What Do You Wish You'd Known Sooner in Life? - Part 3
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- čas přidán 16. 10. 2018
- We open up about with what we know now, if there is anything we wish we had learned sooner. Real fam, is there any decision you would have made differently knowing what you know now?
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"Dont push people in the direction where they shouldnt be going . "
This hit me so hard
When I was very young I was definitely nudged in the wrong direction, by parents and people much older than me who should've known better. It's sad, but I'm working my way through it and the pain it's caused. Past ten years though, I've made progress in standing up for myself, for what's just, and for others. It's very freeing. :)
I had people do that to me. Telling me I should have kids or my husband won't stay with me. I never listened to that stupidity. I'm happier today than all of those people who are now divorced and their children hate them. Misery really does love company.
Tamera parents raised a beautiful,kind & smart young women great job mom and dad!
If someone has knows spying what others doing their house or personal staffs then anybody can wise or smarter . I know this lady 5 years ago how sees kind. Do you know kindness definition and real kindness people sacrifice their even upon self and I think none of this
@@johnamann1404 Dude.. what?
@@johnamann1404 what’re you trying to say here?
1:23
Yo when Loni tossed that tissue, I lost it. 😂😂😂
Vincent Robinson LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOO
it kills me
So rude 🙄
@@Imsoprettyykshutup
Why am I sitting her crying too?? lol This felt so genuine & great advice. I love how Loni keeps them on topic though!
Girl me too lol I’m torn up right now lol
2yrs later and I'm still crying
Tamera seems like such a sweet woman
Yessss omg!! She’s the one celebrity I would absolutely love to meet!❤️
Is*
That woman in the audience at 3:50 makes you really understand what it means to be touched by someone's story and that it's not a cliché
i know that's right!
I FEEL Tamera on this!!! People criticize & pick on people who try to follow Christ at a young age. I've seen and experienced it 1st hand and it's really unfortunate. I've also seen comments on here where people say "oh Tamera thinks she's perfect" even though she clearly doesn't & is just being herself. I love you Tam!!
Same here Rachel. I gave my life to Christ when i was 15 and ppl always teased me like why am i such a goody, goody person or a good boy. And im like....im just loving God in my youth guys😢😢❤🕆🕊
Those are some of the tribulations that Jesus said we'll face as His followers.
Me too! I gave my life to Christ when I was 7 and I too was picked on for all kinds of things, even during undergrad. People can't handle your individual authenticity when they spend their time lying to themselves and trying to be someone else.
3:55 the woman crying really shows how much these women and shows like these can help people
Yes so true. I was crying too. This is real stuff they are talking about
That tissue toss had me rolling 🤣
😂😂😂😂
Same lmaooo why is that me tossing the tissue to my friend or sister 😂😥
I was cryingggg😂
Loni is so reallllll lol
😭😭😭😭😭
Loni redirects everyone so well ! She has a huge talent 🙏🏼💙
fr! she always brings it back to the topic when they stray away
i always think the same thing!!!!
I'll say it again. She's the rock of this show.
Tough love
Jenn Gala I always saw Loni maybe not as the main host cause she wouldn’t always talk but like if you notice. When they’re talking and the conversation dies down and it gets a bit quite Loni brings it back on and concludes it kind of she also monitors them well. Idk she’s very essential to the show.
I love Tamera. wholeheartedly. unconditionally.
Me too sis x
She is truly an amazing Woman! I love her so much!❤
Same😭
Wish I would have known much sooner in life that people are so ungrateful and use you until the benefits stop.
Yes girl. Still learning that lesson now
Say it!
Yeeesssssssss…. OMG… but one day 3 years ago, I woke up and said “The bank is closed until further never notice”😂
so happy they uploaded all of this topic
I know!!!!!! I was hoping they were going to!
Rose Gold it was so good for my own soul
me too, it was needed.
For real! Never been more excited to see a girl chat!
Same hehe. Been waiting for it too.
Tamera is me. 24, virgin. always been an old soul. never felt like I fit in. I'm a published writer now and I want my book to inspire others. So God has a plan for you, even if you've always felt "different."
Whats your book about? Do you have a blog or website? Im a writer myself so id love to hear more😊
Same girl! I’m 24 almost 25 and I’m still one
@@lydiabeg7387 You definitely need to read her comment again.
@SARA thank you
@@livenletlive4639 lol let them trolls just be
Loni’s “where’s the tissue” and proceed to toss one at tam took me out 😂
Tran Vo 😂😂😭
😹😹😹
“get to know her because she is waiting for you”
*When I tell you I got chills*
The woman at 3:51 😭 you can tell she felt that, Tamera this is so relatable, learning to accept my differences 😢❤️
Danielle I feel u girl
AWWWWWWWW SHE IS SO CUUUTEEEEE and pretty
I am a Muslim and I want people to know that we love people of all faiths and colours! Love to humanity 😀👍😃
Preach!
My gay as knows this since my stepfather is Muslim and got a lot of issues with me but me being a gay girl is none of them.
Sending you my love
Oh come on sis , we Muslims don't owe no one nothing ,it's pathetic that some of you are always trying to appease others , if someone is ignorant and malicious enough to believe that we are at fault for some random suicide bomber or some psychos attacking people and everything else that's on them. I know you were going for a positive message but Wallahi as a fellow Muslim idk I'm so annoyed that were always tryna prove how "peaceful" we are 😒 it's ridiculous
Ms. Cuddlekins sorry for what ? He doesn’t care that I’m gay. We argue like every family but that was never a topic.
Tamera’s story is a lot like mine. I accepted Christ when I was really young and I was teased because of how I was as a person. They always called me a goody two shoes and they would bully me to the point I considered suicide. Girls would be so jealous of me including my friends and they would talk about me and make fun of me. I questioned myself and I would cry so many nights because I never felt accepted. Now that I’m older I understand that I was chosen by God and I have a purpose unlike anybody else. I’m glad I didn’t change who I am for the people who didn’t know and don’t know who they are.
I love how Adrienne keeps it real! "It's the devil" yes girl!!!!! The accuser of the brethren always comes in a negative voice!!!
LEONA BUNDY say that girl!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Tamera reminds me so much of myself . I'm 22 and I've always questioned myself and my differences . I'm a virgin, and a very sweet but shy and reserved person . And mainly while I was in college, I would question the way I was because I felt like I didn't fit in with my peers and wasn't on the same level that most people in society are on . And I had insecurities when dealing with guys I was interested in because it seemed as if they didn't feel the same about me or either they did but they weren't willing to get to know me because they knew I was a virgin and not easy like other girls. I am so glad that I never changed who I was to get approval from other people, whether it was guys or girls. College was a test for me and I always felt that because I was the good girl with a natural look about me that I was being overlooked because there were other girls that had their Brazilian in with the perfect body, nice clothes, and an aura about them that guys would find more appealing and I always thought I was the boring, weird one. I just learned to accept the fact that I am different but that makes me unique . Never let a guy or society validate your beauty or make you feel less in your worth. Those that don't accept the real you do not deserve to be in your life. Those that appreciate it are the ones that matter ❤️
So refreshing to know that there are still girls like you left in this world. For a lot us who are Christians, it can be tough trying to fit into a world that's so different from us. I've only just realised that for one to be a TRUE Christian, validated by God, you have to different from this world (James 4:4). God in this time and day is looking for men and women who can separate themselves from the world and FOCUS on him just like the xters in the bible.
Esther, Ruth, Hannah, Deborah, Mary mother of Jesus remained a virgin and her destiny was complete because of it etc.
So please NEVER try to please the world but God alone.
O.k.A Amen to that !
girl 23 and a virgin,,,,tam has been me.never ever felt like i fit in
Bria Barrows it's so crazy to feel like we don't fit in because we choose to save ourselves for the right person. It's really sad that the norm nowadays is for girls to give themselves to any and every body and because somebody chooses to do the opposite, it makes us prude and superior when it's not like that lol
and now i found him and he's a virgin as well :) so its always worth the wait.i've always been an old soul
I love how EVERYTIME Tamera is about to start crying she always says "i'm not gonna cry!". She's so cute
I can’t explain how much I related to Tamara. As a 21 year old in college, who never parties, rarely drinks, rather spend time reading my bible than clubbing, I always thought I was missing out on so much. I felt as though I was passing by my youth. One day I just accepted that I’m not like everyone else and it’s for a reason! I’ve been baptized and I’m still learning to be content with the introverted, church going girl that I am. Tamara’s a beautiful soul and I hope that through faith my confidence may mirror hers! ❤️
I love Tamera and her transparency. I can relate because accepting Christ in your life does set you apart no matter what age you are. Your different and you move different. It doesn't make you better than anybody!
"Oh God!" = here comes the water works. I can relate. I'm very kind, none judgmental, old soul, different and very emotional. Talking about a happy memory could make me bust out crying...happy tears but in the form of a ugly cry. 😭💜
I cry real ugly too, like you “can’t understand what I’m saying” kind of crying lol
Lmaof , the ugly cry
Diva Den same here
I am the same way. I resonate with Tamera so much. Luckily she did not get lost during that time but I did. I allowed myself to become bitter and act like those who judged and tormented me. However I am so grateful for God's mercy and grace because he helped me regain who I was meant to be and become the loving and kind person I was before all of the abuse in my life. May God continue to bless you all.
I am the same way too. So heartfelt. Be who you are!
That mental health is no joke, and if not tackled early it can quickly spiral out of control.
That part👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Oh I know from personal experience...
Gyal. Ain't it the truth.
I really actually relate to Tamara's struggle. Though I felt Jeannie's pain as well. I was always the most upbeat, smiling, joking and outwardly confident person. No one knew that I struggled like everyone else to feel worthy. I befriended people who other people ignored and even picked on. I got laughed at and told I was too nice or stuck up etc. I also got alot of sh*t for speaking proper English and liking all types of music. My cousins, my peers at school and even my older sister found me too PC. Like black girls only have bad attitudes, only jam hip hop & Rnb and aren't educated. It did make me angry at the world and cautious of dealing with new people until my late twenties. Everyone isn't the same and I am who TF I am. 🤗😆😉
Tiffany Nichole you literally described my upbringing!!! I can recall being made fun of for my extensive vocabulary for my young age as well. I also would befriend the “underdogs”. I remember being told, “if you weren’t friends with “so and so” you’d be popular”. I can relate to everything else you mentioned. I pray you keep being who God intended you to be. God bless you!
Tiffany Nichole I went through the same thing girl and I’m still going through it ! I don’t know you at all but I love you !!! ❤️ lol
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
OMG...same😳❤️
I relate to you. I remember I used to get ostracised for speaking the way I do, and my views on virginity, marriage and sex
Tamera is literally talking about my life. I have even more respect for her because I can relate. I’m 26 and still question myself because I’ve always been the black sheep. Thanks so much for sharing ❤️
THE REAL REASON I KNOW I AM NOT MARRIED! Because of the way l look. A child born with a cleft pallet, who was teased and taunted in life from grammar school up. Like Tamera l receive Christ in my life at 17 yrs old. I found The Real true love in Jesus. This is the way God made me and l had to learn to except myself before anyone else could. It was a long hurtful process. But l learn to live with it. I can't change my face. This is me. And l am happy with me. 57 and still single and Saved and Loving Jesus more each day.
I love this! I’ve been single for years as well. Your relationship with Christ is what matters! That’s beautiful and so are you!
You can be happy by your self! God is with you and you dont need a man(or woman... Not sure if you're a male or female) to bring happiness in your life. You create your own happiness.
But many people with cleft palate get married. Looks are not everything maybe it's the people your around. They probably don't appreciate your beauty. But honestly some people are not meant to get married and if that's what God wills than so be it. Telling myself that first and foremost. If you do want to get married one day I hope you find that person that appreciates you!
❤❤❤❤❤
@@noplacelikebri8209 At 6:15am in the morning and l am crying right now. THANK YOU VERY MUCH FROM MY HEART. TRUELY!
One of the best videos I've watched...indeed a therapy session...Who is cutting onions?
Esther Dwumah it’s not me it’s you 😭😭
True, true, truuuuuueee 😭😭😭😭
I'm with you on this
I'm sitting here bawling. Everything tamera said is hitting home to me. I'm only 25 but I have always been a kind hearted, giving, genuine kind of person. I have been taking advantage of. I've been hurt more then anyone can count. For my Relationships, it was used and abused for controlling tactics...but I refuse to change. I've tried to have more of a back bone and be more of a "bitch" but I can't. It's not in my nature. I refuse to change. The world needs more kind hearts like us.
What Tamara said is exactly what I’ve been facing for some time in my life! Questioning who I am especially in my relationship with God just because I felt people weren’t necessarily okay with it or because people didn’t understand me. I thank God and I’m happy to know that I am not the only one who has been through this and watching Tamara talk has actually confirmed what God said to me after I prayed about it and that is I AM HIS AND NOT ANYBODY’S! AND WHO I CHOOSE TO BE, WHO GOD HAS CALLED ME TO BE, IS WHAT SETS ME APART AND DEFINES ME IN MY UNIQUE WAY. Another thing I’d add to what Tamara said is, anytime you feel like your environment isn’t accepting you as the Child of God that you are, CHANGE THAT ENVIRONMENT! Surround yourself with the people and the wisdom that will build you into becoming that person Jesus has called you to be! If you can’t find the right people to surround yourself with, don’t stress, you have nothing to lose; GOD IS ENOUGH! God bless you Tam!
Great words which needed to hear special when you feel lost and confuse, Thanks Tam-Tam & Keep it REAL with Herbert, God bless you.
Omg yes ❤️
I relate to tamera the most ❤️
she's me lol
Me too. Once I figured out who I was, I've been unstoppable. Everyone is different and not for everyone. Move to the next if I'm not for you.
O me too!
Me too
LaKendra Collier girl you better say that louder!
I totally relate to Tam.... this was and is me. I am now growing to being proud of who I am.
I agree.
Same with me
Yup
Is that a convention badge I see!?
@@stephanieb4763 Why yes it is ;-)
I swear Tamera is me😭 I'm 17 & sometimes I become so insecure because of my differences I'm so mature for my age and people think it's weird but I learned to embrace it🤞🏼
I can relate to Tamara 100%. I’m a square, I’m by the book, I’m a Jesus freak, and I’m proud of it! It took me a while to accept that.
I feel what Tamara is saying so hard. Growing up I was always super shy and never wanted a whole bunch of people in my life. I used to be so ashamed of my introverted tendencies but now I love who I am and wouldn't change anything. It's a hard thing to learn but it is the greatest thing when you do.
I feel that sooo much. People always make fun of the quiet girl
Me too.
Totally understand. I was picked on a lot in school for being “too quiet”. It made me feel like something was wrong with me. I now know that I’m just introverted, and that’s ok ❤️
I am the same way. I’m still accepting it. Takes time but at least I know.
Me too!
I have cried so much hearing Tamera, cause I am exactly the same. I am a people pleaser and I'm always kind, even with people that don't deserve it. I still get bullied cause of it. I remember crying almost every day asking God to change me, saying to him "make me more rude" "make me more serious ", "less goofy " etc. 😞😭. I'm almost in my 30s and I'm glad I am this way. Because the right people will appreciate you for who you are and they will love you for you. So if you have good qualities never try to change them, cause I believe we make the world a better place. ❤
Love this, thank you for this message ❤️
Feeling the exact same way
God bless you ✨
@@benedicte6522 awww thank you sis .God bless you ❤❤❤
I'm 21 and feel the same way, it was yesterday and the day before yesterday... I cried and asked God, I hear what everybody is saying and I am hopeful for that time when it will happen to me about accepting to be fully and happily without questioning myself but it is hard...
For a long time and still now, a part of me feel like I don't deserve to be me or happy about it because it is like I am selfish. So even though I chose me, I struggle a lot of time believing that it is okay to take care of me, to be always nice... i don't know if you understand what I am saying but it is almost like my soul is too easy to break when all I love is love and to laugh with people and to eat ... 🙏💖
Danielle Kenas I’m 21 too and I’m just starting to fully accept myself. I realised that I really need to fully love myself and accept that God loves me just like that. I’m stopping to search love or acceptance form others expect God and myself. It is hard but trust me you’ll see the change day by day
Be just yourself and the right people will love you
Sorry for my bad english I’m belgian 🤦🏾♀️
Love sis we got this ❤️👏🏾
@@benedicte6522 Cousine, je suis de Paris, sorry for my bad English too ✌😘
😍 Gosh, I’m so much like Tamara. Growing up a Christian with bible values I was definitely talked about. I used to think and feel so weird to people. 🙏 I wish Tamar could have just keeled talking. I would have loved to hear the rest you had to say. ✅
Good GRIEF Tamera, you are an inspiration to so many people!!!! Thank you for loving Jesus like you do.
3:49 When that woman's tear dropped, I started balling!
I'm trying to hold it in at work but daaaaaang!
Ohhh 😢
Bless her💕
She really is soooo beautiful too😭oh god now I’m crying
😂😂😂
Well, we all went to church today. Dang, Tamera brought the good word. Adrienne fried it up. Jeannie baked it and Loni sent it off. Really touched my heart today. Love you ladies!
Omg I’m crying. Tamera I applaud you for using your platform to spread an amazing message to women and young girls all over. Props to all of you
I can relate to Tam, why is it so bad to be "good?" This world is so twisted. I wish she could have spoke on this matter more because it's so important. She's always getting shade for being who she is, but I'm so for her and glad she continues to be a great role model by just being herself. ❤
Tamera literally just described my entire life story.... I always have to remind myself that God made me unique for a purpose. He has a plan for me. I have battled thinking that I was "too different" "too emotional" "too loving" etc for YEARS... Getting bullied in school and just over all never truly fitting in because I was such an old soul. Thank God for your open heart Tamera. You truly blessed me.
Even Jesus was bullied, mocked, spat at and eventually killed because he was different from the rest. They thought he was just a mere prophet and couldn't accept that he was the son of God. In the end, it was he who died, ressurected and is now GLORIFIED by sitting at the father's right hand and is coming back again to judge the same people who mocked him..
Never change who you are for anybody. Remain true to Christ alone.
Alycia Calloway If you're just like Tamera, how are you different?
Yes. I am very friendly. It's like I can't help it. I am too kind and I always get hurt.
We are who we are for a reason. Right now I want to be bitter and not let ppl in but I know God doesn't want me to live my life that way
absolutely
For me that sweet voice is called THE HOLY SPIRIT!
💯💯💯💯yes it is.
Yeeess!!!
I love Jeanie. Even when she’s down she’s comforting others ❤️
Ade: “That’s the devil!”
You betta preach a word today!!
I can relate to tamera on some levels...ppl always try to mold you into the type of person THEY think you should be
How I love, apperciate and respect Tamara !!! Thank you and very proud of you !!!👏👏👏👏😊😊😊
I am proud of you Tamara! There are still girls like you that deal with these same issues. Thank you for being a role model for them.🙏🏾
Jeannie is one of the most beautiful wise souls I’ve ever seen. What she said towards he end made me cry. We all need to listen to ourselves and hug and love ourselves because no one can do it for you! I loved this segment 💖
"We just heard your conversation in your head" 🤣🤣 Meeee
Tamera,
You constantly inspire me to be the woman I am! Thank you for sharing! Know that your words touch me today !For all the sweeties out there keep staying strong in your peace, love and happiness
#killemWithKindness
Thank you THE REAL!!
exactly! I truly love tameras soul
Preach Tamara! lol. I grew up the same way. My parents were pastors and I lived differently and kids were mean. Now I realized I’m different and that’s okay. I love me some Jesus 😍😂
The first time I'm commenting on "The Real" that I relate to Tamara a lot. And I love how you all are open about your spiritual/religious values or whatever better ways you call it! Much love and power to y'all ♥️♥️♥️♥️
I just bawled through all three parts!!! Damn! I love these ladies! THE REAL IS SOO REAL!!!!!!!!
Completely relate to Tam...I’m 22 now and learning that its okay to be different. I’ve just never fit in with people and I always questioned what what wrong with me because I’m not mean or anything. I never really made friends as quickly as other people did and I just felt bad a lot. But I thank God that He has given me the wisdom that He has and I’m am fully aware of myself and that by His grace, I will be just fine 🌻✨
OddlyStέphαnie indeed you will be fine gurl, by his grace 🙏🏾
Hey. I am 22 also and know exactly what your talking about! I used to want friends and actually try, and I've always been really nice like tamera and for some reason people take advantage of that. I also have a really soft voice and my demeanor is kind and some people dont like me simply for that reason. I've learned to accept myself and say forget about having friends. I now focus on family, my son, work, and school and I dont even want friends anymore like I used to. The majority of people have hidden motives and it's better to continue to be kind to all and keep your distance and focus on yourself.
Jeanie has such a way with speaking life into people. I love what she said towards the end about listening and nurturing the woman inside us.
I can really resonate Tamera because I have always been by the book and always aspired to do the right thing. Others think you’re weird because maybe you don’t enjoy going out every weekend to party, or spend your time listening to Kpop instead of the popular music in America for example.Tamera, you have inspired me to keep loving myself more. These WOMEN!! I absolutely LOVE this show xx
Sending wishes and love to you all❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
The way Loni threw the tissue after Tamera said she was not going to cry😂😂😂. Loni like girl take the tissue.
I wish I had known my worth. When you know your value, it’s hard for someone to continually take advantage of you.
Yes. I agree completely.
Amen. It is the truth.
exactly
It's true, sometimes we really need to be alone to unwind and think about the things that we've been through and search for a new purpose in life.
This entire segment makes me love this show so much!!! They all inspire each other, and in turn all of them inspire me to be the best version of me I can be to both myself and others.
The first they had a part 3!!!
Maryssa Jane actually it isn't this is like their fourth time 😂😂
@@MajesticMyronn yep
Yes deffo a first!! They have a new CZcams person ....
@@MajesticMyronn you ... lmaoo
Obi Braxton wait what I do 😂
I am a Tamera anyone else a Tamera ✋. I am a sweet girl and I am proud, come here and let me love you lol
i am one 2
MARYVIAN OWOMUGISHA Go girl!
Yes maam!! ❤
Thank you to Tamera and all the ladies for being real with us! It takes so much strength to learn to accept your differences and quiet out the other voices in your life but at the end of the day you need to do what’s right for you and no one else!! I’ve had to learn that the hard way and still learning to find the strength to do so.
Nah it was when Tamera said "OH GOD, this is an ugly cry" had me from crying to rolling on the floor....literally 😂😂😂
I am so tired of people telling me that I am too nice, so now I distance myself from all of them and have no friends. Got tired of being rejected, I am glad you were able to find friends who didn't pluck the petals from your holy rose garden to trample upon them daily.
so much peace without friends
I relate to Tamera so much. I've recently been questioning myself , asking 'Why I'm I so flipping kind to people?' To the point where I hated my kindness. I really do love being kind but it has gotten to where I'm saying yes to everything. I've also noticed that people take advantage of it.
The three parts of this segment are one of the most powerful and impactful I have ever seen on a talk show. Well done ladies. You deserve a second Emmy and you don’t need an additional host. I think the dynamic between you all is perfect.
What tamera said, spoke life into me... bc i am her. Shes saying it to me.
THANK YOU
“Can we just fast forward...” lol damn Loni was not with nothing.
Chastity B. It’s a timing issue and Loni is the moderator so she has to keep it moving. Lol
I guess she is the moderator but sometimes I get the sense she’s just waiting to hear Tamara say something that.... I don’t know. Anyone else?
lmfao that was funny asf
it was rude AF.. there are much better ways to moderate and keep the conversation moving..
@Quart D yeah I agree, It seems easier for Loni to stay pretty surface on her issues even though she might share its “relationship stuff.” Some of the judgement Tamara speaks of always getting for just being herself seems to often come from Loni in a way. Just my perception of the non verbals as well. I can be wrong, way off but being on tv and this show in particular can’t be easy.
Adrienne- "that's the devil!" Lol
Lol she ain't lying tho!
@@oiat RIGHT!
This video gets a like from me because.....................................
Tamera Mowry. She's so down to earth, kind and I love her values. Been a fan of hers ever since "Sister Sister". Started watching The Real because of her, and now I've fallen in love with all of these fine women.
The best thing on daytime TV right now! Keep up the great work ladies
👏👏🏿👏🏾👏🏽👏🏼🙌
tamera, sis, you have such a beautiful soul. period
wish LONI would have let her go into detail like she
was trying to before she cut her off.... I was ready!
It's hard to love yourself especially when you're a person that likes to cater to other people & feel the need to be there for others yet you rarely ever take the time for yourself and just be to yourself... sometimes loving yourself is the BEST first & last relationship in life you will ever truly hold on to because some people when they don't love themselves they validate that love by going from person to person to fill a void that's missing & the void is actually self-love... so just make sure to step back , quiet out the noise and love yourself ♥️🙏🏾
Amen I feel that
Amen to that 🙏🏾
Not sometimes...all the time. We need to teach ourselves and each other that.
Accepting that you are different. God help me that's an ongoing process. It's the hardest thing, coz it can be so lonely at times. Sometimes I choose the loneliness, rather than be around people who ridicule me. Y'al making me cry 😢😢😢
Nicole Sakwe I’ve come to realize that what people ridicule about you is what they actually wish they were like.
LumiereDarling thank you for that ❤
Kelley Ross thank you so much for the kind and sweet words. God bless you. ❤❤💛💛💛❤❤
You have to get out of your comfort zone. That's how you grow. Be blessed
Yes my whole life I always felt weird and people my age would call me a old woman ans my dad used to say its just the wisdom in you. My dad is older and him and I are so close even today and I've always felt if I can have 10% of my father's wisdom I can make it in life. Now I'm so grateful for it. I just wished that I could have appreciated that attribute sooner ans just embraced it. He's passing down to his grandson my son now. I'm so very grateful that my son has such an amazing positive male role model in his life. Thank you daddy love you.
Wow, this was my life too. When I was younger I was picked on because I was “too nice” etc and a easy target. I actually get complimented on my kind nature daily by strangers now.
I can relate to Tamera. I get criticized all the time for being too "perfect" and working "too hard". The devil doesn't want to see you succeed and he'll use haters to try to stop you. Stay prayed up!
I got baptized at 8 and pretty much have the same story as Tamara. I used to ask the same question about, why am I like this as well. I couldn’t be mean and cold hearted like others to save my life, I always wanted to do good and please God and I’m just learning how to accept me for me.
You are different and bound to be different because the Spirit of God which now resides in you is different from the spirit of this world. That is why you act different, talk different, can't accept or do certain things that your peers would find normal.
The bible says: "Friendship with the world is enmity with God" (James 4:4).
So please, never try to please anyone except God, the one whom you have been baptised into and accept who you are as God's chosen child. Afterrall, it's not how tour friends see you but HOW GOD sees you!
There are several xters in the bible who were just different from the world during their time:
Joseph, Samuel, children of Issachar, Daniel, Deborah, Esther, Mary mother of Christ became so popular in scriptures because she remained A VIRGIN and had a Godly xter.
Stay different people cos it pays!
Bless.
Nessa Speaks yeah I was a doormat for a portion of my life as well!! We figure it out as we go along. We just have to be intentional about learning ourselves and loving who we truly are. God bless you too hun 🙏🏽🙏🏽
O.k.A Amen!! Very true!! Thank you for your encouragement!! God bless you 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Can totally relate to this!
God really speaks through Tamera sometimes 🙌 I needed that! Now, somebody pass me a tissue 😩😭🤧
Awww
All three parts to this video has me in tears.... Thank you Ladies for all sharing your inputs. Jeannie you have so much strength to keep it real and tell all the audience what was on your mind... Adrienne and Tamera I also connected to what you ladies shared... the idea of being different and people do see it as a negative way for standing out differently or as what Adrienne said I went through all this for the ring. Goodness you ladies hit every note that I have been going through with my breakup and seeing this video really uplifted my spirit and hear the truth!
Tamara is the soul my soul yearns to be!! A beautiful kind inspirational person 💘
I can’t help but remember:
1. Tamar telling Munchkin to say yes while she has time to think (tbf I do agree with Tamar’s logic as it is the thinking period imo)
2. Tamar stereotyping TamTam as stuck up and prude when they first met and thinking she was full of herself 😬
It’s interesting ayy.
And Tamar telling Jeannie she'll one day want a baby.
Oh yes Adrienne was definitely talking about Tamar when she was describing her "homegirl" lol we all knew it!
This was powerful Jeannie and tamera ... thanks for keeping it real.... no fluff here today... 🙏🏾 ❤️
These ladies have grown so much. Especially Jeannie. I love you all. Thank you
For someone who never comments ever! I couldn’t help myself but let ya’ll ladies know how absolutely touching this was. This segment was so relatable and uplifting! Continue to aspire to inspire ladies!!! ❤️
Am 23 and a dedicated woman of God.. I wish I knew what I know now that man don't make my life any easier, they don't let the pain that have endure in my childhood less painful. I wish I had known that being a loner and different doesn't make you lonely; it Means you're special. I always fall in unhealthy relationships and each ended and breaks me but as Jen says you find your self when you are lost..i wish I know that it's ok to grow. I think I wanted to skip certain stage In the growth process and there I ended up right at the level I had skipped.
Sis, this is beautiful. Sometimes the Lord will not permit us to leave a stage/level until he's sure we have learnt from our mistake. God is eternally merciful and he will always forgive our indiscretions and mistakes, but he wants us to grow for that is all what CHRISTIANITY is about.
Like you said, you don't need a relationship to be happy. Many people fall into this trap because they want to copy others or are influenced by family, age etc. Many Christians lack a true relationship with God and yet want a physical relationship, and that's why there are so many babies and high divorce rates, even in the CHURCH!
*If you rush into it, you will eventually rush out of it*
Sis, grow in God, develop yourself, grow your xter, stack up the coins, a business etc and when it's time, it will be effortless and easy. Plus God will give you the man of your dreams and not opportunists..
They say love is blind for a reason. I dont think its about not knowing. Most of us knew or saw signs but wanted to ignore the. The issue is that when we are in love or like someone we get prepared to make so many excuses for them. A lot of the time those exes already showed us their true characters but we chose to ignore it thinking we could "change" them or thinking that because it doesnt happen often its not an issue. When youre in love you subconsciously ignore red flags that seem small at that time but often that choice can come back to haunt you.
Then that's not blindness, that's denial. A lot of times we nurse our delusion because the initial picture they painted for us has caused us to form an emotional attachment.
Yep. I agree. Like the saying goes a man will marry a woman thinking she will never change. A woman will marry a man thinking she can change him. This is why alot of marriages/relationships dont work out b/c of that mindset.
Tamara I feel you. I’m also an old soul, went through a similar experience. I am also very happy and thankful for my parents for continuing to support me for me being me so I can accept me for me. Now I am Steph woman proud of sticking to my beliefs and making it my strength
This episode touched me the most. I always looked for my happiness in a relationship, fully depending on the other person. Little did I realize that my hapiness first has to start from inside of me. Once you find your inner happiness, then you can share it with others or find someone who can reciprocate that same hapiness. Be you, be smart, and be what you chose to be. These ladies are so REAL and thats what makes this show so entertaining and relatable. Thank you
I can 100% relate to Tamera, there's nothing wrong in being you. You are wonderfully made!
"Can we just fast forward..." really Loni? Really?
right I wanted to hear what Tamera was gonna say next
She been real rude to tamera lately i guess because of her husband but its getting annoying
They are working with time, plus she is the moderator. How many times have Loni said in the past they tend to be long winded and the producers would comment in their ears to wind up conversation? Quite a few actually.
Ferren Barnwell ok i understand that but she has been extra weird when it comes to tamera specifically like in the interview they just did at the breakfast club she was making shady comments and acting weird with her. I dont like it.
Yes that annoyed me.
Bless you Tamera!, we have so much in common, I can easily relate to you. I chose to be different in college as I was responsible, result-oriented, focused and religious. Hardly did I follow the crowd, I always tried to do the right thing and because of that I received a lot of hate, backlash and judgements from people mostly females. Looking back in hindsight, I have realised that their actions were simply out of jealousy. I am so glad I didnt budge back then because I would not have attained the height I'm at right now. I am currently getting my PhD, trust me I am so proud of myself and the woman I became.
So this goes out to any young lady out there, don't be pressured into doing the wrong things that the crowd is doing. If being different means u will lose friends, then so be it. Please stand alone! and achieve your life goals. Trust me those who hated on you would finally look upto you. Stay strong😘
Almost a year later and I still cry over this.
It’s so crazy that my story is nearly identical to Tamera’s. Even our personalities, our values, and the way that we’ve dated are similar. But one way that we differ is in what she said here in this video. I had a prophet come to a Church that I attended and he told me that I realized at a young age that I was different. And he said that when I realized it, I accepted it. To see that Tamera didn’t accept it and had a hard time accepting it makes me feel for her. Because I never cared to change myself to make people like me. I just let them not like me and focused on the people who did like me. I hate that she was hurting so much over this.
I definitely relate to both Tamera and Jeannie. My first husband was crazy, I constantly made excuses for him and looking back I'm like wow I was blind but he was my first everything. First boyfriend, first kiss, first marriage, etc. He would cheat, steal, lie, abuse, the list is endless. As much as I regret that relationship I also learned what I DIDN'T want and now I'm married to the most caring loving person! I couldn't be happier!
In regards to Tamera, I feel like I'm an old soul. Like I was born in the wrong era. You hold strong to your faith, to God, to be the best version of yourself. I was bullied a lot growing up and to this day I still have very few friends who are genuinely kind sweet people but I'm happy and I try to ignore the people who put you down for no reason. I wonder sometimes do people really feel happy about themselves that they were bullies to someone else? Or do they not even realize they're being unkind and mean.
Thank you Tamera, being yourself is one of the hardest. I’m 21, I came out at an early age had everyone around me doubt me. I’ve learned to push my self academically, mentally and develop better loving Relationships with my family. I’ve been single for 5 years and it’s okay I am in no rush to find someone, I’m on a journey of self acceptance and loving myself for all my imperfections. This video had me crying thank you for sharing your different points of view. Much success on your show, thanks for keeping it real.
I can relate to tamera. Im not a follower. Im a leader.