Owning Your Sexual Power | Amy Jo Goddard | TEDxNapaValley
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- Amy Jo Goddard shares her ideas on owning your own sexual power as part of the TEDxNapaValley 2014 "Going Against The Grain, embracing the unconventional" event.
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Find out more about Amy Jo and her work here - amyjogoddard.com/
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After nearly two decades of working in the sexuality field with every audience you could imagine, from first graders to adult professionals to college students, Amy Jo Goddard dedicated herself to building a successful sexual empowerment coaching practice for women and couples and facilitating her Women’s Sexually Empowered Life Program.
She co-authored the highly successful “Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men” and was chosen as one of GO! Magazine’s “100 Women We Love 2010.” She is currently working on her forthcoming book on sexual empowerment and is directing the film “At Your Cervix” about medical education and pelvic exams. Amy Jo believes sexuality is where our energy begins; if we work on that, it impacts everything else.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
Love this fragment: "The more whole we are as sexual beings, the more fulfilled we are as human beings." It is time to end the inquisition against our sexuality and against our existence as humans, body, mind and soul.
But.. what does that mean exactly?
yeah i guess we’re not enlightened enough to realise the hidden measage behind such word salad
Look at her eyes as she talks. This is someone who has done a lot of introspection.
Shame. Wow. The worst spiritual scar I have is from that.
I drew a picture at the age of nine, of a man and woman, making simple love. I even drew wedding rings on their fingers because I'd realized that one day, I could marry a woman that loved me, and that we could hold each other and touch each other and kiss each other and make love to one another whenever we wanted. It was the most beautiful thing I could imagine.
My mother found it and beat me with a belt.
And every day of my life afterward, that shadow has been over my heart, my mind, my soul, and I don't know that I'll ever find a way past it alone.
The nature of children is to assume their parents are all-knowing and all-just. No young child of my age when that occurred has the capacity to 'not take it personally'. That is the nature of childhood intrinsically. At the age of 12 or 13, yeah, that might be possible. At the age of nine, no. Parents are still seen as infallible, provided they are honorable parents.
Yep. as an adult I've grown to see that. My mother was raised in a small family just as closed and destructively reactive as she grew up to be. Took me many years to see it all. Honestly, I've wanted to do Imago Therapy regarding it for years, but it requires a person to be in love with another, to 're-activate' that innocent and 'soul-centered' place where such wounds reside. Maybe one day I'll find such an awakened and willing woman.
David, I'm sorry to hear that your mother reacted in such a violent and shaming way. I hope you will do your own work on this to heal...you don't need someone else to do it. Imago is great but there are many other venues. A lot of great work being done on the new masculine with people like Destin Gerek and Robert Kandell. Check them out.
Individuals therapy makes the mistake of dredging up feelings, and trying to diminish the emotional 'voltage' around an event by bringing the person through that event again and again. To an extent, it does help. Still, without a person being there with that individual, whom they are in love with, and therefore touched to the same depth in their heart as the person who originally scarred them, who is willing and capable of going through the movements of healing with them, full healing cannot take place. One can only reach so much healing on their own, since were were not 'in love' with ourselves, and didn't wound ourselves. It was done by our original caretaker, whom we were in love with as an infant, and I vehemently believe this, both from experience and the learning.
For me at this point it really doesn't matter any longer. Employment has eluded me despite my efforts for a year and a half, and my body is literally starting to fall apart. The hope required to pursue something as 'optional' and involved as emotional/spiritual therapy is beyond my reach. If you pray, I ask for that from you.
Amy Jo Goddard
Oh wow this is the one of the most amazing TED talks I've ever heard. Every girl/woman needs to watch this. Thank you Amy!
We are already teaching boys that loosing their virginity is a big gain - a big fucking win. And that they are loosers if they don't make it there. There are many good men out there - I got brothers, male friends and loving boyfriend, BUT there are also those that pressure young girls into sex, so that they themselves can finally stop being virgins. My ex was one of those. He was so desperate to loose it, he didn't mind coercing me. And this has happened to multiple - exclusively female (though I know it can happen to guys as well) - friends of mine.
Because it is already a big race and you dont want to be the last one to loose it.
We are already celebrating men for having sex (when they are having it with women).
We need to celebrate women, too and end the disgusting double standard that creates slut-shaming.
And we also need to make it clear: If you don't feel ready, if you don't like it, if you want to wait - that is totally fine - take as much time as you need. Young people need to hear that, just as often as "go, do it, own it".
So true. I'm so afraid for my younger cousins because I know this pressure will be on them. Just praying these double standards go with time.
"Broken" was EXACTLY how I described myself.
imagine a world without shame, people going about their ways, being able to be who they are.
standing ovation.
WHAAAT standing ovulation?!!!
This should be part of the education system. The state of things now are so distorted in this crazy world. Brilliant talk! 🙏🏼
And you're correct, that we're not broken, unless we're committing acts upon others with the intention TO break them. At that point, a person is indeed a broken human being, sexually.
I didn't know how much I needed to watch this until I did this is just something else
the more empowered sexual will mean healing your emotions and your Belief systems ..most of the time we don't even we carry the luggages around.
Pre-Vatican II Irish Catholic guilt and shame were always on tap at my house. Now that I am in a wheelchair, paralyzed, I truly hope there's another life after this one. I'm going to be a Brazilian soccer star given the chance.
nodecafplz I was 19 when I broke my neck and ended up paralyzed. I loved having sex and especially liked to be on top. When I had my wreck I couldn't move anything but my head for a long time but slowly things started coming back. It totally bothered me to think that sex as I knew it would be doomed. I am now 37 and I still love having sex. Yes, some things are a little different but some things aren't. Please don't let your injury discourage your sex life because it is very important. I have found that my orgasms are better than before. I don't know if it's because we get wiser with age, the love of my husband or if it's because my nerves are all over the place good and bad. Maybe it's a little bit of all of it. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to stand up out of my chair and go put a real good hurtin on my husband like pre-accident but I've had to figure out different ways to do that. 😉
Thank you for your kindness. There's a laundry list of issues wayyyyy before the chair begins. Old school catholic parents are heavy on guilt and shame and it was on tap at my house. I live without hope and I don't look down because I'd be too upset to be any good to anyone if I were any more cognizant of my situation.
Ah thanks Jill! That is awesome of you!! I feel better just from you asking. :) I am actually happy as I've learned that if one only takes inventory of what one DOESN'T have, it's that much harder to find one's smile. I do smile, quite a bit actually. :)
nodecafplz that's awesome. No matter what situation we may be in it could always be worse. Enjoy your weekend!
Thank you!! You too!
Wait... That many people feel that way? What?... I am feeling extremely lucky now for never have experienced that kinda negativity. It's crazy. That's for the sharing.
I never felt that way either.
I think you gave an incredible speech, Amy Jo. Thank you for sharing this with us.
I need a longer version of this video
So do I.
more like a netflix series thank you very much
Yes, completely.
great talk! A heartfelt and wholeness approach to a topic that tends to be one-sided.
yeee. as a male, i felt like i could take away from this, for sure.
Apart from her incredible content and way of talking, I just gotta say- wow, this woman has the most beautiful voice and radiates the most beautiful ... feeling. Wow.
Yessss! Thank you, your speech was amazing. I really hope that in the future we all will recover and find back to our natural wholeness! 💞💞💗🎶
I LOVE YOUR HAIR!!!! Your image totally Rocks!!!👌👌
Thank you so much you've uplifted me so much so thanks again
Thank you CZcams and Thank you to the wonderful speaker.
this was very helpful.
AMAZING - Such an inspiring and empowering talk.
Truly inspiring talk... empowering indeed!
I enjoyed thinking about loosing my virginity...rite of passage.
This is a powerful and healing perspective delivered beautifully. Thank you. ♡
Nice pic I bet you have no problem getting a man
Seems consistent with chakra system our energy and vitality is our sexuality
when i was in first grade I drew a picture of a heart and colored it pink with crayon and i left it in the cubby of a girl who i thought was pretty, it was valentines day and i felt compelled to do such a thing, i wasn't in love but i chose her out of whim . . i guess she found it and gave it to my friends because they found me and asked if i had drawn it , i said yes and they laughed raucously and left ,, it was very strange..
What an important talk, absolutely loved it. Thank you very much, Amy!
wow. what a way of speaking. wonderful. and yes. you are correct.
Beautiful... Thank You. “Answer your bliss.”
Very powerful. Thank you from my heart!
Amazing. Thank you so much.
Nice pic
Her voice is so relaxing , z z z
I love this woman honesty!
shes really good with words... to put it lightly! (aka smart,helpful,good teacher!)
Absolutely brilliant
Impressive, informative and even moving.
Excellent, Amy Jo!
That was fantastic Amy Jo. I wanted your talk to keep going on and on. Very interesting and weLL delivered. Have you written any books?
only a 1:17 in and WOW, resonated so deeply in my soul!
Much needed.
#3 should be no 1! It is important but not every individual feels that way which no one addresses ever 🤷🏻♀️
Love you Amy!!! ;* You really have a point to be thought up on...
awesome talk blessed be
I m an indian and in India "loosing virginity" is supposed to be a sin/ crime. my mother thinks the girls who get unmarried til their 32-35 age, are still virgins..she seriously thinks so...I m very helpless with her thought.
If you are married younger like 25 or30 I bet your mom would want you to have kids
I LOVE THIS, THANK YOU SO MUCH AMY 🥰
Awesome
Brilliant !
Brilliant.
How interesting? This women has some knowledge to kick!
God bless you! Your words are amazing!
loved her
this is an amazing ted talk, but i seriously bursted out of laughter when she said "they had colored markers available" at 7:31 XD
amen to this. I want to be a sex coach. I see in society all the time. the shaming and from those who are the fakeist. own your sexality
Wow beautiful
Your voice is beautiful.
Stairs talk is helpful
I didn’t lose it; I gave it.
Thank you woman ❤
Go Napa!!
I really love Yoni because it has a really nice vibration and essence to it
nice!
The Shane part got me real good
WOW! WHAT A WOMAN!
I love you 💖
Why we say FUCK when frustrated!!!! it's because of shame associated with sex, that results in Frustration.
sistah what a great lecture I almost feel like getting it on with an ol bfriend now
I love sex but when u hear some1 say it so beautifully it is beautiful .........ler ........thanks,,,,
Amy Darling take care love u miss u
Just bringing another facet to this discussion: We need to not forget that a lot of us feel safer in monogamous relationships, that STD's still exist--and that years of evolution and our Biology are skewed towards safety.
It is a scientific fact that women tend to release more oxytocin during and after sex --which leads to pair bonding. So a series of casual relationships can work for some , but I believe, can be harmful for a great many others. I want to go into the details, because that can be a thesis in itself, but I think the biggest player in this equation is women really standing up for what they want and not deferring to another's pushing-- for example, when they engage in sex expecting love in return.
We need to understand that this is usually not the way it is for most men.
Man on the other hand need to go back to understanding women and llearning to control their urges and find out what the women want, before pushing their own agendas.
We don't just fornicate like animals--Human sexuality begins in the mind and the heart. Good things come to those who wait, a good story is created by suspense and A rubber band snaps back to the extent that you pull with strongly.
Mutual respect amongst the sexes and developing relationship -as well as courtship and some degree of sexual tension make for a dynamic and ever evolving sex life.
Roya Sani Beautiful Comment.
Is there anyone who does these courses in Australia?
Celesta. I travel and teach. I hope to come to Australia one day. It's possible for people to bring me over to teach.
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Have you ever seen The American Astronaut?
Two thousand years of generations dictated by Religion. When Religion falsely preaches that it’s msg is love. Stealing from people.
I met my wife in 2009 she’s now 65 years old. She would never touch her self as far as I know I’m not sure what the reason is I can’t get her to talk about it even
Why are women able to deliver a speech like this, but men shun away from it?
Barry Island shame & fear
Barry Island I’m a cis woman and I’d never be able to do this lmao
This has a positive and a negative outcome so with the possibility of a bad outcome people will continue to follow religion to be on the safe side
TERRIFIC speech !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:)
Bridges Happen. Bridges Are Real.
I'm trapped in a sexless marriage, how then do I fix my brokenness? An affair? The price to pay for an affair seems too high for me,I can't afford it, neither can my children, nice message but impractical.
Solstice Make him or her want you again. CZcams to get advice on how to do this. If you truly love your partner, then stay and work on the relationship. It will get better with work and being open with each other.
I too was in a sexless marriage after my daughter was conceived.
Communication, that is the starting point of help. Communicate your feelings to your partner and be honest and open. If your partner is ready to listen and really cares for your well being, they would want to help the best they can, and not judge you. If they care for you, they would take your problems seriously and not shrug them off, shame you, or do nothing to help you.
Get into the practice of communicating deeply, honestly and fully to your partner, in every way. If you two have a talk about how communication and being honest is very important for the relationship, things could get better. How can your partner know how you are feeling without this communication and honesty?
I am lucky to have had an experience with someone who has deep communication and honesty about everything he does, and everything he is. I won't settle for non communicative people in my relationships now. If they are not honest and not communicating and not open, the relationships I have will break down, that is just the way it goes. The number one killer of relationships, personally, for me, is not communicating and being honest and open and transparent with each other.
If your partner doesn't know you are unhappy, how can they be supportive of you and want to help you and help the relationship? People are not mind readers. That is why communication, transparency and honesty are so important for relationships.
Just my thoughts on this. I personally feel, the problems you have would be helped by real communicative practices, I am not saying this is the solution for it all, but communication of your unhappiness is the first step to getting better, and it is a healthy practice to keep in your relationship. I know this is an old comment, but, I hope it helps.
Definitely thought the number one thing she was going to say was.
Sniff test
What's this lady talking about ???
Money. Thats the bottom line
I really do wonder what one is capable of accomplishing in any area of one's life the more one's erotic nature is relieved of buried shame and made optimal.
It's always about women's issues. Men aren't allowed to be broken.
TheMacocko youre allowed to be broken .
Didn't you know, we are men and we are supposed to tough it out.
"Shame," a movie starring Alan Ladd
Is she perhaps related to the late Neville Goddard🤔
8:40//
Translation: Follow your passions and you'll be happy. This is the message of our times. Sorry. I no longer believe it.
Not what I thought it was going to be about....
WoW I was gunna comment but I felt shameful about the comment but u kno what I'm saying right hehehe
I am turned off completely of the whole thing. Men have made me feel so unattractive.
V. Smith Don’t give up on love and happiness. I almost did and now I have found my true love. She loves me just the way I am. She is my soulmate. You will find yours if you keep looking, but not expecting it. Don’t give up. Love and the almighty work in mysterious ways.
@@wondermanic I have decided to join a men's group: MGTOW
What she wants in schools would increase teen pregnancies and STD’s by 100%. Not to mention undermining the parents.
I've learned nothing , what a waste of 12 minutes that I'll never get back.
Antonio Chiappetta yet you took the time to comment.... ha!
Stephanie Lynn Tanner
I take it you found value in this talk then?
Stephanie Lynn Tanner lol ikr
You could have stopped watching at any time
8 mins speech was made into 12 mins due to her unnecessarily long pauses.
More lies...about the only subject we know all about.
what a waste of time
Be And it was your comment is a waste of time... Dan it it and I fell for it
thank you so so much Ma'am Amy Jo Goddard 🫶