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  • čas přidán 7. 03. 2023
  • Do you ever feel like nothing you do is good enough? Do you set impossibly high standards for yourself, only to beat yourself up when you inevitably fall short? If you relate, you might be a perfectionist.
    The cognitive model of behavior helps us understand that we can overcome our perfectionism by gradually desensitizing ourselves to the very things we fear. Whether it's the fear of judgment or the fear of not meeting expectations, we can face our fears head-on and come out the other side stronger and more resilient.
    Here are some simple things you can do to start exposing yourself to low-risk opportunities for growth:
    - Go for a walk without a map and challenge yourself to find your way home (and have your phone on you for if you really do get lost!).
    - Press 'send' on that email without reading it multiple times.
    - Say ‘Yes’ before you’re ready.
    - Try a new hobby or skill that you've always been interested in, but too scared to try.
    These might seem like small steps, but they can have a big impact on your confidence and self-worth. Start small and slowly expand your comfort zone - you might just surprise yourself!
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Komentáře • 279

  • @legion8863
    @legion8863 Před rokem +329

    I sent a threat to my boss without reading it 27 times, now i live in a shelter.
    Joke aside, she is right, the way to conquer a fear is to face it

  • @randomz5890
    @randomz5890 Před rokem +80

    Great advice. I feel like perfectionism is the reason why so many people hold themselves back from being their best selves. Excited for more of your videos.

  • @arunprakash6965
    @arunprakash6965 Před rokem +73

    Baby steps toward self improvement when things are scary and doubtful...👏

  • @jenniferironcho3222
    @jenniferironcho3222 Před rokem +31

    She's so well spoken 🌹

  • @AngelBien
    @AngelBien Před 8 měsíci +5

    This is actually super helpful. I never thought of perfectionism as something that can beh healed with exposure therapy

  • @tradehut2782
    @tradehut2782 Před rokem +154

    I feared the king cobra.
    I faced my fear.
    Now I'm in heaven.

  • @jonnyb9586
    @jonnyb9586 Před rokem +4

    My goodness, I cannot quit smiling whenever I watch your videos.😊
    You're amazing. Thanks for the helpful content.

  • @AndreaLikesMusic
    @AndreaLikesMusic Před rokem +12

    This reminds me of getting out of your comfort zone. Just push it a little until it’s not so scary ❤

  • @CatholicForever83
    @CatholicForever83 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I don’t why but this women’s positive energy is amazing.

  • @tiyaji1380
    @tiyaji1380 Před rokem +1

    Absolutely 💯

  • @NowIKnow8
    @NowIKnow8 Před rokem +2

    You are the most charismatic and charming person I have seen on CZcams!

  • @cristi2832
    @cristi2832 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Go girl! Keep empowering others. ❤❤

  • @avlidiqarchava1807
    @avlidiqarchava1807 Před 6 měsíci +1

    You are angel

  • @umeshkirar650
    @umeshkirar650 Před rokem +2

    Love your voice

  • @AscendantPerfection
    @AscendantPerfection Před 7 měsíci

    Omgg I don't think I can.
    I'm all for perfection my folks!

  • @sarahdiv2731
    @sarahdiv2731 Před 6 měsíci

    Yes baby step is how you learn to walk then run 👍

  • @tasinchowdhury5007
    @tasinchowdhury5007 Před rokem +2

    Even I have watched this video 8 times (and counting) to make sure I remember this.

  • @lindaaryani5795
    @lindaaryani5795 Před rokem +3

    This is me 😩 keep checking things 27 times

  • @ana419
    @ana419 Před rokem +1

    Please make a full series of videos on cognitive behavioural therapy.

  • @johnsonyamanguchi9397
    @johnsonyamanguchi9397 Před rokem +3

    Very true, we learn to adapt its situation in a optimistic way.

  • @chainsnPearls
    @chainsnPearls Před 5 měsíci

    Please more videos on perfectionist

  • @crashdashdee
    @crashdashdee Před rokem +2

    Would love more perfectionist content

  • @AnandEvolvingminds
    @AnandEvolvingminds Před 10 měsíci

    Good input!

  • @rainetravels1410
    @rainetravels1410 Před 7 měsíci

    Thank God for email recall😊

  • @gladstoneb879
    @gladstoneb879 Před 6 měsíci

    Perfectionist...baby steps..

  • @vinodrocks1
    @vinodrocks1 Před 8 měsíci

    This seems as easy as you like. But it's spot on. Thats all we need to do, nothing more. Thank you❤❤❤

  • @kasimar
    @kasimar Před rokem +1

    Agree #babysteps is the mantra 🕉️ 😊

  • @deawangi5519
    @deawangi5519 Před 6 měsíci

    The “say yes before you’re ready” 🫠🫠

  • @joannedion
    @joannedion Před 9 měsíci

    Definitely need this

  • @devloper_hs
    @devloper_hs Před rokem +1

    I applied the same, and i am loving the benefits of imperfections

  • @themahesh2168
    @themahesh2168 Před rokem +1

    I love her accent.... ❤️

  • @user-th4ps7pm3b
    @user-th4ps7pm3b Před 9 měsíci

    Part of Cognitive Psychology. God bless us all!!

  • @jaisons4376
    @jaisons4376 Před rokem +1

    Welcome

  • @harmanseehra6409
    @harmanseehra6409 Před rokem

    Shade, I am so obsessed with your voice. Its so soothing.

  • @fififoreverbiz
    @fififoreverbiz Před rokem

    Yess ❤

  • @lilg9250
    @lilg9250 Před rokem

    Thank you ❤😊

  • @wensterolter3660
    @wensterolter3660 Před 10 měsíci

    Thank you ✨✨✨✨✨✨ 💥

  • @aafia_f
    @aafia_f Před 9 měsíci

    I've been doing this unintentionally for years and it works!

  • @piamerida1687
    @piamerida1687 Před 10 měsíci

    Thank you😊

  • @Kiceburg
    @Kiceburg Před 9 měsíci

    ❤❤❤❤😮😮😮😮😮Nice the key word tht made this Magix was desensitize...😮🎉😮

  • @FishOn-um5nx
    @FishOn-um5nx Před 8 měsíci

    Thank you so much have a beautiful wonderful Thanksgiving God bless

  • @InsightfulGIFT
    @InsightfulGIFT Před 6 měsíci

    Good stuff!

  • @amegninounsougan6273
    @amegninounsougan6273 Před 5 měsíci

    THANKS.

  • @alinurhaquetusher2337

    You are awesome

  • @cristi2832
    @cristi2832 Před 9 měsíci

    Always happy to see your videos. Much love xx

  • @tosun227
    @tosun227 Před 8 měsíci

    I wouldn't want to presume but I think I see what you did here. Nice to see you put your words into action :)

  • @phillipsantana2633
    @phillipsantana2633 Před 5 měsíci

    Always enjoy Shades insight on this subject. Well spoken and right off the cuff. I've tried the 3SP technique and it's doing the trick. Probably good to try this one as well , I'll give it a trial run and see how it goes.

  • @AC-iw5mv
    @AC-iw5mv Před rokem +1

    Really helpful video!

  • @alexwebstar
    @alexwebstar Před rokem

    🙏🏽👑✅💙that’s true Shade, I agree

  • @sagarkumardhiman694
    @sagarkumardhiman694 Před rokem

    Thanks ma'am, you're ineffably good.

  • @Deleted_account007
    @Deleted_account007 Před rokem

    Great lesson 🌻

  • @osbornsamuel5700
    @osbornsamuel5700 Před 9 měsíci

    I am Batman, and I can vouch for this!

  • @Raazseven
    @Raazseven Před 10 měsíci +1

    I am scared of heights, gonna try it tonight from roof of my apartment.

  • @ashishkr.4075
    @ashishkr.4075 Před rokem +1

    Perfectionist me getting panic attacks just listening to her recommendations...😅😅😅

  • @leelatrainofthought
    @leelatrainofthought Před rokem +1

    I need to hear this 😅 thank you 😊

  • @tabithacarroll2028
    @tabithacarroll2028 Před rokem +1

    Sometimes bad things do happen in those situations tho. You just gotta keep pushing.

    • @peaceofmindofpeace1650
      @peaceofmindofpeace1650 Před 10 měsíci

      True my fear to fly / travel alone kept me stuck.
      Eventually I did go to Ibiza. Got sick there, ear infection so couldnt fly back on the scheduled date. I had a new job to start on 1 September but I was not back in time.
      Besides, I had doubts feeling unhappy thinkng of the new job.
      I cancelled the job....maybe also bc I felt so sick and the manager asked me if i was 100 % ready to commit etc.
      We agreed that it's best to not proceed
      I had a trauma and had left former job. This was 4 months ago. The new job was perfect with nice pol, I think but everytime I thought of driving to that office I felt depressed.
      Now I regret it but I also am telling myself to not forget I travelled alone and broke the lock in my mind. I will find an equal job again

  • @francobola9920
    @francobola9920 Před rokem +1

    I needed that.🥰😘😍

  • @elegancaesthetic
    @elegancaesthetic Před 6 měsíci

    Please continue to share these important tips🌹

  • @alibajafar6171
    @alibajafar6171 Před 7 měsíci

    Ur beutiful and ur theories are spot on

  • @pujabhandari2079
    @pujabhandari2079 Před rokem

    I needed this

  • @clau6972
    @clau6972 Před rokem

    Thank you

  • @EmmaL19010
    @EmmaL19010 Před měsícem

    Exposure therapy 🙌

  • @tbh7777
    @tbh7777 Před rokem +1

    Someone say her that I m falling in love with her ❤️😂,
    I mean her way of teaching really useful things 😀

  • @frankdavf4599
    @frankdavf4599 Před rokem

    Gracias linda!

  • @akashprasad1
    @akashprasad1 Před rokem

    This channel Is life changing I'm so glad I found you. Looking forward to learn and positively change my life🙂

  • @checoesparza8879
    @checoesparza8879 Před rokem

    Yo....def wonder woman n real life!, baby steps, feel that

  • @muhammadfarooq6671
    @muhammadfarooq6671 Před rokem

    Excllent, and impressive!

  • @user-yw6gg1fl6q
    @user-yw6gg1fl6q Před rokem +1

    Thank you Shade🌷🌹
    You read me well🤣
    Being surrounded with spontaneous people make me take risk too💃
    But that email habit🤭🤦still trying to improve😂

  • @lahongwan4440
    @lahongwan4440 Před 10 měsíci

    Agree with you in this message that the truth thank you again with your baby Step God bless you 🙏❤️

  • @gidalvopinheiro-ho5qb

    Amo suas aulas prof ❤

  • @celissewillis9399
    @celissewillis9399 Před 10 měsíci +1

    When there's trauma, the action actually has to take place first in the mind, before you can take action on the out-side. This means, you aren't always able to just do something that you're afraid of... for me, I had to learn to work on changing my association with swimming in the ocean or going waist level in my MIND, BEFORE I actually started going in & THEN the baby steps started happening more & more in conjunction with the prepped shift in narrative. You have to learn to re-parent yourSelf around certain traumas ie when you start thinking differently, you'll eventually do different & you can even start telling yourSelf that you are proud of the little shifts in awareness & the change in attitude & choices...

  • @veluking9255
    @veluking9255 Před rokem

    Long time ago I watch your video
    Proud of you

  • @enochmuthii3106
    @enochmuthii3106 Před rokem +1

    bring more 😜😚

  • @juhi4
    @juhi4 Před rokem

    I have started doing this before even watching this video.But thanks for the reminder !

  • @itsdee_101
    @itsdee_101 Před 6 měsíci

    Oh my God that would definitely give me so much anxiety, but I’ll try. 🤞🤞

  • @lkaur6970
    @lkaur6970 Před rokem

    Such a great advise

  • @raghu8059
    @raghu8059 Před rokem

    Thanks a lot

  • @Sheerwinter
    @Sheerwinter Před 10 měsíci +1

    🦎 👀 damn!

  • @tasinchowdhury5007
    @tasinchowdhury5007 Před rokem

    Oh hey, I love this video!!

  • @elle7503
    @elle7503 Před rokem +33

    What if something bad _does_ happen, even if its just once. Then ill be scared all over again 😮‍💨

    • @LisekFenek
      @LisekFenek Před 9 měsíci

      Then the king cobra gonna eat you😂😂😂

    • @AndrewMuschett
      @AndrewMuschett Před 9 měsíci

      Quantify and categorize bad😮

  • @mfarhan7729
    @mfarhan7729 Před rokem

    great ty for the advice

  • @belachewsiraw6322
    @belachewsiraw6322 Před rokem

    youre amazingg

  • @fermanaghmediaservices

    You are AMAZING. I’m subscribed to your Chanel permanently. You’re the best 👍🏾

  • @flytoak
    @flytoak Před rokem

    Love it!

  • @sann6688
    @sann6688 Před rokem

    That's really cool!! 😄😁

  • @lavanyaramesh7695
    @lavanyaramesh7695 Před 10 měsíci

    Baby steps❤

  • @gidalvopinheiro-ho5qb
    @gidalvopinheiro-ho5qb Před 9 měsíci

    Amo assistir seus vídeos muito bom❤❤❤❤

  • @saidfarid6382
    @saidfarid6382 Před rokem

    Hello Professor
    Your lessons are excelent and very interesting, i do appreciate your job.
    Thank you so much for your help and advice
    All the best.

  • @andrismihailovs974
    @andrismihailovs974 Před 8 měsíci

    That email part hit in the feels 😂

  • @wolftailxx
    @wolftailxx Před 7 měsíci

    I keep telling that to the lady I'm stalking 😂

  • @asgedtasu763
    @asgedtasu763 Před rokem

    I realy fill it from deep inside .

  • @HARDMAN.
    @HARDMAN. Před 5 měsíci

    Thats happen always in my exam time...but now iam used to.😊

  • @-AkhilTej-
    @-AkhilTej- Před rokem

    🌟Great tips

  • @ulaganathans8118
    @ulaganathans8118 Před rokem

    Cool 💯💯

  • @rajendramisra7194
    @rajendramisra7194 Před rokem +1

    Your English is really very Good. I wish I could speak it with equal esse .

  • @arunshandilya2460
    @arunshandilya2460 Před rokem

    Absolutely amazing mam

  • @faruk-paris1639
    @faruk-paris1639 Před rokem

    Good video

  • @varadmohanpurkar133
    @varadmohanpurkar133 Před rokem

    Thanks for your video contents I'm in love with it.❤

  • @ranjitfmanuel
    @ranjitfmanuel Před rokem +4

    After sending the emails, don't think about it or open it again to see if something is not right 🤔

  • @natmidi9890
    @natmidi9890 Před rokem

    acute thanks