The Impact of Sex Addiction on the Betrayed Wife | The Princess Warrior
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- čas přidán 10. 04. 2024
- The following is a clip from the video series, “Marriage After Addiction”. To watch the full video, click here: www.drdougweiss.com/product/m...
Marriages all over the world have been impacted by sexual addiction. Trauma. Betrayal. Pain. Many times, it feels impossible to verbalize the true impact this can have on a marriage. In this small excerpt from the video series, “Marriage After Addiction,” Dr. Doug Weiss, President of the American Association for Sexual Addiction Therapy shares the impact of sex addiction on the spouse of the sex addict, introducing the concept of the fallen knight and the princess warrior. Dr. Weiss shares the raw emotions experienced by women amidst the chaos of their husband’s addiction and how they often undergo the transformation of becoming princess warriors to protect themselves and their families. Learn how men can actively support their wives in rebuilding trust and validation as they work towards restoring the broken marriage.
In the full version of Marriage After Addiction, Dr. Weiss reviews the whole impact of sex addiction on a relationship and will give you important information about the early and later stages of recovery for your marriage. This video will also give you language for many of the experiences you may have on this journey toward healing your marriage.
If you’re struggling with the impacts of sexual addiction on your relationship, Heart to Heart Counseling Center specializes in this area and is here to support you. We have in-person and virtual counseling and support groups, along with plenty of therapeutic resources to guide you along your journey. In addition, we also have an intensive program that combines individual and couples therapy, targeted support groups, and educational resources to accelerate your healing in as little as three or five days. In our intensive program you will be guided by a therapist who is certified in sexual recovery and partner betrayal trauma and can help you both heal and move forward, both individually and as a couple.
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Going on 6 years of dealing with his p.o.r.n addiction.....and i woke up 3 days ago and decided I'm done dealing with it. I can't change him and that's fine. It's time for me to leave and focus on myself so I can be happy.
Your pain and betrayal trauma from this is real. If you need support in dealing with this, we have certified counselors who will walk with you through the process and help you heal. Call us at 719-278-3708 to connect with our office. You can join one of our Facebook support groups too:
www.drdougweiss.com/facebook-groups/
Wow ! This is the most accurate account of my experience that anyone has ever put into words !
I asked my husband of 30 years to watch this video. We’ve been to therapy for years in the past. After the first 5 years of marriage, I found he had responded online to women wanting a daytime fling. Also high school friends, looking for attention. After listening, he said he supposed it made sense. I thanked him for listening. He gave me a quick hug and walked away without any eye contact. He is also addicted to work, money and attention from anyone. No swords anywhere here…I give up.
Unfortunately I have just divorced my husband after 40 years of marriage. The trust has gone. My husband was also addicted to work, work came above everything.
I'm exactly where you are. I wish I had friends like you around who understood
And..... Why do you. Stay with him still??
@@SaystheTruth3 We had a son on the Autism spectrum. No way I could handle him alone and work. We also had 5 grown kids and one teen. I wanted it to work out so badly, I just kept trying. I’m now almost 75 years old and don’t feel financially prepared for life without him. So I just live my life and do as I please.
@@joanneberry5390 ok.. I understand. I'm sure it was very difficult for you... My sister has a son that is 11 years old very high on the autism spectrum , he hardly communicates.
I'm glad you're happy & living your life the best you can 💕
No longer protect his wife! Like he says. We are no longer safe and cannot rely on him. She must protect herself and even protect herself from him. She has to weaponize to take the responsibility that you failed. Not only was I not protected, I WAS ATTACKED FOR WHAT HE DID.
I am so sorry you've experienced this. If you need support, you can reach out to my office at 719-278-3708 and my team can get you with one of our partner betrayal trauma therapists to help you heal.
You might also find the Partner Betrayal Trauma book and workbook useful as well:
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-book/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook/
I've been a princess warrior for 11 years, he did nothing to reassure me, became dark and mean and eventually cruel. Emotionally, mentally and financially abusive...turns out I've been married to a narcissist and didn't even know it. I left and he doesn't care. We'd been married 22 years. our four children are waiting to start therapy I'm trying to arrange for them. He's a controlling man....pity he couldn't control himself. I became this princess warrior because my knight in shining armour wasn't even real. He was a narc in tinfoil. never trusting another knight as long as I live. I'll protect my babies and ensure they never make the same mistake I did.
It's a tragic thing to experience betrayal from a spouse, not to mention how traumatizing it is. I'm sad to hear that this was your life and that you are still feeling the effects of what he did to you. Despite the past, I'm glad to see that you are working to get healing for you and your family.
If you need additional support, you can reach out to my office at 719-278-3708, and my team can connect you to a partner betrayal trauma therapist, as well as join one of our support groups.
The Partner Betrayal Trauma book and workbook are also great resources that you can use to validate your pain and help you move forward too:
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-book/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook/
33 years here, warrior last 3..❤️🩹
Excellent commentary. Spot on. Well done. Nature abhors a vacuum. I’ve had to fill the vacuum left by “the husband.” I will never be the same. Henceforth, I will refer to myself as “The Warrior Queen.”
Hard to trust when they lie and do it over and over again.
All I can say is WOW. This was a wonderful video that came to my feed. Dr. Doug Weiss is a remarkable help in the painful, heartbreaking world of sex and porn addiction. Thank you
We are two years out since disclosure, we couldn't have gotten this far without your books, therapists and your center. We had gone to a retired cop for a lie detector test in our area. The results were way off and not in my husband's favor. So we flew out to your center. We were so impressed with the lie detector specialist. He got the truth out. Praising God for you all!!!
So in a nutshell, he cheated.
What do you plan on doing?
I want a polygraph but they say some are different and can be inaccurate. Thanks for sharing. What was the difference. The questions?
You are absolutely right. Speaking from experience.
🙋♀️🔆Well said ❗🎯 I call it a bookmark in my life. Living well is your best revenge.
Thanks for the validation. No. I never wanted this horrible awful role. I wish the lying would stop, but that seems too ingrained. Thanks. ❤
You're welcome. If you need support, please contact our office 719-278-3708 and my team can get you connected with a partner betrayal trauma therapist who walk with you through on the path towards healing. There's a Partners Facebook support group that you are welcome to join as well:
facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa
I would also recommend getting started with the Partners book and workbook for encouragement and guidance as you move forward.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partners-healing-book/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partners-recovery-guide/
You might also find the DVD "Why Men Lie" useful too:
www.drdougweiss.com/product/why-men-lie-video-download/
This resonates with me.
Exactly we have to be the warrior and survive
Love the earnestness of his appeal: "DON'T LIE!" The most critical component in that moment...STOP LYING!
This explains my disgusting little boy 52 year old husband! I could never trust him to protect me or protect our relationship! All he does is care about his ego boost he gets from checking out other women in front me!
Everything you say is spot on. I just cry and cry when I listen to you. But what about the narcissist? He's not going to change. He's going to swear he will, but he won't, right? I'm an idiot for staying. I've wasted 10 years on this relationship, and I'm old! God is working on this, I know. But I'm just a jaded, gaslighted she'll of a woman. I know who I am in Christ. And the Holy Spirit screams, leave him, but I have free will and ugh ...
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I just want to know, from a man’s perspective, why don’t they just tell the truth and beyond that, why keep stringing the betrayed spouse along?
Men can lie for a number of reasons. You can check out my CZcams video, "Why Men Lie" as well as the full length DVD which covers some of the main reasons why.
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www.drdougweiss.com/product/why-men-lie-video-download/
As a former addict, it is very hard for someone in active addiction to take accountability for their actions and admit that they are the monster that they are trying soo hard to hide. In many cases, they are afraid of exposing themselves and being vulnerable and exposed for what they themselves are ashamed of becoming, yet don't know how to be honest about. Addiction is the Devils way of pulling someone further from God, and filling their head with negative thoughts and lies, and the addict chases the escape, instead of turning toward the freedom that comes with being brutally honest before God and another human. Fear, an irrational emotion, is crippling and until he his ready to give up his ego and give control of his life to a higher power, he will never gain control of his life, and escape his addictions.
Ultimately, he has to be willing to get vulnerable, and be honest with himself, only then can he begin to experience freedom from his addictions. He needs to find a support group, and get an accountability partner and/or sponsor. But it will Only work if he us willing and open to doing it.
Forever she is changed… true. But with the right therapist, husband in a Christian porn addiction program AND God, a marriage can be made right. We are proof of that.
😂........
Not always true. God's plan sometimes involves the struggle
@@eventhere2788 It was a struggle!
@@SaystheTruth3 you’re a pos for laughing at this comment like that. Why laugh at peoples struggles and demons? Do you not have any issues or something
Sorry but it will just happen again. I lived through this and it will seem ok for a while, but it starts back up. I learned that I can’t change anyone but myself. I hope for you that you are that one in a million couple that survives. Hugs and blessings your way❤
Literally there are loyal one they just set high expectations of the wife and daily do porn on stop of coercion. I think it’s the most dangerous type 😭
Oh I learned years and years ago I couldn’t literally be fully honest or talk about my genuine suffering. I never deserved any of this shit and I literally only sent him to GROVEL. Admit I should’ve left years ago instead of acting like I said the most outrageous thing and he’s gods gift to man I’m lucky he sticks through my depression and all my mental health problems
I'm sorry to hear that you are going through all this. If you need to talk to a therapist, you can contact our office at 719-278-3708 and get scheduled with one.
You can also check out the Partner Betrayal Trauma book and workbook which you might find helpful with your situation.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-ebook/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook-ebook/
amelkner So let me get this straight it’s all the woman’s fault. Funny I remember begging for him to even give me 5 minutes to talk to my husband, and he was always to busy. He was with holding from me, not the other way around.and I would ask him why arnt you wanting to touch me anymore. I know I’m close to 50 but I’m build like a 30 something year old
They all lie
I would say this is probably less an issue than sexual withholding is (mostly by women) and their effect on men and their marriage. A lot of times men turn to porn and other outlets because their Wife who supposedly loves them shuts them out and gives everything to the kids or others while he gets little to nothing for years and years. it's a lonely existence full of rejection, sorrow and pain. Trust me - for Women whose husbands seem indifferent, distant or angry all the time - ask yourself, when was the last time you told him you needed him, reached out to him and gave him affection and yes SEX, more than once a month, once a year or whatever you have been used to because it doesn't fir your timing or schedule. Men NEED to be needed by you. It's not really about the sex, it's about the connection and the reinforcement that they are desired, wanted and needed.
HE is the ONE withholding. I have to beg and then I get sympathy scx.I can't even orgasm anymore. I wonder who he is thinking of and what he has to do to 'get off'.
B.S.............always an excuse for you guys to use porn. Even if you were single.......YOU SHOULD NOT BE INVOLVED IN PORN. The fact you all hide it, even from other men, shows just how BIG of a wrong ( sin) it is. You guys KNOW IT deep down and even still lie constantly about it.