FRIENDLESS & LONELY/Navigating Life in my late 50’s in Myrtle Beach
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Navigating Life in My 50’s in Myrtle Beach. I recently moved to Myrtle Beach. While it’s been an experience. I’m so thankful for this faze of my life.
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I have become cautious due to being let down by those I once thought were my friends. I have adapted to being self-sufficient and I am content with it. I am thankful for the good things in my life and trust that true friendship will come at the right time.
Amen
Shelia, I can relate to how you feel. When I moved back home from CA. I was lonely and had outgrown my old friends. I joined a local brunch. Meet-up group and met three of the most amazing ladies, and they have been my best friends for the past 10 years. Try a meetup group in your area.
Love you baby girl. You look so beautiful. So many us older women are friendless and we do need friends. We are your friends. Friends are so important. Thanks so much for sharing Sheila.🎈
I’m definitely a loner. I don’t really have a friend that I speak to every day. I am definitely happy spending my time with my husband and daughter. One day I will find a good friend. Someone that gets me and enjoys a lot of the same things that I do. It’s definitely harder making friends in your 40’s. I love your channel because it’s like spending time with that fun friend! Like you said. Online friends is what’s good for me at this point in my life. I’m enjoying my family.
Good for you! The important thing is that you’re doing what makes you happy when it comes to friendships. We can enjoy virtual friendships right now.
I love the idea of friend girls… yes we’re friends and God will send you a friend in your new location. It’s just going to take time
I can so relate to this feeling. I certainly don’t identify as a loner, but yet have felt like one for quite some time now. I have longed for friendships that are solid for what feels like forever, and have felt a lot of loneliness and hurt over friends that I hoped would be there for me and weren’t (especially in the midst of becoming chronically ill, having to leave college due to health, now graduating college, etc). What you said about not being ready for a friend really resonated with me. I think this time of waiting for good friends to come into my life is a great time for me to focus on myself and who I am in order to prepare myself to be a great friend to others and a great friend to myself, too. Thank you for sharing. I recently found your channel and have really been enjoying the different perspective you have due to being older than I am, yet finding so many common experiences between us at the same time. ❤
Great video!!! Thank you for sharing
I love a good friend
And please send hugs to Terrie
I will continue to pray get strength
Wow I know the feeling with good friends
Hang in their I’m glad I found you on CZcams when I did
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I can so relate to this. I hope that better days are coming. As we get older, it’s no joke. I take the bitter with the sweet. It’s not easy out here.🙏🏽♥️
Hi Sheila, I'm so happy that Terry is cancer free and trying to get some normalcy back to her life again. And I'm also glad that her and Molly are becoming better friends also. Both of these ladies are your friends but are now finding friendship with each other. That's also a comfort to you. I'm sure that went there together they talk about you and how both will share lots of good times you shared with them both. You're not there but your love and friendship with them both is forever. This is only a season. ❤❤❤❤.
Yes it is!
Hello and nice to meet you Sheila. Welcome to Myrtle Beach. My husband and I moved here 16 years ago. You will find friends when you are ready, when the time is right. There are so many people around that enjoy everything the area has to offer. Today is my 70th birthday. I lost my husband of 32 years several months ago, and just weeks after his passing I had to put both our dogs down. I am moving out of the place I shared with my husband this week. I am staying with a girlfriend of 55 years until I figure out what I want to do. Your correct focus on yourself, your home, your husband. You are in a transition right now. It will all come to you in good time. Relax.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Do you plan to stay in MB?
@@RealLifewithSheila Thank you. Not sure what I am going to do at this point. First time in my life I haven't had a plan, very unsettling at this age. I will keep in touch though. Hope things are going well with your job and you are getting more comfortable.
Shelia, I get it. Transitions can be SUPER difficult. When I retired a few years back (I'm also 58), my friend situation changed. However, I'm a loner most of the time. Wishing you blessings and peace💜
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The best friendships happen organically, however we still have to put in a little work to put ourselves out there. Meetup has been helpful for me in the past finding new friends. Tapping into the local scene of whatever hobbies and interests you have can also work. Showing up, being consistent, and being adaptable and sentient is important. Sometimes we expect too much from someone we just met. We get too emotionally involved early on (yes, even in friendships) and we have to be willing to let go when someone doesn’t gel with us. And also not take it personally or let that detract us from meeting new people. Be willing to take initiative, but if someone is not interested don’t make it about yourself.
Great advice given. I love seeing everyone’s perspective on this topic.
Thank you for sharing your honest feelings. I can tell that you’re a person who thrives on face-to-face relationships. New friendships will come. In the meantime, make a habit of going out to the yard sales, art galleries, and festivals. Your personality attracts people. Without fail, whenever I treat myself to dinner and sit at the bar, people strike up conversations with me. And, Sheila, sometimes I don’t want to be bothered 😂. I’m like, let me finish my cocktail in peace. Anyhow, you get my point. Just keep living your life and learning how to sit in new spaces.
Lol! So true
This is exactly what I'm going through! My husband got a great job in a new state so now here I am in a new state so homesick! But I'm also trying to focus on organizing my new home,crafts and lifestyle. Growth is so important as we grow older take care ❤
You got this!
I feel this on so many levels. I think it’s so important to nurture our friendships outside of a spouse. Literally after I watched this video I hit my girlfriends up and said we needed to have a girls night! Thank you for the wisdom and reminder
Hope you have fun with the girls!
Thank you for sharing this. I am on the other end of this with loved ones moving away and believe me I understand how hard changes like that can be. I know it’s not the same but please understand that your posting provides comfort to some of us who may be lonely at times too. I’m glad your besties have each other and hopefully once you’re settled you can start planning a visit in the near future. Praying for you to start building new friendships.
Thank you for sharing. I have relocated to Virginia and haven’t made friends. My best friend lives in South Carolina and it has been long distance for almost 25 years. I say that to say real friendship has nothing to do with distance.
Oh so true! I talk to both of them almost everyday!
I agree, real genuine friendships perseveres no matter how far the distance. I’m 61 years old and still keep in touch with my best friend from high school. We have been friends since Jr high school. She retired from the Army almost 20 years ago and live in Texas (I live in New York, where we grew up together). We still keep in touch. Although I had work friends in the past, it’s not the same as an everyday friend. Work friends connection to only due to being employed together. I retired last year, some folks from work text me from time to time & vice-versa, but that’s ok. I’m at a point in my life that I don’t want to add in friendships in my life. I feel content doing activities by myself , or with my husband and adult children. I never feel lonely, enjoy my freedom to garden, go for walks, reading , sit at a cafe alone and just have peace with no noise or talking. Just my private me time. I think you have to get to the place to love being by yourself & enjoy time alone. I believe that loneliness isn’t a factor if you learn that bonding with yourself is more important and a peace of mind to not deal with other people’s drama and vices. At this age there is no room for negativity. God bless and Peace ☮️ ❤
It’s a blessing that you have your husband.
Awe Sheila, I know I’ve been there when I left VA. Friends are truly sisters you choose. Hey try doing a virtual date with Molly and Terry, like try to go to a restaurant at the same time and video chat. I know it’s not the same as being there but it’s definitely a fun time. I agree making friends older is harder, but God will send you exactly who you need when it’s time. Sending hugs to you sis.
Actually I took Molly to Marshals with me on Saturday we had a blast….I even tried on clothes with her…all virtually….lol!
Such a great video, thank you for sharing. 🥰🥰
Sheila my close friends have died. I do not have any close friends. I have acquaintances. I have z3 daughters that I spend time with. I also have a male friend that we do things with. I really enjoy my male friendships. Hopefully you will find friendships where you are in your life.
Praise Yah
Vivian
Yes! We all need a friend
Wow Shelia. This topic was definitely needed. Thank you again for wholesome, sincere content. God bless
Thank you!
My close friends have moved out of state and I miss them. The friends I have in my city are more focused on their children and grandchildren and don't really want to do anything that doesn't involve family. I do not have children. All I want to do is go out to eat and travel. I love meeting new people but forging new friendships is difficult.
Yes it is!
I completely agree, that the older you get, the harder it is to make new friends, for all the reasons that you mentioned. For me it’s just being able to trust someone and allowing myself to be vulnerable in the relationship. It just feels safer, to be, to myself. I have to admit though, there’s nothing like having a homegirl or girls to just chill with🩷
I do hope you find a friend. Just one person. I love my husband but it’s so much fun being silly with a girlfriend. Lol!
Hey Girl Hey, good to see you, love your contents,your style and your personality. People are in our lives for a reason and a season, so I am your friend and look forward to your postings. Take care and God will work everything out. Peace and Love From NYC 🙏🏼💜✝️
Hey girl, hey! You just speak so much to my spirit, you’re like the friend I never met. And maybe one day if God willing our paths will cross.
EC 3:1 to everything there is a season. When the time is right, you will have friends here.
Yes at the right time
Looking so beautiful
I’m very cautious of the people I let in my circle because of past experiences. I love the community on CZcams I built. They make me happy & yes we’re your friend Sheila ❤
I love your content/channel and you make me want to move to MB! I was shocked when you said you didn’t go to the big yard sale. You shouldn’t skip doing certain things because your friends aren’t there. While looking to make new friends, you should still enjoy time by yourself and have fun in your own company! Take photos and share with your friends. Plus, you could meet new people when going out. I rock alone these days with the exception of family. I have my friends, but people are always busy and what not that I just do stuff by myself or with family. You could also take us along via the vlog! ❤🌴🤗
I will in the future
You are a blessing!!
Because you are able to hear God prevented you from getting stuck in sadness depression loneliness-etc. God is awesome. Thanks for sharing your thoughts/wisdom!
Much love ❤❤❤
You have a friend here! I hope to see you in the flesh soon. I'm not one of those friends who will talk to you daily or see you often, but when I do talk with you or see you it will start up where it left off. I'll text more than call, but the love will still remain❤❤❤
Same here and I agree. You don't have to talk or see each other daily but whenever you have the time to catch up and hang out, it's like you never miss a beat!
Yes it’s hard to find new true friends in our let 50th
Sweetie am in my home town and not in the best of health no friends don't have a spouse and all friendships is just for season you have God you good
Your videos are so refreshing, transparent and authentic Thank you!
You are so welcome!
Good Tuesday evening, one thing that I've learned over the years were never friendless, God is always with us and will always bring the right person or persons in our lives at the right time.
I’m definitely a loner at 55 yrs of age because I choose to do so I also have my wonderful Husband and children. I Love doing things by myself Movies , lunch , Bingo etc . I Love your channel.
I’m sorry but I may be the one who disagrees with needing friends. The older I get, the more I realize that I actually prefer just being with my husband. I’m so tired of women coming in and out of my life for seasons. Envy, jealousy, and bitterness from a lot of them has caused me to enjoy life without them. Fortunately, I don’t have the cheating spouse, the mean spirited spouse, the inattentive spouse. My husband is loving, protective, supportive, and a wonderful provider. I’ve always thought I needed more. I’m also close to both my sister and my mother. That’s enough for me and. I have the Lord and my husband and I’m really content with that. I do understand, if others need more . I just don’t.
Thank you for sharing this. There’s no right or wrong here. I’m glad at least one person opened up about not needing friends. I’m sure you’re not the only one. I had a co-worker that she and her husband do everything together. I thinks it’s beautiful because it works for them. You and your husband continue on your journey together. Your story is beautiful.
I totally understand Sheila. It’s only my daughter and I living here in Dallas and neither one of us have friends here. We just have one another
I’m new here but I’ve been praying for friends too .. thank you for your testimony , friend !
I'm 34 and moved to Texas recently and feeling much of the same things you discussed in this video. Thank you so much for making it because it has soothed me. I am going to be patient in building friendships here and continuing to get settled into what life is here for me.
I’m so glad this gave you peace. Yes friendships will come in due time. Good luck getting settled in!
I can relate to your feelings of being friendless. I recently relocated to a new city, new state, new region and I know no one in my city. Although, I wanted the change, it does give me pause to not have friends locally. But I trust the Creator to connect me to my tribe here.
Amen
❤❤❤❤ this is beautiful. I hope you find exactly what you’re looking for and I’m praying for you that you have a good friend. I am a loner only have one and I’m a stay with that. God bless you.
May God's Blessings of contentment, peace and joy to you always in Myrtle Beach with your hubby always !
I can relate with you in terms of friends. I don't have very many friends in general, but my besties and l are spread out in different states. I moved to a new state a little over 2 years ago and l haven't really made friends. It is a challenge to make new friends as l get older. I'm also an only child and loner so its easy for me travel and enjoy myself solo.
Yes, concentrate on getting your home together then invite people you met in Myrtle Beach . You have to be thankful for what you have, not what you dont have. Amen, amen. If after sometime you still feel the same then you should have a serious talk with hubby about moving back to Texas. 😇🙏💕
We will be moving back when he retires.
I needed to hear this Sheila. I moved back to Ohio in the early 2000s from NY. So now my close friends are there and the friends I used to have in my hometown, I've lost touch with or they don't live here anymore. I would love to make 1 or 2 new friends.☺
You will in time!
I haven't had a close friend in 10 years. I moved from Washington state to Wisconsin and bern here 2 years. I desire friendship but if it doesn't happen I'm okay with it.
Alone is the new norm today. That is the best thing that happened to us since civilization. 😀
Congratulations!
I’m so happy to have come across your channel. Your honesty and transparency is so refreshing. Oddly enough, I live in South Carolina and my best friend lives in San Antonio. Lol I agree, it is harder to make friends the older you get.
Wow! How often do you see your friend in San Antonio?
@@RealLifewithSheila a few times a year. I was there in January for my birthday. She will be coming home for Thanksgiving and I will be going back to Texas in December. We are trying to see if we can squeeze another visit in this summer.
I think women need women. I don’t have a best friend living near. My best friends remarried and moved. I have been the one to travel to see them. I do have lonely times. I’m pretty independent. I do have 2 daughters living close. Not the same. Give yourself some time. You will again have someone to go thrifting with. Call and laugh with. Maybe God is giving you a break to spend with James. ❤❤
That’s exactly right. That’s why I shared God’s word to me that this is my time to focus on my husband and getting my home together. That person will come organically in God’s timing…I’m now at peace.
Hello beautiful sweet Shelia
Sheila I move here 4 years ago and I’m home sick. I have a beautiful home the weather is nice but I’m lonely. I retired and my wife and two sons came to Myrtle Beach. Well one of the boys finished college and moved back north. I knew when he left this would happen. I wish I could say my wife and I are good friends after 20+ years but I’d be not telling the truth. I’m miserable and I’m going back to what’s familiar cause this isn’t it. Wish you well on your journey.
Your story breaks my heart. Why did you choose Myrtle Beach? Is this where your wife is from? Talk to her tell her how you’re feeling. Is she open to moving back north? What you the two of you do for fun?
I really don’t have many friends! I have friends in different levels. Some ppl u hang out with out of the job, u have people u click with at work but don’t do anything with each other out of work. But I really don’t have anyone that I can say that we’re real real close. I never really found anyone in my life that share the same likes that I do so for that-I’m my best friend and my doggies, family
I love it!!!
My grandloves have become my focus in this season of my life, however I’ve never had that one true friend. Thinking about exploring the MeetUp app, we’ll see 😊
Go for it!
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God doesn't make mistakes.
He does things according to it's purpose.
The most important thing is that you are back with your Husband.
Your Husband did without you for awhile. due to separate living arrangements.
I know that you miss your friends but at the end of the day.. Your Husband is what matters the most..
I am not trying to be mean.. But perhaps maybe GOD took you out of a situation that was causing you to be under stress or duress.
The most positive outcome has been that your CZcams Channel is growing and has grown.
It was not growing back in San Antonio.. God moved you to Myrtle Beach to be with your Husband, and I think by you moving and being back with your Husband.. this is the reason about why your CZcams Channel has grown. Because being with your Husband was what you needed to do. Also to focused on your dream of being a CZcamsR.
II don’t think you’re being mean. I/we needed that time in San Antonio to mend a long story but our time apart is why we’re still together now. I had so much peace during that time. My husband and I talked more and got to know each other all over again. We’re happy be together again for sure. But we’re thankful for the growth we gained from being apart.
Have virtual meetings with Molly and Terry and the family.. Zoom
We do all the time
Hi Sheila. My dad lives in Myrtle Beach and I will be down in June to visit him. Let me know if you would like to get coffee or lunch. I’m also a Breast Cancer survivor! 💕 -Kelli
Yes! Please email me!
@@RealLifewithSheila Just sent you an email!
Hello Sheila just came across your channel for the first time, when I saw the title friendless and lonely I initially thought you were single, with no friends, however after listening to some of your story I know according to you that you have a husband and friends but has move away from them and not spent much time with your husband, you can visit friends even FaceTime them to keep in touch, not sure why you haven't seen much of your husband, don't know the back story but from where I sit, I don't quite get the loneliness/friendless according to what I've heard you say, I get that you miss your friendships...
You’re right you don’t know the story and probably didn’t really understand the video. Which totally fine. This video obviously isn’t for you. If you’re interested you can learn more of the back story! The title of this video deals with a feeling that one can have. Again probably not for you. Hopefully this help you to understand a little! Maybe I’ll see you in another video soon. Thanks again!
I hope you find the peace you desire
@@JeSlade-vk6uu like I stated in the video. I have!!! That’s the beauty of me sharing this video. I’m enjoying being with my husband and organizing our space.
I live in Hampton Virginia and I have a trailer home can I have a cat live too far from my sister
The foundation is starting to look a little too dark?
Thanks same one I’ve always used…the lighting can do tricks. That’s all you got out of the video? Hmmmm….
@@RealLifewithSheila😅😂