The Power Of Walking Away
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- Why walking away is a powerful method to regain sovereignty over your life.
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‘Don’t stay where you are tolerated. Go where you are celebrated.’ 👍
Hell yeah!
I kinda disagree on that, based on my experience, I prefer to spend my time with my "real" friends, who see me as an equal, knows my failures and accept me for my flaws, sometimes going to people who celebrate you is often, boring, you dont feel yourself, you feel trapped and maybe they dont like the same things as you.
Being "tolerated" while safe, for a better word....is still, not good enough and quite frankly, hurtful !
True. But it is hard when you have limited options for socialization. It's either being tolerated or being depressed at home (need to work on that!)
Most people probably aren't celebrated anywhere
I’ve never regretted walking away from anything or anyone. What I do regret, is not having done it sooner than I did.
Amen! Both in a long time friend and in walking away from a long time job. Should have walked away from both five years before I did.
Preach it brother (or sister)!
I do feel the same!!..:/
Same here
Stole my words
If your absence brings me peace, I did not lose you.
👊😂
I like this quote, thanks
Eli Samuels amen
😎👌💯
Never saw it like that, you literally explained my situation
“You've got to learn to leave the table when love's no longer being served.”
- Nina Simone
Such a good quote Pedro
Wow, beautifully said👌😇
While Nina is correct from the standpoint of this subject, if you are in a relationship to ‘get’ love you need to re-think your priorities. Because then you become the person who is demanding the time and attention of someone else, instead of giving freely.
Uuuu ! 💯💢💥👏🏼💪🙏
Wow! Profound!
Walking away from toxic people becomes easy when you love yourself
oh yes self esteem. yawn.
Marzia Diba everytime i walk away from my toxic family my sister in-law is like an FBI or CIA who always know where i am eventhough i didn’t tell anyone where i am going. when found they always blackmail me to people i am in associate with.
@@loonylinn8824 Dont worry you will be fine. There will be a day when nobody will dare to treat you wrongly. Beleive in yourself that only you can control urself. Love yourself unconditionaly.Trust me you will be fine. Tc buddy
Perfect comment
Just make sure you do it calmly and with dignity.
My new favorite line has become: "We don't share common values. I wish you the best on your journey."
I love your line it is so true🥰
Mine is "we're not vibrating on the same level. I wish you all the best on your journey"
goin use that
I’m using it now ✅
Although, I think it's proactive to have further discussion, to keep open to consideration, expanding the reflection on their and my values. It might prove to serve you, and or them. I see this period characterized by personal, prideful bubbles. I realize such a tact is simply democracy, yet before too long we will find ourselves with no other to discuss and reflect with, and there is no such dishonorable a condition.. Because I've gone there, I know. Peace
@@ianw7816 I give chances before I resort to this. Not a fan of cancel culture. But I am a fan of protecting my peace. A lot of toxic people get away with transgressions bc "we should just forgive" or "just give them a chance." If there are numerous red flags, patterns and repeated offenses, you handed me the scissors ✂️ so don't be mad that I cut you off. This isn't done out of spite or hate. It's self love.
Time is something you will never get back. Don't waste your time on people who bring you down.
@Sharon Jensen omg... you are so right! I never thought about that until now, and looking back, those negative people were always late, and didn't realize (or care, or apologize)... so disrespectful.
I agree. What I do for a living is not common. I am yet to meet people who are 100% supportive. They either want handouts or treat me like I don’t know what I am doing. It’s insulting. Those people I immediately cutoff. There are no announcements made, just “BYE” 👋
❤️
Sad thing is, sometimes the people who bring you down are the people who you are stuck with
It's somewhat simple to do that, unless you are bringing yourself down.
Don't cross oceans for people that wouldn't cross a puddle for you.
Great phrase
You can’t cross the ocean if your afraid to lose sight of the shore. I thinks that’s one?
Thank you for this.
This meant a lot
Rachel M I blasted my medieval cannon at my neighbors house yesterday
self respect is better than seeking respect from others
WORDZ
julie robinson very true
There is no other way. If you don't respect yourself you will never have the respect of others.
I have a question. In order to maintain self-respect, what do you usually do?
Jewel Clark Thanks! I will keep them in mind.
Never make the mistake of caring for someone more than they would for you, it will haunt you for life.
But people do, they enjoy that love pain
@@northstar5919 You wish you could either erase that memory or ideally everything would've worked out but it's not a great feeling when it leaves you with only scars.
Sounds true but when you care for someone you don't know how much they care about you, you just do it out of love. And yes, when they betray you it hurts forever
@@injujuan8993 Well, in my case she showed 10 time more emotions than I did so it felt like she genuinely cared. Heck, she's the one approached and showed attraction towards me first. There was a time when every decision I made revolved around her and I gave it all to her when I thought her feelings were genuine. So when she was gone, it felt like I lost everything. The stereotype about "males have less emotions" is completely the opposite. Men just express it less while their feelings are stronger while females like to show more than they care. Not to generalize too much because everyone is different but I'm judging this based on my experience.
@@thumpertorque_ Men are pure, yes, and their energy is strong. God bless. Take care
Losing a friend who turns out to be not genuine is not a loss, but in fact a gain. 👍
Just hurts when you've got history
My goodness this is my experience..i need to walk away😭
:’) I hope so, but the trade off is having no friends
Amen
greetings from Arkansas my family and I are Christian now thank God make Jesus Christ your best friend not people on this Earth the Bible says curse is a man who trusts in man......people need to be all so comfortable with their own skin and be able to be alone and be all right and do things and travel and everything if they have no good family or no friends to help them and whatnot in their lives.... You find out who your true friends and family are when you have nothing
If you can attach, you can detach too. So walk away even if it's hard, I know you can :)
I wish alot of abundance in your lives.
It took me a while but I did walk away.
I was really in love so all my life plans and goals were betting on her to be there.
It felt SO lonely when I finally left. It felt like even if I achieve a lot in life there would be no one to share it with.
So I started talking again to her, but did something different. I respected myself while I kept giving her rope. Long story short she hanged herself with the rope I gave her. Now I KNOW I dodged a bullet, and I feel so much better.
Hello
needed this
@@ezequiel5260 Jesus 😳
I didn't start walking from people until i hit the age of 42.
Walking away is an act of freedom. My time, my energy, my will, my life.
Can't walk away from death
Well said!
ha he he he but death is our destiny. So In a way everything we do is a step closer to it. It’s what we do before we get there.
Mariana C ....luv that!!!! ❣️✨😉✨
Evem if i find a thing to do and try to put it fourth...p they will just overwrite overwhelm me and make my thing futile as soon as they wamt... i ll feel that and get depressed
I learned this in my mid 20s. I’m 31 now and as soon as I sense toxicity in someone, I just leave. Our life is short on this planet, don’t allow toxic people to consume any of it.
I’m 24 and I’m so glad this happened to me. I’m cold hearted now, if someone so much as reminds a gives an off vibe when they respond to say me asking them a question I won’t make any effort with that person couldn’t care less about them
Pondering Life worked for the same employer for 12 years, have four strong friends that I met at 5 years old still. Nice assumption though
@@PonderingLifeToo
We get better at jobs cause we don't waste energy on dealing with drama from others, we constantly get more and more experience from past jobs, most of us always have money in our pockets!. You know, I personally enjoy solitude more than anything!.
Thanks for this excellent advice.
@@dude4173 Thank for the advice a lot. It kinda proved to be useful in the long run cuz it helped me in 8 months
When respect is no longer served on the table, you get up and leave that table.
couldnt have said it better:o :p
Exactly
Exactly!! Ding!! Bonus round!!
@@keithmccaslyn2527 facts
And that’s that on that
It wasn’t until I was in my sixties that I gave myself the following two gifts:
1. Stop being nice to people who are not nice
2. Stop trying to ‘win over’ people who don’t like me
OMG. I never did any of those things. Not from day one.
Real eyes realize REAL LIES 🥵😜
Thanks great advice
Don’t be nice because of who they are, be nice because of who you are.
They say kill em with kindness. No, I just verify people with kindness. Only those who deserved shall get it again from me.
In the past I have disrespected myself by not walking away.
NOW i WILL walk away.
Next RUN
@@irfanraza-lz3ye NEXT FLY
how did it go?
Amen.
Yaa
One of the worst feelings in the world is being around people who make you feel lonely. It becomes easier once you let them go. Thanks for the video.
So true. I find myself in this situation.
Amen to that!
If they make you lonely, becoming actually alone can't really make that worse for you.
AsWithin SoWithout over time my ex was being distant from me and I felt more alone being with her than whenever I was single. I felt worthless and insecure the relationship was more stressful than enjoyable
True!
Walked away from a go nowhere relationship, best decision ever.
same, amen to that!
yes I learnt that the hard way.
I walked away from someone who was pushing me away.
I went online, a dating site and met a wonderful man, who is a Sergeant and serving now.
More than that, he's gorgeous, well built and so sexy.
It was a huge blessing walking away from someone who didn't want me.
Yes
@@b.k.r.doggielover5449 sexy doesn't last long, but love and real connection does. Good for you!
Being able to walk isn't about disrespecting another, it's about respecting yourself.
Exactly, thank you for this- It is about respecting yourself and your time.
My job was abusing me day in and day out I resigned yesterday I resigned and walked away
Congratulations! I wished you well on your future.
Sam
Can definitely relate except I just ghosted the job entirely and stopped showing up lol
I wish I can do that. 😓
Inflation Destroyer I had the same experience with my former job....I got used up like toilet paper in a pandemic! I had to walk away.....
And don't mistake loneliness for love, ever!
righttt and i enjoy my loneliness!
Agreed...I did that mistake twice..
SOOOOOO TRUE. LOVE HAS LOTS OF MEANINGS N SOMETIMES WE CHOOSE THE WRONG MEANING . TODAY IVE LEARN BETTER LONELY THAN MISERABLE . 🤶☕😀
What? What does this "dont mistake lonliness for love" mean?
@@prabhakaranbaskar1400 After googling it for some time I still can't explain it in my own words but found someone else's answer to that question.
"When you're lonely and you meet someone you can often confuse your loneliness for someone as love"
if your presence costs me happiness, integrity and dignity, i don't need your company.
True dat
And money!
Integrity.
Don’t ever be afraid to loose something you love, if you lost it, it was never yours
Wise words
Lose*
Have confidence in yourself even when it makes people uncomfortable.
Does my confidence make you feel uncomfortable?
Especially when**!
@Karakaš you nkhnjxfsk das k go To eiikikc
Mfkdksl
Least you can do ❤️😓
Facts I had to learn that
Sometimes the best decision in life is to walk away with dignity and integrity. Life is too short to waste on the wrong person for the second time.
PREACH!
@pete knicks 2 people same story saying how bad the other person was no reminiscence about themselves I'm sick of it
Then why? why we live in surreal world full of lies if we are so pure
Very true dear
Wow the last line ❤️ cleared my head!
Or third hahaha
the "aight, imma head out"
Lawgx haha facts
big mood
yes
*of life
literally haha
Even if you feel alone in the beginning, don't be afraid and return to the same people or routine. You are simply undergoing a transformation. The right people and the right activities will start to show up. Walk the road
Great brother 👍
I walked away from my toxic family . I’m happy I have peace is been a bit lonely but I feel good , left all the dysfunction behind
This is what I'm currently trying to do right now.
Best of luck to both of you!
TrangDB9 thank u .. so much 🙏🏼
You're Sweet i feel ur pain is not easy but I believe it is the best decision for your sanity and peace
I am also in this situation ...god bless you all
I recently ended all communication with an abusive, toxic, monster of a stepfather. My mother passed away so no need to ever see him again. Some family are upset, think I'm selfish, but they didn't live through the abuse I did since I was three years old. I feel such peace I never have you see him again. I dont care who likes it or not.
Good for you. Humans are animals at the end of the day, and step-parent abuse is much more prevalent than abuse from actual parents. It's because the kids are of no use to the stepparent, they only use resources. The other people are mad at you because you're ruining their wish of a perfect family, and they dont care how much it hurts you. But the reality is that you dont feel good and the family is rotten, so let them have their tantrums. God bless.
It's okay to give bad people the sack even when it's family
So happy for you for having the strength to seek your peace. Yes, your peace, not theirs x love xxx
why u givin an attitude?
I did the same a while back. He would harass me and say I was a disgrace for not helping. You did the right thing!
If you are going to walk away, it should be with the goal to walk away and stay away, not to gain some sort of imaginary upper hand in some relationship. That is to say, it’s not really looking away when you looking back for a reaction.
I Personally need to work on that especially with my ex's.
Lucas Smith I agree. Sounds like something you had experience with
Antonio Wolfpack 1990 You bet. Struggling with it now.
Totally right. Whether you walk away from the person/situation or decide to stay, either way you have to deal with yourself. This seems to be the hardest part. To let go of old unnecesary beliefs and mental rubbish. And to start to hear voice of reason behind screams of suffering ego.
@@Olena.P. well said
It can make you uncomfortable at first, but after that brief discomfort clears, you feel so good about making healthy moves for yourself. Stay strong, everyone. ✊🏼
I don’t get angry at people, I disappear
Bella Bijou me too, I feel no need to argue - if they’ve crossed my boundaries, I’m gone
They dont know why you went so start calling and asking, even more anoying
thought I was the only one 🤷♀️
that's soo dumb.
If you don't argue you will never fond common sense. You'll never understanf otherthinking people and they will never understand you.
That's the dumbest and most ignorant way to solve disagreemnts.
One of my best friends does that to. Everyone in our group hates his attitude, but we still love him cause he's our friend since a decade.
But trust me, you missed many opprrunities for good relationships.
I walk away to, but only after I understand IN AN ARGUMENT that this person won't understand my point of view. Befor that I am open minded towards otherthinking people and hope they are to, cause that's the only way to find common ground in society.
Yep, this is me. Just...disappear.
This goes for your family too
That is my struggle. Did this mean family? But they are the ones that hurt the most.
You feel guilty....but damn....th slow burn of being around them is killing me....
A fucking men. I have a philosophy as relates to kin or blood relationships. Allow me to explain.
There are scores of people walking around this planet who have been stained emotionally, psychologically and physically due to the brainwashing we've all endured that has conditioned us to believe that we have to hold on to these relationships because blood is thicker than water.
Well, blood may be thicker than water, but when clear water dries, it doesn't leave a stain. When blood relatives, or kin, are toxic, CUT THEM THE FUCK OFF.
I've tried with all my heart to be a good, caring, kind, considerate and compassionate brother and uncle. But they have drained me of all my energy like vampires. I have nothing left to give. So, to save myself I've had to slowly turn away and move ahead on my own without them anymore. No matter how painful, they are now just people that I used to love. I'm not better then anyone else but I AM to good for THEM.
@@travisgrant5608 keep going 🥰
Learning to say 'no' is an important lesson for us all.
True
True
True
Burglar: GIMME YOUR MONEY!
Me: No.
Burglar: *shoots*
Me: OOF.
Always be ready to be alone again. You came alone and will leave alone.
"I don't have to be what you want me to be"
Muhammad Ali
👊👏😎
But I want him to be healthy
@@TheOpinionGuyy aaah yea a healthy living Muhammad Ali... But in many ways he's immortal. He's a legend. A semi god. Or... A god 💪♥️🥊
Ali is such a good example of following a path .. being himself .. his lessons make him immortal
Keep walking away until you find someone who's compatible with your frequency. There are many traps in the road.
Love god!
this is exactly what im thinking right now... walk away from whats not for me, change direction and go towards what is for me... repeat
Are U being Sarcastic ? Think needs to be more awareness there... some toxic relationship u do need to walk away. Some u need to work on ! If we keep walking away “until” finding someone ..... by the end of ur life u will find urself so tired of repeating the process of keep walking away and keep trying to find the persons who is compatible with u. This process is sooo tiring, plus there is ought to be problems between people. We can’t keep giving up every time something happens.
@@SuperValaVala i see what you're saying. well, it's not for everyone. walking away can be tough if you have a feeling that you can't "do any better" or, for the less machiavellian of us, "actually care about someone". but, i for one, have walked away, and, everytime, my life got better. not just a little bit better, but, 1000x better. one million times better. that being said, i am an introvert who prefers being alone and my lessons can't just be applied willy nilly to all people in the world. maybe for you, it's better not to walk away. only you can decide. and only you can suffer the consequences of your own actions. good luck to you!
You are so spot on ! What out for the traps, they could be so minute’. You may step right into one.Exceptional advice🌟
At the first sign of disrespect just walk away.
Cindi Thomas I let it slide once. Second time I’m gone.
Cindi Thomas walking away isn’t spreading hate.
Cindi Thomas cutting their throat with a machete = hate.
Cindi Thomas so let them take antidepressants not take their shite out on me.
@Cindi Thomas your comments is getting in my nerves. Stfu with ur Bullshit
I've walked away from people, things and jobs that were no longer fullfilling me so many times and I tell you: IT FEELS GREAT. Do it for your own sanity. This is called self love
Amen! I walked away from a successful professional job at high pay because the work environment was toxic. I was becoming mentally ill.
In other words, delete social media
I'm still trying everytime i put my fb account into deletion i keep stopping it it's so hard 😭
@@user-tl5tb3sl9r I feel u bro
@@user-tl5tb3sl9r delete the app
If you have iPhone limit the time you use an app in configs
If you have android I think you'll have to download another app
All done . Not delete but uninstalled and has been free for 5 months now . I feel more happy now.
I removed twitter recently and it's amazing how much better I feel. That platform especially is toxic and full people starting hurtful drama with cancel culture.
"If you can't negotiate then you are a servant" - Jordan B. Peterson
You are genius to post that! Truth indeed...
Wise words
Negotiation is often daunting and exhausting...for me.
I disagree wholly with that statement. The word "no" seldom has place in negotiations without a set of conditions that needs to be accommodated to turn the "no" into a "yes". And the feet don't need a set of conditions to be worked out in order to put distance to the person trying to make you a servant. If you are in a negotiation, then an objective for all parties is trying to gain the upper hand in order to negotiate the best result for themselves. This means that any negotiation once complete will have resulted in all the parties being both master and servants in varying degree because of the compromises that will inevitably be made by both under the conditions of the negotiation. So Jordan's statement should rightly be "Going into any kind of negotiation will result in you being a servant to some degree."
@@WormholeJim Not really. servant cannot negotiate.
Those who are independent can negotiate to get acceptable deal that they agree on. Its deal between equals no servants
Walking away is no less than an act of courage, especially when you’re still emotionally attached to that person
True 😭
U may be out now
When you have lost the people who meant the world to you, you become deeply aware of how truly and spiritually valuable time really is - you no longer waste a second more than what is needed when you feel the intuition of your soul on the wrong people.
There are people who will use you for your energy. You can't let them come in and out of your life whenever they want. Focus on yourself and your goals. You win. You didn't lose anything but a headache.
I call them vampires. They literally suck all the joy and energy out of life.
Facts that's why I distant myself from all social media and everything I just stay lonely and building in salience
@@EJayyDreadHead I absolutely agree with you! :)
This is soooooo true. Un fact all of my "friends" were like this,using me as bandaid. Not anymore. I would rather be alone than to be slave of these assholes.
Also be careful with Narcissists
Walking away from my entire family is the best thing I've ever done🙏
I haven't contacted them for 3 months now. I see some good sides of it, but sometimes it feels wrong.
@@punish0 it is kinda wrong
I walked away from my family 11 years ago. It was the bravest and best decision I have ever made.
It feels wrong but sometimes its the only option caring yourself.
@@aori583 , you would not be able to explain why it is wrong without simultaneously admitting that you don't know if this is the last resort after exhausting all options, or if this is the only way to be physically safe/mentally stable/financially sound, etc.
I also just decided to walk away from my only friend who I thought she was real . After she's back from a 10 day vacation
And makes no attempt to text or call . I started thinking about our friendship,she only saw me when convenient to her ,never dropped anything for me ,I always had to adjust to her routine. I finally understand she's holding me back.I made my self too available to her
Lol, I quit a job when the chick I loved was ditched by her boyfriend of the time to go to a holloween party she was attending...she had me so worried about her for years with the stories she would tell me, I never wanted her to have to be alone...what a waste of my life. Drained my empathy to the bone...don't have any to spare anymore.
Mano rod hi same with me , 20 years always being the one to go the extra mile , then she threw a fit when I had to move the time I took her shopping as I forgot a hair appointment , this was the last straw after many such times , I miss her when I go garden Center shopping but the pressure to be her taxi is off
Friends are real when...
You call at 4am and they show up to help dig the hole...
MastaSmack often men don't talk about it which make it even harder to get over them .they on the other hand immediately form a support group
I found out sometimes the one you trust the most is the most dangerous one.Make no time for them ,especially when in that persons spare time they try to belittle and or hurt you. Be careful of when all is well then out of no where they are trying to put you down, I found that this other person is good at letting you believe all is fine then boom out of no where for no reason crap happens and ill never understand it . Anyone who believes they are always right , that they need to sway others opinions on you well time to start trying to get away from that person. No matter what you do or say they want to use it against you .run
Learning to walk away is hard but staying to suffer is harder.
Every man is jealous of a man who walks away from his wife.
Once you learn to love yourself for who you truly are, walking away is a win, never a loss.
Preach
The more I’m getting older ,the more I’m realizing how important boundaries are ..so is loving and embracing yourself truely before showering others with love 🦋
i have learned at 75 that showering love to family member who dont love you back ,it was waste of time
Do you want the power to walk away? Get ready to feel lonely or left out sometimes. You'll have to learn to love solitude.
Not only am I learned but prefer (solitude).
AMEN. Solitude is a beautiful thing!❤️😄❤️
I freakin LOVE my solitude.
I prefer solitude to pretending to be happy around people who dont care about or they dont ever try to help or support me when I tried to give them signals that I need some helps. It is better to be alone and be happy about yourself than living among toxic people/narcissists
VilleGardian
Me too!
It takes more strength to walk away than it does to remain in a situation that is counter productive to your on life.
and less energy than it takes to stay in it
True
Life's one big negotiation. I often walk away from negotiations, and quite often they come back to me with the deal I wanted in the first place. Indifference is a powerful tool.
Very true, I also found if they say something like "You are a lazy piece of shit", and you "agree" with them and throw it back at them "Yeah, I am a lazy piece of shit, so?" - there's really nothing they can do to control you. Every attack they make are a new shining weapon for you, and they are left speechless.
Thank you for this wisdom 🙏
I think you are missing the point. It's not a game.
@@jeananne2408 point is-
there is no point
“It is better to be alone, than to be in bad company.” - George Washington.
"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength. The universe is change, our life is what our thoughts make it." - Marcus Aurelius.
“It is better to say something your own way, that to misattribute quotes” - me
“Although this quote is attributed to George Washington, it is actually one of 110 Rules of Civility & Decent Behavior in Company and Conversation that George Washington copied by hand at the age of sixteen. Although many people attribute the 110 rules to Washington, because the rules were found written by his hand, Scholars today believe that the rules were likely copied by Washington as a penmanship exercise.
The actual quote is #56 of 110 rules and reads… ‘Associate yourself with Men of good Quality if you Esteem your own Reputation; for ‘is better to be alone than in bad Company.’ The 110 rules are based on a set of rules composed by French Jesuits in 1595, and they were first translated into English in 1640.” - Doug Staneart | Leadership Tips
Encouraging words👩🦳
The loneliness make you crazy, everyone need compañy
@@Mkqvtlll bull💩 .. everyone needs healthy good company .. not toxic company .. toxicity from anyone including family is 100% unacceptable.. period
👍
I'm starting to love the sound of my feet walking away from things not meant for me
Beautiful. This expression/comment is my favourite out of all because it gave me a visceral felling. I embodied your comment instantly.
I love that. It feels powerful for all the times you were powerless.
Beautiful sounds like a quote 🙏
@1:41 "The thing is, when people notice that you lack direction, for example in the form of commitment to a personal goal, they will see your time as less valuable than theirs. This observation legitimizes you doing stuff for them instead of doing stuff for yourself. In their eyes, you're at least doing something valuable with your time, which is being a utility for their interest."
That is narcissistic abuse.
Yeah I think I've done this to my cousin for a long time but now I'm sorry for it
And now I'm going to give him a direction in life
Or At Least help him to find his goal
this absolutely nails it.
Tops insight.... very good.
S
Not quite, sometimes what happens is that they see you so clueless that by trying to help you they end up imposing their goals on you. They have the best intentions, but it has happened to me that I was so metally weak, so lost and without direction that I practically set myself up for their "abuse". As with most things in life, the problem is not other people, but myself.
When you walk away you take their power and you get your power back. Never allow anyone to make you feel less than no matter who they are. Who they are is their business and who you are is your business.
Yes. Totally.☺
My boyfriend or five years disrespected me so much that I had enough and walked for good.. it’s tough but I no longer am being abused or have anxiety ...
Marjorie Rushie no one can take your power. U are giving it to them
You’re happier when you learn to say no because saying yes to everything can drain you
Manuel Nuñez Agree with you, for me it was mostly my family. Also relationships. Years ago I didn't know I was a people's pleaser. It really drained me.
Walking away from people who have no respect for your boundaries is necessary. They have proven there's no possibility of change because they have proven they have no interest in change. They will continue to manipulate, take advantage, and use you as long as you let them. Time to respect and love You .. It's very freeing. You will come back to center, where yoy will find joy and contentment again. It's beautiful!
I am living proof of this.
Wow yr so motivating😍
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Thank you
I personally think of people like clouds. It's nice when they go away
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That is a lovely expression. X😊😊😊😊🐱🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
Lmao nice
@@doeharris5363 Agree
A lot of ppl used me including ppl that I loved, so I decided to walk away and I'm very happy being alone
Fallofcharmsboutique / K.H Same ✌🏻
Same
I am very happy for you!! Be fulfilled! Take care of yourself!💕
It's never too late to change direction! "The last best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The next best time is today." - Confucius.
Did that this Arbour Day. A Pink tabebuia. :)
I've walked away from just about everyone, i have no friends now 😂
If that's really the case: a handful of sincere friend is wayyy more valuable than a huge contacts of fake friends.
@@derrickg91 True!
I'd say the same thing. I would normally feel drained and not happy when I'm with them
U The Friend U Looked OVER for Others.
Lol
Any of you reading this comment, always listen to your gut feeling, it tells you when you meet a wrong person many times, don't ever ignore those feelings. Leave those people as fast as possible, no matter how charismatic they may seem to you, walk away.
Most people just let you down so just focus on yourself and your own happiness.Know your worth.
frank muller Yes I have been once again reminded of that… I was trying to be a better kinder more compassionate person to people who were in less fortunate situations and myself only for them to suddenly with no logical reason turn their backs on me walk away in the middle of a conversation so now I am done I will only care about my immediate family
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I walked away from a demoralizing job that got me down recently and I feel great...👍😁
Yup me too, and I dont gaf to burn the bridges with them, because I know they dont gaf about me
Good move. I waited too long in the same situation. It almost destroyed my soul.
Mike Gilder samehere I feel so free
Mike Cool
Advice join a Mlm company there’s good to great money to be made and work frm anywhere
Mike Midnight I still need to find a new place before I can walk away from my toxic job :(
I've learned as someone ho has spent most of my adult life putting others wants above my needs, one of my greatest gifts is my absence. My light is that powerful and now that I know this, I am more mindful and purposeful on who and what I shine it on. These days I'm spending more time shining on myself lol.
That’s good to hear honestly. Your message is so encouraging. I know it had to be very hard to just find the courage to stop serving other people needs and put your needs first. I’m in my adult yrs as well all I been overly focus on trying to chase after so called friendships. I will be there whenever, but for me never show up. I helped and listened to all their needs but my needs was never met at all. Recently, I cried because everything is falling apart. God knows I tried, but God knows it wasn’t heathy for me. Glad you refocused your mind and your light 💡 started to shine bright. Adult years is so important and precious. 💯👌
AMEN
Yay! Your comment makes me so happy. I hope we can all learn how powerful our light is. My name means “light” in Greek and I hope to be that always. Blessings to you.
Some time ago I realised I don't actually have any close friends. Nobody calls or visits. Only my parents. Good thing I enjoy my own company. I only help close family with anything now.
We show our standards when we walkaway from toxic people.
Well said
And that feels AWESOME
@@four-x-trading5606 escape that pit
Sharmella Krishnasamy way to go then.
Sharmella Krishnasamy . You are absolutely right. Standards that say " NO, not anymore " .. If you don't perpetrate standards they continue to abuse . Walking away says " I don't need your approval " .
Sometimes...it is very difficult to move on even after you leave a toxic person once you loved...but not impossible! I am here to remind you that keep moving forward and never look back! I know you can do it❤
I walked away from my entire dysfunctional family...and to another country...sometimes it's the only thing we can do to save our sanity and life's. ..love & blessings to all here..get those walking shoes on and walk far away....xxxx
Take that courage, and continue to utilize to create a wonderful life for yourself. Bless you.
I wish I can do the same
I did the same thing
Good on u!!!
Same here 🦋
“Stay away from anyone who makes you feel as though you are hard to love” was one of the quotes that changed my life. I used to think I had to have everyone like me and would do things I really DID NOT WANT TO DO to simply appease someone else. I would
tell myself that life is about sacrifice and that is a sign of maturity etc etc but omg it’s not and if you have people in your life who try to tell you that it is you need to seriously consider limiting your time with them and if possible eliminating them from your life completely 😔 Sending love 💕
Thank you for these words 🙏🏼
Truth. I've walked away. (2020)
New me new life. New blessings.
Dorothy Green 2020 is perfect vision 🤓
Me too I start to feel happy
Me too 🙏🏽💜🌟
I just walked away from an abusive boss. The job was a dream job, something I had been working towards for most of my life. I finally made it to my dream, and turns out it was unbearable due to my tyrant of a boss. I've been in abusive relationships before and I wasn't going to let it happen again, so I left. He sent me a very rude and condescending email after and I didn't respond. It feels so good to be out.
The email was his ego talking
Just go away at the first cruelty.
If you are being abused a second time: don't walk; RUN AWAY for ever.
Do not forget a wrong because it shall be repeated.
Lol you don’t take prisoners 😂
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@@rachellockwoodle
Alas
I waited until the second chance and I still feel dehumanized by the first!
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Very true. 💗💗
My elder sisters all bullied me since I can remember, said I should be given away as a baby. I only realise the extend of their continued hatred after 45 years. I did nothing wrong, only born into wrong siblings. I finally walk away, break off all ties last month.
Good for you!
The same here!. Love to you
jeeez 45 years :(
I'm sorry that happened to you. It was tough thing you did because I'm sure you loved and looked up to them.
From a karmic perspective usually our siblings were enemies in past lives. So there is that…
Did this Saturday at work. i was being used like a mule. Hounded & being leaned over. Once, i let it slide. Twice... i blew a peace sign kiss to the people i liked in the department put on my jacket and walked away. No sense in explaining to the slave master what he did... he knew & you can't (or shouldn't ) argue with a fool. This video is so true. To effectively love others you have to love yourself 1st. Thank you for the validation!
Well done. Hope you do well in all your endeavours. Never let the tyrants win. Just did the same thing. Not easy but had to be done to preserve personal integrity and sanity. The world belongs to the brave not cowards.
@@markbutterworth8257 Thank you Mark! Good for you! The right things are the hardest things. i will & you will too! Exactly! Most people that take disrespect are slaves to their fears for the retention of their idols. All the best to you!
I can sence sarcasm from miles away but thanx for ur undivided concern and I know you say these things so you feel a bit better about you and diliver your unwavering points although mostly are common sence
I Did The Same Things Two Weeks Ago✌🏿✌🏿💪🏿💪🏿👏🏿👏🏿
@@ericbonaparte9790 Good for you! There seems to be so much unnecessary negativity at the last two jobs i went to within the past 3 months. Both were global companies. The people worked & lived in a fear funk. i'm like, why be a company person here? They don't care. Sure enough the prior job laid off an entire shift. Then they released all the temps. Heard this because i'm clocking out one day i saw a former coworker that explained the situation. News will get back. There needs to be a balance and i haven't seen one yet. Companies are not going to get quality from old school slavery. It's just not going to happen. Good luck on your new adventures Brah!
I learned this truth after 28 years of marriage . . .
Don’t be a slow learner.
I'm the one who has been slow...32 years ! :( its time.
Dave Moody
Something tells me you were very well
Moody...!!?
Only messing pal Hope it all works out for ye
You are not along, I learn this after 27 years of marriage...,
What did you do instead of walking away?
It's never too late. We are all in the same boat.
One of my best friends at work walked away because our boss was driving him crazy. He was literally losing sleep. For me the best decision at this time in my career was to stay and set some firm boundaries with our boss. As much as I miss working with my buddy I’m so glad he made the decision to go elsewhere. He’s much happier. Miss our coffee breaks, brother.
Miss our coffee breaks, brother......thats nice of u.
I've often been called anti-social in my 63 year life. But never by anyone I respected. Beng called anti-social always seemed like a compliment.
It’s so hard to live in the world where you feel like you have to fight to protect your relationship with others. I’m tired.
Yea but you have a choice end of the day
Yep, I completely understand what you mean, 100%.
@@Blessed.2.Teach.4God don't simp bro
@@ezequiel5260 Idk what that means, I just made a straight forward genuine comment... so no need for advice - Thanks
You can fight for other, but dont fight for relationships. If it means to be, you dont have to fight alone..there will be that person standing by your side.
Abused as child/ young adult by my parents, rejected and betrayed by my 3 children. Ended my toxic marriage. After 53 years of abuse, I stood up to my family and friends. Today and every day. I walked away from all off it, Today I am prove of myself. This video is awesome. resonates with the impact. Thank you.
I dod the same.... my best wishes to you. Live your new life now !!!
Pray for me I'm walking away now❤❤❤
Well done April.
April if you see this I hope you’re having a great day and all your days from now continue to be great. You deserve love happiness and most important peace!!!! You’re worth it!
You’re sounding so strong now, you’re such an inspiration! Go on with your bad self!
Real truth, lone wolf I spent a lot of my time alone but I have never feel lonely.
@Abhijeet Anand hey who the Fuck are? Gtfoh 🖕🖕🖕
I think Einstein said that. I'm always alone but I'm never lonely. ,😄😄
I walked away from an abusive relationship because I chose love instead of anger, hurt and resentment. When you choose a high frequency of love ,toxic and negative people will stay away from you. I live in a state of peace and bliss for the first time in 55 years.
Powerful message! Never be afraid to walk away in life... unless it's the camera you placed on the ground to record you walking away. Then you might wanna walk back and get it.
Haha! Yes, unless you have a surplus of cameras (which I don't have).
Why to be afraid it is so liberating
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Love yourself, don't let anyone take advantage of your greatness.
Walk away from people or situation that robs u of your inner peace cuz it aint worth it. Love yourself.
Excellent advice! I once heard: “Don’t ever try to con someone who isn’t afraid to be alone.” I was in a cult when I was young and gullible because we all desperately needed to belong somewhere. When we matured, we walked away.
You only know what someone means to you after they are gone. And vice versa, you will know what someone means to you after you left them. 3 groups of people
1) when you are away from them, you miss them, you realised you value their presence. You are better with them
2) when you are away from them, nothing changed. Your life go on as usual, no setback. (coworkers, acquintance, colleagues etc)
3) when you are away from them, you are happier, their absence give you inner peace. You may miss them sometimes (or not at all) but you know you will be a better person without them.
The 3rd kind of people, trust me, if their absence give you peace, you dont lose them, they lose you 😊
Thank you for this wisdom
Saved this
#3 .. One of my closes friends constantly judging me or misunderstanding messages and causing me alot of grief. I've always said "if ever there's a problem and you wish to clarify just pick up the phone".... After telling my friend "I need space from you" it's been 3 weeks on and I'm at peace and have no dramas in my life.. not good to avail yourself too much and getting dragged into other's personal dramas.
@@christinelawrence4315 i walk away from someone who i considered a bestfriend too. She always misunderstood thing with me, i constantly have to walk on eggshells around her, but she didnt do the same. She didnt care that she hurt my feelings, but if im the one who hurt her feelings, she would be in rage. It drained my energy being with her. After months of thinking about leaving, i decided enough is enough and walk away.
@@tinlaa7519 Good for you Tin LaA sometimes we must look after ourselves first but not in a selfish way. Tbh I find people draining and crave my own space.
For us INFJs. We called this "SLAM DOOR" personality. We just turned cold and walked away from people who hurt us and hated us.
I love it
I love it
True
@@darktainer definitely! 😅
Another INFJ joins the chat 🙋♂️
I've never had more satisfaction than I have the last few years walking away from toxic people.
Tracie Day
Excellent !
Good on ya Tracie.
Bless your righteous soul!
Peace, love and happiness!!
"Travel on alone, rather than with a fool for company." Dhammapada 23
Walk away so that you can make your own path, but the path of happiness is also a path full of pain and challenges. Only those who have the courage and strength to walk away find peace while the cowards walk on the footsteps left by the weak.
- Me
@Tom Garcia Words are just letters.
Deep
@Giannirey S Lines are just part of a display of a graphics card of a computer on the internet of an operating system in a microwave on a potato.
Now it's easy to walk away if you alone yes it's better to walk away from people or situation that make no good to you
but lately I see people run away from each other because it's easier to run from the problem than challenge it
they really think walking away will change something when they find new purpose but after while they come back to same spot because don't realise problem is within them but fuc ked up is the mistake they repeat is thinking you can do it alone
It takes guts to walk away from a bad job, a bad boss, a demanding wife, an abusive military non-career... be free!
Well said. Especially the bad boss. These idiot's think they own you.
They really do. I'm walking away from my job soon and not looking back
@@markbutterworth8257 Yessss👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 F#ck Em To Infinity....
Bad friends
Or a religion that opposes questioning.
Question all supposed truths.
I love to walk away because I love myself!
You are worth it; know your value and add tax! Also, see walking away as personal responsibility.
I think you can walk away from any relationship or situation that’s not serving your highest good. It doesn’t need to be an abusive relationship, etc. “The heart has its reasons which reason doesn’t know”. Blaise Pascal
I only feel alone when I'm around people
Arty Sagastizado Is An Introvert
Nextime you feel sad or depressed to be sure its not you check to see if you're surrounded by assholes first...
9 times outta 10 its the assholes that do it...
Find power in who you are...
Peace and blessings.
That's why the company of pets is so healing. What you see is what you get. They don't judge you. They are sane.
Find out why you don't like being alone.
I'm never lonesome when I'm by myself
Walking away is nesscarry ,especially around toxic stubborn manipluators called family....
Oh i feel with you... I feel with you..basterds.
Yes! I walked away and I’m not going back!
Cuz they know u, know ur triggers and exactly where to push to make u do what they want... off course they installed those buttons..why wouldn't they know?... unfortunately!
they are ignorant in their lack of self-love ... you guide them
@@reefspirituality3210 Hell no! I've wasted 24 years of my life trying to guide them. Their manipulation and mental emotional abuse only got worse. No more killing myself just for the sake of trying to help people who deep down inside, don't want to improve!
I rather live alone/. Then be around wrong people//. I am a introvert / and proud to be one ☝️
I'm PhD in walking away. Sometimes a little bit too much, probably. It's just like you say, just because you love people, it doesn't have to mean that you need them. I feel that's my whole life in a nutshell. There's people I love but I don't need them, nor their drama, nor being around them. I love myself more.