Paul Washer - What is God's design for sex?
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- Jonny Ardavanis is the Lead Pastor at Stonebridge Bible Church in Franklin, TN and the President of Dial In Ministries. He formerly served as the Dean of Campus Life at The Master’s University and as a Camp Director at Hume Lake Christian Camps. Jonny’s heart is to see people understand and love the Word of God and more so, to love the God of the Word. Jonny is married to Caity Jean and they have two precious daughters.
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In this episode Paul Washer, from HeartCry Missionary Society answers the question: “What is God's design for sex?"
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This is so true what he says ; when I vowed to wait for my husband , I felt noble to do it and I would not let any man whose not my husband have what my husband should have. I guarded my body for him …. It was beautiful 😍
Did he do the same for you? Because as a woman you are just as worthy for a pure man.
I wish to find a wife one day a beautiful and loyal woman
Commitment and loyalty that makes a man man.
Are women called to be committed and loyal, too?
@@joshuacurrey4722 yes
@@exactly3179 Thank you, I have struggled with finding a definitive explanation of what is biblical masculinity and femininity. Because of two common issues: explaining either one using language that is directly tied to a marriage role (Not every woman should submit to every man), and the issue of giving traits to one that should apply to both (this example of saying that men are to be committed and loyal is not exclusive and thus is not a part of masculinity, because women should have those traits).
And nagging makes a woman a woman.
Of course. It takes two, who submits to God, the Lord Jesus. As adults. They obey Him. They seek Him.
I personally can't imagine, how else it can work. Not anymore.
"and when a commitment is not in there, it will turn ugly"
True.
This wasn't taught when I was young. Smh. Thank you guys
Yes but when you are caught in your sin having children then trying to explain to them it's a bit complicated. Feel as a hypocrite not using it loosely. But wanting to teach them what no one took the time to teach me. All ik is I tried to even in my own immorality. Creating soul ties😢
I was taught these things that Paul Washer teaches when I was a little at 12 and I thought it was the most beautiful thing I had had , that Day I came to faith in Christ.
I always remember the words of one teacher ::::: from songs of songs …. Do not awaken love before it so desires !!!!!
Thats beautiful, praying for my husband he's somewhere right now
Well, this video got me prepped for another several years of celibacy.
@@bboynewsboy991 God bless
Beautiful. Its not just the sin of bodily craving, but also not about just making children. It is the connection of two souls in a holy way. Thank you for sticking to the word of the living god and not the word of king james of england
Praise the Lord for giving me this knowledge!
Amen
I agree with everything u said. With commitment and intimacy it is beautiful, without it is wrong
Wow this is so true. Amen! It is not merely just about physical pleasures. If it was, then there would be no difference between humans and animals when it comes to this.
Animals mate for procreation not for pleasure. It's instinct for them not desire or lust. It's short, mechanical, and only at specific times of the year.
There’s no difference between human and animals when it comes to going to the bathroom. Makes what you said sound a little less profound.
@@thedrizzlefactory8600your not thinking from the Spirit, we know that sex is a spritual bond and covenant from genesis, animals dont have this, not do they have spirits
@@thedrizzlefactory8600going to the bathroom is a physical thing, not a spiritual thing. sex for animals is a physical thing. for humans, sex is physical, spiritual, and emotional
60 years old grew up in the southern baptist church never heard any of this. When i was 14 i asked about these things was told it just happens.
I like the end how he said I should pray for my future wife I’m like “bet”
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I also wish I was taught this when I was a child.. I know now. Thank you
Thank you for this interview. Praise God. Amen
Wow the end was a beautiful way of explaining to a young boy to stay pure until marriage
This is one of the most beautiful videos I’ve ever watched and listened to! I wasn’t even looking for this but I’m so glad I found it. I am really excited to have access this to share with other people who I think will also benefit
I'll definitely teach my kids that kind of commitment
Thank God for this
That was a beautiful explanation, and example 🕊
All Ghanaians should be watching this
Wise words , I appreciate this video .
Thank you. ❤️
Thank you 🌸
These words are so true...become one
That was really beautiful
Thank you Paul
I just cried so hard........
Thank you
So good!
thank you so much for the lovely talk. May God Bless you all
Its so beautiful
Paul Washer is the man, of God!
Commitment and loyalty, honor and sincerity, are values that are always at risk in a fallen world. Put God first, not the the world. I will say that to some extent any relationship has the potential to cause attachment. Keep sex between the divine intention of marriage, however, it is difficult to create hard-and-fast rules about intimacy outside of sexual intercourse.
❤ so helpful
Thank u 🇺🇬
I really like Pastor Paul
i really wish i would’ve heard this as a child.
Very good watch this, it’s a very difficult topic as a single Christian and not wanting marriage. Just learning to deal with it and grow with gods help.
Sex is the root of all evil and sex is the original sin.
@@ctfh1236wasn't it not listening to God and breaking his first rule (sin)
@@ctfh1236 Evangelical BS. The original sin was pride - Lucifer. The sin in the garden was the same the desire to be like God. Sex is not the root of all evil.
Amen...thanks
I wish I was talked this way 😢
Love your videos Johnny very sound!
So this raises the question in my mind. Do I need to break off my opposite sex friendship? I do not intend on marriage.
You should guard your heart. Avoid any type of physical contact like holding hands, if you like to protect your heart. All intimacy starts with friendship. I have been there. I know its very hard to avoid physical actions, but that is if you want to preserve yourself for your wife...
@@rommelriot I have set very firm boundaries. We don't even hug. She is usually trying to push the boundaries but I won't allow it. I'm not attracted to her in any way and don't want to give her any wrong ideas.
Thank you Paul!
God bless Paul Washer.
Amen.
sira lata mundya
Amen
When god created sex he added pleasure to the equation. Im curious as to why do some churches say that birth control is a sin? I believe if you took pleasure out of sex then i would 100% agree how it would be a sin but because there is pleasure how can it be viewed as sin? God says mulitpy. Doesnt give a specific amount of children is the right amount of children. One family might have a full plate at 3 kids while another family might have a full plate at 6 kids. So can someone explain this to me?
Amen amen 🙏🙏🙏
Soli Deo Gloria
I like when Junny goes ``hmm"
this guy knows how to make you want to talk more!
What do you say to young men or women who through weakness did not remain pure, can your son still marry that woman who messed up and repented, or he can only marry virgins since he prayed for it?
That is a very deep question, and I see where you're coming from.
I guess it's not definite whom we will marry, and, whether we wait or make mistakes, we will always have unlimited second chances to make it right, & someday hopefully meet the right one for us (virgin or not).
If they repented and truly believed they now become pure by the work of the Holy Spirit
阿们 阿门 感谢上帝
I wish someone had told me this 50 years ago! Dating is bad news. Got so much wrong...
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Me too, but the fact of the matter is it wouldn’t have been ideal for us to hear it in such a time. But now you’ll be much more zealous for protecting others.
@@rickywestley6820 That's true - old age has a way of moderating a person and imparting wisdom. 🙂
You can repent of your sin and receive forgiveness Christ will receive you.
@@nerlandeshirk9526 What the heck are you on about?
Great. Too bad marriage is broken in this day and age. Women Deprive their men of sex despite him waiting his whole life. What's the point?
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I’m a 26 year old guy with a crazy level of testosterone which means I really can’t resist if I have the opportunity to have sex! What do I do? I really wanna stay pure for the right person to come along but it’s like when I go on a date and tell someone I don’t wanna have sex with the first I love you they don’t wanna talk to me anymore! Probably some would say go to a church find a girl there get married and then… marriage isn’t easy to do with no preparation. Is it really bad to have sex before marriage?
Anytime you feel the urge, go on a walk, pray, read scripture and/ or surrender that feeling to God!! He will help you manage that urge.
If you asking the question of is it bad to have sex before marriage, you already know the answer. Honestly man it’s not easy and never will be but just take it one day at a time. I’ve found the better and closer your relationship with god the easier it becomes to stay clean. Don’t get me wrong I’m no saint but that’s what I’ve learned trying to do the same. Also marriage doesn’t fix your sex drive.
Yes it's a sin its fornication
Find a church girl
in the old testament sex is marriage if 2 virginns have sex they become one under god
i dont remember the verses but i advise you to study this yourself because its not commonly taught
@@randy1812marriage doesn’t fix your sex drive, but it does give you an outlet that is blessed and honored of God. “Marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled” (Hebrews 13:4)
I don't think holding hands is "leaving part of oneself" ---- Sex and sexual acts sure (due to chemical release and biology)... but holding hands? Really??! That is a bit much there bro. I hug my friends of the same gender, is that leaving part of myself? (err no). I think men do play women (sometimes) non-stop ---> but that is more of an emotional manipulation..just holding a person's hand does not create that unless the girl is a ditz and has been fed a Disney diet (that is a bigger issue). However, the nonsense guys say to girls is manipulative. Its very easy to manipulate someone emotionally by what you say. Don't say "you love" someone unless you care about them unless you really know them (both good and bad). That is way more dangerous than "holding hands."
👍🙏🙏🙏!
Amen🙏🙌
I want a man like he’s is talking about wow
Sound advice, but getting emotionally attached to someone and then the relationship not working out is an unfortunate outcome in this sin-cursed and fallen world. I know he means well, but this advice has been turned into a weight that older married men have hung about the necks of younger generations. Most of these men did not have this same standard applied to them; and, they didn't have to go through puberty with the internet and smart phones. I'll make no excuses. I just wish these men had more compassion.
We shouldn’t act like there is no god or a god who doesn’t help, leads and does wonders. If that would be the case your right, but it isn’t.
Pornography has been there even in the 1980's..... Before internet, there was magazines.... It's the same thing... It was prominent.... Any age, there has been temptations...
I'm sorry if others did not have compassion for your hardship, but these speakers in fact have compassion for you, that is why they are sharing it. It's up to you to appreciate and understand it. Purity is hard. We are all in the same boat, brother...
I believe a person should experience a break up so they learn how to deal with that level in life. We learn from our scars. Learning how to cope the right way instead of a stupid way
Interesting to see how at first the church was saying sex was about making babies and that's it. Now its also about emotional intimacy, because they needed to tack on the emotions bit or their congregants would rebel. Nobody wants to be told by Augustine and Jerome that sex is solely for making offspring anymore, they want the gushy emotional stuff.
7:27 this is where I disagree.
To me it doesn't matter how young the person you are marrying as long as that person is at the legal age and definitely feels the same way for you.
I think he was just using that example to make a point.
@@TheMartow Yes, I realised that.
Why is a child learning about sex equated to the loss of innocence? 5:02
This one was recommended from the Biblical Masculinity video, and look at the view count disparity. 🤣
"SEXUAL SIN AND PROPHECY "BY DR ERIC WALSH POWERFUL POWERFUL WATCH TRUTH ALWAYS WINS ❤
Sex is the currency of marriage. Sexual relationships have a monopoly on sex. Godly marriage is the institution that God intended for mankind to exist with his bestowed passions and not veer into sin. For millennia marriage and sex were managed in a way that reflected our biology that is up until the 20th century.
Ok so I’m 16 (male) and have a sex drive almost off the charts. Biologically it is completely normal (after adolescence) to have these urges, or reproduction can’t happen. Also, the baby wouldn’t have any genetic mutations and I’m at an age of having healthy sex. I know your hypothalamus produces oxytocin to bond closer to a person, but what’s wrong with that? And why is it apparently ”sinful” to act on this urges when there is no harm done? Some people will say bonding is bad during sex, but that also helps you stay close when a baby comes. I was raised Christian but came across this video. Just need some answers to my questions
You have to make a choice, we both do, do we want this world, this life, the pleasures, the fun, a brief time of something that seems to be joy. Or do we want God, and the implications of God. "This is Eternal Life, that they may know You". God created sex, and yet sex is still only brief happiness in a Perishing world.. imagine what perfect happiness, maxed out pleasure, enjoying a Creator that is so infinitely wonderful we will be entranced by him for thousands upon millions of eternities and more and more and more. That's a hard choice to make, isn't it, because we can't actually see what the next life will be like. But here's what you can do, desire to know God, ask him for the desire, breed the desire, Cry in prayer for the sight of him.. because that is precisely how and why those who've been hienously tortured to death endured it with even a smile and laughter on their faces, because God showed himself.
Didn't really answer my question. But then again, there's nothing truly wrong with "premarital" sex so I wouldn't expect you to have an answer@@bboynewsboy991
According to the Bible, God created sex and intended it to be enjoyed between a man and a woman in a legally married relationship. Some say that God's purpose for sex is to fulfill the highest purpose of a man and woman's relationship, which is to bond them together as "one flesh" in a covenant marriage. Others say that sex is a path to holiness and that a sexual embrace renews the marital sacrament
Tell us more o wise one 🙄
Btw. Polygyny is gift. Learn from Pete Rambo and Mike Allen on Diggin in word.
Role model
I know this is a very bizarre concept. Heaven forbid, if anyone follows the Bible. I know no one normally suggests the fact that God set up sex to be used in the confines of marriage. Even if you don't believe what the Bible says, how about just abstaining? Wow I know that's very strange to think that maybe God Is Right.
we live in a strange world. :( sadly.
Why are you hiding your wife’s age?
Everything Washer is saying is straight out of the Catholic teaching on sex, which is interesting as he would say they are the false church....
PLEASE STOP CRYING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what a wonderful message! I have never thought of it that way. i mean the use of sex for mere pleasure is a really bad idea. it could get you killed. and has killed. but the sad to cry tone in youre voice brother Washer is to much of a distract attention from the teaching.
So you want Paul to stop being genuine to who he is and how talking about Godly things makes him emotional ? Just wow !!
@@dj_1969 *I did compliment his teaching* and no I do not him to be "less genuine" I find it too distracting when the teacher cryes. Or there is music in the background. Or the massage overflows with jokes and hand gestuters it makes *me* misunderstand him and over all kills the massage for me. If that's not you congrats! Peace brother/sister in Christ!
Is it a sin for me to have women's swimwear in my possession?
I am attracted to them and do not want to get rid of them, so can I promise God that I will pray that He helps me find a woman to marry so that I can enjoy her in those swimwear in the privacy of the both of us?
I have recently avoided thoughts about women's bodies and sexual intercourse, but now I have the desire for women's swimwear.
In order to avoid immoral thoughts about women, I also started to look at photos of people who have been burned by fire every time I start having erotically immoral thoughts about women in order to remind myself that that is how erotically immoral women will look like in hell, and although this helps, I still want to keep those swimwear.
I do not want to marry someone physically attractive because sexual intercourse will not be in heaven (Matthew 22:30), so I do not want to get too attached the beauty of a woman in this manner.
I just want to marry a woman who is not physically attractive, so that I can still satisfy my male desire for women while focusing on her inward beauty and love.
The word sex doesn't appear in scripture
Flee fornication shun youthful
Passions
Sporting is the scriptural word!
Almost halfway through and all I've heard is opinion, zero biblical references.....
Never mind, apparently he is just stating his personal opinion rather than trying to give a biblically supported answer. That's fine too just uncharictaristic of a pastor
It's called experience. Take it or leave it.
@@loriaanhinrichsen5007 I dont think it is personal experience, I'll leave it. Thanks for the option :)
It's a sick design, God
“Each and every marriage act must remain open to the transmission of life.”
- Pope Paul VI, Humanae Vitae, 1968
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There’s God’s design for sex!
Your demonic idol doesn't dictate anything the Bible does.
Marriage is for us to have sex. It isn't about soul mates or only to create intimacy. It is a way for us to have our "animal urges" as you call in a non sinning way. Obviously, not everyone is meant to have to be married. Paul also specifically said do not look for a wife in a different passage than this. Go read all of 1 Corinthian chapter 7 to see how wrong all this is.
But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
I Corinthians 7:8-9
@@kmountain5533 I completely agree. Giving yourself over in deep intimacy will definitely fuel that.
Sex isn’t the main point. The point is Christ. If sex was the main point, there would be no marriage between Christ and the church during the second coming.
“Let us rejoice and exult and give him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and his Bride has made herself ready;”
Revelation 19:7 ESV
Marriage is a gift and an institution created by God and the purpose is to glorify Him by pointing us to beauty of the relationship between Christ and His church.
““Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.”
Ephesians 5:31-32 ESV
@@kmountain5533 Dang, that's a tuffy.
@@brothermarcus_ You honestly sound a bit foolish. Let's compare fleshly things to fleshly things and spiritual things to spiritual things as the Bible says to do so.
Not saying I am correct without doubt,, but that was not a sound point.
@@bastionmendoza1222
Genesis 2:18-24 illustrates the original intention of marriage.
Ephesians 5:22-33 illustrates how marriage ought to be conducted in the light of the Gospel.
I have faith that if we as Christians carry on in marriage as originally intended by God, with the correct emphasis, there will be blessedness.
its help me be loyal to your future wife in prayer
The Holy Scriptures do not mention sex before marriage. Paul, do not add to the word of God!
Where did he say such a thing?
thats because the act of sex is marriage
alot of people dont get that
@@tonybanman4462, Many faithful servants of the Lord had multiple concubines/girlfriends to go into, including Priests. God gave them many beautiful women to delight in. (Abraham, King David and many more)
@@companyboss5447 Yeah, and they all had their hearts turned away from God because of it. Deuteronomy 17:17 says not to take multiple wives. Just because the act is in the bible doesn't mean the action is justified.
As for no sex before marriage: we can imply it was forbidden by the laws written. Exodus 22:16 requires he pay a price for sleeping with her whether dad approves of marriage or not.
Don't be blind to think sex before marriage wasn't forbidden. You know from the context it wasn't allowed. It comes down to what does God want? What did he design? Certainly not for anyone to sleep around like animals.
@@Obi1Classic The verse applies to the King. He was not allowed to have too many wives to enjoy. It had to be reasonable.
There is no design for sex. This is a well established fact whatever you believe.
The purpose of something is determined by it's usefulness. #GodIsWrong
"What is God's design for sex?"
Quite simple kind Sirs...for the story of Adam and Even...told the wise...
...that sex is ONLY for a man AND His wife. And NO other sex is allowed; in the eyes of God who IS Jesus. Believe it or not. IE:
Where God told Adam was NOT to have sex with Eve until God would tell them OK. Now listen. those words are NOT in the bible. But only a fool would not know God told Adam NO sex. And this was a test of Adam's abeyance of God's commandment. However, sexy words were NOT proper in those days. So He used the phrase "Apple in a tree.
So the adults would know...
Because we know: a apple has nothing to do with them being naked! Huh And Adam and Eve wrapped palm leafs around them. WHY were they ashamed? Huh? Would they be ashamed; if all they did was eating a fruit from its tree? Huh? Think about it Brethren.
So assuming I'm correct (and many believe that too)...the next is VERY important...
1. Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall become one flesh. (And that can not be, any where, outside wedlock). So...
ANY sex before marriage; or after any marriage that has ended; is called "Fornication"! And it IS an "Abominable Sin"; in the eyes of God who is Jesus!
2. Exodus 20:14 Thou shalt not commit adultery. (ANY sex outside the marriage)
3. Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
4. 1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee fornication (ANY sex, of one that is NOT married). Every sin that a man doeth is without the body (if he is not married); and that man committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
And NOT of Jesus' kingdom. End of Story and I rest me case...
...In any case kind Sir, Please Pray OFTEN and Praise Jesus OFTEN; for He is the ONLY true "God Almighty"; there will ever have been. And may Jesus bless you and yours always. AMEN!
I like a lot of what Paul Washer says, the only thing I've had a problem with in the past is his view of God taking pleasure in the destruction of the wicked. There is no eternal burning hell, such a perversion of scripture distorts the true just and loving character of God.
Annihilationism?
LORD Jesus talks more about hell in the Bible than any other prophet. Hell is a reality. The punishment and the condenation are real things. No matter what you think, no matter what you try, hell is real. And we deserve hell, because we are guilty sinners, criminals. We, the fallen humanity have a serius problems with the Holy Justice of God.
And in the other hand, I remember some parts of the book of Ezequiel about the other topic you talk. God don't like to send people to hell. He give us live, but some people don't want to repent and they choose evil and death. The problem is us.
“And the smoke of their torment goes up forever and ever, and they have no rest, day or night, these worshipers of the beast and its image, and whoever receives the mark of its name.””
Revelation 14:11 ESV
Hell is eternal conscious torment, and it’s explicitly described as such in Revelation.
Jesus bore eternities worth of conscious torment on the cross. He bore it all on the cross on our behalf and that’s how we are justified before the Father by faith in Jesus.
Downplaying the consequence of sin downplays the love of God shown in the sacrifice that Christ made for us.
@@brothermarcus_ wouldn’t those in hell have eternal life as well if they are conscious forever ?
@@manasseh7
If the idea of “life” is existence, yes. Our spirits exist eternally. To come to a definitive answer a word study on how the Bible defines life would be wise.
Off cuff, it seems like the Bible moreso uses life in tandem with righteousness and being in the presence of God.
“But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ-by grace you have been saved-”
Ephesians 2:4-5 ESV
“For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found.’ And they began to celebrate.”
Luke 15:24 ESV
“We know that we have passed out of death into life, because we love the brothers. Whoever does not love abides in death.”
1 John 3:14 ESV
It seems like life and death are more descriptive of the state of a soul and its relationship with God rather than the existence of it, if that makes sense.