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  • @karinagutierrez7134
    @karinagutierrez7134 Před 4 lety +6523

    A friend of mine says, "Love yourself so much that your partner wouldn't dare to love you any less." It's all about knowing and owning your value and refusing to be treated any lower than what you deserve.

    • @Avenus112
      @Avenus112 Před 4 lety +18

      Or higher.

    • @SR77736
      @SR77736 Před 4 lety +17

      @@Avenus112 tf?

    • @erickillmonger2645
      @erickillmonger2645 Před 4 lety +40

      I think it also aplies when loving someone else. I learned that recently. Gotta love mahself first and I hate myself

    • @abcdefg508805
      @abcdefg508805 Před 4 lety +23

      You’ll still get cheated on

    • @alucardgrayson8382
      @alucardgrayson8382 Před 4 lety +6

      but what if you dont deserve much there is not much value to a person there is a cost Always for everione els but unless you actually have a talent and use it correctly or put others before yourself you dont have really any value unless you think really positve anyway also in what way are we talking value lets make that clear before we talk about self value

  • @MeredithMynroseUniversalHealer

    When people dont recognise your value, LEAVE.

    • @sickkunt1573
      @sickkunt1573 Před 4 lety +30

      but if you strive for some guy who looks much better than you, then don’t expect him to hang around

    • @scottcontreras4569
      @scottcontreras4569 Před 4 lety +7

      Or kick them out.

    • @PolyglotJ
      @PolyglotJ Před 4 lety +10

      What if they're your parents and you don't have another place to go to?

    • @mmoarchives2542
      @mmoarchives2542 Před 4 lety +10

      also know your own value, most ppl by nature views themselves of higher value than they really are to make themselves feel better about themselves

    • @RoxiLog
      @RoxiLog Před 4 lety +1

      Love you!

  • @ReinaSanchez
    @ReinaSanchez Před 4 lety +3110

    When people don't value you, don't get angry get away.

  • @gatsharon6011
    @gatsharon6011 Před 4 lety +657

    I'm pretty sure I had like really high value of myself when I was a child. My motto was "if you don't want me once, I don't want you a hundred". Then something happened during my puberty, don't know what.

    • @magy180300
      @magy180300 Před 4 lety +25

      That also happened to me :/

    • @phloxy_fox96528
      @phloxy_fox96528 Před 4 lety +56

      Usually depression and/or facing the reality that society has so high expectations of you that you are unable to meet them and even if you do, society will still tell you that you don't meet them so you feel bad about yourself. But I do hope you will be able to find that self-value once again :)

    • @a12stones60
      @a12stones60 Před 4 lety +20

      Gat Sharon Me too. I still know the day. It was when I realized the competitive nature of mankind and society, when I was explicitely told for the first time in my life, that they were not interested in me. I was in 6th grade, say 12-13y old. Before that I had 1000% of self-esteem, afterwards none.

    • @chaosmerchant
      @chaosmerchant Před 4 lety +4

      Hormones looool but same

    • @mrsocrates2211
      @mrsocrates2211 Před 4 lety +6

      That's my life, don't know where or when I did wrong.

  • @chantivity1545
    @chantivity1545 Před 4 lety +21585

    Anna is like the one friend who goes to therapy and becomes the therapist of the group

    • @MsRafanatic
      @MsRafanatic Před 4 lety +84

      This is so true!

    • @abiohhai
      @abiohhai Před 4 lety +10

      chan 😂

    • @billlowery1658
      @billlowery1658 Před 4 lety +187

      Or maybe most people are very mentally unhealthy and Anna's healthy lifestyle highlights the unhealthy lifestyle most of us live.

    • @d90b11
      @d90b11 Před 4 lety +12

      *needing her own help the most

    • @alexandrar.4900
      @alexandrar.4900 Před 4 lety +6

      This made me lol 😂 Love Anna’s videos

  • @luciacuevas611
    @luciacuevas611 Před 4 lety +2711

    I want the universe in my contact list

  • @danielj7053
    @danielj7053 Před 4 lety +433

    Roses are red,
    Violets are blue,
    Never underestimate
    The value in you

  • @hetvipatel686
    @hetvipatel686 Před 2 lety +195

    "We accept the love we think we deserve."
    So when it comes to self love, we can only love ourselves truly if we think we are worthy of it. Self worth is the start and the base of loving oneself truly.

    • @PumpyGT
      @PumpyGT Před rokem

      My self worth is probably negative

    • @bbdn5123
      @bbdn5123 Před rokem

      ​@@PumpyGT I don't think it is, I'm thinking out loud here... Perhaps we're afraid. Fear can make things distorted. I believe if we'd take time somewhere calm and reflect on things we'd really trully understand ourselves. If the world wouldn't be in such a chaotic state it's calmness would resonate through us. If only we'd tune into this calmness within ourselves through prayer and meditation it too would reflect back to our world. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I hope and pray we all get into the right feels and state of mind ☝🏽💖🌌💫

    • @fictionlover695
      @fictionlover695 Před 2 měsíci

      How do we think we are worthy? We must earn anything to be worthy in this world...so I suppose this applies to self worth?
      I have this problem with confidence. People just tell me to be confident when I am a nervous wreck before presentation or social stuff, mingling with people, leaving a good impression etc
      But how am I suppose to be confident? Confident stems from Competence and when I have a history of messing up presentations and first impressions...yeah...its hard

    • @MariaStocker
      @MariaStocker Před 18 hodinami

      How do I change the way of love I think I deserve

  • @cherrychan66
    @cherrychan66 Před 4 lety +1814

    "I am worthy of being committed to" I LOVE THIS. Dont settle for someone who's not going to take you seriously💖👍

    • @kericwu
      @kericwu Před 4 lety +9

      That's right! You are worthy! Don't let others put you down!

    • @dzonwatson9718
      @dzonwatson9718 Před 4 lety +2

      I don't actually think there's disrespect in asking for a 'fwb kind of agreement

    • @1st_b
      @1st_b Před 4 lety +25

      I love how girls think that they don’t have to put in any work and are automatically worthy of commitment just because.
      The same way a girl can turn down sex with a guy, a guy can turn down commitment with a girl. Fact is, not all girls are commitment material. You don’t have to like it, but it’s true.

    • @nickc3096
      @nickc3096 Před 4 lety +6

      Chukz Fitness couldn’t of said it better

    • @Etianen7
      @Etianen7 Před 4 lety +14

      It's ok to not want committment or to want just fwb, but it's better if the other person isn't into that kind of arrangement, to leave instead of "settling" and waiting for the other party to change its their mind.

  • @starcherry6814
    @starcherry6814 Před 4 lety +1648

    The $20 theory is really helpful for sexual abuse survivors.
    Sometimes you really do feel like you've lost your value

    • @kortess7900
      @kortess7900 Před 4 lety +15

      Well, if you literally tear the bill into pieces, no shop will accept it and no bank will exchange it for a new one. So it's basically lost its value

    • @soggyturnip
      @soggyturnip Před 4 lety +133

      @@kortess7900 not true. Banks will replace ripped bills

    • @strawwberryyy
      @strawwberryyy Před 4 lety +253

      @@kortess7900 this comment is very inappropriate in this context

    • @thisisntallowed9560
      @thisisntallowed9560 Před 4 lety +30

      Only people who has been abused think they worth less because of that, I view you guys more like survivors

    • @SR77736
      @SR77736 Před 4 lety +107

      @@kortess7900 you missed the point and said something you should've kept to yourself. Pointless.

  • @charlesvictoria6800
    @charlesvictoria6800 Před 3 lety +106

    Whether at work, relationships or in general, if they don’t see your value, moving on is not an option...it’s the only choice.

  • @luciddreamer7897
    @luciddreamer7897 Před 4 lety +239

    I have to admit that after all these years of following Anna, these relationship advices have finally hit. I mean, they always do but not quite enough for me to gather up all my courage and apply them. BUT. I finally broke up with someone whom I felt never truly valued me for me but for the status of being in a relationship. I have never felt this relieved ever since we started dating. I was so good at making excuses for him it was pathetic. Good riddance is an understatement at this point.

    • @IshaSharma11
      @IshaSharma11 Před 3 lety +1

      True ✔

    • @icravedeath.1200
      @icravedeath.1200 Před 3 lety +2

      Do that to anybody, nobodys too good for you, all equal unless proven otherwise.

    • @searipple91
      @searipple91 Před rokem +2

      @@icravedeath.1200 true, but also if someone realizes there is no true added value to their lives by being in a relationship that either lacks depth or is stagnant versus them choosing and rather staying single is no one's business. They made a choise and seem happier for it now, hopefully they're also aware of the downs that this comports. People that prefer not to compromise just to not be alone exist.

    • @user-gs1et6sx4k
      @user-gs1et6sx4k Před 5 dny

      Yes!! I am proud of you🎉

  • @lavayuki
    @lavayuki Před 4 lety +3381

    Guys who say they just want a no strings attached relationship almost never magically fall in love and commit.

    • @sickkunt1573
      @sickkunt1573 Před 4 lety +59

      ofc, why would he settle?

    • @clowy9052
      @clowy9052 Před 4 lety

      @@sickkunt1573 What do you mean?

    • @clowy9052
      @clowy9052 Před 4 lety +26

      @LilEggsy I don't think human relationships are easily applicable to employment metaphors..they're far more delicate and complex.
      Also why even bother getting interested when you don't want to commit?

    • @lavayuki
      @lavayuki Před 4 lety +90

      @@clowy9052 most guys want the sex. For guys, who they sleep with doesn't really matter and they don't get emotional or attached like some girls do. It's just the way it is. I know some girls who like that as well who just want a friends with benefits relationship without commitment, but it's more common in guys overall.

    • @clowy9052
      @clowy9052 Před 4 lety +4

      @LilEggsy ..Yeah none of that computes with me.

  • @sheentheexplorer3859
    @sheentheexplorer3859 Před 4 lety +1492

    Dear Universe,
    Thanks for sending this message through Anna 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • @abnormal4
      @abnormal4 Před 4 lety +1

      I like your pic sheen

    • @andressaoliveira2631
      @andressaoliveira2631 Před 4 lety +1

      Amen!

    • @option-sh9yd
      @option-sh9yd Před 4 lety

      Wait until it sends a meteor....the universe has no mind dude...its just operates certain laws and physics. Only minds do that....

  • @aderiancreature8464
    @aderiancreature8464 Před 2 lety +55

    Ways to get to know your value:
    1. Weekly reflection
    2. Writing affirmations
    3. Therapy
    4. Guided meditation
    > Give yourself time.

  • @MapleDivinity
    @MapleDivinity Před 4 lety +85

    I really like the $20 analogy because it tells me no matter how many times I fall or break, I should know that I am worth it to not accept the same toxic people again and go through a breakup again

    • @alaaaaa4132
      @alaaaaa4132 Před 2 lety +3

      "If we let toxic & disrespectful people into our lives & allow them to stay there, we will have no choice but to form the belief that we are unworthy and don't deserve more.
      "

    • @r011ing_thunder6
      @r011ing_thunder6 Před 2 lety

      Until the bill is ripped.

    • @searipple91
      @searipple91 Před rokem +2

      @@r011ing_thunder6 funny you say that, truth is I would probably patch tha ish up if it had all pieces. 🤣 20$ bill is still a 20$ bill in my eyes, also pretty sure banks have to take it as long as their serial number is legible.

  • @jannn1192
    @jannn1192 Před 4 lety +2602

    What is this a personal attack?
    -Anna Akana 2019

    • @FrogEnjoyer17
      @FrogEnjoyer17 Před 4 lety +110

      Is this like a personal attack or something?
      -Brie Larson

    • @OvSpP
      @OvSpP Před 4 lety +19

      You didn’t understand that reference.

    • @riptidev10
      @riptidev10 Před 4 lety +8

      @@FrogEnjoyer17 YES.

    • @amandamajvind1756
      @amandamajvind1756 Před 4 lety +8

      It’s a reference dude....

    • @abramrexjoaquin7513
      @abramrexjoaquin7513 Před 4 lety +1

      Is Anna Akana single presently?
      What is this, a personal attack?
      -Anna Akana 2019 (july)

  • @tallasianchick
    @tallasianchick Před 4 lety +3144

    Dammit, Anna! Why can't you just let me be sad?!

    • @adityarajsingh5970
      @adityarajsingh5970 Před 4 lety +200

      Because you're a good person and you need to be happy.

    • @Elias_g1
      @Elias_g1 Před 4 lety +8

      @@adityarajsingh5970 ^

    • @jennaligonzales1878
      @jennaligonzales1878 Před 4 lety +5

      😂

    • @OvSpP
      @OvSpP Před 4 lety +19

      Because she cares about you enough to make you happy, just like all of her fans.

    • @danthelion9019
      @danthelion9019 Před 4 lety +9

      @@TheSevenCircle Anna IS the universe

  • @wernerviehhauser94
    @wernerviehhauser94 Před 4 lety +110

    It just happens so often that a person badly over-estimates their value while others badly under-estimate their value. Really knowing your own value is HARD.

    • @OldWivesTales
      @OldWivesTales Před 4 lety +29

      I think knowing your true value is not saying "I'm better than this person!" It's saying "we're all equal and we all deserve to be treated with respect".

    • @wellfuckit9936
      @wellfuckit9936 Před 4 lety +2

      @@OldWivesTales someone said it

    • @mammamonssterr
      @mammamonssterr Před 3 lety +8

      @@OldWivesTales THIS!!!! Because when you know your true value, you know that it doesn't stem from how much money do you make or what car do you drive, you know your worth is inherent. Just because you exists, you have value. And when you know you have value just by existing, as a result you know that people have it too. Because they exist just like you. True self love is knowing that everyone is worth the same. No matter the degrees, the cars, the money. Everyone has worth, no one is superior or inferior. Self love is knowing you are not better than anyone else, and that's fcking ok 💞

  • @faithrogers4787
    @faithrogers4787 Před 4 lety +59

    I really like how you asked how to do this practically. However, as someone who has been doing affirmations for a year, they don't work when something unexpectedly comes along and hurts you and you realize that, after beating yourself up, those affirmations were used to cover up the pain even if you weren't intending for them to. They just aren't working anymore. I learned that if you do not realize it, you shouldn't say it, because the universal language is that of vibrational frequency. If your words don't match your conscience, you aren't learning. Instead, I decided to affirm my intentions. Example: "I set my intentions to honor myself."; "I set my intentions to choose what is best for me." Self-value is such a damn complex topic! I have the logical understanding by personal observation that all humans are created equally, but we live in a world where ego is at work collectively, and therefore, it's difficult for one person such as myself to make a significant change. I learned that, as an adult, others are responsible for their own behavior. What has affected me the most in my life is how others have treated me. I've asked, "If I'm so valuable, why have I been treated this way?" ... but through spontaneity, I learned that something as simple as speaking up for myself, showing my emotion, and establishing my boundaries with others help me to shine my light. I struggle every day to treat myself right, but I know that I can get the furthest if I give a damn about myself.

  • @elemya
    @elemya Před 4 lety +789

    My boyfriend just left me, I definitely needed a little reminder that my value doesn't change whatsoever, thanks Anna and universe for the message

    • @AVILE00
      @AVILE00 Před 4 lety +24

      You'll be fine. Things happen for a reason just keep your head up and realize that you have your own life to live

    • @elemya
      @elemya Před 4 lety +14

      @@AVILE00 thank you for your kindness, things will get better, I don't want to invest emotionally where I'm not appreciated anymore

    • @AVILE00
      @AVILE00 Před 4 lety +8

      @@elemya anytime. I am goings through something myself and at my age I just am not going to waste any more time pulling on a string that isn't pulling back. You'll be just fine. If you need an ear 👂 just let me know

    • @elemya
      @elemya Před 4 lety +5

      @@AVILE00 thank you 🙏

    • @kassymovtrtmmmmmm
      @kassymovtrtmmmmmm Před 4 lety +3

      I CAN BE YOUR BOYFRIEND!!!)) C:

  • @Mandarinetchocolat
    @Mandarinetchocolat Před 4 lety +195

    "I can't just hang out with people without developing feelings", I think I need to say this to someone

  • @Roan.bot.
    @Roan.bot. Před 3 lety +122

    I’m a single, virgin, young adult male, with no relationship experience, and no degree. I know my value. According to the standards of the world I have none. 😅 I’m sure I do but it rarely feels like it. Like everyone kinda looks down on or thinks less of me because of those things especially women I know.

    • @Traumatised311
      @Traumatised311 Před 3 lety +6

      You must be working and making money, keep grinding ,a degree isn't worth it anyway

    • @YogurtwithBerries
      @YogurtwithBerries Před 3 lety +18

      As someone who has no degree living in Korea, I definitely understand what you mean by feeling like everyone looks down on you. I hope you meet someone who isn't shallow to look down or think less of you due to societal standards. There are plenty of people like that, but it's a matter of finding the right time and place and also some luck, so I wish you the very best.

    • @godofdogs6198
      @godofdogs6198 Před 3 lety +3

      Yes, your value like mine is nonexistent until you start doing something

    • @Traumatised311
      @Traumatised311 Před 3 lety +2

      @@godofdogs6198 not trueb

    • @thetourminator
      @thetourminator Před 3 lety +15

      Imma not a therapist, but for one, certainly don't worry about the virgin thing....there are PLENTY of advantages of being one. As for the degree......heck I did not earn mine until age 50 ! I have been reasonably successful financially before 50. As for woman wanting someone with a degree?.....women can correct me if I am wrong but what they want to see is motivation for improvement......educational any other needed areas.

  • @charlottesing1672
    @charlottesing1672 Před 4 lety +40

    Lmao the aggressive ‘I’m beautiful’ in the mirror really got me.

  • @neurobongo419
    @neurobongo419 Před 4 lety +4420

    That 20$ metaphor is mindBLOWING

    • @dianaa.2802
      @dianaa.2802 Před 4 lety +21

      Isnt it !!!

    • @CrazyKemo_0
      @CrazyKemo_0 Před 4 lety +15

      @@dianaa.2802 *deep epic voice* ISN'T IT!!!

    • @redfuse8369
      @redfuse8369 Před 4 lety +55

      Yeah but if you fart on it I don’t want it

    • @CrazyKemo_0
      @CrazyKemo_0 Před 4 lety +87

      @@redfuse8369 But still... Just because you don't want it doesn't mean that it's lost it's value.

    • @nickc3856
      @nickc3856 Před 4 lety +18

      cringe metaphor. doesn't apply to people who allow themselves to be abused and end up used up. Nice cope though!

  • @MarjoSuico
    @MarjoSuico Před 4 lety +971

    I had this friend who kept making fun of my height and Asian eyes. But after watching this, I realised how I should stand up for myself and know my self value.
    Thanks, Anna!

    • @user-zp6nm8op7f
      @user-zp6nm8op7f Před 4 lety +8

      I hope it goes well!!

    • @kamildugosz7280
      @kamildugosz7280 Před 4 lety +46

      Say what? You're beautiful exactly the way you look.

    • @MarjoSuico
      @MarjoSuico Před 4 lety +11

      @@kamildugosz7280 thank you. I really appreciate that

    • @zuzannagula6888
      @zuzannagula6888 Před 4 lety +20

      Remember for some people u r not special but for some people ( like me) asian beauty is desired but not achiveable so you should definitely be proud of yourself, love u!

    • @MarjoSuico
      @MarjoSuico Před 4 lety +1

      @@zuzannagula6888 wow thank you so much

  • @user-wq4qu2kp2q
    @user-wq4qu2kp2q Před 4 lety +15

    I have been learing English and some philosophy through listening to her videos, and she has never ever failed to make me inspired. When I'm down, they cheer me up. When I'm motivated, they make me more motivated. Love you from Japan💕

  • @juanpablogonzalezs.v.8319
    @juanpablogonzalezs.v.8319 Před 4 lety +390

    It's so weird a girl this beautiful would struggled with that relationship example she gave. She can probably get almost any dude she wants. The hard part Is finding the right person

    • @LenaleeLee
      @LenaleeLee Před 4 lety +81

      Juan Pablo Gonzalez S. V. If you look up attachment theory it will make sense. I think Anna (like me) struggled with an anxious attachment style. And no matter how pretty you become, it will unconsciously stick with you as long as the childhood trauma is unresolved.

    • @souldancersbyjennifer
      @souldancersbyjennifer Před 4 lety +57

      Everyone has their problems, regardless of looks for sure...

    • @TariQ-nx3uz
      @TariQ-nx3uz Před 4 lety +19

      Yeah like all the Hollywood stars have no relationship problems...

    • @GuppyPal
      @GuppyPal Před 4 lety +21

      Dude here. No disrespect to AA at all, but even though she is extremely attractive, she seems to be off the charts in trait neuroticism (look it up). People like this are typically extremely difficult to deal with in interpersonal relationships. You could not pay me enough to date her.

    • @jacquemaclmont9805
      @jacquemaclmont9805 Před 4 lety +21

      @@GuppyPal I agree "she seems to be off the charts in trait neuroticism" The contant over analizing would just send your head into orbit.
      Chill out or you'll be single forever

  • @dreamerdreamer2978
    @dreamerdreamer2978 Před 4 lety +389

    I remember a guy once told me I love you but I am not ready for serious relationships because I am too young (he was 23). You are a wife material but we met too early so right now all I can offer is a relationships without any commitment. I said No even though I loved him. Now I am very proud of myself)

    • @chewface
      @chewface Před 4 lety +42

      Reminds me of a girl I met in college who said I was the kind of guy she'd marry, but not date. I cannot emphasize just how much that traumatized me. Still bothers me to this day.

    • @thisisntallowed9560
      @thisisntallowed9560 Před 4 lety +10

      @@chewface It's weird, how did you interpret that?

    • @bento4876
      @bento4876 Před 4 lety +67

      @@chewface It means that you are perfect for settling down after she had her fun and fucked all the Chad's.

    • @riyadey5783
      @riyadey5783 Před 4 lety +56

      Hey guys I'm from the same squad like you two.My best friend gave me major hints that he likes me so when I finally fall for him and wanted to make it official,what he told me was "I love you.I really do but I can't make you my girlfriend or wife. The only relationship we can share is friendship. You are my more than friend but less than girlfriend. You are my half girlfriend."
      And I was there like "WTF".
      I suffered a lot because of him.He gave me excuses why we can't date and we should only stay friends but he kept crossing the friend's line.He wanted all the emotional feel of a romantic relationship from me but not ready to call me his girl because he doesn't find me SEXY ENOUGH (I'm skinny and he loves curvy girls) and He is from highest caste and I am from the 2nd highest caste.And after a month when I finally gave up on him,guess what?
      He got into a RELATIONSHIP with a girl who is from a lower caste and is freaking beautiful and CURVY. And now we are not friends anymore. I find him as a lier and a betraying friend. He still try to talk to me so I just response formally. Sorry for this loooooooong comment.Just wanted to share this with you guys.❤

    • @scottneaves3487
      @scottneaves3487 Před 4 lety +4

      @@chewface lol what she said doesn't even made sense

  • @traplordadrian7053
    @traplordadrian7053 Před 4 lety +1011

    Great message and great example with the $20!

    • @AvidLearner11
      @AvidLearner11 Před 4 lety +4

      Yeah for real, it finally got to me.

    • @UrbanHero92
      @UrbanHero92 Před 4 lety +24

      She got that from a preacher. Saw it on Facebook months ago

    • @CMMaddenJr
      @CMMaddenJr Před 4 lety

      Yes! And if you're done using it for that example...

    • @maryanne2025
      @maryanne2025 Před 4 lety +5

      @@UrbanHero92 yeah ive heard it from more than one preacher

    • @miguelparedes2819
      @miguelparedes2819 Před 4 lety +9

      AvidLearner11 I've heard this example being used many times by a multitude of people.

  • @Cupofgo
    @Cupofgo Před 3 lety +12

    You're so strong and aware for recognizing that you don't have to devalue yourself to deserve the attention of others. I give much respect to your therapist. They are clearly doing excellent work of helping you discover your true and beautiful self.

  • @gowthama2950
    @gowthama2950 Před rokem +5

    "I was so proud of myself u guys". What everyone of us say when we start to help ourselves. I.e., Say No without guilt, Enforce Boundaries, saying what you think, Standing up for yourself, Not pleasing people, striving not for approval, validation and attention and for self care, facing your fears and developing your confidence.
    All the Best Fellow Beings. Amor Fati! and Memento Mori!.

  • @dayanaralopez-cordova556
    @dayanaralopez-cordova556 Před 4 lety +599

    "I'M BEAUTIFUL. I'M BEAUTIFUL. I'M BEAUTIFUL" LOL accurate omg I love her

  • @lindseyjacob1365
    @lindseyjacob1365 Před 4 lety +1007

    Ouch, old you sounds like current me

    • @alexanderringler5747
      @alexanderringler5747 Před 4 lety +35

      I need you to know your value (echo) value... value... value ;-)

    • @lindseyjacob1365
      @lindseyjacob1365 Před 4 lety +20

      @@alexanderringler5747 Universe is that you?! :O

    • @alexanderringler5747
      @alexanderringler5747 Před 4 lety +11

      @@lindseyjacob1365 while we all are a part of the universe, it is true, that I find myself in the role of telling annoyingly my family and friends about the truth, that nobody wants to deal with. :-D so, what part of the universe are you? ;-)

    • @WordsFlowMagnetic
      @WordsFlowMagnetic Před 4 lety +5

      One day, old you will seem like old Anna.

    • @heracles-hunty9856
      @heracles-hunty9856 Před 4 lety +4

      Know your worth! Know your *valuuuuueeee* !

  • @theolivianicolestories
    @theolivianicolestories Před 3 lety +228

    To the person reading this:
    You are who you are.
    You are a gorgeous and beautiful creation.
    You are a masterpiece.
    You are who you are.
    You are strong and courageous.
    You can absolutely do it.
    You are powerful.
    Remind yourself that you are who you are.
    Move forward with your determination, and conviction.
    You can absolutely do it.
    Have a great day ahead,
    Remember you are who you are.
    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @jpmiska2684
    @jpmiska2684 Před 3 lety +5

    I'm loving this channel! It's not only extremely relatable to everyone watching, but it also gives insight to how I'm creating psychological turmoil in other people's lives. Keep up the great content!

  • @yukiharu9726
    @yukiharu9726 Před 4 lety +417

    Anna uploads at the best time... Something I really need to hear rn 😔😔😔

  • @coppersense999
    @coppersense999 Před 4 lety +503

    Make it a habit to accept yourself as you are NOW. Don't make it a habit to be looking for change in 6 months because that 6 months never comes and instead you are left with 30 years wasted on waiting to be and love a different, "better" version of you. Do not self-medicate compulsively with self-improvement.
    The work is NOT to improve but to accept and value who you are NOW with all your flaws and unique beauty, etc. That is the habit that will have payoffs.

    • @silviaov633
      @silviaov633 Před 4 lety +3

      Yes! Thank you ❤

    • @CrystalDatingCoach
      @CrystalDatingCoach Před 4 lety +10

      Yes. But also try to be the BEST you!

    • @zaza-ik5ws
      @zaza-ik5ws Před 3 lety +10

      This same principle can be extended to life. Being grateful for what you have. Count your blessings. The hand you were dealt with may not be optimum but try to see the good, try to be happy.

    • @safala
      @safala Před 3 lety +4

      Yes! I have a belly and I love flat stomach and I was always like once I get flat belly, I’ll start liking how I look like. But a few weeks ago, I realized that getting a completely flat belly would take a long time and I would just waste my time thinking of how unflattering my belly is. So, I’m trying to ignore that (while also working out to actually get to my goal) and focus on the features I like. It’s nice.

    • @anonymous-mg8bo
      @anonymous-mg8bo Před 3 lety +1

      Needed this thank you. Bless you💛🌻☮️❤️🤗

  • @shaunbarnett2972
    @shaunbarnett2972 Před 4 lety +6

    I think you're fantastic Anna. I am 46 years old and have already learned most of which you speak about but sometimes it's good to hear it out loud from someone else and to be reminded of important things. Also, I have found that doing extreme amounts of physical activity, in conjunction with focusing positively, is by far the most powerful weapon to beat negativity, stress, depression and anxiety. It puts you in a whole 'nutha world, it really does. But you must do it for at least a few weeks before you notice big change in how you feel.

  • @sarangsharma5346
    @sarangsharma5346 Před 4 lety +4

    I see a lot of positive energy in you unlike the girls who preach of positivity but are really hallow in terms of energy from the inside . yes take that as a huge compliment, your energy is authentic

  • @JDotWill
    @JDotWill Před 4 lety +324

    This woman is a National Treasure & should be respected & protected as such! 😤

    • @outsideworld76
      @outsideworld76 Před 4 lety +7

      She´s a national walking STD collection.

    • @trueaidooo
      @trueaidooo Před 4 lety +1

      Its true, I'm Nicholas Cage and very much want to steal her

    • @h444teligament
      @h444teligament Před 4 lety

      ***International

  • @lturner4965
    @lturner4965 Před 4 lety +2299

    Actually, I'd still want the $20 if she farted on it, it's still $20🤔

    • @natashalee235
      @natashalee235 Před 4 lety +8

      Same😂😂

    • @FrumpybutSuperSmart
      @FrumpybutSuperSmart Před 4 lety +89

      Just give it a little air out and you're good.

    • @edi9892
      @edi9892 Před 4 lety +72

      If she wiped her ar2e with it, I'd put on gloves and let those douchebags at the bank deal with it...

    • @lturner4965
      @lturner4965 Před 4 lety

      @@FrumpybutSuperSmart right

    • @BenPulido
      @BenPulido Před 4 lety +25

      I'd want it more

  • @kcalianna
    @kcalianna Před 4 lety +1

    Anna, I just want to say thank you so much for being my inspiration. That is what I need right now I know the universe sent you to tell me to value myself.

  • @Kutthroatkawaii
    @Kutthroatkawaii Před 4 lety +3

    Thank you for this. Your vulnerability, your honesty, and being relatable here. The way "know your worth" and "watch out for players" often gets packaged and advertised to us socially always makes me feel this inherent shame, as well as a disconnect from the preferred sex. I think getting hurt, struggling with boundaries, and learning from it all is a tough but also totally normal and necessary part of life.

  • @alliea7546
    @alliea7546 Před 4 lety +406

    This was eerily related to what i was thinking about 20 mins ago. Def a loud confirmation from the universe for me lol

    • @kassie5779
      @kassie5779 Před 4 lety +7

      YOU ARE FREAKING WONDERFUL AND YOU BETTER BELIEVE IT ALLIE

    • @starrr365
      @starrr365 Před 4 lety +1

      Same!!

    • @_special_k_
      @_special_k_ Před 4 lety

      Allie A hmmmm I did not think of that in this way...🤔 maybe it really is a call from the universe

    • @brittany1484
      @brittany1484 Před 4 lety

      Same here

  • @ghaida90girl
    @ghaida90girl Před 4 lety +448

    4:10 aggressively “I’m beautiful “ 😂

    • @ghaida90girl
      @ghaida90girl Před 4 lety +4

      Update
      Thank you to everyone who liked
      Your beautiful 😾

    • @relafen66
      @relafen66 Před 4 lety +3

      You made me click on that 10x

    • @JellyBoulder
      @JellyBoulder Před 4 lety +1

      Definitely worth turning into a gif!

    • @rosalindng7497
      @rosalindng7497 Před 4 lety +2

      LOL THAT PART MADE ME LAUGH SO HARD

    • @dacrimacruentus
      @dacrimacruentus Před 4 lety +2

      I laughed so hard at that part 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @thee_earl
    @thee_earl Před 3 lety +1

    I'm so proud of her!! and also very thankful to her because she makes me strong 💗💗💗🤗🤗

  • @LoryGia1
    @LoryGia1 Před 3 lety +1

    I am so happy that I came across your channel! Thank you so much!! I have so much trouble not being to hard on myself this made me feel not alone and also so light hearted 🙏 thank you for existing ⭐️

  • @kadraeallday5582
    @kadraeallday5582 Před 4 lety +679

    Just got out of a date earlier and the guy said, “I’m not really interested in you anymore”.
    I took it and said “I get it, oh well I had fun”
    He then tried to say “we can be friends though”
    Me: Yeah, I don’t really have the time to do a friend thing with you, sorry man
    Gave myself a high five!

  • @elonzodavis7867
    @elonzodavis7867 Před 4 lety +304

    The 20 dollar bill analogy was good I know peeps who need to hear that

    • @av-do6qc
      @av-do6qc Před 4 lety +3

      Elonzo Davis yeah she proved it keeps its worth unless it’s farted on or becomes nasty

    • @elonzodavis7867
      @elonzodavis7867 Před 4 lety +1

      Abraham Villatoro “in sickness or in health”

    • @av-do6qc
      @av-do6qc Před 4 lety

      Who are you quoting

    • @av-do6qc
      @av-do6qc Před 4 lety +1

      Elonzo Davis and it would be nice if that were true but In truth maybe like 15% of people would probably stick to that

    • @elonzodavis7867
      @elonzodavis7867 Před 4 lety

      Abraham Villatoro I should said the quote and then *sponge bob meme*

  • @genevieveponder9672
    @genevieveponder9672 Před 4 lety +4

    I struggled with validation internally for a while and I believe that giving myself validation for how I get things done vs what I get done is key for me. In Anna’s case she could validated for saying how she really felt to the guys face in a way that was authentic instead just avoiding or going along with him.

  • @ZzFactorzZ
    @ZzFactorzZ Před 2 lety

    I've just come across your videos, and so far the delivery has been so impressive! It's concise, entertaining and provides value to listeners!! kudos to you and your planning, this ain't easy to pull off!

  • @freekvonk8586
    @freekvonk8586 Před 4 lety +140

    my value is not decided by the universe. It is decided by Richard Kevin Harrison from Pawn stars.

  • @simonalane5358
    @simonalane5358 Před 4 lety +132

    The time, care and professionalism on your videos is outstanding

  • @josephferrer698
    @josephferrer698 Před 4 lety +2

    Thank you Anna! You validated what I went through recently. It was not an easy decision, but I felt it was the correct action to take...listening to my heart and not my flesh.

  • @WTFThatsWhatSheSaid
    @WTFThatsWhatSheSaid Před 4 lety +2

    Anna, this just popped up in my recommended videos and it was exactly what I needed in this moment of life! I don't know how you do it, but you have consistently found your way into my algorithm at the precise moments when I need you most, and for that you have my undying love and subscription!

  • @reshmamiriam9289
    @reshmamiriam9289 Před 4 lety +161

    My mom just told me im ugly and didn't inherit her beauty. I know everyone says looks don't matter but deep down I know it does. I feel so sad right now.

    • @Marta-wl6su
      @Marta-wl6su Před 4 lety +107

      This is such a disgusting thing to say to a child... Maybe she just said that during a fight and didn't mean it?
      Parents see their kids as the most beautiful so if she was serious, the problem's in her, not you. Maybe you're not similar to her but you're still beautiful in your own way.

    • @sovereignventure4810
      @sovereignventure4810 Před 4 lety +3

      Good luck

    • @reshmamiriam9289
      @reshmamiriam9289 Před 4 lety +17

      @@Marta-wl6su Thank you .but she meant it.. I have been hearing it for a long time.

    • @bluepharos9748
      @bluepharos9748 Před 4 lety +44

      Conventions looks are just another asset. You either have it or you don't. I personally don't get the obsession with conventional beauty. Truth be told everyone is beautiful in different ways, it's just not the "most sought after" beauty. But I think it's more toxic to think that beauty is necessary. It's okay to not be beautiful. We all grow old and wrinkly eventually. Just one less thing to lose along the way. This is my personal opinion ofc. When I look in the mirror, I like what I see. Not because other people think I'm pretty (they think I'm average at best) but because I've come to terms with my features, every pore on my face, every cellulite and Mark on my body. The world doesn't have to love it, and I don't have to love it. I just have to accept what I see and claim it as mine without shame. Eventually, beauty stops mattering for myself. I'm happy in my own skin.
      (but your mom was terrible for saying that TBH)

    • @ChildOfAnAndroid
      @ChildOfAnAndroid Před 4 lety +38

      @@reshmamiriam9289 The reason you feel deep down that looks matter is because your mum has been emotionally abusing you. If you're told every day that you're ugly you're going to feel like thats the only important thing about you. IT'S NOT. The world is so much more than looks. Everyone gets old and wrinkly and loses their beauty, if you focus only on external beauty you're stuck in a losing battle as beauty will always fade. You seem like a really kind person and I don't want you to be sad. I hope you can get over the horrible things your mum is saying to you and learn to love yourself. look after yourself x

  • @lightblue254
    @lightblue254 Před 4 lety +216

    *me a 15 year old boy and relating more to this channel than anything else*: can I please stay here? I kinda enjoy the love :')
    Also you're the best thearpy type CZcamsr ever, love your stuff👍✨

    • @noatk7485
      @noatk7485 Před 4 lety +12

      💕💕youre doing great! Know your worth💖

    • @cheekypotty6844
      @cheekypotty6844 Před 3 lety

      If u like this kind of therapy i will recommend this vid
      czcams.com/video/YaG5SAw1n0c/video.html

    • @ev5511
      @ev5511 Před 3 lety +2

      yo im a 15 year old boy too :V this channel slaps

    • @colorfullyme
      @colorfullyme Před 3 lety +1

      yooo yes dude-- amazing that you are becoming self aware and working on yourself at 15. I am so thankful for the internet for this. I bet if our parents and their parents parents parents had access to so much great content, there would be a lot less scarred people in the world :D

    • @animamagera8413
      @animamagera8413 Před 3 lety

      You are getting a great start!

  • @IIIAM369
    @IIIAM369 Před 3 lety +1

    Gosh! I love you, just met your channel and I'm totally loving the content you share, thanks for UP vibbing the world with what you put out here making it a whole new world a MIND AT A TIME 💗💕

  • @rikudouray
    @rikudouray Před rokem +2

    If someone's turns you down, your spirit, or maybe your client. Just know that there's something in this universe that will appreciate your value. Just never end the fight! Give thanks no matter what.

  • @seannicholas6667
    @seannicholas6667 Před 4 lety +19

    It's refreshing to show how someone so ridiculously beautiful, intelligent and talented can struggle with their self worth. Young women and girls no doubt look to you for motivation, encouragement and inspiration. Sharing your own insecurities can go a long way to reassuring others that they are not alone.

  • @jenniferfan8756
    @jenniferfan8756 Před 4 lety +30

    This speaks to me so much. Thank you for always helping to build everyone up and empowering them to build themselves up.

  • @theunchosenone6807
    @theunchosenone6807 Před 4 lety +2

    Thank you so much for your videos, you really do make a difference in my life and i appreciate you for that. I hope im lucky enough to meet a woman like you who values self growth and can express themselves. Youre a blessing and i hope you keep up the great work!

  •  Před 3 lety +1

    This is my first time watching your videos. You're truly inspiring and entertaining. I don't think I've ever watched anything as good as your content! Thank you :)

  • @mari-cz9ob
    @mari-cz9ob Před 4 lety +35

    this brought tears to my eyes. i never realized how tough i've always been to myself, thank you for this! though it may be hard, i'll try my best to practice this.

  • @afilmbycam
    @afilmbycam Před 4 lety +20

    Been a fan of your films for a long time but still blown away by the quality. Also, shout out to whoever is doing your effects. They must spend their life masking. Keep up the great work!

  • @OmgitsNeens
    @OmgitsNeens Před 3 lety +25

    I literally said this to the person who tried this with me. I was like, "I know I can't do this. My feelings will grow and I'm going to get hurt. We're not on the same page." He said he understood. WELL about two weeks later I started rationalizing to myself the way "old Anna" did and felt like it'd be better to stay in his orbit and maybe I could grow on him. Of course, this did not work and I hurt myself really bad. I feel like devolved and regressed because I started off strong and ended up weak.

    • @emilyparnell4661
      @emilyparnell4661 Před 2 lety

      The same thing happened to me. I was all caught on him for 6 months and didn't really get over it until he brought home other women.

    • @searipple91
      @searipple91 Před rokem

      To be starved for meaningful connections and risking your wellbeing because of it i see it more as daring and careless than weak. Even more so since you're realizing in hindsight you made a faux pas, I believe you have potential for improving. Sometimes when we might feel like we are regressing it is more likely we are just going at an excruciatingly slow pace. Or we taught we made a huge leap foward but were actually stuck in the same place. I hope in your journey you'll look for and will find better people that treat you well.

    • @searipple91
      @searipple91 Před rokem

      To be starved for meaningful connections and risking your wellbeing because of it i see it more as being daring and careless than weak. Even more so since you're realizing in hindsight you made a faux pas, I believe in your potential for improvement. Sometimes when we might feel like we are regressing it is more likely we are just going at an excruciatingly slow pace. Or we taught we made a huge leap foward but were actually stuck in the same place. I hope in your journey you'll look for and will find better people that treat you well.

  • @sourcetranslations8558
    @sourcetranslations8558 Před 4 lety +1

    Loved this truly insight and mixed in with the humor which is a great combo to get a message across, thank you so much for sharing, this is a beautiful message from the universe that confirmed many things my intuition was telling me thank you again for your vulnerability and courageousness. Anyone on CZcams willing to share who they are and put it out there are brave warriors because the internet can tear you to shreds, disagree with you, opinionated, bring you down, want to laugh at what you believe but want you to respect what they believe, but then there’s the other side which makes it all worth it. 😊🙏🏼👍🏽❗️

  • @LuckyLifeguard
    @LuckyLifeguard Před 4 lety +64

    YES ANNA CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    that $20 bill analog really hit me though

  • @milkbandits67
    @milkbandits67 Před 4 lety +41

    Anna, your timing is perfect. I had a conversation last night that made me question my self-worth and brought this crumpled $20 bill back to life.

  • @sonyy123
    @sonyy123 Před rokem

    Good job girl....thank you for all these short yet greatly helpful videos. More power to you.

  • @FabiaDosSantos1
    @FabiaDosSantos1 Před 4 lety +2

    OMG Just discovered Anna Akana! I just love her! What an inspiration. It's like she's a friend I've known for years!

  • @ElDapperCaballo
    @ElDapperCaballo Před 4 lety +231

    Loved the little southern accent when saying "I love attention"

  • @ericsurita1140
    @ericsurita1140 Před 4 lety +156

    Oh the Irony. The Universe really is talking and I should’ve listened 5 videos ago. Thanks Anna, for being that universe lol.

  • @opencase1839
    @opencase1839 Před 4 lety

    Wow that's real strong of you to put out your experiences and what you got from your therapist. Rock on !

  • @epangit7843
    @epangit7843 Před 4 lety +1

    I love you Anna! Been through a break up and you are helping me get through it. 😊😊😊

  • @wolfgangromine8341
    @wolfgangromine8341 Před 4 lety +5

    Tip I learned from my therapist that helped me with self-love/knowing your value: stop your mind's negative self talk. Stop all of it. Never beat yourself up mentally, or demean yourself, or think poorly of your choices or feelings. Just by noticing and stopping these thoughts it greatly improved my self-confidence and gave me more compassion for myself.

  • @theisadiaries
    @theisadiaries Před 4 lety +10

    I’ve been watching Anna since I was in 8th grade, and I’m now going into my senior year of high school. She has always taught me important lessons throughout my adolescence, and I can’t wait to keep growing. Love you, Anna!!!!!

  • @divinecreations7280
    @divinecreations7280 Před 3 lety +1

    Love this, really discovering my self worth this year and it's where our power lays

  • @ris1470
    @ris1470 Před 4 lety +1

    I love you for this! The universe gave me this as I just went through the same thing😭 thank you universe 🙏

  • @rexiemallari9274
    @rexiemallari9274 Před 4 lety +6

    Your self-awereness is something I truly admire. I wish to one day be as perspective as you.
    And your videos are literally life saving.

  • @fullmetalroyal1216
    @fullmetalroyal1216 Před 4 lety +832

    She looking like a snack in this vid

    • @trueworldprince3939
      @trueworldprince3939 Před 4 lety +6

      stfu

    • @evanvincent9356
      @evanvincent9356 Před 4 lety +13

      Well now we know why you subbed to her.

    • @fullmetalroyal1216
      @fullmetalroyal1216 Před 4 lety +19

      @@trueworldprince3939 make me bish lmao

    • @zespinossa3723
      @zespinossa3723 Před 4 lety +56

      lol my man
      everybody: "wow anna, omg so inspirational"
      fullmetal: "she looking like a snack"

    • @fullmetalroyal1216
      @fullmetalroyal1216 Před 4 lety +39

      @@zespinossa3723 haha not taking away from her message I just thought she was stunning in this vid lol

  • @nes6758
    @nes6758 Před 3 lety

    Adding onto what she said about internalising your sense of self worth. This is so important guys.
    Valuing yourself and building your self esteem means you have to detach you and your value from the materialistic world.
    You are NOT what you have, own, accomplished or look like.
    Once you become satisfied and love you for who you are today, not for what you could be/will be, not for what you could own. But for what you are, flaws and all. This is when you truly value yourself.

  • @javierreyes4677
    @javierreyes4677 Před 4 lety +1

    I’ve seen maybe one of your videos, but this was on my recommended, so I guess this is the universe telling me something! Thank you for making this

  • @o0Avalon0o
    @o0Avalon0o Před 4 lety +19

    *Thank you Anna. I've finally found a form of affirmation that I can enjoy. Aggressively telling myself nice things.*

  • @bosgotnojams
    @bosgotnojams Před 4 lety +37

    I need this *UNIVERSE* in my life.

  • @davidkilby1043
    @davidkilby1043 Před 4 lety +18

    This, young lady, is the most important lesson. Once you really know, you won't settle for less. I wish you luck and happiness

  • @pearl31st
    @pearl31st Před 4 lety +1

    I'm glad she mentioned measure progress in 6 month or even year increments.
    A lot of people say be patient, give yourself time, but they don't say what that means.

  • @tunitoilolo539
    @tunitoilolo539 Před 4 lety +3

    I always love your messages. I'm a teacher and it is definitely tough to function when we don't know our value. It halts or hinders alot of our day-to-day. Btw, your hair is always so bomb ❤️ I'm looking forward to more of your content

  • @Peace5ify
    @Peace5ify Před 4 lety +3

    I’m grateful for the time you spend on these videos. Though this information might be a little difficult for me to take in at the moment, I realize it’s the only way forward. I’m going to try to commit to watching one of these a week along with therapy to put in an honest effort to get out of this hole. Thank you for providing that road with the work you’ve put into this channel.

  • @Twinklesparks
    @Twinklesparks Před 4 lety +5

    Im just kinda realizing how depressed i was and why, i use to always use logic to reason with myself about how i feel. Very black and white stuff. Im so thankful i found your channel.

  • @dontsettle4243
    @dontsettle4243 Před 2 lety

    WOW!! "Okay, well I'm actually looking for a commitment and I can't just hang out with people without developing feelings, so I'll have to bow out but it was really nice getting to know you" -- Anna Akana. WOW Powerful!!! In a world that continuously normalizes toxicity in place of healthy relationships!!! This was on the head, amazing!!! So powerful!!! So Great!!! I'm using this in my life!!

  • @ayaray1100
    @ayaray1100 Před 4 lety +104

    Anna you are glowing!! sis is getting more and more beautiful

    • @Max_Jacoby
      @Max_Jacoby Před 4 lety

      We are all glowing... in infra red spectre...

  • @svmydn_
    @svmydn_ Před 4 lety +64

    Wow the effort put into these videos makes me want to punch the 'like button'

  • @heyJamilya
    @heyJamilya Před 4 lety +3

    Omg, this is what I needed! And you go girl!!! ❤️

  • @danielavictoriareyescortes7051

    Omg I love you so much! The universe send me your message, I'm so happy I laughed so loud thank you! Just what I needed ❤️

  • @imani1483
    @imani1483 Před 4 lety +92

    I love you Anna. Really happy to see your development into this confident, amazing individual who inspires a world of women to be the best version of themselves. Thank you for the daily dose♡

  • @InnerIntegration
    @InnerIntegration Před 4 lety +78

    Brava! 🙌💯

  • @Burchamarama
    @Burchamarama Před rokem

    You are amazing Anna! Thank you so much for the good you’re putting out into the world! You’re also hysterical and I needed a belly laugh today!

  • @anasofiamendez2116
    @anasofiamendez2116 Před 3 lety

    I came across your videos, I had no intention to do anything today I just felt drained and just couldn't stand up. Three of your videos just boosted my mood, thanks.