Confidence SECRETS That Will Make You Attractive AF
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!
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Confidence SECRETS That Will Make You Attractive AF
How to become more confident and how to improve your social skills! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals how to be confident in any social situation, how to be confident around people and how to be grounded during social interactions!
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Why am I confident : because I’m me and I’m content with how and who I am
There's still a balance, right? I feel the same, but we still live in a society that needs some sort of standards.
I suffer from some extreme social anxiety. Hats off to that man over there, he is so braveee!!!!…I remember being obnoxiously loud, talkative and having lots of friends to hang out w/. But over the years I stopped mixing with people, even going out on a daily basis is a struggle. There are times I completely isolate myself and stay confined to the walls of my room. I guess I have become a hikikomori. It takes up a lot of courage to go outside. My social anxiety is so bad that I’m even anxious around my close friends. It has affected me a lot. I never type a comment, cuz like my mind keeps on telling me that everyone hates me…I just recently found out about this channel. And I’m so grateful that I did. I’m really looking forward to be myself again. Thank you julien so much, you are doing a great service to people who are struggling. Your vids are awesome ❤ keep it up…!!!
If you want to,consider looking up Marisa peer or John kehoe. Both explain and give techniques for taking back control over your mind. What youre imagining may be the source of your issues. Thoughts and feelings create actions. You can consciously use your imagination to create any thoughts and feelings you choose. With repetition, you can write yourself new thoughts with new feelings and result in new behaviours.
That’s awesome that you are coming out of your shell. Not everyone was meant to like you is what I keep reminding myself of. Once you like you is what matters the most.
Relatable, Now I overthink making jokes even I feel like even making a joke is going to offend someone which is why I say a lot less, among other reasons.
Ugh so me. At some point someone told me I was annoying and now I question everything I do and say
@@daniellestine2250 read First Impressions: what you don't know about how people see you & How to Win Friends and Influence People. Those books will boost your social confidence
The first few moments of this video stood out to me because I genuinely thought that in order to be more confident in myself, I had to be better first. So I would watch all these vids on other people's personalities and speaking styles to 'better' myself, and I felt like I had to earn something before I can become confident. I just want to take a moment to say that I really appreciate you and your vids, Julien.
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I do at one point too. Then as time went I I learned who I was and wasn’t for the first time and felt a certain assuredness in that. A quiet confidence. I was never allowed to be me so no wonder I had no esteem or confidence. I had no baseline or foundation of self. But then I learned thru some heavy lifting who I am. And sorry my father but it’s not a carbon copy of you like you absolutely insisted on by withdrawing if I wasn’t. I say that to say this …. It’s a game changer when we can finally in life (my 40s) say yes I know who I am. We get more acquainted with that person and see all the good we offer. If it’s not for someone else that’s okay and I expect it won’t for everyone. It’s usually the people who don’t have their own true self figured out. They want you exactly how they want you to make themselves feel better. It’s easier than dealing with a confident you with boundaries that you uphold
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Enhancing yourself for others is extremely draining. 😅 I'm really glad I'm over this finally. ❤❤❤
Glad you were able to break out of this! 🔥👊
@@JulienHimself I'm glad that you can help others do the same. You're a freakin Rockstar!!!
@@cararussell2547he doesn't care about your opinion btw
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This guy is great. Total opposite of everyone else preaching self improvement everywhere
"You have changed a lot over the years. In older videos, it felt like you were giving tips from self-help books. But now, these are tips that maybe no one has ever thought of 😅."
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He is still bullshiter. It is visible to the baby
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@@zekaa1 whyyy
@aurostar9805 just watch his energy. Especially when he is trying to relise the trauma from another person. Your eyes see that he is just bullshiting.
Hey Julien, Do you ever feel bad that not enough people appreciate or recognize the great work you are doing and value what you are giving. Or just appreciate your confident.
"Old me" definitely would have... But no, I don't do this for the recognition or validation.
@@peacewarrecordsI’d say money is one of the many effects but not the cause
@@peacewarrecords He does it to help others unstifle themselves, like he unstifled himself.
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@@peacewarrecordsas long as it is true to oneself, there is no shame of making money on something someone is good at. He himself never said he is running a NGO isn't it?
🎯 Key points for quick navigation:
00:00 *🤔 Confidence is not about enhancing yourself but about being who you truly are.*
- The misconception of spiking confidence by portraying oneself as something they are not.
- Using communication skills to distract from authenticity rather than highlighting it.
- The importance of being genuine and confident in oneself without needing external validations.
02:29 *💡 Self-confidence should stem from within, not external validations or achievements.*
- Highlighting who you truly are rather than camouflaging with gimmicks.
- Comparing oneself to adding sauce to a cheap piece of meat versus letting the quality shine.
- Genuine confidence comes from accepting and owning oneself without needing external justifications.
05:37 *🚀 True self-worth comes from accepting and acknowledging oneself as being inherently good.*
- The importance of recognizing that self-worth does not require external justifications.
- Letting go of the need for approval from others to feel good about oneself.
- Embracing the idea that self-love is about removing self-hate, not performing external acts of affirmation.
22:21 *🎭 Non-verbal Communication Exercise*
- Practicing facial expressions can help improve non-verbal communication skills
- Using a mirror to gauge the range of facial expressions can be beneficial
24:07 *🎤 Importance of Tonality in Communication*
- Facial expressions, tonality, and intention play a crucial role in effective communication
- Exaggerating facial expressions and exploring different tonalities can enhance communication skills
25:46 *💬 Elements of Effective Communication*
- High self-esteem, clear intentions, tonality, and non-verbal cues contribute to effective communication
- Focusing on offering value and positive vibes can enhance communication skills
Thanks! This is exactly what I was looking for. How was it done if you don’t mind me asking
EDGSV, thank you for putting that bullet point play list together!
Wow, this Video is soooo helpful! I'm suffering 20 years because of social anxiety and a really low selfworth. After this Video i have a complete new sight about me and others. I'm feeling enough again. And i am aware, that others are enough too.
I love it! ❤
This is one of the most valuable lessons I’ve ever had the privilege to be apart of
Came across on your "The #1 CONFIDENT HACK" video last night. After 4 other videos, now I can express myself more comfortable and faster than many Ted Talks about being confident. Seems like I learn from you is more effective. Thank you so much!
Congratulations brother!
Thank you for spreading.. you own wonderful jam on the internet.
The fist time i saw one of you clips i thought 'oh I love this dude, he just is'
I hope you influence help more people just be themselves
You're so welcome! I'm glad this resonates! 🙌
Once you’re tired of learning, and learning more, and even more about yourself/issues/etc - and you find yourself in that spot built up and almost erupting with frustration between “oh, no but what if” and “f*^# this I need this done for own wellness” - Julien is the one that nudges you over that difficult tipping point ❤🎉
You can feel uncomfortable and still act on it. You’ve got this 💪
I‘m from Germany and I‘m obsessed with your Videos!
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❤What's up from Canada!
I have decided to be happy! It’s my choice to do so! Moving forward I try hard to be positive even when the skies are gray., but when I’m not myself… I remember I! I am the only one in charge of my emotions , my reactions, n my love.
Oh, my God... This was a beautiful video. The parts where Julien asks everyone why they're good enough... Wow. Just wow. That's hitting me so fucking hard right now lol... Thank you posting, thank you for being here.
The question "Are you good enough?" without any context asked with a proud and interrogation-like attitude is strange to me. Are you good enough for what? That's the normal answer for this vague question. Good enough to be a Systems Architect at Amazon? For myself and most others, definitely not. Good enough for professional football? Again, for most of us, no. Good enough to breathe, be alive? For most of us yes, just because we are. Accepting who you are is good and necessary to be confident, like the speaker, but it doesn't mean we are ready to pilot an airplane. So... be confident by being honest and accepting of self, yes, but then to be more confident, we have to honestly grow somehow.
Julien, I know you’re probably tired of my comments but fuck it, here’s another one 🤣
I’ve been studying this stuff like crazy and implementing for long amounts every day. Every day I get better and better. Just wanted to share something that I think is the real thing going on you may find interesting-
After doing much deeper releases where it’s a lot more uncomfortable, I noticed the problem and what’s really going on became very obvious.
It literally is that when you were a kid, you acted in certain ways which were authentic to “you” and deep down you are terrified NOT of the emotions like you said, but of the consequences of doing the thing due to the emotion not being fully processed. It’s like you almost get transported back to that child who did something wrong for a sec when you feel that stab, and you’re almost terrified that in doing it you’ll experience the same emotion and hate again .
In my experience I’ve found this to be true, and that’s how we’ve in essence “disowned” parts of ourselves. This is why it’s so important to tell yourself and authentically mean “it’s okay to be you” because the whole reason it happened is because you are afraid to be you.
It really clicked for me and hope this helps, I hope you can let it land and see if it’s authentic to you as well.
Well said. Trauma in a nutshell.
@@the.kai.eros.experience Thanks !! I found this through personal experience and really listening to my emotions… hope it resonates🤘
I lived a lifetime of masking…what if I don’t even know myself at the moment?
Thank you!❤ I needed that “this is the ideal” view🙏🏼
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Generational Trauma, Chrisitian (mindset) Teachers and school bullying have really destroyed my sense of self and confidence and made me extremely sensitive and demotivated. I can't do anything thanks to Anxiety ADHD further stimulated by toxic relationship. Now I only prioritize on setting boundaries and what videos like yours. This feeling won't go but you can out live it. Thank you
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“Let this land” is gold 😄
😂 I feel like I’m here for this comment. Yes!!!7
Julien your the best man change my life greatly appreciate you
Amazing to hear! I'm glad my content has been so impactful for you! 🙏
@@JulienHimself yeah bro it really is you have some like genius concepts one that really helped me was that happiness should be my default state i dont need anything to be happy that completely changed my life
Yes me too was chasing money, confidence and validation, all I wanted to be was to be myself, to be comfortable being myself and not give a fuck whether it is a group (sometimes can be intimidating) or induvijual. I never ever felt so good. Once more Thank you.
I absolutely love your authenticity. But seriously, you made me relate myself to the sun. When does the sun shine the brightest? When the clouds are removed. Those clouds are different for everyone, whether it is self-deprivation, unattended trauma, harmful vices, etc. When those are removed, you shine bright without the validation of anyone or without the permission of anyone. The sun suns and people peoples. You are you. Embrace it. But of course there’s nothing wrong with a few clouds or storms, as long as you are okay with them. Haha Thank you, Julien!
I imagined the teletubby sun 🌞
@@ColonialT7 😂
I just have to say I really liked your analogy!
That part about making myself the goal of everyone else to aspire to was awesome. If everyone wants to be like me then it all of a sudden becomes ok for me to have my challenges (anxiety, depression, etc). Well it actually reminded me of the couple of days right before I get my period. I start getting down in the dumps, super emotional to where I feel like I’m losing my damn mind. Then my period starts and it explains away everything and I feel like oh that was just a natural part of the process. Everything’s fine! And I am soooo relieved haha!
Oh Julien, thank you so much 💜💛✨💫💜💛✨😍
You are my hero 😊❤️
I am, what I am, what I am and I am good enough. Follow your excitement. Your joy. You will feel good. You won’t care about others opinions, or perceived opinions. You will find, all along, it was always, and only your opinion that truly mattered.
You rock. Just such an amazing dude. You inspire authenticity. That is the only way to be. 👍
Hey Julien, at around 1:50 I love the point you are making that people pump themselves up and try to put up a high vibe all the time (could be a happy smiley face all that time) and that's scamming. But at the same time, I remember in some other video that nobody wants to be around someone boring and monotonous and that makes sense as well and so you should be able to bring up that charisma even when you're in your head. This seems a little contradictory because both seem correct.
One thing says: Take up more space and share joy and happiness and bring up the vibe, be loud and charismatic!
The other one says: Nothing is ever worth compromising your authenticity so if you're feeling anxious, you shouldn't scam people by being superficially charismatic and high energy.
What paradigm should I consider whether both holds true and the contradiction breaks?
I feel like you’re viewing this in extremes. Because time is added into the equation, you can be yourself, and feel aspects of both, depending on when it is.
There's a way to be both at the same time. You can be confidently anxious. Usually people pretend that they aren't anxious or they withdraw, both because of shame. If you remove shame and unveil confidence you can be confidently anxious: You are open about your anxiety, you even joke about it etc.
Julien has always been the goat. So happy to have seen his evolution
Hi Julian i just came across your channel..... it makes so much sense that I wasn't like that aka "introvert" when I was a child. It was true traumatic events and social conditioning that I developed a "PERFECTIONIST" PERSONA THAT I WORE FOR 15 YEARS FUCK THAT SHIT!!!!!!!!!!! I tried removing and letting go my ego and performing reps I HAVE NEVER FELT FREE IN A LONG TIME.... But the thing is it's so hard to be myself in a WORK SETTING..... HALP
REPLY ME JULIAN I NEED THE VALIDATION < LOLLLLLLLLLLL
Julien, Thanks for the great work you're doing, you can't imagine the positive influence you made on my life
Literally i'm remembering all your words and following your advices through my daily life however sometimes it's really difficult to maintain the same energy especially with rejections or when approching a wrong person but i feel great afterall
Out of all the self help videos, Julien has the best❤. He really knows how to make a person feel more confident in himself of herself. I mean hats off to this guy
00:00 🚀 Confidence isn't about adding more; it's about removing distractions.
00:18 🎭 Instead of trying to be "better," focus on being authentic to yourself.
01:13 🎯 Trying to boost confidence with tricks can lead to presenting a false self.
02:41 🛡️ Genuine confidence comes from highlighting who you truly are, not masking it.
04:32 🌟 Real confidence doesn't need external validations or achievements to feel worthy.
06:09 🌱 You are inherently good enough just by being yourself.
08:30 🔄 Letting go of societal expectations and self-imposed requirements is key to self-acceptance.
10:06 🌍 The goal isn't to change yourself into someone ideal; it's accepting and embracing who you are.
12:01 💡 Validate yourself internally rather than seeking external validation for self-worth.
14:00 🚫 External validation won't fulfill you; true self-acceptance comes from within.
16:29 🔍 Self-love isn't about doing affirmations; it's about releasing self-hate and accepting your inherent worth.
18:06 🗣 Effective communication is more about how you feel about yourself than what you say.
Thank you Julien! So grateful to have found you today :)
Self-affirmations are like falling asleep, you have to do it without force, or else it has the opposite effect. By the way, I think it's alright to hide parts of yourself if it's for other peoples sake. Insecurity is basically when you refuse to take all your pain on yourself - and make it everyones elses problem by constantly signaling your needs, which is actually a kind of begging or manipulation
You are hilarious. I’m so glad I came across you.
Thank you 😂 💪💝
You will never be good enough before GOD, to my understanding from going off Christian/Torah/Buddhist teaching’s, no amount of works you do will ever get you to be “good enough” or “clean” we are all dirty and come short before GOD, and we are saved through his grace. I appreciate Julians messages, as I have been watching them myself for a boost, But we must understand we all fall short before a holy all mighty GOD.
this makes me think of a child hood scenario, what if you feel like you cant be yourself around other people, and so you go and find people that allow you to be that self you feel you are on the inside, and then one day, someone you respect, [parent, sibling, past friend] comes along and says, "this isn't you, common, stop it with this cringe shit and get a grip!"
Self Love Is The Cure For Self Hate
Very astute to see the strongest self as the authentic development rather than one chasing external things. A better you is you proper, where you'll find a desire to love authentically that will change what needs to be changed from who you are, for who you are, with what you know should be, and of course, not changing what shouldn't be.
Man you got it!! Very good a wonderful analogy
I've only recently come across this channel and so far it is awesome. As a side note I love the attire or more so the ability for the speaker to wear it and be completely comfortable with the choice. I wish I had that level of confidence.
Watched a couple of your videos and they already helped me soo much in such a short time! Thank you! ❤
Giving me so much peace to pull from. Thanks man.
Love u so much brother...letting go was well explained... But in the end of the video you said some gem but they were not well explained on the level of layer 4 which I call identity..
I understood so much from this...i hope others too.
Julian, you are fantastic!!! You give me so much confidence to just be me!! No bullshit, no false impressions, nothing. Thank you so much. Gary from Scotland 🏴
I notice that I aspire to be authentic and feel good enough... because I don't feel good enough until I am. Yeah, once in a while I realize that those are good things to pursue but really everything is ok already. I am good enough already.
When he said "from the inside out... Everything changes.. and people FEEL IT". I was so happy because then people would like me more 😂 Have got still a way ahead of me
Wow! This is really, very helpful Julien, exactly what I need right now!
18:12 >> wise words on comunication skills
Best video I’ve seen on this topic. Thanks Julien
Your teaching is top notch
Yeah i think i always want to be the best version of myself wich isn't a bad thing but i really need to be less nervous about just being me :)
I seriously did lean in when you started talking about the scratch mark. Why??? I love your advice.
What if someone does something actually wrong, like stealing and crime etc. do they still find that they’re enough because of who they are?
Happy Guru Purnima from India ❤
Genius.
The worst case scenario that bothers me is they thinking that I'm going crazy or insane and that's making my mind goes blank and i dont even know what to do and how to act normally when this scenario pops up in my mind.
I have this same problem. I do Korean yoga, ton of writing, and counseling. Mental trauma is a whole different ball park when it comes to this shit because our mental problems are specifically designed by us. It's been a nightmare for me working through it. For a while all of the videos I'd watch I would just make up another lie telling myself that I'm further ahead then I was which would create yet another mental crash.
"self-love is removing self-hate"
I like this freakin’ guy dude
Hi from Afghanistan 🇦🇫 love your videos and it motivates me❤
Love this
Your videos are very helpful and I learn a lot from them 💯😀
Any chance of seeing a live event in Iceland?😁
This guys legit!
The outfit so terrible ❤ the best speaker ever
brother, confidence comes from not dragging all the hair from the side of ur head onto the top. Hope this helps.
incredible video
omg thank you!
You are absolutely amazing
Uhhh i love this!❤❤❤
As insightful as ever. 🚀🚀🚀🚀
its always about letting go . which is really hard to do .
In fact it's impossible to do, it's not something you do, it's stopping the doing
What do you find difficult about it? Curious to hear more
Right on time🎉
Nice! Be sure to report back with your top takeaway from the video! 🙌
I've no clue what I am if i exclude things I do or have achieved. Those define me.
this one had some good comedy skits, thanks for the wise words as always Julien
Very great video!
It's not about the stuff I'm surrender with but I don't know how to overcome it . I mean I get I tend to be shy and all but for some reason I'm scared of opening up and due to that I create a void vibe that takes the energy away from those who meet it and it's so frustating it also happens with my closest friends
Fire brother - less is more 🔥
I find myself being super fake at work. Often people pleasing
@Julien But why doesn't more equal to confidence? Genuinely I have felt this. I waited for more to come but that just added to my stress and my low self esteem to the point that nothing made me happy or confident. Why is it that it is only at our absolute dumbest that we find confidence and freedom?
I either don’t agree with Julien on this or he is not concise in his preach. I believe almost everything Julien talks about is not confidence but specifically self confidence and this seams to be what you describe.
Confidence stems from competence but confidence can also exist without competence however with one the other is likely to follow and the growth is exponential.
So more does equal confidence because a man who smells good and has a lot of money will have more confidence then a man who doesn’t but they both can have equal self confidence. Everybody hates Andrew Tate but the dude has some amazing takes and one of which is the idea that money amplifies who you are. If you were a dork then you’d become a dork with a lot of money and all that comes with it but still a dork. You want to become “the man” when you have nothing so you’ll be “the man” when you have everything.
Right on!
To the morbid relief question : Me !!! ✋
Love the fit Julien
Let that land.
Julien, what should i do, when i severe emotional trauma and i cant open up about my pain to anyone due to resistance and fear, regardless of how much i let go?
Open up to yourself in a mirror
Self love is the removal of self hate … hmmm
He has Roman Roy vibe in succession 🥰
Let that Land.
wen he askied why im good enough i wood have said oh because my mommy and daddy told me i am and my teechers said im the best!!1 its tru also, ywa i wa a top class student in hillsboro mideschool and mommy said im best and teechers said i was the most likly to succeed and most likely to be most likly to be happy
9:01 that's a trick question 😂😂😂😂
I respect you
I really did watch Julien's videos before networking 😂
Please stop saying "let that land" Let that land.NOTE: even if you don't stop saying "let that land", Julien, you ARE GOOD ENOUGH.
Thanks
Its not bullshitting, as much as its more like ad libbing. You gotta address the individual persons, and figure out the direct approach. Theres always that disconnect inbetween, that moment of decision and hesitation.
Vibration over content
i love this but im stuck with how do you achieve anything with this worldview ?
Here's my step-by-step method: www.julienhimself.com/8p
Julien's new phrase "Let this land"
I noticed that too! 😂