna curl up and scream and bang on the walls and destroy my room for no apparent reason, even when I'm not angry, but I sure will keep trying!
@The Werewolf of Somalia Aphobia doesn't just refer to asexuals. It also refers so any label under the Aspec Spectrum (Asexual, Aromatic, Agender, Abrosexual, Abroromantic, and many other identities as well.) It is the discrimination/hate of Aspec identities. (Also, there are ways to spread Aphobic rhetoric without necessarily being hateful or intentionally being so. Aphobia is common, even in queer spaces.)
@@junebunny0712 as far as I know, agender doesn't fall under aspec since it is not a romantical/sexual orientation. (Instead it falls under the trans umbrella.) But I like the idea of opening the term for everything a- related: I would like to add the aplatonic spectrum to the list :D (And no, aplatonic doesn't mean that the person has no friends or is not interested/doesn't care about other persons. It's just the lack of platonic attraction.) Feel free to look it up :D
Had a night out the other night and had to explain to two different guys what ace was, one slightly more successful than the other but neither seemed to believe it was a real thing 😒
When I came out as ace to my partner, I explained everything I was feeling, and they reacted by saying "oh cool! We NEVER have to have sex! Good!" And then paused, eyes wide, and went, "I think I'm ace too."
The asexual one hit really close to home. When I told an acquaintance that I'm AroAce, the first thing he told me was that I just haven't found the right person yet , and the second was that if I continue saying that, nobody will want to date me. I don't think he understands that that's perfectly fine with me lol.
When I was a college student in the late 1970's, I was ostracized for being in a lesbian relationship. I was called into the office and asked to leave the school. I did. Times are different now, though it can be difficult to be queer, there have been big strides. I was so pleased to see the students with the rainbow flags. How times have changed! 🌈❤
I remember when a bisexual woman (at my old job) demanded to know if I was queer. I was strongarmed into saying I was asexual and without pause she started talking about wanting dick. Luckily, I'm not sex replused. Also, at the same job, a gay man point blanked asked if I was a lesbian and once again, I told him and his response was "Is there something wrong with you?" So, uh, yeah, that asexual tiktok spoke to me soooo much. Edit: Just an edit (because people asked) yes, I am out of that job now! I was made redundant and left with a decent redundancy so I won in the end! :D I have a different job, and I was asked and didn't say, but the woman who did ask, I knew she had vibes from me, and she started speaking about her gay son. But no one there knows, but I know they know I am Queer because I've spoken about a few women that I, in my own personal asexual way, find attractive. (she/her here.. i think but that is a whole different story)
Man, that sucks. I'm really sorry ppl are assholes. I don't "get" being ace myself just because that's not me at all lol, but that's no excuse to erase how someone else feels
I'm sorry that happened to you. Intracommunity discrimination really sucks, I'm glad you're out of that environment and hope things got better for you. - a fellow ace! 💜🤍🖤
I’m not ace but the worst thing I’ve heard people say to others is “I take that as a challenge” as if human beings with complex thoughts and emotions are some sort of game to be played…
As an ace spec person with a bi partner we absolutely have a wholesome romantic relationship. I honestly don't think I could be with someone so perfect ❤️
I’m 57 years old, and I grew up with two ladies living in our road. Everyone has always known them as The Girls, and fully accepting them as a couple. My mum used to be a legal secretary and she was the one who suggested to them back in the 1980’s that they get married in a civil partnership, if only to protect their home and assets from the family if something should happen to one of them. I have literally grown up not giving an iota what sexual orientation people lean toward. It’s their business and as long as they are happy, that’s all that matters. We are all human after all.💞🇬🇧
@@frostfirei There were always family suspicions that my late uncle was gay, but it was never openly spoken about or actually confirmed by him. He’d had a very close best friend in his childhood, but was devastated when he suddenly married aged 20. This really upset and embittered my uncle, and after serving in WW2 he emigrated to Canada, and very much kept to himself about his life there. He passed away two years ago aged 94 and to everyone’s knowledge had never dated anyone. My brother and I feel quite sad that he felt unable to be who he wanted to be, but was obviously held back by staunch old family values and the pressures of an unforgiving society. If he had eventually come out to my family after my grandparents died, I really don’t think my parents would have been that at all bothered, just as long as he was happy.
@Bruh I have always felt that as long as you’re not abusing a loved one, it doesn’t matter who you fall in love with. To actually find your soul mate is rare, so who are we to judge if that person doesn’t quite fit into what a minority of narrow minded people term as ‘normal’. When my nephew came out as gay a few years ago, we were all patiently waiting for it to happen. Everyone that loves and knows him for who he is have been expecting it to happen since he was a small child. For some reason he felt he had to break it to me while he was very drunk. My reaction was to tell him I kinda already figured that out and as long as he’s happy, so am I. 💞
@Bruh I too kind of have a family more accepting of me here on CZcams. I’ve been severely disabled and housebound for nearly 6 years now due to chronic osteoarthritis and acute Lymphodema. I lost my hair due to alopecia, stress and vitamin D deficiency. It’s very stubborn about growing back. My parents are long gone now and my siblings have always been opinionated about their slightly kookie free spirited little sister. I only deal with them when I have to, the brother I do get on fairly well with is the other end of the country compared to me here on the south coast. I just wrap myself in my happy cocoon on planet me, and if people don’t like me, we’ll it’s their loss I’m afraid. There’s too much bad in the world to judge those who are doing good whoever they are. Happy Christmas sweetheart.💞
omg the lady who was able to say her wife for the first time in a telephone call 😭😭😭 in her lifetime she might have gone from not able to have a solo bank account as a woman at all, to being able to acknowledge her wife to the bank during normal conduction of business 💗
Jamie mentioning he wasn't born yet when the bi manifesto came out made me look up his age. He's only a year younger than my older brother. No wonder he gives me supportive big brother vibes! Before I started watching his videos, I was scared about being aroace and now I'm a proud part of the aroace community. I even found the courage to explore my gender identity thanks to Jamie showing me it's okay to not be cis and now I'm comfortable identifying as agender
Me too. I had heard of asexuality a few years back. Learning lessons from Jamie, I knew I was ace. Now I am proud. (Not out to my whole family yet. Still in quarantine.) Now I know that I am AAA. 🙂💜
Wow, he has the same age as my older brother xD I firstly heard of agender through a meme but he gave me confidence to resist my internalized cissexism and be open minded in my self discovery. Before, I couldnt identify much with anything but now I wear much pride related stuff (festival ribbons, a dog tag) and an Ace ring with, well, pride :D ~ a fellow AAA
Loved ❤️ the 85 year woman who had to share her happiness by calling her partner her wife. I finally figured out that I am ace when I was 66.💜 The times now are so much more open to us as older people.🏳️🌈
Younger ace here! There are like 4 phases that typically happen for asexuality. 1) What is asexuality? 2) People are faking their sexual attraction. I’m not crazy! They are! 3) Oh GOD. What’s WRONG with me? I feel so alone and BROKEN. 4) Nothing is wrong with me! Not everyone goes through all the phases. I didn’t go through 2. I just was repulsed by the thought of sex. I’m sex-repulsed aro/ace and I found it out at 22. I’m 24 now, going strong!
step two has the same energy as "im not gay, but (insert same gender here) bodies are just objectively more attractive and anyone who denies that is lying.
@@bbear2695 you are right about beauty. I'm an artist and do look at people as beautiful or quirky or most often interesting. If I mention some actor is so good looking, it does not mean that they are sexually attractive to me. I was always wondering in watching shows where in some dangerous happening, two people just have to have hot sex.
The reaction to my asexuality that sticks with me the most is the guy who assumed I was automatically much more genuine and focused in my various pursuits, because not wanting to have sex meant I was only doing stuff for my own sake and not to impress anyone. Which There is a whole lot to unpack there
@@OdinsSage does it? Or does it rather just show how sex focused our society is that people think asexuals are more serious in pursuing a relationship?
the bisexual is so important to me, as a bisexual i have often found it so hard to explain to people that is not just men and women. i usually say that i can fall in love with basically anyone, its true and some people thinks that is weird and then they leave me alone so its a double win in my book
Okay but the bi manifesto is specifically by an aphobic, panphobic TERF who only updated it to be inclusive of trans and nonbinary people to convince them to follow her transmedicalist and otherwise bigoted ideas. It's literally called a manifesto because the author read The Scum Manifesto and mein Kampf while writing it and she cited them as inspiration. If you want to be represented by someone that screwed up, you should do some soul searching.
@@lawrence208 It does not mean just two, it means your own gender and not your gender. There are all kinds of genders that aren't my own. The laser focus on bi meaning just two is a product of the internet age, from people who are maybe not aware of the history of bisexuality. For sure read the bisexual manifesto, but also there was a magazine that ran through the 90s called "Anything that Moves" lol which might give you a sense that bisexuality means more than just 2 genders.
I'm at the point where I define bisexuality as being attracted to members of two genders: any and none. As a gendervoid femme, the none matters to me a lot. I'm always aware that Latin arose in a culture whose mathematics had no concept of zero, so "pan" for "all" rings to me like "only people with one or more genders." I know that's not how it's being used. And has never been used that way. It still kind of leaves me twitchy.
the old woman tiktok reminded me of when i saw two elder gays being cutely together in the old town i lived in time ago during pride month, both having rainbow and looking on some pamflets about LGBT+ events they were doing around. It was so sweet and i felt so happy for them, because they could be gay in public,when they were kids were forced to be sth they weren't,as how they prob were under the spanish dictatorship,and gayness was banned... :( My neighbor is also gay, he is a gay elder man as well. But he lost his couple some yrs ago already. They were together for like... 40 yrs. My uncle told me because when he lived here,he talked sometimes and visited that old man
The one with the graduation the guy accepting the flags seemed genuinely happy about getting them. He smiled warmly about the little wave of the flag as well. The one lady in the background however was eating sour grapes.
The 85 yo "my wife" one did make me cry. My dad passed at 70 last month and he was bi and demi but never had the words for it until I showed him what the internet is like two years ago. Just... Damn.
Aha, as an asexual myself, I had someone who was trying to ask me out react to that information by asking if I'd been traumatized. Straight up. I barely knew this man. He followed it up with "What about your maternal instincts? How will you have kids?" I don't know, something about "I'm asexual" seems to make people feel entitled to ask awkward personal questions in the same way that "I'm trans" makes people feel entitled to ask about what's in your pants. On a lighter note, hard agree on how wholesome it is to see older queers expressing so much relief and joy to be able to just live their honest lives in public. They walked a long and hard road that paved the way for our generation to run.
I've gotten that traumatized comment before in high school. The guy was homophobic too and acted like he was being so civil and polite. He also asked me how could I know if I've never had sex? (I'm sex favorable anyways) I even had a partner at the time, and he knew this. So, I asked him how did he know he wasn't gay if he's never been with a guy. His response was that it was somehow different.
Riding bareback (on a horse, don't derail this pls) has always been possible. Its not as common, but a lot of people still do it. It's also painful, but really cool. Yes, she has to have a pretty good grip on the flag and the horse to be able to do that.
Less painful if you do it more. Yay No Saddle November! Did you catch that she was riding without a bridle, too? Looked like maybe a neck strap, but not much of one. That woman had skill, is what I'm saying.
@@Amanda-C. I didn't catch it no. I was really young when my parents tried to get me into horse riding. And, I only rode bareback once and was extremely painful for me. I don't ride anymore and haven't for a long time.
I told a guy that I was demisexual once and he said we'd stay friends and never spoke to me again and is now terrified of running into me in public 😂 I kind of enjoy the power to have grown ass men see me and just... run.
My partner is Demi-gray and I’m so happy to see more people coming out about it in the community. He always thought there was something wrong with him and it ruined a lot of his previous relationships because his former partners would just nope the fuck out. He was afraid to admit it to me when he realized it. He came out in front of a huge crowd only two years ago. I am so proud of him. And of you! Congrats on taking your power back!
Thank you for your shout to us older queer people…I always thought I was bi. Thanks to all the information available here on YT (and specifically thanks to YOU and OT) I now know that what I’ve always been is pan. I’m a grandmother now and my kids and grandkids represent several of the letters in our 🌈 rainbow with all my love and support. I’m so grateful for your content. Helping to create the world we want to live in.
As an asexual woman in her 70's, I can totally relate to the lovely woman in her 80's, who just made an assertion of her marital status. Speaking for my (Boomer) generation - we didn't have (positive) words for many of the sexual orientations or basic information when we were younger. I didn't know that there was a designation for my total lack of sexual interest until a few years ago, about the same time I understood that I have dyscalculia, which is related to dyslexia, but involves only numerals. There's lots to catch up on, and a lot of validating info on the internet - I'm just so glad I live in a time & place where I can do some exploring, and put names to some of the aspects of my personality and brain function.
My mom absolutely would say “you’re too pretty.” I’ve basically been telling her my whole life before I even knew what asexuality was that I wasn’t interested in relationships like that and she’d say exactly that. Because ya know… I exist for sex appeal🥴
The lesbian penguins reminded me of a new fact I learnt recently... they tried to start a captivity breeding program for Whio (a native New Zealand duck) in the UK and it failed because the two male ducks they had ended up in a relationship with each other!! It's kind of become my favourite fact 😍😍
In high school any time I said I was ace (this was over 11 years ago btw) a boy would insist I wasn't and that I didn't know what asexual meant, but was perfectly fine with my other friends going from straight(thought they were) to lesbian (realized they were) or straight to bi. Like being ace was impossible, especially because I hadn't had physical relationships or a recent "boyfriend" as I only had one, 1 week relationship in middle school because I thought I had too and when the kid forced me to kiss him I literally wiped off my mouth walked away and spat on the ground a few time, (it was unwanted, gross and I just didn't like it.) I'm still ace and I still don't like mouth to mouth affection. Cuddling with croissants however, is good.
I also called myself ace in high school 16 years ago (has minor panic attacking realizing that time is a weird soup) but wasn't actually aware of asexuality as a thing, I just used it to try to describe myself to people because it was the closest thing to explain to my friends that my lack of interest in sex wasn't a prude thing, I just wasn't interested. It was my LGBT+ friends who told me ""asexual" isn't a thing humans can be" and "it's not that you don't like/aren't interested in sex, it's just that you havent had it yet" etc, etc. Being that my friends were sexually active already and I was not, I just kinda assumed they must be right. Ah, if only I could go back and scream at my 16 year old self not to listen to the haters who didn't know any better, would have saved much drama later down the line... Long story short, don't let anyone deny how YOU feel about your sexuality! You know you better than they do.
you are really lucky to have come this far as a trans guy.I feel very happy and grateful to you I'm planning on coming out in 5 years (yep very shortly) cus that's the safest for my existence hope everything goes well
Be strong and safe for yourself and remember that we are here for you. If you need a laugh or something heartwarming visit here and we will help. Just let us know in the comments if you need to talk. WE SUPPORT YOU 🏳️🌈💜
"But you're so pretty!" Yep. Throughout my 20's I was told I was too pretty to be single. (I'm old, so this was before the word aromantic had entered the lexicon, but I definitely knew that being single was the life for me. It was just a lot harder to explain without the right vocabulary.) People also told my sister she was too pretty to be lesbian. Because if you look a way that cis-het men find attractive, then obviously you should be dating them. The thought process is that all women are really attracted to men because men are so awesome, so if a woman is dating another woman, or dating no one at all, it can only be because she can't get a man. The idea that some of us just don't want to is inconceivable in this kind of mindset. One time some guy (who was probably old enough to be my dad, just for an extra layer of gross) asked me why I wasn't dating anyone and I said, "Because I don't want to." He responded with the classic, "But you're too pretty to be single." I was in the mood to challenge it, so I asked him, "What does how I look have to do with what I want?" And he literally said, "It's about what men want." I was at work, so I figured I couldn't get away with pushing him much more than that, so I just gave him a look and walked away. I always hoped he might have thought about it afterwards and maybe come to some better conclusions, but I doubt it.
Thank you for sharing your experience, I'm very sorry you had those encounters and I hope the world continues to improve the inclusion and acceptance of all people.
Hi Jamie, trans guy love as always! I look up to you so much! I hope to be like you one day! 💙💙💙💙🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ I feel dysphoric for no reason and this made me happy! Thank you!
5:04 Bless her! That was so lovely! It brought tears to my eyes and I'm happy for her! It's so sad when anybody feels they need to live a long life hiding who they really are!
The catholic school board in my area is pretty anti LGBT so our city put a rainbow crosswalk right outside their office 😆😆😆 something like 95% of people in a poll were in favour of this crosswalk
That reminds me, the town I grew up in had a small tunnel for cyclists under the railway that all the trafic was funneled trough there, but a lot of bullying and sometimes even violence happened there and it became a scary place to be. The gouvernement of the city solved it by placing a giant rainbow flag mural across the span of the tunnel with the Dutch law against discrimination written out of it. One of the coolest things they have done and it was actually effective. No more nasty people hanging around there.
@@laartje24 The abusers [accurate term for "bullies"] probably thought they would "catch teh Gehy" if they were in that tunnel with the rainbow. And let's be clear: "bullying" is a nice little euphemism for _psychological and physical _*_ABUSE._* It's long past time we call it that: _Abuse._
yea, we give off “the vibes” i figured i’m ace and people have said “ you sound like an asexual” or “what are you? an asexual?” i also have explicitly said i’m ace after both of these and they still don’t suspect a thing somehow. it is magical and sometimes i feel like i am the only person i know with the common sense to connect the dots, like how they act, who and how they act around people, and then explicitly tell me their sexuality.
I recently came out to my mum as AroAce and at first she did say that i just haven't met the right person yet (no :) ), but after I pulled up an article online explaining it, she turned to me and with tears in her eyes asked "So I'll never see you in a wedding dress :(?" She's supportive tho hahaha
I don't know why, but I lost it at your astonishment that the eye makeup was done on both eyes, and then the realization that of COURSE they did both eyes 😂😂😂
Hi Jamie, I really needed this today. I just came out to my grandma a couple hours ago, and it wasn't good, but it wasn't bad, per se. She accepted my name change, but she didn't acknowledge my sexuality. All in all, I really needed some wholesome gayness today. ❤️
2:23 I came out in the 1990s, and my generation just expected hostility from The Straights when we came out. We just expected them to hate us or act bigoted towards us as a reflex - because that's usually what happened to us back in the 1990s. We LGBT-folk just treated it as a basic fact of nature: The sky is blue; Water is wet; Heteros are going to treat us as not fully human and react with hostility towards us.
Yeah, when I was a kid we went to the rodeo every year and my favorite part was near the beginning when a bunch of women on beautiful horses would come flying out in to the ring carrying huge flags representing the nations of all the participants in that year’s rodeo. They’d go around the ring in these circles swooping between each other like a dance, but so fast that when they went by it would literally blow my hair back and people would have to hold on to their hats. It was soooooo cool. The strength and control was amazing, plus it was just beautiful.
There wasn't a lot I liked about high school, but one thing I did appreciate was the district-wide dedication to LGBTQ+ rights. They were required by the district to have signs posted outside every classroom saying "This is a safe space for LGBTQ individuals." Individual teachers or students might be homophobic jerks, but the school district policy was very supportive. And this was from 2000-2004 that I attended high school.
The woman talking to the bank made me tear up. We must encourage our elder queers to be as visible as possible (even when they're not dressed as super heroes, I love those guys). Also, please read the bisexual manifesto and do a video about it! I wish I'd kept my copies of Anything That Moves. It was a great magazine. I even tried to volunteer for them but could not get my act together. In every issue I had there were multiple full page ads for Ani DiFranco. I think she kept that magazine afloat.
I'm a trans girl and my girlfriend is asexual, so it was really surprising to me that she was worried I'd be upset that she's ace because I didn't know how much shit they get even in the community. I think it's heartbreaking and I want nothing but happiness for my LGBTQIA+ brothers, sisters, siblings and any term between and around. Thank you for showing support to every kind of person who exists under the banner of pride!
The school at 6:30 is Seattle Pacific University (for those who can't quite read it), and while *he* might not be homophobic himself, the school (a Christian university) has a policy prohibiting LGBTQ+ faculty from holding positions (or maybe just full-time positions) at the school. Washington State Attorney General Robert Ferguson has sued the university over their homophobic policies, and the university countersued over the same.
I can confirm that Pete is extrememly homophobic. The policy applies to both staff and faculty. The AG office didn't sue the school. They are just investigating. The Board, including the interim President (Pete Menjares, the guy in the video), are being sued by a group of current students, staff and faculty.
4:41 i saw on pinterest a post where there was written "my sister is lesbian and I'm gay, but our parents are anti-gay. So I "date" her gf and she "dates" my bf. When they sleep over they sleep in the opposite rooms. Joke's on my parent."
No joke, in the run up to the most recent local election, two Tories were going door to door in my street. They saw our pride flag bunting in the window and didn't even knock. I'm not sure whether to be glad to have escaped or very, very worried.
Regarding the penguin one, there's actually a zoo where two gay penguins stole an egg from two lesbian penguins bc they wanted in on it (Next year the zookeepers gave both pairs eggs)
As an asexual aromantic demigirl I totally laughed at the asexuality one because I’ve definitely been told more than once that I just haven’t met the right person yet but the jokes totally on them because as an aromantic person I don’t really care if I ever do 😂😂😂!
Sounds like you’ve got the right attitude. Why wait for “the right person” when the probability of them even _existing_ is so low as to practically be zero? If people you’d find attractive existed, surely you would have met at least one such person by now?
Always enjoy your videos!! I loved the eye makeup one… that was so well done, I had seen the woman mentioning her wife for the first time… that got me all teary
3:44 Anyone else her ancient enough to be hearing the horse level music from Shinobi 3 in their head? Someone needs to loop that clip of the girl with that song from the game for, like, ten minutes at least.
Ok I cried, I laughed and I am just smiling rn. Can't tell if it's from the crazy amount of hormonal changes in the last month or this video but Jammi my dude you gave me the feels on this rainy Sunday afternoon
A little context on the graduate pride flag video. That is at Seattle Pacific University, a local college, so it's been on the news a lot. They have admitted to not hiring LGBTQ+ staff. Within the last month a lawsuit has been filed against the school board by staff and students. The school is asking a federal judge to protect its right to hire who they do or do not want to base off their religion. Along with the flags at graduation there have been numerous protests on campus by students, other staff members, and the community.
4:37 "And Tango Makes Three" is my favorite childrens book. I especially love it bc penguins mate for life, so it has a more human feel and also it's based on a true story ♥️
Hi, literally only here to clear up some mild, but persistent, misinformation, not to decrease your enjoyment of the book, but... "penguins mate for life" is not *entirely* accurate. You see, there's about 17 different species of penguins. With this, there is also a range of mating behaviours, that vary between species. While some species may well mate for life, there are others, such as the little/blue/fairy penguin (yes all three terms are used for the one species, _Eudyptula minor_), that *do not,* in fact, mate for life. I've been a Penguin Observation Guide down at my local little penguin colony for a few years now, and as part of that, I've been involved in giving informational talks about little penguins before we watch them come onto land after a day out at sea, as well as answering the occasional question while watching them go about their evening/night land activities. *Many* of our visitors are surprised to learn that the "divorce" rate of little penguins is fairly similar to humans, and that male penguins often also end up raising chick's that are not actually biologically theirs.
Had a rough day & this was the first thing to make me smile, & the sun happened to come out during the video as well. So now I'm chilling w my plants & my cat & letting myself breathe. Thanks Jamie
A mom telling her trans son not to get a woman pregnant is the kind of wholesome I didn't know I needed, but strangely adore.
Similar thing happened to me (trans woman) at my doctor's office recently. The nurse came in before giving me a flu shot and asked if I was pregnant and I was just like "uhh no"
same
Actually, that may not be as far away as you think. I mean, I don't think it's right around the corner but, with some technology that seems doable on the ballpark of within a lifetime (almost) any two people should be able to have a biological child together. Basically, the idea is to pull stem cells from each parent and then make one set into sperm, the others into eggs and boom! There you go. There might be exceptions but practically speaking everyone who could possibly have a kid now and most everyone else this would work for.
There has been at least a successful pregnancy with a transplanted uterus but that was with a cis women so idk how use for trans women looks.
As far as getting (or getting someone) pregnant the free way idk of any ideas on how to make that work for trans people.
But still, I'd love to see a world where any family could have a kid and who knows maybe we'll live to see that! So exciting!
@@solsystem1342 Your last line, "a world where any family could have a kid", we do have that. It's called adoption.
There are so many kids out there waiting for a family to love them and give them a safe home. If anything we need to make adoption cheaper and more accessible to good couples because many foster systems are screwed.
My sister's HUSBAND had to pay over 10k once all was said and done, and over 8 months to adopt her biological son. It's not like there was a battle either His biological father easily signed over rights. It's even more expensive and time consuming for couples to adopt non biological related children. And this is in Canada. I've heard it's even worse in the USA and other countries.
@@maraschwartz6731 funny and wholesome
That last one was wonderful. A mom who was so accepting of her child's transition that she literally just forgot? Kinda rocks.
If the 84-year-old lady saying "my wife" doesn't get you, you just have no heart.
She knew all along. Maybe even before he came out, Mom knew.
Old lady with a wife... Dang, that's my life goal right there. To grow old with whom I love, retire in a nice house and be happy. But I'll probably commit bye bye myself if depression gets to me, which it is, lol
@@Catwithaknife69 Dont, please, being happy with a wonderfull woman by your side can totally happen maybe faster than you think ! And even if it's hard to find ""the one"" then it will be true one day. Life is long. Keep going on the way of hope please.
@@Catwithaknife69 hang in there.
I fought with depression for years, though now that we've moved to a rental that is out in the country, and away from the people that were triggering me it's greatly improved. Mostly seasonal now. (Coming up on my worst season)
I am going to hope for you to become the coolest old lady with a wife ever.
@@akitokutikabanae7010 I feel like I'm losing my mind a bit more everyday and sometimes I just wanna curl up and scream and bang on the walls and destroy my room for no apparent reason, even when I'm not angry, but I sure will keep trying!
I’m so happy to see Aphobia be called out and we should work on calling out ourselves too. You can have fulfilling relationships in any form.
Asexual phobia
@The Werewolf of Somalia Aphobia doesn't just refer to asexuals. It also refers so any label under the Aspec Spectrum (Asexual, Aromatic, Agender, Abrosexual, Abroromantic, and many other identities as well.) It is the discrimination/hate of Aspec identities. (Also, there are ways to spread Aphobic rhetoric without necessarily being hateful or intentionally being so. Aphobia is common, even in queer spaces.)
@@junebunny0712 as far as I know, agender doesn't fall under aspec since it is not a romantical/sexual orientation. (Instead it falls under the trans umbrella.)
But I like the idea of opening the term for everything a- related:
I would like to add the aplatonic spectrum to the list :D
(And no, aplatonic doesn't mean that the person has no friends or is not interested/doesn't care about other persons. It's just the lack of platonic attraction.)
Feel free to look it up :D
@@Oxten42 I'm pretty sure agender falls under the trans catagory as well, but other than that they explained it very well
Had a night out the other night and had to explain to two different guys what ace was, one slightly more successful than the other but neither seemed to believe it was a real thing 😒
When I came out as ace to my partner, I explained everything I was feeling, and they reacted by saying "oh cool! We NEVER have to have sex! Good!"
And then paused, eyes wide, and went, "I think I'm ace too."
aww thats very sweet n silly, im glad you found each other/hope the relationship is going well! :>
The ace radar
The asexual one hit really close to home. When I told an acquaintance that I'm AroAce, the first thing he told me was that I just haven't found the right person yet , and the second was that if I continue saying that, nobody will want to date me. I don't think he understands that that's perfectly fine with me lol.
He really missed the point, didn't he!
@@missnaomi613 Yes, he really did lol
It’s just so invalidating. People have said that to me too and it just hurts you in every way possible.
@@MeemahSN Just remember that they're wrong, because you're just as valid as everyone else. All the hugs possible (but only if you want them) 💜
Happens a lot, sadly. Aroace boy. Got called 'lazy'. I thought it was funny.
When I was a college student in the late 1970's, I was ostracized for being in a lesbian relationship. I was called into the office and asked to leave the school. I did. Times are different now, though it can be difficult to be queer, there have been big strides. I was so pleased to see the students with the rainbow flags. How times have changed! 🌈❤
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I remember when a bisexual woman (at my old job) demanded to know if I was queer. I was strongarmed into saying I was asexual and without pause she started talking about wanting dick. Luckily, I'm not sex replused. Also, at the same job, a gay man point blanked asked if I was a lesbian and once again, I told him and his response was "Is there something wrong with you?" So, uh, yeah, that asexual tiktok spoke to me soooo much.
Edit: Just an edit (because people asked) yes, I am out of that job now! I was made redundant and left with a decent redundancy so I won in the end! :D I have a different job, and I was asked and didn't say, but the woman who did ask, I knew she had vibes from me, and she started speaking about her gay son.
But no one there knows, but I know they know I am Queer because I've spoken about a few women that I, in my own personal asexual way, find attractive. (she/her here.. i think but that is a whole different story)
Man, that sucks. I'm really sorry ppl are assholes. I don't "get" being ace myself just because that's not me at all lol, but that's no excuse to erase how someone else feels
I'm sorry that happened to you. Intracommunity discrimination really sucks, I'm glad you're out of that environment and hope things got better for you.
- a fellow ace!
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:o this person stole my username!!
also as a sex repulsed person i would have hated to be in that situation
I’m not ace but the worst thing I’ve heard people say to others is “I take that as a challenge” as if human beings with complex thoughts and emotions are some sort of game to be played…
@@DrWho160 and that's how corrective rape happens
The one where the 80yo woman talks about her wife almost brought me to tears 😭 so beautiful 💖🏳️🌈
As an ace spec person with a bi partner we absolutely have a wholesome romantic relationship. I honestly don't think I could be with someone so perfect ❤️
Who's to say I'm not a Toyota
@@acespacerooster toyota rooster 🐓
@@acespacerooster
New xeno geneder unlocked, Toyota
this gives me hope 🥺
@@mailyak442 ❤️
I’m 57 years old, and I grew up with two ladies living in our road. Everyone has always known them as The Girls, and fully accepting them as a couple. My mum used to be a legal secretary and she was the one who suggested to them back in the 1980’s that they get married in a civil partnership, if only to protect their home and assets from the family if something should happen to one of them. I have literally grown up not giving an iota what sexual orientation people lean toward. It’s their business and as long as they are happy, that’s all that matters. We are all human after all.💞🇬🇧
My Uncle had two in his family, they were always welcome, I grew up with it.
@@frostfirei
There were always family suspicions that my late uncle was gay, but it was never openly spoken about or actually confirmed by him. He’d had a very close best friend in his childhood, but was devastated when he suddenly married aged 20. This really upset and embittered my uncle, and after serving in WW2 he emigrated to Canada, and very much kept to himself about his life there. He passed away two years ago aged 94 and to everyone’s knowledge had never dated anyone. My brother and I feel quite sad that he felt unable to be who he wanted to be, but was obviously held back by staunch old family values and the pressures of an unforgiving society. If he had eventually come out to my family after my grandparents died, I really don’t think my parents would have been that at all bothered, just as long as he was happy.
@Bruh
I have always felt that as long as you’re not abusing a loved one, it doesn’t matter who you fall in love with. To actually find your soul mate is rare, so who are we to judge if that person doesn’t quite fit into what a minority of narrow minded people term as ‘normal’.
When my nephew came out as gay a few years ago, we were all patiently waiting for it to happen. Everyone that loves and knows him for who he is have been expecting it to happen since he was a small child. For some reason he felt he had to break it to me while he was very drunk. My reaction was to tell him I kinda already figured that out and as long as he’s happy, so am I. 💞
@Bruh
I too kind of have a family more accepting of me here on CZcams. I’ve been severely disabled and housebound for nearly 6 years now due to chronic osteoarthritis and acute Lymphodema. I lost my hair due to alopecia, stress and vitamin D deficiency. It’s very stubborn about growing back. My parents are long gone now and my siblings have always been opinionated about their slightly kookie free spirited little sister. I only deal with them when I have to, the brother I do get on fairly well with is the other end of the country compared to me here on the south coast. I just wrap myself in my happy cocoon on planet me, and if people don’t like me, we’ll it’s their loss I’m afraid. There’s too much bad in the world to judge those who are doing good whoever they are.
Happy Christmas sweetheart.💞
British pride
omg the lady who was able to say her wife for the first time in a telephone call 😭😭😭 in her lifetime she might have gone from not able to have a solo bank account as a woman at all, to being able to acknowledge her wife to the bank during normal conduction of business 💗
"WELL BARBARA CLEARLY THEY DO"
this is the energy i'm striving toward from now on
Jamie mentioning he wasn't born yet when the bi manifesto came out made me look up his age. He's only a year younger than my older brother. No wonder he gives me supportive big brother vibes! Before I started watching his videos, I was scared about being aroace and now I'm a proud part of the aroace community. I even found the courage to explore my gender identity thanks to Jamie showing me it's okay to not be cis and now I'm comfortable identifying as agender
Congrats! :)
Me too. I had heard of asexuality a few years back. Learning lessons from Jamie, I knew I was ace. Now I am proud. (Not out to my whole family yet. Still in quarantine.) Now I know that I am AAA. 🙂💜
Wow, he has the same age as my older brother xD
I firstly heard of agender through a meme but he gave me confidence to resist my internalized cissexism and be open minded in my self discovery.
Before, I couldnt identify much with anything but now I wear much pride related stuff (festival ribbons, a dog tag) and an Ace ring with, well, pride :D
~ a fellow AAA
Your a triple A battery!
The bi manifesto, IIRC, predates when I came out. And I came out in 1992.
Loved ❤️ the 85 year woman who had to share her happiness by calling her partner her wife. I finally figured out that I am ace when I was 66.💜 The times now are so much more open to us as older people.🏳️🌈
Younger ace here! There are like 4 phases that typically happen for asexuality.
1) What is asexuality? 2) People are faking their sexual attraction. I’m not crazy! They are! 3) Oh GOD. What’s WRONG with me? I feel so alone and BROKEN. 4) Nothing is wrong with me!
Not everyone goes through all the phases. I didn’t go through 2. I just was repulsed by the thought of sex. I’m sex-repulsed aro/ace and I found it out at 22. I’m 24 now, going strong!
@@paitynnicolosi8907 You are so right. Those were basically the steps I took. I'm not broken and then found the true me. 🙂💜💜💜
My friend Jez taught me those steps. I’m slowly getting into stage four cos of aphobia from friends and family.
step two has the same energy as "im not gay, but (insert same gender here) bodies are just objectively more attractive and anyone who denies that is lying.
@@bbear2695 you are right about beauty. I'm an artist and do look at people as beautiful or quirky or most often interesting. If I mention some actor is so good looking, it does not mean that they are sexually attractive to me. I was always wondering in watching shows where in some dangerous happening, two people just have to have hot sex.
The reaction to my asexuality that sticks with me the most is the guy who assumed I was automatically much more genuine and focused in my various pursuits, because not wanting to have sex meant I was only doing stuff for my own sake and not to impress anyone.
Which
There is a whole lot to unpack there
Its sad that this is a thing....
I always use the "im just focusing on my future" whenever someone asked me if i had a gf
-sincerely a gay ace-spec
I think this tells on that guy more than anything else.
@@OdinsSage does it? Or does it rather just show how sex focused our society is that people think asexuals are more serious in pursuing a relationship?
the bisexual is so important to me, as a bisexual i have often found it so hard to explain to people that is not just men and women. i usually say that i can fall in love with basically anyone, its true and some people thinks that is weird and then they leave me alone so its a double win in my book
the bisexual manifesto is what i meant to say...
Okay but the bi manifesto is specifically by an aphobic, panphobic TERF who only updated it to be inclusive of trans and nonbinary people to convince them to follow her transmedicalist and otherwise bigoted ideas. It's literally called a manifesto because the author read The Scum Manifesto and mein Kampf while writing it and she cited them as inspiration. If you want to be represented by someone that screwed up, you should do some soul searching.
@@lawrence208 It does not mean just two, it means your own gender and not your gender. There are all kinds of genders that aren't my own. The laser focus on bi meaning just two is a product of the internet age, from people who are maybe not aware of the history of bisexuality. For sure read the bisexual manifesto, but also there was a magazine that ran through the 90s called "Anything that Moves" lol which might give you a sense that bisexuality means more than just 2 genders.
@@lawrence208 I got your joke. Two of any gender. HEHEHHEH. Good one.
I'm at the point where I define bisexuality as being attracted to members of two genders: any and none. As a gendervoid femme, the none matters to me a lot. I'm always aware that Latin arose in a culture whose mathematics had no concept of zero, so "pan" for "all" rings to me like "only people with one or more genders." I know that's not how it's being used. And has never been used that way. It still kind of leaves me twitchy.
the old woman tiktok reminded me of when i saw two elder gays being cutely together in the old town i lived in time ago during pride month, both having rainbow and looking on some pamflets about LGBT+ events they were doing around. It was so sweet and i felt so happy for them, because they could be gay in public,when they were kids were forced to be sth they weren't,as how they prob were under the spanish dictatorship,and gayness was banned... :(
My neighbor is also gay, he is a gay elder man as well. But he lost his couple some yrs ago already. They were together for like... 40 yrs. My uncle told me because when he lived here,he talked sometimes and visited that old man
I love elderly gays, their so nice🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Aww no, that's so sweet and sad at the same time
God I hate how people make this such a big deal. I want equality not special treatment
muerte al fascismo!
@@cajunking5987 Dude people enjoy wholesome and bittersweet couple moments in straight relationships too. It’s not special treatment.
The one with the graduation the guy accepting the flags seemed genuinely happy about getting them. He smiled warmly about the little wave of the flag as well. The one lady in the background however was eating sour grapes.
The 85 yo "my wife" one did make me cry. My dad passed at 70 last month and he was bi and demi but never had the words for it until I showed him what the internet is like two years ago. Just... Damn.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad. I'm glad you were able to help him to understand himself.
@@mirandarensberger6919*hug*
"Does Melissa Etheridge want us to wait by the light of the moon because she doesn't own lamps?"
I *shrieked* laughing.
Aha, as an asexual myself, I had someone who was trying to ask me out react to that information by asking if I'd been traumatized. Straight up. I barely knew this man. He followed it up with "What about your maternal instincts? How will you have kids?" I don't know, something about "I'm asexual" seems to make people feel entitled to ask awkward personal questions in the same way that "I'm trans" makes people feel entitled to ask about what's in your pants.
On a lighter note, hard agree on how wholesome it is to see older queers expressing so much relief and joy to be able to just live their honest lives in public. They walked a long and hard road that paved the way for our generation to run.
I've gotten that traumatized comment before in high school. The guy was homophobic too and acted like he was being so civil and polite. He also asked me how could I know if I've never had sex? (I'm sex favorable anyways) I even had a partner at the time, and he knew this. So, I asked him how did he know he wasn't gay if he's never been with a guy. His response was that it was somehow different.
Riding bareback (on a horse, don't derail this pls) has always been possible. Its not as common, but a lot of people still do it. It's also painful, but really cool. Yes, she has to have a pretty good grip on the flag and the horse to be able to do that.
Less painful if you do it more. Yay No Saddle November!
Did you catch that she was riding without a bridle, too? Looked like maybe a neck strap, but not much of one.
That woman had skill, is what I'm saying.
@@Amanda-C. I didn't catch it no. I was really young when my parents tried to get me into horse riding. And, I only rode bareback once and was extremely painful for me. I don't ride anymore and haven't for a long time.
I told a guy that I was demisexual once and he said we'd stay friends and never spoke to me again and is now terrified of running into me in public 😂 I kind of enjoy the power to have grown ass men see me and just... run.
When the phobe is literal
My partner is Demi-gray and I’m so happy to see more people coming out about it in the community. He always thought there was something wrong with him and it ruined a lot of his previous relationships because his former partners would just nope the fuck out. He was afraid to admit it to me when he realized it. He came out in front of a huge crowd only two years ago. I am so proud of him. And of you! Congrats on taking your power back!
Lmao because you sound crazy
@@johnfreeman9358 Sure, because someone who doesn't feel sexual attraction must be crazy, right?
@@unapologeticallylizzy if you say it just like u did it doesn't but when u say stuff like demisexual than that scares ppl away
The woman using "my wife" for the 1st time had me in tears; so beautiful!
5:11 Saw this a bit ago. So sweet! Had to pause to stop tearing up. Beautiful! 🥹♥️☮️🏳️🌈
I love that she felt so happy that she wanted to share her feelings with us. Her joy is just so palpable
Seen it a couple of times and 😭
Thank you for your shout to us older queer people…I always thought I was bi. Thanks to all the information available here on YT (and specifically thanks to YOU and OT) I now know that what I’ve always been is pan. I’m a grandmother now and my kids and grandkids represent several of the letters in our 🌈 rainbow with all my love and support. I’m so grateful for your content. Helping to create the world we want to live in.
As an asexual woman in her 70's, I can totally relate to the lovely woman in her 80's, who just made an assertion of her marital status. Speaking for my (Boomer) generation - we didn't have (positive) words for many of the sexual orientations or basic information when we were younger. I didn't know that there was a designation for my total lack of sexual interest until a few years ago, about the same time I understood that I have dyscalculia, which is related to dyslexia, but involves only numerals. There's lots to catch up on, and a lot of validating info on the internet - I'm just so glad I live in a time & place where I can do some exploring, and put names to some of the aspects of my personality and brain function.
My mom absolutely would say “you’re too pretty.” I’ve basically been telling her my whole life before I even knew what asexuality was that I wasn’t interested in relationships like that and she’d say exactly that. Because ya know… I exist for sex appeal🥴
4:33 fun fact, penguins having same sex couples is actually decently common, they raise the eggs that no other penguins care for.
The lesbian penguins reminded me of a new fact I learnt recently... they tried to start a captivity breeding program for Whio (a native New Zealand duck) in the UK and it failed because the two male ducks they had ended up in a relationship with each other!! It's kind of become my favourite fact 😍😍
In high school any time I said I was ace (this was over 11 years ago btw) a boy would insist I wasn't and that I didn't know what asexual meant, but was perfectly fine with my other friends going from straight(thought they were) to lesbian (realized they were) or straight to bi. Like being ace was impossible, especially because I hadn't had physical relationships or a recent "boyfriend" as I only had one, 1 week relationship in middle school because I thought I had too and when the kid forced me to kiss him I literally wiped off my mouth walked away and spat on the ground a few time, (it was unwanted, gross and I just didn't like it.) I'm still ace and I still don't like mouth to mouth affection. Cuddling with croissants however, is good.
I also called myself ace in high school 16 years ago (has minor panic attacking realizing that time is a weird soup) but wasn't actually aware of asexuality as a thing, I just used it to try to describe myself to people because it was the closest thing to explain to my friends that my lack of interest in sex wasn't a prude thing, I just wasn't interested. It was my LGBT+ friends who told me ""asexual" isn't a thing humans can be" and "it's not that you don't like/aren't interested in sex, it's just that you havent had it yet" etc, etc. Being that my friends were sexually active already and I was not, I just kinda assumed they must be right. Ah, if only I could go back and scream at my 16 year old self not to listen to the haters who didn't know any better, would have saved much drama later down the line...
Long story short, don't let anyone deny how YOU feel about your sexuality! You know you better than they do.
you are really lucky to have come this far as a trans guy.I feel very happy and grateful to you
I'm planning on coming out in 5 years (yep very shortly) cus that's the safest for my existence
hope everything goes well
I'm right there with you! Stay strong
@@Lisa_Flowers omg
thankyou so much❤️
@Lesbian Racoon God ❤️🏳️⚧️
Stay safe, and take care of yourself! ❤️
Be strong and safe for yourself and remember that we are here for you. If you need a laugh or something heartwarming visit here and we will help. Just let us know in the comments if you need to talk. WE SUPPORT YOU 🏳️🌈💜
"But you're so pretty!" Yep. Throughout my 20's I was told I was too pretty to be single. (I'm old, so this was before the word aromantic had entered the lexicon, but I definitely knew that being single was the life for me. It was just a lot harder to explain without the right vocabulary.) People also told my sister she was too pretty to be lesbian. Because if you look a way that cis-het men find attractive, then obviously you should be dating them. The thought process is that all women are really attracted to men because men are so awesome, so if a woman is dating another woman, or dating no one at all, it can only be because she can't get a man. The idea that some of us just don't want to is inconceivable in this kind of mindset.
One time some guy (who was probably old enough to be my dad, just for an extra layer of gross) asked me why I wasn't dating anyone and I said, "Because I don't want to." He responded with the classic, "But you're too pretty to be single." I was in the mood to challenge it, so I asked him, "What does how I look have to do with what I want?" And he literally said, "It's about what men want." I was at work, so I figured I couldn't get away with pushing him much more than that, so I just gave him a look and walked away. I always hoped he might have thought about it afterwards and maybe come to some better conclusions, but I doubt it.
Thank you for sharing your experience, I'm very sorry you had those encounters and I hope the world continues to improve the inclusion and acceptance of all people.
Wow, like he literally couldn't comprehend that women are capable of independent thought. Yikes.
Hi Jamie, trans guy love as always! I look up to you so much! I hope to be like you one day! 💙💙💙💙🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ I feel dysphoric for no reason and this made me happy! Thank you!
Oh my god bro same he is the guy i look up to and want to be like
@@Your_local_trans_guy yeah :)
Sending love! I wish you gender euphoria in your transition! You got this!
@@msjkramey thank you for the words of motivation
@@msjkramey Thanks :)
5:04 Bless her! That was so lovely! It brought tears to my eyes and I'm happy for her! It's so sad when anybody feels they need to live a long life hiding who they really are!
The 84 year old who said "my wife" grew up in SUCH a different time. That's the pre-boomer Silent Generation. My eyes welled up too!
The catholic school board in my area is pretty anti LGBT so our city put a rainbow crosswalk right outside their office 😆😆😆 something like 95% of people in a poll were in favour of this crosswalk
so awesome,lets make them eat the rainbow with potatoes,as we'd say in spanish 😂
That reminds me, the town I grew up in had a small tunnel for cyclists under the railway that all the trafic was funneled trough there, but a lot of bullying and sometimes even violence happened there and it became a scary place to be. The gouvernement of the city solved it by placing a giant rainbow flag mural across the span of the tunnel with the Dutch law against discrimination written out of it. One of the coolest things they have done and it was actually effective. No more nasty people hanging around there.
@@laartje24 The abusers [accurate term for "bullies"] probably thought they would "catch teh Gehy" if they were in that tunnel with the rainbow.
And let's be clear: "bullying" is a nice little euphemism for _psychological and physical _*_ABUSE._* It's long past time we call it that: _Abuse._
7:59 Now we'll need a vid going over the bisexual manifesto, please and thank you 😊
yea, we give off “the vibes” i figured i’m ace and people have said “ you sound like an asexual” or “what are you? an asexual?” i also have explicitly said i’m ace after both of these and they still don’t suspect a thing somehow. it is magical and sometimes i feel like i am the only person i know with the common sense to connect the dots, like how they act, who and how they act around people, and then explicitly tell me their sexuality.
5:58 It's okay, you can cry if you need to
I recently came out to my mum as AroAce and at first she did say that i just haven't met the right person yet (no :) ), but after I pulled up an article online explaining it, she turned to me and with tears in her eyes asked "So I'll never see you in a wedding dress :(?" She's supportive tho hahaha
I don't know why, but I lost it at your astonishment that the eye makeup was done on both eyes, and then the realization that of COURSE they did both eyes 😂😂😂
Hi Jamie, I really needed this today. I just came out to my grandma a couple hours ago, and it wasn't good, but it wasn't bad, per se. She accepted my name change, but she didn't acknowledge my sexuality. All in all, I really needed some wholesome gayness today. ❤️
Big hugs Moonglory ;)
🌈🌈❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🌈🌈
Here’s a bit more wholesome gayness! I hope today is going better!
2:23 I came out in the 1990s, and my generation just expected hostility from The Straights when we came out. We just expected them to hate us or act bigoted towards us as a reflex - because that's usually what happened to us back in the 1990s. We LGBT-folk just treated it as a basic fact of nature: The sky is blue; Water is wet; Heteros are going to treat us as not fully human and react with hostility towards us.
The first TikTok could backfire. Some communities will get everyone involved to cure you. ALTHOUGH it’s nice to see Mormon Salesmen be repelled.
That 84yo lady was so precious, especially the end where she's like "Guess what I'm going to be doing it again" ♥
The bisexual makeup video was mine! 🥰 thank you for featuring me
How's the marriage going? Congrats on the wedding!
I have seen the one with the lady saying "my wife" the first time a couple of times and DAMN!! Every time gives me happy shivers and watery eyes!
Flag bearing is a very important job in many horse events, and indeed I do hear it's really hard.
Yeah, when I was a kid we went to the rodeo every year and my favorite part was near the beginning when a bunch of women on beautiful horses would come flying out in to the ring carrying huge flags representing the nations of all the participants in that year’s rodeo.
They’d go around the ring in these circles swooping between each other like a dance, but so fast that when they went by it would literally blow my hair back and people would have to hold on to their hats.
It was soooooo cool.
The strength and control was amazing, plus it was just beautiful.
5:17 Reminds me of how I've only very recently been able to say I love myself since coming out as trans at 33
I literally went, "oh not again" when the my-wife tiktok came on. This is the 3rd time I've watched it and it still makes me want to cry
There wasn't a lot I liked about high school, but one thing I did appreciate was the district-wide dedication to LGBTQ+ rights. They were required by the district to have signs posted outside every classroom saying "This is a safe space for LGBTQ individuals." Individual teachers or students might be homophobic jerks, but the school district policy was very supportive. And this was from 2000-2004 that I attended high school.
Irrespective of witty comments, your Intro is always reassuring.
The woman talking to the bank made me tear up. We must encourage our elder queers to be as visible as possible (even when they're not dressed as super heroes, I love those guys).
Also, please read the bisexual manifesto and do a video about it! I wish I'd kept my copies of Anything That Moves. It was a great magazine. I even tried to volunteer for them but could not get my act together. In every issue I had there were multiple full page ads for Ani DiFranco. I think she kept that magazine afloat.
I'm a trans girl and my girlfriend is asexual, so it was really surprising to me that she was worried I'd be upset that she's ace because I didn't know how much shit they get even in the community. I think it's heartbreaking and I want nothing but happiness for my LGBTQIA+ brothers, sisters, siblings and any term between and around. Thank you for showing support to every kind of person who exists under the banner of pride!
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The school at 6:30 is Seattle Pacific University (for those who can't quite read it), and while *he* might not be homophobic himself, the school (a Christian university) has a policy prohibiting LGBTQ+ faculty from holding positions (or maybe just full-time positions) at the school. Washington State Attorney General Robert Ferguson has sued the university over their homophobic policies, and the university countersued over the same.
I can confirm that Pete is extrememly homophobic. The policy applies to both staff and faculty. The AG office didn't sue the school. They are just investigating. The Board, including the interim President (Pete Menjares, the guy in the video), are being sued by a group of current students, staff and faculty.
jamie, you make all of us feel so much better. i love it when i see that you posted! thanks for making these great videos!
Grandma being so proud of saying "my wife" is the most wholesome thing EVER!! We should all go find her & give her so much love!!! 💜
The one about telling the bank person about her wife had me sobbing
Duogamy is such a great word! Also glad to learn about the Bisexual Manifesto
Just googled it. Apparently that was me briefly in high school lol
Ok Omar mateen.
I needed this today I wasn't feeling the best about myself today and this made me feel more confident so thank you
Hope the rest of your day is better!
I too am having a cruddy day. Saw Jamie post - yay😀. TicTok - oh might be phobic😮💨. Upbeat - alright.😄💜
I’ve already seen a lot of these Tik Toks, but I love seeing your reaction as well as the new ones! Please keep these coming!!
4:41 i saw on pinterest a post where there was written "my sister is lesbian and I'm gay, but our parents are anti-gay. So I "date" her gf and she "dates" my bf. When they sleep over they sleep in the opposite rooms. Joke's on my parent."
after telling someone I was an ace they said “oh so you reproduce by splitting in half?” and I’m 99% sure they were joking
hey jamie! today i just got my first binder and i'm really excited about it!!! thank you for uploading!!
the 84 year old saying my wife ♥️♥️♥️♥️🥲🥲 even having seeing it already on OT that still almost made me cry 💓
No joke, in the run up to the most recent local election, two Tories were going door to door in my street. They saw our pride flag bunting in the window and didn't even knock. I'm not sure whether to be glad to have escaped or very, very worried.
That horseback rider didn't even use the little flagpole holder things I see rodeo queens using. That's some serious upper body strength!
Regarding the penguin one, there's actually a zoo where two gay penguins stole an egg from two lesbian penguins bc they wanted in on it
(Next year the zookeepers gave both pairs eggs)
At 5:57 that woman calling her wife her wife for the first time. I literally cried. So beautiful.
As an asexual aromantic demigirl I totally laughed at the asexuality one because I’ve definitely been told more than once that I just haven’t met the right person yet but the jokes totally on them because as an aromantic person I don’t really care if I ever do 😂😂😂!
Sounds like you’ve got the right attitude. Why wait for “the right person” when the probability of them even _existing_ is so low as to practically be zero? If people you’d find attractive existed, surely you would have met at least one such person by now?
I thought I was prepared for the older woman talking about her wife, as I already saw it in OT's video. NOPE! Still cried like the big softie I am 😭
I always look forward to ur next uploads and I’m never disappointed 😊
Always enjoy your videos!! I loved the eye makeup one… that was so well done, I had seen the woman mentioning her wife for the first time… that got me all teary
So excited to see a new videos out every time you post ❤
I cried too! So proud of her for being Linda's wife!
6:18 I would throw a pie in everyone’s face but handing a flag is a good solution too.
Having a notification from new jammi's videos brightens my day 💕
Had a rather bad experience on the train home yesterday so this is a lovely cheer up thanks jamie !
3:44
Anyone else her ancient enough to be hearing the horse level music from Shinobi 3 in their head? Someone needs to loop that clip of the girl with that song from the game for, like, ten minutes at least.
I looove that clarification of bisexuality! That's really helpful
Ok I cried, I laughed and I am just smiling rn. Can't tell if it's from the crazy amount of hormonal changes in the last month or this video but Jammi my dude you gave me the feels on this rainy Sunday afternoon
first of all, that woman looks quite well for 84 (its been 84 years!!!!) also its so sweet when people finally get to marry their partner :')
The 84-year-old woman ♥️👏🥰🏳️🌈
And the students ... And the Vice-Chancellor for graciously taking the flags. I hope it made the difference 👏🏳️🌈
I love these ones ❤️ had a dysphoria panic attack and this is What i need rn
hope you’re feeling better now
@@marcel-qt9ep yea way better now😊 thank you
@@Iasmin-Nistor 💜💜💜
@@byecatsstacey7467 ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Ohh the "my wife" one made me tear up!! So wonderful! Congrats to that person! 💜
"I'm asexual."
"But... but... do you cuddle?"
The only acceptable question lol
A little context on the graduate pride flag video. That is at Seattle Pacific University, a local college, so it's been on the news a lot. They have admitted to not hiring LGBTQ+ staff. Within the last month a lawsuit has been filed against the school board by staff and students. The school is asking a federal judge to protect its right to hire who they do or do not want to base off their religion. Along with the flags at graduation there have been numerous protests on campus by students, other staff members, and the community.
Gross ... I hate when people use religion as an excuse for their discrimination. >_>
5:35 oh no, that video... Always makes me feel things T.T
The older lady that said "my wife" for the first time actually made me cry, she was so happy
6:05 I have seen this before it is soo sweet that she could finally say it.
3:20 one that isnt on here that i hear somewhat: "lets just wait 30 years and see that you found someone anyway" or "you cant know that yet"
The gayest place in town sounds fun!
4:37 "And Tango Makes Three" is my favorite childrens book. I especially love it bc penguins mate for life, so it has a more human feel and also it's based on a true story ♥️
Hi, literally only here to clear up some mild, but persistent, misinformation, not to decrease your enjoyment of the book, but... "penguins mate for life" is not *entirely* accurate.
You see, there's about 17 different species of penguins. With this, there is also a range of mating behaviours, that vary between species. While some species may well mate for life, there are others, such as the little/blue/fairy penguin (yes all three terms are used for the one species, _Eudyptula minor_), that *do not,* in fact, mate for life.
I've been a Penguin Observation Guide down at my local little penguin colony for a few years now, and as part of that, I've been involved in giving informational talks about little penguins before we watch them come onto land after a day out at sea, as well as answering the occasional question while watching them go about their evening/night land activities. *Many* of our visitors are surprised to learn that the "divorce" rate of little penguins is fairly similar to humans, and that male penguins often also end up raising chick's that are not actually biologically theirs.
@@willowtabby4926 ok I'm glad I learned something, but it's at the expense of my happiness..I didn't think that I'd learn about penguin divorce 😢
Gay birds absolutely do exist. We had a mated pair of male cardinals a few years back
5:10 I saw this on One Topic’s Channel. It was just so beautiful ❤
Nothing beats making it to a Jammidodger video right when it’s uploaded
That 84 year old woman being able and feeling safe enough to say "my wife" is what we are fighting for.
Had a rough day & this was the first thing to make me smile, & the sun happened to come out during the video as well. So now I'm chilling w my plants & my cat & letting myself breathe. Thanks Jamie
Me too.💜💜💜