A Harvard career coach’s “unspoken rules” for getting promoted | Gorick Ng for Big Think+

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  • How do people actually get promoted? According to Harvard career coach Gorick Ng, it’s all about knowing the unspoken rules for success.
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    The workplace isn’t a level playing field for a number of reasons. When you aren’t in a position of privilege, how do you get ahead and score that coveted promotion? According to Harvard career coach Gorick Ng, it’s all about knowing the unspoken rules for success.
    Keeping your head down will only get you so far, Ng believes. What sets the rising stars apart from the stagnant are the relationships they build, the impact they make, and their clear desire to understand their manager’s objectives even when they aren’t made overtly explicit.
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    About Gorick Ng:
    Gorick Ng is the Wall Street Journal Bestselling Author of The Unspoken Rules: Secrets to Starting Your Career Off Right, one of Thinkers50’s top 10 management books. Harvard Business School gifted it to every MBA student to give them an edge in the professional world. A widely-requested speaker across the world’s most recognized institutions from Stanford to IBM, Ng helps employers build an ownership mindset within their teams and empowers educators to improve career readiness among their students.
    Ng is a career adviser at Harvard College, specializing in coaching FGLI (first-generation, low-income) students. He is also on the faculty at UC Berkeley, where he teaches the unspoken rules of career navigation, now available as an online course on his website. He has been featured in The New York Times, TED, CNBC, Financial Times, Fast Company, Fortune, Forbes, and The Today Show. Ng, a first-gen college student, is a graduate of Harvard College and Harvard Business School. Each week, Ng shares career strategies through “Did You Know?,” a newsletter deconstructing the untold paths to success - of people (and things) you know.
    www.gorick.com/unspokenrules
    www.gorick.com/career-strategies

Komentáře • 313

  • @raatrani38
    @raatrani38 Před 8 měsíci +330

    Tangibles this guy seems to be communicating:
    - Bring in as much business as you can
    - Be memorable for your competence
    - Be easy to work with
    - Connect people within and outside the company (i.e. don’t just network; be a builder of networks)
    - Mentor winners (i.e. people who will also bring in business and are seen as competent)
    - Be good at managing up and building consensus around solutions (i.e. make your boss’ job easier to do, especially when you’re encountering bigger problems that require attention from people in charge)

    • @sammynochains3455
      @sammynochains3455 Před 7 měsíci +1

      The last point is gold tbh

    • @luianajoao446
      @luianajoao446 Před 7 měsíci +6

      Really? You caught all that from THIS video?😅

    • @raatrani38
      @raatrani38 Před 7 měsíci

      @@luianajoao446Being a project manager in a matrixed org also helps, lol

    • @raatrani38
      @raatrani38 Před 7 měsíci +2

      Identifying “hidden opportunities to speak up, get invited to a meeting, build a relationship, ask a question” is decent advice with a lot of subtext itself. Ask yourself why it might be important to take advantage of the above… Because these are the building blocks to identifying problems, crafting proposals, assessing the status quo, generating solutions, and bringing in business (a.k.a. laying out next steps and offering to lead follow-up efforts)

    • @fatheryoda
      @fatheryoda Před 7 měsíci +12

      I got more out of this comment that the actual video

  • @typorter-pp6lh
    @typorter-pp6lh Před 8 měsíci +88

    Every single worthwhile job I ever landed was the result of having a positive connection with somebody already working at that company. Sometimes it was somebody I had never met, a friend of a co-worker, who had heard good things about my attitude and work ethic. Most often it was a former co-worker who now worked at the new company and put in a good word for me. I must emphasize this wasn’t “I want to do a favor for a friend.” This was “I want to work with somebody who is good at his job and is a good co-worker.” You never know who in your career will open a door for you in the future.

    • @cliffthecoolcat
      @cliffthecoolcat Před 6 měsíci +1

      I was never able to get a job. The only friend's I ever wanted were women.
      I am more of a product and process guy. I had to build my own business. The companies that I tried to work now ask me all the time to come work for them as I do business to business work for them.
      I would rather be dead than work for someone else.

  • @corujariousa
    @corujariousa Před 8 měsíci +182

    Excellent points raised. I'd like to add that are other complexities like: 1) Each work place is different and general rules would vary in intensity/importance so one needs to recognize and adapt; 2) Some environments can be very toxic, if you do not get accepted from start you'll never get anywhere. Recognizing when to leave is very important for success and even health reasons.

    • @AngelValdovinos
      @AngelValdovinos Před 7 měsíci +1

      Asian dont work harder though

    • @ftakenouchi1464
      @ftakenouchi1464 Před 7 měsíci +2

      So so true, well said!

    • @okcomputer0101
      @okcomputer0101 Před 7 měsíci

      Amen!

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  • @deersakamoto2167
    @deersakamoto2167 Před 8 měsíci +321

    Every career CZcamsrs tell us that switching jobs with an average 15% salary bump is way better than getting a promotion where sometimes the only change is the job title

    • @Trae4k
      @Trae4k Před 8 měsíci +37

      Yeah, but to be fair, the job title change could help prove your company thinks you are at that level when you do move companies.

    • @AlphaOmega333
      @AlphaOmega333 Před 8 měsíci +17

      I’ve never noticed CZcamsrs saying this but I lived through in Silicon Valley. They expectation is two years or less and then a 20% pay bump. And I saw it happen all the time.

    • @fireflower44
      @fireflower44 Před 8 měsíci +7

      Just an extra tidbit and of course your mileage may vary. Job titles are meaningless. Your company may decide to give you a job title that doesn't match the norm for the position. They may make up a title that is so niche if you search for it you won't find anything similar. Depending on a title is pointless and I guarantee any future place you work isn't going to care. They are going to look at your actual tasks and qualifications. I've had interviewed tell me they had never heard of my job but all my skills fit what they needed. So don't put to much weight into what your title is.

    • @manoftomorrow5987
      @manoftomorrow5987 Před 7 měsíci +8

      Which I agree with. Change jobs and get that title and pay raise. A lot of managers do not reward their staff (I try my best to reward my staff for their hard work). I'm middle management and my direct report (senior executives) could raise my pay..but for my career to continue to grow I will have to leave the company to get to that next level (executive status).

    • @mba2ceo
      @mba2ceo Před 2 měsíci

      Correct !!! It is true as a slave - NOT friends and family !!!

  • @willjensen5595
    @willjensen5595 Před 8 měsíci +152

    I understand his point and that in a six minute video, it's hard to convey complexity. But Gorick basically repeated the same thing endlessly in this video. It could've been half as long and just as "impactful."

    • @chinookvalley
      @chinookvalley Před 8 měsíci

      He's an idiot from a corrupt school. Get used to it.

    • @Fubbymaster
      @Fubbymaster Před 8 měsíci +28

      Average big think video. High production value but saying something almost entirely obvious or meaningless

    • @edgar_nistor
      @edgar_nistor Před 8 měsíci +15

      it looked like a commercial for his book

    • @michaelharris5281
      @michaelharris5281 Před 8 měsíci +12

      It's an ad for his books

    • @LucienNox
      @LucienNox Před 8 měsíci +4

      I was about to comment the same thing 😅

  • @AvastarBin
    @AvastarBin Před 8 měsíci +153

    Somehow the 6 mins are too long for the amount of information inthis video.
    Basically : understand the motivations for a task given to you and respond to these motivations rather than what's asked in the task. This will show you understand the company's objectives and know how to reach them.

    • @tugrulzure9929
      @tugrulzure9929 Před 8 měsíci +4

      Thank you

    • @kaisa24
      @kaisa24 Před 8 měsíci +7

      I’m like half way through this video that I got randomly recommended cause I watch this channel for space videos thinking it was going to be interesting for a change but instead this mofo is literally saying nothing for half the video.

    • @Pimpjit85
      @Pimpjit85 Před 8 měsíci +3

      If that's what you got from the video, you should probably watch it again.

    • @christianabandabella235
      @christianabandabella235 Před 8 měsíci +1

      @@Pimpjit85yep. Totally true

    • @bc41
      @bc41 Před 13 dny

      agreed. I thought it is written by ChatGPT

  • @paulpease8254
    @paulpease8254 Před 8 měsíci +57

    I love the recognition between insiders and outsiders. Has taken me a long time to figure things out coming from a blue collar family and spending a long time in academia.

  • @undefinedvariable8085
    @undefinedvariable8085 Před 8 měsíci +31

    In addition to being "heard" and "seen" you've got to be willing to take risks and the responsibilities that come along with that. Own a problem and drive a solution. But also be aware that not all problems are meaningful and worth solving, be careful not to fall into these traps because your time is precious.

  • @dingomatic
    @dingomatic Před 8 měsíci +43

    And then there's the wildcard of your manager. Sometimes, you can play all of your cards right but have a lackluster manager that gets in your way.

    • @chemquests
      @chemquests Před 5 měsíci +2

      That’s where having a network beyond your division is important. A mentor in the company, running teams that impact multiple areas, etc makes your impact felt beyond your boss. I try to maximize the impact so it’s not just up to them but I have more advocates among the leaders (a sponsor on some level).

  • @Chilos49
    @Chilos49 Před 8 měsíci +51

    I literally got nothing out of this video. A true corp talk! Bravo 👏🏼

    • @hwago123
      @hwago123 Před 7 měsíci +4

      Basically saying relationship and politics in the office is what helps you get ahead

    • @Nature-ep5cu
      @Nature-ep5cu Před 2 měsíci +1

      Same, took too long to drop major points just kept talking instead of hitting the points quickly

    • @bc41
      @bc41 Před 13 dny

      same thought. probably good for only fresh graduates

    • @bc41
      @bc41 Před 13 dny +1

      who you know > what you know

  • @AmsterdamEats
    @AmsterdamEats Před 8 měsíci +5

    in order of importance: luck > network/connections > interview skills/selling yourself > experience > degree
    luck and connections get you an interview, selling yourself gets you the job, having the experience to do said job makes sure you don't get fired after x months.

    • @MD-gk4uh
      @MD-gk4uh Před 7 měsíci

      Sure, now go get hired for a job where you don’t have formal degree in and see how that goes for you. 😂

  • @arboghast8505
    @arboghast8505 Před 8 měsíci +55

    If your workspace overly emphasizes relationships, and you find yourself being an "outsider", struggling to join a "bro club" or an "inner cycle", do yourself a favour and just quit, it's a toxic working environment.

    • @jaadtoly23
      @jaadtoly23 Před 8 měsíci +3

      great comment. If your company is more about relationships than skills, try to quit asap. Don't complain, it won't change. Move on! I am trying to do that at the moment...

    • @JasonSheniswinning
      @JasonSheniswinning Před 8 měsíci +1

      This dynamic is going to be true in some way at every work environment. Learning to adapt to the system you’re in (and find the right place to thrive) is key.

  • @Adam-ui3yn
    @Adam-ui3yn Před 7 měsíci +4

    Essentially to get ahead in a system compromised of humans, don't make the mistake of valuing technical skill over charisma. Other humans are responsible for your promotion so you must appeal to their needs, biases, and attention.
    Thats why whole marketing departments exist. If we only cared about the technical objective properties of products they would sell themselves. It's akin to how we can appreciate a musical piece that's very technical and complex but at the end of the day we give most our attention to songs with simple catchy melodies.

  • @Twiggithy
    @Twiggithy Před 8 měsíci +75

    Maybe at the highest, 1% levels, but for the rest of us, the only way to get "promoted" is to find a better paying company than where you are currently. You can work hard and play the corporate social game, but the best you'll get is more work and a "I don't know what we'd do without you." Let them figure that out after you're hired at a higher paying company.

    • @IIcultivatorII
      @IIcultivatorII Před 8 měsíci

      Just kiss ur bosses ass

    • @brianadlich4406
      @brianadlich4406 Před 8 měsíci

      Idk why anyone listens to these corporate blowhards. Career counselors self help gurus. It’s all bullshit.

    • @faithhouse6111
      @faithhouse6111 Před 8 měsíci +1

      Amen.

    • @moart87
      @moart87 Před 6 měsíci

      Spoken like a true outsider 🥲

  • @Trae4k
    @Trae4k Před 8 měsíci +33

    Its the same principle of it's not what you know; It's who you know. Make friends with people and doors will open to you because of your reputation

    • @jaysun4069
      @jaysun4069 Před 8 měsíci +2

      This is where being autistic is a HUGE disadvantage. Making friends with people in that way is difficult to say the least. I've relied on skill alone for pretty much my entire career. And it sucks seeing people with half the skill get jobs just because they are friends with the right people

    • @krisxaero
      @krisxaero Před 8 měsíci

      That's what some of these folks want. If you're on a spectrum, you're SOL.

  • @parkmannate4154
    @parkmannate4154 Před 8 měsíci +25

    As someone with bad social anxiety (to the point where its medicated) I long ago learned it would not matter how hard I worked or how good a job I did or even how much money I made the company, I would never advance because I can't make friends and socially interact effectively.
    This is a problem in the economy.

    • @PS987654321PS
      @PS987654321PS Před 8 měsíci +4

      Social anxiety is a mental illness, often derived from complex PTSD, childhood issues. You need to address these issues so that you can work effectively with others.

    • @samar7362
      @samar7362 Před 8 měsíci

      I am too awkward when it comes to making friends..I just can't...bad case of social anxiety

    • @PS987654321PS
      @PS987654321PS Před 8 měsíci

      Then see a therapist. And in the meantime, please don't make life more unpleasant for everyone else.@@samar7362

    • @adsffdaaf4170
      @adsffdaaf4170 Před 8 měsíci

      learn to make enemies, thats what you are anxious about

    • @PS987654321PS
      @PS987654321PS Před 8 měsíci

      @@adsffdaaf4170 bad advice.

  • @becomingabetterhuman.2994
    @becomingabetterhuman.2994 Před 8 měsíci +9

    This is the same with building wealth "or what to do with the money you earn". I had to teach myself at age 36. I now I gide my younger brother. He is Miles past me when I was his age. I just taught him how to negotiate a wage "it worked" he got better pay and a new job. I look back and think my parents squandered their time here

  • @julianalexanderfranco1483
    @julianalexanderfranco1483 Před 8 měsíci +8

    An emotional connection is so so crucial in all aspects of our lives. Ofc this should include work.

  • @JacksOLantern
    @JacksOLantern Před 8 měsíci +59

    That was so many words for such little advice

    • @4p4k
      @4p4k Před 8 měsíci +7

      He must be an MBA. That’s how all of them talk

    • @thesatsui
      @thesatsui Před 8 měsíci +8

      It's a marketing ploy to buy his book. That's it. Keep the advice as vague as possible so the audience is interested enough to learn more. Every motivational speaker does this shit.

    • @MD-gk4uh
      @MD-gk4uh Před 7 měsíci

      Wait! There is an actual advice somewhere in there? 😲
      Where is it?🧐 Oh wait, this must be dry British humor I always heard about😂

    • @Nature-ep5cu
      @Nature-ep5cu Před 2 měsíci

      My thoughts exactly, he loves the sound of his voice I guess🙄😁

    • @hdsvideo
      @hdsvideo Před 11 dny

      Thats bigthink for you

  • @80lilala
    @80lilala Před 4 měsíci +7

    You spend the entire video waiting for him to get to the point...

    • @matthewmagda4971
      @matthewmagda4971 Před 14 dny +1

      Exactly. This was word salad with no real elaboration.

    • @Calle5ta
      @Calle5ta Před 11 dny +1

      It's just a sales pitch for his book... Dislike!

  • @JakeSmith-jy1kx
    @JakeSmith-jy1kx Před 7 měsíci +7

    When I’ve gotten promotions, it’s been at times when I’ve flipped from doing my assigned tasks at an acceptable level to stepping back, looking at the situation, and then taking ownership of the business. That means I start doing my assigned work better and faster, with more care, and then I also find the unassigned areas that are lacking and take those on as well. If you can show that you can be a project manager by taking the initiative to do that planning while doing your regular work, your boss will notice. If you schedule meetings that matter and run them well, it will get noticed. If your data analysis goes beyond and actually presents itself, it will get noticed. It’s not complicated even if it is hard.

    • @MD-gk4uh
      @MD-gk4uh Před 7 měsíci

      🤣
      Come back down in mud where most of us work and see how easy is to do that.
      “Scheduling meetings” …da-fak?!
      You have to first get promoted to the position where you have the authority to schedule anything at all much less “meetings” 🤦
      It’s like saying: living on the interest money from your investments is easy, you just take 10 million dollars and….. da-fak?!
      You are already in a position where you CAN advance from and a boss who is not gate keeping. When people complain about not being promoted it’s because they are NOT being rewarded for all the hard work they ARE ALREADY DOING you numb-nut.

  • @bhiei
    @bhiei Před 8 měsíci +6

    “Nearly a million men in the army, and it all came down to who liked who, pigeon holding starts on day one” Jack Reacher

    • @MD-gk4uh
      @MD-gk4uh Před 7 měsíci

      Explain please. Non English speaker.

    • @bhiei
      @bhiei Před 7 měsíci

      @@MD-gk4uh meaning, the army had many men. All starting in the same way, but someone identifies certain soldiers as being suited for better positions, training, etc and some aren’t. It starts on day one.

    • @MD-gk4uh
      @MD-gk4uh Před 7 měsíci

      @@bhiei I see. Pigeon being symbolic for the young/inexperienced solders.
      Though I don’t think it works that way in RL but I get the sentiment.

  • @harrietschack4873
    @harrietschack4873 Před 6 měsíci +9

    There are a few general rules such as: Networking, don't be irreplaceable in your current position, sign up for the important tasks and leave the organization of birthday parties to others. You have to sell your work, so learn storytelling. The advancement opportunities for specialists are limited, so decide consciously whether you want to become a specialist or a generalist.

    • @willv88
      @willv88 Před 5 měsíci +2

      The organization of birthday parties can actually be an opportunity to network. It's just as important to learn how to juggle what you're given with a new angle as opposed to spending all your time finding new opportunities. There's a balance here.

    • @beethao9380
      @beethao9380 Před měsícem

      simply no.

  • @0AriesFire0
    @0AriesFire0 Před 8 měsíci +6

    crazy you just posted this, in the process of the corporate recruiting process for the first time and the insider/outsider thing truly dawned on me recently

  • @Munchausenification
    @Munchausenification Před 8 měsíci +32

    There are for sure some things to learn here, but I think he is missing another "rule". In workplaces ive been in it was always the people who worked the slowest who got promoted, why? Well it means they make less mistakes and always higher on energy so it seems like he/she should be able to take on more responsibility.

  • @mikewalker4855
    @mikewalker4855 Před 8 měsíci +41

    It’s not obvious to me that there’s any actionable advice here, or am I missing it?

    • @tilllindemann7945
      @tilllindemann7945 Před 8 měsíci +6

      buy the book 😂

    • @thesatsui
      @thesatsui Před 8 měsíci +6

      It's a sales pitch. He wants you to buy his book.
      Since you asked: learn to network with people in your company, especially with those that work where you want to be. Get a mentor to help coach you, and also vouch for you.

    • @rock801
      @rock801 Před 7 měsíci

      Video is garbage, you sre right.
      The dude is telling something that means anything, thus says nothing.
      Unspoken rules are the next sales pitch myth like the hidden job market......something you can only target when you habe payed some phony dude too much money.
      Just because you or someone else got a job through some arbitrard connection does not mean such jobs are pooled somewhere for those few who can network their way into anyones circle of friends.
      Companies are often stages whereyoucan see the middle ages in action. Bosses try to get their favourite and loyal people a bonus. If you do not habe that boss youRe screwed.

  • @chibiusa
    @chibiusa Před 8 měsíci +28

    Thanks for reminding us that minorities are outsiders, which is why we rarely get promoted. People who get promoted rarely ever have the skills to show for it. The middle managers and even the execs I've worked with lacked adequate communication skills to communicate clearly and directly with the people working under them, and yet, the company continued to run and succeed because of the intelligent, hard-working people at the bottom of the totem pole who are treated like trash.

    • @IIcultivatorII
      @IIcultivatorII Před 8 měsíci

      They will actually hire minorities just to fill a spot instead of a non minority

  • @thanks600
    @thanks600 Před 8 měsíci +3

    Oho, a variation of 5W+H framework.
    For promotion the easiest way is built reputation/visibility/optics & think a way to unseat your supervisor (e.g. the person get a promotion and leaving empty position).
    For perspective in navigating career, book “The McKinsey Way” might shed a little light. Career Mentors & Career Sponsors part might be important.

  • @GadgetsGearCoffee
    @GadgetsGearCoffee Před 8 měsíci +3

    Honestly, it's usually putting in more work, overtime and going above and beyond.

  • @rodsalvador3608
    @rodsalvador3608 Před 8 měsíci +8

    Yeah, we know this. It's not what you know. It's who you know, and who likes you.

  • @karllaur3866
    @karllaur3866 Před 8 měsíci +30

    Unspoken rule - be extroverted

    • @PS987654321PS
      @PS987654321PS Před 8 měsíci +1

      No. But definitely don't be a weirdo introvert.

    • @chibiusa
      @chibiusa Před 8 měsíci +6

      No, the unspoken rule is to spend a lot of time sucking up to higher ups instead of working hard.

  • @nobody983
    @nobody983 Před 8 měsíci +36

    This is a Narcissist Manual. The 'unspoken rules' are just a fancy rebranding of the term, 'office politics'. The "insiders" are the Narcissists who do gatekeeping and set the toxic environment. You can easily follow these rules if you are already a Narcissist. In the end you would either become a Narcissist yourself or you would end up getting some kind of mental disorder (e.g., PTSD, cPTSD). Toxicity being taught on media, what a great time to be alive!

    • @helloes6236
      @helloes6236 Před 8 měsíci +4

      as a person working in a corporate for a few years now, this is very accurate

    • @spectershore4482
      @spectershore4482 Před 3 měsíci

      Where is the toxicity here ? I'm new in a senior position in the tech sector

  • @ManifestMastery433
    @ManifestMastery433 Před měsícem

    4:24 Never forget this important thing, only when you have influence can you create change

  • @Tech875O
    @Tech875O Před 8 měsíci +7

    This video made unbelievable sense to something that I've been frustrated with for a very long time.
    I came from the underprivileged class and have spent the majority of my life working hard and assuming that would be enough to get ahead, but as Mr Ng points out, that's simply not enough.
    There's a hidden language that needs to be understood in order to advance ones career, and this video does an amazing job at explaining that.

    • @manoftomorrow5987
      @manoftomorrow5987 Před 7 měsíci

      Your race or background has nothing with it. Smfh. Everything is about race these days. You work hard but maybe not smart enough...if a task or your job is "always hard" you're not taking critical thinking enough (im talking about desk jobs). Find ways to improve the process and make suggestions to your manager...if its a repeat task and you find it hard, once completed review the steps in the process and find ways to simplify it.

    • @Tech875O
      @Tech875O Před 7 měsíci +2

      @manoftomorrow5987 I didn't even bring up race in my comment, so not sure what you're getting at.

  • @ddpwe5269
    @ddpwe5269 Před 8 měsíci +7

    LOL the captions seem like they're from an entirely different video.

    • @Anonymoose66G
      @Anonymoose66G Před 8 měsíci +2

      Just checked that because of your comment 😂.

  • @johnosam4681
    @johnosam4681 Před 7 měsíci +7

    This is true, im also getting promotion that even i didnt know why😅 but i realize is about being scene, taking other tasks you are passionate about outside your original role, and coomunicate it to your manager. Be humble as well.

    • @beethao9380
      @beethao9380 Před měsícem

      simply no. you're privileged. you have horrible grammar.

  • @andrewcayer3099
    @andrewcayer3099 Před 8 měsíci +3

    This is the same story we've had since HighSchool.
    If you do not stand out, you will be cast aside, abondoned, forgotten, never-used, never supported.
    Even if you do your work.
    And that's because the other suck ups are setting the standards for The Dream Of "The Boss".
    Try to sell it like advice, all you're saying is: cbe friendly and stay in the spot of attention."

  • @nikhilc6580
    @nikhilc6580 Před 8 měsíci +3

    Please put the correct subtitle. Looks like the current subtitle is not related to this video.

  • @jimmynoriega2671
    @jimmynoriega2671 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Consider watching this video at 2x speed. The speaker provides one vague piece of advice and extends it to cover a full six minutes. I wonder what reading his book would be like. It looks like ChatGPT will eventually replace the need for guru-like roles like this one. When you ask it, "What are the hidden rules of getting promoted?" you receive concise and actionable points in just a few paragraphs.

  • @YashSharma-zv8nu
    @YashSharma-zv8nu Před 6 měsíci +1

    Moral of the story - once a loser always a loser.
    How can one who's not got promoted even once can fulfill the hidden expectations of his/her seniors?
    Well, this video is a good ad for his book!

    • @beethao9380
      @beethao9380 Před měsícem

      yep. Once again, nothing important offered here. Ass kissing and nepotism.

  • @Rooted_Locs
    @Rooted_Locs Před 8 měsíci +4

    Woah, I went to high school with Gorick, he was our valedictorian.

  • @jubyjoseph6332
    @jubyjoseph6332 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Gorick got it right - Don't be useful, be impactful.

  • @genghisrex
    @genghisrex Před 8 měsíci +11

    I can relate to this. I was a case manager for a nonprofit clinic. I decided to do more what my job description required for me in order to get noticed for better internal jobs. This was for nothing because they hired other people not related to the job; they were connected to an insider, I was not connected to the top brass.

  • @Zhiliang826
    @Zhiliang826 Před 4 měsíci

    There is another book by richard Templar the rules of work. That was eye opening, checking out this one as well

  • @ToonInvader
    @ToonInvader Před 8 měsíci +8

    Happy to see that people dont take that massive BS seriously.

  • @alessandrocasasso7299
    @alessandrocasasso7299 Před 4 měsíci +2

    I always thought that it's important to understand the big picture. It's something many people don't care about, saying "I do what I'm asked to do, period". Always look for the big picture, always focus on the need you satisfy with that task, and discuss how to do it the best way.

  • @mkanik6097
    @mkanik6097 Před 8 měsíci +3

    He is describing passive-aggressive communication, which is very toxic. The only reason I would read his book is to avoid such things.

  • @GaryofNivea
    @GaryofNivea Před 21 dnem

    The video is as useful as you'd expect anything lately associated with "Harvard" to be.

  • @andrewgraziani4331
    @andrewgraziani4331 Před 8 měsíci +13

    Yah unwritten rules.
    Back in the day we called it something else, brown nosing and backstabbing.
    Defect blame, take credit for others work, never pass up a chance to make a co-worker look bad, show off when the boss is around.
    There's basically two people on any given work sight those who get the job done and those who get promoted.
    I'm not naive enough to not see this as the facts of life, but I do find it especially galling to see a best seller promoting this behavior.

    • @MD-gk4uh
      @MD-gk4uh Před 7 měsíci

      THIS! 100 times THIS!
      Having lived in 3 countries across 2 continents and raised to “work hard, be humble and don’t ask for reward” I watched people doing all of the above in more or less visible manner until one person did it in such an obvious way that I thought there is no way higher ups would stop laughing much less promote him. Well, let’s just say I remember the time exactly when all my upbringing lessons came crashing down like a cartoon character three feet of the ledge still trying to peddle his feet.
      Being the outsider to the country itself and everything in it much less work environment and not having anyone to mentor me at all, I felt defeated beyond beliefs. Till than I still believed in capitalism and American dream. It died that day I finally couldn’t lie to myself any longer. All I ever got for my good work that everyone praised me for was more work, often left behind by those who got promoted while doing half what I did.
      It’s too late to change for me but I will pass those lessons to others, every chance I get.

    • @andrewgraziani4331
      @andrewgraziani4331 Před 7 měsíci

      @@MD-gk4uh Yah it's a bitter pill to swallow.

  • @JoboVentures
    @JoboVentures Před 8 měsíci +7

    The "useful" vs. "impactful" distinction hit home, thanks Gorick. And congrats on all the success with 'Unspoken Rules'!

  • @a.pourihosseini
    @a.pourihosseini Před 8 měsíci +2

    Oh, why just get to the main point when you can repeat "the hook" for why your message is important over and over again until minute 5 of a 6 minute video, and then just give a brief list of bullet points that barely scratch the surface :/

  • @lukepa151
    @lukepa151 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Is this supposed to be a good thing? It just sounds like the people who get promoted are just the social people who have like interests as the boss. It’s as if being the best at your job is a small factor in a promotion. I’m I wrong?

  • @360.Tapestry
    @360.Tapestry Před 8 měsíci

    when the student is ready, the teacher will appear
    aka if you don't get it, you not ready, cuz

  • @khainaga
    @khainaga Před 7 měsíci

    If you didn't gain any understanding from the video, you're not only an outsider, you're unaware that you are.

  • @TheFinalRoundPod
    @TheFinalRoundPod Před 7 měsíci

    Great video - I read Gorick's book also - awesome insight!

  • @felipeReisfelipereis
    @felipeReisfelipereis Před 8 měsíci +2

    The subtitles are wrong

  • @dbwhab4150
    @dbwhab4150 Před 8 měsíci +15

    So basically: do not be neurodivergent, be extroverted, have friends and in a company you are getting into... Sure lmao

  • @cusodha1
    @cusodha1 Před 8 měsíci

    in short give your 50% extra. That includes to every aspect of the company and the boss.

  • @MachusPichusAmigo
    @MachusPichusAmigo Před 5 měsíci +1

    Aka how to become one of those fake work only meetings coworkers

  • @selocan469
    @selocan469 Před měsícem

    Oh boy, Nonsense. Whole promotion processed can be summarized to "PR and market yourself smartly (while doing the formal work as least as possible of course but PR it to be overperformed as well)". Do not give me the " do not miss the opportunities BS". If you do not constantly lobby, opportunities are already unavailable to you, and if you do constantly lobby, you will only clash with other lobbyers for the promotion but winner is generally decided by your lobby history/performance relative to your competitors beforehand which is the case for most low to mid manager positions. Main winning point of a lobby is simple... who win the hearth of the person who have the say for who is promoted to the target position. Other cases are just exception, since the person who have say is an exception himself/herself.

  • @myildizhan
    @myildizhan Před 8 měsíci +1

    Your subtitles are different than the speach. Please correct them.

  • @kkikkirikki
    @kkikkirikki Před 8 měsíci

    The most important first step: Get your mental health checked first, perhaps there are some issues why you dont feel motivated/lack of energy/cant follow through...

  • @mattjanachek
    @mattjanachek Před 2 měsíci

    TLDR: Get promoted by asking WHAT WHY WHEN for tasks that come your way. I want my minutes back.

  • @aemser7080
    @aemser7080 Před 13 dny

    Wh questions, that's all? I don't think it's just that. You are supposed to understand the hidden rules without anyone explicitly telling you, within their agreeable time span. Understanding the bigger picture comes at a cost of having others involved in your enlightenment, doing trial and error that the company cannot afford, and dealing with blames and conflicts. Something should have been included in the video about this.

  • @warrenchristianvision2314
    @warrenchristianvision2314 Před 7 měsíci

    thank you for this ad for chatgpt

  • @samuraijack1371
    @samuraijack1371 Před 7 měsíci

    The idea that your life should revolve around your work and you have follow and master these “spoken” and “unspoken” rules so that you move up and have a “full filling “ career is just bogus!! It’s a fundamentally flawed concept that you fill find reward and satisfaction in your work and that more important work you get more fulfillment you will see.
    Work is just work. It’s just a part of life. Do your best but happiness/satisfaction doesn’t come from the reward but from the effort. It’s always the effort that’s the goal not reward. This is fundamentally different from chasing “promotion “ in the end only the business owner/investor wins and you have your life and vitality sucked out of you

  • @yoursandeep
    @yoursandeep Před 4 měsíci

    didn't here the rules atall here :) Are they unspoken as stated ?

  • @onsarpong575
    @onsarpong575 Před 6 měsíci

    And I noticed that when he started talking about “other”, the image was the African descent woman 😂😂😂.
    Also, don’t worry about “getting ahead”. No need. Look at our world. Enjoy your life.

  • @ekingsley7330
    @ekingsley7330 Před 7 měsíci

    These are tangible tips base on a person having a fair playground and favouritism , halo effects, gender bias is at absolute minimum. Choose your team wisely, who you work with means a LOT ! On top of that , apply some rules of how you carry out the work.

  • @MGW2610
    @MGW2610 Před 8 měsíci +3

    If the hidden expectation is to please the boss, then is it worth doing it?

    • @MD-gk4uh
      @MD-gk4uh Před 7 měsíci

      That depends on the boss and her expectation.
      If she is super HOT and pleasuring her please her, it definitely worth it 😆

    • @JakeSmith-jy1kx
      @JakeSmith-jy1kx Před 7 měsíci

      Yes! Bosses generally have better perspective on what the company needs.

  • @gargigingerly
    @gargigingerly Před 8 měsíci +8

    This could have been a smaller video…

    • @miriamschiro8585
      @miriamschiro8585 Před 8 měsíci

      Hmmm is that a sarcastic question lol

    • @frodinhoTSN
      @frodinhoTSN Před 8 měsíci

      Education and the art of teaching isn't and shouldn't be straightforward, there are some subjects that seem simple and quick, but are easily forgotten for that very same reason.
      I agree and understand that what has been said in the video could have been said in a few less minutes, but those "extra" minutes are for ensuring, even if just a little, that what has been said stays for more people!
      At least that's my take on it.

    • @greorbowlfinder7078
      @greorbowlfinder7078 Před 8 měsíci

      Harvard graduates make everything bigger than it is.

    • @kaitlync.2628
      @kaitlync.2628 Před měsícem

      Otter pic twins!

  • @ShinjukuBoy
    @ShinjukuBoy Před 7 měsíci +1

    In other words, become a likeable person and play ball 😂

  • @gavinsenior4795
    @gavinsenior4795 Před 7 měsíci

    It's not what you know but rather who you blow

  • @666oddess
    @666oddess Před 7 měsíci

    He looks like the lady from that one episode of extreme cheapskates

  • @c_sid
    @c_sid Před 8 měsíci

    What do you do if these days 90% of the management is morally and ethically compromised?

  • @williamleiva9147
    @williamleiva9147 Před 8 měsíci

    Don’t work for big companies, take your own path

  • @miriamschiro8585
    @miriamschiro8585 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Don’t thrive, contribute. 👍🏼

  • @charlescowan6121
    @charlescowan6121 Před 8 měsíci +2

    And what is your success rate, Mr Ng? Of the clients you have helped, how many achieved their goals?

  • @Mossblac
    @Mossblac Před 8 měsíci +26

    the lesson is : perpetuate the unspoken hierarchy. Maintain the status quo. This is how you keep minorities and people with disabilities from succeeding in life. this is genuinely horrible.

    • @gadohimself
      @gadohimself Před 8 měsíci +1

      Please explain?

    • @GrantNelson1
      @GrantNelson1 Před 8 měsíci +10

      "Nepotism (noun) The practice among those with power or influence of favoring relatives, friends, or associates, especially by giving them jobs." Right? This guy isn't wrong and is saying what has happened at every place I've worked, promotions go to friends of the managers. And that's why the people at the top of a lot of companies aren't team players (they throw their peers under a bus), they aren't skilled or talented, they just know how to be friends with the boss and the correct race, sexuality, religion, etc. for that boss. This why so many companies start out strong and then collapse as the very talented people who helped disrupt the market, revolutionized the product, and are great at their job but also happen to be shy, peer advocates, or just a little weird quit for never being recognized. Instead of teaching how nepotism works, I wish people would teach managers how to identify and keep talented diligent people to help build a better company.

  • @juliousceaser
    @juliousceaser Před 8 měsíci

    Conquest

  • @dim._.
    @dim._. Před 8 měsíci +1

    Big Think, pls turn auto-subtitels ON in your Videos

  • @yanni5496
    @yanni5496 Před 8 měsíci +1

    In short, office politics.

  • @erroreliminator2.076
    @erroreliminator2.076 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Just be your own boss, forget about working for corporations, especially large corporations.

  • @miriamschiro8585
    @miriamschiro8585 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Hidden expectations: There are rules in one’s work place your employer never spoken to you but expect from you.
    Learning what that may be can help you advance to a higher level at your job.

  • @Zunayo
    @Zunayo Před 8 měsíci +5

    Low content video imo :)

  • @dramastudiobordeaux8058
    @dramastudiobordeaux8058 Před 8 měsíci +6

    A Harvard Career Coach's advice for getting promoted: Go to Harvard.

  • @yelbuck
    @yelbuck Před 8 měsíci +7

    I can see why he's in academia, a great big word salad to say something very basic, generalised and all while time wasting. Oh well

  • @IIcultivatorII
    @IIcultivatorII Před 8 měsíci +1

    It’s all about who you blow

  • @mtbrick
    @mtbrick Před 7 měsíci

    Love this!

  • @88Umy
    @88Umy Před 12 dny

    Wait, what?

  • @MD-gk4uh
    @MD-gk4uh Před 7 měsíci +1

    In my country, we call this “secret language”: Suck, Blow, Spread then Swallow.
    I didn’t know that in America it was done by men too 😂

  • @izzy706
    @izzy706 Před 8 měsíci

    I love this video.

  • @purnatikaentertentsalyan9223

    Nice

  • @cthemaverick
    @cthemaverick Před 6 měsíci +1

    Honestly i really wish i would have had this videos 8 months ago when i got laid off from my high profile job in entertainment. This is exactly the thing i was dealing with.

    • @beethao9380
      @beethao9380 Před měsícem

      simply no. yep. Once again, nothing important offered here. Ass kissing and nepotism. You will NEVER get promoted if they don't like you or don't want you promoted. If they want you to be their slave you will NEVER get promoted. Keep moving on until someone appreciates what you bring to the table.

  • @marvymillz
    @marvymillz Před 7 měsíci

    🤔

  • @gabs5552
    @gabs5552 Před 8 měsíci +5

    This looks, sounds, tastes and smells like some big bs, imagine i get 40 task per day, i can't ask every single time what is the purpose of all of them, and also most of the time no one gives a flying f what your opinions are, because managment is going to do it their way anyway.

  • @c46236
    @c46236 Před 8 měsíci

    Corruption and plain abuse resulted from metal deficiencies like personality disorders is sky high in corporations.
    And unfortunately trying to justify the reasons of a mad organization is a full time job with no result. If it feels bad or wrong trust me it is.

  • @quartytypo
    @quartytypo Před 8 měsíci +1

    Cut the boss's lawn on Saturday.

  • @Esbbbb
    @Esbbbb Před 8 měsíci +1

    tl;dr networking

  • @vannibombonato4180
    @vannibombonato4180 Před 6 měsíci

    All correct. It’s called office politics.