I HATE my nursing job...?
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 5. 09. 2024
- I think we're all in the same boat when we say that the 1st year of nursing will likely be your worst. In this video I talk about ALL the feels I experienced in that year-- what is expected, what are red flags, and how to move past it. If you're currently in that time period.. just know those feelings are normal and it will get better. If you're already a seasoned nurse, leave some words of advice :) Please don't forget to hit the thumbs up, as it greatly supports our channel and is COMPLETELY FREE!
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I really wish someone made a video like this when I was a new grad and going through ALL the feels.. I hope this can help someone out there and help them feel like they're not alone â€ïž
new grad is so hard. thank you, you are so real
i really wish too :(
Thank you! Iâm already experiencing all these feelingsâŠI start my new grad program next Monday! Super nervous and scaredđ©đ
I am in my 3rd year of my semester and I am crying rn bc of my test grade yesterday ;_;
Job sucks but pays bills
I have been a nurse for about 8 years now. And let me tell you, the hardest part was the first year of my career. Simply put, I had a horrible preceptor that just took joy when I made a mistake or did not get something quick enough. I wanted to quit, but I still stuck it out for one year and transferred to a different hospital. I promised myself that if I ever precept someone, I will make sure they will feel valued and they felt safe with me. Now, I am a Unit Based Educator that works closely with nurse residents & fellows on a daily basis. It does get better :)
Thank god for ppl like you đ„ș
You're amazing and thank you so much đđ
Thank you@@hashtagmate! It honestly brings me great joy when I support the "baby nurses" as they transition out of the school setting
Aww, thank you@@CinemaDoll137! I honestly would not be where I am today if it weren't for the great group of people that I work with :)
@@dearestdanica good morning how are you doing?
As someone whoâs been a nurse for nearly a year and a half: it truly does get better. Although I still doubt my career choice/Iâm still finding my niche, Iâm way more confident now and do not get pre shift anxiety anymore.
I relate!
Yasss, the nursing profession is so vast. Keep hopping around till you find something to fall in love with đ€
My mom was an RN nurse for 20 years...and she still says that it was the worst choice she made in her life. Especially working in hospitals. It's a lot better and more people respect you if you work for a specialty clinic, or any clinic.
@@midnull6009 its the opposite where I am. Clinic nurses are those who can't hack the hospital life
@@sarahbaer1593 Cuz they're used to being treated like people instead of being worked like dogs, lol.
My mom herniated her back when her admin asked her to help lift an obese person...she filed L&I and it didn't get accepted.
Nurses are warriors, everyone in the medical field is. Having to care for people regardless of how mean they are how difficult they are and the threat of being exposed to all kinds of illnesses. We genuinely do not give you guys enough credit. Stressful jobs are truly a silent killer.
nurse is hard. But you know what's harder? đ
@@josephgallegos7208 some nurses are miserable with their lives & are not decent enough people to not project that onto other nurses.
@@josephgallegos7208 yeah I'm in nursing school & it's the most anxiety inducing part for me when I think about starting clinicals.. I know some patients will treat me shitty but knowing other nurses, who should be helping & encouraging me & other new nurses, may also treat me shitty really scares me.
@@josephgallegos7208 thanks so much đâ€
@@vn7512 being an MD
Iâm crying watching this video because itâs so spot on.
Iâm 6 months into being a nurse, and Iâm having a very hard time.
Thank you for making this.
â€â€â€â€â€. We SUPPORT YOU
I hope you're doing ok!
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How is it now
Same. I am a fresh grad and almost a month into being a nurse. Still having a hard time adjusting, I always feel like my senior nurses are backstabbing me for every mistake I make. I always cry before and after shift, anxiety attacks keep coming in. I question myself if this is the kind of job i would want years from now
Contrary to what appears to be a popular belief I'm here to tell you, after being a nurse for over 30 years, I am always excited for the newbie nurses on the floor and so proud for them to have made it through the gauntlet of nursing programs and state boards. More than that...I love having more help to take care of the patients. She is right you do know more than you likely give yourself credit for. Just breathe.
Me too, and i have only been a nurse for 5 years since passing the board exam. And a preceptor for 4 years. I love new nurses and those who listens well.
Been a nurse for almost a decade and I can handle the stress and the heaviness of each shifts, but when people degrade us and make us feel like shit, thatâs what makes me question myself âwhy am I even doing this?â Like I didnât passed all my exams, gone through years of hardship in school and got my license just to feel shit. But then there are those patients and families who are so grateful and knows our worth, theyâre the ones that makes me a better one and move forward.. My number 1 tip: choose the best working environment for you. Being a nurse itself is hard but if youâre with a great team of workmates and best people around, it makes it so much easier day by day. đđ»
11 years in I wasn't just crying driving home from work, I cried on my way to work. We even talked about places we went around the hospital to cry. I left bedside to do preop in a different hospital. I was closer to a better fit. I left to a surgery center and I finally feel like I'm in the right place. Only took 13 years. And I never thought it would be in orthopedics!
are you happy now?
@@jadenkane8850 yes! I have a good manager who looks out for us but is also fair. And great coworkers. Plus I truly enjoy the work that I do.
@@melanierose9015 thatâs great to hear! I wish you all the best with the rest of your nursing career :)
I left beside for PACU and it was the best decision I ever made! For once I love my job!!! And Iâm a great nurse! Bedside isnât for everyone and thatâs ok!!!!
@@jadenkane8850 hello good morning how are you doing
Iâm a first year medical student and itâs extremely hard. I have never liked another degree, however, Iâm so stressed and anxious due to it being so demanding. Iâm having a difficult time concentrating and being motivated, I hope everything improves or else I will end up failing everything. Becoming a doctor is extremely difficult because everyone is always telling us that we wonât be able to do it and our teachers give us impossible tasks for us fail. I have found comfort in your videos, every time Iâm here I feel motivated as I know that life will get better, itâs just a matter of time. I hope I can make it as my mental health is holding me back. Take care and I'm so grateful for your guidance đ
You will Make it!!!! Keep Going!! Prayers to you and for your future success!
Same !!
You are gonna be a great doctor one day. You can go through this!!!
Good luck!!! you got this đđđ You are amazing!
Hang in there! Talk to your other med school classmates! You guys are in this together. Talk to a counselor, if needed. I'm looking to enter med school in the next few years. Hope to see you out in the field soon!
Not a nurse but a transporter. As a transporter I see all and everything within a hospital setting. Nurses especially have it rough. You guys are truly magnificent and work extremely hard. I appreciate what youâre doing in the medical field and I hope itâs gets rewarded. Thank you for your kindness and service!
Super common. The first two years as new grad you feel so overwhelmed. I can't tell you how many times I sobbed on the way home or in the parking lot feeling like a failure and questioning why I went into this field. Now I'm five years in and still learning everyday. It is hard and never gets easy but you get used to the madness and the hard days are just hard days and not the end of the world. It gets better.
I loved and hated my first nursing job...but I learned a ton and it was a great stepping stone for me to get a job that I now really enjoy. Just because you hate your nursing job doesn't mean nursing isn't for you...you just might need to find something that is a better fit!
Couldn't have said it better myself â„ïž
What do you do now?
@@c.l.6379 I work in endoscopy in the hospital!
@@NurseatNight oh thats amazing!
@@c.l.6379 It has been a nice change. Would definitely recommend a procedural unit.
Being a new grad, I am a doctor and have just started out my career and I tell you the level of anxiety I get befor going for my shift, it just feels like my heart would skip the beat, there are times when I am just lost, times where I don't know what to do, times when I am scared of my senior doctors, times where I feel all the hospital staff would be judging me. The fact is that this is how most of us feel as a new grad, with much expertise the confidence levels will boost, taking everything in a postive notes or as a learning experience would comfort us.
I hope youâve been feeling better! Hang in there, everyone starts somewhere
I have been a nurse for 3 years now and my advice to the new grads is to hang in there the first year. It really does get better. Youâll gain so much confidence in your skills and critical thinking that it will get easier to handle your shifts. After the first year youâll also get to see whether you want to venture into another specialty with your new found confidence. Much love đ
thank u :( I just started my first job and im having a really hard time. I donât wanna be a nurse anymore :(
@@deergreentea2847 it is tough :/ try to remember the reason why you wanted to become a nurse during the difficult shifts. Wish you the best
lmao gg nublet ez
@Lilo Is the baddest study đȘ
i thought i was the only one who had pre-shift anxiety!! omg this makes me feel sooo much better. even as a CNA i felt it. what helped me is doing 15-30 mins of yoga right before my shift, only doing morning shifts, exercising the night or morning before my shift, and having a good support system/therapist/talking to coworkers.
I am in nursing school and just started as a tech and I am feeling this right now.
Haha, I quit bedside after 6 months. Bedside nursing was ny very first job after graduating. I had all the feelings you talked about. I decided that my stress as a bedside nurse was affecting my family life. I had no problem getting another job as an RN in a community clinic. I've also worked in public health, case management for an insurance company and currently in occupational health. The beauty of nursing is that there are many opportunities out there.
What speciality were you in when you left at 6 months? I'd like to work in a speciality clinic like dermatology or aesthetics. Did you have to deal with a lot of rejections because of leaving at 6 months or is still mainly preferred to have at least a year of experience ?
@@CinemaDoll137 its unfortunate they didnât get back to your question! Iâd want to know too!
@@CinemaDoll137 you donât have to start bedside as a new grad. Research places in your area with your speciality and put yourself out there and also look for residency programs!
I'm not saying I got it the worst as a new grad, but my first ever job as a new grad was a charge nurse at a long term care facility where I would be managing the nursing staff (LPNs and CNAs) in the care of our 60 residents in the facility along with other tasks and responsibilities as charge. I didn't know this when I applied for the job as the job description was pretty generic that listed the typical tasks and responsibilities of an RN. it was during the interview where I found out it was for a charge nurse position. A week later, I got a job offer and decided to take it as it was the only interview that landed me an offer (after sending out more than 200+ applications and going through about 12 interviews) and thought it would be great experience to have if I want to get into management. For the first 9 months, I had ABSOLUTELY no idea what I was doing. I remember I just kept calling the physicians and my director every few hours. Luckily, my director and physicians were super supportive as they were aware that I was a new grad. My facility has an extremely supportive staff and not one of them had the "eat the young" type of mentality. There were countless times during the first few months where I wanted to give up and quit but decided to just keep pushing and work hard to know what I needed to know in terms of the management/admin and clinical aspects of the job. It was not easy whatsoever and worked extremely hard. Things eventually got better as time went on with learning everything I needed to know. I seriously would have not survived this job if it wasn't for my director, physicians, and my LPNs and CNAs. Nursing needs to have a supportive culture in order for everyone to thrive in this profession especially if you're a new grad. I'm now two years into my job at the same LTC facility as charge. I'm now feeling a lot more confident and competent at my job but the pre-shift anxiety does not stop as the shifts can range from extremely chill to absolute hell. Although it does get better, I think it'll always be there.
Omg, I started out as a new grad in LTC too when I graduated last year and had the same feelings as you!! My first year was challenging too and not to mention I got COVID from working. I ended up switching jobs to work more hours as I was working part time 8hr shifts in LTC and as a new grad I thought more practice hours would really benefit me. Iâm now working at the hospital.
Have you had staffing challenges because of covid /burn out ? I definitely relate to feeling more confident now but still have pre shift worries n
Iâm so happy that Iâm seeing people able to get LTC and/or home care jobs out of school! I have so much anxiety because Iâm applying to nursing school RN with the decision that I would never work in a hospital. Iâve been a CNA for a home care agency for the past two years and I love it and canât see myself doing anything else.
I'm in a similar position to what you once were. I'm a new RN with no experience and I just started working in an aged care facility with close to 50 residents. Im nearly one week into my orientation (2 weeks total) and am constantly wondering when Ill get fired for being slow or making mistakes. Luckily a very experienced RN is very supportive and is helping me a lot more than I deserve.
I have experienced more than 2 years as RN and decided to work abroad. It has been 2 months I started at this new hospital and all the nightmares have come back again. I feel like I'm a new grad again, I don't know what am I doing, I'm struggling with time management, basically I'm drowning during the shift. At this moment, I started to question myself why did I choose to be a nurse... Thank you for bringing this up because I didn't know that I need this.
Your experiences are there and you have the strength â€ïž goodluck to you, you can do it!
How did you get to work abroad?
Hope you're doing better now.
I have been an RN for about 2 years now, working a telemetry unit and it was and still is brutal in the sense that its fast paced, you learn on the job and sometimes if not always you have coworkers that do not take you into consideration.
Things to know:
Keep your charge nurse and coworkers you do like working with close
Be friendly and kind with doctors, make suggestions, depending on the doctor, Theyll always want to hear feedback.
Treat your patients as human beings not just "that lady who wants a morphine push" or such labels like that.
Always know your patients have a story no matter how trivial even your coworkers.
Always be willing to help. And listen and offer yourself even if its silence.
Things to remember:
You have needs, address them and take action.
You get tired too and thats okay.
Respect yourself
Choose to going into BECAUSE you are the Light patients need.
Pep yourself up before work if you need to.
Patients teach you things about life more than you can ever know. So do not be the nurse who disregards a story or a musing from patients because every moment can be that life changing one for the both of you.
In my late 20s, 5 yrs in nursing, leaving nursing. Switching to a different career. I realized that my wellness should be my number one priority. Thereâs other jobs out there that can fulfill your compassion to help othersâ„ïž
what career did you switch into? im a student nurse and I really dont know if i want to be doing this
@@kyleivyyy iâm gonna be in tech now
same im about to graduate from nursing school and honestly ive finally realized its not for me. im also deciding to switch into tech
What kind of tech job is that?
@@BubbleCatFTW it was stressful for a few weeks to think about what to do next but i dont wanna stress myself out in nursing for another year lol
This is exactly what I needed to hear! I'm currently in my last year of nursing school, and going through my last few placements has made me feel completely incompetent and stressed out. Luckily the nurses on my unit are supper supportive and gave me a few tips as a new nurse.
1. Always ask questions! - The only way that you are going to learn is to find answers. Just as Miki said, asking anyone for help will help you build on top of the knowledge you already know.
2. It takes a MINIMUM of six months to truly adapt to a new work environment. - This is a process that will take time, so don't beat yourself up over not knowing something a few weeks into your job!
3. Your patients appreciate everything you do. - Simply showing them where the bathroom is or giving them a glass of water is a good start to gaining their trust. Working in community services is so rewarding at the end of the day.
Nurses need to stick together, especially us baby nurses!
When you talled about pre shift anxiety I really felt that. I'm not a nurse, but I've worked as a medical intepreter for a while. I felt so anxious before every shift not knowing if I was gonna get a mean patient or angry doctor/nurse. So I can't imagine how the people actually on the floor feel like. Also if I had known back then that other people felt like that, I would felt so much better and less alone. It's so important to talk about these things.
decided to leave my first hospital job after 6 months, i thought i can stick it out for a year but i don't think i can anymore - a year can feel like a long time if you're at a place that's not really the best, not worth the stress. Love all of my coworkers though, they've been so helpful. Now in the process of becoming a school nurse and I'm excited to see where this next chapter of my nursing career goes â€
Is this your first year as a nurse?
Good luck
Love these types of videos!! What Iâve been noticing a lot is that the nursing profession isnât really the problem, the problem is in the healthcare management and how theyâre not taking care of their employees.
COVID time is a rare circumstane I'd imagine. All the respect to you dealing with everything.
Senior year of my psychiatric nursing program and this video came at the PERFECT TIME. A little anxious to graduate next year and start my senior practicum, I canât imagine doing a different career. Thank you Miki, this was informative and helpful.
Love this video, no one talks about the normal and not normal feelings often in nursing! I've been nursing for 2.5 years now and those pre shift anxiety still gets me in every start of my set, but it does get better! I recommend finding a home with supportive staff and managers, it really is a huge help when everyone works as a team and has positive attitude!
preshift anxiety is so real đđ
Thank you for everything that you do! I feel like the nurse's job is so underrated and doctors get all the credit!
So true!
lngrid Skates, good evening how are you doing?
I don't understand why people who work to take care of us have to go through so much stress and anxiety. Wouldn't be better if they were mentally, emotionally and physically healthy, even to boost their own "performance" as medicians or nurses, or medical staff in general? Thank you for this video. It makes me grateful towards all the people who have the nerve to go through a job so absorbing just to make sure that everyone can be OK and healthy!
Thank you for this! I'm 2 months into my new grad program, and all of what you're saying is real. From pre-shift anxiety, to nurses eating their young, to not knowing anything. I get that all on a regular basis. It's good to know that feeling does go away. I just can't imagine when that will be for me. I do hate those older nurses who ask specific questions about a patient's history. Like I barely have time to finish passing meds, charting, and responding to behavioral, COVID-positive, or otherwise challenging patients. I'm also supposed to sit there and read through tons of doctors' notes to find out what their plans are and learn about a patient's complex medical history in the 20 mins I have left before shift change.
I start my first nursing job next Monday! 0.9 schedule, 8hr shifts, alternating weekends. Super excited, but super anxious at the same time. Thank you for your vlogs, your messages are always comfortingđ»
How did it go? Best of luck!
Lydia Radonic, good morning how are you doing?
From my experience, every time you switch nursing specialties or even units in the same nursing stream I have found myself back to square 1 or year 1. The culture of the unit has to be understood: who is a natural and giving mentor in the unit, who is the unit snitch, which CRN will load your assignment with the most challenging patients while giving her experienced coffee buddy all the easy patients. Who gets the preferred schedule and who has the manager's ear?
I worked on one unit where a clique of senior nurses would peruse the charts of patients who had had new nurses assigned to their care. If the senior nurses could find any missing documentation on something like a wound dressing, they would write up the new nurse with an incident report, forcing the manager to call in the new nurse in to be disciplined. The manager knew full well that the bullies of her unit were trying to take down all new nurses in order to increase overtime for the senior clique.
Omg MIKI I really needed this! Iâm a new grad 1 month into my 1st nursing job and Iâm questioning everything đą itâs so comforting to hear that all of this is normal :) tysm for sharing đ
I feel like know what specialty you want to go in is good thatâs why CNA experience as a float or different units is good to get a feel for which environment you work good in. I feel in love with the PACU, critical care and pre op outpatient setting
New grad here! This video was exactly what I needed. I started my first nursing job in April 2020 on a Cardiac floor. Used to have terrible anxiety days before going in. Now Iâm much better. Still need those 24hrs before a shift to get my mind right but Iâm less worried about what will happen. I simply try to tackle the day as best as I can. My plan is to stick it out for a year and one day get to L&D.
Just started working as a CNA (waiting to be accepted into nursing school) and your words couldnât be more accurate, especially the clicky nature and toxic talk of people in the medical field.
Thank you Miki for making me feel like my feelings are normal and valid!
Nice. Hang in there. I just got accepted in nursing school, canât believe how competitive it was but my school only has 12-16 spots a semester..
My first month on my nursing job is really the worst. I literally cries at night and wants to quit. It is true that you will learn more when youâre working.
She said it
During my clinical attachment, I almost wanted to give up. It was so tiring as a student nurse but I have to keep going. Nursing is a tough job but when patients say thanks to you, that makes it all worth it!
Three months into my first nursing job. I have no idea what I'm doing, I dread every shift, and I hate alot of my co-workers. I know this is normal, but two years experience can't come fast enough. I also hate talking to Doctors. I have no idea what they are ever talking about. And 90% of them (the one's I've had to talk to) are horrible people.
Nobody asked but damn, we in the same boat. Honestly feels relieving that Iâm not the only one.. the only difference is I like my coworkers on night shift. Morning shift nurses are intimidating. Iâve been a nurse for more than 3 years but itâs my first month at a hospital and Im just gonna get a year in and gtfo. Im hoping to transfer to a procedural care unit. Itll be much more doable than med surg ortho/spine. đđŒ
@@nachamu99 Same. I just want my year there for the resume and I'm OUT. I plan on doing travel nursing because you get paid triple of what the staff nurses make, and if the Hospital sucks, you can dip after 13 weeks.
@@Glodwra Nice. I hope it works out for you. Best of luck wherever you end up going and especially right now in your current nursing job!
This is not normal ⊠unfortunately it is common though. If you are able to get an offer somewhere else definitely take it.
I want to become a nurse, but hearing this is giving me second thoughts. I can't even imagine all the crap yall go through, sounds like a nightmare, although helping people is what I want to do lol.
As a clinical dietitian, we do not care how long they've had a PEG. So that nurse shouldn't care! Not relevant at all. Thanks for sharing this can apply to anyone in healthcare!
Iâm in a completely different industry where you also work longs hours and as a junior, your schedule is at mercy of your seniorsâ whims. What you said was totally true - the first year was absolutely the hardest and I had to learn everything on the job (especially because I didnât study what I pursued a career in). Industry culture is also quite toxic but I was very lucky in that I found a more nurturing and forgiving firm that invests a lot in its juniors. I definitely cried lots in my first 6 months and always felt like I was failing. Thanks for the great vid!
THIS right here is so true. Thank you for posting this. I am noticing during my capstone the resident nurses are SO hard to get along with. I will tell you throughout my entire clinical experience I have met only TWO welcoming nurses. The rest couldn't be bothered with the students. I am hoping as more new nurses are coming, things will change and people will be more welcoming. It just is so incredibly frustrating because they were where we were, and know exactly what we are feeling but I guess people forget where they come from.
I deal with this as a CNA..thanks because your point about calling out for mental health days is important..I called out last week and even though I have 3 day 12 hour shifts..I really needed that day off...how can I take care of my patients if I havenât taken care of myself first?? I feel really bad when I do happen to call out, but gladly it isnât often. So thank you Miki for the clarification that it is okay!!â€ïžâ€ïž
Couldnât do my job as a new grad RN without wondeful CNAâs, do not blame you for calling out. You guys do so much thank you
Thank you Miki!!! You are so right. I donât even work in nursing, but you can apply this advice to any job. Any new job/position during your first year SUCKS and is like ZERO return on your investment! You are learning as you go, in the fire, by experience! It is SO tough, but you have to remember to not be so hard on yourself, and cause yourself so much undue stress and anxiety. You will learn and figure it out! Every new experience offers a brand new challenge but you are GROWING for it! đ
I donât think bedside is something that gets easier because I work with a lot of veteran nurses and they say it doesnât get easier even after many years. Itâs stressful regardless how long youâve been in the field. It⊠never gets âeasyâ lol
I work in the dental field and it has its moments when it gets rough but I could never imagine being a nurse! I dont know how you all do it day in and out. You guys kick ass! đ€
Same dental assistant here as well
When does it get better? Lol Iâve been a nurse for 5 years⊠still waiting.
I RAN to the comments to see if anyone else said thisđđđ
I was the opposite. I was passionate at the beginning. Now I want out. Working on it. Lots of ways to help persons without being demoralized and abused. In fairness, most of my negative experiences were in institutional care. Community positions have been more positive.
Hi miki, thank you for creating such a fun and informative vlogs. As a foreigner who had a degree outside US its definitely very hard for us to start over ive been working on warehouse and just watching your vlogs makes me want to work hard again to achieve my degree again. Thank you for reminding me that my best is enough. I wish for all things best for you and your boyfriend.
I left my nursing career (more than 10 yrs I devoted my life in the field) for my mental health. Crazy rostered shifts, increased pressure on staffing and bullied by senior nurses made me realise itâs not worth it anymore. I waited that long to leave cz I was saving for future business plans. That was the best decision Iâve ever made.
What did you transition to from nursing?
I left Respiratory Therapy after 30 years of off and on. I now have my own Business which I should have done years ago. Life is short. Be happy!!!!!!!
Iâll be going on my first internship next month and the anxiety is already getting to me :â) this vid helped a lot tho! thanks, and take care đ
Thanks for this video! It came at the right time. I'm kind of shy, and don't like to express my thoughts in public, but I have to say that you hitted the nail on the head with this one. I'm a new nurse, and I pray everyday for God to help me be the best nurse I can be, regardless of the negative environment that sometimes (not to say most of the time) surrounds me. I try to be positive everyday, and hold strong until this 1st yr pass. Thanks again for your advice. God bless you đ.
Pre shift anxiety omg.i work as an EMT at a home health urgent care service. this is my first job and man, after the first shift, i had nightmares constantly because there was so much i didn't know and alot of the things we would learn on the job. 2nd shift was better but i still had it in, and i would routinely wake up early to calm myself down while watching youtube before my shift. 2 months have passed, and im finally starting to calm down and enjoy the job but it truly is fucking scary. but then theres moments where i meet patients who are so thankful and patients who believe in my future dreams(to maybe one day become a doctor) and all the advice some give that make me feel so proud that i could make a true difference in their lives
this is the earliest I have ever been to a new video being posted
Thank you so much for this
This is the most useful and well explained ever. Iâm currently still studying and I have a Q. Does this apply to doctors tooo?
After having going through the "new grad" phase with all my friends, I think I can honestly say it applies to ALL jobs, but especially healthcare jobs :) It gets better for the 1st year is _farrr_ from ideal
Thank you for the advice!!! Iâm actually considering entering the medical stream in 2 years time when I reach the level where I can choose what stream Iâm going to. But I still donât know whether I would be able to deal with all of this. The dramas are really different compared to irl đ. I donât know how medical staff do it but in my perspective, you all are incredible and our heroes!!!! Thank You So Much For EVERYTHING!!!!!
3rd year med student here, it absolutely applies! We're humans too
Iâm at my 6 month mark on a cardiac stepdown unit and let me tell you, my mental health has been through it!! Lol. Thank god for a great staff that supports and helps. Iâm actually interviewing for L&D due to moving states and this is my last week at my first nursing job. I will say even the short 6 months I have been on the unit, it does get better with time. But some shifts are just so bad that it feels like Iâm right back to where I started. Much love to all of the nurse out there, new grad or notâ€ïž
This is such good timing, Iâm a new grad and I just finished my third shift as an RN. The pre-shift anxiety is very real!
I so needed this, thank you!!! đ just started my first nursing job and some days are harder than others but Iâm trying to remember it will get better â€ïž
Again, nursing wouldnât be this bad IF doctors and nurses weren't overworked and understaffed. It will continue to get worse till itâs so bad that it collapses. It really really doesnât have to be this way, but we let it happen so they will continue doing this till it breaks.
I am a new grad nearing the end of my orientation on my floor and have just started to get really anxious, feelings of being defeated, and even almost cried while on a shift because of how much I felt like I was not getting or progressing. I finally had a good night on my shift, but it is difficult. I am even more nervous for when I get off of orientation and still have a ton of questions and things to learn. I am constantly busy and am scared that I won't ever get an actual break at work-- which is much needed. Anyone else?
Hey Kimberly! How have you been since? I read your comments and this is what exactly I am going through. I am almost at the end of my orientation but I feel like I wanted to quit. :(
@@aubreyannfollosco3031 Hi! Honestly it got a lot better. It could be that I enjoy working with the population that I chose, but it has been better. I do not feel as nervous, but I do have days where going to work can be difficult. I hope you start to feel a bit more confident in your knowledge of what you are doing!
Thank you so much!
I am following my preceptor for about 3 weeks now and I have been feeling so defeated and hopeless. Everyday I go back I put my mind to positivity and I learn more and a lot of time I make simple mistakes like grabbing the wrong kit for my preceptor. I feel like Iâve asked dumb questions but Iâve purposely asked them so I want to make sure. I just dislike it because I donât want to seem like Iâm not fit for this license. I pray everyday. I havenât been sleeping well either. I am attending online school too and itâs been rough just trying to put in school work because all I really want to do on my days off is review what Iâve learned at work.
I left bedside and working for outpatient. Itâs so different and I feel like a new nurse again. I still get anxiety coming to work. And I hate being new to a new place of work and dealing with seniority and getting bad schedules. Itâs part of the process. Nurses eating their young, bullying and making nurses look dumb and stupid. Unacceptable behavior. I say from experience and recommendation is stick it out 1-2 years and job hop, thatâs the fastest way to get a a raise instead of sticking to one hospital. So many staff RNs are leaving and giving travel nursing a try so they donât deal with politics and getting paid 2-3x more. Iâm looking into it actually. The thought of working 3 months and taking time off in between is nice lol
After being a nurse for 18 years it's absolutely laughable about what I was anxious and nervous about my first year. Definitely got better once I hit the one year mark and once I hit 5 year mark was so much more comfortable. I still do have a little pre shift anxiety but I just started at a new facility. Leave you with this thought: if there's ever a time that someone thinks they know everything and they stop asking questions is when they can make mistakes. Always, always, ALWAYS ask questions! If not coworkers ask your charge or unit supervisor.
Amy Miller, good morning how are you doing?
hi miki! i'm by no means experienced at all. i started off as a new grad working with covid patients and that was basically my whole training. i'm learning more now that my floor isn't entirely covid and im still asking for help despite being charge trained and so called "experienced." i dont think the feeling of being competent will kick in until at least 2 years later, which is expected but i've learned to not be so hard on myself. when in doubt, always reach out for help and get an extra set of eyes and hands. if the provider isn't responding or acting, keep escalating it! it does get better and i know it for myself.
I felt the exect same anxiety that you are talking about and I just wanted to thank you for validating all of these feelings. I've thought about quitting many times, but by now I have made it past a lot of these feelings. So you can make it too.
Stay strong
This video showed up on my recommended. My dad worked two full time RN jobs for two different nursing homes for 20 years to put me and my brother through college. He literally did it to support his family here and support family in the Philippines. He worked 16 hour days and wasnât around much during my childhood. He retired right before Covid after my brother and I both got our degrees and full time jobs. I respect what heâs done so much and heâs chilled out these past couple years pursing the second chapter of his life.
I also work in healthcare in administrative for a nutrition therapy program for the hospital and yes you are mentally crushed every day. The day drags on, thereâs not enough time to finish tasks and Before you know it, you are back at work. Your hobbies, quality time, and free time are completely diminished and you feel like a shell of yourself after work. There is a 6 month wait for employees to see a therapist and everyone is angry all the time.
Glad to know weâre all not alone in this and we are in it together!
Forgive me for the long comment, but for those with the patience to read through it, I think youâll probably find at least one validating and/or encouraging thing. Nurse here since 2014. Started in long-term skilled nursing, then went to a hospital med-surg/oncology floor for three years. Have been in ICU for almost three and a half years.
Nursing is just really freaking hard (and for reference, I went through four semesters of law school before quitting out of sheer misery). It starts with nursing school. Itâs so anxiety-inducing and confidence-crushing. I went into nursing school being used to being honors-earning in everything. But those nursing tests are a whole new animal. 50% of the test questions are âselect allâ questions (no partial credit, either all right or all wrong), and the other 50% of the multiple choice questions have at least three or four âtechnically correctâ answers, but one is âmore correctâ than the others. đ€Ź It was legit like psychological torture. I graduated riddled with anxiety, and doubting every move I made. Granted, it apparently all served some purpose, as I did pass the NCLEX with the minimum number of questions. Iâm sure my nursing school was proud - screw the psychological impact it had on my life.
Miki Rai is right in that the OVERWHELMING amount of âlearning to be a nurseâ happens on the job. Thereâs only so much that you can learn from books and practicing on models/mannequins (and speaking optimistically, maybe 0.5-1% of the U.S. population bears any resemblance to those mannequins).
My first job in skilled nursing taught me how to manage an insane number of patients (30-60), and how to be comfortable making independent assessments and relaying concerns to on-call providers who were not available to make their own in-person assessments (night shift). I also had a rude introduction to one particular nurse who was the prime example of the nurse who eats her young. I still donât totally understand it - gathering pleasure in trying to tear someone down. đ€·ââïž I guess it just comes from either insane cattiness/pettiness (a.k.a. just plain being a bitch), and/or wanting to make yourself look better by making someone else look worse (a.k.a. insecurity). Hopefully that culture of âeating your youngâ is changing. I do think that as more âyoungâ nurses are becoming the go-to preceptors/trainers, that will improve. There are many young nurses out there who are insanely smart, and are more than capable of training new nurses, and they very vividly remember what went right and what went wrong in their training. That, in addition to the anti-bullying movements happening amongst school-aged kids, will hopefully result in better humans. And in turn, that will hopefully lead to better humans/nurses training future humans/nurses.
I actually had a really good intro to hospital bedside nursing on the med-surg floor. I split time between two preceptors. They were both relatively young, but had roughly a decade of experience on that unit. They were always there for support/guidance when I needed/wanted it, but didnât unnecessarily hover. I came off of orientation a few weeks early, because I felt confident in all of the most common stuff I would see, and knew that I would have the support/guidance I would need for any odd thing that might come up later. I gained a lot of confidence and skill pretty quickly, and ended up being a charge nurse after about a year, and training a new grad about a year after that. And I think she turned out pretty good đ - has been rocking out in the OR for a few years. đ
After gaining more confidence on the med-surg unit, I found that I really found a lot of gratification in taking care of the super-sick patients who needed transfer to ICU, so I transferred to ICU. LOL. I lucked out in having an AMAZING ICU preceptor. I still call her âMamaâ to this day (she has since left ICU for PACU), even though sheâs only 12 years older than me. đ She took me under her wing, and taught me so much from an academic standpoint, from a practical standpoint, and from a super-OCD standpoint. I was already pretty darn OCD, but you really need to have elevated OCD to be a good ICU nurse, as there are so many tiny little details that you need to recognize. Now, Iâm a regular charge nurse - which includes responding to rapid responses and Code Blues, and training my second ICU preceptee. My first ICU preceptee is already doing chargeâŠbecause she just waltzed into the place already being a smart, badass nurse. đ I just taught her a few of the finer points and made her more OCD. But, my second ICU preceptee is a new grad, and Iâm trying to train her in the midst of regularly having three super-sick ICU patients in the midst of the delta COVID surge. Thatâs a whole new challenge. đ±
All that to be saidâŠas a preceptor and former preceptee, I just beg other preceptors to be kind and supportive to anyone youâre training! Train those preceptees right, and they will competently have your back when the đ© hits the fan. I canât tell you how many times my first ICU trainee has come to my rescue in the few months since she finished orientation. Itâs all about adding strong members to your team! Why do anything else?
Do you recommend nursing still? I keep seeing negative comments about nursing and hardly ever see positivesâŠ
@@lilliwilson In all honesty, itâs a toss up. Nursing is a VERY wide ranging field. There are a lot of different settings, and a ton of different roles within those various settings, to choose from. So, as long as you have a nursing license in good standing, the career possibilities are almost endless. BUT, at the end of the day, the U.S. healthcare system is severely dysfunctional - thanks to the almighty dollar and the bottom line that earns those at the top of the healthcare food chain the most money. đ€·ââïž
Working in healthcare is not for the faint of heart. As a bedside ICU nurse, I find a handful of brief rewarding moments within a year. Unfortunately, I do feel like the overwhelming majority of the time, Iâm spread too thin to perform any single aspect of my job to the best of my ability, and rarely hear any positive/encouraging words from patients, their family members, or administration (other than my unit director - sheâs been wonderfully supportive of me). The term âburnoutâ doesnât even begin to cover it. But, I do keep going back. I LOVE the the mental/critical thinking challenge of caring for a crashing or full arrest patient, and the interdisciplinary teamwork involved in that (although, I obviously donât wish that situation upon anyone). But the majority of the time, it just feels like Iâm being literally and metaphorically đ© on. đ I probably will be transitioning to a different role within the next few years.
If you know deep down in your soul that you are a nurse at heart, go for it. There are lots of different roads you can travel on in the nursing world. But, if youâre feeling iffy about going into nursing to begin with, another career choice may be better for you.
@@jdkilpatrick2000 thank you so much
This video is so helpful! Thank you very much!
I don't work in medical field, I do my master's degree in physics. And the things that you described are so similar to my experience. I wanted to go futher and get Phd, but as you said in the video I always have the feeling of being defeated and I'm afraid that it will be the same during Phd. My mental health is not good due to constant stress and thoughts that I need to work more. But the more I do, the less I want to continue, becuse the level of understanding becomes more complicated and I have to study more.
It's such a relief to watch this video and hear that all these things are normal. It gives me courage to continue and reduce my stress. Thank you for your honesty! I hope that more people wiil be more open about this side of their journey.
I started nursing school in Germany so everything you experience in your first year as a new grad I dealt with in my training. We have classes and also work in the hospital every 3 weeks. It was exhausting. Mean nurses, terrible schedules all of the above and on top of that you have to study. I do like the fact that we have experience on all wards before we actually graduate so we donât feel as lost as someone thatâs only had to be book smart.
Love your video. You were honest and got right to the point. Not dragging on for days with useless babble like many do on here. I also appreciate your "light at the end of the tunnel" about just hanging in there for a year or two. It really will make the difference for you in the long run in your career even if it seems like pure hell, which it is at first. Thanks for posting.
Definitely what I needed to hear. I recently hit my 6 month mark as a new nurse and I have so many mixed emotions. Trying my best to stick it out instead of giving up!
Everything you are saying is absolutely true. Iâm so glad you made this video. Iâm working on Med/Surg Iâm 30 days in and I have wanted to quit every other day and felt so unprepared. And all the acronyms Iâve never heard of. I really needed to hear this
You guys are so brave for entering the field in the past couple of years. Thank you, you are appreciated.
Transition is rough regardless if it's into something or out of something.
Thank you Miki, a really great time to see this video! I just started out as a provisional registered pharmacist and I feel the exact same thing. This gives me extra support, courage and validation that I'm not alone and all these feelings are normal, thank you and good luck to everyone out there who is just starting out their job in health care system or just any new job đ
KimberlyLim...hello good morning how are you doing
Kimberly, how are you doing?
@@austinconnor5297 hey, thanks for asking, im learning and striving through everyday :)))
@@kimberlylim4539 what are you learning English, where are you from, how's the pandemic situation over there?
@@kimberlylim4539 Hello my friend
Iâm an ultrasound student starting my 3rd month of clinicals and I cry all the time. Constantly regretting going into this profession, praying before each patient that it will be an easier scan so I can get it done and not get screamed at by my preceptors. This week was a rough one, I feel so uncomfortable and like Iâm just not cut out for this line of work. I have 10 months left of clinicals and I have no idea how Iâm going to make it through. The hospital environment feels so incredibly toxic, Iâve often thought about taking my own life because Iâve put everything on the line for this, worked so hard to get to this point, and Iâm terrified I wonât make it through. Getting bullied and made fun of by the people that are supposed to be training me and helping me succeed, but they are setting me up for failure so they can attack me, trying to break me so they wonât have to deal with me anymore. I just feel so lost and hopeless.
this is a great video! being a new grad can be horrible sometimes but it definitely feels like a huge accomplishment getting through it
She keeps saying these are new grad problems, after being a nurse for 30 years, these are still problems nurses face everyday sadly.
Yes I agree. I have 3 neighbors in my neighborhood who were nurses and all worked as a nurse for the past 15-20+ years. All worked in different hospitals/settings and all 3 have quit in the past 6 months due to "burnout" or "stress" they said. They all say they regret going into the field and are having to restart a career plan. I'm now applying to radiology program instead of nursing. I wouldn't be able to handle the stress unfortunately đȘ also 2 of the ex nurses are divorced and they blame their divorce to the "nurse life"
@@cprivera1 thats so depressing :/
@@cprivera1 me as a nursing student....wtf
I agree
@@cprivera1 imma go ahead and take this as my sign
I'm a nurse from Spain and i have to say that these is totally truth. Thank you so mauch for these video, It helps a lot â€ïž
This video came out at the perfect time for me. I start my preceptorship tomorrow night shift ICU. I've been so tough on myself and my anxiety is through the roof! đ Thank you for this video!
hi !! how has it been going???
I always have an anxiety every time i change my employment. I am not motivated to go to work, i just want to stay at home :(
Currently I am here in the UK and i am in the phase of asking myself why did I left my previous hospital where I am already well adjusted and comfortable. Being an ambitious and adventurous that I am, I have to deal and live what I have right now. Hoping that the day will come that I will be grateful for my decision of exploring different field of nursing in a different country.
it hard to not hate any job...being the new person sucks...keep grinding!
Youâre not a nurse, are you.
@@lizzy5437 what? what does not having to be a nurse has to do with my comment? it common to hate ur job as the new person...because a lot of new ppl get the crap shift when the are new..its pretty common all around?
I absolutely love this! I work in the education field and have a lot of the same feelings. I debated about quitting my job several times but I see this video as sign to keep going. For all my newbies no matter what field know that it gets better at the end of the line
Thank you so much for making this video Miki!Iâm graduating nursing school this year and Iâve been having crazy anxiety about what life will be like as a new grad. This was super comforting and your honesty is so appreciated. â€ïž
Honestly nothing in life comes easy. I worked in customer service in a call center, and as a healthcare administrator for a healthcare management for 3-5 years. I can tell you that everywhere you go there will be people especially upper management who will chew & belittle you! Nursing is no difference, but what I like about nursing is you have an easier process for change if needed! Compare to working a 9-5 job in a company that is abusive and you're stuck.
Thank you for this video, I really needed to hear this. Im a new grad from law school, starting my first job soon and I have soo many questions and anxiety. I have no idea how I will handle all the stress of not knowing what to do at the exact moment. Its a bit comforting that everybody feels this way... I'm still freaking out though đđ Anyways, have a wonderful day, greetings from Hungary!
One time I thought about going to school and get a nursing degree because of financial perspective đ€đ°, but glad that I majored in accounting and truly enjoy it.
about three weeks in to my first job as a nurse and hate it :( itâs really difficult. I have so much anxiety. they are so short staffed and the patient ratios are insane.. and everyone asks everything from the nurse. they always stay overtime as well. and I canât really learn because everyone is so busy. I havenât even gotten IV certified bc everyone is so busy. they donât even have time to talk with the patients. even the patients complain!! i wanna be a nurse that talks to my patients. i cant do this. I wish I didnât become a nurse. I really hope I can find an outpatient job.
This is how I feel and hardly get to build rapport with my patients
because we're so busy all the time
@@mariapatlan5746 literally same omg!!!!
About to graduate next year and I can't explain how anxious I am as I enter the field. I'm a product of online classes and I'm not confident with my clinical skills. I just hope it gets better. đ€đ»
Same with me
I'm almost done with school and still get clinical anxiety. I always think about coming up with something to stay home - not because I don't want to go or hate it already; I'm just terrified and anxious. The day usually doesn't turn out as bad as I thought but I remember when I had my first clinical, the nurse I shadowed asked about ascites (who doesn't know that?) and I froze. I got so flustered even when I knew what he was talking about. The next time I went, I didn't shadow him again since it was clear he didn't want any of us around him anymore and he gave me this long, dirty, hateful look in the breakroom while we were on lunch. I wanted to sob and still think about it to so much disdain.
ICU nurse of 2 years here: if I was precepting a student, and they didnât know a question I asked them, I wouldnât scold them for not knowing. The point is you are still learning. When you eventually become a RN, there are going to be days that youâre going to feel defeated - it is very normal. You canât possibly know everything. Continue to take it one step at a time, and continue to grow your knowledge and skill set. Lastly, when you eventually become comfortable enough and are put in a leadership position, remember how that one nurse you shadowed made you feel, and donât make a newer nurse or nursing student feel that way. That type of treatment bears no fruit in growing someoneâs knowledge.
@@CalciumChloride4 thank you for this đ€. I always told myself that I could never make a new nurse feel that way if I had the opportunity to precept.
me working my 9-5 startup office job watching this vid from start to finish: âpls tell me more đ€©â
This is a great video. Really ads some perspective to my little world. New Grad in the ER. 3 months in and still kind of terrified. Things are getting better but the pre-shift anxiety still gets me.
I've been a nurse for almost 20 years. I just recently resigned from a management job as an Assistant Director of Nursing because I hated it so much. From the tattle telling, to the unbelievable hostility toward one another over silly things, to the resistance of sound instruction on how to complete their work, to me having to ask the staff repeatedly for records and information necessary to complete my job, to people thinking managment means 24/7 access to you, to me having to complete admissions the floor nurses REFUSED to do... it was awful! I thought the staff was telling me they didn't need me, until 3 out of 20 nurses in a meeting admitted they didn't feel they could identify the signs and symptoms of COVID-19 and a COVID hub was recently opened in the building. Then I realized, the staff was not ready for ME and definitely were not quality driven. I swear.......I'm just looking for a nursing job where nurses are mature, communicate effectively, provide orientation, and act appropriately toward new staff.
I appreciate you for this video being so true about the realities of being an RN practicing as a new graduate. The way we can be truly adjusted to our job is to feel the contentment by working hard and being positive on our side becaz we all are chosen for a purpose
I felt the exact same way. At the end of my first year at uni we had a summer internship and i literally was assigned to the cardio service which we had just learned about (cardio and respiratory conditions) and i got in feeling confident. Only to find out that i only knew 20% of what i needed so there was a lot of researching during the day and on my days off. So i learned a lottttt.
Personally i wasnt tortured as an intern.
As a student still i didn't get to work the night shift so idk about that.
All in all i agree with what you've said. However, i did enjoy my days and the routines. I was also lucky that the nurse i was following was really open to teach me and let me practice.
Well, second week into my grad year. I havenât slept. I have my own patients this week and I donât know what the hell is going on half of the time. Waiting for my late shift to start and seriously wish I would get injured on my way to work just enough to excuse me from going in there. I know that sounds bad but it is the truth. I hate myself for thinking I could do this.
I just graduated nursing school a couple months ago and got a job on a med sure floor at a hospital near me. Im about to finish my residency and I still feel like I won't be ready. I have so much preshift anxiety and feel so flustered at work. Its only been two months but I feel like they expect you to know everything. I am so afraid and feel so down and not confident in my nursing abilities. Im going to try to stick it out, it feels a lot better knowing there are other people out there feeling like me.
Iâve been a nurse 4 years now. I never complain, and am one of the stronger nurses. Iâve seen nurses cry at work. Even those with more experience. I feel for them because theyâre usually older ladies in their 50âs and 60âs. Donât waste your cash going down this road. It appears to get better, but really itâs like getting used to a bad smell. It never got better you just got used to it. Itâs romanticized on television. This career is admirable, but is not worth the toll it will take on you. The best advice I can give you would be to drop out now, and pursue a career in tech, real estate, engineering, pilot, mechanic, literally anything else is better than nursing. Iâve recently taken a few months off to reevaluate my life, and Iâd much rather take a job at hobby lobby than go back to this bull shit. However, I will say that there are moments I have with the patients that remind me of the love, and compassion that moved me to be a nurse. Itâs just no longer enough to keep me in the field. Donât sell yourself short. This career is under appreciated, underpaid, and lacks good leadership. Best of luck