Does Love Change As We Get Older? Defining and Redefining Love as We Enter Mid-Life

How Does Love Change As We Age? Defining Love at a Big Age (Mid-Life)
In this special one-on-one episode, Tashira interviews Margo with a question from our new e-journal "Defining Love at a Big Age." Margo shares how love has changed for her at a big age, and how relationships change under both societal and internal pressures, and in the ways couples work as a unit, but also traverse their own paths.
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[@MaryThiboudeax]

Yes, dating for partnership looks very different at 40 vs 25. Once you take “having a family” off the table ,it forces you to ask yourself tougher questions.

[@Bluu.87]

Margo ate that!!!! Chile I be over here in the amen corner!

[@KayMay12]

Whew. This was powerful.

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[@Carlyon100]

If love did not change between partners, I would find it suspect, disingenuous, shallow. Nothing more numbing than to be moored to an idea and an individual that has passed its prime because of fear and apathy.

[@jenniferl.jonesmaom7347]

Margo this was so good. At my big age (65) i no longer want to be in a relationship. Never been married no children. I just love on my niece and her 14 yo daughter. 💖

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[@ThatAutisticBlackMan]

I love that you used the word "season" because that was something I had to remind myself. The relationship had different seasons before we got married and the raised levels of joy and excitement around getting married that came before and lasted during the honeymoon, it just hit me one day that those same waves of excitement and celebrating come and go from birthdays to graduations to running marathons etc.
I was undiagnosed when we first met and got married. I was a nightmare to myself and to him not knowing the "WHY" with my day to day struggles. That was a tough season of couples therapy and individual therapy and full time work and law school and still finding time to still love one another when we didn't necessarily LIKE each other. I didn't know that I needed routine and if he made his own coffee it threw off my morning ritual of making it leaving it on the night stand so how do I now start my day when manual starts at step three?
We continue to choose one another riding the wave together remembering our promise to not leave the boat just because it got rocky. Trust me when I tell you the mourning of an autism diagnosis is rocky AF. I think the main thing for our relationship was that neither of us grew up believing we could have "this" so it's allowed us to make the rules because what same sex couples in their 40's didn't benefit from was seeing examples of our love. Add to that being black and knowing it could mean being cut off from our religious family.
Love has changed for me as i've gotten older. I know it's more than a feeling but an action displayed in how a person makes me feel in their absence even if it's just in thought. It's getting out of bed to feed an annoying cat not because he's hungry and you want him to stop talking but so that it doesn't wake up your partner knowing you can go back to sleep at the snap of a finger. Lastly I think love changes as we age because our idea of love and what we knew it to mean changes.
(FYI if you find yourself making long comments on youtube, welcome to the club...*not a formal diagnosis)

[@sclement20]

This was a powerful episode for “me” thank you Margo

[@kinshuner]

That was deep and profound! Love the questions and convo.

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[@sharondawilliams7707]

PERFECT!!!👍🏾

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[@StylingwithV]

Margo you hit everything on the nose!! I just love this show

[@charlesblack1086]

Great episode. The political thing is so relevant. I have a friend whose husband is a Trumper and she's the opposite of that. They love each other but have had to find a way to respect each other's beliefs and keep it moving.

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[@PoliticsFashion]

Whew Lawd now that's tough!

[@TMB62]

Love this series so much

[@CARA_MYEL]

A word!!!!! Thank you Margo ✨

[@doinglifewithangela]

It’s always going to be some kind of disagreement