Is It WRONG To Prioritise Your FRIENDS Over Your PARTNER? | The Hop Pod Ep.44

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  • čas přidán 12. 09. 2024

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  • @organicmemes6488
    @organicmemes6488 Před 4 měsíci +83

    these podcast episodes really need to be longer!! like around an hour for a deeper conversation because 30mins is really too short for a podcast like this

    • @YouGotWatch
      @YouGotWatch  Před 4 měsíci +138

      Fun fact - our recordings actually go on for over an hour 🥲 Who’s keen on longer episodes?? like this comment 👀

    • @Jon-vs5rk
      @Jon-vs5rk Před 3 měsíci

      longer episodes pls!

    • @Skinnypnny
      @Skinnypnny Před 3 měsíci

      Longer episode!!!!

    • @madelynn_18
      @madelynn_18 Před 3 měsíci

      Longer episodes!!

    • @JuzNicky
      @JuzNicky Před 3 měsíci

      i knew it. from the edits. suspected that it feels so constricted.

  • @leisurecontentviewer
    @leisurecontentviewer Před 4 měsíci +27

    this conversation damn relatable and relevant in so many people’s lives right now

  • @85mocg
    @85mocg Před 4 měsíci +21

    Couldn’t agree more with Nicholas’s statement on being the friend that always initiate a catch up or meet up. It can make a person feel like the one that does not initiate is not that keen in maintaining the friendship…
    24:47

  • @evonyeap1864
    @evonyeap1864 Před 3 měsíci +6

    This ep hits me hard. I no longer has any core friends as they’re all married. I’m always the initiator & if I don’t do it, we will never meet or contact. And there are groups where we only reduced to meeting once a year during Xmas & just last year, two of my group of friends also decided to not ‘sound out’ anything. When I asked if we are meeting, everyone says ‘probably can’t cos XXXX’. I felt so… 5th layer friend? So overtime, I decided to always be alone when I used to be a social extrovert. I’m 36…

  • @trevorthai1685
    @trevorthai1685 Před 3 měsíci +7

    Q’s story is so relatable! It’s unintentional but a situation that still happens cos it requires balancing effort and priorities to still meet whether attached or not

    • @Q.lyqian
      @Q.lyqian Před 3 měsíci +2

      🙏🏻 Friendships are hard but if you find your tribe, you’ll always find your way back to each other

  • @BenTT395
    @BenTT395 Před 3 měsíci +9

    on the opposite spectrum, there's me whose ex-gf prioritized almost EVERYTHING over me. be it all her other friends or even her new colleagues for most of the 2 years into the r/s.
    her logic was that she had 'lost' all her friends in the past after she got too deep into a r/s, and she didn't want to repeat it again. basically a type of 'insurance' in case we failed as a couple. (err ok)
    for new colleagues, her logic was that this was a new workplace, and she was trying to 'break' into their culture as she's quite different from them, Chi speaking vs her (Eng speaking), and mostly foreigners and diploma holders (vs her, SG and uni-educated). ok fine. but funnily enough, even after 1 year
    next came all the OTs + unpredictable ad-hoc work outside of work hours since it's the nature of her job (ok fine) but for it to be ALL weekdays..? later on she mentioned that she's basically waiting for another colleague to finish their stuff for her to send it out (this one can do tmr right), and sometimes even after that they all continue chit chatting and chilling in office
    one day i decided to drop by the canteen below her office for lunch since a client's meeting ended nearby, and wow what a coincidence she was also lunching with her colleagues. we saw each other, but guess what, she pretended i didn't exist, didn't want to acknowledge me while i sat alone at a table nearby eating my own lunch.
    the breaking point was when one day she 'happily' told me she was going on a planned holiday trip with her colleagues, and for 2 whole years, i had kept pushing for us as a couple to go on a trip, and would always get rejected for reasons like 'my work now is unpredictable', 'no one can cover for me', 'my mum likely won't allow'
    a waste of 2 years of my life yearning and hoping, and never getting what i wanted.
    (thankfully i found someone ALOT better and am much much much happier now)
    TLDR: whether it's friends or your partner, don't fall to either extreme and only prioritise one side and leave the other side to rot

  • @trevorthai1685
    @trevorthai1685 Před 3 měsíci +7

    The Mango Sticky Rice metaphor was perfect 😂

  • @madelynn_18
    @madelynn_18 Před 4 měsíci +6

    Bruh I relate to Q so much that it hurts. As the single friend amongst all my attached/married ones I really feel like my friendship is taken for granted at times. Back when I was much younger and they all got attached I got angry and resented them because I was putting in so much effort into the friendship but they glossed over it. Resentment led to arguments and arguments led to distance for 1-2 years before things got better again.
    However, it's still hard for me to accept at times because I'm still the one who has to put in more effort because I remember to celebrate their birthdays etc. They have done the same for me but it's little to what I do and I'm not sure if I'm overly expectant or they are not putting in enough because they have other lifelong commitments and I'm just a friend. It's a harsh reality i realised I have to face and suck up because I'm on the shorter end of the stick.

    • @YouGotWatch
      @YouGotWatch  Před 4 měsíci +3

      Thanks for sharing!! Yeah it’s definitely not easy navigating adult friendships cus expectations and commitments change over time. Sending love 🫶🏻

    • @Q.lyqian
      @Q.lyqian Před 3 měsíci +3

      Hope you found some comfort in this conversation!!! 🫶🏼 i hope you and your friends will be able to smoothen things out eventually!

  • @Hallo_winner31
    @Hallo_winner31 Před 4 měsíci +5

    Omg! Exciting!! Pls plan more meetups in weekends! Happy 1st!!! ❤

  • @wundrstruck
    @wundrstruck Před 4 měsíci +4

    The transition from Joie to Nic at 11:54 killed me

  • @iz-lynler4727
    @iz-lynler4727 Před 4 měsíci +5

    joie’s reaction in this episode is so funny MORE OF THIS PLS🤣

    • @YouGotWatch
      @YouGotWatch  Před 4 měsíci +2

      Hearsay more unhinged footage like these will be shown at our gathering 🤭

  • @shuwenwen
    @shuwenwen Před 3 měsíci

    The secret Santa stitch - my friend group just does the gifting among ourselves but the partners can still come during the actual exchange outing just to eat and hang with us if they want to :’)

  • @JemmaSng
    @JemmaSng Před 3 měsíci +3

    happy 1 year anniversary to The Hop Pod team 🥳

  • @y_mich
    @y_mich Před 7 dny

    My ex doesn't like me to hang out with him and his group of friends and got angry whenever I asked if I can tag along (he always mentioned that he needs to entertain me. However, his group of friends also brought their girlfriends to the gatherings and the girlfriends are not part of their 'gang'), and he doesn't like to hang out with me and my group of friends (even though my group of friends are people he knew as we were both from the same poly class) throughout the 9+ years relationship.

  • @moot8107
    @moot8107 Před 3 měsíci +10

    "This is not that kind of channel"

  • @sleepy_dobe
    @sleepy_dobe Před 4 měsíci +5

    Is it just me or is there purple highlights in Q's hair? Looks nice..... 😊

  • @sleepy_dobe
    @sleepy_dobe Před 4 měsíci +5

    31:01 - 31:12 Joie's reaction and facial expression so cute.....lol...

    • @Q.lyqian
      @Q.lyqian Před 4 měsíci +4

      CUTIE PATOOTIE

    • @joietan
      @joietan Před 3 měsíci +1

      ☹️☹️☹️ they bully me..

  • @ChrisRox-rv5sq
    @ChrisRox-rv5sq Před 3 měsíci +2

    The news segment like fun only. More unhinged moments pls

  • @howyouliketacos5428
    @howyouliketacos5428 Před 3 měsíci +2

    Joie I absolutely LOVE your fit!!!

    • @joietan
      @joietan Před 3 měsíci

      thank u!!!!! 🤍🤍🤍

  • @natashayong951
    @natashayong951 Před 3 měsíci

    how do you manage parter time , family time with a child and friend time?

  • @CS-ly6gf
    @CS-ly6gf Před 3 měsíci

    exactly the situation I went through recently

  • @yyyypong5564
    @yyyypong5564 Před 4 měsíci

    Quick survery: how often do you meet your friends?

  • @joietan
    @joietan Před 4 měsíci +7

    FIRST COMMENT

  • @marshyllang8503
    @marshyllang8503 Před 3 měsíci +1

    so real :,,,,,,,)

  • @yuwei8697
    @yuwei8697 Před 4 měsíci +1

    can go to the gathering if i'm below 21 but above 18?

  • @Ko911ed
    @Ko911ed Před 3 měsíci +2

    Drag, dragged,dragging.....😂😂😮😮😅😅

  • @Sharzliciousify
    @Sharzliciousify Před 2 měsíci

    TOM YUMMY