Turning Job Loss at 53 into a Life-Changing Gift

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  • čas přidán 13. 02. 2024
  • Thriving Solo
    I share the story of how facing job loss at 53 became a pivotal moment of self-discovery and empowerment. Learn about the lessons I embraced, and the gifts that unfolded as I navigated the uncharted waters of career transition. Discover how turning adversity into opportunity led to a life-changing transformation, proving that sometimes, the greatest gifts come in the most unexpected packages. This is not just a story of survival but a testament to the power of resilience, reinvention, and the incredible strength we can find within ourselves when faced with unexpected challenges. Join me on this journey of thriving solo, and let's explore the untapped potential that lies within every setback.
    #employment #midlifecrisis #layoff #solo #singlewoman #jobloss #sololiving #ThrivingAlone #SelfCareJourney #solo

Komentáře • 672

  • @deirdrekiely6187
    @deirdrekiely6187 Před 4 měsíci +497

    Most people stay in toxic work environments because they simply need the money and health benefits.

    • @Chris-tg3qy
      @Chris-tg3qy Před 4 měsíci +36

      Yes. It’s really just as simple as that and a layoff pushes people to start over. They might find something better, but maybe not.

    • @cjhoward409
      @cjhoward409 Před 4 měsíci +61

      My husband just started a new job, because his last one was quite toxic and stressful. He’s 60… he wanted his last few years of working to not be toxic. And now he found a job making more money 👍🏻😀

    • @Lizziee_90
      @Lizziee_90 Před 4 měsíci +12

      ❤ I quit after 8 months working in toxic enviroment, even my position is assistant for chairman. Co worker gossiped, chairman doubted...now I had quited it about 3 months- and now need to learn more chinese to find other job, now I don't urge myself for looking it. Sometimes need tobe consider it before say YES to anything. 🎉

    • @OnboardingInformation
      @OnboardingInformation Před 4 měsíci +5

      @@Chris-tg3qyme staring over again 😢

    • @StJames1938
      @StJames1938 Před 4 měsíci +13

      Looking For A Job & Interviewing Is A Stressful.

  • @raffaelae1020
    @raffaelae1020 Před 2 měsíci +44

    If you work in corporate, remember that most of the time, you were hired, not adopted. Your company is not your family. Everyone is replaceable. Your life and mental health are more important

  • @johnacord5664
    @johnacord5664 Před 4 měsíci +354

    I retired a little over 14 years ago. I am debt free and I do not have a list of health issues longer than my arm. I was laid off from my last job. I told them there were no hard feelings. I am totally free of the Car Triad.(Big Auto, Big Oil, and the Insurance Cabal). I am into the bicycle. I don't have a lot of money, but Lord I know I ham free.

    • @Studiocolourjoy
      @Studiocolourjoy Před 4 měsíci +23

      The big car triad! Wonderful!

    • @user-cc5od3zk4p
      @user-cc5od3zk4p Před 4 měsíci +11

      That is worth its weight in gold! Congrats!

    • @cjhoward409
      @cjhoward409 Před 4 měsíci +19

      Same here ! Zero debt including no mortgage. Never had a mortgage on our home that we built one paycheck at a time. It’s so FREEING ! 👍🏻😀

    • @Jane5720
      @Jane5720 Před 4 měsíci +10

      I left. There was basically four more months that I would’ve been able to get free healthcare for an additional four months, but I just could not stay another day. My peace of mind is worth more than that. I can pay for Cobra myself.
      I am not going to regret this decision ever if I had to go in one more day, it would’ve been horrible.
      No, I would not have been laid off and no I would not have been terminated. I took the wheel.
      Single and solo and yes I could retire

    • @kellywade8275
      @kellywade8275 Před 4 měsíci +3

      @@Jane5720 If you can afford Cobra, then you're well- off.🤷🏾‍♀

  • @andersdottir1111
    @andersdottir1111 Před 4 měsíci +267

    Well done on the ‘quiet quitting’ - there’s no need to be loyal to a company that ‘loudly’ holds an axe above people’s heads every day.

    • @allkindsamusicchick
      @allkindsamusicchick Před 4 měsíci +24

      What's even worse, is the general lack of cohesive, congeniality, and kindness in the workplace.

    • @andersdottir1111
      @andersdottir1111 Před 4 měsíci +4

      @@allkindsamusicchick yes.

    • @Beatles0223
      @Beatles0223 Před 4 měsíci +1

      💯!

    • @sophieobiero-ro7uj
      @sophieobiero-ro7uj Před 4 měsíci +9

      I work in IT and I’ve finally understood quiet quitting! These companies are getting more & more brutal! Even as the economy is getting better they’re still relentlessly laying off…

    • @pearlrichardson4179
      @pearlrichardson4179 Před měsícem

      @@allkindsamusicchick All of that & more!

  • @christinesylvia7083
    @christinesylvia7083 Před 4 měsíci +233

    “ you don’t know how tired it can make you to be anxious and depressed all the time”. Word, sister! glad I found your channel.

    • @adammorra3813
      @adammorra3813 Před 4 měsíci +5

      The thing is, what is the cure? Most jobs are like this so its hard not to feel tired all the time.

    • @julieorr8365
      @julieorr8365 Před 4 měsíci

      It's not tired from the work itself ,it is being tired and mentally exhausted from dealing with all the BS from the higher ups. Just always anxious and worried waiting for it to be your turn to take the fall@@adammorra3813

    • @redtrunkrelics
      @redtrunkrelics Před 4 měsíci +1

      So true

    • @SalemChick
      @SalemChick Před 3 měsíci

      So absolutely true--both what Jen said and Christine!

    • @randomCHELdad
      @randomCHELdad Před 3 měsíci

      @adammorra3813 Working for the Lord Jesus Christ, knowing he is the pay giver, regardless of the physical.

  • @AP-qk3we
    @AP-qk3we Před 4 měsíci +134

    We are all replaceable to employers. No matter how wonderful you are or how amazingly you perform your job you can be replaced. A company's only objective is to "get the job done" and deep down they don't truly care who does that job but only that that job gets done.

    • @farmoboy83
      @farmoboy83 Před 3 měsíci +1

      and don't forget, job dine, extra hours and lower payment possible. Its the reality in my small european country as well, it's a global economy and blind capitalism is all the same.

    • @joycef8443
      @joycef8443 Před 3 měsíci +3

      I feel a company’s mission is to make money for the owners/stockholders…by hook or by crook.

    • @coriculp
      @coriculp Před 3 měsíci +5

      So true! I stopped working my butt off because it truly doesn’t matter. Every year they “can’t afford “ to give raises

    • @caridadrevilla2439
      @caridadrevilla2439 Před 2 měsíci +2

      That's all what it's about. The bottom line.

    • @eleonorabartoli2225
      @eleonorabartoli2225 Před 2 měsíci +2

      It is certainly true for corporations, but sometimes you find a small business where employees' contributions are truly valued and rewarded. Those are also the businesses that value the customers.

  • @pe5208
    @pe5208 Před 4 měsíci +110

    Golden handcuffs is a good description. Especially for those of us who are single, our job is our safety net.

  • @Chris-tg3qy
    @Chris-tg3qy Před 4 měsíci +136

    I was 53 and let go after 34 years. I got 6 months of severance. I saw layoffs regularly and didn’t leave because I was too financially invested in benefits like salary, vacation, pension and 401k. I knew leaving was no guarantee I would find something better. After I was laid off, I found another job quickly with great benefits, but it wasn’t better. I didn’t like the culture near as much as my former job. It was hard being a newbie and starting over. I have been there for over 6 years.
    What did I learn? Nothing is forever and all jobs eventually end. If you are not happy in your job, don’t worry because it’s not forever. Also, maintain marketable skills. If you have good skills you will find a job.

    • @Bethune98
      @Bethune98 Před 4 měsíci +4

      Well said...

    • @KimJilene
      @KimJilene Před 4 měsíci +5

      Great comment! Nothing is guaranteed but we have to do what is best for us and our family and livelihood.

    • @funkefowler8530
      @funkefowler8530 Před měsícem

      I lost my 12-year-old job at 51 years of age in 2020. I saw it coming, but sadly, I let my employer/circumstances make the decision for me.
      I took world bank's 'Future of Work' course to find out where I fit. Thereafter, I enrolled for a few online courses and I have been writing, editing, and proofreading as a freelancer since then.
      It's been such a fulfilling experience, financially and otherwise. Thank God! I completely relate with your story. Thank you so much for sharing.
      I live in Nigeria.

  • @robins_nest_
    @robins_nest_ Před 4 měsíci +120

    Even if you find a new job making less money it is worth it if you lose the angst and depression from the previous job. Happiness and peace mix well with beans and rice. 😁

  • @jonathanmchugh5978
    @jonathanmchugh5978 Před 4 měsíci +116

    Absolutely loving this channel. I am about to retire from the police after 20 years and I cannot wait. 51 and lots to do. Take care. Jonathan 🇬🇧

  • @user-yd3jd2em8e
    @user-yd3jd2em8e Před 4 měsíci +134

    I actually hugged goodbye the manager that “let me go”. I was so happy to leave, and I’ll never forget that shocked expression on his face. (BTW I learned he was “let go” shortly thereafter too). After that experience, I became self-employed for 10 years. After that, I became a govt employee at age 50. I’m in my 60s and looking forward to a pension when I retire. My spouse and I became mortgage-free and debt-free. We’ve learned to love living life on less. We’re prepared for retirement. I “quietly quit” years ago which greatly reduced my stress and made me more efficient at work. Be your own boss, no matter where you work. Get real, retirement is coming. Ageism is a reality. You’ll be okay ❤ Love your videos and insight. Thankyou ❤

    • @dalenjurgens6751
      @dalenjurgens6751 Před 2 měsíci +4

      My super gave me a hug, too, I wasn't expecting. reached my hand out for a handshake, but... lol caught me off guard. I am going to take the time I need to upskill and maybe start my own thing. we'll see what happens.

    • @laurac.9322
      @laurac.9322 Před 2 měsíci +2

      Yhanks I'm 55 on disability... not enough to live on really. I'm looking into. I like being self or sub contracted and I'm a bit of an entrepenure having my own business. So I started print on demand as I am a creative artistic I believe I can do it. I hated working for others.

  • @user-gr8bx7sy5d
    @user-gr8bx7sy5d Před 4 měsíci +58

    I graduated in 2020 and became a CT tech at 51. They will never layoff ER scan techs. I saw the writing on the wall in 2017 and I now make $100,000 a year with job security.

    • @weiduoduo
      @weiduoduo Před měsícem

      which program did you study, may I ask?

    • @jet4415
      @jet4415 Před 23 dny

      What is a CT tech?

    • @CC-gb4ym
      @CC-gb4ym Před 22 dny

      @@jet4415catscan I think

  • @escapeartist8581
    @escapeartist8581 Před 4 měsíci +79

    Amen! You planned that perfectly. I left my job of 21 years (no benefits). I was burned out! I took 2 weeks to the mountains, worked for a river outfitter the rest of the summer and loved it, then looked for a job. Our small town Bank needed help but didn't offer me an application (age 65). I found work at our correctional facility. Not my first choice but no management duties! My boss loves that I look for tasks to be done unlike the "young ones" I work with. I can walk to work and have full benefits! Hope to retire in one year. Thank you for sharing your story!

  • @488ci
    @488ci Před 4 měsíci +70

    I learned a long time ago that we are easily replaced and then I found out there are the hidden gems of jobs out there that most people don't even know about because we have been taught to think a certain way. I'm glad you found that 💎😊

    • @KoDeMondo
      @KoDeMondo Před 4 měsíci +3

      Well is true what you are saying but I believe that is depending where do you live, your age etc

    • @adammorra3813
      @adammorra3813 Před 4 měsíci +2

      ​@KoDeMondo also depends on your education, skills, experience. And everyone wants those jobs so hard to find.

  • @KayMN.
    @KayMN. Před 5 měsíci +135

    I once was fired and I wasn’t allowed to grab personal items including a prescription bottle and my jacket! I called the police and They retrieved it….

    • @silverandsolo
      @silverandsolo  Před 5 měsíci +50

      :(
      Despicable!

    • @johnacord5664
      @johnacord5664 Před 4 měsíci +31

      Oh bosses can be real scumbags

    • @skepticalmechanic
      @skepticalmechanic Před 4 měsíci

      @@johnacord5664got that right!

    • @rosalindarcher6060
      @rosalindarcher6060 Před 2 měsíci +4

      Which country? I’m guessing US? What job?….Inhumane

    • @rsoubiea
      @rsoubiea Před 2 měsíci +6

      What pricks. Good for you not backing down. Sorry for the circumstance.

  • @Californiansurfer
    @Californiansurfer Před 4 měsíci +19

    ❤. I am 60 now, I am burned out. The only thing that saved me is reading.

  • @Mary-tj5qx
    @Mary-tj5qx Před 4 měsíci +63

    I’m in this situation right now. I’ve been preparing to retire early for the last 15 years so if this ends next year, and i expect that to be the case, I’m totally good with it. I’ve known from a very young age, early in my career, that no employer is loyal. With that in mind I’ve built an exit door. I’m not rich but i will be comfortable. Bring it on, I’m ready.

  • @FIRE_DrNinjaTurtle
    @FIRE_DrNinjaTurtle Před 4 měsíci +38

    During my 10 years, I got my PhD and replaced my work income with teaching income before I quit/retired. I love that we had a plan and executed it. I totally get the tired and depressed. It was a stressful 10 years.

  • @EsterHorbach-it9tb
    @EsterHorbach-it9tb Před 2 měsíci +18

    No matter how valuable or loyal you think you are to your company, you're replaceable. And all these sacrifices, unpaid hours ecetera don't matter. They let go and even talk bad about previous job performances. So now I'll give enough to be the best employee I can be, but not more than necessary. From my 40's I was told to be too old for the job market. I'm 56,my expectations are low. Also don't trust employers telling you "we're a family based company and ppl working for us are like family". No, they're never.

  • @thriftytowers7160
    @thriftytowers7160 Před 4 měsíci +67

    Gosh, this vid is full of wise words! I was 'chopped' from my job out of the blue. It was so hurtful. It has taken me years to rebuild my confidence. I'm 61 now and as a single female, I struggle financially and wonder if i will ever land a job again. It truly is a rat race in the jobs market.

    • @peacefulpoate5613
      @peacefulpoate5613 Před 4 měsíci +6

      Same here, sorry for the distress of it all. At my time, Ltd work avail, went to local community College and they had a paid work training and job placement class. Was 5 weeks 5 days a week class. Hope this info can help somehow ❤

    • @jsdailypaybiz
      @jsdailypaybiz Před 2 měsíci +7

      This happened to me but I learnt how to set myself up with an online business and have never looked back. I am my own CEO now and loving the freedom and especially the daily payments I am getting. I was very skeptical at first but with no other options staring me in the face I jumped in boots and all. Best decision I ever made

  • @joshubrook324
    @joshubrook324 Před 4 měsíci +35

    I took the opportunity in the pandemic of voluntary redundancy allowing me to pay off mortgage at 50 allowing me to work part time instead of full time until 67 ( there was / is no other age option for me ) so on balance I’m really happy with this outcome the free time I now have in my youthful senior years is actually priceless you could not pay me any amount of money for what I now have- I’m also single so truly am captain of my own ship & voyage ❤❤

  • @marymedal8665
    @marymedal8665 Před 4 měsíci +55

    I knew my separation was coming when my boss sold the Company. I had saved my employment paperwork which included a substantial amount of money due me if this was to happen. On my last day I was given pay that didn't include that. Not acceptable. I stood my ground and although I loved the previous owner who stayed with the new company, I let them know I was not afraid of seeing them in court. I got my money. No court.

    • @user-mu3xk7ie2t
      @user-mu3xk7ie2t Před 4 měsíci

      💪🏽

    • @Kittiesinclair5
      @Kittiesinclair5 Před 4 měsíci +3

      They will always try to take as much as they can. I once had a contract job, and left a few days before the contract end date after confirming I was due pay in lieu. i told the ‘financial person’ I would leave early then I waited for the appropriate payment. Didnt come. I notified the financial person who sent me an email saying she ‘had approved’ that money even though I was being selfish in requesting it. I replied to her saying that I was not aware that ‘she’ was authorized the ‘approve’ a payment that I was due under Canadian employment law.
      Some people are so entitled that they really do believe they are above the law, or in this case, authorized to approve laws.

  • @DontKnowWhereImGoingNext
    @DontKnowWhereImGoingNext Před 4 měsíci +38

    You're story is very similar to mine except I fired my boss instead of them letting me go. I retired at 53 and hit the road to travel around the world (heading to Albania) now. Also, started a YT channel to document my travels to share with family and anyone else interested. Subscribed to your channel, rock on girlfriend!! ❤

  • @TheLiberatedMulti-Tasker
    @TheLiberatedMulti-Tasker Před 2 měsíci +5

    Thank for you being so vunerable. My job was phased out unexpectedly. I lost my insurance, my state retirement, & job at age 54. We had just built & moved into our new home 18 months earlier. I was so hurt & was not in any mental shape to start over & look for a job.
    My husband had a great job & had just got a promotion the year before that helped to allow me to stay home-that and we were working to reduce our debt.
    Like you-the stress & toxicity made me physically sick that required medication.
    All that being said-I love my life now.
    Gardening, preserving, caring for our chickens & dogs….being productive on my time. Not being under a toxic thumb.
    I was able to stop taking my medicine & my symptoms went away.
    I also started a youtube channel, but it is still small and not monetized.
    Blessed!

  • @FIRE_DrNinjaTurtle
    @FIRE_DrNinjaTurtle Před 4 měsíci +50

    I went through this with my Federal job in the U.S. I stayed for 10 years in a toxic work environment. I totally understand the tears. I would not recommend it for others, but it was right for me as I got my pension when I finally retired. I also quite quit, before there was a name for it.

    • @SurpriseMeJT
      @SurpriseMeJT Před 4 měsíci +2

      I have a family member who was a DOD employee for many years and having worked in government myself, it has got to be a real hell hole with the toxic people in those orgs. If I could go back, I don't believe I'd choose to stay in government for as long as I did.

    • @mjb9176
      @mjb9176 Před 4 měsíci +9

      Retired Fed here. Reorg after reorg…I saw the future. I became debt free and maxed my TSP and developed private sector retirement funds. I never told anyone that I had submitted my retirement paperwork as they do treat you differently once they know. I quietly took my personal things home, finished my shredding, brought my cloud storage files current, and it felt good. Maybe it was the control of my destiny, but I was looking forward to work each day. I developed a coworker client base for my post-career as a pet sitter. I put on my own retirement gathering and have been happily ever after since 2019. Facing it head on is empowering. ❤

  • @BennyC-qg6rd
    @BennyC-qg6rd Před 3 měsíci +13

    One of the best decisions I ever made was to retire at 55 from a difficult job. There were no regrets. Great subject content.

  • @emilyknowlton8602
    @emilyknowlton8602 Před 4 měsíci +39

    Agism is real and especially
    impacts women. You will especially notice this at 47 years. It's extremely obvious .

    • @jet4415
      @jet4415 Před 23 dny

      I was a woman CPA and after 45yo I noticed that my employers were more aggressive on giving me too much work and not giving me compensation at the end of the year. Their attitude was abysmal and, yes, “extremely obvious”. Also, jobs in accounting mostly said, “5 years of experience”. Ageism is so real in the business world especially regarding women.
      I made plans, went back to graduate school in Speech Pathology at the age of 52, graduated, found work easily, and am very happy.

  • @Mary-tj5qx
    @Mary-tj5qx Před 4 měsíci +25

    I also quite quit some time ago. I do my job but nothing more. Funnily enough, I can see now that this is exactly what everyone else was doing all along. I have zero guilt.

  • @dianaj3139
    @dianaj3139 Před 4 měsíci +33

    Love seeing this story... I had those golden handcuffs on... at first I would save my vacation time for extravagant Tropical vacations from the PNW cold Winters... It lifted my depression just enough to keep me engaged at work... I took all the seminars and work experience trainings that were offered... and when the time seemed right, my employer got NO two weeks notice... my coworkers were dismayed that I could be happy about leaving.. LOL I was able to live comfortably on the Retirement fund money until I chose to collect my Social security... It's been 7 years now since walking out... and I am so grateful I didn't stay... My health has improved my outlook is better and I feel more in charge of my life! THANKS for sharing your story with all of us!

  • @XzadforSpacefox
    @XzadforSpacefox Před 5 měsíci +59

    Very wise words. in the USA they find any reason they can to get rid of older workers and bring in cheaper labor (Ask me how I know and age discrimination is not easily proven). Like you I took the opportunity and re-trained to do something I love.

    • @user-ui1zv8bd4y
      @user-ui1zv8bd4y Před 4 měsíci

      Cheaper labor flooding in with false licenses, ID, passports, scary false degrees and being hired for much cheaper right here in the US. Read the money follow the money and you will see very few US companies are headed by US born raised loyal to America bosses. They are here to hoard 24 kt gold, line their own buddies pockets and denigrate the US. They are not here to keep America strong AT ALL and the same is going on in Canada. I see it as a legal immigrant I know the people I speak of and about.

    • @KoDeMondo
      @KoDeMondo Před 4 měsíci

      If the labour can be found locally, I'm sure they will found a way for this to happen and if this doesn't work out then they will outsourcing your job to some cheap countries.

    • @gailmorris3715
      @gailmorris3715 Před 3 měsíci

      Great video! This happened to me at 62! I would say i was partially prepared but I found myself at my age getting caught in the temp to permanent offer! That was a corporate tactic to dangle a permanent position possibility after 3-6 months of temping. i retired at 63 and have never looked back!

  • @williamread8186
    @williamread8186 Před 4 měsíci +28

    I have to commend you for your resiliency. I am about to be 67 next month and my employer just recently laid off 8% of the workforce. I survived this round and if I make it to 68 I would have worked there for 40 years. I have to say though lay off or not my employer has treated me well. Your channel has caught my attention because I am a single introverted guy myself trying how to move forward in life as an old guy. I do have a grown daughter but my wife passed away in 2021. I do get lonely though. Health is wealth.

    • @adammorra3813
      @adammorra3813 Před 4 měsíci +3

      Who is that in your picture? No way you are 67, you look 58

    • @williamread8186
      @williamread8186 Před 4 měsíci +3

      @adammorra3813 Thank you, that is me. My profile picture for my YT channel is quite old. Maybe I should update it. But the posts are much more recent that will show how I look now.

    • @maryannequinn3465
      @maryannequinn3465 Před 2 měsíci +4

      Hello William-I just want you to know that you are not alone out here. I have been alone(widowed) since 2012 and also have a grown child. I am lonely but combat that by being active in my community and with making things(sewing for others in my community). Good luck to you.

    • @PaulasPicks
      @PaulasPicks Před 2 měsíci +1

      My condolences to you & yours.

  • @NOT-WOKE-007
    @NOT-WOKE-007 Před 5 měsíci +60

    In my past, I was laid off, walked out of the building, given a nice severance package, then 6 months later hired back by the same company making 5k more money than when they laid me off. Go figure.

    • @Bethune98
      @Bethune98 Před 4 měsíci +6

      Personally would never go back to employer who laid me off

    • @NOT-WOKE-007
      @NOT-WOKE-007 Před 4 měsíci +8

      @@Bethune98 This was a huge company that did a reorg and all new management. I got more money and could work from home. Could not pass that up as I was very close to retirement. But to each their own.

    • @Bethune98
      @Bethune98 Před 4 měsíci +3

      @Thisnameistaken27 I see...so yes in that case may be a good choice. But if need to do many years my choice would be somewhere new. Agreed....to each their own

    • @eljoy5280
      @eljoy5280 Před 4 měsíci +2

      How did you reconnect with the employer? My old bosses were fired / resigned and I’d consider going back.

    • @NOT-WOKE-007
      @NOT-WOKE-007 Před 4 měsíci +4

      @@eljoy5280 They posted job opening on the Internet. I just applied.

  • @PidasianHippie
    @PidasianHippie Před 5 měsíci +34

    Jen I wish I could give this video a hundred thumbs up. Of course you know this subject interested me but I could feel the passion you have for it. In my opinion it is your best video yet. You made all the right moves in preparation for the RIF that you knew would eventually come. It is possible if you hadn't stuck around and immersed yourself in all the training that was available to you, you would have had to take a significant pay cut. I had a similar situation. I knew I wouldn't be losing my income but I could see that I would be taken off the very technical job I was doing and given menial chores. It was known as "on the job retirement". It would have been a terrible way to spend the last years of my working life. I took all the steps you did but took an early retirement at 55. As a single woman it is so important to be out of debt and have a good amount saved for retirement. Congratulations on your "new" career and may it last until you are ready to leave on your own terms. Thank you very much for putting this video out! I hope it will be a 1 out of 10!!!!

  • @carolinacadabra8278
    @carolinacadabra8278 Před 5 měsíci +18

    Glad to hear you landed on your feet! Thanks for sharing how you didn’t deny reality and took charge.

  • @bethyoung4030
    @bethyoung4030 Před 4 měsíci +22

    I get what you are saying. Job well done! I’m in the USA and always worked for nonprofits. When you are non management, the day you are laid off you walk out with no severance package. I saw the writing when over lunch in our small break room, the head of the agency said that everyone plus replaceable. Quietly I took offense as I was busting my butt, putting in extra time,etc. But later that night I realized that if that was his attitude then it was the agencies attitude and my standing despite my work ethic was at risk. It took me 2 years to pay down debt and to be able to do part time work elsewhere so I could’ve home with my kids. I agree, you have to see what is going on at work site environment.

  • @teams3345
    @teams3345 Před 4 měsíci +8

    I retired at 57. The company offered a voluntary retirement offer (not RIF). I have been through surpluses since I was hired out of college. I started saving in my 401k right out of college. When this one came through I was so excited. Once I said yes I had two weeks to get all my benefits in order and cross train. I am so glad I said yes. It has been 7 years and I do not regret a bit.

  • @mshirleyrn
    @mshirleyrn Před 4 měsíci +21

    Hi Jen! Thanks so much for this channel! 50 yr old, pre-retirement GenX-er here too. I'm currently in the same boat as your video. Waiting (and very willing at this point), to be RIF'd, while they pile more on my job knowing they don't have to hire and pay another employee. Also going through a period of self-discovery and self-empowerment! What's in the future, I don't know. But I'm ready to take my future into my own hands. So, Yay You!!! I'll continue to watch. Sincerely, your US friend.

    • @silverandsolo
      @silverandsolo  Před 4 měsíci +5

      Hang in there sister! You can do this...sending you all good karma!

  • @royberger2259
    @royberger2259 Před 3 měsíci +7

    I remember getting a surprise lay off at 55, it felt like I was a criminal in society. I recovered but holy smokes, what a trial. Luck to all.

  • @Stalwart-zy3oo
    @Stalwart-zy3oo Před měsícem +4

    Love your honesty! Planning is truely the key. No one rescues us. No one.
    We are each responsible for our decisions. A great video!

  • @user-xp5qx8wg9x
    @user-xp5qx8wg9x Před 4 měsíci +13

    You're a smart lady. It's very generous of you to share your years of experience and common sense. I wish I had taken serious the signals from my employment and have your good sense and planning. You were happy because you were so prepared. Good for you, pat yourself on the back, not everyone is as practical and they pay the price.

  • @Amalthea16
    @Amalthea16 Před 3 měsíci +8

    I'm a lot younger than you and in a different season of life, but I'm really glad I found your channel. You have a very peaceful and gentle soul and I really enjoy your advice and wisdom.

  • @kevinewing-oo8ix
    @kevinewing-oo8ix Před 4 měsíci +7

    pamela here. Excellent video. I do know how tired I was after being anxious and depressed for 15 yrs. I have been recuperating now about a year. There was a lot to do for me before I could sit back and heal. The resort you went to looks fabulous. You are so smart. This is how women have to be.
    We are better at looking ahead and planning. So happy for you!

  • @SusannahPerri
    @SusannahPerri Před měsícem +3

    OMG, not even a thank you??!! I am so sorry you were treated like that, Jen. But I celebrate your self empowerment and years of financial and mental preparation for what you knew was inevitably going to happen. It sounds like you definitely made the right decision. ❤Regardless, it is disgusting how they treated you, especially at the end.

  • @CatGardenAdventuresDiaries
    @CatGardenAdventuresDiaries Před 4 měsíci +10

    “Some where out there is someone looking for someone like you”. This is very true.
    I was in a similar situation, but unfortunately I couldn’t stick it out to receive their severance package. I had to leave for my mental sake, but I am so glad I did. Best decision ever.
    Thanks so much for sharing your story.❤

    • @KimJilene
      @KimJilene Před 4 měsíci +4

      I am in that situation now with my current job and company. The job has taken such a toll on me mentally and physically - it is not worth sticking it out for a severance package. My health comes first! I am planning to leave within the next year. I too believe there is a company out there that is a better fit for me and that they are looking for someone like me 😊

  • @Teffi_Club
    @Teffi_Club Před 2 měsíci +4

    Everybody is different. You are very resilient. Toxic environment effects my health.

  • @michaelduke4500
    @michaelduke4500 Před měsícem +3

    You are to be commended for being single, taking time to clear your head, and not taking the first thing offered.

  • @QueenAnnesLace13
    @QueenAnnesLace13 Před 4 měsíci +3

    Just found your channel and new subscriber. Thank you, something most of us need to hear and be prepared for.

  • @bethsummerville341
    @bethsummerville341 Před 4 měsíci +3

    Wow Jen! You were & are so brave, discerning and knowledgeable!! God bless you 😊!

  • @alma4237
    @alma4237 Před 4 měsíci +9

    I just came across your channel, and this video could not have come at a better time. I just got my layoff notice on Friday. I will be laid off in September, right after my 51st birthday. I saw the writing on the wall back in 2015, but decided to stay because of the golden handcuffs, and because I was recently divorced with two young children. I got my finances in order back then, so I’m ready to go. My only regret is not being more proactive in learning new skills in preparation for that day. Your words brought me comfort that I’m on the right path. Thanks!

    • @KimJilene
      @KimJilene Před 4 měsíci +1

      You still have time to do some online certifications between now and September. Certifications are all the rage now and I myself am taking a few Udemy and LinkedIn Learning courses to upskill. Certifications plus work experience seem to be the key to landing a good job these days.

  • @Drolywa
    @Drolywa Před 4 měsíci +11

    Strategic! In control! Excellent, inspirational video. Thank you.

  • @Faith_and_Hope_07
    @Faith_and_Hope_07 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I am so happy I found your channel. This video is worth gold. Thank you so much! I look forward to learning more about your journey through your other videos.

  • @marthawolf8193
    @marthawolf8193 Před 4 měsíci

    You share valuable information, thank you Jen! I’m happy to have found you!

  • @magpievariety
    @magpievariety Před 4 měsíci +5

    So glad you popped into my feed!

  • @carolwilliams8840
    @carolwilliams8840 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I love how detailed you were in sharing and applaud you for being so intentional in your planning. Thank you.

  • @virginia_in_the_rearview
    @virginia_in_the_rearview Před 4 měsíci +1

    This was a very eye-opening video. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @Lucy-ie8qw
    @Lucy-ie8qw Před 2 měsíci +5

    I worked for the Australian Education Department for 20 years. When Covid hit i was told to do the "right thing" and get the jab to protect the students. I was scared as my doctor did not want me to have it as i had bad shingles. He gave me a full exemption but it was rejected by the dept. So ...to keep my job..i had it. Straight after i had severe pain in my head and arm. My ear started a loud ring and my chest was sore and tight. I could not breathe and had a heart attack. My school told me a few months later i needed another jab. I could'nt possibly take it again. So i was told to pack my things and leave the property. The thing that broke my heart was being called an anti vaxer by my coworkers. As i refused another jab. My cardiologist said he has a 80% increase in young people with heart issues after it now. Business is booming for him. All the staff i trained and loved....wiped me. Never spoke to me again. It was a gift. I started my own biz in children's therapy and i earn triple what i earned at the school. I found out WHO people really are and how our employers don't give a dam about us.
    I will never work for someone else again.

  • @lissamahler9402
    @lissamahler9402 Před 4 měsíci

    You are exactly who I needed to hear today. Thank you for sharing and helping ❤

  • @johnprantner6191
    @johnprantner6191 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Just found your channel, same age. So much resonates with me, great advice.

  • @judysbakeryandtestkitchen1654
    @judysbakeryandtestkitchen1654 Před 3 měsíci +7

    As soon as my husband turned 60, they let him go. They eliminated his job.
    And that’s after they put them in a job without training. He was miserable. I was disabled from my job and couldn’t work. So he needed his job.
    My husband was then eligible for pension. The human resources person said they do that all the time.
    Age discrimination is common.

  • @Reikifairy
    @Reikifairy Před 2 měsíci +3

    Something broadly similar happened to me last year, aged 55. A toxic work situation came to a sudden end due to closure - I was so excited when I heard the news as I was utterly miserable and completely exhausted there. A couple of months later I became self employed doing my other career as a reflexologist which I'd wanted to return to for a couple of decades - life does seem to give us exactly what we want, although sometimes in a dramatic way, especially when we won't make the leap ourselves! I love what I do now, made some lovely new friends in the clinics I work in, have some wonderful clients and also have just enough time to have begun a self-publishing business which I really enjoy. Yippeeee! I'm living at No1 You've Got Your Life Back Lane!

  • @NomadicConqueror
    @NomadicConqueror Před 4 měsíci +1

    I love this channel! Glad I found it. 55 and solo w/ a few health challenges

  • @user-xp1wq4gk7l
    @user-xp1wq4gk7l Před 2 měsíci

    Love this strategy and your attitude. Good for you Jen. Take charge.

  • @bethyoung3654
    @bethyoung3654 Před 4 měsíci +4

    Smart lady! Thanks for sharing your story.

  • @LifebytheBowRiver
    @LifebytheBowRiver Před 4 měsíci +1

    What a great story. A pep talk I really needed. So smart to have room in your RRSP for your payout! Taking time for your spirit too was key. Well done ❤

  • @aliciacatherineegan
    @aliciacatherineegan Před 4 měsíci +6

    Love your future insight as a 37-year-old currently in job transition. Your advice is just as applicable to me in my current scenario and wise for anyone who works for a company. Just found your channel, and subscribed!

  • @jandjmom
    @jandjmom Před 4 měsíci +7

    Thank you for posting this video! It came at the right time for me. You detailed how I am feeling as a 50 something woman after a recent job loss. I too worked at the same place for nearly 20 yrs & was a part of a company wide reduction. I had a slight heads up of what was coming, so I started taking the necessary steps to get ahead of it. I believe things happen for a reason & know something better is out there for me.

  • @janetrettig9167
    @janetrettig9167 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I am so proud of you!! I know I have never met you in person, but hearing someone tell me what you did makes me proud of them. Way to go!! You have made a new subscriber for sure!

  • @stacyboyd4591
    @stacyboyd4591 Před 4 měsíci

    Hello 👋 from New Brunswick Canada, just found your channel. Thank u for sharing and look forward to hearing more.

  • @belleofthelight
    @belleofthelight Před 2 měsíci

    I’m so glad I found you. Just what I needed as a new tuber and new to 50’s. You’re fabulous! ❤❤❤

  • @bethan.gruffydd
    @bethan.gruffydd Před 4 měsíci +6

    Just found your channel and really enjoying it so far. It's so interesting to hear people discuss these kinds of things. As a millennial myself, even in all the "white collar", "professional" salaried positions I've had, I've never once in my entire working life ever felt like I was anything other than constantly on the chopping block. I entered the work force during great recession of 2009. And being based in the U.S. and living in states with "at-will" employment policies, I've never had a job where I had any confidence that I could expect to not be laid off for no fault of my own *at any time* , never mind any question of severance or a heads-up of any kind. I've never worked somewhere where I didn't just assume that it would last for *maybe* a couple of years, if I'm lucky. Just saying this to say that it's interesting how people of different generations (and in different types of jobs) can have such different expectations about work, etc. Again, not trying to stir up any cross-generational BS here. Thanks for your great channel!

  • @PrashantKhanolkarUSA
    @PrashantKhanolkarUSA Před 4 měsíci

    this video popped up in my feed, you are such a lovely lady , thank you for sharing you experience, I am going through the exact same situation that you recounted , happy to learn from your video

  • @alicekenny4166
    @alicekenny4166 Před 3 měsíci

    Good for you-- and good advice. It is important to keep your eyes on the horizon to see where the world is going and adjust.

  • @theseasonalbounty6203
    @theseasonalbounty6203 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you for sharing your experience. I learned much from you. You have offered nurturing to me today in a way that I do not have otherwise. Keep up the great teaching!

  • @joy4roy
    @joy4roy Před 3 měsíci

    Thank you for your wise words. Wishing you all the very best going forward.

  • @wongalwong3962
    @wongalwong3962 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Thanks for your sharing. Being alone and looking after my dementia n parkinson mom. I find your positive attitude a great motivation.

  • @shelleyriley1005
    @shelleyriley1005 Před 24 dny

    Thank you for sharing. I appreciate everything you are sharing.

  • @user-br4dj6dh4h
    @user-br4dj6dh4h Před 5 měsíci +12

    Thank you for sharing your experience and advice.

  • @lkkubono
    @lkkubono Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you for sharing your experience. This is an amazing channel.

  • @helenaville5939
    @helenaville5939 Před 4 měsíci

    Congratulations on a truly lovely channel! One of your videos appeared in my recommended list a few days ago and I thoroughly enjoyed it. Yesterday I watched another, and now I find myself here again! You have a wonderful laid-back demeanor with a wise head on your shoulders - a great combination to share your views and life experience in a YT channel. I too am a life-long singleton by choice so I can relate to much of what you say. I hope your channel grows from strength to strength. So long as you keep doing what you're doing, I have no doubt that it will. Much love and many blessings sending from across the waves in Ireland. 👍☘😊

  • @NOT-WOKE-007
    @NOT-WOKE-007 Před 5 měsíci +13

    Suze Orman has some great financial advice for any woman who is interested in taking care of herself. I have a set of books written by her and I used those to make financial decisions for years.

  • @crocus5632
    @crocus5632 Před 4 měsíci +9

    I couln'd quite quit, because all the clients were calling and writing me asking about the progress, an when it will be done, and my boss ignored my pleas thar it was too much work for me and we needed to hire someone else. The only thing he did was giving me a hard time taking my vacation ("what? 2 weeks? But we have so much work to do!") So after 17 years in the company I quit (we have no sevearance). I am 45 and will be working directly with clients, I don't need no boss for that. I've got a lot of climets requests alredy.

  • @Sarah33Kaufman
    @Sarah33Kaufman Před 4 měsíci +1

    So smart and courageous of you deciding to make this videos and share your life with the whole world. My head off to you.

  • @suzierice9730
    @suzierice9730 Před 4 měsíci +1

    So smart! Thanks for sharing. It sure is eye opening…

  • @karenrouth2056
    @karenrouth2056 Před 5 měsíci +5

    Proud of you Jen… Congratulations on all you’ve accomplished…

  • @MillyAlej
    @MillyAlej Před 2 měsíci +1

    Thanks for sharing your experience. Good Luck & Blessings!!

  • @marissashell
    @marissashell Před 11 dny

    Incredible! And brilliant! I am glad it worked out for you! I hope I can figure out my situation too!

  • @genessatorsy3222
    @genessatorsy3222 Před 4 měsíci

    Phenomenal video. Thank you! I have a 2 year and 5 year plan to move toward being ready for this. I’m at the beginning of it but this video meant so much! Saving this!!!!

  • @sharondelissa
    @sharondelissa Před 4 měsíci

    This is a great testimony. Thanks for sharing and you have a new follower ❤

  • @januarymelody8511
    @januarymelody8511 Před 2 měsíci

    Wow. Thx for this. You are strong and inspirational. Great reminder to not get complacent too.

  • @trayshana
    @trayshana Před 4 měsíci

    Your testimony is indeed a life-changing gift. Masterfully stated. Thanks for sharing. Blessings and much abundance your way and to those experiencing the similar.

  • @mamalovesthebeach437
    @mamalovesthebeach437 Před 4 měsíci +6

    I’d never heard the term “quiet quitting“. I’m glad that all you went through you feel was worth it in the end. I was in an abusive marriage and have learned what that can do to your health and mental state. When it got physical, I left the marriage. Leaving cost me nearly all of my finances. I was 48 years old. What you endured was on some level an abusive relationship. It’s been 20 years and when I look back I know, without a doubt, that regardless of the financial devastation, I would again take myself and my son out of that situation. Nothing is worth living with mental and emotional abuse on a daily basis. I watched a friend go through this in her job and it was torture. It’s been years and she’s in a fabulous job with a company continually rewards her job well done. But she still suffers from the constant breaking down in her previous job. I’m 68 years old. You never know how long you have to live or what’s going to happen in life. We endure a lot of things that are difficult and we all have different tolerances. No one should put up with an abusive relationship, whether it be at work, in a marriage, in a friendship, or from family. ❤

    • @KimJilene
      @KimJilene Před 4 měsíci +1

      Thank you for this comment. Very encouraging words. I have been working in a position for the past year that has worn me down so badly that my mental and physical health are at an all time low. I don’t even recognize myself in the mirror. And it has only been a year. I feel like I am in an abusive relationship. I decided I have to leave within the next year. My mental and physical health comes first! I have made a commitment to leave this job even if I have to take a pay cut. Your comment has given me hope that I can leave this job and regain my sense of self❤😊

    • @thehappywanderer6469
      @thehappywanderer6469 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Thanks for your encouraging positive comment that we don't have to live with abuse. People are very cruel I have found in families and on jobs. At 65 I feel broken but I know that I am strong and will carve out my senior years with happiness. How did you overcome depression? It is my biggest battle this remnant of abuse I suffered from multiple people.

  • @adrianajones7181
    @adrianajones7181 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you for sharing. so so happy for you that it worked out.

  • @theanniebauer
    @theanniebauer Před 3 dny

    Great planning. Thanks for sharing your story!

  • @jewelreynolds6612
    @jewelreynolds6612 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Thank you for your knowledge. I am in my 50’s and my Job will be phased out and I am needing to plan for the transition. This is so helpful!

  • @Savoera
    @Savoera Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you for sharing about your journey. You're a brave woman. 💪🏽

  • @adammorra3813
    @adammorra3813 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you for sharing your story. I found it very helpful and interesting.

  • @mistermcluvin2425
    @mistermcluvin2425 Před 4 měsíci

    Great video, thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge.

  • @memorysmaid9551
    @memorysmaid9551 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Hello Jan. I am a brand new viewer today, and I am very happy to have found you. I am not "silver and solo" (married for 45 years, retired for almost 6 years), but much of what you say resonates with me. I look forward to seeing more of your content. Thanks for sharing from your experiences.

  • @iopakayalo3459
    @iopakayalo3459 Před 4 měsíci +1

    The Universe sure does support us when we are intentional. I wish you love, light, health, happiness, prosperity and abundance. 💚🙏
    Thank you for sharing your story with us.

  • @churchofpos2279
    @churchofpos2279 Před 4 měsíci +41

    I was reminded for the last 5 years of my working life that i was getting close to topping out on my salary. Even though I didn't change my work habits, they started to do "constant" job performance reviews. I was meeting my metrics . I think this was a method to try and get me to quit.
    The final straw for me was when they threaten to terminate me, even though I was a remote worker, because I refused to get the Jab. I retired immediately and then my employer started to complain that I didn't give them 2 weeks notice. 😁

    • @dianaj3139
      @dianaj3139 Před 4 měsíci +12

      If I hadn't already left my job when the mandatory Jab came along that would have been my deal breaker as well. KUDOS!! Don't blame you for not giving a two weeks notice!!

    • @mjb9176
      @mjb9176 Před 4 měsíci

      Good for you! The Feds are still struggling to fill positions because of how they tromped on Federal workers and contractors. Especially the military, begging retired Air Force pilots to return etc.

    • @pearlrichardson4179
      @pearlrichardson4179 Před měsícem

      I was told because I did not give a 2 wks notice, I could not reapply for a job there. I had to chuckle to myself & was thinking I would never return here anyway. Believe me I am leaving for a reason. This was before pre-covid years. So this is how you treat employees that have worked for you for 11yrs. Hmm glad I left without giving you more time to be insanely toxic to my mental health. Obviously you never cared about your employees in the first place.