This is why Japanese are SO polite
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- čas přidán 19. 03. 2021
- Hi everyone! Today, we're going to be learning about what makes Japanese people and society so polite! We're going to look at some interesting apps for the phone that can help you to discipline kids. We're also going to talk about how parents and teachers discipline students in Japan.
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Sharou "Honey Lemon 350ml" (dova-s.jp/bgm/play14640.html)
Sharou "極東の羊、テレキャスターと踊る" ( • 極東の羊、テレキャスターと踊る (Sheep... )
Sharou "週末京都現実逃避" (dova-s.jp/bgm/play10961.html) - Zábava
"Let's talk about something less depressing: DEMONS!" Hahahahahaha I swear, I spilled my drink laughing at this bit, the timing was perfect!
Hexactly
I literally had to pause to laugh out loud. The comedic timing and pacing was superb
Agreed 🤣🤣🤣😭🤣🤣🤣
Agreed! Made me laugh so hard!
i choked on my drink lol! i can't get over the festival, like, ritual trauma to keep the kiddos in line. it's really funny but also oh my gosh i feel bad for those little bitty kids who think it's real! i would be SO scared, i was super afraid of mascots and masks as a kid.
i suppose christian americans kinda do the same thing to their kids by telling them jesus is watching and the devil is gonna get em... your festival looks a lot more fun though!
- When I grow up I wont have to listen to your rules anymore.
-You are 36...
Door closes dramatically slow by forces unknown
The Oni will get you!🤣👹
Maybe the oni did it 😃
tell that to a police officer, drunk person...
The idea that when kids grow up, they can do whatever they want to those below them, is toxic as the smoke from the fires of hell!!! Seriously, newborns and the elderly are not as different as people think. Both are people, and it's never good for people to be alone for too long.
lovely!! 😆👌💗🐒
"When you see how polite Japanese are, be grateful for how much fear and pain went into that."
I could never be grateful for someone, anyone having to go through fear and pain. Especially a child. Grateful? Really? Disgusting
@@mariagrenat6147 it’s just our culture, and if you think that’s bad there’s an Oni fire festival where they spank people’s butt with a flaming stick, you guys are such snowflakes
@@mariagrenat6147 Agreed. It pissed me off watching those terrified children cry because they thought they were about to be devoured by a demon.
I'm Japanese and I don't agree with Mrs. Eats at all. I have NEVER hard my friends were hit by parents and my parents also have never hit us, too.
Instead, parents or adults around me including teachers always showed us how to treat others and told us to be polite to others.They are sometimes strict but not violent.
I only had a teacher who hit students when we came late in our high school, but he was the rare case.
Are we polite because of fear??? No way. We would like to be polite because we have been treated politely and feel so comfortable, that's why we want to treat others polite.
I'm really concerned that those youtubers sometimes talk about "negative side" of Japan too biased to earn the numbers of viewers and that seem to entertain foreigners and they assume that it's Japanese standard. But be careful, it's very biased, I don't agree!
@@luluflowers9277 It is difficult to be objective when it comes to judging one's own culture; we are too immersed to see the negative aspects.
I grew up here in Canada in the 1950s and you were almost as likely to be yelled at (and sometimes even given something like a cuff on the arm) by a neighbour as by your own parents. But by the same token, if you were ever in trouble or hurt, you could run into the nearest house (no one locked their doors) and know they would look after you. All in all, it was a societal structure that worked very well and which I never saw abused. The same concepts applied at school. Respect was taught and exercised on all sides.
Yeah i remember my mom talking about how neighborhoods felt like communities back when she was growing up now no one wants anything to to do with each other
@@zamiaramirez1390 It still happens, but it depends on the neigbourhood. It is difficult to implement a social structure in a neighbourhood full of big appartment buildings (typical city image). Especially where people move a lot and only live there for a few years.
@@Black.Spades Can't even do it in the suburbs because everyone is sue happy.
It was the same for me here in the US. My parents (and most my extended family) never locked their doors. Everyone knew everyone else kids, and If I was too far from home, My parents got a call. But I also could always depend on my neighbors to help me out too.
Sounds to me like it's better to live in a space like that where the whole community participates in "corporal punishment" and its opposite rather than have people be isolated and still use corporal punishment behind closed doors. The latter is just so much more lonely and depressing :( like, the kids wouldn't be able to get comfort or understanding about it from anyone if it's just a taboo topic in general...
3 years PROBATION for closing a heavy iron gate on a child’s head and killing them?! WHAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!! 😤😤😤😡😡😡😡
Maybe no one really liked that kid.
@@Grey-Honey-Badger maybe they were scared that they would get the gate too.
The twist that your husband wasn't playing the role of a kid in a bit took me completely by surprise and I haven't laughed that hard in a while.
"May I speak to him for a second?"
"ONIgaishimasu." 🤣
“Let’s talk about something less depressing. DEMONS!” Lmao!
The oni thing also sounds very similar to Krampus in Austria. Way back in the days st nicholas was bringing good children presents and Krampus was supposed to "kidnap and punish" bad children.
Wow!! So interesting! Do they still teach Krampus in Austria to children?
@@MrsEats yes! Well, it is more like a folk tale now and we have a Krampus festival every year where people dress up as devils and demons and March through the street spanking people with sticks lmao
@@Alysana2604 woooow!! That festival must be really funny festivalThank you so much for sharing the story
@@MrsEats I think they also have Krampus in Germany!
We have a kind of similar holiday in The Netherlands called sinterklaas. But some people experience it as racist so it's starting to change a little bit. The "zwarte pieten" (black Pieten) are now in some places in the Netherlands called "roetveeg pieten" (the same Pieten, but now they are not black; they have stuff that comes from a chimney).
The dark skin that they have/had is also from the chimney, but because they have some similar characteristics with African people (Red Lips, earrings, afro) do some people find it racist.
Things that happen when Sinterklaas is in the country are:
- singing songs that are about Sinterklaas and the Zwarte Pieten.
- "schoentje zetten" (placing your shoes in front of the fireplace with water/hay/a carrot for the horse, and the next Day a small present is in your shoe)
- "pakjesavond" (An evening where Sinterklaas and Zwarte Piet come with a bag of presents, this usually happens at the 5th of december)
I would recommend doing your own research on this topic if you want to learn more, or want to have An opinion about it.
I hope you understand my English, I am not very good at it.
@@roos8171 Oh come one, stop spreading that "Rst" BS!
Pete has always been black due to sooth, there was a short period in the late 20th, early 21st century where the gave him red lips to look like a African. Look at pictures from the 50's or 60's and they all look like they came out of a chimney.
If you misbehave you are taken to Spain and will live your live being a Pete and that is why they are black. It has nothing to do with race like those 20 people from KOZP and Sylvana "obey-me-or-I-leave-yet-i-am-still-here" Simons want you to think.
And no those roetveeg(and also rainbow) Pieten are mainly in the big cities, everywhere else we still use the traditional ones.
Have you ever even thought WHY it evolved to where people paint their entire face? Because it is a fing CHILDRENS HOLLIDAY and kids are not stupid, how well is the story going to hold if they can see that the Petes are their neighbour and the neighbourhood cop? It is to make them non recognisable!
Now the real saint might have had a black companion, but he was no slave. Acording to legends he used to be until his freedom was bought, he in turn was so gratefull to the old man that he traveled with him of his own free will.
But that is something we can not prove ofc.
But even if black Pete would represent a black man, why is this bad?
He is friendly, funny and gives candy while the old white man is the scary one. Is it bad for kids to have a black role model?
Most black people that grew up here(including half my family) love him.
So tell me again how a friendly loved black person would be Rst and should be removed? I will tell you, because they want to break every part of our culture to pieces!
Really people don't even know their own folklore
I really love how open you are about the negative aspects of Japanese culture. Every tsingle society has good and bad things about it, I find it really disingenuous to pretend that there are no bad things.
Lmao. She say "You are 36" then the kid close the door by itself. 🤣
I'm not sure stabbing someone or closing their head purposefully in a metal gate count as corporal punishment. Oh my goodness!! 😱
Right! That was....sumthin else lol
i thought it was weird how it counted as "unintentional manslaughter"
who slams someones head in with a big ass gate and expects them to survive?
has he done it before?
Only three months probation for ending a child's life....
Kids were tougher back then.
Exactly! I'M Conservative, I BELIEVE IN SPANKING and that's just plain MANSLAUGHTER to DROP A DAMN GATE ON SOMEONE'S HEAD.
I really enjoyed the skit at the end especially the part, “Your 36” and Mr. eats gives the stink face as the door closes lol
He's a bad boy! I mean, bad, middle-age man!
My grandmother gave me a LOOK. That's all the encouragement I needed.
Ooh. I got that look from my mom. Like a snake and a ferocious tiger in one. A cold and angry glare that made you afraid to look away because you knew if you did that was when it would strike. Brings to mind that saying, hell hath no fury. Well that should've been about angry moms.
obaaa-san
My Grandmother was at Normandy during D Day.
She had very "deep" eyes.
I don't think she ever hit us, but a woman like her didn't need to.
That thousand mile stare is something else.
As for my mom, yeah, the wooden spoon.
Worse than that was labor.
Sun up to about sundown, working in the yard.
I will say that it taught me a lot about landscaping and not to be afraid of work, though.
My Japanese mom didn’t just spank me. I was straight up beaten (and worse). I remember watching a Japanese show and one of the people were explaining how they were hit during their childhood and they say “well, it was a different time back then” and I just thought, “wow so that behavior isn’t even tolerated over there anymore. Guess she just didn’t get the memo”
Disgusting I am so sorry.
I'm sorry. Any sort of laying of hands on children (who are small and often helpless) is reprehensible and detrimental to them. You are not alone.
That's so sad. My mom used to beat me too. I would never spank my kids because I know the effect it had on me.
onee-san....
Japanese children are just different. Tons of American children were beaten and never became obedient. It was a common thing a few generations ago. My father was beaten by his father who was a cop. He never became obedient or polite. It's ok for people to be different. That is what i appreciate about Japan.
You: "Why are Japanese so polite?"
Me: "Why isn't everyone?"
@@EvilXero359 "Am polite because I never been to USA" ahahah
@@user-bf8bt2wf7d But you’re not polite, because that remark was rude.
@@C.O._Jones despite its "rudeness" it is very true. Americans think you have to earn their respect.
@@graverobber6565 true
Because they did not get beaten enough when they where children.
If you want nice children, you have to teach them the difference between right and wrong. If you want polite children, you must make them terrified of upsetting someone.
Where I'm from in America there's an old tale of a monster called La Rougarou- it's like a swamp werewolf that you get warned about as a kid so you don't go wandering off alone. I'm honestly glad for it because the swamp is a horrible, horrible place to be lost in alone.
Louisiana?
@@Clos93 Yep! Are you from there too?
@@Porygeist na , but where else is a Cajun swamp monster story gonna come from? Lol
Here in Texas, and in Mexico too, we have the legend of La Llorona. A weeping woman who lures children to drown to death near areas with water.
Yeah! And LA being part of the Bible Belt we had demons, la rougarou, corpal punishment and mosquitoes. The mosquitos are the worst! And I didn’t even go to a catholic school. Back when I was in junior high that particular school had corpal punishment. I got a paddling from a substitute teacher for not having a textbook when I had not been issued one yet!
Nowadays, kids get warned about child predators. Not a legend---they exist, but overplayed to the point that kids can't travel the way you used to.
It's 3am and this video is making me feel like I'm having some sort of fever dream in the best way possible
Thank you!! Hope you had a god night:)
These apps are the most Japanese apps I have ever seen!
Loved the video, both very funny and educational!
Thank you!
Seeing Mrs Eats run from the creepy uncle. 😂
Kids these days are happy to see a weird old man like that though, lol!
I think your videos are perfect. Seriously. Great info, humor and energy. The background music isn't loud and obnoxious. No intro or anything at the start of the video to skip over. No repeated requests to "like, comment and subscribe." Thanks for the great content.
"Let's talk abt something less depressing... Demons!👹" I CANT
I never have a problem with my two kids... because I AM an Oni.
When my brother is very bad, I can extremely terrify him like I’m the scariest Oni in the world, but I don’t have to threaten to kill him, and I literally don’t even have to touch him, even though sometimes I have to chase him and he thinks that if he doesn’t I literally could kill him. I could, but I wouldn’t. When cousin who is really young, doesn’t listen I stare at her like an Oni that is extremely angry and then she gets so scared and she’s like “I’m so sorry (my name) I’m so sorry!” And she is so terrified, I kind of feel bad, but she doesn’t do it for like at least a week or two, but then she forgets, because how’s a toddler going to remember?
@@krystal5662 everyone needs a sister / cousin like you!! 💯
I'd like to think onis scare their children into obedience with pictures of humans.
only 3 years for taking someone's life? that's unfair.
Right?! Probation at that! Not even jail time! 😤😡
The US has 1.5 Million people in jail, many working as slave labour, and you talk about unfair?
@@tedf1471 yeah. one who takes another one's life, deserves their life to be taken from.
@@anjafrohlich1170 No, my dear. Constructing a better society doesn't mean excluding people from society, it means reforming people. Depending on the case, a killer can't be reformed, but that's a minority of criminal cases. If you agree that, for example, a woman who stole food to feed their kids should be excluded from society instead of looking at what caused that in the first place, then your mind might be a little disturbed. Watch some videos and read about the Swedish jail system and its success rate. Remember, if fear of punishment would prevent people from doing bad acts, jails would barely exist. If you look at sick societies like the US, with the death penalty, that never prevented anyone from doing manslaughter, raping children, and so on.
Oh wow. It’s amazing how similar our cultures are regarding discipline. I’m African and We also had a culture of village discipline (means that the child is the child of the community) and our teachers were allowed to discipline us. And I have stories of being smacked by my mom (I was a troublesome child).
But it’s so sad that it’s getting /it got out of hand.
Wooooow. Pervy grandpa celebrating your accomplishments! 😂
Also we have a phrase like that: "it takes a village to raise a child" even though in the USA we don't really behave that way at all. Very individualistic. So I wonder where the phrase came from. 🤔
You have a very similar saying too! Japanese old villages used to have their own rules!
Maybe its like that because It takes a village to raise a child is an African proverb. Americans don't even like property taxes for schools if its not for thier specific children.
I've heard that saying and think that was probably the case the world over. Parents can't watch their kids 24 hours a day. Unfortunately now in England if you tell a kid off you're likely to be threatened by the parent "don't you shout at my kid". The child sees this and knows he or she can get away with anything as long as its parents aren't around. It's the end of social cohesion.
When communities were smaller
IIRC Hillary Clinton popularized 'It takes a village..." in the US when her husband was running for president, or after he was elected.
Your video editing is absolutely genius lol
Thank you
Growing up my parents always put a strong emphasis on being courteous and treating others the way you would wish to be treated. The first time I visited Japan it was really nice to be amongst a culture in which that way of living is a focal point as well.
You are genuinely so funny and smart and kind, your videos always lift my mood. I can tell you put a lot of effort into them. We appreciate your content! Thanks, Mrs. Eats!
Thank you so much for such a warm words! I'm truly happy to make your day a little better! Thank you!!
noticed that almost right away when i first visited Japan. they have this "dont be an asshole" vibe in the air. i could feel the "fuck everyone" energy i carried in from the US and was Genuinely concerned about contaminating the local environment with it XD
Individuality mindset vs collectivism.
😑
@@tmck4138 we need a balance. I feel both mindsets can be toxic if leans on one side.
@@tmck4138 I'd call it a "me, me, me, I'm the center of the world" mindset vs. a "there's other people besides me living in this world and I wanna get along with them" mindset.
"Let's talk about something less depressing... Demons!"
Yer alright in my book.
Fine line between fear and respect. 👍
5:40 thats what I call a transition 😂
I really like the phrase... yare yare daze. I am not sure how to spell it! It always fires me up when I hear it.
Is it a...
やれやれだぜ
@@lemonlime8635 motherflippin Jojo reference
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@@lemonlime8635 stop talk.
My Japanese friend, who has 3 children, showed me the Oni kara Denwa app on her cell phone a few years ago. I couldn't believe it!
Oh yes, the spanking and hitting children was a big thing growing up in ukraine. Then I moved to Austria and suddenly it wasn't okay anymore, which was such a shock to me. I wasn't allowed to tell anyone that I was still being hit by my family at home because I was scared of them going to jail. So yeah... glad at least in japan they don't do it anymore. Ukrainians and russians are still doing it regularly.
They still do that in Latinamerica also.
I was spanked as well (I'm from the U.S.). I had an Aunt that grew "switch" bushes, those were the worst.
@@jbark678 on god them switches were something else especially when they got more than one
That's so sad
Yea this happens in the u.s too. My sister unfortunately respects the "old school parenting" ways and hits their children with a belt. Belt or no belt it's still physical abuse and can cause really bad trauma. It really doesn't matter, as long as you're hitting someone with all your force with or without an object, that's abuse and it's so wrong.. I wish people knew that you're supposed to speak to your kid like an actual person. Bond with them and that's how they learn. They're supposed to be guided, not hit and controlled. Hell, nobody should be putting their hands on ANYONE unless you're defending yourself. But unfortunately a lot of people think it's okay. It's a very sad world we live in.
In Germany it was similar, but here only the families self and the teachers beat up children. But they mostly reacted to public pressure when it was said "Your kid did this and that".
Here, in Canada, parents are usually lax exempt for one rule: don't talk to strangers and don't trust your neighbors. We do have a mentality of "my kids are mine and mine only", even by the strictest parents.
I love this channel, keep it going Mrs Eats!! 🤗
Thank you so much
I've found discipline across America to be very different. My family used spankings and the threat of making Jesus disappointed to keep us somewhat good. I had friends who were never hit, just talked to and others were disciplined by chores, grounding or running laps, etc. Even had a friend that had to work at his grandpas store if he misbehaved and donate the money he earned. I use a mixture on my kids mainly just explaining why they shouldn't act the way they did but also loss of privileges, etc. I don't spank them though. I just can't bring myself to do it
My parents used the I'm-so-disappointed-in-you guilt trip lecture and then spend an hour in your room thinking about it punishment that spanking rarely happened. Spanking punishment was when you crossed all lines of acceptable behavior that you were out of control. Three hard swats on the butt was all it took because you never wanted it to happen again.
I look at spanking as a parent fail, because nothing else worked. It should at least be last resort.
Imagine striking a child for any reason. That's something to be permanently ashamed of. I can't imagine a single scenario where this makes sense unless you were a cannibal.
"Let me show you how to be a good person, Billy"
*Beats the living shit out of Billy*
"Do you understand now what it means to be a good person?"
@@greglocker2124 you're right. it doesn't make any coherent sense in a social world binded by social morals and standards. Yet, it has worked when all socially acceptable norms are ignored. Ig primitive mode v primitive mode works at times.
@@rp9674it shouldn’t be a resort at all
In the Philippines, parents
Use Aswang (A shape-shifting
Monster usually possesing a combinations of a vampire a ghoul, warlock, and different kinds of species) to scare their children if they didn't listen to sleep early :DD
You and mr Eats sooo funny!!
For me when I was a kid my mom brings out “la chancla” aka the sandal, she raises the radio volume up with salsa playing, whipsmy butt while she’s dancing ..
Talking to children, and explaining exactly *why* something is problematic, I think, is way more effective, than training them to respond to a system of reward and punishment; as the latter only cultivates self-interest, as opposed to understanding and empathy.
Not really, most kids wouldnt listen to you it goes in 1 ear and out the other, reward system to a point isnt bad, rewarding good behavior always a good thing, now rewarding just to reward can lead to issues.
Kids need reasons to do things and saying doing good things will make you a good person doesnt work for them, as they get older they will understand more and need less rewards but young kids need something to drive them to motivate them.
@@7svn. To an extent, I agree, but I think it's still in their best interest, to explain why certain rules are important, as opposed to encouraging blind rule-following. One's formative years, are an extremely crucial period of development, which will shape certain aspects of their personality, for the rest of their lives, and that's really important to remember.
@@anjafrohlich1170 I take it you dont have any kids.
Kids naturally dont want to listen to you.
"If a child does not listen to you, maybe it is because you are not listening to them and they know that."
i know you are trying to sound smart but that doesnt make sense.
It sounds like you believe children need to be mature, thats not what a child is, children should stay to be children, to be learning as they go, experiment and do stupid things.
Just sitting and talking to them and telling them how to behave doesnt always work, reward system works to a point as i said before, dont spoil them but reward good behavior.
i bet you dont have any kids, and if you do i bet they walk all over you and do as they please, thats not good parenting
*He that spareth his rod hateth his son:* *but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.*
For whom the LORD loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth.
Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.
*Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child;* *but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.*
It's hilarious watching your society crumble and your cultures collapse while you clowns sit around thinking you need to coddle children and raise them to think there's no consequences for their awful behavior. I watch children in America actually run around and strike adults and destroy property while the parents sit there and awkwardly smile. You people need to wake up but I doubt that's even possible for the vast majority of you since you've all been crapped out of state indoctrination centers. Your children are rotten devils and they don't even know there's a difference between male and female these days. Probably because their parents don't seem to understand there's a difference between kids and adults. Oh well. Good luck.
Why not do both? Some kids literally just don't listen to only words
I honestly love your sense of humor!
9:02 Actually made me Laugh Out Loud
@@MrsEats Heart from Mrs Eats, *GET!!*
I don’t understand why i love these videos so much
I think it might be because Mr and Mrs Eats are so good together, come across as down to earth people
Here in Canada, the concept of "how will your actions affect other people?" isnt really emphasized very well. But I love that concept 😊, definetly teaching my kids that when I have them one day. Thanks Japan!
I thought it was going to be a fun video as usual but it got quite serious there for a minute
The cheering old man in his skivvies app would be hilarious if it was something that would just randomly start up out of nowhere for no reason, and you sneak it on to someone else's phone.
I can not speak for the whole of Bavaria but I just mimiked my parents especially my mother and Grandmother. So just living and behaving like you expect that your kid does and explaining. The most important part was that they never spoke to us like we (my brother and I) were stupid ... You know belitteling language, kid speech. Just take your children for full, they understand more if they are respected as well. Respect is a twoway street nobody can expect respect if they dont respect the other person.
The best way to teach kids is by example. Like, by far.
in my country (up until the 1970s) there were men selling coal to the houses for heat and cooking: they were dirty (because of the coal) and they had a big bag filled with the coal lumps. The mothers of that time would tell their kids that if they didn't obey, they would sell them to the coal man and he would take them away in the bag XD
In my time and now, we tell the kids that we'll tell the police and they'll go to jail (or in the supermarket, that the supermarket lady/man will yell at them) XD
That first teacher they showed got a seriously easy sentence for involuntary manslaughter. Crazy
Here in Brazil we used to discipline/threat children with stories about the 'Homem do Saco' (an unknown man who takes bad children away in a big sack) and Cuca (some very scary folklore creature) and they worked just like Oni in Japan... Back in my days, we had some physical punishment, mostly being hit with a belt, wood spoon, or flip-flops. I remember my mom throwing one flip-flop very close to my head as a 'warning sign' every time me and my brother got into a fight, and we would immediately stop and apologize. Luckily, she never had to use the belt on us, she was a very kind mom but we were getting into trouble.
İ love this woman's energy♥️ Kind and funny at the same time
that slow closing door... gets me every time
Im so happy that your channel is gaining allot of subs now. I was one of those people who joined around the 5k mark. Keep releasing these vids! More power to you
When you spoke of neighborhood community discipline, it was the same where I grew up in America.
It was common for neighbors to bring the kid to their parents and tell about the bad behavior. Sometimes neighbor gave kids a few slaps on the butt but that didn’t happen a lot.
In school I was “paddled “ on the butt by a teacher for the first 5 years of school. It was never too severe that it permanently hurt me. But I learned my lesson.
If my children were doing something bad while under the supervision of my relatives, friends, church, I would expect them to correct my child if he/she was misbehaving and I wouldn’t be angry if they had to spank my child with their hand. But not with anything else.
The culture is different in different regions of the United States. Example: California would never allow a child to be spanked but many southern states would allow it.
Thank you Mr. and Mrs. Eats for your very informative videos. 🙇♂️
I'm realizing more and more similarities between Japanese and Czech culture. Though some things are changing over the past years, it's still fairly common that children are seen as part of the community. For example, parent's friends (not relatives) are all addressed as "aunt" or "uncle" even the people are not related to the family. Corporate punishment is still common at home but if a teacher would punish a kid, their parents would probably go crazy about it. And fear as a motivation? We don't have demons but devils - they usually come at St. Nicolas eve with St. Nicolas and an angel and scare the children a bit. So I definitely see some things are in common which is pretty interesting :)
Such a great channel! Thank you for the amazing job blending interesting cultural facts and humor.
Let's talk about something less depressing:Demons!
Doom Slayer: Yes, ma'am!
Oh yes!!
A kid will play the Doom-slayer soundtrack if her mother does the oni call. 😂
He'll say. "Bring it"
I can’t remember a time when I was actually disciplined. Growing up, I was always the kind of kid that wanted to keep to myself and be chill (think Yoshikage Kira except he wants to drink tea and play video games a lot).
i feel like i was never really disciplined much. (california, usa) i’ve always been very respectful, so maybe it was never too difficult to discipline me. but i think i could’ve used some growing up haha!
it was so fun watching this video! your sense of humor is so funny! very entertaining, but also very educational! Ja!
Shoutout to Mr. Eats for his mad editing skills! These videos are crisp!!
I've been binge watching all your videos again. So good. 😂
That's very good to hear. There are plenty of Asians in their twenties who tell about being hit so badly by parents and teachers, it is about time that this changes. What puzzles me is that these people quite often joke and laugh about it. They shrug it off and say "it is what it is". I rarely hear them say "this was totally wrong and I will never tolerate this". Maybe they will see it differently when they have kids, but I guess many people don't question their behaviour when it's based on conditioning.
that's their trauma reponse
This video was like a rollercoaster haha. I really love your content Mrs. Eats, greetings from Chile.
Thank you so much!
😂😂😂😂 that is the funniest vid I've seen in ages! Brilliant! ありがとうございます 👍
Sending this to ALL my friends with kids!!🤣🤣🤣🤣love it!
The best way to discipline kids, and husbands, is of course kancho...
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The Demon discipline technique cracked me up! 🤣
Absolutely love your channel 😍
Thank you for the video!
In INDIA no matter how old you become(24 or 37 or 40), here the SAGA of getting hit by mum never ends!!
In Jharkhand mom says Bumbum(a ghost )will come if I don't sleep or behave bad (for 5 yrs and less kids
Ooo, nightmare fuel for sure 😂
I have heard my one of my student's mom threatening to call the demon before. It was for a 3 year old and his reaction to that statement surprised me. He actually calmed down and listened and participated in the lesson.
Your videos are funny and informative! Thank you!
That's the most Japanese apps I have seen so far 🤣🤣
I totally live in the wrong country
As an older sister and a younger sister; I was always giggled at when I cried yet I tried hard not to laugh as my younger sibling cried. Is this just a sibling thing? Like my lil sibling is so adorable when they cry, I find it hilarious. Is that normal? Or am I demented? Obviously if they're crying super hard, are scared, or insanely sad I cheer them up and comfort them.
You and Mr.Eats are funny. I loved the video. Good work as always.
Love this channel!
In Canada kids are born polite. All our rudeness is magically switched over to the wild geese at birth.
Yes, it's true!
I think the more northern you are the more calm you are and the more southern the more mean
I think this way because the equator is hotter than the north and I think they sweat more and get angry more because of the heat
This explains so much. 😮
So it was once common in Japan to hit your children to discipline them for misbehaving, seems not very different to Latino and even black cultures. Though just like Japan, it seems like the practice has been frowned upon now knowing the psychological damage it can actually do to them.
My mother, who's Latin-American, used to do that with myself and my older brothers decades ago. She's since been regretful for her actions and begged for her forgiveness, as she realized she was just perpetuating what she experienced when she was young with her own mother.
It's good to see this act has been toned down in society lately. While I may not personally like it, I see it only as a last resort if your kids do something absolutely stupid or after you've given them leniency far too many times. It's excessive having to do that for every small mistake since they're young and still learning, plus you risk having them fear you instead of love and respect you.
and in regards to Oni, religious parents in the west are very similar when invoking the devil, or Satan himself, to strike fear into children (and also other adults) for them to behave and do as they're told... though unsurprisingly, many go too far as a means of controlling and manipulating others with this fear, especially if they're also extremely religious people.
Oni seem to be treated more as folklore most modern Japanese people don't take very seriously, knowing it's an ancient superstitious myth. Not unlike the idea of Santa Claus, a harmless fantasy being for children who is also a means to keep their children well-behaved... or perhaps more accurately, the myth of Krampus, who savagely beats bad children on Christmas.
Thank you, Mrs Eat! The app you recommended works so well with my daughter! It saves our lives!
Amazing video! You're very creative and I always have a good laugh watching!
Thank you so much!
My introduction to Japanese oni was watching the movie Onibaba several years ago. It's from the 1960s and apparently scared a lot of people at the time!
In Hungary we actually have a different creature to scare kids, my grandmother just came up with a unique name for them. We didnt have a "neighbourhood" discipline we just had people looking down on you if your kid is not disciplined.... Which will do the trick at home. My mother only hit me twice, after that she just had to remind me of that 2 times to not act bad :D im 25 btw
(On the USA) If my children misbehaved in elementary school and were kept after for "detention", they would have to go in early the next morning to apologize to their teacher for disturbing the lesson being taught. The school staff was amazed that my children were "so polite". (And for some reason, I did not realize at the time how unusual this was for students.) Eventually my children learned to behave saved them from the apology the next morning. It was so sad to see that apologizing for misbehavior was considered unusual and special - the USA treats teachers so poorly!
Super interesting as always. Thanks Mrs Eats you are still amazing. :)
Thank you for your kind comment
I am Asian, basically ‘peranakan’, so I get caned a lot when I was little but frankly I am very grateful to my mom for being a very strict mom, I am glad I didn’t turned out being a spoilt brat, I am very grateful. Btw, I am from Singapore! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
We have something similar here in austria, its a Festival called "Berschtln" they all wear those customes too and look really scary. They run around through the town with tin drums an cowbells and theres one "leader" wich is, a witch that is said to invade peoples homes. Many kids are actually excited for this Festival and they can have their own little costumes and participate if they want.
I speak fluently english but there are some words that i had to translate, tell me if they are grammaticaly right pls
Thank you for this honest and detailed video.
My friend, an ALT, had a junior high school student commit suicide early last school year and on her suicide note she partly blamed her table tennis coach. As a result, there was no disciplining at all at the school, the teachers had no control over the students. It went from one extreme to the other and that helped no one. The students got horrible grades that year. It's heartbreaking to hear about stories like that. Everyone just needs to respect people more regardless of their age. We're all people. Anyways, I hope the number of suicide cases go down, especially among the younger people.
Yare yare daze🌼
I didn't need much discipline but the few times I did something bad, my parents disappointment was punishment enough. My dad was a bit hot-headed though and could raise his voice when he got angry. He still can but I think he has calmed down.
Other kids were threatened with källargubben (the basement man). Apparently he was a creepy old man who lived in the basement and he would come and get naughty children. If they didn't have a basement it was brunnsgubben (the well-man). He would crawl out of the well and drag the kids down there with him.
However the latter one was invented to prevent children from falling into wells.
I'm so glad that I found this channel :D
Gosh I really do enjoy your comedy lol. I've been watching you for like 6 days now and I didn't expect to laugh so much lol
Belgian here Well back in the day discipline was similar to what you showed in the video. So physical discipline by parents, the neighborhood and teachers. We also have Saint Nicholas and his helper(s) (depends on the area/country who his helper(s) are) would take you in a bag and hit you etc if you misbehaved. And other stories about what will happen to you if you misbehave. Now all of that is gone. You still get punished, but it's not physical anymore, you get send to the corner, and things are (temporarily) taken from you (a certain toy you like to play with it or something). And no to little stories to scare children anymore. Back in my day we did have stamps which you got if you did something well, but no creepy uncles :P Every year the disciplining is less, so idk how they do it today, as it seems there barely is any discipline left.
Yes, the style of discipline has changed a lot here too!
Hello Mrs eats.yes I remember corporal punishment long ago to discipline your kids.and u had to join the army at 21.im not sure if it's like that today in Japan?but I like that app and i like how they bow when crossing the street.i wish it was like that everywhere. 💕
Some kids bow when crossing the road! I think it’s cute too!
Hahaha! My mother is Mexican, we got a “chancla” (flip flop) thrown at us when we didn’t listen. 😂
I remember getting hit on the knuckles with a ruler by the nun teaching my first grade class.