Husband Changes My Ostomy Bag... FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER! | Let's Talk IBD
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- In honor of Ostomy Awareness Day on Saturday, October 7th, my husband wanted to change my ostomy bag! This is a really good idea to have your friends, family member, or significant other perform just in case you are unable to change your pouch. I am really proud Zak knew what he did about my stoma, the ostomy flange, the pouches, the barrier rings, and all of my other ostomy supplies to the extent he did! He's only ever watched me changed it but never participated. Next time, I say we have him attempt with no help! :)
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Hi, I'm Maggie and I have Crohn's disease. I am thrilled to be here sharing my personal experiences with Inflammatory Bowel Disease as well as living with an ostomy. I'm proud to share a little bit from a clinical experience as well, having worked as a GI pediatric nurse and ostomy telehealth nurse. I am so glad you are here. ♥ #ostomy #ibd #chronicillness
We challenge you and your friend, family member, or significant other to change your ostomy together! If you do and you take pics, make sure to tag me on Instagram! (@maggietretton) I'd love to share your pics!
I don't have one and unfortunately due to the nature of what's involved in my care with bathrooming it's to private and personal to share. Although, a sad reality is that it often does get filmed for educational purposes and stolen then being twisted into things that it isn't and in the long run harms and shames those who need the support with such things. That said, I did share the video because it depicts well how uncomfortable needing such things can be because many people assume needing help means it's wanted and we are ok with it and that's not always the case.
Great job ZAK!!!
Awh, hadn’t fully appreciated the real size difference between you two til now 😅that was adorable, but more importantly a really useful, valuable video. Excellent work you two!
Great job Zak ❤
This was one of the most moving videos ever! You show how with love and humor you can have a great time even in awkward moments like this. And for anybody who thinks maggie doesn't need to be embarressed I am sure she knows that too but we all have situations were we can't help ourself feeling a certain way. Thanks for sharing this great moment.
My husband changed my bag for the first 2 weeks because I was so emotional. He is my rock. I love him more and more each day and we have been married 41 years
This makes me believe in true love and companionship ❤ Hard to find these days
Awesome
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Feels odd to say but that just sounds so beautiful ❤
@@mswr3351Sad I gotta agree with that.
My wife has been home from the hospital just over a year now, and I have changed or helped her changer her ostomy from day one. Its just something we did. no second thoughts at all. so glad I did.
WOW Congrats really!
I have had mine since December 20th of 2022. My hubby and 21year old son both or in some situations one of them or the other have helped me change my bag every single time. When I have been in a wound care offices I have been terrified I would look silly not ever having done it alone. I am so blessed becaise I have a HUGE hernia which makes things even more difficult. Someday soon I will learn how to change it myself. I have super sensitive skin and have had leaks so many times we change every other day most of the time. I am just now becoming more comfortable with opaque bags, filters, and am starting to do some parts by myself. I’d be lost without their help and love them so much for being so self less even when I know they are not in the mood to mess with it. I will be having a colectomy, hernia repair, and loop to end stoma change soon and am hoping I will learn at that hospital stay to do it myself. Thanks and I love this video!!!! ❤❤❤
@@cgomez77 You have huge resilience for hardship and your faith must be very strong, that you can say this sentence: " I am so blessed becaise I have a HUGE hernia which makes things even more difficult." It's an ironic statement. I do know what you mean, but I'm impressed w/ your attitude. I don't have a hernia or an ostomy bag to change. It's a very different set of trials, and I am having a very hard time seeing the blessings right now. God bless.
@@cgomez77 my wife has changed my bag Everytime for the last 3.5 years she is 100% my rock. I am a germaphobe and changing my bag gives me super anxiety. And it seems like I'm doing brain surgery it just seems to much for me. A month ago they started the reversal process so they took out the colostomy and now I have an ileostomy, and this is so much harder than before, and now my wife is 6 months pregnant so now I'm changing my bags and it's anxiety city but my wife needs a break. We are under so much stress because this new one leaks all the time and I can't wait for this to be over. It's so much harder than the colostomy bag. I feel helpless lost . And I still have a month and a half or so left of this torture. I used to be nervous about getting everything all hooked up again but I literally cannot wait.
It’s great you are so helpful. I got mines Dec 2017 and have never managed to change it on my own. Thankfully to my husband/full time carer, he doesn’t mind. ❤️
Zach did a great job! I know you were embarrassed but I do agree with Zach that if he had to do it he should be able to do it from beginning to end.
Yeah. As a guy, I guarantee Zac has blown up many a toilet. We’ve all done it.
When I had my bag my husband changed it almost every time. He was such a strong support for me during that time. Love is shown in many ways and changing an ostomy bag for someone is love beyond measure!♥️
My favourite part was him saying he needed a rubber mallet to click your bag on like a paint can 😂 Good job Zak!
Zack you were so gentle and caring. Way to go!
Every ostomate needs someone who knows how to change their appliance. I had open heart surgery once, and pretty much couldn't move for a week or two. My wife had to change my bag. I never had to ask her to do it again, but if I had to, I know she could do it.
Adorable and a testiment to the strength of your marriage! Well done Zach you were superb and treated this whole thing with a perfect balance of the utmost dignity and humour. Maggie - amazing tutor, I really loved this video!
Zak
Take your clothes off all the way and put ocean 🌊 on your body all over your body
Do you want to be friends with me on tex I'm a girl I'm 38 old I'm in a wheel chair my body hurts me every day so if I ask you too play with your body on tex because I cry every day because my body hurts me every day so that why I ask you too play with your body down that for me baby
I was just telling my husband a few days ago that he should really know how to change my ileostomy bag incase he needs to do for me one-day if I carnt.. he didn't seem very interested in trying.. he did so well you have wonderful guy there.. love from England x
He did amazing and his compassion for you and your feelings was simply amazing!
Do you want to be friends with me on tex I'm a girl I'm 38 old I'm in a wheel chair my body hurts me every day so if I ask you too play with your body on tex I'm
He is truly a remarkable person, with a heart full of kindness, a caring nature, and a wonderful sense of humor. May blessings be showered upon him from above.
I don't have an ostomy bag but I'll actively share anyone I see doing this over the weekend. I'm all about disability awareness for everyone
Zac a huge round of applause.
I remmber shaking in the storeroom when I was told to do a Stoma Bag and Flange change for a pstient back then the products were not as flexible or varied.
The patient was so kind to me as the stack of nope cut the wrong size increased and my hands shook with a stern Ward Sister watching my every move.
All I can say is heck did it give me a taste of how challanging having a Stoma could be and I took that patient with me thro 40 years of Nursing.
When I became a Ward Sister I was always grateful for the patient who had a Stoma, who allowed my Students and Trained Nurses to practice doing a full change.
The biggest advice patients gave me was to encourage to allow a friend or family member to regularly do Stoma Care and change especially if a change with products.
Then there is always someone other than themselves who know what the products, how to use and how Stoma behaves so if worst case scenario they can not do Stoma there is someone who can step in and do what is required and if needed guide Nursing Staff on the ward.
So Zac that maybe first time and if Maggie you are comfortable make it a regular teaching/training session in hope you never need Zac's skills but if you do you know he knows what to do for you and Leroy.
Zak was adorable every time he checked in to make sure he wasn’t hurting you! Best husband ever!! 😊
Take your clothes off all the way and put ocean 🌊 on your body all over your body on tex
Take your clothes off all the way for me to see on tex
What a great husband! You my dear are very lucky to have this beautiful
Love husband! God bless you both ❤
Yes he is, and he is also incredibly blessed having such a beautiful and smart wife ❤️
I can see he's a nice guy. Look at his girlfriend! But it took 10 yrs?
Well done Zak , you did a good job in your first attempt, I will have to get Alison ( my wife ) to have a go on mine , she has seen my stoma nurse change mine twice in the 5 months I’ve had Bilbo ( my stoma) and I always change my bag in the bathroom on my own , so it should be interesting
Bilbo Baggins! Great name for your stoma. 😊
I learnt the gauze "volcano" trip to control my output during bag changes from one of your videos 10 years ago. Thank you for all you do❤
I'm surprised this is the first time Zach has changed or it or even helped. I almost passed out on my 4th time changing mine and had to go lie down in bed. After that I had my husband help me. I take the bag off and clean up the barrier ring residue (there's usually a lot and it hurts to get it off near the stoma) and he puts on the powder, barrier ring and bag. I'm SO grateful for his help!
Zak
Maggie has hers since before she met Zack so I imagine she was already an expert and used to do it on her own. Plus she is very shy of and protective of her bag. I am surprise she is letting Zack touch anything! 🤣🤣🤣
@@charocflores Yeah, she is very good, and fast!, at changing it herself. Hopefully mine will be reversed, but I aspire to be as good as she is at changing it someday! ☺
@@charocflores Zak
Hubby did fantastically. 💯
Absolutely one of my favorite videos of all time. Keep smiling. Great vid.
He's a good husband.. ❤
This was so wonderful to watch! I had an ostomy for almos a year way back in 2002. My then husband (now ex due to domestic violence) was horrible to me while I 😂had my ostomy. He literally used my illness as an excuse to abuse me. I was too sick at the time to get away from him. I'm free now, though & will remain by myself. But it fills my heart with such peace to see how loving & helpful Zac is with you! Thank you for sharing! God bless!!!
I have permanent ileostomy bag since long and first time came to know this trick of making paper towel wrap around active ileostomy while changing :) Nice!
Ostomy awareness and Phillies playoff game are the same day! Go Phils!
Maggie Zac is sweating !!! What a precious soul he is❤
Zak
It will me two years in November that I have had a urostomy and my husband has changed it from day one. I take it off and prep it he cuts and applies the bag. He does know how I prep it also he has always helped. We are a team. 😊
I consider myself very lucky. When I got my ostomy my wife tried to learn anything and everything about it so she actually changes my bags every time unless I have some kind of emergency where she’s not there.
I've been changing my husband's from the day he came home from the hospital. It was a big learning curve at first but we worked it out together 😊
Zac is brilliant, so gentle, couldn’t see my hubby ever doing that, if I had a stoma.
Such a good idea for others to know how to do this! Great job, Zach! Love to see you try this again, and get more practice
Zak
I just found your channel. I have been an ostomy wearer for 4 years now and this video alone made me feel not so awkward about my ostomy. I have been really self conscious about it and anxious even still today. My wife changes my bag every time I shower, but in my situation I also suffer from a condition called Ankylosing Spondylitis and it makes it hard to change my appliance by myself. I can do emergency changes but my wife places part of a barrier ring in one spot and I can’t see it when I do it. I will be sharing this video with her because it’s such a great feeling having a partner who is not intimidated by helping out if we can’t do it ourselves. Much love and respect coming from here in Canada! Cheers and great channel :)
I happily accidentally came across your videos today and this one is the most fantabulous example of true love!! ❤❤ I have learned so much and I think you are a beautiful, strong wonderful woman with a husband who loves you body and soul and it's sooooo beautiful!!! Thank you for sharing your knowledge, courage and love with the rest of us!! 🤗🤗🤗❤❤❤❤
Amazing! I am sure this video is going to really help remove the fear from a lot of people. It’s also going to provide so much comfort and reassurance to those that are facing surgery.
You to crack me up ❤ I’m getting mine in 30 days hope I’m as positive as you two , I’m not as terrified watching you …
Zak you did really good for first time. Thanks Maggie 💕💕😊
When I was sampling bags here in the UK, Pelican does a platinum two piece bag, where the circular piece on the baseplate raises slightly, so you can get your fingers behind it and press the bag on, rather than pressing on your abdomen. Then when you are done, just press it back down.
Fantastic job Zak I'm so proud of you God bless both of you and Maggie you are the greatest 🙏❤
Love this video. Zak was so ready to learn. You and him make a great team!
I love the closeness, respect, and deep love you have for each other. We say it in our vows, in sickness and in health.
My husband helps me all the times! U get used to it! 😊
Well done Zak, wow, you are a pro!! Maggie you are an amazing teacher.
Thank you so much for this video, what an amazing idea. Lots of hugs 💐💐💐💐💐
My hubby and 21 year old son have helped me since day one last December! I sometimes feel like a burden but mostly feel blessed they are willing to help. I have a hernia unfortunately and it really does make things harder. Great job Zak!!!!
One month after I got my ileostomy I developed parastomal Pyoderma Gangrenosum. I had been really ill prior to the ileostomy and it was very difficult to manage the brand new ostomy with the deep open ulcers caused by PG. Chas and I tag teamed it with me being in charge of the keeping the ostomy in control and wound cleaning. Chas in charge of wound dressing and the new appliance on the ostomy.
Great job, Zac! A lot of people wouldn’t even attempt this.🏆🌟
My mom had an illiostomy in 1970. Thank you for talking about this disease. She had no idea what was going to happen to her or how long it would take to heal but felt like a new person once she got there. Glad you are feeling better.
Good jo Zak, on changing the ostomy bag. 👍🙂
Hi Maggie! With all due respect, I think Zak is adorable, & funny😀 But u already know that, right?🥰🤗
he is such a sweet heart, my husband cant even talk,look or even think about coming close to any of it.
YOU GO ZACH!!
GOOD MAN!!
I came across this by chance.
In my Dads side of the family there are bowel problems/disease. He collapsed on the morning of my 7th birthday and was blue lighted to A and E. He had most of his intestine(?) removed, rejoined and no stoma.
His oldest nephew has had Bowel Cancer and a Colostomy and has a Stoma Bag, he has been offered a reversal, but has declined due to age and other health issues.
I have Severe Irritable Bowel Syndrome, but am able to manage it by diet, as I have identified what triggers it, so can avoid eating/drinking them!!
My best friend had Cancer of the Bowel and Stomach at the same time. I've seen her bag, but as she's so private, i haven't been asked to help, but seeing this beautiful posting you've done, it now gives me the courage to ask her if she wants me to know what to do?, incase she needs help in the future.
You two are such a lovely couple and I thank you Maggie for sharing this very personal story.
Love to you both.
Mary x
Beautiful. Thank you for sharing. And your pup is darling ❤❤❤
This video is a pure , Kind & loving GEM YOU TWO are a 10 !!!
You are the marvelous'st two! You great couple, great personalities! Thank you so much! Stay well!
Round of applause 👏 👏👏👏👏👏! When the stapler was mentioned, the first thing I thought of was duct take😂
He did an awesome job & very lovingly! I also think you're amazing for sharing this with him❤
Well done Zack ...😊thank you for sharing with us .very good idea though 😊 take care.
You two found the best way to face your challenge head on while having fun together. Be happy always!
Well done Zac! You guys are awesome. Zac may have missed his calling. He could be a nurse. Thank you both.
Zak
Hi….Thank you both for this video….
Awesome job Zak 😁
I had an ostomy surgery for a year, and I am learning to face my own changes head-on. You are a good person to learn from!
Maggie, is your husband Cingular Wireless? Because he is raising the bar...for ALL of us, and doing it flawlessly!
What an awesome husband!!! So nice to c u guys go through this together!!
Oh, he's a keeper, you two are perfect! Thank you for the tutorial.
Oh poor Zac Aggie he is so sweet and afraid he will hurt you❤❤❤
Zak
This is so endearing. I hope to never need something like this, but if I do I super hope I have someone like him by my side. What a good guy.
What a beautiful, healthy relationship. This is inspiring for anyone who has health issues.
Thanks for sharing ❤
Congratulations, Zach. You did great! Bless you for sharing, Maggie.🐕
I'm incontinent from birth (Spina Bifida)i so I appreciate anyone's partner helping them in such a sensitive situation. Being willing to help with needs like ours really shows love on a whole other level. 💜 I just wish you wouldn't be embarrassed about your output. It's as natural as giving birth. It's life! Much love to your family! 💜💜💜💜💜
I love this video!! So important and so caring ,, amazing how he loves you so much to do this❤❤
How brave of you. So informative. While I do not share your condition I found this very interesting and very informative. You never know when circumstances may require you to assist someone, yes even a stranger. And there should be no shame in doing so. I would ask one question while we are not being modest; Is there any odder to be aware of? I cared for a loved one for a long time that had a trach and was on a respirator and this required training and intense care so I know such things can be demanding and uncomfortable for those that witness personal care and are in company. Be kind, be gentle and supportive. God bless you both.
In 2010 when I had my total colostomy, after being diagnosed with UC and then Crohns suffering for 6 yrs with almost no remission I told my self I will learn do this all before I leaft my hospital stay, I do have a sucneficent other but knew that might not be an option, good for you guys awesome for learning ❤
10/10🎖🎖. And, don't forget the final move...the hug❤
I have cerebral palsy and I have always said that I will never get married. Because my husband has to be my caregiver too. So I completely understand why you didn’t want him to see the part of output. 15 surgeries and no ostomy yet. But I really appreciate you, Zack and your channel so much.
It is so amazing! My husband doesn't even look at it from day one.I am doing well for one year .Thanks God, after I was hosptalised for 21 days. I can change my stoma bags myself.❤❤
Such a wonderful video and such a beautiful couple! Please stay this kind and loving towards each other always ❤😊❤😊❤
Oh my goodness! Your husband is the sweetest!
Well done Zack. Thank you both.
You both are so precious love Zac!!!
Zak
Awesome. I enjoyed this video. My husband had his operation four months ago, November 2023 and he also has an allergic reaction to the baseplate and I will definitely try the flonaise. Thank you for sharing your experience. ❤❤
Excellent job Zach!!
You did an awesome job, I used to work in skilled nursing home that had someone with a stoma bag and I changed that all the time. Memories
I wish I could properly express how meaningful and helpful each of your videos have been in my life. Thank you (and Zak) for all your courage, knowledge, openness, and dedication. My apologies for the lapse in memory, but do you have any prior videos or other content (instructional or otherwise) that demonstrated how to securely apply a Convatec barrier ring to a flange? With immense gratitude -
That's great he is changing your bags, my husband changed mine seen the beginning of my journey. My husband is a great doing it
Excellent idea to have your significant other do a change. I enjoy your videos very much. I ordered the Stoma Cloak cover you recommend am amazed at how much it reduces order which was my biggest issue. Thank you for your videos.
You did a fantastic job Zac. You both are totally amazing. ❤
Such a lovely video to watch 😊 thankyou both so much ❤
Zack is the sweetest. He wants to help but is afraid of hurting you. He’s precious.
When Zach mentioned getting a rubber mallet...I LOL! My late Dad had a loose molding around the windshield of his car. My husband loaned him a Rubber Mallet & Dad promptly put a crack in the glass! Never let him live it down! More like this...yay! ❤😂
He’s amazing. As you say in the US, he’s a keeper!!
I also think all your videos are fantastic. Please, please, keep doing them . x
I LOL literally when he dropped the ring 😂 This is such a great video. I love you guys! Fellow ostomate from NJ. Zack you may have every ostomate in the tri state area calling for you to help … my husband would agree to the garbage bag 🤣
He is so sweet! Thanks for sharing! ❤
Such a great thing to do if you have another person around you. I think it also helps show them what you have to go through to do a bag change. Sometimes it's quick and easy 5 to 10 min and sometimes it can take 30 minutes or more if issues. Do you ever put your flange on your bag and then put your bag on so you don't have to press down so hard on your skin to make sure it clicks in all the way? When I wore a two piece system that's what I would do because sometimes those are hard to click in.
Zak did an amazing job as we knew he would because he has never been squeamish or afraid about your stoma. He seemed to really be having a good time learning how to do that so if need be sometime down the line he could. Way to go Zak👏
Maggie kudos to you also. One for having the courage to let him change it and two for being so patient and laughing at things to help him feel more at ease. 😊
Thank you for this! My husband has had a stoma since 2001 and I really don’t know how to change it! It would be good to learn!
This is so sweet 🤍
I had the same experience as Zach with the Hollister ring. I got their paste and I think its much easier and works better.
I just love you two❤️❤️
Way to go Zach!!!!! 🎉
Zak
Help my husband all the time. You would be surprised what you can accomplish
you did Awesome!!! Great Job!!! Can I say how cute it was, you could hear one of your dogs in the bathroom panting away, lol. Of course, you did see Bruno towards the end and your other dog at @18:09
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Zack did a pretty awesome job! You have a great hubby there Maggie! Lucky girl ❤️
Wow......he's a keeper. 😊😊😊
Yall 2 look so awesome together ❤
Great job Zak!!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼