What Is Biblical Submission in Marriage? | Episode 85
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- In Ephesians 5:22, Paul wrote, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” He repeated this command in Colossians 3:18 when he said, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.” In Titus 2:5, he told his ministerial protégé that he should teach younger women to be “obedient to their own husbands.”
Some critics say these verses are proof that Paul was sexist, while others use the apostle's words as cover for abusive behavior. Dr. David K. Bernard explains why both responses are a misrepresentation of the principle Paul was advocating.
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Fantastic teaching Bishop!! If marriages lived out these principles the world would be a much better place to live in and Jesus would be glorified! 👍🏾💕🔥😇
I about lost my family for flaking in my role as a protector, provider, Husband and Father in 2020. No more excuses and whatever it takes. Thanks be to God for the Victory in Jesus to fulfill His Word.
I hope you have the opportunity to share this experience with others who need to hear b
Would love to hear an episode about divorce.
Dr. David K. Bernard, I would love if you would do a podcast on wedding rings from the perspective of the Bible and apostolic church. There’s always some holiness saints who do and don’t wear wedding rings. I would love to know and learn more about this subject.
Hi there! He addressed it in the video about jewelry.
Thank You! Well presented. I'm fairly certain the late Charles Grisham (known for marriage seminars) would agree. I can give you (or him) no higher of a compliment.
Thank you so much! I agree with Brother Bernard! Such a great man of God and one of the best explainers ever! God bless!! 🙏🏻
Amen, brother! Submission is voluntary, something that is freely given. If a wife is under her husband's authority by force, then she hasn't really submitted, but has rather been subdued, and the bible uses the word "submit". Even the fact wives are being instructed to submit in and of itself indicates that the choice to not submit exists.
PRAISE GOD THANK YOU JESUS FOR THE WISDOM OF GOD.I APPRECIATE SOUND DOCTRINE IN THIS HOUR. THANK YOU SO MUCH PASTOR BERNARD
When God says "What God has joined together let not man separate", He means it. Period!
Thank you Sir, for the moral Christian values…
Thank you for this clarity ❤❤❤
Excellent Teachings Sir
Our world is changing faster than we can seriously catch up with. God help us. You're doing a good job but some of these issues are deeper than the best you can expose, you're working very hard thank you very much.
Praise god for this truth
Thanks Bishop for this massage
Great teaching Sir. Pastor Bernard, TGBTG
I liked the video because the subject is a must
So beautiful said! Thank you !
Praise God our Saviour Jesus Christ the True God and Eternal life 1John 5:20 Hallelujah Glory to God Almighty great teaching God blessed you'll brethren's keep on teaching the word of the Lord Jesus Christ
This is very good ! Thank you
Blessings God minister, for your explanation.
Excellent teaching
Loved this discussion. Very well said 👏🏽
Thank you! ❤
Thank you!
I agree with this teaching 100%.
Godbless u always to your work.
Amen I agree man or husband has the responsibility for his own house hold
That's why wives be careful how much you expect from your husband, taking care of your relatives, especially with some cultures today.
Boundaries should also be established with the husband's siblings. The husband will sometimes go to any length for them, but not for his wife. They'd come to our homes as if they own the house. The husband will be demeaning his wife, not protecting her.
This was excellent information.
Please more clarification of issues about women:
-States of dress and modest external appearance and feminine attitude and behavior
-Literal veil or not on the woman over her long hair when praying or prophesying
-Dedication to the home or being able to be professional workers outside the care of the house and raising their children
-Female subjection to her husband, and in the church
-Silence or not feminine in the church
-Preaching or not feminine in the church
-Address of worship or non-feminine in the church
-Woman service or not in the church -Pastorship and leadership or not by women
-Diaconate or not female
-Legacy of contraceptive methods and assisted sterilization, birth control in the christian women
-Divorce and remarriage
-Feminism
Relatedly the basic human relationship, the relationship between laity and leadership, as well as the human relationship with God is to be a mutually submissive relationship.
Thank you for the teaching. Sharing with my brethrens and pastors of Congregations.
God said choose you this day how you are going to serve.
In other word his"sidekick"&he,her mentor,someone to light her way.a sighted guide in the dark.
Mark 12:28-32, John 17:3, John 20:17, Rom 15:6, Rom 16:27, I Cor 8:6, II Cor 11:31, I Tim 2:5, Rev 3:2, Rev 3:12, and many more. Jesus and the Apostles worshiped God, the Father (Yahweh).
Couldn't agree more! Pastors should have a marriage retreat once in a while and this subject must be taught.
God bless you more Rev. Bernard! I'm so blessed how God God has used you.
These marriages need to start with the whole family in a solid church. Not going to church is sure way to family problems.if you don't have a upc church in your area then start one . Find something for your hands to do and do it with all your might.
❤GOD BLESS! PRAY FOR UKRAINE!
I fought off coyotes on my own, with the help of my two dogs. Didn't even think of calling my husband until I took care of business
The roots of a happy home/marriage is to find a correct partner , even with the slight peck of black will tarnish your family life, " love has no obligation " as the saying goes "love is blind " sorry to say "your eyes are wide open and seeing what your are getting into" so be wise and look for these virtues if always i mean always on the same page, "maybe" is never the correct word th hear, who is alway there for you . Is my belief. And "I believe" ❤❤❤
Submit as in ask few questions in response and just agree with each other.
How do I know if I’m fasting correctly? What’s the right way to begin and to end a fast in a way that pleases the Lord? How do I know if the Lord is acknowledging the fast or if I’m just going hungry?
We should always couple fasting--with prayer and Bible reading too. I know of people who's mind is nearly always on food while fasting. Some of this is normal, but within reason. God will always bless us when we fast for a closer walk with Him. You can't go wrong here.
Hi there, please read Isaiah 58 from the top.
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I wonder if Sapphira was dutifully obeying Ananias' sole decision, disagreeing with him, or if she was all in for lying?
These verses have been verses I’ve wrestled with and grappled with for a few years now. My problem worh these veredas are
1) men are not God so why do some women expect so much from them?
2) aren’t wr all supposed to be Christ like and Godly not just men?
3) the give up his life for her veres implies ‘death do us part’ / ‘love you until I die’ is only coming from the man and that the woman doesn’t have to live the man until the end of her life?
3) how far does this go with regards to decisions and having an opinion? Eg husband “I’d like four children” but wife “I only want two” do you then have to have four children because it’s want the husband wants?
4) where does the protection part form a man come from biblically, this doesn’t seem to be in the scriptures.
5) why can’t a woman look after herself and then help her husband why does she need to help or see to her husband ALL the time. ??
Love this podcast! ❤Can you talk about celebrating christmas?
Dr. Bernard addressed this question in a previous episode. You can watch it at czcams.com/video/qrnaEOch3Ss/video.html. (Podcast Production Team)
Submitting to one another is not the same as the wife submitting to the husband. I don't see a scripture that teaches for a husband to submit to the wife or family but to lead, love and protect. How can you be a good leader by submitting to who you are leading?
The word of God said submit one to another in the fear of God. Ephesians 5:21. David K. Bernard explained it so beautifully with scripture.
Submitting one to another
Ruling over each others bodies
Obviously doesnt refer to single
People God supplies their needs!
When husbands will not be the Spiritual leader?
This is error sir… The scripture is plain
“Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”
1 Peter 3:3-7 KJV
It's also a non-conditional commandment like it says for the husband to love and provide for his wife. It's not the man's fault if the wife doesn't submit, but it's her responsibility.
Well, I found the explanation a tad clunky. ICor 11 is noticeably omitted from the answer. This sounds more like loose conversational dialogue rather than doctrinal soundness.
... instead old Hebrew sayings and the commentary of trinitarians are offered. Well ok, just noting that
What about divorce and remarriage
That is simply adultery. It is God who makes these two one. I am not aware of anything done by God which was undone by man without God's permission.
Man may persuade himself to believe that he has undone it but the truth is that he has not. The result is that despite divorce the two remain one and any sexual relationship with another person is adultery
@@npzwane9331Now what if both were never in a relationship with God and never understood the covenant of marriage?
Will these two be held under that still?
@@Jose_Santiago21 Marriage is marriage. Whether one or both of the spouses know God makes no difference. Marriage has no religion.
1. The "shut the door" example shows trust, not authority.
2. There is plenty of evidence that steady, single-parent homes are better for kids than tumultuous, 2-parent homes. (Which still points to one or both parents abdicating their roles as partners and parents.)
Sorry, but the second point is not true. Children without fathers are far more likely to commit crimes, do violence and perpetuate broken patterns in future relationships. Their suicide rates are much higher also.
Yeah, you're gonna need to prove that with statistics that are not from Focus on the Family or similar fundamentalist, save-the-marriage-above-all-else groups.
Didn't go far enough! Nothing on wives nagging and disrespectful to their husbands (scriptures) only about husbands.. feminization of scriptures it seems...
PREFACE (I say this in love and humility I know in the written word you can't tell the emotions of the person writing the comment but I'm writing this from a place of humility and love while defending the truth)
(I'm not writing this from a place of anger or self-righteousness)
but somebody has got to tell the truth and tell a woman something she may not want to hear and that is you have to obey your husband or else you'll go to hell for rebellion against GOD...
Women should obey their husbands because there is a primal fear of dying and going to hell if you don't obey your husband...
The same primal fear should be in every child you better obey your parents or else you're going to die and go to hell...
Ecclesiastics 12 and 13 says let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter fear God and keep his commandments....
The reason why Christians struggle with sin is because they don't fear God and they don't have a primal fear of dying and going to hell because of their disobedience to Christ..
the moment you start preaching hellfire people would repent.... Jesus preached hellfire and people repented because they were afraid and they had the primal fear of dying and going to hell...
... The primal fear of dying and going to hell is the main motivator for Christians to live a holy life for the Bible says work our own soul salvation would fear and trembling...
... Jesus commanded his disciples to fear God he said fear the one who was able to destroy both the soul and the body in hell....
Furthermore rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft.
A wife who is rebellious against her husband is going to hell.
The main reason a wife needs to submit to her husband and obey her husband is because God commanded her to do so and any rejection of God's authority will cause the person to die and go to hell.
Husbands need to lovingly tell their wives "as long as I am commanding you in love and obedience to God's Laws; if you don't obey me, you will perish in hell because God commanded you to obey me"
I'd like the wives who don't believe they have to obey their husbands to point to any rebellious woman that went to heaven.
All Jezebel spirits perish in Hell.
FEAR of God and FEAR of dying and going to hell to the eternal lake of fire, should be the MAIN MOTIVATION for wives to OBEY their husband.
It's as simple as math:
Obey God and your husband = Go to Heaven
Reject God by disobeying your husband = Go to eternal damnation
Do men get to go to hell or is it just the women. And under what circumstances do they ?
I lovingly am commenting on the statement of CO EQUAL PARTNERSHIP (and praying and making decisions together) (are children CO EQUAL PARTNERSHIP with their parents?)
God bless you brother Bernard, but your giving "your understanding" instead of following God's Law.
Question:
Are you equal partner with Christ? NO (Bible says the head of every man is Christ)
And the Bible says the head of the woman is the man.
Women are NOT EQUAL IN AUTHORITY to men. Nor are they CO EQUAL PARTNERS (in a psychological observation women are attracted to men who dominate them and put them in their place) (the moment a man elevates a woman to his level of authority she loses interest in him)
If I were to apply your teaching; you would basically say that children and parents are supposed to come and make decisions together.
This is false
Wives are to obey their husbands in the Lord
OBEY is what Jesus commanded.
The apostle Paul says as long as the husband lives the wife is bound by "his law". The law of her husband.
Just as Jesus passes laws that the church must follow husbands are to pass laws that their wives and children are to follow.
The Bible talks about husbands are supposed to rule over their house.
Wives OBEY your husband who RULES OVER YOU in the image of Christ
We obey Jesus who rules over us in the image of God
Marriage is a miniature picture of God the father and Israel and Jesus Christ and the church
The rise of divorce started when feminism started. I believe the two are connected. Most divorces are started by women. Sometimes a man can still be a leader, and the woman may still not submit, but we don't ever talk about this and divorce is increasing in the church.
I don't know if most divorces are started by women or not. But if any partner is being abused, they should initiated divorce. Feminism started to protect women in bad situations because the existing system didn't.
@@aaronwalterryse4281 feminism quickly became something more than freeing women from divorce though. Where the woman wants to no longer be under the authority of the man which is biblical.
@@Republican_Banana Dude, any philosophy becomes more than just the basics because the powers that be resist the petitioners call for equal opportunity and freedom, and then those who are trying to promote human freedom, be they feminist or black power or whomever, they end up having to explain themselves way more than they should have to just to get some traction, which means they spend a lot of time thinking about it, and developing a theory, and then it takes on a life of its own. Takeaway? Don't try to put unnatural limits (biblical or otherwise) on adult human freedom through force of law. It never ends well.
@@aaronwalterryse4281 Now I'm not against woman's rights at all, but I'm saying I believe there is a connection between the feminist movement in the west and the rise of divorce. It's often said that if a man loves his wife then she will automatically submit to him, but that isn't true. A man can love his wife and she may still not submit to him because she has her own will as a human too. They are equal in value but biblically they are not equal in authority. Christ loves the church, but sometimes the church isn't so submissive right?
My main point Is that most of the time total responsibility is placed on the man in marriage while we're too scared to place any on the wife to be submissive. As much as a man is to lead his family, the wife is commanded to submit to that leadership.
@@Republican_Banana The idea of submission and what it means is both misunderstood and misused, and the way it's often colloquially understood involves behavior wholly inappropriate for responsible adults. Thus is rejected by most. Besides that, some people are not religious, full stop, or belong to other religious traditions with different approaches.
Christian encircling in religion in ritual in tradition and teachand doctrine of man, focusing in religion not in the will of God. Religion build by man founded by man. Christianity is not religion not build by man but of God. Be a member of the same Body not religion or your own church.