Even in Prison, She's Still My Mom - Deborah's Story - Moms Behind Bars - Episode 3
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- čas přidán 12. 09. 2024
- Deborah is in prison for being the driver in a car accident that killed two people. She has four children from ages 10 to 26 who are living without her while she serves her time. Meet Deborah and her oldest daughter, Takia, who is working to maintain a relationship with her mother and provide a better life for her own kids.
From petty drug dealers to second-degree murderers, these women all have one thing in common: they're mothers. Moms Behind Bars takes you behind the barbed wire to meet incarcerated and recently-released moms, exploring how these women struggle to maintain relationships with their children from behind prison walls. These tales of suffering, regret and redemption range from a 28-year-old mother who is raising her baby in a prison cell, to a grandmother whose grown children are fighting for a better way of life for their kids.
Watch the full series here: • Moms Behind Bars
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I miss my mom. She’s been locked up since I was 2 and I’m 23 now I want her to come home 💔💔💔
I’m soo sorry to hear that! I found my mother deceased when I just turned 23yrs old, I came from broken home, and had to find my way 15yrs old and up, no guidance, no family holidays, for years, until we made amends 6months prior to her death, In order to survive I worked a lot , but I was burning myself out, not enough to afford my apt & my car, so I sold drugs to get bye- and that caught up w/ me- I was sentenced 3mns after my mother’s death. In jail I had to find healing, however I will tell you this, it’s not a day that goes bye while I was locked up I did not think of my family, my mother- it is such a helpless feeling knowing there’s nothing can do. I was young than, but my time with all types of women, in jail- that had kids, grandchildren- the disease of drugs, facilitated, it’s a battle many women suffer, or stress themselves worrying abt their kids, not being in presence. It’s hard I could only imagine for you, but no matter what reason ya mom is there for- ❤️ her/ spend time or talk- take it from someone wish I had 2mins - however you ever need someone to talk too- feel free to msg /email me
I was locked up with this lady Stowe south for a breath second. She was a sweet heart to her story was sad. I remember her because she had me draw a picture of her 12 years ago. I was drawing a picture . I was just telling my husband yesterday I haven't did this in twelve years. .. God is still good
Demetria is this fake or true
@@th3kwaiiapotato858
How did you even understand what she wrote?
Copper Cassie Campbell cause I know wat else dude
You are right! You were in max w/ her Stowe S. Lol ! Omg I was in Randall - 05. I remember hearing her story , when ur inside the can - u hear it all! They have the Lifers Wing attached to the Intake - reception in grounds- how long were in Clinton for?
Deborah I pray you get home. I feel your pain and ache. You've made me cry and a true believer that motherhood is innate and never ever dies no matter what.
This is just heartbreaking. Her baby was 10 months!? She made a mistake and she has 20 years for it. An abomination is just cruel and going to far :( Mistakes can ruin your life.
BekiiOxO a mistake that cost someone their lives
Amen
@@allaboutsierra6540 /////
SHE MADE A CHOICE TO DRINK AND DRIVE-SHE KILLED TWO PEOPLE.. HER ALONE. WHAT DID SHE THINK SHE WAS GOING TO WALK SCOOT FREE?? Ijs
My mother was incarcerated when I was 2. My first recollection of her was came from meeting her in prison when I was 8. She came home after my 15th birthday a virtual stranger to me. We never reconciled or connected after she came home. There was too much time lost and no bond at all. Till this very day I miss the mother she could have been. While she deserved her sentence I did not deserve mine. These programs are very benefical to the child of incarcerated parents.
I cannot imagine how hard that was and is for you it sounds horrific
58kaution Why are you punishing your mother for what she did? Have you given her a chance to get to know you or vice versa?
Seems like a beautiful family ... my heart goes out to them
Hope she rots? Come on....I know she did wrong, but it wasn't intentional. She didn't set out to kill people. She made a terrible mistake, but she's not a monster! You tell child predators to rot! But her? She deserves to do time, but throw the key at her and tell her to rot? No. My dad drove drunk and almost killed a woman. He spent 2 years in a restitution center. Deborah's sentence is too harsh. If she were white she'd be home! Racism is sick!
Gigi soglamorousipeeglitter imagine if she killed the person you loved. Would you feel differently then? She made a decision to drink and drive which resulted in 2 people’s deaths. She took away someone’s loved one. I can’t even imagine their pain. I don’t feel sorry for her at all.
IT WAS A CHOICE TO DRINK AND DRIVE! FAR FROM A MISTAKE!
Very emotional video. She seems like a very good mother, even behind bars, and I hope things turn out for the best for her and her family.
Im glad I met her, she's a beautiful person, a beautiful soul
I'm so glad we serve a God that sits up high and looks down low and he is a God that forgives us 12345 times only God knows Debbie's heart none of us can judge her not even the judge you can only understand what I'm saying if you have a relationship with Jesus not religion a relationship this video is about being in prison as a mother not about her case she has her sentence and she is doing the time I'm so glad I know how to forgive because if you say you love God you have to learn how to forgive
Tammie Thorpe .I love your comment,and I agree with u 100%
The God we serve is just God with mercy and grace and he is the only JUDGE !!!
U better Preach sis🙏🙌👏👏👏
You said a mouth full! Some of these heartless ppl, including the judges, are just as evil as the ppl who commits the crimes.
while her daughter made me cry.....ibeen threw the same shit with my mother
Love you cousin ❤
Good luck to you. May you find your own pace down the peaceful path. God Loves.
I hope this woman gets out of prison soon .
A drunk driver killed a friend of mine who was walking on the pavement. He was a hit a run driver and he got 9 months.
it's because she is black so she gets a longer sentence
@@janelleldn7608 basically
An "abomination". Jeez. People who are abominations have no soul and who mean to hurt people. This woman did a terrible, terrible thing, yes, but she is still a person. She drank because she was a person who was hurting.
She still seems like a great person. I wish her well.
YOU WASNT SNATCHED AWAY FROM YOUR KIDS. YOUR CHOICES HAD CONSEQUENCES..
I hope she is home ! Happy ! Especially now! It’s so sad, look how much kids are effected no guidance, not full understanding. Stay Strong ma! You will not only get home but you will reunite with your kids!!! Prayers up!
This is a tragedy..... Who wants to do drunk driving? 😢😢😢😢😢💔💔💔💔💔
So sad I'm crying!!!!!
THE BIGGEST GIFT WE CAN GIVE IS LOVE ! AND TO LOVE IS TO FORGIVE,GOD KNOWS WHY THIS HAPPEN AND HE KNOWS THE REAL HEART OF HIS CHILDREN,JESUS COULD HAD GIVEN UP BUT HIS LOVE WAS TO STRONG THAT HE DIED FOR US.WE NEED TO LEARN TO FORGIVE !!
valintina barrera Yes you have to forgive I'm order to have peace within yourself and to be able to move on with your life. When you don't forgive that person, they can have power over you because they think that you're weak and don't know any better or know what forgiveness is , but all you have to do is ask God to teach you forgiveness for yourself and for others
Aw this is so sad
YOU HAVE A MOTHERS LOVE EVEN IN PRISON .THERE SOME THAT DON'T EVEN HAVE THAT AND THERE MOM IS AT HOME WITH HER CHILDREN ,I KNOW I WAS ONE OF THOSE CHILDREN ! DON;T GIVE IN STAY STRONG.
If you feel bad for them please like this
This is so sad. I feel bad for the victims but i also feel bad for this family. I also have kids and i take great care of them. Sometimes i have my girls nights out too though and it just goes to show that bad things happen to good people all the time even when you think it can never happen to you. It really makes you think though.
Waaaaah. How do you think the family of the deceased feel? You can still see your mom. They can't.
Sebastian Espitia stop being negative chill !!!! that don't mean she tried to kill them on purpose they was drunk 🙄
maitraya
Not seeing someone coming and pulling out in front of them at an intersection is an "accident". Getting drunk and killing someone is "murder". You know the consequences of getting drunk. You know that death is a real possibility. All this, "I was drunk. I didn't know what I was doing" shit is just that. SHIT! You made the decision to get drunk , knowing full well what could happen. No sympathy from me. They have none for the victims family, they'll get none from me. She can rot in hell if there is one.
Cody
She consciously made the decision to get drunk, knowing full well the consequences of her actions in doing so. By climbing behind the wheel and killing someone, she gave up her right to claim it was an accident and became a murderer.
Sebastian Angel I agree
She isn’t making excuses for what she did at all so stfu
OMG OMG unbelievable I was in prison with her I remember her perfect she waing lots of wait devo that how I remember her God bless you deve hopefully you get out soon
You were locked up w/ her? I remember her cus I was there- where were u housed?
Those poor families had to wait three years for justice. That's terrible. Drunk drivers are the absolute worst. I would know one hit me. Being molested is no excuse for killing two innocent people. Know what's really heart breaking? Having a loved one killed.
sad I feel for the mother as well as the children ,I pray nothing but the best
I like this show
no mention of those killed by this person....and no sign of remorse only self pity and mitigation.....
You are WRONG SO QUICK TO JUDGE!!! They were her friends! She misses them everyday! She's full of remorse you only see the interview about being a mom behind bars, this wasn't about her friends who were with her out on the town, she was the driver. Believe me she misses them! I know because I served 21 year's and 10 were with Deb. Think before you JUDGE her.
So sad especially
Its a sad story, but it is hard for me to feel much pity for the mother when she doesn't appear to feel remorse for causing the deaths of 2 people. She says she was in an accident, but she doesn't seem to want to admit that her choice to drive drunk cost two people their lives. What about the things those people will never get to do now? What about the families of those people? I feel most sorry for the children.
monkeybelle83 I agree fuck her
thats really sad....
Aw this is so sad. People need to realize that their choices may effect others. And everyone makes mistakes. :-(
Our system needs a complete overhaul in regards to maintaining parent child relationships. Especially where fathers are concerned. The purpose of prison is first to pay a debt owed to society, but also to rehabilitate. They get services like counseling, drug and alcohol treatment, and sometimes parenting classes, but very little is done around maintaining healthy relationships. The occasional letters, phone calls, and visits don't cut it. Oftentimes the bond between parent and child is severed. It takes alot of time to fix those relationships if they can be fixed at all. My worry is mostly about men. There are more supports and services in place for women, but very few aimed at men to help prevent reoffending. I think that teaching them how to parent while also maintaining close loving bonds with their children is key. They need to have something to fight for in a system that is designed for them to fail. I think that is what we need to do in order to break the cycle. I know that prison is supposed to be a punishment and it should be. But are we punishing the parents or the children? Because I'm not talking about violent offenders and serial killers, I'm talking about those who committed lower level or white collar type crimes. I typically do not feel sympathy for people who are rightfully in prison. When I was 10 years old my mother was brutally murdered. Because of that and the trauma I still have as an adult I do not care for our current system in regards to sentencing, early releases, and privileges that inmates receive. But I do feel bad for the child of the woman who murdered my mom. He ended up going from one home to the next and now has his own violent criminal record. It is not the child's fault. We need to do more to help them understand and cope
Sorry BUT they're making this about THEM and turning her into a victim. Apparently she wasn't that great of a mom if she has all these kids with different dads and partying. She snatched away life from someone and she wants us to have sympathy and empathy. Is she sorry for victim's family's loss? Nope!!!
Deelicious Grapes
Hi, whomever you are. I’ve spent years with Ms. Phillips incarcerated. She is extremely sorry for what has happened . She shares her story with whom ever is willing to listen so women like me don’t make the same mistake. People whom have never been incarcerated or know someone incarcerated will never understand , that we are not all bad people. This could happen to anyone. This is to whom ever is quick to judge as Jesus says in the Bible “ thou who has not sinned cast the first stone”. No one is innocent and unless you’re God then you have no right to judge my friend whom I call my sister as well.
Actually four kids . Two dads . Keep my cousin name out your mouth 👄
When she get out pirson
I'm praying for you my sister Deb I hope you have been seeking clemency or a pardon under the Obama administration much love
Right Where she suppose to be!
Update
If she was given 2- term sentence 10yrs ran consecutive- and she was there 2003 - she did 17-18 yrs with good time she is probably out
You cannot parent from prison. Gimmee a break. No sympathy.
I know Deb!!! I wad in state prison with her. I can tell you stories for days about EMCF. I've been there 3 times. She was from the same county jail as me to. Thank god I'm no longer in that life style but I can tell u stories about these girls snd tell you even better ones about the CO officers. Baby bye!!! Lol
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Stay out
I can tell by your attitude you'll probably never see this because I'm sure your ass back in there.
BCP '10 negative idiot
Does she have a life sentence?
No she was given two 10yr sentences
no matter what we do in life there is a GOD above that will over look anything if we repent and ask for forgiveness,we can all recover my bad times ,don't wait till its to late.GOD loves us !
GOD IS NOT LIKE US HUMANS,WE FORGIVE BUT REALLY DON'T WHAT, WE DON"T UNDERSTAND THAT WE ARE IN PRISON AS WELL,WERE FREE BUT WERE IN PRISON WALKING ON THE STREET IN HANDCUFFS,I WILL BE PRAYING FOR HER AND LIFTING HER NAME TO GOD TO COMFORT HER AND HOLD HER WHEN SHE FEELS ALONE.SHE'S NOT ALONE !
Don't feel sorry for her don't drink and drive only reason why people feel so sorry for her because she's a woman if it was a man people would overlook she was driving and drinking so she'd paying the price don't feel sorry
what is she in prison for???? did she commit the crime??? is she innocent???? I am on the clock here in Melrose Park Illinois........
dickhead
BCP '10 you are the only dick head bitch
Vehicular manslaughter 2 people died. She was drinking.
I agree with the judge's comments about her rot in jail
God forgives stop judging her she didn't do it willfully gosh
Correct that's why it is called an accident.
Sorry bout the mom but I would love to be son in law
I can't believe anyone one care about sick abuse that made a little incant little girl have too go through and her actions and doing Debra brown rot in heal u deserve it I went through being sexaual abuse and trust me I know it's not ok bla bla